@@raynakumar6662 that's very tough indeed but tapping or eft techniques allow us to use the negatives in the positives so if people shared them and learned them they would stop getting offended by words that can only hurt us when a part of us agrees and one doesn't and it's in that divide that suffering comes from. It's like expecting a 2 year old not to have tantrums. We get hurt because a part of us agrees, it's nothing else. People just need to take it back to themselves.

@@1ReikiFloW so true and they work so great. You teach them well and for free! Maybe they don't want to get better, after all, blaming the narcs alone is easier.

I havent see the scammer yet but they are all over youtube is there on on your channel

That's what my malignant narc husband did to me then in herum and upstairs neighbour he was going with even after are wedding hrs after. And she upstairs my flying monkey got him to beat me up badley hate these freaks

I married a con man too!!

No kidding! When you see the truth, they call you “paranoid”!

That’s maturing! When I was younger I’d believe everything I was told about the other woman bc it was easy and made me feel important and different. Now I’m not that dumb 😂

I was gasslighted by my ex husband for many years and I truly believe he's not in his right mind. And I can say it aloud.

Narcissists are delusional and emotional babies..

But crazy people get into relationships all the time

Amen!❤

Absolutely 💯

Stay alone It's the happiest you will b God will always be there Keep praying

Lost more than 20 years … it’s crazy !

Consider yourself smart or/and lucky.. it’s been 46 years for me

I like that! True

The truth is that often the fact that your childhood trauma needs that you want to fix and heal … that person fires them up so much annd makes you feel like the pain might go away that you’d rather rip your gut out and throw it on the bonfire than walk away from him.

​@@sooticablue1664These "relationships" have an expiration date.😊

This! And remember to leave while he's at work if you even have an INKLING that he'd get ugly about it.

You can live in a mansion but if the Lord of the manor is a Narcissistic prick then it becomes a prison.

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You’re absolutely right; I have a similar story… in the end, I was no longer surprised by his lies. I love being single!

My abuser kicked me out and gave me PTSD, he went on to graduate from college and had a baby with a woman and appears to have his life together from social media but I dropped out of college 3 times and am homeless now and I have been in intensive therapy for years. I still have nightmares about him 15 years later. No closure or resolution. I don't have any healing and I don't feel any better about the situation. I just loved him and wanted it to work out. I understand if he didn't want to be with me but he purposefully tortured me for everything and gave me no peace or apology. I've tried forgiveness but it doesn't feel sincere to forgive a man with no remorse for his actions. Time and therapy does not always heal all wounds.

yes 100% agree to this, somebody I recently met told me 'he is not here to play games or mess with my head' on the first meeting, that was fishy but I actually thought he is super aware just gets me turned out he was compensating for what he was hiding within and started playing games and going hot and cold after being super sweet for first few days. Thankfully I was aware and stopped engaging. Trust your gut and trust patterns, actions, and changed behaviour over mere words. That's the only way out

@@somyaajoshi Good for you, and very good advice.

I’ve on my 3rd month of no contact after 4 years married after 11 months ( with lots of gut instincts about that this is not right) I believed that he was with a woman who had stole lied cheated and used him and even got him sent to prison for 6 months ( for ramming her car because she had her fancy man in it but not to the extent where it crashed 😂 omg when I write this out 😮) I thought how could HE get back with HER after that ? 😂wtf was I thinking 🤔 obviously not as I wasn’t given any chance to process or question any anomalies, I excused, minimised, ignored or justified bad behaviour from him initially thinking he was healing and coming to terms with the fact he had been abused by her, but he had inserted himself into my family and friends and they saw the man ( loosest sense of the word) i thought he was because he told me, I didn’t have interaction with his family as they were all jealous of him and all he’s done is try to help them! The nicest guy ever making me feel safe. But I was physically abused financially abused gaslight lied to and then constantly accused of being a liar and picking facts out of the air and then treat me like I was guilty of it and treating me with distain shaming me crushing my spirit and I kept it all secret because he used to say that I shouldn’t say anything because we always get back together and then people will think we’re a joke NPD and violent so psychopathic and hypersensitive and hyper vigilant paranoid and a vile mouth I was dying all my energy was draining from me I was disassociated and numb playing the game that everything is just tickerty boo and I just flipped the script and went totally off the radar no contact at all Don’t know how he’s feeling or doing,saying or screwing and I don’t care I know that he couldn’t have been faithful to me not the only faithful narcissist so I don’t care if he was it’s on him , I grieved the fake relationship while I was still with ( we never really lived together he kept his own house and I didn’t care in the end I didn’t want him living with me and my son whose 18 now ) him So yes I am starting to get my energy back slowly but I’ve got peace and my friends (who he did gossip about me to them but they thought that he was an idiot and he also told them not so say anything so divide and rule) Well I’m out of it and I have a divorce to sort out but I will leave it a month or two to get stronger physically and in a good routine ( as he ensured we lived in chaos he has no standards and expected me not too ) Hopefully you got to the end 😊

Same with anything! A lion doesn’t need to tell you who they are!!!! 😂😂🥂🥂

Be careful of innocent looking gaslighting too ladies and gents!!!! This happens early to get you to trust their judgment more than your own!! It’s small and random with a dash here and a dash there!!! These people want to exploit you and use you!!! Pay close attention if you have something they could take like single mom with small kids (yes some are pedi files!) and status symbol ect!! If it’s too good to be true it is so look for the red flags and games as they are masters at it!!!

During my life I have learned if a man treats his mother with disrespect it’s a MAJOR red flag . He usually doesn’t respect women in general

@@AimeeKateKelly Major red flag!

If he worships his mother is also a red flag in my opinion.

Young ladies, beware also for the mommyboy......this is the opposite....This narc is already married with his toxic mum😢

@@wittesneeuw An impossible situation for the new wife, girlfriend, fiancé. She will never live up to his perfect mom. Mom always will go first.

And they also pick less attractive women to feel superior. All narcissists are not capable of attracting women nor do they want them as a partner

Lil sis to girlfriend is creepy

Hells yeh girl!! 🙌🔥

Honestly i believe that men were narcissist back then. Nowadays there are more narcissist women than men. And also instead of Always blaming narcissist men may be you should Ask yourself why are you Always attracted to narcissist men. Because there are good men out here

@paulandr.. That’s the point… You ask how women are attracted to narcissists? Narcissistic behaviour is what attracts women!!… Initial behaviour is fine tuned flattery and con-sideration etc until the behaviour changes, and partners are already hooked. That is the whole point of info vids like this one...Duh!..

2 is worse

I can testify. My ex vulnerable narc would use her single mother status as a weapon to gain sympathy from men. To gain discounts for home repair, or speeding tickets or discounts at restaurants. She would scream at her 7 yr old son in public places and belittle him. She would eventually try to do the same to me, but I wouldn't tolerate being told I embarrassed her at a restaurant when, especially when I didn't do anything. Just disgusting behavior.

Some said nose is most powerful instrument, it recognises billion smells and nuances... and people use to use only eyes, that sees only million colors and nuances. with eyes you see only the surface. also from spiritual perspective we should use more our nose because of seeing under the surface. not believeng every story in media.

People think it's bad when a partner does ego shocks, try coming home from middle school and listening how you got an A because you're too stupid to get an F.😒 Not shaming partner violets, just so angry that worse ab use against children is brushed off as mislabeled "good parenting".

True. They are not interested in their children as separate Human beings, children always need Therapy afterwards.

It happens to men from women also. Don’t get it twisted

@@Clevelandsteamer324 I never said it didn’t. But I’m a woman and that’s my experience-

Exactly!!!!

@@Clevelandsteamer324Historically I don’t think women have tried to control , own and oppress men

Unconditional respect sounds like an oxymoron

I spend each day studying it! Takes years to understand and heal!

⁠@@Portia620 my only hope is for more and more people to know about it so that they can spot the signs early on

I know your pain.. it’s horrible..been there..

One self proclaimed nice guy once said to me I don't want a relationship I just want to hookup I m a nice guy I was like Nice guys provide n protect

I always said to my husband.. “you have no empathy..” and I found out the whole family is lacking in that area. Didn’t know what a covert narc was until recently. He/they check EVERY box.

CEO’s CFO’s and the like are all statistically high with NPD as well as psychopathy

I'm so proud of you.

I am back to the gym daily as well🎉.

The idiot

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Truths!

too true and when a woman is busy they get away with whatever they want because you're successful it's such garbage

Yep, mine felt envy and hatred toward me for every success. He would sabotage, tear me down, anything to take that away. He felt he was deserving and I wasn't, so tearing me down was 'justice' - morally righteous even. He convinced himself my job was for 'evil people'.

What does clipping refer to? What did he start doing after you were engaged, out of curiosity?

@@RS54321 Clipping meaning clipping the your wings so you can’t fly or fly away.

@@RS54321 When I felt good about myself, he would put me down, to destroy my self esteem He would say things that were mind games. Like…. Do you want to go to the movies with me on Friday? I would say yes. Then, he would say. I can’t take you out. I didn’t get paid yet. I would answer. Why did you bother to ask me then? He would say. Just wanted to see if you wanted to go out Then, he would love bomb me. And, treat me really nice I was so young and naive to really understand that this type of behavior was a major red flag, as well as, unacceptable

@@RS54321they flip and some flip the script in marriage and women have been violated sx in bedroom brutally r-p-ed!! It’s hard to figure these men or women out as I married 29 years and mine left me when sick and abandoned h children e and drained accounts!!! You can heal but moving on is never the same becsue people hide so much! No matter what I’ll always leave no matter how much I love someone! I don’t play with sickos anymore!

Same here. I was a divorcee when I met my nex, and was already squeamish about marriage. My ex husband was not a narcissist. I never married my nex, although we were together over 20 years. I'm still trying to figure out why I stayed with him so long. It was torture.

Me too, explaining this to myself is still baffling in hindsight

Both my caregivers were very loving - this is false

@@queenmo5073 mine are too, but I can still see where I felt responsible to make my mother happy as the youngest child. And she wasn’t depressed and never drank. She didn’t ask or demand it but it was my role in the family, at least it’s the role that I took on because I was good at it and it made me feel good to make her feel good. On the surface this seems mutually beneficial however this is called parentification and I didn’t know it was “a thing” to feel responsible for someone else’s emotional regulation . The problem is the partner I chose to marry also required me to prioritize his emotional needs over mine, thereby abandoning my own needs for his which felt ever so familiar and what I knew to be “love”. End of the day, healthy people don’t stay in intimate relationships with unhealthy people. Speaking as a Gen Xer, I think many of us where neglected as kids and that shows up as a subconscious fear of abandonment in our relationships. Just my thoughts and my experience.

Yes, it takes a lot of self awareness to ‘see’ it

​@@queenmo5073 No. What she said is actually true.However you can still develop an insecure attachment if u have 2 loving caring present in home parents bc no one is perfect. In some way most ppl have a small level of dysfunction or trauma. However also not just your childhood leads to this but in teen & young adult relationships where you arent prepared for this predatory kinda relationship out of left field can impact u & lead to this dynamic w/ a narcissistic, Emotionally unavailable or avoidant men. They are many ppl I have coached who have fairly good upbringing that still in the same boat bc of many variables but one way is the way she described it as well.

@@queenmo5073agreed such bs! Same with we are trying to right a wrong! I was psychology major and it’s all bs! Sometimes we marry a con man!

Yes, we unknowingly seek out or are attracted to that which is familiar to us and associate that familiarity with what we think is love from our parents. I just realized recently that my mom behaved a lot like my narc ex boyfriend. Very eye opening.

I've been an inspector 🕵🏻‍♀️ since teenage and I ended up being single and even though life gets tough from time to time, but I don't regret.

@@solmazsurvivor you were very smart very young! I learned the hard way! I’m 58 & alone for the first time in my life, been single for 3 yrs & loving it and yes it can be tough but it sure beats being mentally unstable! My dad verbally taught me what measurements my body needed to be accepted by men (my measurements didn’t cut it with him) & that’s why the convo…& also why I was born a girl. I was taught by another man that I wasn’t allowed to say NO to sex. Getting hit was my punishment. At 58 I’m no longer tolerant to men’s bs! It’s so peaceful living alone. My house is paid off & I have a business that has been doing well for 26 yrs so I’m good by myself! I’m not wealthy but I have enough to survive.

@@marshareed1438 I'm very happy for you and happy freedom, peace and enjoy your time. It doesn't matter when you arrive at your beautiful destination. I hope you heal from the hardship of your journey. I myself was hurt by the men and their supporter women at work because I was single and strong. I lost my 15 years old career and started over. It was tough for me too in a different way.

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Smart! 😂❤

Well said 👌🏼 They slowly erode your self esteem, self confidence, self value until you are disconnected from self

I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back

Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?

Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being

Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.

It's sad that people like you jump into the comments section on a podcast for people who may be dealing with hurt and trauma and then you come along and try to scam them with your spiritual healer comment. Oh please

Yes

That is an oops memory issues they pretend but they testing you in beginning! it can be a year before they start doing it though you have to be careful especially the covert ones sometimes sometimes it’s not until marriage and then they r@p@ their wife first night in bedroom!!! Sick sick evil people!

This is so true! I don't trust anyone anymore either, but the hardest part for sure is the loss of trust in yourself 💔

I've so been there. I promise it gets better❤

Same here.

I hear you 💗 Sisters need to support Sistahs not sabotage

@@casperinsight3524 💖 100%

Yessss!! Bless you. I feel this and totally agree. I wish we could all help each other. Sending you prayers for healing and help through this difficult time.🙏🏼❤️‍🩹❤️

@@StephaniRoberts sending the same straight to you ❤️🙏💔❤️‍🩹

I can tell you that my life is completely healthier and different after getting Therapy through BetterHelp! Reduced price therapy online. I got 4 weeks therapy for a faction of the price of 1 in person session locally. Just let them know that you can’t afford therapy, and they’ll offer you a reduced price.

I had a boss who was known as the good guy - helpful, affable, highly qualified. I eventually found out he was a married womaniser, but the people who could accept it were few. So he just went on picking off women who couldn't share the info as other people wouldn't accept the truth. It should have been a sign that the people/interns he was always helping were female.

Exactly ​@@elipotter369

I agree with this. You really need to do a lot of research and often times you will come up empty handed. The intelligent ones are good at covering their tracks.

Yep and it takes time and must observe over a long period before you see it as it’s insidious and done and small pieces like the gaslighting in the beginning over something goofy that doesn’t seem like a big deal and maybe somebody just forgot but did they or is it preparation for down the road?

Described my ex!!! 29 years and it’s like your brainwashed from all the gaslighting and crazy making!!! I am so much more happier now!!!

Education should start in elementary school on gaslight and toxic behavior!

I’m so glad it impacted you! 🙌

"But there must've been red flags!" No, bitch, this ain't a bedtime story.

Everyone has their own personal limit for how much mistreatment they are willing to take in a relationship before leaving. You deserve all the happiness in the world.

Get out. No matter the longevity of your relationship, you know in your soul you need to leave. Listen to that voice.

Thank you for being so brave to share this. Please know that here at Women of Impact WE SEE YOU!! You are not alone my homie! You got this! 🙌💪

You found this video for a reason. It took me 9 years to carry out the plan of leaving I knew I needed to do. All the while I was being breadcrumbed (check out Dr. Ramani) thinking the relationship wasn’t so bad and getting better. Leaving happened recently for me and I’m going through my healing process. Your right timing may happen for you. I just hope that if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you get out sooner than later, because continuing creating so-called good memories with this person can be very hard to leave behind.

Man who are deeply insecure but very succesfull outside, they will never be satisfied because on one hand they think that something better is surely there for them. And on the other one, he feel ashamed for not be perfect as he wanted to be and the "pefection" that he sees on his woman, make him double down his shame and insecurity. There is not love involved, just competition.

That's who they target. They target people they admire, want to be like and know they can't. So to them it's a conquest, like she said. They will also slowly tear you down because in their minds, they need to be #1.

Always has happened to anyone .

I feel you. I wanted to run away by age 7. Made plans to take a greyhound and all. Decades later, I have found myself wanting to run away from men. Never again! Stay strong ❤

@mezlandia maybe working process

But at the same time, all heavy responsibilities and strict requirements are required of US. Make it make sense !!!

Wishing you well. There is a book called rebuilding by bruce fisher that is super helpful post the ending of a relationship.

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Fourth, it takes time to heal. We all want love and nothing wrong with holding onto someone who is or isn't right for you. Sometimes we just have to get a person a chance. Never know?

Same thing happened to me but when I didn't trust my perception of reality, I turned to his friend for guidance. I ended up falling for the friend and he got mad 😂

I studied Philosophy officially but also a life long study along with psychology. I gave him so much ammo to manipulate the next person and I hate that from the depths of my soul. Wisdom coming from an empty, manipulative, abusive mask. I wish there was a registry; ran by the right person/group, I would find no ethical problems there.

Ahhh thanks so much my homie! 🥰❤️

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Ugh. He did this to me a lot 6:43 gas lit me and called me jealous and said ALL WOMEN were the same and That I was like "all women: jealous, argumentative and possessive."

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I once read a zodiac description of tbe signs in love & the gemini was: "i really love you you're amazing what was your name again?! Believe in tbe zodiac or not- i had a gemini ex who womanises & tells them all "wow, you're amazing, so special to me" etc. They've no idea it's just his modus operandi for ego strokes.

That's what the Golden bachelor used to excuse himself from telling one woman she was the one & tbe next day telling another he couldn't live without her (that moment)

Your a Narcissist then?!