WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!
@1ReikiFloW2 ай бұрын
@@raynakumar6662 that's very tough indeed but tapping or eft techniques allow us to use the negatives in the positives so if people shared them and learned them they would stop getting offended by words that can only hurt us when a part of us agrees and one doesn't and it's in that divide that suffering comes from. It's like expecting a 2 year old not to have tantrums. We get hurt because a part of us agrees, it's nothing else. People just need to take it back to themselves.
@truthfollie91452 ай бұрын
@@1ReikiFloW so true and they work so great. You teach them well and for free! Maybe they don't want to get better, after all, blaming the narcs alone is easier.
@Mattlawton-ft6ew2 ай бұрын
I havent see the scammer yet but they are all over youtube is there on on your channel
@user-ds5uj6mj9nАй бұрын
That's what my malignant narc husband did to me then in herum and upstairs neighbour he was going with even after are wedding hrs after. And she upstairs my flying monkey got him to beat me up badley hate these freaks
@Portia620Ай бұрын
I married a con man too!!
@pennyatglitter2 ай бұрын
Whenever someone calls another person crazy, I get suspicious of the accuser
@DarlaGoldingАй бұрын
No kidding! When you see the truth, they call you “paranoid”!
@dreambeam4735Ай бұрын
That’s maturing! When I was younger I’d believe everything I was told about the other woman bc it was easy and made me feel important and different. Now I’m not that dumb 😂
@sabat8068Ай бұрын
I was gasslighted by my ex husband for many years and I truly believe he's not in his right mind. And I can say it aloud.
@Kathy-qu8zjАй бұрын
Narcissists are delusional and emotional babies..
@BlackPanther203Ай бұрын
But crazy people get into relationships all the time
@marshareed14382 ай бұрын
I love being alone, it’s so peaceful!
@mobutter28792 ай бұрын
Amen!❤
@Mattlawton-ft6ewАй бұрын
Absolutely 💯
@Harsha-D311Ай бұрын
Stay alone It's the happiest you will b God will always be there Keep praying
@jeepguy4x4402 ай бұрын
I was with a stealth narcissist. Lost 10 years of my life. It’s crazy how many women and men become victims to these selfish toxic people.
@romygarcia3782Ай бұрын
Lost more than 20 years … it’s crazy !
@Kathy-qu8zjАй бұрын
Consider yourself smart or/and lucky.. it’s been 46 years for me
@wonderwomanx12682 ай бұрын
We’ve all been there. Trust your gut.
@aras.relationship.support2 ай бұрын
I like that! True
@sooticablue16642 ай бұрын
The truth is that often the fact that your childhood trauma needs that you want to fix and heal … that person fires them up so much annd makes you feel like the pain might go away that you’d rather rip your gut out and throw it on the bonfire than walk away from him.
@truffaut650truffaut6Ай бұрын
@@sooticablue1664These "relationships" have an expiration date.😊
@lauriemendoza46712 ай бұрын
"I questioned myself more than I questioned him." That statement hit me so hard. I was in a ten year toxic marriage to a narcissist. I'm divorced and out of the relationship three years now. I am still on my healing journey. So much of what was described in this podcast was my story. My message to anyone who is struggling to leave a toxic situation is to just walk away. I know it's hard, but there is healing and work to be done on the other side. You will not regret leaving. It is so worth it, the first time you look in the mirror and see yourself and smile, you will feel a joy and peace that you thought you lost, but it was not lost, it was just sleeping. Welcome to your healing journey! I wish you success. Don't stop moving forward. I promise you will not regret leaving. Healing and wholeness is on the other side waiting for you! I wish you luck! You got this...😊❤
@sagebreeze2 ай бұрын
This! And remember to leave while he's at work if you even have an INKLING that he'd get ugly about it.
@casperinsight35242 ай бұрын
You can live in a mansion but if the Lord of the manor is a Narcissistic prick then it becomes a prison.
@hellenicdjevojka51232 ай бұрын
❤
@mezlandia2 ай бұрын
You’re absolutely right; I have a similar story… in the end, I was no longer surprised by his lies. I love being single!
@PassionateFlower2 ай бұрын
My abuser kicked me out and gave me PTSD, he went on to graduate from college and had a baby with a woman and appears to have his life together from social media but I dropped out of college 3 times and am homeless now and I have been in intensive therapy for years. I still have nightmares about him 15 years later. No closure or resolution. I don't have any healing and I don't feel any better about the situation. I just loved him and wanted it to work out. I understand if he didn't want to be with me but he purposefully tortured me for everything and gave me no peace or apology. I've tried forgiveness but it doesn't feel sincere to forgive a man with no remorse for his actions. Time and therapy does not always heal all wounds.
@GodChoice252 ай бұрын
One of the easiest earliest signs to detect someone narcissistic, that we often ignore, is when they repeatedly TELL you "I am a great person" "I am a real man", or they over emphasize on their accomplishments. This is a pattern I've noticed with them this is one of the earliest red flags upon engaging with them. When you know you are a person of good character etc you don't have to keep announcing it you just be yourself and show people with your actions. I cringe when people do this because they are trying to persuade you and also themselves that this is who they are when they are really not. Also, when they send long texts and ask so many questions the first day of interacting with you, they want to know everything about you so they can scheme and plot how to be what they think you would want to reel you in. It's crazy I can go on and on but please take heed to these and pay attention to how you feel around them and when they talk, they usually tell on themselves. Be blessed 💕
@somyaajoshiАй бұрын
yes 100% agree to this, somebody I recently met told me 'he is not here to play games or mess with my head' on the first meeting, that was fishy but I actually thought he is super aware just gets me turned out he was compensating for what he was hiding within and started playing games and going hot and cold after being super sweet for first few days. Thankfully I was aware and stopped engaging. Trust your gut and trust patterns, actions, and changed behaviour over mere words. That's the only way out
@GodChoice25Ай бұрын
@@somyaajoshi Good for you, and very good advice.
@janedoh123Ай бұрын
I’ve on my 3rd month of no contact after 4 years married after 11 months ( with lots of gut instincts about that this is not right) I believed that he was with a woman who had stole lied cheated and used him and even got him sent to prison for 6 months ( for ramming her car because she had her fancy man in it but not to the extent where it crashed 😂 omg when I write this out 😮) I thought how could HE get back with HER after that ? 😂wtf was I thinking 🤔 obviously not as I wasn’t given any chance to process or question any anomalies, I excused, minimised, ignored or justified bad behaviour from him initially thinking he was healing and coming to terms with the fact he had been abused by her, but he had inserted himself into my family and friends and they saw the man ( loosest sense of the word) i thought he was because he told me, I didn’t have interaction with his family as they were all jealous of him and all he’s done is try to help them! The nicest guy ever making me feel safe. But I was physically abused financially abused gaslight lied to and then constantly accused of being a liar and picking facts out of the air and then treat me like I was guilty of it and treating me with distain shaming me crushing my spirit and I kept it all secret because he used to say that I shouldn’t say anything because we always get back together and then people will think we’re a joke NPD and violent so psychopathic and hypersensitive and hyper vigilant paranoid and a vile mouth I was dying all my energy was draining from me I was disassociated and numb playing the game that everything is just tickerty boo and I just flipped the script and went totally off the radar no contact at all Don’t know how he’s feeling or doing,saying or screwing and I don’t care I know that he couldn’t have been faithful to me not the only faithful narcissist so I don’t care if he was it’s on him , I grieved the fake relationship while I was still with ( we never really lived together he kept his own house and I didn’t care in the end I didn’t want him living with me and my son whose 18 now ) him So yes I am starting to get my energy back slowly but I’ve got peace and my friends (who he did gossip about me to them but they thought that he was an idiot and he also told them not so say anything so divide and rule) Well I’m out of it and I have a divorce to sort out but I will leave it a month or two to get stronger physically and in a good routine ( as he ensured we lived in chaos he has no standards and expected me not too ) Hopefully you got to the end 😊
@Portia620Ай бұрын
Same with anything! A lion doesn’t need to tell you who they are!!!! 😂😂🥂🥂
@Portia620Ай бұрын
Be careful of innocent looking gaslighting too ladies and gents!!!! This happens early to get you to trust their judgment more than your own!! It’s small and random with a dash here and a dash there!!! These people want to exploit you and use you!!! Pay close attention if you have something they could take like single mom with small kids (yes some are pedi files!) and status symbol ect!! If it’s too good to be true it is so look for the red flags and games as they are masters at it!!!
@susanparker98772 ай бұрын
My narcissist ex was sweet to everyone..., except his mother. He spoke to her with impatience, distain and disrespect. My alarms went off, but his responce about how awful she had been to him threw me off... It was a forebinger to his hate and distrust for women as a whole. Now, when there are early life traumas I see major RED FLAGS! Nothing good has ever happened to me from such a men. They are always damaged.
@AimeeKateKelly2 ай бұрын
During my life I have learned if a man treats his mother with disrespect it’s a MAJOR red flag . He usually doesn’t respect women in general
@susanparker98772 ай бұрын
@@AimeeKateKelly Major red flag!
@Hellthee2 ай бұрын
If he worships his mother is also a red flag in my opinion.
@wittesneeuw2 ай бұрын
Young ladies, beware also for the mommyboy......this is the opposite....This narc is already married with his toxic mum😢
@susanparker98772 ай бұрын
@@wittesneeuw An impossible situation for the new wife, girlfriend, fiancé. She will never live up to his perfect mom. Mom always will go first.
@moonchild662 ай бұрын
Exactly...they pick beautiful intelligent women to make themselves look better so fkd up!!!! Love to all women watching this❤ remember you ..we are enough!!!!🙏🙏🙏✨✨✨✨✨
@staciacrick33732 ай бұрын
And they also pick less attractive women to feel superior. All narcissists are not capable of attracting women nor do they want them as a partner
@staciacrick33732 ай бұрын
Lil sis to girlfriend is creepy
@LisaBilyeu2 ай бұрын
Hells yeh girl!! 🙌🔥
@paulandreehouman3094Ай бұрын
Honestly i believe that men were narcissist back then. Nowadays there are more narcissist women than men. And also instead of Always blaming narcissist men may be you should Ask yourself why are you Always attracted to narcissist men. Because there are good men out here
@vivtodd247324 күн бұрын
@paulandr.. That’s the point… You ask how women are attracted to narcissists? Narcissistic behaviour is what attracts women!!… Initial behaviour is fine tuned flattery and con-sideration etc until the behaviour changes, and partners are already hooked. That is the whole point of info vids like this one...Duh!..
@staciacrick33732 ай бұрын
Narcissists are the worst parents.
@flynneart11112 ай бұрын
2 is worse
@clintonnagy16622 ай бұрын
I can testify. My ex vulnerable narc would use her single mother status as a weapon to gain sympathy from men. To gain discounts for home repair, or speeding tickets or discounts at restaurants. She would scream at her 7 yr old son in public places and belittle him. She would eventually try to do the same to me, but I wouldn't tolerate being told I embarrassed her at a restaurant when, especially when I didn't do anything. Just disgusting behavior.
@alenaadamkova76172 ай бұрын
Some said nose is most powerful instrument, it recognises billion smells and nuances... and people use to use only eyes, that sees only million colors and nuances. with eyes you see only the surface. also from spiritual perspective we should use more our nose because of seeing under the surface. not believeng every story in media.
@anne-vc7bg2 ай бұрын
People think it's bad when a partner does ego shocks, try coming home from middle school and listening how you got an A because you're too stupid to get an F.😒 Not shaming partner violets, just so angry that worse ab use against children is brushed off as mislabeled "good parenting".
@sabat8068Ай бұрын
True. They are not interested in their children as separate Human beings, children always need Therapy afterwards.
@kelleymcclain73802 ай бұрын
We are always a “conquest” It’s never love or unconditional respect. It’s ownership.
@Clevelandsteamer3242 ай бұрын
It happens to men from women also. Don’t get it twisted
@kelleymcclain73802 ай бұрын
@@Clevelandsteamer324 I never said it didn’t. But I’m a woman and that’s my experience-
@yamiii4442 ай бұрын
Exactly!!!!
@AimeeKateKelly2 ай бұрын
@@Clevelandsteamer324Historically I don’t think women have tried to control , own and oppress men
@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn72852 ай бұрын
Unconditional respect sounds like an oxymoron
@faye_bulous2 ай бұрын
I’m struggling to trust anyone because the way these narc’ put you on a pedestal only to tear your life apart, the cognitive dissonance is just something
@Portia620Ай бұрын
I spend each day studying it! Takes years to understand and heal!
@faye_bulousАй бұрын
@@Portia620 my only hope is for more and more people to know about it so that they can spot the signs early on
@Kathy-qu8zjАй бұрын
I know your pain.. it’s horrible..been there..
@bellastone-le9eb2 ай бұрын
I have met so many of these who I thought were great guys and turned out to be hell bringers, liars, master manipulators and deceivers. I do try to remember that not all nice people are narcissist. Test them by trying to get them to show empathy. Sometimes they can mimic it but usually they have zero reaction. This is how you tell what they are.
@Harsha-D311Ай бұрын
One self proclaimed nice guy once said to me I don't want a relationship I just want to hookup I m a nice guy I was like Nice guys provide n protect
@Kathy-qu8zjАй бұрын
I always said to my husband.. “you have no empathy..” and I found out the whole family is lacking in that area. Didn’t know what a covert narc was until recently. He/they check EVERY box.
@bonnieromick93972 ай бұрын
Narcissist s have no self rules except Do Not Be Caught!
@lisaleonard2442 ай бұрын
After 2 yrs with a narcissistic sociopath (who is a ceo of a publicly traded company) it took me 3 yrs to get back into the gym. He was ultra judgmental of my physical body. I’m a nutritionist and physical trainer. He often compared me to his ex wife and the multiple women he was in relationships with. (Ironically he’s 80-90 lbs overweight with erectile dysfunction) Covid hit just after the breakup ( the 8th discard ) at which point my personal training business became exclusively online. I completely felt unworthy of self care. Gained a bunch of weight and the self loathing and shame kept me stuck for a long time. Fortunately I did the healing necessary to keep me from attracting, and being attracted to, toxic men. I’m back in great shape and I just feel sorry for the unaware women he is now involved with.
@staciacrick33732 ай бұрын
CEO’s CFO’s and the like are all statistically high with NPD as well as psychopathy
@motheroak2 ай бұрын
I'm so proud of you.
@user-ky1rd4wf7z2 ай бұрын
I am back to the gym daily as well🎉.
@sandamiz2 ай бұрын
The idiot
@sayusayme77292 ай бұрын
💚🧩🕊️
@sharicoburn54752 ай бұрын
What y'all said about successful women being with these abusive men is true and often a man who is insecure will abuse a woman who is successful because of his own insecurity
@Portia620Ай бұрын
Truths!
@xino_zАй бұрын
too true and when a woman is busy they get away with whatever they want because you're successful it's such garbage
@Dorythefish1322 күн бұрын
Yep, mine felt envy and hatred toward me for every success. He would sabotage, tear me down, anything to take that away. He felt he was deserving and I wasn't, so tearing me down was 'justice' - morally righteous even. He convinced himself my job was for 'evil people'.
@LatinRoses2 ай бұрын
This was powerful. Made me cry. I was married to a narcissist. I met him at age 19. The clipping didn’t start until engagement. And, I still decided to marry him The fear of not trusting my ability to choose wisely has played a key role in keeping me single many years post divorce
@RS543212 ай бұрын
What does clipping refer to? What did he start doing after you were engaged, out of curiosity?
@mg792772 ай бұрын
@@RS54321 Clipping meaning clipping the your wings so you can’t fly or fly away.
@LatinRoses2 ай бұрын
@@RS54321 When I felt good about myself, he would put me down, to destroy my self esteem He would say things that were mind games. Like…. Do you want to go to the movies with me on Friday? I would say yes. Then, he would say. I can’t take you out. I didn’t get paid yet. I would answer. Why did you bother to ask me then? He would say. Just wanted to see if you wanted to go out Then, he would love bomb me. And, treat me really nice I was so young and naive to really understand that this type of behavior was a major red flag, as well as, unacceptable
@Portia620Ай бұрын
@@RS54321they flip and some flip the script in marriage and women have been violated sx in bedroom brutally r-p-ed!! It’s hard to figure these men or women out as I married 29 years and mine left me when sick and abandoned h children e and drained accounts!!! You can heal but moving on is never the same becsue people hide so much! No matter what I’ll always leave no matter how much I love someone! I don’t play with sickos anymore!
@Hatbox948Ай бұрын
Same here. I was a divorcee when I met my nex, and was already squeamish about marriage. My ex husband was not a narcissist. I never married my nex, although we were together over 20 years. I'm still trying to figure out why I stayed with him so long. It was torture.
@markoembarko90452 ай бұрын
I was secure before meeting him. He said I made him want to be a better man. He was a wolf in sheep's clothing and when I finally stopped tolerating his crap, he dumped me saying he was going to find a secure woman... It still hurts but looking back it made me stronger. I know what to avoid instead of overlook. Intuition was like wtf but my heart was keeping me chained to the devil. So happy to be free! Good riddance and good f$#ing luck.
@JanSwan2 ай бұрын
This situation is like "death by 1,000 cuts". Recovering is painful, but not as painful as continuing such a toxic relationship. Reconnecting with your instincts, over-coming 2nd guessing yourself & reclaiming your healthy emotional self is another journey; however, we are worth it. Take the lessons & apply them to your future!
@normachase72272 ай бұрын
I was in a 31 yr marriage and this explains my ex husband. I never knew what narcissist was but I do now divorced 2023.
@jennywager622826 күн бұрын
Me too, explaining this to myself is still baffling in hindsight
@kimstrandberg95292 ай бұрын
We might be smart, successful and kind but we are also the women that are (were) delusional about love. And I’ll add that I heard it said recently that we marry the person that most resembles (emotionally and psychodynamically) the care-giver who’s love and affection we had to work for or couldn’t get.
@queenmo50732 ай бұрын
Both my caregivers were very loving - this is false
@kimstrandberg95292 ай бұрын
@@queenmo5073 mine are too, but I can still see where I felt responsible to make my mother happy as the youngest child. And she wasn’t depressed and never drank. She didn’t ask or demand it but it was my role in the family, at least it’s the role that I took on because I was good at it and it made me feel good to make her feel good. On the surface this seems mutually beneficial however this is called parentification and I didn’t know it was “a thing” to feel responsible for someone else’s emotional regulation . The problem is the partner I chose to marry also required me to prioritize his emotional needs over mine, thereby abandoning my own needs for his which felt ever so familiar and what I knew to be “love”. End of the day, healthy people don’t stay in intimate relationships with unhealthy people. Speaking as a Gen Xer, I think many of us where neglected as kids and that shows up as a subconscious fear of abandonment in our relationships. Just my thoughts and my experience.
@Sunlightsam242 ай бұрын
Yes, it takes a lot of self awareness to ‘see’ it
@thewholeyou2 ай бұрын
@@queenmo5073 No. What she said is actually true.However you can still develop an insecure attachment if u have 2 loving caring present in home parents bc no one is perfect. In some way most ppl have a small level of dysfunction or trauma. However also not just your childhood leads to this but in teen & young adult relationships where you arent prepared for this predatory kinda relationship out of left field can impact u & lead to this dynamic w/ a narcissistic, Emotionally unavailable or avoidant men. They are many ppl I have coached who have fairly good upbringing that still in the same boat bc of many variables but one way is the way she described it as well.
@Portia620Ай бұрын
@@queenmo5073agreed such bs! Same with we are trying to right a wrong! I was psychology major and it’s all bs! Sometimes we marry a con man!
@casperinsight35242 ай бұрын
When you are raised by a NPD parent you unknowingly attract NPD throughout life until you SEE the situation clearly. Its bittersweet liberation to realize its not you 🤓
@SisterSustainАй бұрын
Yes, we unknowingly seek out or are attracted to that which is familiar to us and associate that familiarity with what we think is love from our parents. I just realized recently that my mom behaved a lot like my narc ex boyfriend. Very eye opening.
@marshareed14382 ай бұрын
I’ve turned into inspector gadget 😂 I was with a liar that made me feel crazy for 30 years.
@solmazsurvivorАй бұрын
I've been an inspector 🕵🏻♀️ since teenage and I ended up being single and even though life gets tough from time to time, but I don't regret.
@marshareed1438Ай бұрын
@@solmazsurvivor you were very smart very young! I learned the hard way! I’m 58 & alone for the first time in my life, been single for 3 yrs & loving it and yes it can be tough but it sure beats being mentally unstable! My dad verbally taught me what measurements my body needed to be accepted by men (my measurements didn’t cut it with him) & that’s why the convo…& also why I was born a girl. I was taught by another man that I wasn’t allowed to say NO to sex. Getting hit was my punishment. At 58 I’m no longer tolerant to men’s bs! It’s so peaceful living alone. My house is paid off & I have a business that has been doing well for 26 yrs so I’m good by myself! I’m not wealthy but I have enough to survive.
@solmazsurvivorАй бұрын
@@marshareed1438 I'm very happy for you and happy freedom, peace and enjoy your time. It doesn't matter when you arrive at your beautiful destination. I hope you heal from the hardship of your journey. I myself was hurt by the men and their supporter women at work because I was single and strong. I lost my 15 years old career and started over. It was tough for me too in a different way.
@shellshelly55522 ай бұрын
Ohhhhhhhh! I was expecting my family for the weekend at my “guy” of 7 years beach house. I went happily grocery shopping and came back, didn’t see him and I carried all the groceries in without his help. I went looking for him, and found him texting as USUAL. I like the fool, said hi! I felt adorable that day, dressed very cute. He looked me up and down and said with a smirk, those pants are a little snug huh? I said what? I feel really good in this outfit. ( I normally never spoke up) he said “ don’t give me that psycho babble.” I looked at him and held in tears and hurt. Then I looked at him and for the first time in 7 years said **** you! And turned on my heel and left the room. That was the final end for me after wonderful weekend with my family. THE END, last straw from that narcissist.
@mezlandia2 ай бұрын
👏🏻
@Portia620Ай бұрын
Smart! 😂❤
@Clevelandsteamer3242 ай бұрын
Always remember that water can and does cut through stone given enough time. Even a subtle drip can take its toll over years.
@casperinsight35242 ай бұрын
Well said 👌🏼 They slowly erode your self esteem, self confidence, self value until you are disconnected from self
@NathanielF.Robinson-rx6vx2 ай бұрын
This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
@beverlystephens62 ай бұрын
I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back
@NathanielF.Robinson-rx6vx2 ай бұрын
Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?
@beverlystephens62 ай бұрын
Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being
@NathanielF.Robinson-rx6vx2 ай бұрын
Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.
@paulahamilton30182 ай бұрын
It's sad that people like you jump into the comments section on a podcast for people who may be dealing with hurt and trauma and then you come along and try to scam them with your spiritual healer comment. Oh please
@Sunlightsam242 ай бұрын
Her husband was gaslighting her-when someone tells you the reality is false, there’s an old movie about it.
@NatzTalkАй бұрын
Yes
@Portia620Ай бұрын
That is an oops memory issues they pretend but they testing you in beginning! it can be a year before they start doing it though you have to be careful especially the covert ones sometimes sometimes it’s not until marriage and then they r@p@ their wife first night in bedroom!!! Sick sick evil people!
@sherrishunk21282 ай бұрын
Now I don't trust anyone. It makes me a fraid of love,friends,strangers . Worst part now I don't trust my self either.
@A5xxxxx2 ай бұрын
This is so true! I don't trust anyone anymore either, but the hardest part for sure is the loss of trust in yourself 💔
@lookupyourredemptiondrawsn72852 ай бұрын
I've so been there. I promise it gets better❤
@Kathy-qu8zjАй бұрын
Same here.
@hopeinhumanity.2 ай бұрын
I’m happy that it was mentioned that a sign to look out for- Staying late at work and not looking forward to going home
@juliak90892 ай бұрын
I was brought up by a narcissistic mother ,and so it's not a surprise that I've attracted many narcissistic people in my life ...but now I'm going through a healing period, I'm learning trusting my gut and I've already cut out of my life 3 narcissistic " friends". There's hope and I do believe that your channel, Lisa, contributes into our healing every single day!❤ Thank you! ❤❤❤
@user-kw2xf5bg4c2 ай бұрын
I was married for 33 yrs, didn’t know narcissism existed. He was a covert, wonderful to everyone except me so now as I’m recovering from this I don’t trust myself to choose differently so I’m choosing to be alone for good…June 26/24 1:00
@sooticablue16642 ай бұрын
This is triggering me so badly. I wish it was common knowledge how many of us can’t afford therapy to get through everything. Jeez… I can’t believe what we all do to each other in this life and more often than not it’s not even from a place of badness, it’s from our own wounds and traumas. I wish I could heal and help everyone, I can’t even help myself but I wish healing to you all ❤
@casperinsight35242 ай бұрын
I hear you 💗 Sisters need to support Sistahs not sabotage
@sooticablue16642 ай бұрын
@@casperinsight3524 💖 100%
@StephaniRoberts2 ай бұрын
Yessss!! Bless you. I feel this and totally agree. I wish we could all help each other. Sending you prayers for healing and help through this difficult time.🙏🏼❤️🩹❤️
@sooticablue16642 ай бұрын
@@StephaniRoberts sending the same straight to you ❤️🙏💔❤️🩹
@user-uw6zg1hb4r2 ай бұрын
I can tell you that my life is completely healthier and different after getting Therapy through BetterHelp! Reduced price therapy online. I got 4 weeks therapy for a faction of the price of 1 in person session locally. Just let them know that you can’t afford therapy, and they’ll offer you a reduced price.
@k.s7832 ай бұрын
The advice to look at a narcissists’ history is almost impossible for the very reason that narcissists are so secretive. It’s part of their nature. They often live double lives and take a lot of measures to hide things (for example they’ll have a second phone). You also can’t ask his friends because a lot of times narcissists are well liked by others due to their superficial charm. They also often do “acts of service” aka the communal narcissist, to make a good impression. The aforementioned is one of the reasons you often feel that there’s nowhere to turn because nobody will believe you. As a victim of narcissistic abuse we often wonder if there’s something wrong with us considering how well-liked and often successful the narcissist is. This is still true even though the narcissist is blatantly manipulative and mean behind closed doors.
@elipotter3692 ай бұрын
I had a boss who was known as the good guy - helpful, affable, highly qualified. I eventually found out he was a married womaniser, but the people who could accept it were few. So he just went on picking off women who couldn't share the info as other people wouldn't accept the truth. It should have been a sign that the people/interns he was always helping were female.
@thewholeyou2 ай бұрын
Exactly @@elipotter369
@thepragmatistАй бұрын
I agree with this. You really need to do a lot of research and often times you will come up empty handed. The intelligent ones are good at covering their tracks.
@lanettewalton7745Ай бұрын
I had my life together 15 years ago I met this guy fell in love my life went spiraling down the drain stayed with when for 12 years lost everything including my mind had a mental breakdown and had a stroke from stress. I couldn’t believe I let him bring me down now I’m trying to figure out how to get my life back on track
@lily3054Ай бұрын
When i want to talk about the relationship or get some emotional support or even just talk about our day together i usually get "dont mess with my head", or Im tired or he just keeps looking at his phone....he loves his phone and tv and getting high on weekends. And eating. Its very draining and a very lonely life. Its like i dont exist unless he needs/wants something, then the mood changes and he's so nice . Never any praise for my achievements unless it was for/about him. There's no sense of connection or security in these relationships. They just drain you physically, mentally and emotionally 😢😢😢
@willowmoon50632 ай бұрын
I. Have to appreciate this Dr. Just chilling with his legs tucked on the couch. Gives comfort and that he's genuine. Just my opinion.
@silvijasvencis41572 ай бұрын
Hello from Australia went thru this as a mature age women strangest thing I have ever been thru. The future faking the dry begging the sny put downs the silent treatment the lies the ghosting the hoovering. Only 8 months as I saw a pattern pretty early. It exhausted me!!😊
@Portia620Ай бұрын
Yep and it takes time and must observe over a long period before you see it as it’s insidious and done and small pieces like the gaslighting in the beginning over something goofy that doesn’t seem like a big deal and maybe somebody just forgot but did they or is it preparation for down the road?
@user-hs7zg1ho1pАй бұрын
This happened to me. I raised his kids. Once they were grown and out of the house he left me. It was out of no where. I started to do PI work. I found out there was many. I loved him so deeply and authentically. He was my heart. My life. After the discard I found out he was a grandiose covert Narcissist. I was a conquest. It’s devastated me completely . It’s been a year since he discarded me. I know he’s doing the same with other woman. And it’s so beyond disgusting. I gave this man 13 years of my whole life. Married for 9. Notice I said, 9. He ruined me financially to leave next to nothing in his pension and spousal support. And he was the breadwinner. Now not only am I mourning the loss of what I thought he was, but now trying to figure out how to support myself.
@Iam_anHeir2 ай бұрын
"Clean up on aisle Quayle!" Lol It took me moment to get it. Here she is a beautiful, kind, caring, sharp, gifted, talented, sucessful individual so it tells me more about those guys who saw her worth and for such a sick, warped reason wanted to clip her down until she could no longer fly or even function... We all need to educate ourselves about such sick people so our alarm goes off and we run!!
@Portia620Ай бұрын
Described my ex!!! 29 years and it’s like your brainwashed from all the gaslighting and crazy making!!! I am so much more happier now!!!
@Portia620Ай бұрын
Education should start in elementary school on gaslight and toxic behavior!
@bethdean85632 ай бұрын
“I validated him” So true. This is just spot on Everyone should hear this! It is just excellent. Thank you for sharing your story and i will get this book!
@LisaBilyeu2 ай бұрын
I’m so glad it impacted you! 🙌
@nky82212 ай бұрын
“You don’t see it from outside” so so true.
@giftydordzie36932 ай бұрын
The clipping comes when you are feeling good about yourself….so true 💯
@KiKi-te9ydАй бұрын
The Narc expert: "If I'd met him, I'd probably have thought 'what a cool guy'"...... YES. I have said that exact sentence to my friends in trying to explain it. This is my story too, right down to the 12yo daughter being used as a pawn. Knowing you're not alone in this experience is so healing.
@Poodle_GunАй бұрын
"But there must've been red flags!" No, bitch, this ain't a bedtime story.
@sheilamusker-lovett44722 ай бұрын
I am still in the middle of being in a abusive relationship. No, he’s never touched me but a lot of what this woman is saying I have experienced the cheating the lying trying to make me feel like I’m not heard. I’m not seen saying I’m insecure because when he’s flirting with a woman right in front of me, I talk to him about it and that means I’m insecure, there’s so many things that I’ve heard in the author talk about that are just like that lightbulb go off thank you
@vivere__2 ай бұрын
Everyone has their own personal limit for how much mistreatment they are willing to take in a relationship before leaving. You deserve all the happiness in the world.
@hernandez76592 ай бұрын
Get out. No matter the longevity of your relationship, you know in your soul you need to leave. Listen to that voice.
@LisaBilyeu2 ай бұрын
Thank you for being so brave to share this. Please know that here at Women of Impact WE SEE YOU!! You are not alone my homie! You got this! 🙌💪
@SisterSustainАй бұрын
You found this video for a reason. It took me 9 years to carry out the plan of leaving I knew I needed to do. All the while I was being breadcrumbed (check out Dr. Ramani) thinking the relationship wasn’t so bad and getting better. Leaving happened recently for me and I’m going through my healing process. Your right timing may happen for you. I just hope that if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you get out sooner than later, because continuing creating so-called good memories with this person can be very hard to leave behind.
@myjourney73Ай бұрын
When my ex covert narc said to me "I am your antidote" that completely awakened me to feel and know I'm being abused, albeit in a nonchalant way.He said this at a nice dinner while holding my hand and smiling at me. I was shaken by this sentence but took me a bit to fully aknoknoledge its true meaning, that basically who and what I am is no good, bit no worries because he will fix me he is my antidote. This was my moment of truth to know I'm being manipulated and abused by a Nice guy narcissist How dreadful it all was, is. I struggle daily with the knowledge I've Bern duped so completely I feel robbed. Fooled, humiliated and just stupid for having been in this situation with such a con artist
@deesmoon38452 ай бұрын
A person who is deep in the situation may not be open to listen to what friends and family are warning them. It’s when the individual realizes that they need to open their perspective and see what they need to do heal and work on in breaking the cycle and pattern. It’s a process.
@rainbowbakuchan2 ай бұрын
I can understand, it's so easy to be decieved..You think this guy is Mr. Right, and actually find out that he is a big liar. Well, i learnt my lesson and never fall for a liar. Love your show!❤Thankyou❤
@ayyyejesterdazed2 ай бұрын
She’s beautiful😍 I can’t imagine a man talking negatively about her looks
@alice-hp7dhАй бұрын
Man who are deeply insecure but very succesfull outside, they will never be satisfied because on one hand they think that something better is surely there for them. And on the other one, he feel ashamed for not be perfect as he wanted to be and the "pefection" that he sees on his woman, make him double down his shame and insecurity. There is not love involved, just competition.
@kelleymcclain73802 ай бұрын
Ps. Your soul radiates and I can see you are a beautiful person inside and out. I’ve been there back to back - Overt narcissist then covert narcissist. It is amazing what they can do when they take your power.. I’m glad you have risen from the ashes!
@AA-lq5puАй бұрын
Some of the most beautiful, kind capable and intelligent women that I met in my life also had the terrible partners. I remember seeing the most beautiful girl in the school who was also a top student, was insecure because her boyfriend who was no where near her level treated her badly. It blew my mind that she didn't seem to know what a catch she was and that she did not deserve this.
@katrinabernal42712 ай бұрын
This woman is so beautiful from the inside out. Just goes to show it can happen to anyone...
@tanyatanya891Ай бұрын
That's who they target. They target people they admire, want to be like and know they can't. So to them it's a conquest, like she said. They will also slowly tear you down because in their minds, they need to be #1.
@Portia620Ай бұрын
Always has happened to anyone .
@melb2258Ай бұрын
I think I’m really going to have to stay alone. After not dating for several years, I decided to start going out to social settings. As I was out and about I met not one but two, narcs !!! Two, back to back !! Like wth is wrong with me ??? Why do I attract these maniacs ???? I promise, I don’t behave radical. I don’t behave unstable, yet here I am, only getting approached by narcissists …. Why ?? Is it my smile ? Is it my kindness? I guess I’ll stop smiling…I’ll stop being kind ?! I’m at a loss.
@hferrari75532 ай бұрын
Wish we could have heard more from Dr. Keith. The personal stories are great and bravo for the courage to share them. There’s another depth though that Dr. Keith can bring in, he can give many varied examples of his experience in this area (not only this particular case). Please bring him back 👍🏾
@esnova112 ай бұрын
As one of the survivals of a manipulators. I can say one thing I knew right from beginning something was off, I understood it, even identified, later recognized it, felt hurt, frustrated, mad. I think we are all know what hurt us, but if we had any feelings like that as growing up, although when we were kids we hated tht feeling ( me for instance could not wait to get out and run away as soon I will be old enough), and if they give us any feed of where our gaps of needs are and if they feel tht gap even with a bit we get pulled right back in. Throw all those hurt relationship I'm happy I went through them - they made me stronger, tought me love myself, chose me and self radical acceptance, and learned to walk away from toxic ppl regardless how sweet, handsome, rich and high status they are, I can smell bs miles away . Good luck to all
@mezlandia2 ай бұрын
I feel you. I wanted to run away by age 7. Made plans to take a greyhound and all. Decades later, I have found myself wanting to run away from men. Never again! Stay strong ❤
@esnova112 ай бұрын
@mezlandia maybe working process
@powerofknowledge7771Ай бұрын
We're conditioned to believe that we're not enough and that we're the problem by the way were treated from childhood.
@ak-47intelligence7528 күн бұрын
But at the same time, all heavy responsibilities and strict requirements are required of US. Make it make sense !!!
@suzettewalsh28542 ай бұрын
You’re gorgeous; the nerve bulking up! Anything that could be positive they totally knock it down and turn it inside out to screw up your mind! I’ve been down this road so many people I’m buying your book. I’m 60 years old and just getting out of a 25 year marriage with the narcissist. He had me totally bamboozled. He had a major sex addiction and was going to sex workers. I’m just out of it as of January and still coming out of the fog. There are days when I could function well and other days where I can’t get out of bed. I’m not looking to get into any relationship at this point. I just need to heal.
@elipotter3692 ай бұрын
Wishing you well. There is a book called rebuilding by bruce fisher that is super helpful post the ending of a relationship.
@iamkendraofficial21742 ай бұрын
I started healing from my narcissist relationship after he left…once I start looking at how I allowed it. Not to judge myself, but to learn.❤
@Goose-mn2meАй бұрын
For me, work was small periods of distraction from constantly ruminating about the relationship. Going home was scary for me because I was left to those thoughts. I tried to stay moving and doing, but as soon as I stopped it was mind torture. I fully believe that an abusive relationship with narcissist rewires our brains.
@katrinadoiron1075Ай бұрын
I spent almost 2 decades and had 2 kids with a covert narcissist who also had another life. It is beyone mind blowing. You start to think you can't believe anything you thought you knew.
@RS543212 ай бұрын
6:34 The destabilizing of one's sense of reality, isolation, actual or perceived powerlessness leading one to only rely on and listen to the abuser is exactly what we saw on a grand scale during the pandemic by the powers that be. Same playbook, different scenario.
@nyashakurasha76992 ай бұрын
You have saved many with this episode.
@bethhansingkoughan204526 күн бұрын
The ego shock. Experienced that abuse. Came out of nowhere. And those comments stay with you a long time after the relationship ends. The potency of the barbs. Seared into my brain. Absolutely intentional.
@lumbinishill30282 ай бұрын
I am so glad you brought her Lisa. She is such an emotional and empathetic person. I am like that and half my life I’ve been asked to be logical and practical. The point is, not everyone is so practical. We all are humans. Of all kinds. Some might be logical. But many of us are emotional. It’s nice to know that I was not an exception. We just feel more. We just cry more. We just hurt more. And thanks to make me feel that it’s not wrong to exist like that.
@leyla2245Ай бұрын
This story is unique in 3 ways: She has a supportive father whose actively involved in her life which shocked me that abuse discriminates with no 1, not just with ppl with absent fathers. 2. She said people left after because they knew "the secret." My people left because they didn't believe me and believed his lies on me (sided with him) 3. He died. Usually half the pain is seeing him move on and marry to the next... and next... and next with no signs of justice while picking up the pieces. What's similar is the "prince's" promise to make you trust and serial cheats to betray you where it hurts. Thanks for sharing this story. It's a story of bravery and resilience. Grief is a real and multifaceted thing.
@ireefree20242 ай бұрын
First, it can happened almost to anybody. Second, you need to forgive yourself for not seeing the red flags. Third, you need therapy and start all over again...
@LisaBilyeu2 ай бұрын
🙌🙌🙌
@clintonnagy16622 ай бұрын
Fourth, it takes time to heal. We all want love and nothing wrong with holding onto someone who is or isn't right for you. Sometimes we just have to get a person a chance. Never know?
@valiizajames9252 ай бұрын
Thank You for sharing your story...and the gentleman you are with is caring/careful with how he is sharing his wisdom to build people up ! I needed this!
@samanthaohearn27782 ай бұрын
I can relate to this conversation a lot, It is really comforting knowing people are speaking up about this sort of abuse. 🙏🏼 last year I came out of an abusive relationship, it absolutely destroyed my sense of self. I developed a panic disorder and was put on medication as well as months of therapy. Years of that relationship was so destabilising I didn’t even feel safe within myself anymore. It’s very traumatic for people to go through and there needs to be more awareness around what it can do to you. Thank you for this episode Lisa and wishing healing for anyone going through this 💛
@Portia620Ай бұрын
They start out with gaslighting small little things just stupid things that you won’t think much of think it’s just a confusion that must be the stabilization part!!
@maryhall1181Ай бұрын
First step. Destabilize the Victim. Victim now turns to Predator for reality, doesn't believe her own feelings and mind. Predator empowered for more control. Evil stuff.
@ak-47intelligence7528 күн бұрын
Same thing happened to me but when I didn't trust my perception of reality, I turned to his friend for guidance. I ended up falling for the friend and he got mad 😂
@TianieMitchell2 ай бұрын
It's hard to know what a person is truly like when they (act) like a nice ,loving person. So important to ask questions and even if you ask questions like I did with one of my husband's people can lie for them, family members, friends because they want them to have something decent and they're thinking the best for that person but they should always be honest this is why dating someone for a while to get to know them as much as possible really matters
@critter_paws2 ай бұрын
The description given in "doormat narcissist turns primary psychopath" was exactly my experience and I was so glad to find it after over 1.5yrs trying to figure out what was going on between us (7yrs together, the only person I was actually in contact with during the last years) reality changed forever when I saw there was not a human in there. Healing looks like too much but I believe and am determined. Hard to say this, glad to have untangled my entire life though. I guess it took ripping my psyche apart and having given up on life thinking I was crazy and not even realizing it had anything to do w him. Panic attacks/emotional flashbacks/consistent terrifying anxiety=the body (subconscious) knows even when you cognitively think they are the kindest and safest person you've ever known
@critter_paws2 ай бұрын
I studied Philosophy officially but also a life long study along with psychology. I gave him so much ammo to manipulate the next person and I hate that from the depths of my soul. Wisdom coming from an empty, manipulative, abusive mask. I wish there was a registry; ran by the right person/group, I would find no ethical problems there.
@moonchild662 ай бұрын
These type of men are insecure hate themselves and have to pick at women to make themselves feel better ..discusting .been there too many times...self love and boundries are so important...we need to stop feeling ashamed ...i resonate 💯💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶and if we heal we can break the cycle...deffo acknowleging our part in this is cycle is so important...thanks guys
@heathermcculloch98932 ай бұрын
Lisa, you are an angel. I love you and your channel so much.
@LisaBilyeu2 ай бұрын
Ahhh thanks so much my homie! 🥰❤️
@dorothywest20532 ай бұрын
Stephanie, you are a blessing.
@LisaBilyeu2 ай бұрын
❤️❤️❤️
@JLTravels2 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing ‘clipping’ ego shock. Wow, narcs do this all the time. Calling out these toxic tactics enlightens all of us!
@mauritaedwards8917Ай бұрын
I'm an EMPATH and have been married 6 times. All of my husbands were NARCISSIST. During therapy, after completing a very detailed worksheet on each husband, then I learned they were all NARCISSIST. I felt so stupid that this had happened to me 6 times. I'm currently 59 years old and doing my best to date again. There are so many men who are playing games, leading with sex and trying to take advantage of me very early in the dating process l. I've learned how to spot them coming now, and I have my power back.
@NatzTalkАй бұрын
I questioned myself more than him as well. I was more willing to work on my "sensitivity" ( to him "youre so EMOTIONAL" ) than holding him accountable and making allowances because exactly I wanted to believe he was the good friend I had made.
@NatzTalkАй бұрын
Ugh. He did this to me a lot 6:43 gas lit me and called me jealous and said ALL WOMEN were the same and That I was like "all women: jealous, argumentative and possessive."
@GGVanilla2 ай бұрын
Brilliant interview and guests, I loved both of their perspectives ❤
@bird24282 ай бұрын
Liza I appreciate you so much in bringing in these valuable people on your show. My husband is a narcissist married for 22 years now. I am leaving in a society but still isolated from everyone because whomever I try to have a relationship as a family he strains those relationships by manipulatively telling either they are toxic or by telling bad things about me to them. Thank you for discovering what we are going through even we are going through these as victims we don't understand but our gut tells us something is wrong from day one.
@FaithfulandTrue949Ай бұрын
"I was so 'fine'" stepford wife style.... oh yes, that rung true! 😢🙏🏻 yes we keep questioning ourselves and try harder instead of questioning them ❤
@sarahjeffriesart2 ай бұрын
Probably one of the most powerful episodes. Chilling.
@MsBrooklyn622 ай бұрын
I had gone through this but saw through the cracks in his mask and took action. I used reverse psychology to get him to leave and got a no-contact order from a Judge so he couldn't come near me for a year. The fight is far from over as I am still married to him but not by choice. North Carolina demands a 1 year and 1 day of separation before I can file for divorce.
@josievaccaro2 ай бұрын
This was such a powerful episode! I'm just so grateful for this platform that Lisa set up. Of course, immense gratitude to her guests and their bravery.
@elizabethcordova95332 ай бұрын
Oh my God. Thank you yes toxic relationship 1 2 and 3. Oh my!!!! This is so good eye opening for me
@gc21372 ай бұрын
What an excellent topic! Really making me think!
@sarahbarnes36052 ай бұрын
It is hard to explain to people whats happening because it can sound so benign. But the comments are insidious. Its crazy how the simple one liners can really hit hard. Rebuke those words. Our words and even thoughts are powerful.
@xino_zАй бұрын
she is way too relatable I feel that pain in her voice oh my God
@yukio_saito10 күн бұрын
My ex-friend looks so charming. But this "nice guy" failed in marriage twice, and his first spouse ran away from home. 🏃♀💨💨🏠
@seochr2 ай бұрын
Omg the goldfish!!! I’m dying Lisa 🤣💀🤣💀
@LisaBilyeu2 ай бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@HoneyJell2 ай бұрын
Triggering, I needed to hear this.
@playlistjunkey23 күн бұрын
Reminds me of the Father that died on the show Brothers & Sisters. Very first episode the Father dies and then all of his "relationships" come out into the open.
@cynthiapuma329919 күн бұрын
I experienced a narcissist at 14 years old. And looking back, I didn’t handle it as bad as it could have been. He always tried to convince me he was someone so great. I always believed “actions over words” even at so young so I just smiled and thought it was kind of cringe bc his history showed different. I didn’t love myself so much at that age but I was always very prideful. I always tried leaving when he treated me like shit and he use to always cry for me back. . Needless to say he affected me a lot more than I realized back then. But I know it always got to him when I didn’t react with his insults. I always called him out for trying to manipulate me. When he tried to make me feel crazy. I told him he was crazy right back. He would laugh at my face and just keep going. He would try to control how I dress too but I stood my ground and told him he’s not my father. Always accused me of cheating and I just said meh. You can leave if you dont believe me (after leaving found out he was always cheating) He’s even tried to make me feel bad bc my parents would buy me expensive things. Tried telling me I would never have all this stuff if it wasn’t for my parents (parents would spoil, and I would neverrrr try rubbing that on anybody’s face) It sounded a lottt like jealousy. The problem was just leaving. Never was in a relationship and in my eyes I was just experiencing being in one. Plus, I had lost my virginity to him. He would shame me about that too. That no one would ever love me. I pretended like I didn’t believe him but deep down I did. He was 4 years older. When he started getting physically abusive is when I finally said I was over it. My parents.. they weren’t the most involved parents. For context I was able to sneak out without them noticing. Thankfully I was able to get rid of him after a year but by then he caused enough damage for me to randomly still remember at 26. Never dated a narcissist again thank God. Bc of that experience my body usually can tell when it doesn’t feel safe around someone. Subtle hints it catches early on. 1. Talks about themselves in an egotistical matter. 2. Tries to isolate you 3. Constantly criticizes women (all red flags to me)
@debralondon24022 ай бұрын
Thank you God for opening up my eyes. Praise God!! 😢
@amyteurlife9408Ай бұрын
They always look for good people bc they are trying to gain status based on being with a good person.
@HaileysSoldier_J4H_LLH2 ай бұрын
I love that when she said, "I'm from Montana", I knew exactly what she was saying... Born in Great Falls, MT.
@bailey3092 ай бұрын
When we tell you that we love you we aren’t lying. You really are the only one… at that moment.
@elipotter3692 ай бұрын
I once read a zodiac description of tbe signs in love & the gemini was: "i really love you you're amazing what was your name again?! Believe in tbe zodiac or not- i had a gemini ex who womanises & tells them all "wow, you're amazing, so special to me" etc. They've no idea it's just his modus operandi for ego strokes.
@elipotter3692 ай бұрын
That's what the Golden bachelor used to excuse himself from telling one woman she was the one & tbe next day telling another he couldn't live without her (that moment)
@kaoshi_kutie2 ай бұрын
Your a Narcissist then?!
@flyandshy002 ай бұрын
He was just searching for someone to take care of his kid wehile he was having all these affairs.
@jfb8552Ай бұрын
If you are honest, caring , trustworthy and have empathy people often trust your partner because they like you they can appear better people just by association
@sherrishunk21282 ай бұрын
I wish I would not pull away from other family and friends.
@AffectionateSeaOtterАй бұрын
I LOVED this episode Lisa. Hit a lot of bull's eyes 🎯 ❤️ Love Dr Keith ... He is fabulous!