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I agree. Aaliyah was robbed of accountability from Lydia in the reunion. Yes I applaud Milton for his maturity and conviction to stand beside who he chose as his wife. But the way he stood up for Lydia, simulatiously dismissing Aaliyah was not cool. Aaliyah asked hard questions but was always respectful. The way Nick lachey led Lydia out of her answer to move on, also dismissing Aaliyah was not cool either. Aaliyah deserved better.

To me what made Aaliyah start to lose trust was the fact that Uche "omitted" to disclose that he'd slept with Lydia only three months ago and made it sound like some distant thing.

I think you missed talking about how Uche downplayed his relationship with Lydia and it wasn’t until Aaliyah told him she knew that he had recently slept with Lydia - that his whole posture changed. Literally went from relaxing on the couch and gaslighting her to sitting up and trying to control the narrative.

Your analysis of how Aaliyah was treated at the reunion was how I felt. I really didn’t like how Vanessa said “well you know Aaliyah at the end of the day everything happened the way it should have.” All I could think was Nooo if Lydia and Uche were told to be honest EVERYONE would’ve had an even playing field! 🤦🏽‍♀️

Today I finally heard it: "What's Anya Mind??" That's clever. Only took me two years. 😂

Aaliyahs LIB experience was cut short because of Lydia BUT if anything Lydia did her a favour. It was a blessing in disguise. Even if they ended up married it would not have been a happy healthy marriage.

After this season, I have no interest in Love is Blind at all.

I agree with you about Uche's intentions at the party. He seemed desperate to stir up trouble and thought Milton could be easily swayed but Milton stood by his woman. Milton is the most mature to me and yet the youngest of the group.

Aliyah later revealed that she lost trust in Uche when he said he casually dated Lydia for a few weeks, and Lydia said something like 2 years. I totally understand why Aaliyah bolted. In a normal situation, you could process through the situation with friends, family, or your therapist. Aaliyah (in the pod) was isolated from her support system and her closest connections in the pod (Uche, Lydia, producers) lied to her and were the source of her turmoil. I believe Aaliyah was unraveling and needed to stablize herself.

They need an entire revamping on this show. The producers, the contracts, the casting, everything but the location and premise.

Okay thank you for touching on Aliyah’s response to the cheating. I feel like Uche was so out of line in the way he handled the situation, and Aliyah was not ready to take accountability for cheating in the past.

Uche has been addressing the cheating on Lydia allegations on his IG, he specifically says "No Lydia and I were never together. We dated for a short time and were both seeing other people. In casting we were asked to disclose who our most recent relationships were with. If she believed we were in one, she would have disclosed my name or photo and the producers would not have allowed both of us on the show." So idk I think i think there is some truth to both sides. If Uche is crying over how he doesn't want to hurt Lydia on the show and acts so strongly towards her, then how can he claim they were NEVER together? Perhaps a situationship but why would you call someone your ex if you aren't in any type of relationship? It just doesn't add up the way he keeps tabs on her during and after the show. Aaliyah dodged a huge bullet, that man is full of something not good!

Uche not speaking bad about Lydia at first is not weird to me. He tried to keep it cute until he had to say what his problem with her was. Both things are probably true. People are layered and if you're experiencing someone on anything other than surface level, you can speak to all sides of their personality and your experiences with them. And I think the producers need to stop producing so much. They're ruining a good show with all these theatrics.

Did anyone notice how they actually had food and other normal drinks this season? Their lawsuit had them make major changes. People didn’t act so drunk in their living quarters and actually communicated. They seemed like they were in better moods while dating.

I feel like by Uche saying “is this fate?” Made her think that he initiated it

That party solidified that the show has become desperate for drama. These irrelevant non-engaged people added zero value

Lydia gives me the creeps. I think she fell hard for Uche and he had no idea this was happening, it’s clear that the relationship didn’t mean anything to him. Just like when Lydia fell for Izzy and thought they had something special, when actually, Izzy’s body language and communication was saying exactly the opposite, he was clearly not into her during their dates. And Lydia’s inability to read Aaliyah’s body language to show that she was extremely uncomfortable with her during the word-vomit scene is concerning.

Uche and Lydia had a (relatively) long term situationship and I wish they'd admit that. They probably was doing all the things couples do (so Lydia attaches) but TECHNICALLY never made it exclusive (so Uche has an excuse). Its been my hypothesis since the jump because it would make both parties opinions quite valid. Lydia is right to emotionally feel like it was cheating but maybe be sure hes 100% your partner. And Uche knows what playing house can do but wanted an out/excuse for his behavior outside of Lydia

I didn’t watch this season because I heard it was extra toxic, but you bet I am watching every video in this series 😂

Im just glad that Lydia told about their hook up few months before, because Uche made it look like it was just few weeks relationship from two years ago. When in fact they were in and off for that whole time

I must say that i am sooo happy that i found your channel and videos breaking down the relationship dynamics on Love is Blind and other series. It makes me feel like im discussing the show with a close friend because you catch every minute detail that im thinking about when watching the show lol.

Lydia did Aaliyah a huuuuuge favor. You won't say it, but I will. He's a narcissist. Having spent 4 years with a diagnosed narcissist, Uche checks every box. The manipulation, building an image of how he wants to be portrayed, the callous, self centered, hurtful way he minimizes and dismisses other people's feelings, how he's emotionally hurtful on purpose, his life story with 15 different versions depending on which 1 would give him the most sympathy at the moment, the gaslighting, his completely bland robotic nature which only gets excited when angry, spreading rumors and trying to use everyone to gang up on someone he's angry at. Yea, you can't say it, but I will. Uche is a narcissist. Which would also explain at least in part how Lydia found herself in therapy after their breakup. Being with a narcissist can do a number on your mental health. Aaliyah dodged a huuuuge bullet.

Full circle moment! I used to watch your videos during the lunch breaks of a job I hated. It was the best 30min escape. Now I’m watching in between reading for my MFT Grad School courses! Thanks for being the most amazing inspo ❤😊

can’t wait to see your video on Izzy & Stacy next!!

There should definitely be new hosts for the reunion because the cast never gets the hard hitting questions and avoid accountability.

I absolutely love your content but this theme song? EATS everytime. I walk away from a video still singing this around the house😭🔥

Where was Uche even going with that "Is this fate?". I can understand why am emotional person like Lydia would think that means hes considering starting over.

Uche didn’t find her attractive?? 😶😶😶 he’s trippin’

Sometimes I feel its hard to judge the situation with Uche and Aaliyah because its so all over the place, specifically between Lydia and Uche. I feel we don't hear enough from Lydia about the nature of her and Uche's relationship, and her feelings about him, aside from when she dumps on Aaliyah about all the random personal details. I want Lydia to elaborate on the whole "start from ground zero" thing with Uche when they first met in the pods. It could have been editing, but it seemed she was willing to pursue the relationship with Uche again, at least at that moment! Either way, pretty unfair to Aaliyah overall, even if she didn't handle everything perfectly. Weird situation overall! Weirdest of the season.

Steph, can you cover the Brazilian version of Love is blind? Season 3, please! :) I’m Brazilian and It would be interesting to see your perspective on relationships in another culture. As someone that have watched the US version and the Brazilian one, I can say the couple’s dynamic are different.

I think Lydia had something to do with uche and Aliyah not working BUT I don’t believe uche wanted to be with Aliyah after meeting up and the party/bbq was after their meet up. He acted outright childish and it wasn’t all the way because his relationship with Aliyah didn’t work out. He was seeing Aliyah at the time. He disrespected many people and acted like like an egotistical ** and let me say Aliyah is BEAUTIFUL

Honestly unpopular opinion, but Lydia did aaliyah a favor .... imagine if Lydia never told aaliyah anything. Aaliyah would e went through this whole experience with a man like Uxhe, (who didnt even find her his type) and Uche would've STILL chased Lydia, making aaliyah more uncomfortable....

I agree with you. I also interpreted the Uche/Lydia pod date as Lydia being the one very interested. Even though Uche said something along the lines of “maybe this is fate”, I didn’t take it as interest in Lydia. Maybe he meant it as fate to decline 🤣 lol jk I think that was just a polite thing to say with someone you’re not interested in anymore but don’t know what to say to them

It definitely seemed like Lydia was trying to save face by making it seem like she was the one that decided not to pursue Uche in the pods. I think it was a pride thing, but also reassuring Aaliyah and Milton that she's over that situation. I don't personally think she was. As for Uche. He said either on IG or in an interview that his words were edited when they met after the pods. They agreed to continue dating at that point.

Thank you! Someone else noticed that Lydia did in fact lie about uche saying they should start over. I think everyone was quick to make uche the villain but they didn’t see the red flags from Lydia either.

I am so *glad* to finally see someone talking about the actual content of what Aaliyah said, of course a lot of people do not displaying understanding of nuance online and needed a villian and a hero, but what Aaliyah was saying, even a more reasonable person would have been taken aback! Thank you for your insight as always

Does anyone else think that Uche was acting like he didn’t recognize Lydia’s voice when he totally did🫠🙄 They both knew that each other would be there, 100%

I’m so excited to watch! I love the longer videos and I’ve been sharing little clips of these with my family ❤ love you

I was not at all surprised Uche was the villain, I immediately knew from his cadence something was extremely off. Then the bomb went: talked well about others, recanted with vicious insults, then took it back. Manipulating others with malicious intent of ruining their images, we all saw it. He tried very hard to salvage any favorable self image but 🌚 My brother does the same thing. No diagnosis but we all know what we saw. Crocodile tears and calculated manipulation. Not at all surprised, these people are scary to be around, they will say ANYTHING to be sympathized with. Probably why Uche still reached out to Milton even thought it was clear they were not friendly at all.. damage control on his image. Made perfect sense to me why Aliyah left as she had that weirdo and Lydia both on her 🤷‍♀️

This is what I’ve been waiting for!!

Been waiting for this one!!!

Great and thorough breakdown as usual🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 A lot of things spoke to me in this video! Both to things I need to improve about myself and things that I'm doing right!

I've been waiting for this queen!!!

I have been waitingggg on your breakdown of these two since I started watching this season!! So hard to watch

thank you so much for sharing your perspectives and voice ! earlier today i found you in some videos on healthline and was genuinely hoping you would make more content and thankfully found your channel! im so glad, thank you for dedicating your time, thought and effort into these videos and others.

So interesting to hear your analysis! Thanks for sharing

I love your videos! They help So much to understand dynamics in general. I wonder.. Has anyone from the Show ever commented on his own analysis that you did? Like getting things right, acknowledgement or hate?

Ooooooooooh the one we’ve all been waiting for! Can’t wait to hear what you have to say!

I love your eloquence. ❤ I'm over here googling words I don't know. Very educational video on so many levels. Lol. Thank you! ❤

I've been WAITING for this!

Honestly so happy for you for having sponsors. Go girl, get that money and do what you love!!!

Love the longer videos!

Yes was about to say they continued to date even tho the show played it differently. Hated this season and Uche is textbook def narcissist! Milton killed it 🔥

Please break down Love is Blind Brazil! It would be a great opportunity to see cultural differences too. The first season has people who are 30+ years old, it would be amazing to see your analysis

Uche stated that he and Lydia never officially dated so there is no way he could’ve cheated, I think that he did sleep with someone else but because there wasn’t a title, he didn’t see it as cheating.

Lydia seems to misread a lot of situations so I believe she genuinely thought Uche was serious about starting over, since he brought up “this being fate”. It seems like he only said he didn’t want to move forward because of optics (just like he didn’t say anything bad about Lydia cause he didn’t want to seem like a guy who talks crap about his ex).

love your channel! the editing, thumbnail, everything is on point❤❤🎉 so much work to do that. one can tell

Great assessment! You were absolutely fair👏🏾

Thank you for sensing that I needed this video today ❤

you hit the nail on the head with your analysis! love your channel!

When I was 19 I kissed somebody else and my boyfriend was emotionally devastated. I told him right away because I thought nothing of it and chalked it up to a drunken night out with a girl - he did not see it that way and he did not care what gender the person was. when I saw his face at that momen I wanted to die I never knew I was capable of causing someone that much pain- I’d never done anything so bad that I truly didn’t even think would “count” seeing someone you love in pure agony and knowing it was your fault is a guilt beyond all description - you have no desire to have anything good. I went on to allow people to hurt me or belittle me and looking back something in my head must have felt like I owed a karmaic debt. Like I need to go through this because of what I did to someone else. All that to say Uch has no right to say his infidelity at any age in any way is somehow more acceptable than anyone else’s

Uche to Aliyah: you're a recent cheater. Also Uche: Cheated a few months ago 😐🤨🧐

A great video as always!❤

Uche is egotistical, narcissistic, and all around comes across as being shady and a terrible person. When Lydia started telling Aliya all those things about Uche, it genuinely just seemed like RELIEF. Like, when you've been keeping this big secret and bottling it up and then finally it comes to light, you're so relieved that you just let it all out because you've had to hold it in for so long. I'm not saying it was right to tell her things she didn't want to know, but I don't think there was ulterior motive behind it, it was just relief to finally be allowed to be honest.

I like all these videos before watching bc I LOVE them😂❤

Your pose/expression in the thumbnail perfectly encapsulates this whole season … oy!

Babe your videos are so slay

Anya this was so great! You really pointed out some great things and managed to humanise Uche - I can see that he was coming from a hurt place and just trying to control his narrative. As for the manipulation and gaslighting - well he is a lawyer

Nothing to do with the video but your makeup is always amazing 😍💛🧡

Love your content

First of all i need to qualify what I’m about to say with, i absolutely love,love,love your content! I think you do an amazing job of breaking down things that are easy to understand and give us insight on how to even apply it to our own life. ( i had my husband listen to your point on apologizing and he thought it made sense too so we both benefited from it!) that said i want to nudge a little bit not necessarily push back but nudge on the over sharing part because as a Puerto Rican women, i think some of how Lydia acted came from her cultural upbringing. Not saying it was right but more a faux pas on her part. If i remember correctly Lydia has been in the states less than 3 years so she’s coming from a different cultural society, where some of the things she did came from her norm in culture as suppose to malice. Now im not saying all of it was innocent but i don’t think all of it was malice either. I’ve been in Tx for over 30 years but i remember when i got here it was definitely an adjustment for me. How people spoke and responded to different things. Hence cultural shock. When i first got to Tx, people had the southern niceties thing going on and when ever i would go into a store people would say hi how are you? And i would respond but as i entered my 15th store i was asked it again and when i left the store i was so annoyed that someone asked me again that i finally asked my husband. Why the heck do people keep asking me how I’m doing?! Do i look like something is wrong with me?! Do i look sick?! And my husband was like no that’s kinda how they greet you it’s not that something is wrong with you 😂and then i got it! But it wasn’t until i was explained that that it became clear to me because in Puerto Rico as good manners you say good, morning, good afternoon, good evening as a greeting. So i can understand why you would look at it and have the opinion that you have. But i kind of try to give her the benefit of the doubt. Knowing the things that i know. I felt the need to say this because a lot of the times watching shows like this we miss that component of cultural differences. I’ve been guilty too. When i watch 90 day fiancé and shows like that, that bring people in from different cultures. Again i see bad behavior in Lydia I’m not excusing her one bit. But i don’t see her as a bad person more like someone that still has some growing and self loving to do. This is all imho. Again love what you do and i feel you’re so good at what you do. God bless.

I don't know if you'll read this but I was hoping maybe you could break down Single's Inferno? It's a Korean dating show (with subtitles) and the drama in it is interesting to say the least. Love your videos btw ❤❤

It’s so crazy…the MOMENT he opened his mouth for the first time in the pods, I HATED him. I remember telling my boyfriend that he reminded me of my ex. They look nothing alike but it’s their persona…there’s something similar about their personalities and the more he talked, the more I KNEW he was garbage.

About the casting call both Lydia and Uche saw. Let's assume they were kind of dating at that time. Or at least Lydia thought that and Uche made her feel that way but was not sure or willing to fully commit to their relationship. No one would ever tell the other they applied for the show. There was no reason. My husband and I watch the Show and another one where people get married just based on facts without knowing each other. We also saw the casting call for those and he asked me if I would apply for such a show. I said yes. He wouldn't. That's it. People talk about that to get an idea how the other person thinks. And if things ended up dirty between those two why should they tell the other they applied for the show. I wouldn't. And even if they applied and knew... They would probably not know if the application process was successful for the both of them. So I don't really get all the fuss.

Irrelevant but your makeup is so good love how it compliments your face.

I love this series of break downs, I would love it if you broke down scandal

Uche in a Q & A video said he never broke up with Aliyah when they met at the restaurant. He said they kissed and agreed to date outside the pods and Aliyah verified this on a podcast episode she did with ‘the beys tv’ and both of their reasons why production manipulated that particular scene was because they were offered the opportunity to return the show and get engaged and continue the process like Zack and bliss did and they refused.

I love your pink nails it suits you so much. I just did mine pink I was so inspired.

41:57 i think they only didn't make this kind of party in first season (they had enough drama with Jessica 😅) but on second season there was a beach party, where i remember Shana came (she was broken uo with Kyle already), and some other people from pods too. In third season there was a party where Nancy was talking to that guy who fake cried after their break up and in fourth there was a birthday of Chelsea where also people from pods came that lady who was with Paul before, and of course the guy Jackie went for later (i forgot so many names! 😂). They do it to stir the drama in between people who got engaged and the ones they dated in the pods.

Every time you say *spoiler alert* I'm like *no ma'am, you're late* 😂😂 BUT I really appreciate your perspective 💯❤❤

I know this isn’t related to this video, but I would love to see a breakdown of the impact ATL episode when Ari sat down with her father. Love your videos btw! 💕

This was both of their worst nightmares. Home girl should have never met him at the restaurant. Manipulation and ebrace the guilt is not a cup of tea I will ever sip on and show my Teens this is how you see red flags!! # hotttttmeeessss

You know what I don’t understand- why are people acting like Lydia got on the show just for Uche… HOW is that even possible? Just because she applied doesn’t mean she automatically gets to be on the show so why is everyone acting like even IF that was her intention that’s the reason she got on the show?

Uche spoke out and said that the meet up scene at the dinner between him and Aaliyah was edited where he’s not in the frame when he says “it’s over”, Uche said that during the meet up they agreed to date

I had the same thoughts about that ending. Alayah didn’t have fair chance of finding someone, as others had

The thumbnail is great.

I really appreciate you covering this video. Based on Aaliyah and Lydia's friendships, I don't think Aaliyah and Uche would have gotten along even outside of the show; Aaliyah and Lydia’s bond was too strong for her to not feel betrayed by her ignorance of their past relationship.

Your hashtag scared me 😭😭😭😭✋🏻

@Steph, would you talk about the escalating behaviors that have been shown on LIB that has culminated w two lawsuits- one on SA and one on neglect from the production company? I have been horrified w what they've shown- so I can only imagine why the two couples were cut this season (although I watched Renee's interview on Natalie and Deepti's podcast, and have read things from the legal aspect of the SA allegations).

I believe that Uche did cheat on Lydia. However I also don’t think that the relationship was long term or as serious for Uche as it was for Lydia. Once again, with the way Uche reacted to Aaliyah’s cheating revelation, Uche did not want to admit that he had done the same thing recently as well. He is very concerned with how he appears to others and the way people view him and strongly holds on to things that he believes will give him the moral high ground. Uche is very focused on being seen as a “good guy” & when people don’t buy into that, like Miriam, he lashes out and demeans others to make them seem like they are not as good, trustworthy or moral as him.

Please do a review on love island moments! I need to see what u think about some of this madness

Just found you and LOVE your content! Would be interested in seeing you take a look at the 3 seasons of the ultimatum

You forgot to talk about how he never told Aaliyah, he slept with Lydia just 3 months ago …. He was actually shock when he realize Lydia told Aaliyah the truth

The parties with everyone from the pods happen almost every season 😅 it’s just so people can meet everyone else face to face and maybe start some trouble. Remember when Shayne and Shaina fought about Natalie at the beach and when Nancy talked to the guy with the eye drops about bartise. Those were moments at these parties with non-engaged people in the pods. It’s just so the cast can see who all they were dating for those 10 days and talk about their relationships.

Finally you said well. Every time I said to people I couldn't do this show people look at me as the most closed minded person ever. You said well every one I dated that I felt attracted to could all fit in a similar category. I defo have a specific type they could literally be related 🤔

Lydia asked Uochi, "are you going to be okay if I find someone?" And it happened! I'm sure this why Uochi got pissed. She sabotaged his relationship with Aayliah

This was the absolute worse Ulche and Lydia played mind games and was not held accountable…these shows allow to much room for toxic boarder line verbal and emotional abuse for the sake of drama and entertainment then within the sanctity of marriage. I am with everyone else this last season completely turned me off it’s been getting worse and worse

I truly respect your analysis! %$#itch knows her shit!!!!!

Saying Lydia is the direct influence for Uche and Aaliyah to breakup is just crazy. Adults have full faculty to make decisions on their own. All Aaliyah had to do was to let go of what Lydia said. Further those two did date and Uche told Izzy that he isn’t attracted to her. As much as I sympathize with Aaliyah, she should have stayed at the exp if she thought Uche was worth her time. She clearly felt both are shady and that’s why she left. And seeing what we saw it was a good call