1. Thought Defusion 2. Self as context 3. Acceptance 4. Presence 5. Values 6. Committed actions (in accordance to our values not away from fear)

"You don't have to get rid of your emotions to live in accordance with your values." Probably the best explanation of "you are not your emotions" I have heard. Pearls of wisdom jam-packed into 25 minutes or so.

Thought Diffusion: Concept: Observing and detaching from thoughts rather than getting caught up in their content. Application: Differentiating between thoughts and actions, particularly in areas like weight loss and business. Example: Choosing not to eat despite feeling hungry or wanting to eat, and facing situations where tempting food is present. Technique: Visualizing thoughts as fish in a pond, identifying the unproductive ones, and discarding them. Emphasis: Separating oneself from thoughts and emotions, using language to gain control over them. Self as Context: Concept: Avoiding over-attachment to self-created identities and stories. Application: Acting contrary to one’s usual self-perceptions in various situations. Example: Acting unanxious despite feeling anxious, breaking the identity of being an anxious person. Emphasis: Realizing that thoughts and emotions are separate from the self, allowing for action despite discomfort. Acceptance: Concept: Developing a new relationship with thoughts and emotions, accepting them rather than rejecting or avoiding. Application: Embracing discomfort and anxiety as part of experience. Example: Dealing with anxiety attacks by accepting and staying in the situation, rather than fleeing. Emphasis: Accepting negative emotions can often help dissipate them, likened to escaping quicksand by staying still. Presence: Concept: Staying in the present moment, avoiding dwelling on past or future. Application: Using activities like walking or meditation to observe surroundings and thoughts. Example: Changing routines regularly to avoid becoming overly reliant on them for stress management. Emphasis: Being present allows for observation rather than getting engulfed by thoughts. Values: Concept: Defining personal values to guide decisions and actions. Application: Identifying values from admired individuals or personal qualities. Example: Narrowing down to three key values for easier daily application. Emphasis: Values act as filters for making decisions aligned with personal goals and desires. Committed Action: Concept: Taking actions that align with personal values, not out of fear or avoidance. Application: Incorporating new habits into existing routines, substituting behaviors, and planning for imperfections. Example: Linking a new habit (like taking vitamins) with an established routine (like brushing teeth). Emphasis: Acknowledging that change is a process, and not expecting perfection. Action is essential for learning and progress.

how is someone so wise and it’s so humble and kind to share this knowledge with everyone. I feel lucky to know her and be able to listen to her every time I need it.

I am not the type that is leaving comments under youtube videos. But this was soooo good. I am amazed of how you put out and verbalise the knowledge and wisdom in such an awesome way. Thank you Leila, this was brilliant. I am going to rewatch it right now, I want to absorb the awesomeness hhhah.

My brain has been binge-eating Alex's podcast, and I was like "Alex is a genius! Alex is a genius!" then I listened to Alex and Leila on the Bigger Pockets podcast and was like "Leila is a genius! Leila is a genius!" Leila and Alex produce insane quality *and* insane quantity - hard work pays off. Thank you Leila!

You’re an amazing teacher and therapist Leila! You’re my virtual coach. Thank you so much for all the valuable free content you share. Onward and upward. ♥️🌹

Wow Leila. You have a gift for articulating really complex concepts in a way that are not only easy to understand, but highly accessible and actionable. Thank you for taking the time to think through this video and sharing. ❤

I have watched hrs of videos, and from the bottom of my heart this 25 minute video is the one that has impacted me the most. She is dropping gems, and I thank her !

Life-changing: "Georgia" and "[y'all] can hang out in my purse". Thank you!!!

I have been suffering from extreme panic disorder, but I am turning the corner. The principles in this video are going to help me achieve my goal of living a great life without being paralyzed by fear, aka negative thoughts and emotions. I'm still figuring it out, but this helped a TON. Thank you, Leila! ❤

I just want to take a moment to thank you for everything you do to help others.

Thought diffusion was HILAROUS, I will adopt Georgia🙈

Leila- you've posted an increasing variety of topics, and they're all are pretty valuable. This video, I must say, is one of my favorites! After taking a lot of notes for me to personally implement, I've forwarded it to my (grown) kids, and posted it in my therapy group (I'm a hypnotherapist, we talk about a lot of topics in our group, and your video hits on a lot of Really Important life coping/ life management skills, both in general, and as it pertains to mental health/mental fitness.) 'Very empowering ideas & strategies. Thanks for this very thoughtful video!

Thanks for this video Leila! Currently 19 yrs old and trying to unlearn old beliefs and make it easier for myself to win everyday. Amazing vid 100%

1) I LOVE your content. 2) I’m so impressed that you’ve been able to come to these conclusions so young. I’m in my 40’s and just now beginning to understand that I can have negative emotions and anxiety and allow space for it with out trying to expell it or give it too much attention.

I’ll go do it now, I don’t wanna waste another valuable advice like I did all these years watching and doing nothing. Thank you ❤

This is a mindset masterclass. Thank you!

Some disclosure,I have a psychology background and am autistic. This is a great mindset for some people and covers a lot of techniques used in third wave psychotherapies. I do however think it lacks nuance (something almost all self-help suffers from)and takes a ‘toxically positive’ stance to personal development. We need to remember that a person’s values and goals do not precede their physical reality and sometimes,the former needs to be adjusted,so that it is more sustainable. It’s easy to say that you can manage yourself despite your feelings or practice cognitive diffusion but at what point does it become gaslighting yourself or lead to burnout? The answer will be different for everyone depending on their resources and goals.

This is the best self help channel on KZfaq. Patreon worthy content. Thank you

I like the fish in the pond, and it reminds me of some basic mindfulness and meditiation techniques. Being the observer, realizing that you are not your thoughts or emotions, and choosing to just let thoughts go by like cars passing on a road rather than reacting. I don't know if the idea here came from meditation or mindfulness practice, but it's powerful.

You are not only hardworking but also very wise…. Truly impressive

It looks like you're in your zone! You've mentioned that videos where you're talking to the camera, you are not your sweet spot. Your energy and excitement in this video are palpable. It's great.

Your videos literally change my life / the way I view things thank you

So many hidden gems in this video. WOW. I'm definitely in need of an identity shift. I didn't realize what my thoughts were dictating me to do, and what that really meant for my health and well being. You give the best advice, and I LOVE the way you teach. This video was so helpful.

Thank you so much for your content Leila, I really admire your mindset and it's helping me a lot these days, specially with uni, work and my personal projects, things get really messy in my mind

This was really helpful for me. Thank you for sharing this.

The example on how to figure out your values is so helpful! I recently realized that was one of the things I was missing therefore keeping me in confused state. I already started getting clarity just thinking about it. Thank you!!

Absolutely outstanding! I needed a reminder of these mindset strategies. Have a great day all ✨🙌☺️

Leila, thank you for sharing your vetted wisdom. I am so grateful to you and others who attain genuine, comprehensive success and share your knowledge. I lost my resilience during the pandemic but now telling myself that story continues to make it true. Life is challenging but talking about good tools and getting back to action is invaluable. 💜

Wow these older pictures are really transformative, and it's great that you allow yourself to have other people see these vulnerable/insecure parts of your life as a way to help us. Was subbed to Alex for a couple months now, also subbed to you today.

Thank you for posting this! Honestly, the timing of this video is PERFECT! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!!

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is so powerful! Thanks Leila for sharing these tools!

I needed this video today 🙏 thank you. I especially liked the recommendation to put your feelings in a purse and just carry them along.

Acknowledge that your thoughts & feelings aren’t you. Separate yourself. Change how you talk ab your feelings 7:24 flexibility > rigidity 7:44 avoidance enhances fear 6 Tools to go to flexible > rigid 1. Thought diffusion 2. Self as context - not being overly attached to an indenting of yourself 3. Acceptance 4. Presence 5. Values 6. Commited action

Love this video! A lot of this reminds me of my favorite book, “the Untethered Soul” and I’ll forever recommend this book to anyone and everyone ❤️

This is also good advise for people having anxiety. Because people with bad anxiety always look for something to do about it while the thing that solves it is. Notice it welcome it and go on with what you where doing.

This is a really intersting video with some very interestin tips I've never heard before. The idea of dissasociating from your thoughts and emotions and observing them almost as a third party is fascinating. I've never even thought about this. Even just sitting in this chair I'm now think about how my body feels and why I'm suddenly feeling inspired. I'm going to try to practice this all day tomorrow and see how it feels. Also I love your quicksand analogy, it makes so my sense to me. I feel like I unlocked a new level of consciousness just by watching this video. I'm using a part of my brain that I've never used before. I'm observing myself existing, instead of just existing. Fascinating.

It's crazy how your experience distills so many different schools and practices, thanks a lot for sharing it with the world

This is by far your best video

This is a rare content to find these days. A beautiful human discussing everyday human issues with such clarity and authenticity. Leila, thank you for sharing your insights and connecting with us on a deeper level.

This was such a good video. I need to listen to this multiple times as it really resonated with me.

Omg I’m a BCBA and study ACT therapy! It’s amazing and SO cool that my favorite person is talking about it!!

Leila you are honestly so cool. These 25 minutes were very helpful. And you mad beautiful too. Thank you!!!

She is so successful in so many ways such a great business woman no other woman puts out such good content then this lady one of the best for sure

This video is so helpful! Specially for overthinking personality’s like mine :D Thank you for sharing !!

Leila never stop making these❤

LADY!! You are PHENOMENAL.

Congratulations Laila. You have mastered your own thoughts. Keep on evolving and stay true to you. You and your team have unlocked expansion and abundance mindset in me. Keep going. I will.

Thank you for your advice, especially the first one; it was really helpful. Love your content it easy to implement.

Thanks Leila for your constructive actionable steps' advice

I see in the future this will be as well reminded as the brian tracy videos. This is just too valuable

You are the golden ticket and I love your examples you give which really helps me understand the meaning of what you are saying!! 😅Thank you, thank you!!❤❤ From Portage, MI. And my routines used to own me, if I just work out, if I just do this etc. 😊

Wow I will be coming back to this. More people need to watch this.

You're speaking almost word for word Albert Ellis. People, REBT will change your life. Be your own therapist. Look it up.

100% agree. I'm trying to do this with all things in my life. 🙌

So well spoken with valuable and FREE information ❤

Omg this is amazing. Helping men and women go deeper

This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen someone talk about. Thank you Leila for your way explaining these concepts in such an easy to understand manner. I’m definitely going to be using this in my day to day from now on

Feels like Abraham Hicks teachings. Thanks for giving this airtime!

Framing "not feeling like it but doing it anyway" as a skillset now gives me joy about it. To improve it. Thanks Leila 😊

“I can eat in accordance with my goals rather then accordance with my thoughts “ ❤

Thank you Leila, I really appreciate how you share so much and break things down!

Leila you’re the best! I get a lot from yr content

This woman is incredible!!!!

This landed in my feed at exactly the right time. More content like this please!

I love how people say our generation is screwed when there are people spreading wisdom on the internet FOR FREE LIKE THIS ✨✨💪💪💪 you rock!!!

16:52 routines 22:32 change is not linear & road bumps

Oh my god this is gold. I just wanna let you know that I appreciate all the knowledge that u've shared with us. Thank you so much! This one really hits close to home. ❤

That’s so helpful, thanks Leila. Also, you look stunning 🤩

Best video ever! ❤ I'm taking action today.

Love the realness. I love the way you have expressed your ideas in this video

I like this your logic Leila, I can see this working, cheers.

I rarely comment. This video is some good work. You cannot have issues with Georgia when you're creating good content.

This is such good Info ! Thanks Leila !

Thought diffusion: This is the ability to observe your thoughts without getting caught up in them. You can practice this by seeking out situations where you are tempted to eat unhealthy foods or by labeling your thoughts as "fish in a pond." Language: The way you talk to yourself can have a big impact on how you feel. Try to use language that is empowering and positive, rather than language that is negative and self-defeating. Self as context: This is the idea that you are not your thoughts or emotions. You are the observer of your thoughts and emotions. You can choose to act in accordance with your values, even if it is uncomfortable. Holding space for your thoughts and emotions: This means allowing yourself to feel your thoughts and emotions without judgment. You can do this by imagining that you are carrying your thoughts and emotions in a purse. Being present: This means being aware of the present moment and not dwelling on the past or the future. You can practice this by going on walks and observing your surroundings. Taking committed action: This is the most important step in making change. It is important to take action, even if it is imperfect.

Thank you Leila for such powerful words.🎉 This is an incredible video and powerful to my soul. ❤ You are an inspiration to many.

This video was sooo good! So helpful, thank you!!🫶

Thank you Leila, what an incredible masterclass! Concise, pragmatic, insightful and real! Deeply appreciated, you're amazing, thanks for sharing your vulnerability, wisdom, and power with us. I feel that implementing even just a fraction of these tools would be a massive unlock for me. Off i go! Thx coach 💪🏻

Leila I love your videos and content! Thank youuuu

19:20 the people I admire most in life are you and Alex. Thank you so much for putting out all this highly valuable content ❤

I’m going to re-watch this so many times. I hear you Leila. Thank you.

Thank you for sharing "quite the elaborate story" with us. As soon as you said, "And then I'm gonna be HOMELESS," I cracked up, as in "That's exactly what I do!" Now, I need to decide what I'm gonna name my brain.

🧨💥YOU ARE AWESOME! THIS IS THE CHANNEL I NEEDED TO KICK MY ASS BACK INTO THE RIGHT POSITIVE MINDSET. I HAVE MADE MILLIONS ONLINE BUT HAVE BEEN IN A NEGATIVE MINDSET THAT I COULDN'T GET OUT OF BUT YOUR VIDEOS HAVE SWITCHED ME BACK TO MY NATURAL DRIVEN POSITIVE MINDSET! THANKYOU SOO MUCH! 😊🎉

Love this lady! And hubby rocks too! Scientologists? High level observations, awareness and communication skills, etc...

"Georgia is starting to mess" 😆 You have no idea how much this helps me.

Thank you Leila ❤

Absolutely fantabulous advice. I'll be rewatching and soaking it in multiple times. Thanks, Leila. You and your husband are such a blessing to everyone with the desire to better themselves.

1:29, 7:46 never be avoidant, just have discipline and intolerance with your plan/goals (learned that with dn). You shouldn’t have to avoid in order to stick to your virtues/plan/principles, stick to them out of discipline. Be presented with a decision and make the right choice, it’s not truly discipline (discipline that will last) if you don’t have a choice (like Adam and Eve in the garden, it’s not really love if they don’t have free will to choose) 4:46, 5:31, 7:20, 9:33|9:45, 10:27, 11:06 you are not your thoughts, you are your actions, hold your thoughts captive to the actions you have to do. You are not a slave to your thoughts/feelings they are a slave to your actions. Only the thoughts/feelings that lead to positive actions are entertained, the rest are laughed at or told they aren’t who you are and who you’ve proved yourself to be. 14:24 pain is inevitable, suffering is a choice 22:26 you will fail, don’t let the momentum build in the other direction. Don’t say, we’ll I failed and had a donut, I might as well have the box.

Very helpful process. Thanks for sharing this valuable content.

I always say to myself "Life is Easy, People make it Hard... don't be one of those people." Then I do whatever I have to do to GSD! Regardless of how I feel. ❤

You could be one of the greatest high-performance coaches in the world. You should start writing a book on personal effectiveness! I have learned more in this video than I have learned in thick self-help books. Your strength is in directiveness and a no-nonsense mentality.

i laughed my ass off at you calling your brain Georgia , ‘Georgia is at it again starting something’, what a great technique! Really loved this video, you distilled so many concepts into such s short space of time. I’ll definitely be re-watching it to take notes!

You’re the best I love watching you! ❤

Amazing video, rewatched it several times already. #1 is really important, you have to set boundaries and stick to your values.

leila, this is gonna change everything. wow. thanks for this video. i leveled up 100x just by watching this vid alone

One of the best videos I’ve ever watched

🥰 we love you Leila ❤️

Great Video Leila Thanks for sharing your experiences and stories. Sabri Suby calls Georgia Inner B… 😂 I thought about Seneca: We suffer more often in imagination than in reality Keep up the great Videos 🚀

This is absolute gold. Saving this to my success playlist but more importantly putting these techniques to work starting today.