Thanks for being open about your increased anxiety at this time. Everyone i ask around me tells me they are doing great or fine and I have felt alone in my increase in mental health issues. Even though I am sorry your anxiety has increased, it lets me know I am not alone.

Your message was definately not waffle. You are very insightful on the human condition. I hadn't appreciated that you found change a real challenge. I am fairly new to your channel but you seem to have coped with enormous changes in your life and still been able to provide thoughtful advice to others. I hope you and your partner keep well. I look forward to your next post. p.s. I have subscribed now ☺

Definitely feel this! It took me a couple of weeks to retune and change my routine to fit the difficulties. Love your stories and your channel, thanks for all you do!

I understand about sudden changes. Over the last month and a half or so I have begun experiencing what my doctors are calling moderate to severe anxiety attacks. I’ve never had them before and we can only come up with 2 reasons why I’m experiencing them now. 1. Lockdown, however, the state of Texas has had very little in the order of shelter in place rules except we can’t go anywhere that isn’t open and no gatherings of 10 or more people. The other option the doctors have is that on June 22nd it will be the one year anniversary of my granddaughter’s death. Or maybe a combination of the two. I can say though, whatever the cause I hope this goes away soon because I don’t want to have to live with these attacks for the rest of my life. It’s horrible I he way they make me feel. I have a new appreciation for what people say when they say they suffer from anxiety. Watching your videos helps me to understand more and gives me ideas on how to try dealing with them. Thank you for being so open and honest with us, your viewers and the world.

You are doing important work here!!! Fantastic channel! ♥️ Love your shirt and your attitude 😊😊😊 Just subscribed and wishing you all the best!

I'm going to repeat the advice you gave me sweetie: 'Be very gentle on yourself' I'm so glad you and the Furr Furr can shield together, and that things have been arranged for home delivery of shopping. You're right, this is such a crazy time, it's a 'new normal' that isn't really normal. If anything, this time of shielding will take some stress away as the exposure to the virus is now made as minimal as possible, try and look at it that way. Right now, the safest thing to do is shielding. Please don't hesitate to text or call me if you want to vent or chat 💜

You're such an inspiration and needing support from chris definitely is not a step back, in time you will get back to your normal self and chris will be by your side I'm sure xx you got this the flock are here for you too ❤

I love all your videos. Doesn't matter what it is you are talking about. Right now I have been doing outside stuff, mowing or checking the flowers I planted ( that drove my wife crazy. She believes you plant stuff to eat not smell and look at.)playing with the dogs. Haven't really heard too much about shielding here,but now we have to wear masks if we go to any stores. But I do understand your anxiety. I have it but not as severe as you, but my wife's is almost as bad as what you have. So, I hope you don't go to stir crazy while shielding. Love to you and fur fur. Hope everything gets back to how it used to be. Love ya, Liam

Thank you for caring and sharing.you are admired and loved by many

love to you both. you are doing everything you can to take care of yourselves (and each other), and that makes all the difference.

I would have done the same re shielding if I was in your shoes, am so glad you have got everything sorted and have food deliveries and ultimately you have each other xx

My dear Finn, I absolutely feel like you!! Two days ago I decided to try to go out for a walk and also yesterday I did, but I felt anxious. I repeted to myself that I had a mask so I was safe but it was not easy. Also because, obviously, some persons hadn’t a mask expecially who went for jogging or some kids or who was smoking....and after the permission, many people is out of home, on cycle paths....so we have to put more attention now! Do you know? Some bars are open now, with restrictions but oper, ....I understand the crisis for bars and retaurant or hotels but it’s dangerous and it’s easy to know if it is a right choice or not. In south of Italy many people floacked to the beach, without masks like it was all ended...this is a shame! Like always we must have responsable for ourself and for the other but every mind is a world!!! Anyway, while I was walking I picked up some flowers,chamomile and poppies, I virtually send to you!! Immagine the porfume of chamomile, it’s particular, isn’t it? Kiss kiss tonyou and Chris!!🥀🍀🌻🌼🌸🌺🌹🌾🐿

I'm really glad that you're shielding ❤ it's the best place for you and Chris, in light of the situation. The statistics coming out of the UK are really high. You guys need to be at home for now. If you're being triggered that this coronavirus pandemic is going to set you back in the bigger picture of how far you've come in your recovery, then please try not to worry that you may slip and lose your footing in recovery and won't keep moving forward as a person, because Chris won't let that happen, and me and the FinnFam, people who know your strengths and who know who you are won't let it happen, including yourself. The investment that you've put into yourself, your life, and your career over the years won't be lost in the long run. I like that you're seeing that in order to navigate through this pandemic you need to listen to your inner compass, the part of you that nurtures your trust in you to know that everything is going to be alright after all this is done. If your out and Chris needs to navigate you out of danger's way, then it's a good thing that you are letting him in to do that. There is progress there, in that you're allowing someone to look after you at times when he needs to step in, because we are not islands, (as much as some people try to be at times 😘), and I'm sure that in your give and take relationship that you are there for him in other times when he needs you. I love you and I want you to know that I believe in your capability. You always know how to listen and you always know that the answers will come.

I'm so glad Chris is with you Finn 💜 my inbox is always open if you need a chat even if it's just for a top up of bad memes :) keep in mind, your anxiety *is* proportionate to the situation 💜 you are so right, you are allowed to feel these feelings, it's a big thing and you are not alone xo

Sending lots of love to you both xx Take care of each other and try to keep smiling xx

Oh, and we could all give a go at designing flock shirts

I'm relieved all your food is sorted etc. I'd be panicking too if plans like that had to change so much. It's not so much about change for me, more that companies have all these methods supposedly in place to help the vulnerable, but they're struggling to do this. Lots of hoops to jump through etc. I've made leaps and bounds with my anxiety whilst at home, but heading out to do food shopping is stressful AF. We're trying to avoid doing it as much as possible for that reason. :|

Now, the world can be a nasty crazy place out there, we need a lot of courage and we need a lot of resilience after that, and we will fall down before we stand up… What really matters is the silence of the night in our conscience, when we are alone. We cannot control what happens but we can use what happens. We have so much reserves of love and support inside us, if we can just remember that in our mind and move on.

Love ya finn thank you for sharing your story and tips xx ❤

Oh sweetheart, you've just articulated SO MUCH of what I'm going through & once again, helped me to reframe where we are now in a mentally healthier way. (Apologies for the essay-length incoming comment!) I always live with anxiety, I had to adjust to a higher level and then yet another higher level. It truly is exhausting. And I know all about the adrenaline spike screwing with your tummy: my IBS goes through the roof & diarrhoea and cramps come in for the rest of the day :-( I'm not officially shielding: like Chris I have asthma, but I'm just a squeak under the criteria in terms of the meds I'm on, but I've been advised by docs & nurses I know personally to do it anyway. Hubby and I also made the same call as you & Chris: Hubby didn't have to shield but if he hadn't we'd have had to live separately & my MH couldn't take that, so he's been going out once/twice a week to get essentials from the local corner shop. And on the 2 occasions I've felt able to go around the block he's had to come with me because of my anxiety & having the same reactions as you! A few things I've learned since I've been shielding which may help you(I started on March 16th) - Grocery delivery slots are hard for many of us but Iceland release slots around lunchtime the day before delivery. If they deliver to your postcode that can help a lot. Their range ain't huge but it's good enough to help. - Superdrug deliver a decent amount of their range. Since Iceland don't really do toiletries, Superdrug's stuff fills that gap. - The CDC advise that the virus has deactivated after 72 hours on a surface, so we have a quarantine area in the house. Anything fresh/frozen gets wiped down & stored; everything else gets put in crates in the spare room & I note in my (bullet!) journal when it'll come out of quarantine. Helps keep everything straight. - Local friends really are willing to help. We're v lucky that our near-neighbours have been able to pick up stuff for us. Thank you for being awesome. Much love . We WILL all get through this xx

Hi there! I think you guys should get a cat 😺😁 I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time to get where you were only to have this happen. I'm glad you have Christopher 🥰 I'm actually very antisocial, so to me, not having as many appointments to go to and have people staying farther from me has been a plus. (I MAY be using it as an excuse to isolate to be honest.) Negatives for me is all my support groups have been cancelled. I can't get toilet paper. Soon to not be able to get bacon. That's when my anxiety spikes. I wish I could send you some peace of mind to help you with your anxiety *HUGS* Over here, we say hello from a distance to each other. No petting their dogs, no contact, just a hello and walk away. I live in apartment complex for disabled and elderly, and we've been respecting each other's space and such, following the rules of social distancing, not visiting each other as much, and it's really hard for me because there have been close friends that have lost family and friends, and I can't hug them because I want to be safe for their sake. That hits my depression pretty hard. I can talk, be there for them to talk to, but it's not the same as the comfort of that "I understand" hug. Over here in Minnesota, we can still go out, but keep our distance, wear masks in the stores. So I go for my walk almost every day, but I can see from the news I get that your country is on a bit of a harsher lock down that we are here. (No thanks to our dork in office!) They're telling us here that it will get MUCH WORSE before it starts getting better, while at the same time they're opening up hair salons, bowling alleys, golf courses, beaches, hair salons and tattoo parlors! *WOW* bad ideas! I know we should just accept how we feel, just like you said. Things are very different, and things will be changed for a very long time. I'm glad we have KZfaq to keep in touch, vent, get ideas, and also know that you're not alone. 💖 I have many health issues too, and I have had to tell my partner not to be physically close to me after work (He's an essential worker with a Covid pass since he works in a grocery store) and I also have been feeling the hurt from not seeing him as often. We live in separate housing situations so it's a bit better for now with that, but we miss each other. I think the decision to shield yourself as well for the the health of both of you! Trust in yourself, think of all of the things you've been through already and made it through. Draw strength from your past accomplishments my friend. This too will pass at some point, so for now, do what you can, and when we see the light at the end of the tunnel, you'll be all the stronger and heartier for getting through it! Sobriety from smoking and drinking has gone out my window for now, NOT the best coping strategy by any means. If you can, try to find things to do together like watch funny things on TV! Cartoons, funny movies, something to uplift the both of you together. I think of these times as a sort of "stay-cation" instead of vacation, need to get something done that you couldn't with a busy schedule? You definitely have the time to get to it now 😊✌ I'd be the person helping everyone else put their oxygen masks on first before I put my own on. Just my style. Even my therapist told me that I'm one who rises during adversity and helps others before I help myself which is why I got myself into the mess I have over the years... I love this video, it's what we're all thinking right now for sure, I'm glad you made this video Finn! Keep yourself and Christopher safe, I'm glad you live near a great place to go for walks outside! 👍💯 I have a lake right out the back door of my apartment complex, it actually helps quite a bit to watch the birds, bugs, the sky, the sunrise/sunsets... Take joy in the little things, and take joy in the choice of helping keep your Chris safe as well 🙏🤗🥰 I love you both *BIG HUGE INTERNET SUBSCRIBER SAFE DISTANCE SUPPORT HUGS*

When I started looking for people like me, you have been an inspiration. All the trans guys I've looked up on line are guys that started very early and are still very young. You are just a few months younger than me and I can relate with you on every single issue you just covered. I literally just did a phone visit with my Dr and he was telling me that I have to bring my stress down. Yep. Sure. The headline this morning is that we are going to top130000 dead by August. That doesnt cover the ones that will be left with ravaged bodies. Sorry don't want to push your stress up lol. I have had to, because of my own health problems, shelter with my wife of 19 years. We also went through the whole diff house within one house. I will say one more thing then no more about it. I'm terrified of dying and dying alone. Never have I cared and at a point welcomed it but have realized in my middle age that I love life. With that the fear came of death. The thousands that have died completely alone hurts and scares the shit out of me. We promised each other that wont happen. We cut to one patient in home care and we take turns with her. That limits her also. I understand people have to live and make money but I don't understand why the mall is so important. I see people becomming detached and growing cold to the death this virus is dealing. I see good also. Much of it but more coldness. We are becomming ok that thousands are dying. I also pushed myself out and not a social butterfly but needing humanity in my life. My wife is also a loud northerener from here and I'm a southern girl. We talk to everyone. I have started ducki g my head also and avoiding people. I dont know how my sanity is going to keep holding but we can make it through. I refuse to go quietly and become cold. My humanity is one thing I'm proud of, but this is one of the biggest acts of sheer will that any of us has undertaken. Keep posting darling. You are an inspiration to others even as you feel your humanity pushed to the limits also. Love u guys. Stay safe stay saine. I'm long winded also lol sorry

Hey u, ive had to do mums shopping today, omg, my anxiety is through the rough. I go to the local supermarket as the big names are at least 20 min drive away. However, there are no real social distancing rules in place there, its awful 😢

I am sorry i am Not English and my partner has been living on the East Coast of the US longer than her growing up years in Leicestershire. What is the issue of being with a "Northerner" 24/7???? What is their behavior?????? If need be you have my Facebook messenger........vent