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It would be interesting if you asked these questions to women outside of Tokyo in smaller cities or in the countryside.

I think the reason this guy is the best interviewer is cause he's respectful and doesn't get in peoples faces and make them feel uncomfortable. Brilliant interview technique imo.

It's hard for me to understand why someone would feel okay with cheating. Cheating goes against my values, and it's a reflection of their character. In my culture, people who cheat are looked down upon

I'm an American and this is the fifth video I've seen of yours and it's very interesting. Thank you for sharing this information and please thank your participants for sharing.

Takashii single-handedly destroying everyone's illusions about Japan. :D

"Don't cheat on me, just go to a brothel. As long as you pay, it's fine." A COMPLETELY different society over there...

Translating Fuzoku(風俗) as prostitution is kinda wild. You gotta explain what kind of Fuzoku they are referring to. Like this girl at <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="180">3:00</a> is depicting the non-sexual situation, like eating & drinking with women at a nightclub/bar sort of situation. According to your definition, Hooters and strip clubs would also be prostitution. Also I think you should interview women in other places under the sun too. I'm a Japanese women myself and these women who are roaming around in this part of Tokyo at night are a different kind of breed imo. It would be biased to, for instance, catch a bunch of young people roaming around Las Vegas, interview them, and conclude that Americans are unchaste and slovenly, wouldn't it😅 なんか、コメント欄に似非ニッポンエキスパートが湧いてますわ…。

i do believe that in a relationship, contentment and respect is so important.

When I was living in Japan, I’ve been told by many Japanese friends that Tokyo is the worst place in Japan for them. When I asked why, they said the stress and quality of life is the worst. Also they said Tokyo could be a very materialistic place compared with many other parts of Japan. I guess if we interview people in Los Angeles compared with interviewing people from Hawaii or Pennsylvania, the answers might vary greatly.

To explain a bit: the term used in the video for 'cheating' is '浮気' in Japanese. 浮気 means 'in love with another one', that's why some of them think prostitution is not 浮気 as it does not include emotional feeling to the prostitute. There is another term in Japanese that has similar meaning, which is '不倫'. 不倫 means 'having sex with another one', but Takashii did not use this word because 不倫 is a term that is only used on people who are married (which most of the interviewees are obviously unmarried). Therefore, there is no such exact word that can perfectly match the term 'cheating' in Japanese as in English.

That girl that said she only says prostitution isn’t cheating because she doesn’t want to seem clingy proves that these poor women are conditioned to think this way

a tip on your interviews - ask for people that are on their own and not with friends. People tend to lie/respond to according to their friends next to them which then wouldn't reflect their true insight

The answer that made me laugh most. "Who cheats more, men or women?" "Women are better at hiding it." She did not say yes or no. She seemed to mean, ~You won't know, if we do cheat~

The level of nuanced insight into Japanese culture has been incredible. There is so much more that we non-Japanese folk will ever see or know. Thank you so much Takashi-san.

Such a cool language. I would love to learn it.

great questions and directly! Japanese social patterns are complicated for me.

It's interesting to see how, in Japan, men and women seem to separate emotion and sex when it comes to relationships. In most other countries, the physical aspect of a relationship is what takes it from casual to serious, at least in theory. I would have liked it if Takashii had asked them if, once married to someone, their opinion of visiting a brothel changes, or if they still think it's ok, as long as their spouse lets them know.

It’d be cool to hear what different generations think about this issue too.

I always find your channel really informative. I lived in Japan for almost a year and I know that during that time I only scratched the surface. Your channel is one of the ways I keep on learning. This video was very surprising and also not. It was like the silent part I subconsciously knew being spoken aloud. If that makes sense 😅

Ok, this video convinced me to move to Japan.

One of the many reasons I divorced my ex husband (he was Japanese) is that he thought going to the brothel after work was not cheating, even after I told him from the start of our dating my beliefs. I no longer live in Japan, but their ideas on cheating is so incompatible with mine.

You can see the gears in their heads working overtime thinking about the deeper side of the interviews. It's obvious that the cheating/prostitution thing is an issue. Great topic of choice Takashii.

You always ask great questions to get to the rationale behind answers. I think my relationship style would work well in Japan.

One of the best interviews in Japan you made

Non Japanese / foreigners / otaku weebs dreams of seriously dating and marrying a native Japanese person from Japan shattered like a shattered broken window on boulevard of broken dreams LOL. Takashii did a video last month when he asked Japanese men on cheating. I'm glad he asked both genders and see both sides' perspective on it. There are many other KZfaq videos from other Japanese KZfaqrs on this same subject.

This is wild. I think in the USA cheating with a prostitute would be considered one of the worst cheating you could do in a relationship

Excellent interview.

This generation is cooked 😢

Damn bro. Seeing people being so open and shameless about betraying their partner like that makes me sad.

It's incredible how beliefs and morals can differ throughout cultures , this is so impressive and should stay like that ! EACH CULTURE SHOULD PRESERVE ITSELF FOR THE SAKE OF DIVERSITY !

That opening was INSANE

I have been living in Japan for 8 years and my wife has a few friends like this. I gave up trying to understand things like "it's acceptable to go to a brothel" but "dinner with someone" isnt

You should interview mixed couples (Japanese/foreign) and see if the foreigner has those worries or if they would be okay with paid services as long as there’s no emotions. It’d be interesting to see the difference in dynamics the 2 different upbringings might present

Great video and effort

Damn this video makes Japan look really sleazy.

My Japanese husband has been cheated on by his Japanese ex-girlfriend. He said that he himself would never cheat on his partner, as he knows from his own experience how much it hurts the other person who is being cheated on.

I'm Japanese, but please don't take the opinions in this interview as general... This interview is taking place in a nighttime entertainment district. This may sound discriminatory and rude, but I personally feel that many of the people who come to such places are vulgar. At least no one I've ever met would approve of cheating! If a friend says it's OK to cheat, I question their sanity. Of course, there may be some people who are okay with cheating, but it's probably not the norm. I'm very shocked. Please don't apply this to all Japanese people. Honest people don't cheat. Even if they did, it wouldn't be something they would say so brazenly. This is an act that I deeply regret and am ashamed of.

Don't know how i got here but I am...glad I'm here tho. These types of videos help me to reflect on some things...💯🧐🧐💀

Interesting answers. Thank you for sharing.

As a Japanese, I want to say that girls in Shibuya do not represent average girls in Japan.

This is super interesting to hear their perspectives

Interesting perspectives

Generally everyone is free to have whatever relationship they want, but the argument "I'd rather have him go to a brothel than fall in love with someone else" makes me deeply sad. Why should you even have to make that choice and accept one of the options?

Life is complicated but sometimes very simple : if I want short term relationships, meeting girls, then I don't put myself in a couple status. Follow your own choices even if you come to regret later but don't hurt someone's feeling and more importantly don't make them waste their time and lose opportunities that might not present themselves again when you're having fun in the backstages.

fascinating take on a hot topic! keep up the great work!

I should say the girls are very understanding and honest.

I am Japanese and heres my thoughts. They hate cheating, but "since everyone around me thinks okay i dont want to be odd one out, so it will be fine" is what they think Edit: for those who think why do they cheat, when they hate it? It's the same thing as, why do you tip when you hate it?

I just dont get it. What is the point of being in a relationship if both of them are just gonna cheat? Is being in a relationship seen as prestigious?

The more we all learn about each other’s cultures and ways of looking at the world, the more peaceful we will become. These videos help that mission.

Say less, I am on my way to Japan now

As a Japanese man, it is very bizarre to me lol... My wife would cut my jewels off if I went to a brothel, whether emotional attachments were involved or not. That being said, when I was in Tokyo in the early 2000s, I used to work as a host to help pay for college, and I remember more and more frequent were married women showing up for a "fun time" ... after being dropped off by their husband who went his own separate way to a next-door brothel. I was very confused by it, but I never said anything. After all, they were clearly opened with the arrangements. I also remember a few years ago, I was staying at a friend's home in Tokyo for a night. I accidentally overheard he and his wife talking. She handed him allowance money and said, "I'm tired. Go find a prostitute. I'm going to bed." as if it were a completely normal thing. Wow... Overall, however, I still really don't think this is the norm. I've talked with quite a bit of people on this subject when I went to go visit my hometown in Ehime. They are people who I know closely, who are willing to give me honest answers. Whether man or woman, every single person I spoke with do not agree with the statements made in this video and in fact really hate how people in Tokyo and Kyoto view things this way. Thus, it is likely that majority of Japanese people in smaller cities or rural regions do not share the sentiments in this video.

I was shocked that they are just okay with their partner going to the brothel. Thanks for this eye opener Takashi. I really appreciate it bro and you are so good interviewing, very respectful, keep it up.

It's hard for me to understand why someone would feel okay with cheating.

At end of the day it really depends on the person. but what’s your opinion of this dating/cheating culture in Japan?

It's so funny! What a great country! Great people! I can't wait to visit Tokyo in november!! :DD Cheers from Rio de Janeiro.

After watching all these interviews about how casual Japanese people are with cheating, suddenly I realize why NTR is such a popular genre in the doujin scene. Don't ask me how I know this I just know.

"Its ok to have sex with someone else, as long as you pay" that really blows my mind to how diffrent our views are on these kind of things.

It's fascinating how different their culture is. It's really such an alien outlook to me (Australian), everyone here would regard visiting a brothel as cheating. It seems Japanese people put less emphasis on physical cheating and more on emotional. People in the west are more possessive in general, I wonder if that means they have better relationships, or worse. However I'd be curious to see these same questions asked of the men, as I always find men and women have very different outlooks on issues like this. Particularly they are always eager to think badly of the other as a group.

One of the most horrible things you can do to someone, is to be relationship with that person and not really care about that person...

The girls seem pretty open to the idea of their boyfriends having a physical relationship with other women as long as it doesn't involve an emotional relationship, as well. And they admit that they don't like this, but that they don't want to be seen as clingy. No mention about the risks of Mr. Boyfriend bringing home an STD, developing an emotional relationship with a girl he's cheating with, or of him getting the other girl pregnant. Also, the focus is solely on the actions of the guy -- while the girls are seemingly O.K. with the guys cutting loose, does that men that guys can expect their girls to also be as casual with their extra-curricular activities, too?

this is an eye opening info about japanese people... I should have changed citizen a long time ago.. hahahah

夜じゃなくて昼に聞けば結果は違うでしょう。

Syphilis is popping off in tokyo for a reason😬 ive always heard about this I was shocked when I first heard my Japanese friend casually talk about her friends hickey being from another man nonchalantly and i asked well what happens if he finds out and she said probably just get mad like What

I'm a man and I've never cheated on any of my girlfriends because I respected them and didn't want to hurt them. How can you be truly intimate with someone if you're cheating?

I so admire how in Japanese culture the definition & acknowledgement of 'cheating' is not so much based on the 'act' but otherwise decided upon other factors such as intention, honestly & openness / communication in their relationships - The Western world has yet to evolve to this point as a whole.

I'm starting to understand that in earlier interviews like what I think was called "What doe Japanese people think about dating foreigners" some individuals were saying that Religion may be an issue in their relationship with a foreigner.. This is the reason why. Not because they wouldn't be able to adapt to rituals or whatever else for some reason. They don't want to be tied down to a single person for the rest of their lives in high stress situations. Maybe there's exception to my assumption, or maybe my assumption is off by a mile but I wish Japanese people and anyone looking for Love in Japan the best.

Cheating: yep Tattoos: absolutely not

I live in Europe and about half my friends have cheated. Maybe I should find better people to hang out with lol

Hello TAKASHII, Nice videos much thanks!!!

in America its way different, any sort of affection towards another person is usually considered cheating and would end the relationship right there. but thats the world so many different cultures and mindsets everywhere.

Its wild how widespread this has become in Japan, its almost like its a tradition for them to cheat

Damn this was very real, the last women stating "both cheat a lot, but women hide it better" is the best way to put it.

Interesting topic...

What about diseases? Goodness.

Omg I feel so bad for that poor girl who said she would seem clingy if she considered her boyfriend going to a prostitute to be cheating! That’s so sad. Takashi, sweep this girl off her feet and treat her right!!

This is really shocking but I'm not surprised. Been cheated on by a Japanese girl and only found out through her IG that she was dating another person. It hurts, but now that I watch this video, it seems like it's so normalised. Thanks for another wonderful video again Takashii-san!

That girl really re-evaluating her friendship with the other girl in the first interview lmaoo

It’s cool to see they can talk about their different opinions and stances even though they are friends and together, in the states if one girl said no they all would out of fear of shame or embarrassment

I really feel like being honest is the top priority, anything else can be overlooked or forgiven bc your word about how you truly feel can be trusted. I appreciate the insight of this video because it reiterates the fact that theres no one clear cut way to perceive things or live life.

I think there is a lot of nuance and deeper issues here than what we are able to see in these videos. It sounds like emotional cheating is harder to accept than sexual (which in some ways makes sense, but also depends on how you view sex). It would be interesting to hear about married couples (especially with motherhood). Also would be interesting to hear from gays/lesbians. It's cheating if he hides it, it's okay if he pays someone...sounds to me like they're saying it's okay as long as he comes back to me. We also need to be careful about making general assumptions. While there may be a "cheating culture" in Japan, it doesn't mean all Japanese do it, nor is cheating unique to Japan.

Im ngl this video crushed my dreams of marrying a nice Japanese woman. Ugh I don't want a "looser" relationship that's what ruins the quality of a relationship. If you're not both faithful to each other 100% then what's even the point of being together might as well just be friends with benefits.

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="165">2:45</a>: guess whos the impostor in the image ahahahahahha love it

I honestly think "going for dinner with a girl without telling me is cheating" is a weirder sentiment than "seeing a prostitute isn't cheating as long as you tell me."

I'd like you to ask women in Japan if they themselves are paying for sexual services, do they consider it as cheating. Most interviews I've seen revolves around men going to brothels and women being okay with it but there's also such a thing for women (host clubs, etc.). Also if they have a sex friend while in a relationship, do they consider that as cheating or not. I mean people in Japan tend to separate relationships and sex so I think it'll be interesting to hear more on this.

Wow, very very interesting. Japanese people obviously have high self-esteem and an open nature.👍

Japanese grils are so cute.

I find it somewhat funny how having dinner with a girl can be seen as cheating but going to a prostitute is not. I would say that having sex forms a way stronger emotional bond than having dinner.

I believe it is important to establish boundaries about sex. I’m not in favor of being in a sexual relationship with someone that is having sex with other people. This is a health issue for me because there are STD’s that can destroy a life. I believe if this is communicated up front before engaging in a sexual relationship then everyone understands and has a choice. If someone then goes outside that agreement then it is cheating.

I'm a 22 year old Japanese who was born and raised in Japan, I think young Japanese women are like this, not all of them, of course. I think many Japanese women think that skinship with their partners is a pain in the ass. So many of them think it's okay to go to the sex industry if they do it themselves. But the important thing is that it's not a positive opinion, good but bad A lot of people say they would break up with me if I really did So it's very difficult Cheating is different for everyone, some people do it, some people don't. I don't think this has anything to do with being in the city or anything.

I think many women have resigned and learned to accept their men to do things with other women regardless of the reason because of fear of losing the man. That inner conflict will lead many women to also cheat. If the younger gens have no historical data of the whole picture, cause & effect, they will see this as normal and okay. Committed relationships will get more & more devolved. Just like here in the U.S.

Could you do these types of questions but to foreigners residing in Japan? would be interesting to see their point or view or experiences regarding this topic, since they are currently living in the culture that houses it, could be a good outlook to see

This is very informative, and I'm quite shocked at how lenient they are when it comes to cheating. Terrifying to me as someone who values monogamy

Translating "Fuzoku" as brothel is simply a mistranslation.

I m really impressed with Japanese culture and I like the most fashioned women a women with skills is my favorite ,mostly curvy size ...

Daaammmn! 😂😂 first homegurls friend straight up called her out with the eyes 👀 !!! That is wild!! 😂😂😂😂

<a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="36">0:36</a> Bro was flabbergasted 😭

Very interesting

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So much for the loyal Japanese waifu meme. They’re just like every other girl out there.