Definitely

I would cut my mom AND my sister off FOREVER! Them girls know them two birds ain’t right. That’s why Tocha solo career never went anywhere…ole basic hussy

I believe every word you said . About your sister . You are a beautiful Lady i hate you felt out with Kandi. But life goes on .

Definitely!! I love that🙌🏾💯

💯 I love that and that's how it should be ♥️

They’re stunning! Esp the youngest!!!

Yesssss she has some stunning girls!! 😍

Seriously 😍

​@@ZonDAmour1 nah the other is just as beautiful you only said that because she lighter and have the colored eyes and that social media look. Both are equally beautiful

@@doneeshacunningham2949 it has nothing to do with shin complexion. The younger one is obviously prettier

So wrong!!

My mom is tht same way .she push the issue of sibling rivalry .no mom should av a preference

Reminds me of my grandmother and how she is with my aunts compared to my mom

I agree.

That hurt me and proved tamika was right bout latacha and Mrs Gloria

I like her on the current show & they should build up on all of the women's lives ...without Tocha

I hope they add her so her bag can grow even bigger

Ain’t she the one that lied on Kandi back in the day?

Too classy

I really appreciate Tameka for sharing this. Parents always have a golden child that they enable to do bad things to their siblings and other family members. In some families it’s the oldest others it’s the youngest. It just depends. Latocha is at it with all the members and the group is sick of her ish. She needs to humble herself no one likes a narcissist. As an older sibling I’m not leaving first when there is danger. I need to protect my younger siblings.

Love Me Some Tamika... Definitely believe her.

We’re all on her team. The only people that aren’t are the ones just like Tocha and their mom

@@CleverAOYM Exactly..

ABSOLUTELY!!!!!!!!!

I truly believe you, just keep praying about the situation.🥰🤗🙏🏽

Facts

Yes, her Mom is a textbook toxic narcissist parent. One child is the golden child and the other is the ScapeGoat. Sometimes going NO CONTACT with toxic family members is the only way, sad when it be your own people.

Stevie Wonder could see that Tamika was telling the truth!!!

I just really have developed such a loyal admiration and love for Tamika. She is my favorite member now. I don’t have any brothers or sisters I wish Tamika was my sister. She is so cool.

#TeamTamika

So true she said that as the little girl still wanting love and acceptance. And knowing Deaconness Wig she would’ve thrown that 2 jobs etc in her face as being a “good” mom.

Well said 🤎

Exactly, unfortunately this type of thing happens all the time

In that order.💯🙏🏽

You could definitely tell Tocha was LYING, lol.

@@MessyyMissyy yes, that's so sad that they team up on her like that. They should be ashamed of themselves.

So the concert was done without her sister?

Great because I plan on catching them when they return to Los Angeles.

They went on tour when Kandi left the group because she didn’t want to be in the group anymore.

When did you go to the show?!

Yes they have been doin shows without her. They took her off the promo pic

I AGREE🙂

I agree

It's narcissistic abuse, any way you slice it. It's clear as day.

I agree also 😊

Absolutely

That's a hard thing for a child to watch their mom or dad be attack. Especially their Mother, natural instincts is to fight young or older.💯

Yes it should be but NOT IN FRONT OF THE CAMERA. IT MAKES IT WORST

I appreciate what you posted I wish more parents would teach this.

In therapy, not to the general public who only wants to tear your family with their opinions. How is this a path to healing?

Speak on it speak on it I agree

Your mom and sister thought that they can treat you any type of way all these years because you're not going to say anything you're not going to air out their business you've been protecting their business for this long so they feel like they can be shiesty and do whatever the f*** they want because they feel like you're not going to say anything but I am so glad that you stood up to them and said something I'm going through the same thing with my family not my sisters but other people in my family

Right!!!

She got just like her mom

Yes I like her she’s actually very smart and realizes her mom is being abused

She called it right, it’s emotional abuse.

@@mermaid30019 she actually said mental abuse. But it’s both. Mental and emotional. I feel so bad for Tomeka

That really pissed me off and confirmed a lot for me

God knew she needed her daughters

God will handle it. He always have a way of bringing ppl back to you who has wronged you.

Yeah that was really horrible. I’ve only heard of this with some of our men, but wow I would’ve never thought. Now we see why Tocha act the way she does. She’s like a big kid! It’s sad.

Yes omg I was hoping that was for drama ratings purposes n not her acting like that towards her daughter in real life 😢that’s sickening

This is real parenting. When they feel as if they can express themselves but not too far to cross a line.

That one in the front ready to cut up lol

I don’t like the way your mom or your sister treats you. You’re amazing and you have a beautiful soul!

This made me cry, I believe you, you were very sincere!!

Yes I loved it as well.

Yesssss so true

This newer generation does not bite their tongue rightfully so

13:11

You know she has a whole husband rightb

They are truly raising some beautiful babies ❤😊

@@MarauderM00gi we talking about Tamika rn though, stay on topic bookie😘

@@Whowantlasagna shut your goofy ass up

She is sitting up talking about her sister and it's not cool because you don't have to be like others

Her daughters need to stay in a child's place

She is smfh and I wanna buy some of her seasonings ...She gone win though Tamika gone win regardless.

We don’t need to know everything that was done or said to her. Maybe a reconciliation will happen soon.

I agree

Yup!

Baby listen💞

Exactly!

💯‼️🎯

Shid I needed ths word.

Parents have favorites, lol. You might love them the same but you're going to like/connect with another moreso than the other, lol.

❤️

I ALWAYS believed her years ago, even when they tried to make her look “crazy” or said she had a mental illness. LaTocha has always had a complex.

Mom was probably jealous an just a plain mean jealous person that will never own up to what she did. Now you know never trust her again😊

U BETTA KNOW IT!!!! WE HAVE UR BACK TAMIKA!!!! When yall coming to Detroit???

Yep. And I one hundred percent believe her.

Agreed!!! That hurt MYYY feelings to see her act like that towards Tamika. Like WTF was that?!!😟 But as soon as I heard her mama on the phone say, you need to hear Tosha side of it, I was like WOWWW ohhhkkk...🙄not yall need to sit down and hear each other or tell me what happened from your side so I can hear both counts of what happened.... It's really sad! They really need an Iyanla sit down for real!!! I pray that they heal from all this lifelong family dynamic trauma.

When she whispered to Tomika, "she's jealous " it irritated my soul. We have to get out of the mindset, that older people should be respected to the utmost degree or they deserve it just because they are the parent. She disrespected Tamika in front of her own child. I've had that happen to me and baby I gave my grandmother the smoke. My mother didn't want to disrespect her mother because she is from the old school, honor thy mother and thy father.....but baby I'm giving it to whoever goes at my Mom, period point blank. It really is a tough situation to navigate.

Yeah her momma got issues!

I agree but now they are locked down by BUSINESS... I wished before she entered into the deal, she would have made it clear NO discussing she and her sister's issues on the show... I know it's GREAT for ratings but this is a serious matter that requires serious attention...

Very well said, Angela!👌🏽

That's the best way

Amen😊💛

𝓐𝓰𝓻𝓮𝓮𝓭

Tamika Scott is Very Down To Earth And Really Cool🌹🌹🌹💯💯💯♥️♥️♥️A Sweetheart

@@pookkie1040 she was smiling and talking, just really engaged in the conversation. She seemed very genuine while having the conversation.

@@anetragoolsby2436 She is Fun Loving Woman...I Love Her Personality And She Always Give Me Good Advice

That was hard to watch. It’s clear that your mom has a favorite. My feelings were hurt for you. I believe everything that you said

Her & Tiny stood in the parking lot with my roommate & I for AT LEAST 30 minutes after a show laughing, joking & having a good time, so I second this comment.

Yep! Close the door for good! She wants to go--then let her Goooo! GIT!

Yup the door needs to be closed to Tocha in the group

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Family is always the start mess, so stay strong. She will come around soon. Money comes and goes, family is forever. She should know that.

🙏🏽Thank you for sharing additional insight with us as fans of Xscape. ♥️🙏🏽 After watching this, my heart went out to you and your family💕🙏🏽 The world should Never see and know this much about personal family matters. Communication is Healing🙏🏽 Everyone has to hold themselves Accountable for some part of the confusion. This is why Jesus said to Forgive 77x7(it’s a metaphor)! It’s ok to say “I was wrong, I hurt you with my words, my actions, Please forgive me🙏🏽and turn away and do better going forward! Love Always Always Wins❣️❣️ See, everybody has an opinion, we have to learn to Work hard a Pleasing God, Not People❣️ Tosha experienced the world judging her body negatively 🙏🏽 That hurt runs long and deep♥️🙏🏽 I’m praying for Healing over her because she was and is still beautiful. It’s a Mean O World Out here🙏🏽 All these years and still unresolved is simply allowing the enemy to bounce y’all up against every wall he can. Time to beat the enemy at his foolishness! Seriously, we All got something!!! Nobody is truly right and we are All wrong!! Forgiveness, Hugs and Love… everyone make your favorite dish, come together and start with.. I was wrong starting with…. And please find it in your heart to Forgive Me?♥️🙏🏽♥️ In front of the kids and all! No one will be Perfect! Just try to be honest with each other and Love on Each Other🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽 Cut the Embarrassment- Be real to each other. Be the example we need to bring Peace to our youth and how to Rise Above🙏🏽 And it’s enough money for Everyone! Do your Solo and help each other!! And do Xscape💕 Come on Now, Step into it ♥️ All of you have beautiful voices, Sang and Show up for Your Children and Grandchildren 🙌💕♥️🙏🏽I Love Y’all

Yes...

Yes they seem mature, level headed, and conduct themselves like normal healthy minded young women. There’s no jealous or envious or narcissistic energy from Tamika family. Her sister family with their mother are shady twisted people trying to put up a front it shows.

U said the right words. Gaslighting and mental, emotional abuse. That mom is sick and latocha is evil

Goodness. I feel triggered watching how they gaslighting and trying to make tameka look bad. Man is mind boggling and that mom is a demon and tocha is weak needing mom and husband approval and is jealous of tameka. Tocha a heartless bitter bitch

Right?! The gaslighting from Tocha and their mother was SO triggering

it was when her mom told her sister, that tamika was jealous that's when i realize the truth

​@@madamknowsbest7557 Same. Her mom gives "I put bugs in my daughter's ear and pit them against each other."

Yes!!!

Latoucha must me putting alot of coins n her Mama's pocket. Mama ain't gonna bit the hand the feeds her needs & wants. Sorry Tamika .

THIS‼️💯

@@tammywilliams1569 It definitely shows !!

And sometimes you just have to let go of family too, all the way. Sorry, not sorry, it gets that bad sometimes!

Gurl everything you have done has been out of Love....God knew you would never remove yourself from the toxicity so he allowed their heart to become obstinate (like he did Pharoah) and she removed herself from you. You see it hard to get the respect from the older siblings because you followed them blindly all your like and now that you are older with children you expect respect but instead of giving you the respect you have earned they try manipulation and intimidation. Anything bit owned where they are wrong. Continue to stay prayed up but respect your boundaries you have established As long as you know you come from place of love that includes mutual respect..let go and let God....this is a marathon not a sprint. Try to always pray before speaking and remember God said vengeance was his and he shall repay. Don't allow them to gaslight you. God will settle all of this baby girl...keep loving them and praying for them but you don't have to lay down and get walked over....You are so kind and compassionate. I felt your pain and I know this happened to you.

It is indeed mental and emotional abuse.

And if she was at that sit down I feel she would turnt up in grandma and auntie.

Yes favorites is mental abuse it revokes negative feelings

Kids will just say it when we won't.

Exactly ti ♥️

Y’all look alike. Both beautiful!

They should express themselves but the one daughter's expression was not what she wanted. She should probably not be in on the conversations.

Ti, you really look like you related to Tamika. Both of you are beautiful 😍. I hope you do a show in this.

Ya'll are really twin sisters in spirit world Lovely T.

So true.

Right...

We do, we can’t support family to any means. Sometimes “family” don’t mean right by you

U

Smart girl

She got that from the bottom of ur soul singing

That scene was so heart felt for me I went though the same things with my sister favoritism like she was better then me had me with so much low self esteem I needed therapy once we got older she went to jail twice 9 years all together an me have 7 beautiful children's an 8 beautiful grandbabies have my own food business God is Amazing YOU SO poised and you an your daughters are beautiful keep up the good work as I see you are God bless you and your beautiful family .

In JESUS NAME

Truth be told they are the ones that is jealous of Tamika..esp Tocha..I believe she always been low-key jealous of her fine ass sister..cause who been fine her whole life is Tamika...

Yes. I felt that too. So sad.

This is happening in a lot of families today. It’s not right but I’m in the same shoes as Tamika just minus the moolah.

@Chawday 39 so heartbreaking. Sending love your way. No child deserves that. Lord knows my childhood was messed up. Seeing your parent is capable of being there for you but chooses to not be is a pain I wouldn't wish on anyone. 💔❤️💯

👁 👁 👄 Everything has an expiration date ( relationships friendships marriages FOOD) good while it lasted when it's time to go it's time to go👀 I haven't spoken to my mother's daughter( sister) in almost 20 years I buried💀⚰️that relationship looong time ago 👀

Exactly, sometimes you of to walk away from family for your own sanity and to save yourself. That’s what I had to do to save myself!

Exactly!! her mental health is more important, than her narc sis!!

Omg yes preach you said a mouthful I definitely know about toxic family members & so call friends and you must distance yourself from that and yes i can love you from a distance i don't have to be around negative energy or situation

Agreed. And she’ll actually be married

I wanna see her on RHOA as well she’s the perfect cast member to bring on.

I agree. I think she and Latocha should both be on the show. Can you imagine the storylines?

I think she did when she mentioned there would be whispers and giggles behind her back....

@@rnbjunkie4859 I wanted her to touch on how she felt seeing it. It’s a difference assuming your mother and sister is talking behind your back, but actually seeing it is a whole other level.

@@parismichelle2952 Clearly, there's still a love for her sister and mother. I'm sure she didn't want to detail every little piece of her family business and rightfully so. She mentioned she didn't want the drama to unfold on TV but she was provoked and it just happened.

Facts I barely talk to mines because of the same reason...my sister can never do any wrong in my parents eyes and now she grown and spoil.

@@keishabrown1776 I feel you. Going through the same with my sister. Sometimes I feel like I’m the black sheep of the family.

@@tracyshakur4053 I say the same thing all the time

👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 it hurt but sucess is the best revenge

@@awwyeahme2 True!

Amen!

That part

She was talking to Tocha not Tamika’s child

Chills & Tears🤔…..ok

I understand what you're saying but just keep in mind that Tamika is a brand and she still has to have the main control over the comments and it's direction. As a professional she knows what she wants released and not released. Her daughters are not fully in the business so they may run on with info that's not due to be released yet. Just giving an insight on this, coming from someone in the business who has to curve things in interviews all the time.

That’s what you do!!!!! “ tell me what you’re feeling” and she did it in a respectful way.

I had tears also

Agreed! ❤

$30K?! It would always be ON SIGHT.

Plus she had to pay taxes on it! 😵

There’s no way. I would’ve created a lawsuit then went no contact. Unfortunately black women tolerate their black relatives to always have a fake bond. You don’t have to pretend you love these black relatives. All blood ain’t your blood like that, they’re people who share your DNA. I don’t care if it’s a mother or father or sister or brother or cousin, don’t cross me like that.

On sight? She would be locked up

The way I'm hollen rn @ wear a serious ass whooping 😂😂😂😂 n mamma bet not say shit about it ok!!!

We do,her whole vibe is cool and her personality and disposition are on point.

Right she’s never seemed happy at all….even at the height of their career she always seemed to have her flat ass on her shoulders.. whoops🤭 is it body shaming if my ass is flat too🤣😂

True! She always looks uncomfortable, she’s always trying to do something against the group to prove “something”.

@@PrincessThicc facts!!

cuz she was the fat one in the group and the industry dumped on her for years. now she feels like she came up and is still bitter of her treatment

@Gigi You really hit the nail on the head. I love Tasha's voice the best but I bet she she did catch hell for her weight. It's a cruel 🌎 out here.

I deal with emotional and verbal abuse from my mom right now

@@tomicka8552 I am so sad that is happening to you. I hope you two can get help to help you both process the pain.

Exactly ❤

EXACTLY!!

Facts

Yes! Especially dealing with family. It took me years to stand up for myself because I had been programmed not to as a child.

A daughter love is so real and those claws will come too if u mess who she love!!!

I was looking for this comment! Niya is me! I don't fool with my mama sister because of how she treats my mama. My gma passed, but I didn't fool with her like that either because of how she treated my mama compared to my mama sister. I'm not about to play with you about my mama we not doing that BS. Niya is over them!

@@therjfirm no fr. I’ve definitely fell out with a few family members. I will fall out with ANYBODY about my mama. Don’t matter who it is.

Niya don't play about her mother!!

@@ashontesjones3328 Period cause about my mama?? Imma dog walk you! Idgaf who you are!

No I want her to go over to Carlos king and do a love and marriage atlanta show but never mind she can’t because he tried to steal their life story right? Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ guess it has to be RHOA oooooor they could bring back R&B divas. But wait 🤔I think Carlos produced that too. Damnnnnnnnnn

No we don’t.. that drama Will destroy her marriage .. if she is married

@@Blessedtruly3000 I don’t believe so. She doesn’t seem to have that weakness. Her girls would definitely check her cz they seem to be very close nd protective of their family unit! U could be right tho

Housewives would be cool

Word! Especially when SWV stay taking jabs at Xscape smh

@@crystalpcullen what are you talking about? You must just like DRAMA. SWV ain't taking jabs at them. There ain't never a beef between them

Tameka continue to Pray for your family, sometimes family make real hard. I watched the show and really enjoyed it. On the hand your sister is real disrespectful. Just like she sit there with the stank face was pitiful. I’m sure she’s not a multimillionaire at 30 years of spending money . I honestly think y’all mother and her husband is blocking her blessings. Putting stuff in her head, like she’s the best she can go solo!!!! Didn’t she go solo some years ago? The group can go on without her….

Yes

Thats it

I can relate Gloria is definitely a narssisstic mother, I have one and I have no dealings with her it's sad but this is definitely real it exists smh

I definitely can relate. My male sibling stole from my mother, lied, and got her caught up in financial distress. He painted me as the villain and was so shady he had everyone believe that I was the crazy one.. my mother used guilt to keep me imprisoned in that dysfunctional relationship. It took me 40 years to end that cycle of pain. I consider that an emotional amputation. I had to save myself so I could live. From time to time I call it phantom pain because of the good times we had.

@@herbaltrucker My sister is actually in a toxic relationship with a man that tried to kill me while I was 8months pregnant. And my sister shows no remorse for not having respect for someone that loves her dearly. My sister also tried to seduce my husband. When I discuss it with my mother, she blames me and places the responsibility on me to repair the sisterhood. I told her not to hold her breath because she would be ☠️. There are just some people that don’t deserve you. It took so much therapy for me to acknowledge that being a relative doesn’t make you family.

@@dekhiastevenson8760 yes, they totally exists. My mother is the same. This scene reopened wounds. Having a mother that will always put you last hurts. My mother is a paranoid schizophrenic. The voices in her head told her that she had to kill one of her kids in order for the rest of them to live. She selected me! Luckily after her attack I’m still here, but that same feeling of feeling unwanted was there far before her mental issues. When she was sane she showed me signs. And let’s not get on my sister…. They are two lost souls but I can’t save them. And I hope Tamika acknowledges that. She will only be hindering their growth.

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

She birthed Tamika but she is no mom

​@@shaedavis53 I think the Mom is the one that's jealous.

Moms can be very toxic

Yasssss I'm so hurt😭😭😭😭😭and devastated by the level of ignorance and blindness of it all.😭😭😭😭😭

Amen

And then you're seen as "sensitive" and "doing too much" when you try to hold people accountable for the emotional abuse.