Brian Miller Magic That was fantastic! Don't be humble, be vibrantly proud!! You're the one who earned every bit of it! :)

You are very kind Z4 Custom Design , thank you!

Brian Miller Magic congrats on your engagement!

Brian Miller Magic Wonderful speech

Brian Miller Magic Best Ted Talk I've seen.

Who has time for that.... Ppl can even take care of themselves... Where are they gonna have time to make others feel cared for... For people who expect you to make them feel cared for like 90% of time is tiring..

do u want to uhhh marry me?

buhahahahaha

I love that quote

say yes!

...because where we are and where we stand determines what we see

There are many magic tricks where the magician intentionally blindfolds themself. To overcome sensory limitation is a common challenge in magic so I guess he can relate with the blind man in that way.

+Michael Caissie agreed, it would be great.. I do wonder if oneself understands his or her own thoughts, which explains the feeling of lost

It could be another verse in John Lennon's song like Imagine all the people Feeling understood.

That is beautiful

Literally felt like I was going to shed a tear at that phrase. Beautiful.

Yes, what poignant line. I guess the point is would I have cared to listen without Ed and without the connection? Great talk.

+Dave 9/11

lol!

r oger bed erer

tony bennette

U totally nailed it

It's so nice of you to say that. Thanks for taking the time to watch!

+Pao Rios Yeah I know, supporting you financially is XD

It was what broke me and my ex apart. I adored and cared for her very much but she didn't feel that. Emotion is all that matters in any form of relationship

ya, caring is a start~~~active listening is a challenge~~~more easily done than most think, lol (think is the prob)~~am on yer "page" ~~most sincerely, Jeff

Indeed, how can you claim you love her when you can't even eat her poop ?

They're high school students lol that's all you can expect

NKPyo You are very kind.

+Brian Miller Magic Yes, I really enjoyed this! I was guilty of one thing last night which you described. Was at a social gathering with lots of people I didn't know and totally forgot the guys name shortly after asking. I did find myself paying more attention after that.

+Ryan Kuehl As someone who does a lot of business networking, while I do listen to the person giving their name, I've learnt little tricks to help it really stick in my memory. Unless their name is something really easy like "John Smith", I will ask them to repeat it or I will say it back to them. If they hand me their business card, I will read (not just glance at) the card so I can see the name again. I then use their name two or three times in the conversation. If someone joins our conversation, I will be the one to do the introduction... It all helps to make that person's name stick.

Mimi Munoz It's been wonderful seeing the response and reading the comments, so I'm doing my best to pop in every couple of days to respond directly. Your support is greatly appreciated.

+Brian Miller Magic Looks like quite a bit of us understood :) Bravo Brian, thank you. With correct or just different perspective sometimes it feels like you can see it all.

Well said, Mikela. And sorry, off-topic, but pretty thumbnail.

​@@brianmillerspeaks ❤

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+CzechRiot I'm with you, man. I've been wishing that since the day it hit KZfaq, but I had no control over it whatsoever..

Brian Miller Magic You have to wish harder. Read some Brian Tracy, Tony Robbins and Bob Proctor, and focus on "visualization". Watch the video over and over again, and the laws of attraction will enhance the audio! Believe brother, believe!

+CzechRiot +Brian Miller Magic Thank you for this presentation, Brian! I love it, and, thankfully, the video was crystal clear on my laptop!

+Brian Miller Magic That's what all the magicians say.. Once they're leaning forward, and invested, they have to pay attention.

+Chris Sullivan as im going through the same, i deeply hope things will work out for you...! Like you i am so used to the silence it makes it really hard to build real deep connections with someone and as a result of that the internet became the place i lost so much time. Time i did not spend on improving social skills but rather on searching reasons for my lack of talking. Its a spiral. You might also spend your time doing the wrong things.

+Chris Sullivan Just say any old rubbish. That's what everyone else does. Here's a great ice-breaker. "Can you imagine that I didn't speak until I was 16?" Your interlocutor will say... (can you guess what their one-word response will be?) And what will you say next? Conversation.

+Chris Sullivan Actually, I wanted to say... Thanks. Now would you mind letting someone else get a word in?

From your response, I'm getting the sense that you're not a very nice person, so I'm not going to bother arguing with you. LOOK. I SAID ANY OLD RUBBISH. JUST LIKE YOU ADVISED. I DID WELL, RIGHT?

Chris Sullivan That's a good plan for you. Pick and choose who you're going to interact with, based on YOUR evaluation of them. Bearing in mind that YOU have almost zero experience of interacting to draw from. Meanwhile, yes, you made a start, at least. If you're planning on getting involved with the world, get ready for "not very nice".

klyser10 Yes, it's been said many times but I think we all (including myself) need to keep hearing it. It's so important to listen-to-understand. Thanks for your kind words!

I totally agree!

+stancexpunks I feel the same... "WE'RE NOT LISTENING" quote of the day!

+stancexpunks Sorry what did you say?

+stancexpunks .. exactly! That's the very point that I took on board.

I liked this talk. It made me think I should actually listen or read what others are saying before replying. Anyone else feel the same?

Me too!!!

Lmaooo

How long have you been together with your wifi?

That took me a while

dustin yomouf i

im dead!

Thanks steph lake

Daniel Bachmann Yup one of the best

+St Ft You took the words out of my keyboard.

+Zane Slocombe +Agdga Asfcasf .....truth * and brought it to light ( to perfection of harmony of music and every thing that was expressed with love ) for the people who could clearly follow his or mine idea of that "magic". well everybody naturally knows that this magic was totally true in the moment we shared it conscious. and knowing, it can be shared, must be real cause it fills you with joy and attention: keep that knowledge you now know can be done everytime you want!!! to create more joy, love, truth. its good you called it language, that skill some people seem to have :D we should all talk only that language, because as natural answer to any question doubting this language there will be truth and sense and clearness. i can describe your perfect sight to this truth with more words, but we dont really need that ;) thanks for sharing one more beatiful idea about the truth of being oneself. it helps to understand the simplicity of the universe. this truth, reality, love can not be falsified as long being real! so wake up everybody, love and be your natural self and pay attention to magic! :D you will love it ;)

***** thank you much more for playing the keyboard, feeling the love and truth in it, and sharing your perfekt idea with us all and yourself i love you and every being on earth that was and is and will be, because only magic can create that perfekt circle in every idea. and what we all know in our own clear dephts is that: that if we could help each other, the way we can help ourselfs, that must be true love. * and thanks for making myself understand that it was inspiration, i have searched for a little past ago... :P

bodrulm1 I appreciate the compliment. "What an awful crowd" is a comment you'll find on almost every single TED or TEDx talk video, and there's a reason for it. Here is my response I gave on a different comment: "The crowd was actually really awesome. The thing is, there was only one mic, which was on me. There were no mics capturing the audience feedback at all. Plus, the audience had been instructed to be respectful, courteous, and quiet for this 6 hour conference of talks, so they weren't in the "entertainment" mindset."

+Brian Miller Magic Great talk man :) went through the same experience. My girlfriend gave me the advice, "it's not always what they can do for you. What can you do for them?" which - in conjunction with your talk - improved my connections greatly!

+Brian Miller Magic It's almost as if you had a different perspective than us....;)

I'm really struggling at this point in my life and you really opened my eyes, thank you brian, you really changed my prospective thank you, I really needed that. I can relate to how you always were thinking about what you were going to say next instead of listening to what other people have to say and asking questions. I was so self centered I didn't even realize it. Once again thank you for changing my life.

***** Only you can change your life Christian. But I'm very glad that my message can be a catalyst for you to make changes for the better. Best, Brian

Damien C This is my favorite comment.

Damien C I was just going to click the thumbs-up, but this made me laugh enough that I thought it deserved comment recognition. (Also great talk, gave a really interesting insight to magic tricks)

Lol

+Damien C Hahahah! you're right! hahaha

oh my gosh I just laughed so hard

+ManthaaHD That's nice. Except Ed couldn't know what colour meant, and it could never be explained to him. Don't believe me? Explain colour to me. Explain what red and black means.

+strewf I don't think Ed has to understand what red or black means for people in general. To Ed, red was one tap and black was two taps. They could easily have said A card and B card and that wouldn't have changed a thing for Ed. The name of color was only used to amaze his wife, the audience

lamedumbjoker No, that's not right. Suppose I met you in the restaurant and, with foot taps, "explained" that the trick involved guessing the wardcast of the cards. That is, you were to guess whether each card was tredoo (one tap) or furren (two taps). You, of course, although having heard the words wardcast, tredoo and furren, would have no idea what they meant, because their concept could never be explained to you. However, according to you, you would simply catch on to the taps code and go along with it. And then wonder what everyone was getting so excited about. Right? A blind person can't even be made to understand the concept of visual symbolism. You couldn't make him understand that the cards even indicated a number, unless that number could be felt. The concept of a visual prompt would be as alien to him as would be the concept of a fifth dimensional prompt to you. So, forget about getting him to understand colours and suits. And getting a blind guy "on board" with such a trick, with no more "explanation" than a couple of foot taps would be a trick indeed. Also, the blind guy would, from the outset, have no clue what a magician was. You couldn't explain that to him either. As I said, everything visual, which we take for granted, might as well be taking place on an alien, unexplainable, inconceivable fifth dimension.

I disagree. Ed still had all his other senses, he still had touch, hearing, smell, and all the other senses our bodies have. He was an old man with a lot of experience. Just because he couldn't see doesn't mean he had no concept of spatial awareness. Instead of seeing with sight he "sees" with touch and even echo location. He can be taught to feel the thermal energy off of something and use that to shape his "palette." No, he will never understand color in the same way people with sight do, but here's how'd I'd try to explain it to you if you were blind. I'd describe colors as like the notes of music, A is red, B blue, C yellow etc. and objects are always emitting these different sounds that we pick up with our eyes. It's a crude explanation and needs work, but it would be relatable to Ed and within his scope of the world.

MrMrRapt Is that what the magician did? Explain colours to Ed using a musical analogy? Or did he just ask Ed to guess the "colour" of each card, out of the blue? Can you comprehend that it is very possible that nobody had ever tried (bothered) to explain anything about playing cards to Ed, given that they would never figure in his world (just as, although braille dominoes would be available, nobody would ever explain that ordinary dominoes are black and white)? That it is possible that Ed wouldn't be aware how many colours (musical notes) were involved (if he could be made aware that colours were involved at all)? There would never be a reason for anyone to ever explain to Ed that playing cards could be divided into red and black cards. Colour is simply not a concept you'd discuss with a born-blind person. The story is invented, Accept it. Learn how to think critically.

Ryan, thank you for this summary. Soft skills are hard!

well said, Monique. - Monika (:

+13shivan Great! You win a Half Glass of Water trick. Have fun doing mind magic with it.

Esin Ozdag You're so kind, thank YOU.

+Lucas Pitcher You're very kind. I hope everyone can take something, even something small, from the talk and use it to improve their daily interactions.

+Brian Miller Magic this, Miller is easily the best done engaging presentation i've seen on TED and arguably elsewhere. Perhaps as I relate with being easily distracted and not paying enough attention to conversations and emotion. will definitely practice to best of ability. cheers

+Brian Miller Magic I'll use it, it's good

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thanks

how do you know it is one of the best speeches you "will ever hear"

He doesn't, unless he knows he's gonna die before hearing another speech, but these are silly questions to ask, because we get what he's trying to say. It's one of the best speeches he's ever heard, the rest is just exaggerating that. If you know the song 'Eight Days A Week' by The Beatles, you get what I mean, we know there are only seven days in a week, but so do they, that's not the point.

I couldn't hear anything :////

unknown Thanks so much for watching.

maveric I didn't really think of it in those terms before. Thanks for expanding *my* perspective!

He's practically quoting the book "how to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie

+Paul Hodgson +Paul Hodgson As I said in the talk, "You've heard it before..." Sometimes we need to hear good advice a bunch of times in a handful of different ways before it clicks. I use my personal experiences, stories, and background as a magician to convey the ideas that, yes, have been around. Hopefully in doing so somebody hears it and, for whatever reason, it clicks finally.

Yes and your delivery of that idea (Love thy neighbor?) was perhaps some of the most practical and unique I've seen yet. To answer undershirtless though, whilst it would be good to see more from you there are a plethora of sources for him to refer to.

+Paul Hodgson Of course, but there's no time for references in a 15 min TEDx talk format. A book from me would be loaded with sources and references.

OMG yes! He needs to write a book!! From his own unique experience. I’m sure there are many books out there but his take on it is quite unique and impactful.

Oh and I loved the quote " the magician is the only one who cannot see the magic. And thanks for unfolding the secret to play magic with the blind man cause I was damn curious.

So glad it had an impact!

+Émeric Houde I'm so very glad that my story has helped you. Thank you for connecting.

+CrazyGamerZ4G Thank you for the kind remarks, my friend!

+Brian Miller Magic damn i have a huge huge huge problem with remembering names and do magic to! you nailed may problem thanks!

+Brian Miller Magic. Brian may God bless you you're a beautiful person for what you did for ed.. made me cry for real. thanks for the life tips take care buddy 1 love

Appreciate you! So thrilled to hear it made an impact.

Beth Stoller I couldn't believe it either when I first realized what I was doing wrong. Thanks for watching!

IcyHD they are not very bright

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Lol

Lmao

+El rincon de obey I am still giggling like a school girl after reading this

that was actually funny. and it's pretty hard to make me laugh..

Alex Foo I can't believe how far this is reaching! Thanks so much for watching and connecting.

+Brian Miller Magic and from the Philippines. Cheers!

+Brian Miller Magic Thanks from India too!

Frances Caballo Really appreciate the kind words, and I'm thrilled that my words meant something to you.

EtownScott You're very kind, thank you.

David DeMar tell us how exactly

Beautiful

Blind don't know what it is to see. They grow bored of the whole concept pretty soon and see it as an unnecessary nuisance, since they survive without it and that proves you don't need it. Only blind people who crave vision are those who have had it before. Don't feel bad about that girl. I'm sure she appreciates the compliments anyway. Pretty eyes make her pretty for the people around her, even if she won't see it. She doesn't even need to. It's not like women spend the whole day groping their own tits just because they have some cute ones.

Woow me too :D

me too

+April Thomas Exactly... that has been my experience as well. This method doesn't help you magically connect with "anyone"... maybe some.

+A. “Amy” Randolph Well, understanding that someone wants that so you can give it to them will you help connect, or so it would stand to reason.

yeah i think a lot about that

+April Thomas why not do both?

+April Thomas Yes, do both, and those who are superficial are not worth being together with. Meaningful relationships require meaningful people, and humor comes in regardless, but sitcom-talk is no longer the objective; it actually disappears, thankfully.

Thank you!

BLUEMRFREEZE Thanks!

Oswald Vas I'm so glad this talk was meaningful to you. Thanks for reaching out!

*talks