The Way We Think About Loss and Grief is Dead Wrong | Julia A. Nicholson

The Way We Think About Loss and Grief is Dead Wrong | Julia A. Nicholson | TEDxFolsom

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2 жыл бұрын

A framework anyone can use to triumph over the smallest loss and the most profound grief. Julia has faced an inordinate amount of tragedy and loss in her life. Those experiences unwittingly led her to discover a unique perspective on grief and loss - more specifically, a way to process it and thrive in the face of the unthinkable. As a result, her increased resilience and passion for life shaped a professional career that included becoming the first female CEO of MPI, a $9B company, as well as a sought-after speaker, consultant, and author. Her passion to share her experience and insight to help others led to her soon-to-be released book, “It” Happened. Now What? The 5 Realizations A Transformative Way to Process Loss and Turn Grief Into Grit
Website: JuliaNicholsonPresents.com This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@Foreverhodophile2 2 ай бұрын

Lost a loved one today missing her terribly, nothing helps.

@llo70422 8 ай бұрын

My jaw dropped when viewing this talk. This is powerful stuff!!! I have lived a number of very devastating things. Mom passed from suicide when I was very young and last year I lost the closest person in my life. We were laughing , having fun on a trail in Washington State Oct. 8th 2022.. In a flash after hearing only one crack a tree killed her instantly five feet from where I was standing. There I was with my closest person on the trail and she passed instantly. Today Sept. 29th, 2023 I can honestly say that everything that Julia talked about happened to me. Yes I have light in my life again and am moving forward with my grief. I just realized last week in Whistler BC that I could stop talking about it and that I could change my picture in the frame. I am now ready to keep this in my heart and keep moving forward one day at a time. My picture now within that frame includes, light, love, connection, and hope. This is my picture forward and I'm going to live it authentically. Thank you for this valuable talk and I have included your words in my diary. I get to go back and re-read what you said. If someone in my life is pained and sad I will direct them to you talk. Sending you Love Sheila

@nicholasdmello3400 2 ай бұрын

woe! its a grieving world n yet the world is busy in bloodletting . wish we all hugged one another n live as one body.

@wasilatyusuf5413 Жыл бұрын

I lost my sweet mother a month ago and it's been a rollacoster of emotion's, can't put how I feel into word's but your speech help me. Thank you P.S if you're going through grief and feel so alone even when you're in the company of people you're not alone, one day at a time. Sending you virtual hugs and my heart goes out to you.

@julianicholson168 Жыл бұрын

It is so hard to loss someone we love. Thank you for letting me know it helped you. I

@meiwa2020 2 жыл бұрын

My brother passed 6 months ago and I'm still grieving. Thank you for this talk... I'm going to be trying this framework ❤

@heatherwhatever7714 2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@TheJJmags Жыл бұрын

May god bless you and guide you in this journey of grief, my husband passed 3 months ago I’m in pain and grief❤️

@julianicholsonpresents Жыл бұрын

Jenny, I'm so sorry for your loss. Please know that you will feel better and tryingthe 5-Facet Diamond Framework is a great place to start. You are not alone. Together, helping each other, we can move forward stronger!

@julianicholsonpresents Жыл бұрын

@@TheJJmags I'm sorry for the loss of your husband. I know there are no words that can bring you comfort so I hope there is something in the 5-Facet Diamond Framework that assures you there is something more beyond what you are currently feeling.

@middleburyastrology 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Julia.. I hope more people see this. I am saving this link to your video. It took 5 years just to feel I could have a different and hopeful thought take hold. I am sympathetic to those who can not escape a painful pattern of longing to see someone they love again. I've started to realize that you can't know what you just don't know yet. That life has more to offer as you let this moment be its own moment. Really love your 5 R's. Good luck to everyone on this path, you are certainly not alone.

@julianicholsonpresents Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your comments and helping make sure as many people see this as possible. So many people feel the same way you and I did. I know the 5-Facet Diamond Framework can help them. It truly is life-changing. I'm so passionate and committed to sharing this with as many people as possible, I recently wrote a book about - "Move Forward Stronger" - that will be published on January 24, 2023. Thank you for sharing hope with others!

@orlandolopez5725 3 ай бұрын

Wow...I mean WOW....I have seen over 5 TED talks on Grief and learned tiny things from them all But, BUT.... Your talk completely tore me down and, like a true drill sergeant, by the end set me down on stable ground I thought I would never ever find. I am so sorry you went through your journey, but in doing so you helped me find the shore, as I was drowning. God Bless you. I lost my wife of 35 years in January and I thought this was it, life is over. Now, thanks to you, I'm strong enough to stop being afraid, turn away from the shore, and swim toward the unknown. Leaving "It" on the wall" (If you you here in front of me I would give you a big hug.)

@97warlock 7 ай бұрын

My huge loss came 1 month after you made this video. 12.-21 the worst month of my life & that was just the begginning of this horrible rollercoaster

@lb1798 2 жыл бұрын

5 realizations 1) ReLive exhausting dizzying loop 2)Reflect..is there any other way to see my loss 6 or 9...more than one true or right way to see something=perspective 3)ReFrame....Loss...snapshot...make me feel awful frame Maybe...something good can come of this...could I help someone else When you change the frame around it ...YOU CHANGE 4) ReConnect...Life needs life...NOT JUST EXISTING 5)ReLease....WE MUST LET GO OF THE. ILLUSION OF THE CONTROL OF THE OUTCOME YOUR "IT"....doesnt have to be anything as bad as death.

@nayelidalisay 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for this framework Julia. My mother passed 15 years ago and while I have gone through the biggest chunks of my grieving procces and established a pretty solid foundation to move through grief, I wish I had some kind of framework and understanding when I was a child, just like what you are presenting here. Grateful for your share.

@jonaevan1 2 жыл бұрын

So nice talking to you today. I really enjoyed listening to you. Thank you for your courage & for sharing. Sending you love Julia. 💜Lilianne😉

@robertpaylor6821 2 жыл бұрын

Words to live by! Thank you for inspiring us all, Julia.

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I am inspired by you!

@katrinavanaller2778 2 жыл бұрын

Julia is just such an inspiring and amazing person. I am honored to call her my friend.

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I am only a mirror for you!

@celesteroseberry3271 9 ай бұрын

Julia, I'm so grateful for you sharing your story. You are amazing, inspirational, and you radiate with the light of God's love.

@julianicholson168 8 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement. I feel so blessed to have the opportunity to help someone else with what I've learned. Blessings to you!

@americanwoman8713 Жыл бұрын

OMG! I have no words…. What an incredible human being you are. This is awesome. I lost my fiancé 5 months ago and for the first time, I have found hope in dealing with my grief. Thank you for this!

@julianicholson168 10 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for the loss of your fiance. I promise it does get better. Thank you so much for taking the time to let me know this has helped you. I'm so glad you have found hope!

@americanwoman8713 9 ай бұрын

@@julianicholson168 Thank you!

@annmarief9 2 жыл бұрын

Great advice. Thank you for sharing your personal story and a roadmap for dealing with IT.

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching it and your comments!

@kevinnagle4830 2 жыл бұрын

Julia is a leader and not afraid to speak the truth.

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@RubyNeumann 9 ай бұрын

Thank you. Very helpful.

@liciniasimoes8457 9 ай бұрын

Thank you so much.😊

@josephjoseph6943 2 жыл бұрын

Very very encouraging Julia. Thank you for you efforts producing this and thank you for the laughs today, you've got one heck of a swing! Barry

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

Barry, Thanks so much for watching it and sharing it with your friends. It was a lot of fun on the golf course with you and Will!

@mauricehodos6368 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this wonderful roadmap to healing!

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I'm glad you found something useful in it!

@Angelamarie314STL Жыл бұрын

Saint Louis Missouri here 🙏✨❤️

@julianicholson168 Жыл бұрын

Hi Angela! Thanks for watching my TEDx Talk. I hope you found something valueable in it.

@kathybrown5872 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing! You are amazing, Julia! 🙌 Thank you for these excellent “R” tools to help me move forward. I chose grit!

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

YYYAY for choosing grit! Truly impactful in every aspect of your life!

@claireinglis889 2 жыл бұрын

Self first is survival, thank you x

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

Thank YOU for taking the time to watch and comment on my Talk. I hope it helps you in some way!

@kallitechnimata Жыл бұрын

My brother passed away three weeks ago and I'm still trying to process what has happened....... I have to say this is something that I am planning to use in order to help me, the pain is ongoing and maybe this is something that can help... Thank you for sharing....

@julianicholsonpresents Жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss. Please know you are not alone, you will get through this, and you can feel better. I'm glad you are finding hope in the 5-Facet Diamond Framework. It really can help you move forward stronger!

@MaxmotoUSA 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent, sage advice from a very wise, wise woman. Lots of respect from here, Julia!

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching and sharing it!

@KeywestTt 2 жыл бұрын

Excellent!! 👏🏻👏🏻🤗🤗

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@SwainHealth 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Julia for sharing.

@julianicholson168 2 жыл бұрын

Thank YOU for watching it and taking the time to comment and share it with others!

@rider1956a Жыл бұрын

Enjoyed this but I will not forget that she had a father that loved her dearly. She never forgot that in all her trials. It followed in her path even though she was stubborn in many choices. What about the people who do not have that father-love in their life? It is a different path.

@sixgilled Жыл бұрын

💙💙💙

@nanceenurse 4 ай бұрын

Wow, this is powerful.

@Naturegirl1976 8 ай бұрын

I was traumatized since childhood after going to several viewings of dead family and friends. My folks would tell me to stop crying, "You're upsetting others." And when I couldn't, they'd remove me from the funeral. Now, whenever I've lost a loved one, I cry in private so as not to be judged by others.😢

@julianicholson168 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your trauma with me. Please know you are not alone and crying is a natural response. I'm sorry you weren't allowed to express your emotions. I hope what my TEDx talk helps you. I talk about my similar experiences in my book "Move Forward Stronger." We should be allowed to express our emotions and not forced to repress them.