How to break the habit of lying (to yourself) | Jeff Tatarchuk

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How to break the habit of lying (to yourself) | Jeff Tatarchuk | TEDxWaterStreet

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Күн бұрын

We often lie to get what we want, or avoid hurting others; but the truth is, the lies, once found out, can cause us to lose the things we really want. All lies start with lying to ourselves. This is a habit that keeps us in the cycle of lying, loneliness, and losing. In this Talk, we discover how to break the habit of lying to ourselves, be more authentic, build deep relationships, and ultimately win in life. Jeff Tatarchuk is a serial entrepreneur and founder of 6 companies; 5 of which have been sold or acquired. As the founder of Fruition Lab, Jeff enjoys being a connector and using his gift of ideation in helping other entrepreneurs bring their ideas to life and help investors find a way to align their capital with high growth investment opportunities. He is a sought after consultant, speaker, and the chief marketing officer and co-founder of VMAccel, a FPGA-based high performance cloud computing company. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Jeff Tatarchuk is a serial entrepreneur and founder of 6 companies; 5 of which have been sold or acquired.
As the founder of Fruition Lab, Jeff enjoys being a connector and using his gift of ideation in helping other entrepreneurs bring their ideas to life and help investors find a way to align their capital with high growth investment opportunities.
He is a sought after consultant, speaker, and the chief marketing officer and co-founder of VMAccel, a FPGA-based high performance cloud computing company. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@ethans601 8 ай бұрын

I’ve been lying to my girlfriend for a year. I recently faced the storm but the lying didn’t stop. I’ve been stripped of my lies at this point, either caught or came clean. But I still do not trust myself enough and I need help. I have become a pathological liar and it is not who I want to be. This video helped me realize that I have been lying to myself. I will change.

@josephl6727 7 ай бұрын

I've said that to myself many times. It's takes alot effort and selflessness. Until we get of our selflessness, it will never end.

@Bunzlol 6 ай бұрын

Had my webb of lies collapse last night. I knew it was coming, and I've done it before, and yet I still spun the Web. But I know I can change, and I will change. We got this, I don't know you, nor am I a religious man, but we can change we just have to give it everything we got.

@ethans601 6 ай бұрын

@@Bunzlol hey man. It’s been over a month since I watched this video. I can confidently say the lying stopped. I still catch myself making up nonsense to be more interesting but I promise you, it gets better. It just comes down to what kind of man you want to be. For me, I strive to be professional, honorable and I make every effort to avoid cowardice. We can only be loved for what we do, never for what we say. Hope this helps man, good luck to you.

@Krimsonkasper1246 17 күн бұрын

I am such a liar to myself and others. After watching this, it made realise what I’m afraid of and what’s making me feel so much pain that I could never heal from. Rejection and Loneliness. Thank you so much for this video

@presley7704 22 күн бұрын

Great talk. Most of my painful experiences have come as a result of lying to myself.

@JoshBrowardTVyea Жыл бұрын

I've had a habit of lying to self preserve and I think like you said, there is power in telling the truth. I think it was Frankl who had the model of stimulus, space, then response. And he said there is power in the space between the stimulus and our response. And I think to get out of that habit, perhaps initially by just taking time to think about consequences of lying by omission or just lying in general, instead of thinking about surviving in a fight or flight, we must fight against our instinct to lie and face any storm like the buffalo. Thank you for the talk, really helped me admit a few things to myself

@anaelviasanchez79 Жыл бұрын

Excellent talk but sounds cut off. Hoping to find more info like this. Simply put and very nicely put

@rushabhkhandare7944 2 жыл бұрын

This ted talk deserves more likes n comment,I found it extremely helpful. In the beginning of talk here is some technical voice break issue only that's why people are not continuing to watch it but its worth as u go further coz it's very knowledgeable video.

@dannyjohnson9644 3 жыл бұрын

This is amazing! Great job with breaking it down. I love the buffalo story.

@therealdomingo Жыл бұрын

I had to see this. I'm a horrible liar and I need to get some help. I will get help.

@jefftatarchuk Жыл бұрын

i'm right there with you my friend. happy to jump on a call and talk through more things that have helped me through this journey.

@Ineeadifferentusernamelol 9 ай бұрын

Me too.

@carolynbrownie 3 жыл бұрын

Loved this talk live! 👏👏👏

@SalmanGhauri 11 ай бұрын

Amazing! I learned this hard way as well. I can totally relate to this.

@kristiannaranalli Жыл бұрын

This means a lot to me

@courtneywilliams9530 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely amazing !!!

@ronaldojaxmidjord9274 Жыл бұрын

She didnt choose me. My lies where to severe

@NorthernCornerProductions 8 ай бұрын

Annoying that the audio keeps skipping in this. A lot of people experiencing this? Kind of turned me away from watching the video.

@gracepoints9503 2 жыл бұрын

Real Good! 😊👍🏽👍🏽

@slavysyn 3 жыл бұрын

What’s with the sound?

@dannyjohnson9644 3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately we had a really bad audio experience during our talks :(

@slavysyn 3 жыл бұрын

@@dannyjohnson9644 ah ok, thank you

@ProTroll69 7 ай бұрын

Sound breaks made this unwatchable. Hope it gets edited and re-posted.

@omtschand3432 2 жыл бұрын

Why do some one simply ly for no reason not expecting any benefit?

@scottyrosencrance2889 2 жыл бұрын

Idk I think if there is a lie, there is a reason. For me it is usually that just like as a young child, I do all I can to not cause a person to have to change their emotions because of me. It was beaten into our heads that other people have enough to deal with and there is no room for putting another persons emotions at risk just because we want to speak our truth. There are many reasons for lying and there always is one I think.

@Atclav 11 ай бұрын

Let's see, an adulterer gets caught and shame helped him realize what he was doing was wrong. Then he enrolls the audience to identify with his deception using guilt so he can do a Ted Talk. Bro, did you learn anything?

@anaelviasanchez79 Жыл бұрын

Sound brakes

@tracemagace8434 Жыл бұрын

I am not a liar. And I do not respect liars one bit.

@brighteyedbeauti Жыл бұрын

🤔....🤥 😂

@makavili4429 8 ай бұрын

Everyone lies. Maybe you simply are unaware of the lies you tell. Something as simple as an excuse can be a lie. White lies to protect another’s feelings. Any time you don’t accept the ugliness of reality as it stands, you lie to yourself. And with the beginning of one lie, no matter how small, it can spur into many other lies till it pollutes your soul. Yes, those who actively attempt to live lies in life are probably bad people, but its also all too easy to fall victim to the lies you tell yourself.

@Dcmaddog12 2 жыл бұрын

Question is why would she be going through your phone? Red flag #1

@jefftatarchuk 2 жыл бұрын

It usually would be. Especially if it was obsessive. But we both had trauma from our exes. I found out my ex was cheating by going through her phone and she found out her ex was cheating the same way. We both had issues with it. So when she had a hunch something was off... it was her first instinct. It was definitely something we had to work through and learn how to not treat each other based on what happened in the past with our exes.