Thank you Pete for letting my share my story. Nothing but love. ❤

I think it's absolutly disgusting that a person would not disclose a potentially life ending desease to their husband /wife

As a nurse ive had so many patients from Asia talk about the hepatitis epidemic there as well. Always get tested in the beginning of a relationship and if your partner not willing to get tested may be hiding something. I hope this man will find healing and peace of mind.

It is cruel to knowingly have unprotected sex when you know you’re HIV positive.

My husband secretly traveled to foreign countries and he was cheating when he was supposed to be traveling for work. Once i found out i never shared a bed with him again. I divorced him and have lost all trust in men. I praise God daily that i never contracted anything from my ex Please always be honest with the people you claim to love. Im praying for everyone who has been hurt by their spouses and hope your lives will be blessed. 🙏🏾❤

This is exactly why with any relationship you get serious about, always go with them to the doctor and do a full STD panel. It costs almost nothing and then you both have piece of mind. People will spend enormous amounts of money on a relationship and then not even do the most basic bit of healthcare. Boggles the mind.

As an outsider and not related, I felt a strong relief hearing the test was negative!!! All the best to you, Gary!!!

As an Asian woman this is my advise: most of these foreigners have been in too many countries and most are into different women too so be very careful in dealing with them. If you happen to have a relationship with them, take extra precautions by not dealing with unprotected sex or better yet submit to a test..your health is the most important. Dont just get in bed with them. A momentary flirtations could cause you your life...in the same manner than men should do the same. If a woman in just firrst meeting or 2 get in bed with you, you know then what she does or did with other men..i think i would sound judgmental with this statement but please take this as just a word of caution

Very brave man for discussing such a painful part of his past. I wish him all the best in his future. A genuinely nice guy. Much love.

I hope this poor man and their daughter can find peace.The fact he doesn’t blame her and still loves her shows how much they loved one another

My heart breaks for his loss. I am also frustrated at how her isolation probably cost her the chance to get the medical care she needed. Looking back, there were already very good treatments that were available for people with AIDS.

How irresponsible, negligent and ignorant is, not to tell your partner that you have AIDS!!! sure she knew it. The fact that AIDS wasnt detected in blood tests, it doesnt mean that there is no risk of developing the illness. I dont understand these relationships with Thai women, zero communication, sexually transmitted diseases, drugs, affairs, infected lovers, no real intimacy, everything is allowed except true love.

I sincerely wish Gary and his daughter well after such a traumatic loss.

Condolences, Sir. Dealing with a death is hard enough, but to have a shock is too much.

Sorry for your loss Gary. Myself and my mate used to go to Thailand a lot and had two regular girlfriends my mate became unwell about 14 years ago due to the fact he had caught HIV, he contacted the Thai girlfriend who he had finished with a couple of years before and she had the test and was also HIV positive.Ever time I visited Thailand me and the wife would meet up with his ex girlfriend as she was a friend of mine and the wife.5 years ago we celebrated new years eve together and we returned home a few days later.6 weeks later we got the call that she had died of Hiv. The girl had been in a long term relationship with a older falang for about 8 years and like Garry I dont believe he new and still doesn't to this day.

Sad story, but for many thai "working women" , a true story.I also had known a beautiful thai woman (she passed away from aids at age 38. Her name was Kaya. Her story was this: Kaya started working in Nana Go go dance bars from age 17- 25.. Got too old for the bars at age 25, had stashed away some substantial money, so decided to go to school and earned a business degree in just 3 years from bangkok university. But heres where the trouble starts : she had a nice job at a company doing their marketing for a decent salary but Kaya wanted more $.. So at age 32, she went back to into prostitution and became a freelancer only on the weekends. And her regular job never knew the wiser.. She had her own website and was very discrete. But somewhere between age 34-36 she contracted Aids from a client, as she had a policy that if the client paid substantially more money, he wouldnt have to use a condom..I met Kaya just 2 1/2 years before she passed away at my GF's house and the ONLY reason she shared her life story with me is because she knew her health was in major decline and had already been diagnosed by the hospital...One of her best friend is also my thai girlfriend.She looked very sick and frail having no energy and she figured she had nothing to hide so she sat there for an hour and told me her story in broken english...Let this be a lesson to all western guys: Yes , thai women are drop dead georgeous at age 35... but what did she do for work to make all that $$$??... ask yourself that question and get her tested, before you decide not to use the condom.

Amazing person. A absolute blessing he didn’t get HIV. Pete is an absolute amazing soul. I loved this interview.

Decent, dignified, respectful. We can all learn from this bloke about how to live our lives when adversity comes a knocking.

Today the medical industry has changed so much regarding HIV. My Dr. told me that when she has to tell her patients they have HIV, she tells them, "At least you don't have cancer." Think about that for just a moment. It's more deadly to have cancer than HIV!?!?! wow!!

Big respect to Gary for sharing such a personal story that takes guts especially when he’s still in the process of emotionally hurting I wish him all the best for his future thank you both Pete & Gary

The heart mustn’t lead the head in Asia. This man is a decent man and his original divorce affected him badly. God Bless him

I watched my beautful Thai friend Piyai die from aids,his wife gave it to him and he was married and did not know..She was a carrier but was never affected.. It hurts still ..God bless him

If you understand the survival mindset of some Thai people, it might be easier to understand how she handled this. While I certainly don’t condone her behaviour, I’m pretty certain (if I had to guess) it was fear driven, and by that I mean-she maybe felt she was going be dumped by him if she revealed her health status. Even if she got the right antiviral meds, she’d probably feel he’d ‘let her go’ and she’d not only be without a husband and provider, but that no one else would want her in her illness. And that maybe her and her daughter would be out on the streets, with no money or options. To be clear-I’m NOT saying that this happened or saying he WOULD ‘dump’ her-I don’t know, though he seems to still love her a great deal and seems like a kind person that would have cared for her, regardless. Also, my guessing this to be the case doesn’t mean I think she was a cold, calculating person: more likely she was a protective Mama Bear, worried about herself and her family: it doesn’t mean I’m thinking the worst of her. And please understand-I’m NOT judging anyone in this story-it’s not my place to. Until you’ve walked in someone’s shoes, we have zero right to judge or guess motives. That said… It was incredibly irresponsible to treat this man that way. To expose him to a potentially deadly virus, without his knowledge. I understand that poverty (if in fact, she was poor or from a poor background) and shame make people do terrible things. But this is unconscionable, at least in my opinion. And with THAT said, I’m glad she’s no longer in pain or suffering. I’m sure she was a good person, essentially-as you can tell he loved her very much. This story could have a had far worse ending for both. I’m glad he’s ok and my heart goes out to him.

I found out a few days ago that the Thai woman I had met in online dating and had been talking to for over 2 years and was in love with and planning on joining and perhaps marrying in Thailand has HIV. I am 68 years old and she is 64 years old . It is a very difficult thing to hear from someone I love. Years ago I had a very close friend die from AIDS. It is a very sad situation. Thank you for sharing your experience. Thank you for your channel and sharing interviews like this.

That is shocking, the poor guy. He has such a good look back attitude so clearly a good man. Hope everything works out for him.

This is heartbreaking to watch. I feel so sorry for this man, you can tell his pain goes so deep.... And big respect and thanks to him for sharing this story with the world. I'm happy he did not catch it himself. But what a terrible thing to have to go through, losing his wife like that... Just unbelievable. I wish him all the best for the future. And thanks for bringing us his story, Pete.

There's something so very attractive in this man's composure and attitude. He's also very handsome and would be quite a catch to any woman who's willing to understand and nurture his soul after all he's been through! He's a beautiful person. ❤ Sending love from Toronto Canada. 🇨🇦

With all respect, the wife had AIDS for quite a good bit! Clearly, all who knew and her situation kept it from you. As that was just cruel and wrong!

She either knowingly put him at risk or she cheated on him. Since he is healthy and she is gone, he is smart for not wasting his time being angry about it. Remember the good times, learn what you can, and move forward. Cheers mate.

I worked on an AIDS floor in a hospital for 7 years in the 80's (as an RN). My question for this obviously devastated man is: How could you not tell she had AIDS? They become tremendously ill with many different diseases at the same time. The muscle wasting alone should have been a red flag months before her death. BTW it is difficult but not impossible for a woman to give a man AIDS. It depend a lot on the type of unprotected sex one has.

As expats in Singaporre people know people have been charged in court for not telling a sex partner they have Aids so its a criminal offence

For the nurses to purposefully not tell him is despicable.

I think what people need to realise is that there’s loads of people who are walking around with HIV/AIDS and they don’t know about it but with treatment they can have a normal life remember Undetectable = Untransmittable (U=U)

Thanks for taking these taboo stories up with great serious journalism. You have a serious angle and i always respect that. I settled in the first minutes here and already feel sorry for the guy.... Hope things will be better. Greetings/Denmark

Passport Bros trend is taking many decent men abroad for more traditional partners, but this needs to be seen and share his story.

Just something doesn't gel with this story.... 8 years with a women married!! And you do not know ? I would be the first talking to the doctor, The doctor , staff , hospital , Does not know its you wife ? He are in UK while you wife is sick, or you didn't know either, very strange story !

Here in Thailand, sadly , my cousin and uncle just recently died from HIV . They loved prostitutes , it is not my cup of tea .

I know 2 women with HIV. Impossible to differentiate from anyone else as they both look healthy. Also knew a large chubby bloke about ten years ago. HIV+ full of life and fun. Not long afterwards he died of Aids. No outward signs he was ill or that he had anything seriously wrong. Nowadays with good medicine these 2 women I know both seem to live relatively normal lives.

This man has gone through a lot. Me growing up in that part of the world, it's an unfortunate that a lot of poor and desperate women living in that part of the world have to do what it takes to survive and provide for the family. This is not to take away this man's struggles. I feel for him.

Gary “Hong Kông Phooey” Brits is a profoundly loving forgiving person. His love ❤ story, loss, betrayal and forgiveness will make a great movie. Thank you Gary for sharing your story.

A lot of respectful young people, my son included, go to get checked out at a clinic these days before beginning a new relationship. It really is a very common mode de vie and then it is also considerate and almost puts a level of commitment to the couple. These days many STDs can be hard to detect also.

It takes a special person to deal with all of this and process the way he is. God bless the man and is family. I hope his wife has peace wherever she may be.

Gary seems like a great guy! Sorry for you wifes passing, hope you find peace and can move past it all. Glad you are healthy ❤

Oh gosh what a heartbreaking story. Sorry for your loss Gary. Thank you for sharing such a personal loss. I wish you the best with your daughter. You’re a very inspiring person. ❤

I’m guessing this story is not rare in Thailand

So sorry for your loss Garry. A very kind and compassionate man.

Very moving story. This man's pain must be beyond bounds. It is so clear from his eyes.

Hey Pete. Thank you very much for making us aware of realistic health risks when we are going to have fun in Asia. Feel very sorry for the pain he had to go through, don't think he deserved it. Wish him all the best for his future!!!

That's a little like my story, I found out two years after my husband death! I emphasize with you. Stay strong!

This is a moving story. The gentleman does appear to have loved his late wife very much. He seems more concerned about having lost her than anything else. Quite understandably, many people in his position would have been angered at his/her partner putting his/her life at risk. However, he chooses to continue thinking the best of her and honoring her memory, regardless of the circumstances. A most remarkable testimony to the enduring power of true love.

My condolences to you. What a story. Very brave to share it. I can’t even imagine what you’ve gone through. Hold those close to you tight. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

There was a documentary few years back, also in Thailand. About a twelve year old Thailand girl who was sold by her parents to work in a brothel as janitor. But the owner made her sex slave for foreigners/tourists in Thailand. Eventually, she contracted Aids, without her knowing it, & continued to please clients. Eventually, she died of this disease at a young age. 🥵

Sending you nothing but love Gary. Thank you for sharing your story ❤

Life can be quite cruel. Just counting my blessings. All the best to Gary! Thank you Pete🙏

I have a lump in my throat.What a humble,loving,empathetic guy...someone that would go to the moon and back to help someone.I can only wish you and yours,and especially your daughter ,Gary,all the health,happiness and success until the day after forever.keep strong,Gary, one day at a time.

If i was this guy i would be getting tested monthly for 2 years straight 😢

Surely this man knows he was at risk being in thailand

Similar thing happened to my coworker, except it was his Thai girlfriend. They weren’t married but they lived together as tho they were. SHE KNEW… but kept it from him. Now he has it too. They’re both still living but he’s not well last I heard.

All of the crying was your mourning over all the loss. You have suffered, the fear alone is overwhelming. Shocking way to end a marriage, there had to be conflicting thoughts down deep. Sorry for your loss.

Wow! Gary mate. My heart goes out to you big time. I can tell by your words that you are a straight up geezer with a lot of warmth and compassion in your heart. Not many like you around these days pal! Bless you and all the luck in the world for your future. 🙏🏻

Now you need a health check, credit check, full background check before starting any relationships with anyone…

It is a miracle that he didn’t contracted AIDS.

I know that this isn't the case in this story, but I worry about the men going over to Thailand for the bar scene and having unprotected sex. It isn't only HIV, but silent killers with no symptoms like HPV that they may pass on to wives, girlfriends or future girlfriends, be sensible and use protection.

The stupid part is had she told him just maybe he would have helped her make sure she got the proper care.

wow, this popped up on my feed and I’m so glad I watched. Thanks so much for sharing. Amazing story.💯

People may wonder how it was possible that he didn’t get HIV with sustained unprotected sex. That’s actually the likely outcome. Regular P in V insertive sex has a transmission risk from the CDC of 1 in 2500. Even if you had sex everyday that’s 6.8 years of daily sex before transmission. Anyone that’s had a relationship knows the sex tapers off enormously over time. I know a number of people with HIV that have had it for decades. If anyone has any questions about HIV, just ask. It’s worth mentioning that had she told him, he could have taken prep meds like Truvada or Descovy and there would be near zero transmission risk. Silence and stigma are as deadly as HIV itself which is why stories like this are enormously important to hear.

God bless this poor poor man. Thank you for allowing him to share his story.

That is TERRIBLE…..If they had known she could still be alive…..Today this is NOT A Death sentence….I’m so SORRY for Your LOSS….

Such a terribly sad story. I hope that the pain he suffers fades and that he finds happiness again in the future. True gentleman for caring for their daughter. She clearly brings Gary great joy.

Heart goes out to you mate. Respect ❤

I don't think this guys is entirely honest about her. Just goes to show you can live a decent life but still end up being a deceitful liar who cares about nobody but themselves. He's very lucky he did not get infected. Did he not notice her taking medications, hospital visits and asking what it was all about?

when i worked in thailand,. everyyear about 1.5% of factory workers had HIV positive. And they lost the job.

What an amazing person who obviously loved his wife very much. Thank you for sharing and being so open, all the very best going forward with your life.

Thanks for sharing Your story Gary Big respect It touched me deeply Sending good energy and thoughts your way 🙏

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your wife sounds a beautiful person. I wish you and your daughter the very best and I hope you’re able to find peace in time 🙏

I have met Gary. Very genuine guy. Very moving. I’m wishing him the best for the future. I gave him a big hug when I saw him last. God bless.

Heavy story, I'm too familiar with STDs in Pattaya, one I didn't know about is syphilis, which is widespread and can be caught even with condoms, as it's a skin to skin condition.

Such a heartbreaking story. My heart goes out to him.

What a strong and beautiful soul ..the respect and grace you have for your wife.love from Dublin

My brother died from this terrible disease..an i watched him suffer an loae all hope for years.....but you sir should be extremely pissed at your x wife...loving her is one thing...but her killing you is murder...look at it how you want..facts are facts...

I guess we need to test our partners every 6 months. Sorry for you not knowing about your wife's disease.😮 You're pretty calm from all this. I would have been pissed and very scared.

Oh my god. I am so sorry you didn’t know. My prayers are with you Mr. Gary. I know it’s hard to deal with grief and possibly anger. Focus on the journey of healing my kind sir.

This is very sad 😞 Sad too that his wife didn’t feel able to tell her husband she was ill. I hope the lady’s daughter is doing well 🩷 and I hope in time this man’s heart can heal ❤️‍🩹

Man this is a tough story to hear. No winners here. I can only say I feel,for you guy.

I commend your strength Gary, truly incredible. Hope things go well for you when you return to Phuket, best.

My wife said, "I just want to die." But I didn't think anything of it. I hate how believable that statement was.

I don't normally comment on any videos, but I was deeply moved by this (to tears). Love to Gary, such a tragic story. I have recently lost my Thai gf of 3.5 years, not because she's died - she's just run off with someone else. I am devastated, but Gary's story gives me a sense of perspective. Brilliant interview Pete, as always - such a good interviewer who just lets subjects tell their story.

I am wondering if she had HIV or something else? It pretty interesting that she didn’t passed the HIV on her husband..

Brave telling your story. May your late wife rest in peace. She loved you and she just wanted to stay with you and would not tell because she was afraid to loose you. I was in Pattaya first time when I was 25. Like you I Hated it. Was just there again recently now 55 years old, and that was much better. Interestingly how perspective changes. But remember it only take one minute to catch AIDS, so let's all be aware of that. All the best.

Gary please accept my sincere condolences for you and Goy. You are a gentleman in the true sense of the word. I can see the pain and I felt so much empathy as your story unfolded. You are so strong to put yourself out there and I know that strength of charachter will get you through. I know it is trite to say but time heals. I wish you and Goy all the best my friend. Hope to bump into you one day and have a beer old son. Khobkhun mak kap na. Khun Jai Dee Mak. 🙏

Super nice guy, I wish him all the luck in the world, a great person.

Thoughts and prayers to this guy and his family

I can't understand why his wife never told him rather than putting him at risk from catching this terrible disease all I can think of is she must of been scared of losing him but still she should never have kept this from someone she was supposed to of loved very sad for him

Heavy stuff! Sorry for his loss. Gosh, quite a story and wish him well.

Keep up the great work you do. Though I’m weary of watching this story I look forward to your positive demeanour. Thank you. I hope to get through this. Best to you.

The “Saving Face” culture definitely contributed to her secret. Sad.

Thanks for sharing your story! Wishing you all the best, mate.

If she had said something or sought treatment she could be healthy and living her life and the husband could be taking Prep medication to prevent him from getting HIV. They could even have children. It’s all very sad.

My deepest condolences 🙏😢 Perhaps your late wife loved you very much and was afraid to lose you if she told you. Not right, but I'm certainly relieved that your test was negative 🙏 I wish you and your daughter all the best 💞 Take good care. May your late wife rest in peace 🌹💐 Joanne from Singapore 🇸🇬

So sorry thank you for sharing your story I know it can’t be easy and I am so sorry for your loss I send my condolences to you and your family ❤️🙏🏼