The Art of Emotional Rest: A Guide to Well-Being for Black Women

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Being called emotional is not an insult. what's wrong with being emotional? pretending to not feel or to not be phased is harmful to Black women. Black women's emotions are sacred. Black women are allowed to be emotional, because they're human.
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00:00 Black women are exhausted.
00:27 seeking emotional rest.
04:01 your emotions are a gift.
05:01 give yourself to be human.
07:49 get the energy moving.
08:43 feel your feelings.
10:07 get it out.
12:10 find a safe place.
12:45 be a safe place.
13:50 protect your heart.
16:03 feeling is healing & freeing.
content included: being an emotional Black woman, emotional Black woman, there's nothing wrong with being emotional, feel your feelings, your emotions are a gift, the lie of the emotional Black woman, sensitive Black women, how to love yourself, emotional rest, how to rest emotionally, affirmations for Black women, Love letters to Black women, Healing Black women, Tricia Heresy The Nap Ministry, Tricia Hersey Rest is Resistance, healing trauma,
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@nekaylasmith Жыл бұрын

Being called masculine is an insult. I know for sure that I will never be masculine but others have tried to tear me down by telling me I am.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

Yes. I understand that and agree. What I was saying was that when someone calls me masculine, it usually means I'm passionate and they can't handle it, nor do they have a real response. They throw this insult to shut me up and it doesn't work. 💛💛💛

@nekaylasmith Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece yeah, I feel the same way.

@AleciaRenece Жыл бұрын

@@nekaylasmith *BIG HUGS* 💛🫂🌺🌻

@nekaylasmith Жыл бұрын

@@AleciaRenece My feelings are mutual ✝️💛 God bless you.

@zamanene1957 Жыл бұрын

My word for the rest of this year is “REST” I’ve been so exhausted, unhappy and emotionally drained. I’ve realised it’s due to extreme emotional, physical and mental fatigue. This was starting to impact my health. Cheers to a wholesome life going forward 🌸❤️ I deserve rest😌😌

@juicykindess3129 Жыл бұрын

Hey Zama love what your said

@zamanene1957 Жыл бұрын

@@juicykindess3129 Thank you 😊

@Apieceofpeace213 5 ай бұрын

This is me lately but I finally started crying it out yesterday 😢

@fazziland3932 22 күн бұрын

Thank you for this. I thought i was alone. I’m so fuckin exhausted.

@fazziland3932 22 күн бұрын

@@Apieceofpeace213❤❤

@tarajohnsson990 Жыл бұрын

You are ministering to me right now. I needed to hear this. I 've been called too sensitive all my life , so I learned to suppress my feelings. I'm worn out and I'm tired. My anxiety and depression are on 10. Thank you for this message.

@Elle-hx8ji Жыл бұрын

You’re in good company Tara. Love and peace to you on your healing ❤.

@bethegoodchangeintheworld Жыл бұрын

Thank you. As a Puerto Rican woman, I can relate to having your feelings not validated by others. It is as if you are in a play acting yet not really feeling your hurt. Your content has helped me through and reminded me to REST. I consider you my friend I never had. Blessings to you.

@lovegyrlnco Жыл бұрын

As a Cancerian woman, I hear this sooooo much and I just look at people like y’all are weird. You’re supposed to feel your emotions as a human being. I love navigating my emotions, good or bad, as it has allowed me to live the life of peace I believe God desires for us all to live. As a collective, we need to normalize vulnerability. We are quick to Shame people for simply feeling. On one hand we’ll say you can talk to me anytime or go see a therapist, mental health is real…. Then when people express they’re shamed. Let’s learn to create safe spaces for others. ❤❤

@AleciaRenece 6 ай бұрын

Thiiiiiiiiis!!! 🫂💛🥰🌻🌺🫶🏾

@dews3340 Жыл бұрын

Just saw your video. I missed a few of your videos, because I am on the houseboat. We are taking the summer off to be on the lake, swimming and 🐟 Fishing. Stay safe everyone. Self care is my priority. I am an only child............. Eze and unbothered, age 70 physically fit, speaking 3 foreign languages, child FREE too -- lakes of the Ozarks

@ladiepink Жыл бұрын

This comment made me happy have a good summer

@dews3340 Жыл бұрын

@@ladiepink Thanks. We love 💕 the houseboat on the lakes of the Ozarks, child FREE. Stay well

@sharleneedwards201 Жыл бұрын

Women listen to the words she says as I at 35 got pregnant, raised a daughter at that time was 15 and the man was an old breakup lover, we got back together he was horrible to me and I was working full time, getting an MBA, single parenting my daughter and pregnant later and stayed on school- work-housework and I delivered a healthy baby 2/10/12 and was emotional, physically worn out, no help or support from family and I developed HEART FAILURE..I live with this terrible illness now raising my son who lost his daddy of a heart attack in March 2021. Ladies I kept my anger, pain, suffering inside and I totally believe no support, no safe space and people waiting to see my next moves when the path was rugged no help but I felt sad, disappointed because I would take care of these very people even now knowing how they’ve treated me and my children 👧 😮

@lifewithspirit323 Жыл бұрын

After years of working and being a caregiver for my mother, I became ill myself and had to quit my job, as a single woman. I co-sign that we must REST! Love and light, beautiful ladies!❤❤❤

@jubiterr Жыл бұрын

this got me so emotional. it's like you were personally hugging me and telling me "it's okay, i see you". thank you so much for this

@Amber-rk6em 25 күн бұрын

Seriously!

@marthamutale387 Жыл бұрын

I didn't know how badly I needed to hear the words you are sharing in this video. Very validating, very affirming, and it helps me better see my strengths.

@tms2225 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. As someone that was shamed for years for having emotions and being sensitive it is so affirming to have a black woman tell me it’s OK. It feels like we are police for so long that we begin policing ourselves even when we are in a safe environment. Thanks to women like you I am learning to allow myself to be fully human and to stop deferring to voices from the past telling me that I am not enough or too much. Thank you

@missa9313 Жыл бұрын

I definitely voice journal and its a good way to get out of my head and release emotions! 🙌🏾

@umi_speaks Жыл бұрын

Thank you beautiful... for pouring into black women the way you do! You answered the call 🙏🏽

@pageturningpriestess2859 Жыл бұрын

One thing that i have been ruminating on are people telling Black Women that we overshare. Or being told to "move in silence", etc. I understand that most of this advice is being said to protect Black Women from being sucked into dangerous situations/people and to prevent sabotage. However, sometimes is can get to the level of berating Black Women. Some people are angry that we have feelings or angry that sometimes our sharing exposes those who are supposed to be exposed. I remember a few months ago, series of shorts where Black Women were crying. Half empathized with them and the other half criticized them. It is Black Women's right to be fully human. Some of us are very sensitive and that is our right. When I think back on my own past the times I have literally cried publicly or had a breakdown, I have begun letting go of the shame. Even if someone pushed that Woman to the edge with manipulative tactics, still all of the blame is placed on her. Now I am getting to a point where I am allowing myself to be a human being. I have been practicing not shaming myself. At day's end, those who are the most vocal against the Black Woman are those who are either draining her the most or benefitting from her the most. It is the Black Woman's right to be a multifaceted human being.

@suni8891 2 ай бұрын

‘Calling the black woman strong and independent is meant to strip us of our humanity.’

@Amber-rk6em 25 күн бұрын

That is a bar!

@joythompson9530 Жыл бұрын

I love this safe space. Thank you for creating this platform for us all to relax.❤

@ashamash Жыл бұрын

I am my first love. screaming with joy rn.

@maryidamha5235 Жыл бұрын

Hello, Alecia. I am not a Black woman and yet I can resonate with a lot of your words in this video. Thank you for this content.

@Jasmine-ot8br Жыл бұрын

This channel is about to skyrocket I see it And feel it

@InMarieNailz Жыл бұрын

Omgggg!! I have been say for yearssss that we should not be connected as much as we are. Our brains are holding way too much information.

@katrinawarren1006 7 ай бұрын

As a black woman who has felt her feelings all her life, and was ashamed because of it sometimes it’s hard for me to sit with them, even though it is my natural choice to feel them. Truly and internal conflict.

@AmericanCopperDragonChile Жыл бұрын

14:14 ... Yes, practice this as a sacred discipline. Especially bc YT is like the tree of good and evil. Load your algorithm with all productive content. Last week I searched up "icebergs" just to reprogram my Algo.😊😅🎉😁

@KIHarrison-vp5ws 7 ай бұрын

Hands down this is the safest place on the internet!!!

@evayaaasantewaa448 7 ай бұрын

"If nobody else is a safe place for you, YOU be a safe place for you."

@naturalcaramel83 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for words Alecia. I pray for God's continued protection over you.

@lynnsklavraie Жыл бұрын

I am a north african woman living in France and this is very helpful ❤

@ToniaAlex13 Жыл бұрын

I'm the same. I'm emotional and I have embrace it. I can be listening to a song, watching a video and start crying. What I have noticed is because I embrace all my emotions, I'm more balanced at managing the negative ones such as anger that can get me in trouble more than the so called ones who don't show their emotions.

@Groise Жыл бұрын

I love black Women all over the world and universe. We are warriors in everything we do. i love black Women we are important with beautiful bright light that we shine.

@adventureswithnaly1134 11 ай бұрын

💯 I thought I was crazy until I came across your video and many others who speak the same language. I realize Im asking the wrong people to understand me...

@solinspired4428 Жыл бұрын

I've been called masculine, strong and even aggressive (misconstrued for my passion) Because I had no choice but to be "strong" in the workplace and in a hostile living environment and even as a Black women in America we are labeled that forever and not for just a moment in time. But how strong are we when we are screaming in agony from stress and pain in the body and possibly suicidal tendencies from so emotional pain and no one listens or cares?

@sarahjackson1897 Жыл бұрын

Some many of us wish we had a safe place to just be emotional to just be all of who we are as human beings without someone looking at us differently because we do. For right now l got to practice being my own safe place.

@siimakyaks Жыл бұрын

I can't thank you enough for this. I really needed to hear this today 💜

@terrysims1809 Жыл бұрын

I agree… too much information…all the time…I agree…

@artistshelleybruce Жыл бұрын

You’re so beautiful! Thank you for giving me permission to not be palatable. I’m feeling many things at this time and they are all sacred, valid experiences.

@nekaylasmith Жыл бұрын

I hope the day is treating you well. I feel blessed to be here ❤

@user-id6br7vg8h 5 ай бұрын

This video deeply resonates. Thanks for having the courage to speak about this as a black woman...we need/deserve rest emotionally from the trauma we've endured....even the trauma we carry in our DNA from our ancestors

@ktlove5319 9 ай бұрын

Omg so I’m sitting here working a 12 hour night shift looking for guidance and thank you sis.

@kadp8096 Жыл бұрын

I’m not a black women, but I’m so glad there’s a video out there for them because finding self care for POC in general is hard. I hope to find this for my Latino community as well. Blessings to you and your workings!

@TheKrishmaa Жыл бұрын

Create it for them!

@kadp8096 Жыл бұрын

@@TheKrishmaa I would love to honestly

@TheKrishmaa Жыл бұрын

@@kadp8096 I know it sounds easier than it is...why not reach out to others who know how to organize? You might be able to learn some helpful ways to build community!

@kadp8096 Жыл бұрын

@@TheKrishmaa I work as a brand designer so that might actually be in my skill set! I’ll see what resources and time I have available :)

@TheKrishmaa Жыл бұрын

@@kadp8096 I need your services! I sure you can do this!

@user-tx7wc2qr4h Жыл бұрын

Wow you changed my life all your content is love i just remembered myself thank you alecia i appreciate you.

@denisecarty8327 Жыл бұрын

You are an absolute breathe of Fresh Air.. I so needed this. Thank you so very much for your gift and your Inspiration. ❤❤❤❤

@narcisoanasui246 Жыл бұрын

6:03 this makes a lot of sense. I watched a video about a lady who was presumed healthy, but developed cancer due to what doctors believe is her lack of self expression eating away at her immune system

@narcisoanasui246 Жыл бұрын

7:20 yupp

@narcisoanasui246 Жыл бұрын

16:37

@kiashanee Жыл бұрын

See our emotions as safe❤

@oceanofdaughters2541 Жыл бұрын

This channel is a little piece of light in the darkness that has become BWE content. Thank You 🌹

@sharleneedwards201 Жыл бұрын

You are an angel as your content comes always on time for me. Thank you for helping me understand it’s ok to sit and not be running for people all day and no can run for us even if we aren’t asking for help we are unseen❤️

@keishafam02 Жыл бұрын

So happy I found this channel. ❤

@speaklife8646 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Alecia, truly.

@fiyinobayanmusic Жыл бұрын

ooo taking your traumas to others as entertainment...that's deep

@ashamash Жыл бұрын

new subscriber and lover of all things you've expressed here. ☀

@Mollymolly321 11 ай бұрын

That’s so cool I do voice diaries on my phone as well

@sighanblossom5721 4 ай бұрын

Thank you. From Africa.

@ershiafrancois3571 Жыл бұрын

Your content is honestly so good and needed, so thank you Alecia- sincerely a new subscriber!

@narcisoanasui246 Жыл бұрын

4:22 a word!!

@simonebaileycampbell2013 Жыл бұрын

Yes, I'm an emotional, sensitive woman! Booya!

@tbailey6663 Жыл бұрын

Thank you ❤

@adavid1569 10 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏾

@andreaokonkwo3862 Жыл бұрын

I really love your vlogs every time I get the notifications I get so happy bc I know you’re going to drop a gem and say things that help me deal with whatever it is I’m going through. Thank you so much for creating this for black women we NEED more women like you ❤

@narcisoanasui246 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful video. Thank you.

@brendabowman6060 Жыл бұрын

Love this ❤

@nakiatexas10 Жыл бұрын

Thank you 🥲

@virtualcreativecollaborations 8 ай бұрын

♥️ Beautiful Blessings

@graceg4996 Жыл бұрын

This is beautiful ❤

@kylegary6311 Жыл бұрын

Believe it or not, you've described a lot of black men.

@sebestainpitts7423 Жыл бұрын

Great work Goddess !!!🤯😇💯👍😁🌻💐💝

@Think-see Жыл бұрын

You hit the nail on the head! I fell deep into watching Manosphere content after a breakup and I allowed it to sink me into a really dark place.

@DuchessAnastasia Жыл бұрын

This is just as bad as the kang gynecologist that went to trial for violating hundreds of his patients and exposing himself to nurses. They are gross.