Welcome back. I believe you can change too. One of the most purest friends I ever had spent time in prison. The only thing he wanted from me was to be friends.

I just want to thank everyone for the kind words 🙏

@@cliffthecoolcatthank you 🙏

Wow, good for you.

That took a lot of courage and vulnerability for you to share that. Thank you. Wishing you all the best the world can now offer you and then some. Cheers!

Impossible human nature cannot future see that just because they check all of your boxes. People are levels depending on the level you meet them they move higher on the scale of hierarchical. The personal experience and personality of one’s move however if you met later on life you will never know but what someone brings meaning they are now skilled in deceit and hidden woe. People always say this… people get with others for 40 yrs and power something makes them off you. Did you know they were going to do that? Since they treated you as a king or queen? No. Ppl change and so do behaviors

I agree that people can change. I was cheated on multiple times and didn’t even look at another man. I was in a sexless abusive relationship and cheated and I’m not proud of it but also I was cheated on and forgave my partner and he didn’t cheat again.

Yes. Cheaters find a way to re-cheat the cheating ways

It’s an attitude and it often comes from upbringing and lack of being disciplined in childhood

​@@leeolie3728Not in my case. I quit doing it. Not true for my ex though.

If it’s a he , then wouldn’t he be called your boyfriend or husband? Why do you use the title “partner”?

@@THEBATZZ i prefer the term partner ☺️

that's an old chestnut, and I doubt whether it's true. Just anecdotally looking around me at women I know who're long term single, they're not very happy. My sister has been single for more than 20 years, and is miserable. My mother has been single even longer; she's in better shape mentally, and has done well in terms of money and friends, but deep down there's a lot of unfulfilled longing. My flatmate is 62 single female. Nice person, doing ok, but she's very lonely. She compensates by reading novels, over eating.

I think you will see that a lot, of course. We all want love, so no doubt people (women or otherwise) will long for love if they don't have it in their lives, and that can be lonely at times. But that longing only gets fulfilled when you find "home" aka, the right partner. It is not just about not being single. In as much as these are modern times, women still take up on most of the housework and homemaking whilst working full time many times and taking care of the children. Clearly, men will be happier married, many times having more freedom to travel for work, stay out later or, frankly, even having something on the side. But a woman in the wrong marriage is trapped in hell, let me tell you. Most of my married friends are either divorced already or unhappy and wishing they never had children (at least not in the current situation).

Bull. Data?

This is so true!! I know multiple women in my family and friends of family, who remained single even to this day in their 70s & 80s. They are all happy and have no regrets for their lives! I look up to them and would rather be like them than the other women I know who are miserable and married. But mostly because those single women I know, lived amazing lives where they traveled the world and did amazing things 🩷 I'm planning to go Antartica soon sooooo I am definitely trying to follow in their footsteps ❤😊

It really depends on the individual, gender or age doesn’t matter, some people are happy to be single others are not. I don’t think it is good to be single forever because even asexual individuals like to have a partner.

I had to stop watching it after it became sensationalised. Such a shame. Well at least they got one married couple out of it.

Everyone is capable. It’s who has matured in their choices, character, and growth.

@@deanarjones9114yes any one is capable of cheating but once someone has crossed that line and doesn’t really really regret it, it’s easier to cheat again and again.

Agree! Why take the risk! There are a lot to choose from who don’t carry that scarlet letter. It’s the logic thing to consider regardless because they have already crossed that line.

Everyone is capable regardless of whether they did it before. That’s like assuming someone who’s never cheated before never will.

@@lowkeyalien6477that’s crazy that cheating when I was 20 years old gonna affect what men think of me now that I’m in my 40s. It’s cool though I’m sure there’s many who don’t and understand ppl mature over the course of 20 years 🤷🏻‍♀️

"I got bored of wrestling because of all the BS" Yep. That sounds like WWE alright.

I also think that there is an unconscious assumption that women will join in her Bf's interests, at least sometimes, but the same isn't expected of the bf. Women are expected to adapt to men, not vice versa.

Just get KZfaq premium

I was thinking the same thing. Yes you can get YT Premium or an ad blocker, but until then I think that it's helpful to let Stephen know it's hurting his brand.

@@divertitiaaah I get it now… Stephen is an investor in KZfaq and gets large royalties on YT premium subscriptions!! He’s using Huel to bombard us with video ads so much we have no choice but to get YT premium!! 😂 Genius!!!!

U are alive... Beauty is truly in eye of the behold... hold your head up❤

Despite the huge increase in awareness regarding mental health and resources and tools (therapy included) to help recovery and prevention, there are still so so many who will reject it It really all depends on the person. But yes, it can be a thing anywhere worldwide, but I think it’s much more an issue in countries where things like mental health is not properly recognized / taken seriously. Countries where fights, drama, screaming getting angry is considered “normal / part of the culture”

I believe no to low effort is becoming more common, I'm in the US

Aussies are backward when it comes to emotional intelligence

I hear ya! That said, there might be more 'macho' indicators of no effort too.

It is possible that some cultures perpetuate the 'no effort' on men as part of a 'machismo' identity. Then again it is down to the individual and who they want to be and who they want to to become. To a certain extent this is a common pattern worldwide, we use 'culture' to justify certain beliefs and behaviours that are not serving us (this applies to everyone not just men).. Parts of cultural perpetuated beliefs are beautiful, others do not serve us any longer.. Don't lose hope, you will find the right person willing to invest and show effort. In the meantime, show up for yourself the way you would like someone to show up for you. ❤

What a WISE comment! Very sound advice.

Very sound advice. I just recently ended a relationship where my issues got in the way. Doing the work. One day at a time.

This is real life advice. I hate he said is cool and all, but life is not so black and white

even RIGHTFULLY incarcerated! can you forgive theft, drug use, vandalism? i can't forgive partner abuse or child abuse; but that is me. we should look at ourselves as imperfect creatures looking for other imperfect creatures....

Just about all people are rightfully imprisoned and very few are wrongfully.

i DON"T believe that! but STILL realize that no one is PERFECT. forgiveness of your own foibles may help you forgive OTHER peoples PAST wrongs.... @@tatjanakane503

@@dagnolia6004 no. I'm not forgiving people for doing things that cause financial or physical harma nd pain to others. Drug use,...yup...that can be overlooked. Theft..say of food if you are hungry...again...yes. Theft of a car? No. It's nuanced. Just like anything. And everyone has a different level of what they are willing to forgive of someone else, regardless what it is. Ultimately there are people that will forgive and be with people that have raped other people. And yet...I imagine most females wouldn't. It's all relative and a matter of perspective and preference

Your last paragraph, I believe you mean "most women", but I didn't quite get what you meant.

My mother in law use to send me videos... I found them rude we don't speak now. Just in case your daughter in law was like me... please don't send her videos about anything. Even if she seems to not mind it. I pray your relationship with your family is blessed and free of unnecessary hurt,harm or drama. GOD BLESS YOU.

@@makedamack8674 Thanks for the advice. I didn't think of that. I had a horrible MIL and don't want to be one.

you are hilarious! i was feeling sorry for the footballers and their fans, as opposed to the professionals in the arts. your comment reminded me to LISTEN...

So you’re around beautiful women all the time. 🙌🏿

@kodeh7931 sure, if you'd like to take that superficial stance.

@@nicholasmesa3588 yes 😂 I would like to that stance

@lowland1 can you please explain? Do you mean late showing up to things in general?

Everyone can be late occasionally, but if they are consistently late (and you have asked them once to be on time and they cannot)then this shows complete lack of regard for other people's time. They are only interested in themselves and it is also a method of CONTROL, which as you will realise is what the narcissist needs. @@80stunestogo

That’s the question no one has an answer to.

Dr K?

@@rejectionisprotection4448 Dr Troll

A relationship needing work doesn‘t sound very attraktiv 😂. But in many ones it might do good. The best relationships perhaps don’t take work… Just attention, love and constant efford for each others wellbeing 😉

I have been married to my incredible husband for 25+ years. We are still growing toward being better people and better partners. When people say marriage/relationships take work that is what they (should) mean. If you love someone deeply, you want the best for them too. You want to be the best version of yourself you can be (not physical perfection: more supportive ,more patient, more understanding) because they deserve it. It has to go both ways. As long as you live, you will fight your own selfishness! But, eventually you’ll be able to share your ‘childish’ tendencies and laugh about how silly we are as people. Please don’t let the idea of ‘work’ scare you away from the opportunity to truly love and be loved in this life!

everything worth doing takes work. Relationships... especially marriage isn't always going to be sunshine and flowers. You are going to have to work throug the bad times, and if you allergic to "work" you will fail. This isn't just true for relationships, its true in every aspect of life. You may find a job you love that doesn't feel like "work", but there will come a time where its not so fun and starts to feel like work... and you'll be demotivated. So before you let that toxic idea corrupt your mind, accept that life requires work and embrace it.

@@darylphuah You jump to a lot of conclusions about me. I know it's easy to become angry with people you don't know on the internet and think you know everything about them from a few words in passing so I'm going to ignore that aspect of your post and just say that relationships are what define the quality of our lives. Your assumptions about me and your hostile comments are inappropriate. Yeah, when it was my girlfriend's birthday and I made her a cake and my mixer broke and I had to do it by hand, that took a lot of work but it sure didn't feel that way. Relationships take work in the same way that other things you enjoy doing take work but we don't call them that because they are fun and interesting to us or we wouldn't do them. If your relationship feels like actual work and that's not just due to something going on in life for a time, then, yeah, I think that's the wrong relationship. I'll give you another example... I go to the gym. I "workout" hard and we even call exercise "working out". There are occasional days when I don't feel like doing it but I do it anyways and those days I would say take work. However, most days I am excited to do it and look forward to my gym and running time and so I see it as rewarding, not work. If I saw it as work (as apparently many Americans do), then I'd not do it. I also play music and I write things and I do all sorts of things that we consider enjoyable but that could be called work. Yet, I like to hike and I don't consider hiking work. I consider hiking enjoyable. On the other hand, there are hunter gathers alive today who hike to get food and that would be their work so to one of us, it's work and to the other, it's fun. How about if we started phrasing all this as fun instead of work, instead of dread, we saw it as joy? What if instead of saying relationships take work we said, "relationships take attention and creativity and self-reflection of how we can make someone else feel better about themselves and are a big, fun, game and whoever plays it best is going to make themselves feel better about how they made another person feel?" It sounds and feels way better (and is way truer) to phrase relationships as a field of play than a field of plow.

@@Blackbird_Singing_in_the-Night Right. I agree with you about working on yourself. We all have to do that regardless of our relationship status. We come with baggage like traumas and are at various stages of fixing them when we get into relationships but we have them and should be "working" on them no matter what and if we don't have traumas to work through, we should be gaining new skills, learning new things, seeking new experiences. That's just life and hasn't much to do with relationships or not relationships. We should stop giving up on relationships so easily and we should not expect them to solve our problems. That said, I believe that the quality of a person's relationships is the quality of their lives and so being in them is far easier than not being in them...

PERHAPS, because in a modern world, we choose as ADULTS, not horny teenagers stuck with the decisions of our hormones. [this is ALL "perhaps"]

i love that in the longer form of this interview, Paul Brunson talks about how she has been consistent through the ups and downs of what life has thrown at them.

And vice versa

Slag

???? improving oneself doesn't require insulting others. @@derekporter66

Cap

Not true - average life expectancy was a lot lower because of child deaths. If you made it past childhood, your odds of living to 70 were still pretty good. Now, 80 was less likely. But still, you’re looking at being married for 30 plus years bc people also got married younger, too

You're just projecting your limitations on the rest of us. Go ahead and continue with your loser mindset. You'll reap what you sow. Meanwhile I am living proof that you're wrong.

Many of your college buddy's that sold drugs and did other drugs should also be criminals but our law system really enforces that on certain groups. You see what I am saying? Your frat boy boss has done things that should get him locked up but still signs your checks. Not everyone but a lot of ppl have done dumb things but are held to a more strict or at times unfair law system.

@@CassCreamDear Yank, none of my friends either took drugs or sold them. Don’t hold everyone to your very low standards. Your presumptions about my nationality, race and sex tell me all I need to know about your bigotry. Now scuttle back to your gutter