The Black Woman Who Identifies As White | Unpacked The Second Chapter - EP 1

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The Black Woman Who Identifies As White | Unpacked The Second Chapter - EP 1 | S1

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Mari Molefe van Heerdan joined Relebogile Mabotja as the very first guest of 2021 on Unpacked! During her appearance, she opened up about the journey of her transracial identity.
In this episode, Marie delves into her experiences, addressing the unexpected attention she garnered after her episode went viral. She reflects on her evolving perception of her identity and what it means to be Black in today's world. Additionally, she provides an update on her relationships with both her biological parents and adoptive family.
For a comprehensive update, tune in to the premiere of "Unpacked: The Second Chapter" on November 2nd at 17:30 CAT, exclusively on KZfaq.
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@sontomtolo473 10 ай бұрын

Sis Lebo I will never forgive you for leaving us hanging like that😭💔but I am so pleased that you are back!

@zimkhithamagqagqane3415 9 ай бұрын

She has grown so much, she no longer has that anger within her. Thank you Rele and Marie

@relebogilemabotja215 9 ай бұрын

❤️

@melo_fits2.0 10 ай бұрын

Looking forward to Matthew Lani’s update😊

@teboJoh 9 ай бұрын

Her story is sad 😔 Relebogile thanks for coming back 🎉

@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y 10 ай бұрын

I'm looking forward to watching this after my exam, as a treat. Love your content, you are an amazing interviewer and so proficient in both languages. Growing up I didn't bother to speak Afrikaans as my mother raised me English,so I winged my second language exam in matric . I aced the exam,but I couldn't speak the language, I regret not learning to. You inspired me to start learning one, I'd like to try to learn Xhosa as it is one of the most beautiful languages to me

@ayayaflame 9 ай бұрын

Whats your insta handle?

@karies6895 10 ай бұрын

Omg super excited that this series is back! Hearing people's stories really exposes you to the realities others face. You do an excellent job at facilitating this Relebogile. Love you! 💚

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

Your words are like a warm hug. Let's keep sharing stories and building bridges of empathy.

@Lenas_archives 6 ай бұрын

I‘m not crying 😭. She is a survivor I swear .

@relebogilemabotja215 4 ай бұрын

She truly is a survivor. 🌟

@thamibokaba7090 10 ай бұрын

I’m so glad the show is back! 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾 Thank you Relebogile and your team for bringing us real stories that affect real people. 🌻🌻🌻

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

Your appreciation means so much. I'm committed to sharing stories that resonate with real people.

@mphosedumedi275 9 ай бұрын

Am so happy the show is finally back 💃💃,Thank you Relebogile💐💐

@LifeOf_Uno 10 ай бұрын

Hi. I’ve watched the first video as well. I am from Namibia and I do understand why she feels the way she feels about her biological relatives. I am proud of Marie for embracing the culture that chose her and for not allowing others to ridicule her opinions. She did not choose the life she lives. She was put in the home that would protect her and give her what her biological family did not give. It’s only fair for her to embrace the person she has grown up to be. It’s unfortunate that people make it look like she is doing something wrong by embracing the Afrikaans culture, Be it black culture or any other culture one gets raised in, you become it, without the need of necessarily embracing it. It’s only human. Thank you for this more insightful part 2, i am also sorry that she needed to explain so much to everyone because I can only imagine how much pain it must’ve brought to her but also for the greater part of it, which allows us to realize how people grow up in different dynamics. Thank you #@relebogilemabotja

@Her_Self.. 10 ай бұрын

You said it perfectly

@sinazobogicevic3442 9 ай бұрын

Her grandmother started working for her family as a child because a 17/18-year-old is a child. Heartbreaking that so many young black men and women were deprived of opportunities.

@LadyKwenAdi 9 ай бұрын

I started learning Chinese at age 39 and I’m good at it now at 43. If she wants to learn Tswana she can do it, it’s far easier than Chinese. If she doesn’t want to learn an African/Black language it’s ok but being 40 has nothing to do with it. Afrikaans is also an African language. The main thing is to be happy, black or white doesn’t matter. Just be who you believe you are and be proud and happy about it.

@TeacherRuth-zv9mb 9 ай бұрын

True. Age has nothing to do with learning a language. My partner is 45 and is learning Tagalong.

@lwandilwandi5892 10 ай бұрын

Awesome having you back family! No joke but Unpacked was missed

@deontladi1515 10 ай бұрын

Can we please have part 2 of Dr Matheus Lani.

@siwemalele1884 9 ай бұрын

Please

@naomimotshwari7778 9 ай бұрын

We appreciate Mari for sharing her storie. ❤️

@exhortationsbyeva6345 10 ай бұрын

If I die and given a second chance to live.. I would still want to be black

@Dklady 10 ай бұрын

I've been waiting for this show to come back for 2 years

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

Your enthusiasm is my driving force. Stay tuned for more impactful content.

@sibonisso 9 ай бұрын

The brain is a powerful thing. The fact that you can look at yourself in the mirror and still not see what you REALLY are. 🤯

@siwemalele1884 9 ай бұрын

Honestly I see nothing wrong here , people identify differently and why is it only correct with sexuality, why not with race too or any other things ….

@pfulu 9 ай бұрын

But calling black colour white is stupidity, so sad😢

@thandombatha8242 9 ай бұрын

@@siwemalele1884its not correct with even sexuality 😅 the scripture says God will give us up to a debased mind because we rejected the knowledge of God, meaning we will strongly believe our thoughts no matter how wrong they are without question the source of them. And sadly that scripture is coming alive

@HeAloneIsGod9901 9 ай бұрын

@@siwemalele1884 it's the person who's in denial of there sexuality who says that , how can a normal grown man be standing infront of the mirror seeing all the body parts bit still claims he is a female 🙄same as with this issue...you can change all you want but in God's eyes you're whom God said you're period

@Ilovedoggie313 9 ай бұрын

@@thandombatha8242That is homophobic. Some of us are secular or Atheist. Homophobia was introduced to Africans by missionaries and colonialists. Homophobia is an import.

@ntombenthsambadlanyana6123 10 ай бұрын

What a touching interview 😢😢

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

I'm glad you found it touching! It's all about meaningful conversations. 💚

@seithatintumelangsetswanap2639 9 ай бұрын

I am so glad the show is back, Thank you Relebogile❤❤❤❤❤❤

@ameliamathebula6213 10 ай бұрын

Load and clear she did state the story and how she feels. We respect her boldness and congratulation on her marriage.

@sesonamnamata9271 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for giving us this 😭. We missed you so much Sisi 🥺

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

Your warm welcome touches my heart. I'm excited to continue this journey together.

@nkule2493 10 ай бұрын

Our favourite show is back🎉

@alicegauteng2358 10 ай бұрын

I am a South African living in Canada and working as a social worker. I work with Aboriginal people of Canada who were forcefully taken away from their families and adopted to white families. Not once have I ever met a child or adult who did not embrace their Aboriginal identity. The Canadian government had a policy of "take the Indian out of the Indian child" ( They are not Indian, but they are called Indian because a colonizer long time ago arrived in North America and thought he arrived in India) These people see themselves as Aboriginal despite living in a predominantly white society. My poin is I am sorry that I am not buying this lady ish. She just hates her blackness and wished she was white. Understandbly she hates her biologocal family for the stuff that they did ( even her once teenage mother) and she refuses to ackwoledge them and their culture. But she accepts the white family despite what their people did to us. Forgive the opressors of our people who benefited from the system that made them live comfortably, and had systems that the Apartheid government put in place so that if they had dysfuntions in their families they were able to get help. No such help for a black teenage mom who is living in poverty and probably has trauma and mental illness. She sees herself as white??? Girl please! Then I am Beyonce

@savedbyGodsgraceinJesusChrist 10 ай бұрын

Awu, mpha,

@Her_Self.. 10 ай бұрын

Oh yea because you have spoken to every aborigan there is and you know exactly how they feel. ❤❤

@alicegauteng2358 9 ай бұрын

@@Her_Self..I guess you missed the part where I said "the Aboriginal I have ever met". Or you dont care about what I said ypu just wanted to say something negative

@xabisoguzulu5379 9 ай бұрын

What a beautiful interview. Continue living your life Marie. Your reality is your reality. You don't owe anyone anything. Your life experiences are your OWN and not a reflection of black people experiences.

@NwabisaRadebe 9 ай бұрын

I always give people grace because everyone has a different experience. But it seems as though she was taught antiblackness. That's not far fetched if you're raised in an Afrikaaner community. In some ways, it may have even been a part of her protecting herself from the antiblackness by just deciding to identify as white. The human mind is fully aware even when we aren't. It could be that she developed antiblackness subconsciously as a way to protect herself from the general narrative that surrounds blackness. She doesn't want to be associated with what she hears in her community regarding blackness. Listen to how she says it wasn't easy for her husband's family to accept her and how her husband had to give an ultimatum to his father to accept her. So even now at almost 40 she is still doing the mental gymnastics of trying to distance herself from blackness. Listen to the way she associates not accepting a black wife as having something to do with being uneducated or being a "domestic" as she puts it. A lot of underlying issues here.

@user-tc7yj3qu8q 9 ай бұрын

I’m not taking away from Marie story because of course she grew up Afrikaner and speaks Afrikaans fluently, she’s been through a lot however I don’t think one can identify as a certain race because to know and to feel how they are ,you have to be born that way. I speak English fluently however I can never say I identify as white because I’ll never know how it feels to be white unless I’m born white.

@ndalamamashabele5956 10 ай бұрын

Sweet Marie and nurturing Relebogile had me in tears, what a beautiful story and journey both ladies are venturing into. I loved this episode❤❤❤

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

This episode was a beautiful journey of self-discovery. Thank you for being part of the Unpacked family.

@TumeloMotlanthe 8 ай бұрын

I just love her energy❤from the first day I saw her😊

@GalaletsangSeema 10 ай бұрын

So happy you’re back❤❤❤

@cobainbride 9 ай бұрын

I was never was against your first interview. I'm happy to hear you are happily married but also heart broken that you lost your grandma and dad. Wish you the best xx

@genuinejay7696 10 ай бұрын

Truly glad this episodes are back 😊❤

@sindisiwemkhwanazi6330 10 ай бұрын

Hi relebogile thank you so much for unpacked second chapter ibhave learned so much from the first chapter...the stor of Lwandi Mbebe whise wife git shot will realy be an honour to hear how is he doibg now and where is at now...and her daughter it realy keft us with a huge impact

@mogomotsi6595 9 ай бұрын

It is important to remember that she is still Black, regardless of her personal beliefs. Additionally, her statement about being perceived as "white" in Africa is insensitive and inaccurate. Many people who were raised by white people still identify as Black, such as rapper Psyfo and even Trevor Noah, who is half-white. If she truly believes that she is white, she should visit Orania and see if they will accept her as one of their own.

@Flourish_today 9 ай бұрын

But Trevor was never really raised by his dad. His mum and grandmother raised him. He grew up in a black community. Even had a black step father.

@mogomotsi6595 9 ай бұрын

@@Flourish_today No Trevor was raised by his father until certain age, again he could have chosen to be white considering how privileged white people were and are, but he chose to be identified as Black/Coloured. The lady here hates her family and the race as a whole to the point that she sees herself as white while living in a 80% black majority population. Are u saying she doesn't get exposed to Black people at schools, malls or social gathering even watching tv. To say that she is white that is pushing it too far, i will understand if she grew up in Europe or Australia as a mixed race but she is not.

@rejoycethebe6486 9 ай бұрын

Aaaaaaah maaan Sesi Lebo is back. I'm so happy and can't wait to hear more stories. I love how you ask questions and how they always come across as thoughtful and open minded. Much love❤❤❤❤

@NozukoMbhodiya-hi2ni 9 ай бұрын

Please hle help me I am lost here...or where can I get the first episode

@rejoycethebe6486 9 ай бұрын

@@NozukoMbhodiya-hi2ni Search black woman, white parents Relebogile Mabotja unpacked on KZfaq. That's the first episode.

@sandilemdo 9 ай бұрын

Can't wait to see Dr Matthew's story Chile, it's going to be a very interesting episode😂😂😂😂🤔🤔.

@nkule2493 10 ай бұрын

So sad to hear of her losses. 😢

@thuligeorge9747 10 ай бұрын

Love this time helps us grow and see things differently and it’s ok to take your time I’m so happy this show is back

@nomthandazomsenga2948 9 ай бұрын

Wishing her lots of love 😍

@lucricia_mokgolo 8 ай бұрын

Super excited that this segment is back!!!!❤🎉🎉

@Tshepisnyman04 10 ай бұрын

Ohhh gosh, I'm so excited, Welcome back Rele, I really missed Unpacked❤Can't wait for more episodes❤

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

The show is back, and your enthusiasm makes it even more special. Let's keep the conversations thriving.

@sanelemwelase 9 ай бұрын

I would like to see her visiting Orania one day. ...

@ayayaflame 9 ай бұрын

This is thought provoking. At first I was like she is black, she cant change that biologically so then I listen to her story. She says she cant accept the race because its impossible, it comes with a bad name. Its associating yourself with something you unfamiliar with how really? Also they contnously treat her like nothing. Nobody wants that. Its like being raped while wearing a orange tshirt, you dont want to see that orange , that particular thing again because it reminds you of so much trauma. She can identify as black but if she wants to walk around saying shes white let her be thats what she knows. thank you Marie for story. * forgive the incoherency😭

@ropafadzobanda9283 9 ай бұрын

I feel that her inability to do so is a sign of the trauma of abandonment. In the same way kids may suffer from gender misidentification due to trauma, there is definitely a misidentification here due to her trauma. I can see she has a lot of raw pain in her and pray she gets the help she needs. Help is not to make her embrace her black heritage but rather come to terms with her trauma and also will follow suit accordingly. It is a journey and not an event.

@morgynmusungah674 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for this observation, Ropa. I couldn’t have said it any better. This is obviously an issue of trauma of abandonment. That’s what she needs help with, overcoming that trauma that made her see herself in that way

@_molebogeng6281 10 ай бұрын

An update with Dr Lani would be interesting

@khuselwangcobo8279 10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂yes

@naomimotshwari7778 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for the show Relebogile

@disekomotsepe 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for the follow up episode. Now I understand her and where she comes from.

@nompumelelosibanyoni9804 10 ай бұрын

Im so excited about this second chapter🎉🎉🎉

@sharronmats645 9 ай бұрын

WELCOME BACK 💞🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤️Please interview Dr Lani and also the lady who worked in a bank

@mahaseramarou 10 ай бұрын

The fun has begun 🥳🥰❤️

@sphesihlezulu4123 10 ай бұрын

Alright, Imma go ahead and save this to watch later. Thank you for coming back, Relebogile!😍😍

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

Your love and support keep me inspired. Let's make this season amazing together!

@learnwithme322 10 ай бұрын

I can understand where she's coming from: she's a product of her upbringing. And it's beautiful to see how her second family loves her. But I'm wondering why she made the choice to not embrace the black culture as she got older. For intance, she has her hair braided, wouldn't she want to learn about black aesthetics? Just curious. But I love that she's happy with her life! And her mother is just pathetic!

@osinomhlephiri558 9 ай бұрын

They hurt her and I think it more about her biological parents.

@ItsZandrabyGrace 9 ай бұрын

Sorrows...prayers

@bokangphoshana2951 10 ай бұрын

An update on Dr Mattew Lani

@khetimthembu5713 10 ай бұрын

wehhh🤣🤣🤣🤣 i doubt he will come, he was introduced as a psychologist not a doctor..

@nolusizodlalisa5573 9 ай бұрын

I hope this teaches people that other people's realities are NOT the same as yours just because you have the same complexion. We are mostly made up of our environment and our upbringings, it's not that deep

@user-vq8vs8tg8c 9 ай бұрын

so true!!!! i know whites brought up in black environments and identify as black and people clap hands and embrace it... No difference here. dont be slow..Self hate here is black folk actually gating on this lady period.

@nwabisashiya5074 9 ай бұрын

This girl is a ball of delusion, I'm glad she's happy though...I guess that's what's important here. Bless her.

@makubumoloi8463 9 ай бұрын

Im so happy for these episodes being back...cant wait for that lady who stole from the bank

@nyakalloramapepe6073 9 ай бұрын

I am such a huge fan of the show....I just don't like virtual interviews.....wish all episodes were in person.....face to face....🙈🙈🙈They feel more real than virtual versions

@annitahmathebula2317 10 ай бұрын

Im happy ❤❤❤❤ show is back. Welcome back sisi

@siviwekulu6996 9 ай бұрын

I'm glad there's another season of this show

@relebogilemabotja215 9 ай бұрын

💜

@mafusicele8560 9 ай бұрын

Welcome back Mama Boyza we have been waiting for Unpacked we are greatful❤❤❤

@Samantha15594 9 ай бұрын

Simply the BEST love you ❤we missed you kakhulu

@mjngope 8 ай бұрын

I am happy to have Unpacked back ❤

@lushamavuso3061 10 ай бұрын

Umlandzeli wayo lomkhulu🙌 syabonga ibuyile

@nellykekana3829 9 ай бұрын

i’m so happy that the show is back🥺

@ntokozohlatshwayo4805 9 ай бұрын

U don't have to be taught about your race cause that's who you are. It is the culture that you learn. If you dont want to present yourself as a lunatic accept your race. YOU ARE BLACK

@joycemasusu9890 10 ай бұрын

Mari looks so beautiful and happier now ❤…she was very awkward in the first interview

@cobainbride 9 ай бұрын

Relebogile, you are a fantastic interviewer! I've been bindging your interviews lately and I must commend you !

@relebogilemabotja215 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad you enjoy the interviews.

@bridgettemaila789 9 ай бұрын

Relebogile is back to the Chanel. I kept watching your previous mail recordings. I love you so much ❤

@relebogilemabotja215 9 ай бұрын

Your kind words mean so much to me!❤ Get ready for more heartfelt conversations and growth. 🌟

@kagisomoahlodipodcast 10 ай бұрын

Welcome back

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

Thank you! It's wonderful to be back and share this journey with you

@mercymoloto2787 10 ай бұрын

I wish you could link the first chapter under this one for those who haven't watched it.

@mercymoloto2787 10 ай бұрын

Oh no yes I remember the episode

@charlotteechekwa9956 10 ай бұрын

Yho missed you sis 😊happy you back

@NomaMPride 10 ай бұрын

please invite Dr. Matthew again,he definitely left us confused. 😅

@robertamedia1232 9 ай бұрын

Man this is tough

@bradleydirks2397 9 ай бұрын

Half of the Northern Cape’s blacks community speaks Afrikaans, and the on its own does not mean they are not black. While iam sympathetic to the ladies views, I just feel she has a lot of black hate.

@nondumisomngadi6806 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for coming back 💃💃💃💃💃💃Lebo

@BLACKSPORTSTV81 4 ай бұрын

You can't blame someone for being raised in an Afrikaans family where they raised in their culture and language it was what her gran that thought was best for her to thrive in life and have the best of it so she may be black on the outside but she overall is an Afrikaans girl period and deserves to be respected as she is end of story .

@sanelezwane8835 10 ай бұрын

Sis'Lebo is back!!!😍🔥♥️

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

Excitement overload! ❤️

@SlungileMbatha-ch3nl 9 ай бұрын

Am Soo happy she s back

@morongwacreselda3813 10 ай бұрын

Welcome back Mama, we missed you! 🤭❤

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

You're the best!

@fenninghiitwikwa1666 9 ай бұрын

You are back!!! Missed the show

@anastasimankesemokgobu1724 10 ай бұрын

I honestly get where she is coming from, even on the first episode. She really doesn't have to identify as black ❤❤ This was a very important check up. I am glad it started a necessary conversation.

@siwemalele1884 9 ай бұрын

Why is she forced to conform … she is strong

@siba92 10 ай бұрын

You are baaaaack!!!!!! 🎉

@reflioekheswa6314 10 ай бұрын

😢yhi I can't believe my eye thank you Relebogile I've been watching previous episodes

@aphiweK 10 ай бұрын

I’m so happy, you’re back 🎉🎉

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

I'm thrilled to be back, and your enthusiasm is the perfect start to this new season. Let's make it extraordinary!

@zah4569 9 ай бұрын

Curious to know if Marie has ever experienced any kind of racism in her life? I appreciate that she identifies as Afrikaner...but im genuinely curious to understand just how protected (under the protective bubble her adoptive parents provided)she has been, her entire life. Congratulations on your nuptials..girl ultimately its your soul that touches people's lives. Stay blessed.

@k.mphahlele8633 9 ай бұрын

But lots of people get raised by their grandparents all the time they don’t abandon their blackness.. why did she abandon her roots.. still not making sense to me. I get it is her story but it’s explains her situation but not her mindset

@Yassmiinn. 9 ай бұрын

She was adopted by a white family.

@Lenas_archives 6 ай бұрын

I don’t think you get this , but it’s like if ”People of my own skin colour that brought me to this earth couldn’t love me enough or take care of me but someone from a different race sees me worthy and took the responsibility“ like that thought damages you , so I think I understand where she is coming from .

@Lenas_archives 6 ай бұрын

Also she was raised by purely Afrikaners

@MatlouLebo 5 ай бұрын

I really love Marie ❤️

@nicholasgobha8696 9 ай бұрын

Wow are you back, I was wondering if you will ever come back here or the show has been bought to TV yey a lot was going through my mind. Hope you back

@bridgettemaila789 9 ай бұрын

❤ Sesi Lebo. God continues to bless you.❤

@Bokang_mogash3510 9 ай бұрын

You are perfect the way you are, you don't need to try hard to be what you're not. I mean being black was not installed in you from a young age. Just be you, it's not always about colour or hair, it's how you see yourself that matters the most.

@jessicanhlapo9339 9 ай бұрын

I appreciate your feedback. There are many out there just like Mare...I was born in a family both parents being black but my paternal grandparents from my late dad's side were Afrikaans speakers and being High school teachers. I grew up speaking Afrikaans at home and English because of school. We as children nor both my parents have ever practiced black culture and my siblings married outside so called "black" cultures .Ones own insecurities causes you to mock another and look at your skin colour but they have no idea how you were raised.

@relebogilemabotja215 4 ай бұрын

Being true to yourself is what matters most. Embracing who you are is empowering.

@tendaimashingaidze7823 9 ай бұрын

Are you back on KZfaq sisi Lebo.... missed you loads .. your fan from across the borders🇿🇼🇿🇦🇿🇼🇿🇦♥️

@relebogilemabotja215 9 ай бұрын

Hey, lovely soul! 🌟 I'm back and super excited! Your support from across the borders means everything to me! #UnpackedTheSecondChapter"

@pfulu 9 ай бұрын

Your blackness is in your skin colour Sesi 😢

@thuligeorge9747 10 ай бұрын

I would love to read that book what a story I also can’t wIt putting it out to the universe

@MadamTMT 10 ай бұрын

Re within, once again. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉welcome back Lebo😊

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for the warm welcome back! Let's make this season unforgettable!

@asiveangel4940 9 ай бұрын

Please bring back Dr Matthew, we have questions😂😂

@mabathomalope3350 10 ай бұрын

I will have a topic to share with my coworkers, lobe you Relebogile❤️❤️❤️

@relebogilemabotja215 10 ай бұрын

That's fantastic to hear! I'm all about sparking meaningful conversations.

@nompumelolo 10 ай бұрын

Nah i get her perspective. Imagine going to your grandmother's funeral and your mom sees you as a cash cow??!!! Heck no! My mother is that type and i snipped her off real quick (well she snipped me off and wanted to come back and i let her come back then she wanted me in jail.. Story for another day). She's living the best life God has afforded her. I don't see anything wrong with her decision. Family is the people that love and accept you, unfortunately a lot of black mothers forget this.

@learnwithme322 10 ай бұрын

Her mother is pathetic!

@-Natefo- 10 ай бұрын

Period.💪🏾💅🏾

@moremogolomoremogolo5328 9 ай бұрын

I agree with you 💯 I just accept and love her. What she went through is deep and only her knows how she feels. She is black and she knows that, her interpretation of her blackness is a subject of great interest. I love her and love her family that loved her and still do. Count me in Marie🫂❤️

@kea_mpete 9 ай бұрын

We need doctor Matthew hle😂😂

@topshamahs 9 ай бұрын

Her adoptive family did her a disservice. Parents who adopt kids from a different ethnic group, have a responsibility to teach and expose these kids so they don't have identity crisis.

@Lenas_archives 6 ай бұрын

It was 1986 or so they tried as best as they could

@jom1089 9 ай бұрын

I love Lebo and the insight, wisdom and questions she brings to her guests. It appears to me that perhaps due to the abandonment the guest faced, she associates that with race. I feel she is trying to move away from that ( abandonment, hurt, pain ) and almost dis- associating . Race is a Social construct , rightly or wrongly. She is going to live an exhausting life of trying to be accepted by white people because life is not only about how we see ourselves but how the world , people and society see us . Also, she should not over invest in her husband's support. It will get exhausting for him too and one day he may wake and just tell her to 'just be black ' and he can even marry someone white . This is life. Self worth is who we are to the core. To consciously not have black friends for example is a sign of her own ignorance. She is likely to treat servants badly when she's with white people so I as to confirm she is one of them. People have worked far too hard to stand tall as black people so I understand the backlash. Don't try and prove , just be and prepare to stand in your blackness at some point. Interesting story. All the best.