Healing starts when you walk away from the narcissist. One year of misery and finally found these videos. Thank god!

Healing comes only when you realize what was going on with you .

My eldest sister is a pathological narcissist. She was the "golden child" in our family, she wasn't shamed.

So that's the problem with society when People take on that victim state. Don't take the responsibility for the wrong they did regardless of why they did it. Anything we do that's wrong is wrong no matter what circumstances.

My wife's a mess, she makes up things as we go along. I'm seeing a therapist soon , you gave me great information thank you so much sir

AMEN We can't play the victim

I didn't have a shame core, they wanted me to have that.

Thank you for being so real and deep❤❤❤

Hearing you reference yourself gave me a sense of relief and courage to turn within myself when I feel the same; tysm.

You are probably 'thee' ''most'' honest, down to earth, professional, humble, 'real' YT'br who speaks of ''such things'' [ that said, I am referring to all of your content/all your videos] ~ I also love how you share ''real life'' examples & are willing to admit your shortcomings .... that - takes GUTS, someone who is ACCOUNTABLE to self & others & HAS PUT 'EGO' ASIDE ! Bottom line, ... in this 'world today that we live in' - that is ***HUGE*** !!!! So, Thank-you, for being YOU !! On a side note, YOU ARE the 1st person to [finally] go ''in-depth'' about the TRUTH of the Victim Mentality & how they get ''all the attention'' - as you know, sadly, so many people are totally fooled by these people : ( Again, Thank-you for sharing such quality content - I [& I know, soooo many others] have been BLESSED by your channel ! Most Sincerely, Cindy : )

Truth …. ACA and Narcissism and Codependency/ self love deficiency understanding has helped me see Me. ❤️

Kenny, this is DEEP!

I'm glad about your classes. You are definitely worth the hourly rate, but its out of most peoples range. I watch your videos on the daily. Its better than most of the therapy I've been through. And so honest and hopeful. I'm not sure its about shame as much as fear of dealing with the emotional wreckage. When I book a session, I'm sure you'll have my life in order from house, to wardrobe to interpersonal skills.

I refuse to be victimized...my choices have lead up to the events that have taken place...I chose the abusive jerks I got into every relationship with ..I have felt the consequences...I know what I will not accept in my life any longer .

Containment, and "losing containment" would be a great video topic.

That ship has not sailed. We can reparent ourselves. With counseling, self love and defending ourselves, seeking outside help..

Try convincing the court's you're not a victim. Dang, it's hard.

thank you: you’re a man of honest compassion..

Finally getting your vids in my feed,Kenny Thanks🦋

Huge fan of you, you're very self critical and not stuck in a messiah mindset like some can be

You’re speaking to the codependent. Something that we are in desperate need of . In fact, many channels what even use term

Kenny you are so right about everything you said. Thank you

They dont want u to talk n or your opinion ..

Thank you! Didn’t realise how much I shift to victim mentality .

Please do a video about why someone would take a simple remark and make a huge hell of an argument.. and basically go crazy.. and the remarks was not even mean .. but they made it that way.. I don't understand after me being soooo nice to them waiting on them hand and foot.. walking on eggs shells yet I'm wrong I don't get it!!!!

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Does it mean I’ve already done the work if I’m not blaming them or shaming them.. I acknowledge I have a pattern of being attracted to narcissists mostly because I do feel for them, intrigued by them and I admit at times thought I could help them… but I really just wanted them to self reflect and take ownership of their toxic behaviors. I just need to realize I don’t ‘have’ to stick around to put up with it. It’s really hard to have conversations when you acknowledge your part and the other person just won’t. It’s incredibly invalidating

I can't Kenny. Your suit, which looks great, matches the couch cushions

Amen

Your fantastic sir

Ooh great explanation and something I have to work out. Thank you. I've been trying to learn from not being the victim and wasn't sure what that looked like so this is so good for me to understand.

Kenny I just wanted to thank you. I find your vulnerability in your imperfections inspiring and humorous at the same time. Thanks for showing how life can be through your presence!

No no no, this feels completely made up. It's not about what you claim.

İ don't believe that that are shame shifters because when some people feel shame they go and get drunk, not pass it onto someone else.

I can see that!

"professional victims" I started using that phrase many many years ago

Hi agree but I had a job etc when I met the narcisist, I became dependable and became a child, I was kept there in a victim position and I could not leave the pain was to big to leave that person (guilt and shame I felt when I was leaving).

I love your videos Kenny. You are so on point. I'd love to meet you some time, you've helped me so much and you continue to. Question about a thought I had. Would I be correct in saying that a healthy relationship is predominantly an interactive one where a relationship with a narcissist is a reactive one...feeling as if you are on the defensive all the time? Feeling like you constantly have to defend your character because no matter what you do...here comes the condemnation and the shaming. I love your reality analysis. I will use that. Very very helpful Kenny. Thank you again. Now I'm going to rewatch this. Have a great day.

Everyone believes something that's not true. Or else we'd have no problems and be perfect.

Wish shame or hurt feelings could be discussed way more, idk bcz it is critical and gets to the point opening irresponsible eyes Easier ways to work with it

Please give up examples in these tutorials. Childhood shame- vicious remarks? Mocking? "I wish you were never born; too bad you look like your father's side with a big nose; why are you a dummy?" I feel like I'm missing the last bit of information.

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So the solution is to master my emotions- to understand my emotions? And at the same time not defend myself and not fight back? And also not share it with anybody? I dont get.. I feel I need to fight back because otherwise it stucks inside - all negative emotions..and I even doubt my own perception.. I mean - not fight back by blaming the other but telling the truth out loud..

No immunity to hurt that Narcissist gives .. in spite of knowing all about Narcissism … and total detachment . The hurt continues

I don't find the masterclass option at 47 a month on the website ..could someone guide me?

Folks we are not messed up most of us were never shamed as kids . we just met the wrong person end of story. He’s is way off the mark he found a niche ,this is his story not the majority ... if this is your story do the work learn their issues ,and get out . this victim versus victim shit is wrong

You think it is so easy to leave the Narcissist

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