I hope Chiara heals her heart and soul. However, I do believe that true love is when you can go through depressive episodes together and make it through. If we all broke up because we are going through a tough time we all would be single. Chiara always spoke about how the Turkish guy is perfect, amazing, caring, loving and a true gentleman. I think his love was just too much for her and her guilt for not being able to reciprocate the same amount of love was what made her break up with him. She keeps saying she loves him as a person, I think romantic love was not there anymore. She also says she's hurting because of the pain she caused him, again there is guilt there. I saw this coming because in previous podcast episodes she spoke about her toxic traits and how sometimes she can't believe she's in such a peaceful healthy relationship because she's so use to toxic ones. Honestly, I think this is a great learning lesson for young people in our generation. I hope they both heal and I truly hope both of them find partner's who love them unconditionally and they ALSO love them back unconditionally.

I literally broke up with my boyfriend 2 days ago and ive been so distraught. This podcast episode is so needed

You’re so strong! To talk about your pain with such openness and earnestness. For me it was also important to look at breakups from a different angle. It’s really incredible that you look up for yourself and your mental health so carefully, hope you, and him, will find balance and happiness you deserve💔

How many cliches did this girl use? Maybe keep things private?

Thank you for all the content that you’re sharing 🙏 it’s very important to know that sometimes it doesn’t work out for other people too, it’s not the end of the world and we can see that the life goes on, even if it feels that you’ve lost the love of your life 💔

Chiara you are absolutely brave and amazing for opening up like this. And you definitely don’t own us an explanation, but thank you so much for this moment of truth of life you’ve given us. And don’t listen to the haters, some people are just the type that won’t ever understand how tough it is to find love and then make that love work and last… and when it doesn’t… well, it doesn’t get easier. I’m so glad you ended things on good terms (although we were all rooting for you) but life is life sometimes and it sucks. Sending so much love to you both! And please never ever give up on love, no matter how many tries it takes! ❤️❤️❤️

None of your relationships are a failure. You learn so much about yourself and what you want/need. They are incredibly important for that stepping stone in your life. You deserve space and time to process. I love seeing each side of your life, and if you feel like you need to be more private then I’ll also be here for funny videos ❤ Hope you both find peace and happiness

You know Chiara, I feel you. I can not be thankful enough that you posted this and how much it mean to me and know this, it's life saving to know that we are not alone in these kind of times. I have been watching your content from a year or two. And it's great and encouraging to know that you did whatever you felt needed to be done for your well being and those who love you and are around you. It takes whole lot of courage. You make me feel proud that I am following a person who feels as genuine and thoughtful as I am. Love you lots.❤ Remember this.. you will not be sad forever. ❤ Take care

Girlll your perspective is so valid. It's like some people can just stick to one relationship but here we are trying over and over and over again. Honestly it's better and we're brave! Best wishes

If you are not fully healed, you can never love another person right. And it will be hard hearing this, but you did not love him. Although you think it was love, it was not. Whether the person is half way across the world or a 2 hour flight away, love involves patience. You mention “ marry him” “ have kids together” what if you had to do long distance whilst being married? Would you have left the whole relationship because it’s “hard”? Love isn’t like it is in the movies. Hard truth, it’s never a fairy tale, love comes with its challenges but only two souls who are deeply in love and willing to stay in love can fight through it. I really think you need to just give this whole relationship thing a break and take time for yourself. I’m not saying it’s your fault but you really need to heal fully in order to love properly.

If you don't feel comfortable with your bf when you're depressed, this is definitely a reason to break up. Please don't do long distance anymore, it makes you only more anxious 🙏

It looks like you've found your excuses. You seem to prefer toxicity.. You had a good, loving relationship and you just didn’t want it... I'm sorry, but I am being honest..

Long distance relationships are often the cause of separation, I wish you to be comfortable with yourself in the future.I send you much love🥰

Lots of love and support to your way. Everything is gonna be so much better ❤

I hope you feel well,healthy and happy soon,keep believing girl,true love will find you❤Sending you lots of love and good energy🤗✨️

You don’t need to give us explanation girl❤❤❤sending you love, hope you gonna feel better soon

Same timing, that’s crazy 🥺 totally relatable 💔 Sending you love 🫶🏻

Also 25 and had 3 boyfriends in the last 4 years. No judgement here, you will be okay, we all try our best ❤️ sending love

the thing is, we sometimes don't know/ realized that we need a break and get to focus on ourselves more. but when you don't give that time for yourself and keep searching for love ( as she mentioned she date to marry kinda person which i understand ), your heart will be restless and unable to focus on yourself. this is when the quote " love yourself first before you love someone else " applied. because when you just keep jumping from one relationship to another in a short period of times, you don't have time to heal completely. then when you are in a new relationship, that's when it feel like kind of toxic sometimes because you keep feeling guilty for not being able to reciprocate the feelings to that other person. and you will constantly feeling guilty throughout the relationship because you couldn't keep up with the love and care that other person gave. then the relationship will face hardships. then you will blame yourself and feel guilty for the damages that you 'caused' and at the end will result in breakup.. it will be an ongoing cycle if you don't give yourself time to heal and improvement whether emotionally or mentally. i really love you chiara but you need to give yourself a break and focus more on yourself. strive for happiness for yourself first 😊 you'll find the right one when you're ready / the time comes 🤞🏼 sending lots of love

I actually too had a similar story going. We still get along after a year of breaking up and I too was convinced he can't be matched as he rose my bar so high. But I met someone in February.. we are still getting to know each other, figuring out if it would actually work since we both would only date to marry. And he surpasses my ex by far, which I never believed possible. I wish you a lot of strength and love. You are doing a good job!

I really hope you heal from everything,said and unsaid ❤❤

Im Going through exactly the same thing Thing rn. he is perfect he gives me alot of love and attention and lately it has been more and more one sided from his side, and i really love him as aperson like he is the purest and nicest person ever with the biggest heart but i dont see it going anywhere too and im gonna break up, we are in a relationship pause now we will meet on the weekend and i will break up. it hurts so much. thank u for sharing i literally cried when u cried cause i so know the pain.

Take your time chiara. You both do deserve each other and eventually u will find your way back to each other. Sometimes the right people meet you at the wrong time ❤❤

It’s just a thought, but while your openness online is part of your charm, it’s also good to think about the future and how this might be seen, especially in terms of relationships. Sometimes, people have traditional views and might look for certain things when thinking about long-term commitments and marriage. It’s unfair, but some might hesitate if they feel a lot of personal history is out in public. I’m not saying you should change who you are or what you share-just that it might be worth considering how this could affect different aspects of your life as you get older, including who you attract. You deserve someone who respects and loves you for all that you are and will be, no matter what.💗💗

It's okay, i understand what u feel ❤

Thank you for sharing, sending you love and support ❤

Stay strong ❤ you can always go back to him, as far as you've described him he can only take care of you. Maybe you think, you don't deserve him but YOU DO. Time will heal everything but you should give the person another chance.

Chiara thank you so much for sharing this 🤍 It must be so difficult to do, especially when you’re feeling that vulnerable, but you have no idea how liberating it feels to hear that someone else is going through the same things that you are. Weirdly enough, for the past couple of years I would go through a breakup around the same time as you did, and the way you described sounded quite a lot like what i was experiencing. So yeah, just wanted to say that this is actually the first comment I’ve ever written on youtube, but i really wanted to say how thankful I am, and that what you’re doing is making very difficult periods more bearable for some of us

Normalize break ups! Also, love is not just for perfect person and during the perfect times. Sometimes relationships are not 50-50, but 80-20 and 60-40. That’s okay! If you wanna be with them please give them to chance to help you. Believe me it is healing for them as well.

You’re amazing…. Don’t forget to care about yourself and love yourself. I’m sorry

Dear Chiara, you are really brave. What I can tell you is if you can in the future, always love yourself the most, you should be your first place and then ten spots empty and then someone else. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, and everything you needed to experience is because of some reason. You will know the reason why in the future, until then heal❤️

You can learn to feel enough for yourself, first. You are enough. The moment you embrace that truth, and that the only one who should give everything that you need to you, is yourself, you are going to be free and feel safe enough to receive the love you actually deserve, and also give it. You are doing the best you can, and that is enough, give yourself time, one day at a time. ❤

sending lots of support and hugs

You are a lovely person.. and you will find your fairytale one day. ❤️

Long distance do work. The best relationship for love is a long distance. I got married after a long distance. You are still stuck in your past. Your still looking into your past, thats why you broke up. Take this as an example: if your driving you take a one second to look at your mirror backwards, so you understand what is happening behind you. If you look too much in your mirror you end uo by doing an accident, and this is what you did.

I believe when you get into a relationship you don’t get into it with the intention to get married. It just unfolds. You don’t even know the person so you first need to start getting to know them before you make your mind about whether it aligns with your idea of marriage. Take your time.

Chiara I wish two of you all the best and i hope you will find love and safe place with someone one day. Brave polish girl ❤ Kochamy Cię!

You can be totally proud of yourself for being you know this mature about your mental health and feelings. Long distance is so hard so i totally understand. It is just so jard tonkeep going even with the hardship. Now you can focus on yourself and how to jeal yourself as well

this is lit right person wrong time. I understand how mental health can affect ur life bc i struggle with it. I'm sure if u heal first, focus on yourself.Maybe Universe will bring you two together or find person who u will love and who will love u. Same as him i hope he'll find someone to love. Just heal first find yourself and love urself.

Babes, I understand what you mean about loosing yourself in a relationship, that just means it wasn’t for you and I get the guilt, man that’s awful but ! You did good by coming clean to him and let him be happy elsewhere with someone who is ready to love the same way he is and did with you, you were just simply not there, it doesn’t have to be hard cuz things are perfect the way they are, acceptance of yourself and the ones around you is one step closer to light ❤

Chiara, please don’t cry so much… we all love u and support u, and u should know you are not alone, actually I’ve been in almost same situation not so long time ago. I met the perfect person, like u said « the best boyfriend I ever had », in the moment of my life when I hated absolutely everything that surrounds me. We were living and working together in one country (where he just recently moved and me been living there like 5 years already) and I hated this place, hate everything about city, my job etc. When we started to madly fell in move with each other, I already made a decision to change a country and move to city of my dreams (Paris), and I was already starting process of collecting documents, visa issues and stuff. So it was not planned at all! To find that kind of love, that I never had in my love before, he was not even in comparison with all my another exes, it was pure « he is the one » feeling, he loved me so well, treat me so well, and the same for me. So in some point of my life it was the choice in front of me: stay in this relationships and hate my life outside of it, or give up on love and follow my dreams. And I choose second. He was obviously heartbroken when I informed him that I am moving, but he was trying be supportive and we decided to try a long-distance. The problem in my personal situation was that we couldn’t see each other and fly to each other for a pretty decent amount of time, and in the end how much we would be trying to keep it all together - it failed. Actually he is the one who initiated break up, and I was completely heartbroken even though deep in my heart I didn’t blame him cz I knew that I am basically the one who finished relationships the moment I sat on the plane. The most disgusting and traumatizing for me was the feeling of constant blaming myself (sometimes even by my close ppl like my mom my bff, they would say something in conversations like this not-intentionally) for kinda « choosing my career over the true love », but in reality it was not exactly about my career, it was about all my everyday life, everything that surrounded me, my mental health which was in total deep sh***. And I choose myself honestly, together with huge probably the most painful break up in my life, together with feeling guilty so much that I wanna die, but in the end of the day it was the right decision. So don’t blame yourself and try to survive it ❤️ P. S. no we didn’t stayed friends even though we were planning to, and yes I survived this break up now feeling myself absolutely happy like it never happened.

Thanks for sharing your feelings 🤍 i really needed that, because i’m also going the same road right now, you’re super brave and i understand your mental health problems, good luck😍

Sending you and Turkish guy healing Chiarra. I hope you can get past this and fine peace and love within yourself. You deserve it. Please don’t beat yourself up for it, you’re only 25. I’m 29 and honestly I look back at 25 and I’m like wow I was so young. I started dating at 18, between 18-26 I’ve had 2 long term relationships and many many short term relationships, and 30+ dates. Nothing worked out and I thought something is wrong with me Ironically when I was 26 I flew to Türkiye on a solo trip and met the most incredible man I’ve ever met in my life. Today he is my husband and in a few months we’ll have our baby boy. After many years of hardships - for him too with all of his toxic exes.. we finally met each other and fell in true love. I love him deeply and I know that this kind of love will happen for everyone. Just be patient and take the time to really heal. That’s what helped me

i feel you struggling deeply mentally maybe you didn’t realise it until affected your current relationship. I think it’s depression that you have i totally understand. and i hope well recovery for you and sending hugs and love for you x

You don't need to explain yourself, or think that you owe anyone anything because they support or follow you along tru your journey girly 💗No one can judge you this is your personal life, please don't let them drag you down with negative comments. Sending you lots of love and hugs. That's all you need 🫂

Love you... ❤❤🧿

I feel like u need to connect to urself well heal well try to know the cause of ur pain before going to another relationship and know what you actually want for urself in for you and the relationship take your timee u will be ok ur strong on this you don't need to explain urself if it hurts it hurts just take your timeee welll you will be ok❤❤❤

Hang in there Chiara, you have a very beautiful soul and I’m sure the right one is destined to enter your life when you’re ready completely. Super happy to hear that you intend to give your most important love to yourself 🤍 Hardship often brings the most beautiful realisations 🤍

Question , if he’s the perfect guy was he willing to stick by even when you wasn’t feeling your self and not happy ?

Girl come on now. At this point having relationships and breakups are your career. Same old same old. We’re not even surprised anymore. And it’s bad making him look he’s suffering without you. Simply not true is it? Grow up

9:58 nawh chiara, listening to this part, i feel u im 24 and im trying to figure out my life, trying to make things work as well, keep doubting if things are gonna work or thinking of ending things too cause im just unsure. like i wanna get married but im not sure, its okay u are not alone we’ll get thru this i hope ur getting better soon ❤❤❤ things will fall into its place one day. and its okay to be in love, to broke up, to feel sad, its a part of life ❤ sending you hugs xx

The thing about long distance relationships, at the beginning it is always fine and you think you don’t mind it, but with time it gets difficult and effects other areas of your life, GUESS WHAT even if you love that person so much it makes you resent them. It’s not about “the right person “ alone. It has to be The right person, the right time and the right place..

Yesterday I also broke up and now I start to love my self

Some of these people in the comments forget that people on the internet are also humans. Don’t pretend to that you can see the whole picture. Chiara might give us an insight into her life, but that is just a fraction of the entirety of it. You can’t know for a fact how she truly feels, that’s for her and herself only. Stop judging something you don’t truly understand or know about. We all go through life doing the best we can, and no matter what we do we’re gonna be judged. So let her be, her feelings are valid, and whatever she does with her life is really none of our business, she shares in the hopes of being relatable and to maybe help other people who are going through similar situations. To all those keyboard warriors who hide behind the internet’s anonymity… GET A LIFE!

Much love and power to you🤍🫂 Hope you heal and feel better soon🤍

I also just got out of a relationship, like one week ago, eventho it was a short relationship it was pretty hard.

It makes me sad that you feel the need to explain yourself so much. It's almost like you're apologising your audience for your feelings and your decisions. You don't have to do that! ❤️ Do what you need to do to heal and to be happy!

Sending love and support and kindness your way my love🫶🤍

Hi there! Just wanted to say that if you haven't heard from anyone.. you're the problem. Rather than focusing on creating content, you can focus on creating a better relationship with the person. This breakup will probably help you with some tiktok video ideas on how you broke up, how you're sad etc. Poor guy.

Te deseo mucha fortaleza en el camino de la sanación ❤️‍🩹

Go girl

25 is so young. You still have time to date to discover yourself. The pressure you put on yourself and the relationship to be perfect and to be married is part of why you fail and/or see yourself as a romantic failure. You have plenty of time. I’m 32 and after many beautiful, sometimes toxic relationships, I’ve met someone whom I believe could be the one but it’s rare and it takes experience to tell that you’ve met this person. To everyone pressuring themselves about love including Chiara: take your time, enjoy the dating process, don’t chain-date to find love and one day, you’ll find that unique someone.

Why does it sound like you basically broke him ! So now he’s gonna be toxic with other women…

It takes a lot to open up. Sending you love and healing. ❤️‍🩹 ❤

17:18 yep, I’m currently going through a breakup myself 😅🥺

I also went through a heartbreak. 15 years of dating . I cried on my channel too . Worst experience ever

Chiara, öncelikle Türkiye’den selam ve çok çok sevgiler gönderiyorum. I absolutely feel you… Long distance is one of the hardest things in this life and it really needs lots of effort, love, courage and a peaceful state of mind. If you felt that way and you couldn’t do ld no more, I am really so happy for you to be able to be this courageous and respectful about yourself. I hope you can move on from this… This is just a life and we all go through lots of things. You’re really not alone. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your stories. Kendine çok iyi bak. 🤍

Sending Lots of love and healing energy to you both ♥️

nazar değdi 🧿...

If it’s meant to be you’re gonna end up together eventually Chiara. Seems like you’re still care each other and who knows what future will bring for both you. All the best wishes ❤

Everyone has been going through a breakup recently! Sending love❤

De todo corazón tienes que madurar . Las relaciones sanas se construyen no te conformes con menos

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I think you should take a break from social media it sounds as though it’s hurting you more than anything, I understand you love it and enjoy it but your mental health comes first

I love you ❤

I don’t mean this in a hurtful way, just to be informative. It’s giving Carrie bradshaw

We will never understand women. With each passing day, I realize more and more that this is a futile effort.

you made the right thing, now you’re sad ik, but it’ll pass trust me

Tbh darling it’s really important to stay single at least for a year or two and get your priorities straight, heal , get over the past for good. THEN you can reconsider dating again.

I love you

Creo que entregas demasiado en las relaciones, no está mal pero no puedes pensar en casarte con una persona que llevar 6 meses y que se mantienen la mayor parte del tiempo a distancia, recuerda que las personas cambia, date el tiempo de conocer a las personas y no esperar nada a cambio

I think you should change the theme of ur content and restraint it to fashion etc and keep ur private life for urself

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Be sure that man will forget you. Who do you think you are?

You need a therapy you need to watch the wizard liz you need to start manifesting selflove trust me selflove will come to you once you start loving yourself you will attract positive energy you will attract confidence and all the good things just start to try healing yourself you can do it

Y trata de mantener tu vida y tu relaciones privadas. Es una buena decisión no mereces a nadie darle una explicación. Me di cuenta que tus seguidores son turcos y podría ser que esperabas algo más de esa relación

çok üzüldüm abime…

Love you🥹❤️

Kral iyi anladık ama madem bu adam çok iyiydi neden ayrıldın. Kadınların şu kafası çok garip. Sorun sende değil bende hadi yaa? Yabancıda olsa Türkte olsa her kadın böyle.

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Hepimiz türk erkeği diye tersoluğu ondan bekliyorduk demiii

Hey, We don't have you and we appreciate you sharing and its not your fault that those relationships didn't work it's okay. We love you 🫂♥️ Ps.you are not a horrible person ❤

I live exactly the same thing so I understand so much ❤️‍🩹

I think I also lost myself in my current realtionship. He is great but I am not happy. Thank you for speaking about those feelings and keep being vulnerable please. I‘m here to learn with you. I‘m also a 25 yeat old 🫶

Some people don’t understand what you are going through, just don’t pay attention to them. Just know that you’ve handled this situation and episode sincerely, maturely and beautifully. Hoping you’ll find your rainbow within yourself🫶🏻🫶🏻🌸🌸

People in the comments.. please be kind! Costs nothing to be KIND!🤍

Well… The reason why I’m here is that I like you and I found a lot of common with you, your type of humor but there are many things I don’t agree with. You seem in rush when It’s about relationship and boy stuff. In reality you seem lonely and you’re trying to fill that gap with others. First of all, you have to concentrate who you are and what are you doing, I mean real you without “relationships and men content”. What’s your true passion, where do you belonging and etc. STOP CHASING LOVE… while you’re still in the process of how to love yourself. We love you, but sometimes you look stranger for yourself and we can feel it. Take care Chiara 🤍 We want to see you found…

You need to heal..take some time for yourself, it could be a one year break from dating, months of break isn’t enough. Stay strong!🩷 because life isn’t only about dating and navigating your love life. Your true love will appear in your life when you least expect it, could be a month or years from now..