The Bully in Co-Parenting and Child Arrangements

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2 жыл бұрын

A brief overview of 'The Bully' in the Co-Parenting relationship and Child Arrangements proceedings, drawing on the Freedome Programme model and my own personal experience.
Useful Links:
Freedome Pragramme - The Bully: • The Bully
Womens' Aid: www.womensaid.org.uk/

Пікірлер: 20

@sparklyraincloud 4 ай бұрын

I’m so glad I have found your videos. Today has been a very dark day for me. This has been ongoing for 12 years. Listening to you has given me some strength ❤

@Legend-qh9if 2 жыл бұрын

You have no idea how much you’ve helped me. Thank you

@emmawheeler8559 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this! all very relevant to my situation

@fatnurseslim 9 ай бұрын

I have just been back to court- I asked for specific measures. I had spectate entrance, separate waiting area (on a different floor) and a screen in court. Amazing!

@clairekinney4133 2 жыл бұрын

Hi first of all i would like to say thank you for taking the time to share your horrendous experiences, i sit here now feeling very frustrated as i can't understand why laws have been put in place to prevent women or men to be verbally abused gas lighted control belittling list goes on , despite leaving my ex partner he has still been able to treat me this way through co parenting as of 5 weeks ago i put a stop to him coming to my home but gave him the option of calling my child on a separate phone & contact through a third party, i have several days ago applied for a non molestation order, was told at this time there was no evidence more information from myself has to be given, i felt it was very one side i was the bad mum whom has kept my child away from his father whilst he lied.repeatedly i will be given more evidence but i genuinely don't feel it will make the slightest difference, i am so glad i left 2 years ago & if truth be told i thought i would be in a different place but you lose yourself almost, how can i get myself back to at least half the person i was if the courts decided that this man can come to my home pick up our child & treat me what ever way he see's fit , he is untouchable am i just wasting my time

@Brit267 2 жыл бұрын

Hi Claire, I feel exactly the same way. Mine is so good at playing a part and convincing and charming anyone he needs to. But then there is quiet control and intimidation always occurring in the background and unless you agree and play my their rules, you suffer more. It is so sad and traumatising that the only way you can experience any sort of “peace” for lack of a better word, when coparenting with someone like this, is to just let them have all the power and control and to submit to their demands always.

@clairekinney4133 2 жыл бұрын

@@Brit267Hi my sweetie thank you for your message, i hope your well under the difficult circumstances, i am sorry you & your child or children are having to experience the volatile behaviour at the hands of there father, as we both know its not easy, its a day to day recurrence,, although i have to say having him ring on my door bell althought i am in fact behind the door, i feel its better that way we don't see each as he then goes back in his car until my child enters out the door, & communicating is via email only, don't get me wrong he has tried to push the boundaries but i just remind him that he has to stick to what the courts stated which over all they were on his side or should i say they didn't see through him, i had to see when my child had a school introduction visit not going to lie i was very stressed about seeing him, if i had a choice he wouldn't have been there but he made such a stink in court about attending important events yet again i didn't have a choice but i rised above it stayed strong & pretendex he wasn't there its funny really as he had the cheek to say goodbye to me yet he told the courts i was dangerous, here to chat if you need some one to listen take care xx

@tonifly1979 Жыл бұрын

thankyou so much for these videod im 14 years freed all thanks to this book x

@imanelkhatim4644 Жыл бұрын

Very useful video

@julianabellan7835 2 жыл бұрын

Hi, I was wondering if you can help me please! I have a final hearing tomorrow

@Peye777 Жыл бұрын

Exactly - “if you don’t do as I say I won’t let your baby boy see you - I want YOU to be in pain- let’s make that agony cos you didn’t do as I wanted you to after years of my being used to being in control of you … I see where your heart is and I want to break you” Bully yes - prank calls- absolute arsehole . Constant stress - yes I need escape fight flight but I have no bruises - I’m just a shell. No one believes me anymore

@jacobjacob8568 2 жыл бұрын

Please I beg you, could I please talk to you for an advice ? Thanks

@bootcampfordivaliciousking1102 2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@yongpingren 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, can you please be my solicitor, how can I contact you.

@abbylouise89 7 ай бұрын

i really need help I'm experiencing this

@jayz2352 2 жыл бұрын

It’s women like you that need support. False allegations on a specific case is costing the state over £100k in state funds/resources taking away help to real victims.

@alaysiakayebutler6299 14 күн бұрын

Do not put your life and children's lives into the hands of the courts; the corruption is exposed. Handing the power to those that have no consequence of their decisions, that tell you you need their permission, before you are ALLOWED, to protect your child, is insanity

@MrCLAASS Ай бұрын

Thank you for identifying that both genders experience domestic violence, and both genders can cause it. Interestingly you have identified your perpetrator as a male. I wander what the traumatic memory connection is? I wander if you believe he did this violence because he was male? Or maybe he abused his male role, like behaving in a way that you did not expect?