The Cry It Out Method definitely has its detractors. Thanks for pointing that out! We like Dr. Chris Winter's perspective, which is no matter which method you try, we should be thoughtful and kind about it!

The fact that you learned in somewhere doesn't mean it's the ultimate truth. There is science to back up the opposite views to yours as well so it just depend to which science you choose to subscribe to. I studied psychology as well and there is science to back up opposite believes everywhere

What have humans done for thousands of years?

​@@JacobMireles Until recently, babies slept with their parents. They didn't do "sleep training" in separate rooms.

My 9 MO never slept through the night, wakes up every 2 max 3 hours and it takes him 1 hour maybe more to fall asleep AGAIN, all that while refusing to sleep in his bed. So his dad and I sleep in différent rooms so we can have him for a part of the night and have a little rest while the other one is with him. The situation became unbearable especially for me. So you may be right but 5 days of crying 10 min 4 Times a day made us able to take better care of him and helped our couple and our mental health. A baby needs his parents to be okay in order for him to do so and sleep depraviation is a killer.

I agree

This is beautiful. Thank you.

You’re right, mammals just EAT their offspring and/or abandon them to die 😂

Other mammals also travel in groups to make sure that baby is protected at all times. We don’t have that luxury. Other mammals don’t have to worry about babies getting tooth decay from drinking breast milk all night. Other mammals don’t have to work after 3 months of maternity leave…so there’s all that

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Feeding, clothing, holding, paying for all the things your baby needs is caring for the baby. Just because you let them cry every now and then for a short period of time does it mean you are uncaring. Actually, it means exactly the opposite usually.

False.

I don’t get scared when I’m alone in the dark room lol

A dark room alone for rest sounds pretty great right now...

That's a great point!

I feel 14 months is too old for that.

You're absolutely correct. But you'll never convince these people.

It's honestly scary to me when people ignore literal babies crying. Like, why are you even a parent?

@msmissy6888Ikr That’s the problem with babies these days. The literal babies just need to toughen up already.

It sounds like you don't really know what the Cry It Out Method entails. Go do some research of the multitude of applications.

And their parents need to also be mentally ok or they end up on the news your pick

How did it go?

@msmissy6888you need to grow up. What an immature response to a normal comment.

To the main poster, please hear my story. Yes you’re right to a certain extent. What we need to understand as mothers is that every child is different and by default, most of us have tried the gentle way and it has either helped or made it worse. For my 5 year old, the gentle way was enough. As soon as he cried all I had to do was rub his back and play some nice gentle music. Some night I would have to sway him side to side until he fell asleep. He was formula fed. Not sure if that had anything to do with it. My 10 month old is Breastfed but he’s ruthless and I haven’t been able to get more than 2 hours of sleep a night because I was basically his pacifier. Rubbing his back while trying to sleep actually made it worse because he was pissed off that I wasn’t picking him up. I decided to try the pick him up and repeat method. I picked him up and repeated it 4-5 times and he would finally fall asleep…but only for a couple of hours. Nothing else worked…blanket to fall asleep with, I tried many different pacifiers, sleeping with him on the floor, pumping at night and bottle feeding him to top him off. Solids right before bedtime. Soothing teething gel. He would wake up as soon and he touched the crib and cried harder. I had to stay up so that he could sleep in my arms… I almost dropped him from the recliner trying to stay awake so that he could sleep. I even tried co-sleeping but instead of sleeping he crawls around the mattress and the floor and goofs off. He doesn’t nap for more than 45 minutes throughout the day so I had to quit my job because I couldn’t take it anymore. Two days ago, I finally started hallucinating and I had to leave the room while he was screaming to cool off because I was having suicidal thoughts. I accidentally fell asleep on my 5 year old’s bedroom floor while the baby was crying in his crib. I woke up 1.5 hours later panicking and feeling like a POS. But he slept…for almost 4 hours and woke up a happy baby. I tried it again yesterday day. I rubbed his back like I always do and he cried harder. I kissed him and walked away. He cried for about 5 minutes and fell asleep like a light switch. He got 4 hours of sleep and started taking longer naps through the day. Last night he cried for 2 minutes before soothing himself and he got 7 hours of sleep!!! He’s napping right now as I type this out. I feel hopeful again. I will never regret falling asleep on the floor. I probably would have needed to be admitted to a mental hospital if I didn’t.

If youre gonna put your foot down then you can stay up all night when he refuses to sleep.

maybe or maybe its a skill issue as an infant (lol joking) but there are multiple factors as to why we are more depressed nowadays. Its hard to believe that something that happened to you as an infant can affect you more than 20 years of your life. I know my parents let me cry it out and 26 years later I have a great relationship with my parents, am a chemist with a degree, and have meaningful relationships. If I am ever anxious about something then usually its due to something that has happened over the past 10 years not from my infancy. Its just weird because no one remembers anything from years 0 to 2, and even though my parents didn't run to my room every time I made a whimper I still felt they were always there for me because that's what they showed me as a little kid.

People are crying it out less and people are getting MORE depressed. Depression has nothing to do with crying it out.

Snowflake

Nope...Pussy parents don't desire babyes...

No it’s not

it’s cruel , i have a 4 month baby .. can’t imagine hearing him cry and ignoring him !

@Nona-vz4dt me to...and I'm in war with my wife...she won't let him cry, but i can see that he is just used to be carried around...

We included this perspective in the full video because it's a very real method some people use. But we love Dr. Winter's perspective -- there is a way to do it that's gentle but firm and creates limits for the child.

I agree most of the time you just need to calm down and reevaluate and get your emotions under control, you need to understand how to regulate your emotions. In my eyes babies are no different, when they get to the point where they are able to sleep safely by themselves they should, it helps them to self-regulate their emotions and teaches them how to calm down, helps them to be more confident and well regulated. It doesn't mean that you can't have your kids sleep with you once in awhile, bad dreams, sad, missing somebody, or you just want to have a sleepover there's always an exception but you really need to establish this when they are young because it really sucks you and your baby up success in my view. And not only that but you obviously need time with your partner in your own bed without a kid in the middle, it really does damage to marriages in a lot of cases co-sleeping is just not for me when they are old enough to sleep safely by themselves.

These are babies we're talking about... A grown human being is completely different. For one, I can type this thought out to you. My baby cannot.

@@motiemo if you are referring to me I was being ironic.

Brilliant comment!! And bizarely how most teenagers react when they have a problem but then we are not happy when they do that....Maybe something to think about as a society....Oh but wait apparently I " think too much" ....Sure....that is a possibility but how about others do not think enough? That could be true too💓

What's worse? What you're saying or a mom that is so stressed and tired that she loses her job, or becomes severely stressed, depressed, anxious due to not being able to sleep? For the same reason women are rightfully encouraged to give up brestfeeding if it's so stressful, the same grace needs to be given to new mothers who absolutely require sleep to function. The pros and cons need to be weighed as a whole and if other methods have been tried, there is nothing wrong with the baby other than they just want to be held, CIO saves lives. Not sleeping is not sustainable for anyone

The Cry It Out method is not for everyone, but it certainly is A method that works for some families. Our expert, Dr. Chris Winter explains more here: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/g617rcJy1M62m3k.html

The same parents that use the CIO method also feed, soothe and play with their babies during the day. So how is it that these babies “learn” that the parents never come?

Jesus… what a judgemental good person you are. What about single mothers with postpartum depression that’s being exacerbated by sleep deprivation or epilepsy patients who’s seizures are out of control because of sleep deprivation. Your soft head approach might work for you but not everyone is as privileged

​​@@Nobleteam239I agree or just for normal people, I don't have any of the issues you describe here but I'm going to do sleep training and incorporate the crying it out method, because sleep is so important for you and baby, when they're able to safely sleep by themselves I think it helps them to be able to do that, to be able to know how to self soothe and to learn how to self-regulate their emotions, and it is important for the parents to maintain their sleep and have there own bed, I've seen a lot of co-sleeping with the kids (because Mom/ dad just wouldn't let go) ruin marriages, you have to also maintain your relationship with ypur spouse, just super important not to neglect that because it's better for you to be together in the long run for you, them and the kids

I don't think it's horrible but I agree. Be nice to your baby. They are crying bosses

So well said - 100% agree

Actually your the one with no clue

@@benmackarel295 actually u have no idea what ur talking about so stfu

Exactly 🤣

I do. I do not make mine cry. That's sick.

@@motiemo it’s not “making your baby cry”

Yep! Its a selfish parent method. Babiea are si vulnerable. They cant even scratch an itch by themselves! Newborns cant self soothe. They only do because they feel neglected and know no one will come for them. Adults dont even tolerate the same responses

You remember being a literal infant and your parents leaving you to cry safely in the crib? That’s an impressive memory lol Also you cut them off for it? Wowie 😂

Buddy I’ll give you 10 billion dollars if you could remember anything before 1 years old

are you being serious you actually remember crying as a baby. I've used the CIO method on all my kids and they turned out fantastic

@@Julia-cb8wm Everything stays in the subcouncious mind, it’s like a human hard disk.