Next vid we’ll have a chill time going through this video point-for-point and talking about how we can do the opposite :)

Isnt it weird that its easier to make your life worse than it is to improve it?

This is so powerful. The funny thing is, telling someone how TO ruin their life as if they should do it is actually more powerful and shocking than telling them how NOT to. A genius idea, presented with exceptional footage.

The Ad snapped me back into reality..... I felt a deep feeling of regret for what has been happening for so long, thank god for the ad.... and this video.

Social anxiety is ruining my life

Man… this one really hit me hard. By the end of it I wanted to cry. I felt like I was watching a recap of my own life over the past year and realized how much of a negative attitude I’ve adopted about everything. So well done. Thanks Joey

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THAT LAST POINTTT!!!! Regret is a poison. I feel like a lot of people are aware that they need to change and want to, but the feeling of guilt or being unworthy of redemption keeps you stuck. At least that's how I felt and wasn't able to put it into words. I hope this video frees a lot of people from those shackles. Wish you all well!!!

Fastest way to ruin your life (alternative route): 1. Force yourself to be outgoing and appear friendly even when you don't want to be, make sure that everyone gets the impression that you're happier than you are. After all, can't be looking like a loser! 2. Never be satisfied with where you are, what you have, and what you have accomplished. Always strive for more, even if you don't know what you're striving for or why, because what are you going to do, be happy with what you have? 3. Be as diligent as possible, sacrificing all of your time, energy, and most likely creating goals that you will fail to meet so that you can feel as bad about yourself as possible. Remember, if you feel good about yourself and your inadequacy, you're only lying to yourself because you're a pathetic piece of garbage with no friends and no success. 4. Blame yourself for everything without really understanding the root of the problem. The important part to recognize is that it's your fault that you're a failure and everything is going wrong. 5. Believe that you have complete control over everything around you and that what you believe to be a problem or something that you don't personally enjoy is really just your instinct to hate on the world around you. There's nothing wrong with the world around you, except for the fact that you find a problem in it. Make sure to ignore all red flags and enjoy what other people enjoy. 6. Be scared of attention. Never talk or do anything if it gets eyes on you, and make sure that you're out of sight of most people most of the time. 7. Constantly praise people you have even the slightest shred of respect for, when it is that you're actually talking, and make sure to compliment even the most mundane elements of their character not because you actually have respect for them but because you believe they are better than you. Never judge anyone, and ignore red flags that people have. And make sure that your friends and people around you have the same blind respect. 8. Be inflexible, never change how you think, and make sure that you can stick to your goals and identity even if it's something you don't identify with at a later time. If you fail to stick to plans, remain consistent, and constantly code-switch around people, make sure you understand how much of a failure you are. This is crucial if you want to stick to your plans, regardless of what they are and how pointless or detrimental they might be. Side with the voice in your head that calls you a failure. 9. Stop dreaming and live more than you want. Even if you feel as though you are going through the motions without any understanding of what an ideal life could look like, constantly cut off any wishes about life you have. Make sure that you understand that while life is worth living, the grandeur and idealism that you seek is never going to happen so just suck it up and accept the world you are in. Kill all of your desires in an attempt to conform, and never try to create a world for yourself that might be better. Plan every move to never allow the current of your desires to flow into your life make sure that structure defines your person more than your dreams do, and try to be more of an adult than a child in this sense. 10. Only do things because of how they are supposed to make you feel rather than how they make you feel. Don't try to chase the life that you want and the desires you have, try to do the things that are supposed to be truly good. Even if you feel detached and depersonalized in your attempt to do these things, eventually all of the hard work will pay off. You might not ever know when, but hopefully one day down the line all of your efforts will pay off and if they don't then just remember that it's your fault. 11. Linger on to the hope that you can change your life so that you remember to feel bad about not doing so every time you wake up in the life that you forgot to live. Always seek change, and if you don't get it then understand that it's not because you can't but it's merely because you won't, rather you are too lazy, undeveloped, or inadequate to make the changes necessary. It's not who you are, but it's who you chose to be, and you chose to be a failure. Hate the life you're given and always have that lingering feeling that you need to do something about it so that it can weigh on you at all times. Make sure that in the dead of night, you're always asking yourself "what can I do right now to change my life?" And, every time you are doing anything, don't focus on what you want but always focus on how you can fix things and improve yourself. I don't think all of the advice in this video was bad, like number 8 was pretty good, but I think it's disingenuous to portray these behaviors as the problem because pain is different for everybody and what you do has nothing to do with it but more it has to do with why you're doing it and how you interact with your pain. While the story presented may be the case for many, it might also serve to gaslight people who are perfectly satisfied with their lives into thinking that they are really just lying to themselves in their happiness because they have behaviors such as these.

this is refreshing to be called out like this! good way to start the new year feeling accountable

It’s crazy how everyone could relate with this video. I hope everyone gets on their path and be the best they could possibly be. We got this

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

the perspective and delivery of this video makes the message incredibly impactful. thank you for this!

I’m 19 and in my second year of college, i have no idea what to do in life and I feel extremely stressed knowing that I have to pick a career. I do a lot of these things; closing my body language, avoiding interaction with others, isolating myself… etc. Viewing this video is like the creator is describing me, which makes me feel horrible but it helps in making me realize that I do want to change instead of just fantasizing. Commenting this on a youtube video is easier than talking about it with friends, more specifically my 3 friends. I feel lost in life but I have many things to be grateful for; a loving family, a home.

For a long time, I always thought "I never planned to be here." Only now to realize that is the exact reason I am where I never wanted to be. The plan that I chose was "Not planning at all". Procrastination, destructive habits, pointless daydreaming, etc are the things that got me here. Inaction paired with negative self-talk is a genuine slow death.

too many steps not going to follow

Sometimes I'll leave a comment on a video, sometimes I wont. But for this one, I'll choose to leave a comment. Thank you for the insight. It defines well the struggle that I see in my life and the lives of those around me. For the sake of doing something, Id like to share what I am grateful for: I'm grateful for being able to attend college these past two semesters. Im grateful for the friends and delightful professors I've gotten to know over the last year. I'm grateful for my leaders in family and in religion. I wouldnt be anywhere without my parents. I'm grateful for prayer, and for laughter. Im grateful for the sincerity of others. I enjoy seeing the in-the-moment grin of a stranger. I ought to remember that I have a lot to offer this world. And I remember that I feel like my best when I take care of myself, and I work diligently in anything I do. Thank you again for sharing this content.

📍Bullet points for NOT ruining your life: ➡ - Step 1: Maintain open body language, stand tall, make eye contact, and engage in social interactions to appear welcoming and receptive. - Step 2: Be present in the moment, minimize phone use, and approach interactions with genuine curiosity instead of relying on distractions. - Step 3: Be punctual and take responsibility for mistakes, openly admitting faults and learning from them. - Step 4: Develop an internal locus of control and take responsibility for your actions, believing that you have the power to influence your own outcomes. - Step 5: Practice active listening and encourage others to share their experiences, avoiding dominating conversations with personal stories. - Step 6: Promote positivity by speaking well of others and seeking to understand their perspectives, rather than putting them down. - Step 7: Be consistent and authentic in your behavior, presenting your true self to others rather than adopting different personas. - Step 8: Actively plan and work towards positive changes in your life instead of wishing for things to be different passively. - Step 9: Engage in activities that make you feel strong and embrace challenges, avoiding the path of least resistance. - Step 10: Foster a positive self-image, recognizing your worth and potential for growth, and believe in your capacity for redemption.

Alternative title: how to survive as a quiet kid in the human society after growing up

1-open up your body language 2-don’t check your phone regularly as a habit 3-be early 4-don’t make excuses and know how to apologize 5-develop an internal locus of control 6-don’t try to be the spotlight of every conversation 7-enhance 8-be true to who you are 9-plan and pray and don’t be wishful 10-engage in behaviors that make you feel strong and resist your comfort zone 11-be optimistic it’s not too late to change If you’re still breathing then it’s not over yet ❤

I’m about to turn 22, and this made me start crying on my couch at 2 in the morning. This video struck me so profoundly and I hate how I feel like I’m looking in a mirror on some of these things. What I hate more is that I wasn’t always like this. I watched my 49 yr old veteran dad die as a pedestrian victim in a hit and run (cold case to this day) at 18 before I graduated highschool. I was legally responsible for his DNR and I signed it. I lost a lot of my faith in the world. My anxiety shot through the roof. I don’t like who I am anymore. Im about to graduate college and I’m terrified of the future. I can’t hardly sleep at night. I really needed to see this video because I want to change. My negativity is going to destroy me and I can’t live like this forever. God

Absolutely beautiful in the most tragic and contemplative way possible.. hats off..

This is geniunely the best video I have ever seen Props to you man amazing quality. And great message

The cinematography, editing, and of course the writing in this video is incredible. People underestimate how hard shooting intentionally for B&W can be, but the lighting was on point throughout.

You make it sound like it's easy - ruining your life - but it's a slow process. I've been working on it for years and I still haven't achieved my full misery potential. But thanks to your tips I'm just a bit closer to my goal.

Amazing how I found myself in several takes of this video , This made me understand my self more and more

This video really opened my eyes to how I often times steal the spotlight, Ive been noticing that it feels like I push people away more and more the longer im talking to them, especially coworkers

Deep down I know I can't really blame my lack of success on being abused as a small child, but man, overcoming negative programming from age 5 has been a lifelong struggle.

I’m only 16 and may not have ‘lived life’ yet but this video made me rethink. I relate to a lot of this video but I’ve always lacked the motivation to change, always lacked the mental perseverance to be better. I spend too much time wasting away on my phone when I could be working towards my goals. I lack the spirit in myself to talk to new people and tend to either be the one in the corner, or trying to be the centre of attention. Thank you for posting this video, and thank you to whatever is out there for putting it on my KZfaq feed.

Thanks for another great guide, love this channel!!!

This was great. I'm in a bad phase in my life and this help me out to even deep sadness. Thank u god and universe.

I'm working on the last 2 steps but I'm excited to see my journey to ruin my life going so well! Thanks for this tutorial, really helped me envision how to achieve the worst me.

This was a masterpiece!! The acting from all the actors was very good. The way they convey emotions so subtly really makes the impact of the video more poignant. You should think about releasing a full feature film covering many different topics including what results from living your life a certain way. Thanks again.

great video! I hope everyone gets on their path and be the best they could possibly be.

Tjank your for this, i needed to hear this 🙏

Absolutely soul crushing. Thanks man, genuinely. Deep down we're all aware of what we're doing to keep ourselves unhappy and in an endless cycle, but choose not to act. I've been dealing with the consequences of this recently but in that time, I remembered a quote from a childhood movie. I think it's something many of us have forgotten. You are who you choose to be!

When you're halfway through the video, and you realize it's just describing your everyday life 💀

It actually motivates me considering this could have described me a few months ago, but ive just gotten better recently and actually try to improve.

This was very humbling and motivating at the same time god bless I hope y’all are all ok you got this

You have no idea how hard this personally hit me. Especially the part where you bring out your phone around people to detract. Man you hit so many personal flaws and brought them to light. Thank you for helping me start my day off on a positive note and the content you bring to the world. Keep going man your changing the world one person at a time!!!

This video got me crying. I never thought i was actually being like that . The hardest part for me was loneliness. I never cope up from it and i think it will never be.

Nobody talks about how well these videos are filmed and edited. This is easily one of the best videos on this website

Thanks for the guide! It helped me a lot!

0:21 close your body language 0:51 check your phone 1:19 be late 1:47 make excuses 2:17 develop an external locus of control 2:48 steal the spotlight 3:22 detract 3:52 shapeshift 4:16 wish 4:39 shrink 4:58 despair

Ever since i grew up with anxiety and experienced episodes of depression as severe as major depressive disorder, i was always unsure of what habits i should be practicing in order to improve my outlook in life. Now i can clearly see which aspects that i haven't worked on through this video

needed some of these

Thanks for the step by step tutorial, ill definetly try this!!

I'm SO glad I turned my life around the past year. My life used to be just like this, and seeing it from another perspective is confronting. Maybe even more confronting than when I confronted myself at the start of 2023. Keep going lads, you got this in the bag!

Thanks! I really needed this guide for speed running life.

Too good! I hope this reaches the right people on social media. ❤

Mate! For me, from a filmmaking standpoint, this is the best video you've ever made - and that was a high bar to beat! You can tell you really put a lot of hard work into this and it definitely paid off. Nice one man 👌🏼

I’m 19 years old. I took a gap year from high school and have 5 months left until the summer. I still haven’t looked for any colleges and do almost everything in this video. I’m the oldest sibling out of six, I don’t want to be a bad example. I want to make a fix, but am so mentally drained from working retail fulltime that I have no motivation to ever do anything and simply just daydream. I wonder if it’s too late for me, but I don’t think it is. It’s still scary to think about. Every year I seem to mature and become wiser and more sour towards my past self. This will be the year that I finally push myself into the right direction. Godspeed, guys. We are all in this very confusing world together.

I have faith that things will work out, but this was a wake-up call reminding me faith is simply not enough; putting in the work is the only way to get to where I want to be. Thank you!!!

This is goated the cinematography, the story telling, and most importantly the narration and the intention behind it

God, this video is art. Your cinematography is nothing to scoff at, mate. You know, I sometimes worry about just how much subtlety I'm missing out on. Kind of like the anxiety of knowing you'll never read enough books. And all I can say is youve successfully induced that anxiety in me with this piece, which is a good thing. The aspect ratio immediately draws the eyes, the introduction of green into the black and white video during the sponsored section makes it really pop and stand out with a unique color profile for the shots, also obviously symbolizes health and vitality with the more layered message of "Hey, if you focus more on your health, you introduce the color green into your life" which immediately leads me to think thats the guiding light behind your color side of videos. "Living bad makes the world grey, living better introduces color back, with every facet of life being a different color introduced back into your lens". Ugh, its just SO good! Would absolutely love a video just breaking down the artistic process for your videos.

What a perfect approach. In a world full of "how to make your life better" videos, it's time for some reality check. Often we find ourselves doing things out of habit and not realizing they are fucking up our lives but we're too stubborn and self absorbed to recognize them. Thank you for this perfect video.

My goodness, what a video. Legendary and truly eye opening stuff.

This is one of my favorites on KZfaq! It's sooo goooooood!

This is crazy. Im 18 and felt like nobody is thinking the same way as me at this age. Ive been struggling a lot with trying to motivate myself and actually do things that help me grow not just be on my phone and consumed by social media like everyone else around me. Im so glad I found someone who doesn't feel that being 18 means just partying and saying yolo and doing whatever the hell every college student does. Today was my 2nd day at a new job and a high schooler was asking me so what do you do as a college student now in the break, party and drink and smoke, I tell them no actually and they are shocked. This is the standard now and we really have to stand our grounds if we want to be different and run after our goals and dreams instead of wishing them away.

This is incredibly powerful. I feel like you could make a full length anti-film, if that makes sense? Like using this negative technique in order to make people realise their current lifestyle choices. It really puts your mindset back in the present time.

Thank you so much for this!❤❤

Thanks for the tutorial, I'm glad to say I'm already on step 11 😊

Thank you. Just to add to this motivational ride, nothing is ever too late to change. Literally last week I decided to change before the new year starts (It’s December), and just like that, I don’t smoke anymore and I’ve pushed myself to meet up events after a long isolation I blamed ‘trauma’ for. I just poured out my glass of wine after this video. I have to inspire myself if I want to inspire othwrs.

As a student, watching your videos has made me much more mindful of what I'm doing each and every minute of the day. Thanks a lot man!!

This video gave me a good self reflection of myself. Thank you so much. Instantly subbed 💯

Still following your guide bro,works like a charm!

Thank you. I stumbled upon this and have never felt so called out. I feel so good to see this and finally be able to recognize my acts I knew I was doing. Thank you.

This makes me realize how tough of a place I used to be in. I used to do almost all of these things as recently as last month. However, I have since put a huge amount of effort into changing myself and improving my stance on my own life. I’ve taken my path into my own hands and have expressed myself more openly and I can safely say I am a much better person now. If you want to change, please do your best to. Your efforts will pay off.

📍Bullet points: ➡️ Tips on how to ruin your life: - Step 1: Close your body language, slouch, keep your head down, and avoid eye contact to appear socially unreceptive. - Step 2: Always look occupied by checking your phone, and tickle your brain stem when unsure how to interact. - Step 3: Always be late and make excuses for mistakes, never admitting fault. - Step 4: Develop an external locus of control and believe that nothing is your fault. - Step 5: Steal the spotlight in conversations and make everything about yourself. - Step 6: Detract by talking about others in a negative light and seeking validation from putting them down. - Step 7: Shape-shift and be unpredictable in your behavior, presenting different personas to different people. - Step 8: Wish for things to be different without actively planning or working towards change. - Step 9: Shrink by avoiding activities that make you feel strong and always taking the path of least resistance. - Step 10: Despair and believe that you are fundamentally bad and undeserving of redemption.

Literally, many of us are living a ruined life already. Thank you for this jolt of reality. I hope you share the opposite so we can live better

I want to listen and live by each one of these

I’ve always been doing these things subconsciously without knowing and then blamed everyone around me as to why I felt unlikeable so I’m glad I found this video and hopefully I’ll change.

For those who are self-improvement consoomers #8 really hit me hard. I realize that I am a complex person, not because I examined myself deeply, but because I keep adding more things to examine about myself. The ego of me trying to validate myself rather than going out and actually doing something has caused me to become so numb to everything. My heart has hardened due to this information overload and sensory overload. If I focus on simplifying myself in morals, character, and personality, I could actually make decisions that are based on a solid, unshakeable foundation, rather than my flacid character. This video helped me realize that consuming so much of this content made me think in so many ways, and yet I am directed into the astray path. Conviction allows you to go farther in life, even if those presumptions might become false in the future. I am in the path of indecision, and because of my complexity of so many different perspectives, I think in ways irrational to myself and to my fellow humans.

so glad there's people like you with the power to inspire people, especially young men like myself and many others to change for the better, modern life has blinded us in a way, to how bad the way we live actually is for our social and mental wellbeing, thank you for this video

I followed every step and seems to work. Thank you!

As a master student in the university where I got my bachelor's degree two months before starting master, it really feels like I had my shot and it's over. Friends at my age started to have their jobs and moving on different paths while newer faces who are bachelor students already have their friendship groups and relationships. Despite being 25, I feel like a dinasour walking in the campus. I have few friends, never dated someone and I can neither find a professional job despite applying everywhere nor earn money (financially dependent on my family). So I'm stuck in a circle where I constantly eat, go to bars and cafes to find a familiar face, get annoyed at any noise, resent at random couples and groups I've never known, and finish my school works on deadlines. Even if I finish my master thesis, I am so hopeless about what will come after. So, the circle continues. No improvement, no end, just a long-term nihilism with short-term gains.

thanks will use this in future

I need more videos like this one, i dont think i am ruining my life efficiently enough

This is a huge eye opener. I’m 34 years old. I’ve been going through it. Last year almost lost my older brother twice also have been in a funk since my separation from my wife a few years ago. This video literally had me think of things subconsciously I’ve been putting in my head. I need to change and be the best version of myself that I know I’m capable of being.

I love watching videos with the reverse effect, where instead of being shown and told, "How things should be done", you're shown, "How it goes if you leave it the way it is", and you can learn from other people's mistakes while really understanding why. That's awesome! Thanks for the video!

Thank you for good tips ❤❤

Thw swipe feom screen to screen is crazy

This hits me so hard, 80% of them is so accurate to my daily lifes for over the past few years until now.. The negativity stated in this video just taught me a lesson to change myself and do the opposite of it..

First time coming across this channel, really loved this argument format. It’s easy to let things like what was mentioned in this video just happen, but when you hear them phrased as firm recommendations, something about the thought process totally changes to “Uhh no, that’s ridiculous!” That’s exactly the point, and I love how this video brought that reaction out of me and made me reflect on some of these tendencies that I have. Thank you for sharing.

Thanks I needed that

Someone in my life does all of these, and it's immensely draining, yet getting away from them is unattainable. I sent them this. Thanks for the inspiring, cinematic piece of quality content, Joey.

This video made me cry. I'm 24 and I feel so lost about my life and myself and I couldn't find the answer, until I found this video; I know I'm young but I'm ruining my life and I didn't want to see it. Thank you for making this video, it hit me pretty hard, but now I know what I have to do.

The production of this video is unreal, you’ve seriously grown so much over the years and it’s inspiring to watch. The content was amazing as always. It really shows us how so many things we assume to be “givens” are actually in our control.

Some great advice here 👍

Despair hits home.

This video made me realise just how much of a negative person I have become. I forgot how to interact with people. I forgot what it feels like to interact with someone. I forgot how to approach someone. I forgot how to start or end a conversation. I forgot how to keep up with a conversation. i forgot how to form a clear sentence... I forgot how to voice my thoughts. I-I forgot how to how to even think clearly. All my peers are ahead of me, I am the one left behind. I used to "think" that everything will be okay. But here I am, an 18 years old, bawling her eyes out knowing she is ruining her life.

I love speedrun videos. It's so neat to see how people optimize things

"You had your shot, it's over" Goddamn that one hit hard

Just another reflex to like these impacting videos

Hey, I wanna say: thank you for making this. Genuinely puts a lot of what I’m doing and a lot of how I act into perspective. Coming from experience doing most of these things, this is 100% how you ruin your life, and it’s a slow and painful process that feels like when an inexperienced hunter shoots a deer wrong, and has to gather up all the bits of their courage just to clumsily and hesitatingly finish it off, putting it in more pain than it already is. I wanna see the next video :)

I remember several years ago heroin addiction destroyed my life, I suffered from severe depression and a mental disorder until I was recommended to psilocybin mushroom treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly I'm 8 years clean now. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

Thanks for this AMAZING tutorial! I will 100% try it

Thanks for the advice

It caught me off guard how... similar this feels to myself. This video made me think on how I act and my habits, opening my eyes to the truth of my actions. Thank you for making this video, and I hope this recommended to other people to see what not to do.

Damn, what a tremendous video. Going to rewatch this periodically as I try to piece myself back together. I'm 25, unemployed, running out of money, living at home, and losing faith in myself. But I'm not done yet. God bless everybody reading this!