Thank you so much 😊 I only have the utmost respect for anyone that takes care of people going through degenerative illnesses - sadly, I think society sweeps these problems under the rug at times, or stows them away in hospice - I'm happy you found some joy in watching my essay! Thank you for what you do ❤️

I was a carer and It was very heartbreaking!

Jesus lord , as a caregiver to Alzheimer’s patients, your must be very strong and brave , I could not deal with that pain. God bless you and your strength and humility

@@bigtuss7482 yes, there are days.

Hi Jadzia. Wow - I'm so sorry you are going through this with your mother. I know it won't mean much for me to say this, but none of what you're experiencing is your fault. I don't know what to say other than your story deeply touched me, and I well and truly wish you strength in tackling one of life's toughest challenges. Much love and stay safe.

I really want to see this movie, but i know i will have to watch it alone like you did. My grandmother has alzheimer, and is very far on in her disease (she got her diagnosis over 10 years ago), and was moved to a care home facility 3 years ago or so. Neither my family or my grandfather has the skillset and equipment to take care of her on our own. My grandfather also has very poor eyesight due to having macular degeration. She would have been admitted to that facility years prior, if it wasn't for my grandfather's devotion as a husband. He took the "for better or for worse" part of their marriage vows seriously and felt like a failure as a husband if he didn't continue taking care of her. I remember all the times we went to the Island where my dad grew up, and how we had to take my grandmother along because she couldn't be by herself. (which made her mental state even worse for a time). I remember being constantly tired from the lack of sleep and having to look after her to make sure that she didn't wander off during the night. How she imagined things that had never happened, and how her paranoia made her accuse me and my father of being stranger out to harm her and my grandfather. She even qccised my father of behing the devil and Satan a handful of times. Not to mention all the times she went wanfering off during the night in the apart ment complex where my grandparents live. She even went outside sometimes and was picked up by an ambulanse or the Police, because someone had seen her walking around at 4am in her nightgown. I also remember how exausted my grandfather was from the lack of sleep. As someone who is also family with someone suffering from alzheimer, let me tell you this. You are not at fault for your Mother wandering off. Taking care of someone with dementia is not only exausting physically, but mentally straining as you are pulled between the feeling of responsibility and exaustion from taking care of them all the time. You did you very best as her daughter, and no one could ask for more from you. She was found and is now being taken care of people who have the resources and training to do so. You have done more than enough, and deserve a pat on the back for it. And remember, you can always visit her and leave knowing she is in safe hands without running the risk of that kind of thing happening again.

My grandfather had this condition and like your mother, one night he got up and left the house. Except he returned at the crack of dawn and rang the doorbell. When my grandmother answered the com and heard his voice outside the house her blood pressure skyrocketed and she burst a vein in one eye, losing visibility in that eye. It was a sad sad time. I fully understand your desire to take care of your mother, but just like passengers on a plane who have to put on their oxygen masks first, you have to take care of yourself first before you can help your loved ones.

Oh, Jadzia, bless you and your family. I'm glad you found the help you needed for your mom. Thank you for sharing your story.

Don't feel guilty, just do your best to be there for her.

I think we all did!

Unrivaled! What a career and still going strong at 83 - hoping we'll be blessed with more of his work before he retires (if he ever does)

Yes absolutely - there isn’t a weak note in this film, and the whole cast, albeit small, nail it completely

Absolutely - and there's so much more at play than what I mentioned in this video! The use of colors, the camera angles, the character blending - it's subtly disturbing and powerful. I also think the film is exceptionally cathartic in how relatable the issues it tackles are. Truly a masterclass on immersion and empathy.

Watched it in 3 parts. Had to face the reality it was telling.😂😭

This movie was so good and so well made, but I would never want to watch it again because it made me feel so uncomfortable. Almost claustrophobic.

I think all those effects have the purpose to make the viewer feel the way a person with dementia feels like, all cloudy and confused.

@@damondefranco I had this feeling too! The film is a masterpiece, however like you say it’s very uncomfortable but would highly recommend anyone to watch this at least once.

Thank you! I couldn't agree more. I think this might be the best we've ever seen from Anthony Hopkins - the way he flows between confident, terrified, angry, unsure, and melancholic is the work of a maestro. Glad to hear you loved it too.

I watched this yesterday. A masterpiece, especially that last devastating scene

Sharon - thank you so much for the kind words. I can't properly put into words how sorry I am that you are going through this in your own life. I certainly understand why you are showing restraint in watching this film - it really is one you have to be prepared for. Until you are, I wish you nothing but strength and happiness in tackling life's toughest challenges, and am happy that I was able to bring a little bit of joy to your life.

Truly an exercise and a masterclass in empathy

Same.

100 percent agree - very few movies have touched me like this one

Heavy - thank you for sharing ❤️

Hope you're doing ok 🙏🏼❤

@@JoshWestoverMusic yes, thank you. Managed to cope with it with time.

I think this year had some really strong contenders. Although I would have loved to see it, Nomadland, Minari, and Sound of Metal were all masterpieces in their own rights. Really Glad Zeller and Hopkins were both recognized for their work though. Anything with Hopkins is bound to be amazing - he's a class above everyone else.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, and I'm happy the movie provided some catharsis by being so accurate and heartbreaking in its portrayal of Anthony's decline. Wishing you nothing but strength and the best ❤

Thank you! Getting back into the swing of things - going to revisit Carlo Mirabella-Davis’s Swallow before getting into newer releases. Also a very emotional movie! The final couple scenes are gut wrenching

There's definitely a cathartic element to this movie - that resonates on a deeply human level. Totally agree that The Father was, in a sense, more horrifying than most classic horror movies.

Ah - thank you Lucy! Really appreciate it. Slowly but surely growing, happy to have you join the journey! Next video is on "The Place beyond the Pines" - definitely suggest giving the movie a watch :)

Thank you Logan! Happy to hear you enjoyed it :)

So very true!!

"articulate everything i subconsciously understood" - wow. Ironcially, I've never been able to articulate this explanation of when you have such a deep understanding of thing that you cant put into words. Thank you

Thank you very much Nerris ! Appreciate it ☺️ we’ll get there one day, with a little luck

I'm sorry to hear about your mother - wishing you all the strength in the world man. Cheers

Thank you!!

What an undeniable experience - there's definitely something cathartic about it, Zeller really opens up the floodgates

@@TakeTwoReviews Indeed - My passion is singing to people suffering dementia and I see the joy it brings even as I present this on the screens in the care homes - residents are trying to hug the screen - dancing and singing along - hoping every little bit helps to bring back the person inside!

@@madeleinemckenzie670 Every little bit definitely helps - what a wonderful thing to do! Need more people like you in the world :)

@@TakeTwoReviews It’s my first Start Up business - Cabaret on Call - doing something I love at last and can make so many people happy anywhere in the world. My website has my first awkward Concert filmed by me in my lounge room singing to a camera during lockdown - hoping to reach people somewhere in the memory centres and bring a smile. Thank you for your kind comments - we all need a bit more love in this world ❤️🎼🎹🎶

Thanks SamuX!! Glad you liked it

Thanks a lot Shiv! I tried to echo what the film was emitting, glad it landed well with you :)

Wow, thank you - what heartfelt praise! I could go on and on about this movie hahah - cheers!

Wow - thank you Udit, that really means a lot! I've been trying to up my editing to really emulate the tone of the movies I take on, so this is a massive compliment. Cheers! 😊

So many heartbreaking scenes - the slapping was borderline traumatic and came completely out of left field. Made me think Zeller was implying Anthony was being abused in the elderly home by his male carer - something that happens all too much in real life. Olivia's understated performance was on point - so much emotion conveyed without uttering a word. Truly amazing. Definitely the kind of movie that sticks in the mind after watching.

It evoked anger and sadness for me. Congrats Sir Anthony you deserved Oscar for this!

@@maryguy9013 100%!! Such a horrifyingly cathartic experience. I wonder - why did it make you feel angry? Was it the elder abuse angle, or something else?

@@TakeTwoReviews I do believe you are correct that he was being abused. I believe that he was in fact at the care facility the whole time due to the fact that the three locations were so similar as far as tone and structure. I think there were three traumatic events that took place that have all fragmented into one jumbled memory. The perceived betrayal by Anne when she had to remove him from his own flat, most likely due to the fact he could no longer care for himself. The perceived abondement when she could no longer care for him and having to put him in a facility and finally the abuse from the caretaker. All three events shaped into one altered time frame and memory. I've never seen a film like it.

​@@joshpandh I like your take the story's jumbled three act structure, I hadn't considered those as key turning points. For me, what marked the acts of the movie was when Anthony would listen to music (always the same song, le pecheur de perles) - each instance happens at his window, and breaks the film up nicely, which I believed reflected movement, at least in his mind, between locations. I definitely agree that by the end of the movie, we come to realize he's been in the hospital the whole time, and his mind has completely abandoned him. Truly a unique movie. Another channel, Spikima Movies, did a great video essay on The Father's scenic structure, I highly recommend it!

Thank you Darren! Glad I was able to make you feel a little bit more of the movie's magic

Hi Jie - thanks for sharing! This movie was definitely a revelation for me and I'm eager to dive into more of his work - I don't think there could be a better directorial debut...I'm excited to see what he comes up with next.

Couldnt agree more - a brilliantly human concept with flawless execution

Haven't watched it yet but now I definitely will. Thank you so much for all your work, your essay is brilliant! You deserve so many more subscribers.

@@anitapallenberg80 Thank you Anita! Really appreciate it :) Just gotta keep putting out more content, I hope you'll like my next video!

I think that it would have been great if this movie got the award for film editing.

@@silvannag That would have been amazing, I thought the set-design would have been recognized more for sure too

@@TakeTwoReviews I agree, I honestly feel that it deserved more recognition, but I'm happy for Anthony Hopkins. And by the way, excellent job. You helped me to see the movie from a very well executed point of view, I was looking for an essay just like yours.

Undeniable!

It's my pleasure Eliza!! Glad you enjoyed it 😊

Absolutely! It's deeply moving on a human level, dealing with a subject that we'll all experience to some degree

Yes, it frightens me, in fact.

Hey Afra - appreciate it! Means a lot. Only the utmost respect for people doing what you do, I can't imagine the emotional devastation of living and working in this world every day. The film definitely helped me see dementia through a new lens.

No, thank YOU for the kind words. Happy you enjoyed it :)

You're welcome mr Alpaca! Welcome to the crew

Thank you very much!

Thanks Elizabeth! Glad you enjoyed it

Glad you enjoyed it!

Much appreciated! Next video will be all about one of my favorite movies of 2017, The Florida Project :)

Appreciate it Jonas - I can only keep making videos like this one and hope the growth continues!

I wish I could give this two hearts Amrutha - you really just made my day. This is what the channel lives for - helping see between the layers of our favorite movies, and really connect with why we love them, how they bring their ideas to life. I'm so happy you could find that here, and that I could be a part of it :) Thank YOU for the comment

Hey - appreciate the kind words man! Slowly but surely growing, we'll get there :)

I had the same reaction when the movie ended - such an intensely powerful movie, it was overload! Thanks for the sub, really appreciate it 😊

The first time I’ve ever cried in the credits...

Yup - such a haunting culmination and a moving ending

Hahah - I won't lie, it was tough giving this movie several rewatches - the weight of it doesn't lessen. Big ups to not only the performances, but also the production and editing - all of them come together to deliver this masterpiece.

@@TakeTwoReviews I completely agree with you.

Thank you Toki - glad to have you join the channel :) next video coming out Monday!

Thank you for the encouragement Nick - really means a lot!

Thank you so much Pranav! Appreciate it

Hey man - thanks a lot! More videos coming, currently figuring out the next one :D Really appreciate the kind words - people like you keep me motivated!!

Ah - love it! Thank you so much Alperen - glad to have you join the crew!

Thank you Brian! It really is what this movie was - devastating.

100% agree - one of the great movies I never want to watch again - it really is akin to a horror movie - especially the scene where he wakes and sees his daughter in the hospital

Couldn't put it better! Never experienced anything quite like it

Thank YOU Animesh

Thanks for the sub Alex! Glad you liked the video 😁

So sorry to hear about your intimate experience with the subject - the film is definitely a tough watch, especially the second half, so make sure you're up for it before putting it on

Wow - the theater must have been full of used tissues by the end of the movie! Love how they use the score almost as an alarm bell to tell us something wrong was happening

You’re welcome! Glad you liked it

Pas de quoi Lionel!

Thank you ♥️

Thank you!

Just need to get back to making videos 😅😅

Cheers!

Thank you Cristian! Glad you liked it 😁