A feeling of rejection was so much at the core of my self-concept that I didn't know there was any other way to feel. I have survived and even thrived in some ways, but not in others. I've had to toss some of life's opportunities overboard to stay afloat. But at 65, I look back on a life of coping and I feel pretty good about myself.

It's amazing how much you can learn about yourself watching 70+ year old mental health videos. 🤦🏼‍♀️ In different ways, but same outcome, inability to speak up for myself, to say no. 🙁

You have to set healthy boundaries or others will literally 'walk all over you' and you will be mentally miserable

Ok, she may have found out what caused her issues but I'm afraid we still haven't come up with a truly effective treatment 75 years later.

Min 18:57 (Gary Larson's Far Side) "armed with her new weapon, Margaret said 'NO' al the time..."

Very good I wanted to watch more, unfortunately I grew up like Margaret :(

THIS YOUNG WOMAN GOT STUCK WITH CHORES HER SISTER DIDN'T WANT TO DO

It was not for fear of rejection that she was unable to say no. She did not fear she would lose the love of a sales woman if she did not buy the blouse she recommended. She doubted her own choices and ability. It was learned helplessness.

Motivational.

I have this I can't disagree with anyone asking for something to do ,but I'm learning how to say No politely ,,😂

This is me in a nutshell

10 years later... "Oh, well shit, looks like you're an Introvert. Sorry, lets start therapy over." lol

Min 18. "a safe non-competitive group" helps her. Uh....anyone see the Irony?

12:04 Neither do you as a teacher apparently.

BPD

People who like this film would love Woody Allen's "Zelig"; they are perfect companions to each other. But on a serious note, I'm surprised at how great and non-dated, timeless this film and its message actually are. I've enjoyed many of these old films for their quaint primitiveness, but increasingly I'm seeing unexpected wisdom and insight in them, confirmation that we mustn't presume that older means more primitive, less "advanced." Sadly, I see an enormous amount of the syndrome depicted in this film in my own life. My mother was raised like the girl in this story (with even a similar dynamic with a younger sister, my mother's only sibling). I was the middle brother of 3, no sisters; my mother always regretted not having a daughter and forced the exact upbringing shown in this film on me, constantly squelching and impulse other than pure safe conformity and obedience. And when my friends would get rugged masculine clothes, she'd try to force me not toward feminine, dainty versions, but garments that were just lightly more decorative than the deliberately plain-functional masculine style. Truth is, never got over it because the micromanaging and what I call "agency-hijacking" never let up, even into my college years and beyond. Things have only been rough. Frankly, there's been more than a little of the "Norman Bates" dynamic: I'm not violent or anything, but had the same power struggle seemingly my whole life. And when I graduated (actually an extremely highly ranked college) into one of the worst recessions (especially in terms of jobs) in history, I got stuck on a path with seemingly no remedy whatsoever, the ultimate "between a rock [brutal economic conditions] and a hard place [my family; where despite all the aforementioned treatment, both parents' emotional neediness was constantly way beyond anything remotely normal, trying to keep my life constantly focused on them, and trying to pace themselves a t the center of any positive experience I might have, such as my chance to go to a great college, which my mother treated as more about her than about me,trying to drive and orchestrate every aspect of it that she could via 'remote control'). Sorry for venting guys, but it goes to show how true a film like this can be. But at the same time, everything must be taken with a grain of salt: what's shown in this film and my story, because you're only getting one side. In the film, all the blame is placed on the mother, but it could be the mother knew the daughter was not so pretty and might struggle in life if she isn't completely docile; her best prospects might be finding a man who essentially wants a good and submissive housekeeper. Not defending the mother, of course, but on some level maybe some "method to her madness." In my case, though it's easy to blame my mother, she either suspected or assumed I'm not super-talented, and assumed the best path for me would be one of docility, risk aversion, total conformity, obsession with tangible academic achievement (grades), and in sartorial choices, a little on the flashier side. In most such cases, the truth isn't purely on one side, but probably somewhere in between. But the ultimate therapeutic message may be sort of like what Marx said: "We've done enough already to try to understand the past; the point is to change things." (paraphrase, sorry not gonna look it up right now.)

We are raising a whole generation like this with their safe spaces and trigger warnings.

lol gotta love the 40s, even a minor headache is dramatized like a fucking noir movieLOLOLOL

Instead of analyzing and inquiring psychiatrists just project their own fears onto their patients. They learn in medical school not to ask why but instead just to assume.

omg she's 23 lol

Something a little gayer....there Margaret you have hit the nail on the ol Lesbian head.