The gift of tough times | Tara Igoe

The gift of tough times | Tara Igoe | TEDxLaJolla

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10 жыл бұрын

Tara Igoe (pron. I-go) loves to learn and grow and believes her life's purpose is to have the courage to face herself, follow her truth, and operate from love not fear - no pressure, Tara. When she is not pondering her existence, Tara is a tenured communications expert and personal/professional development coach and has worked with top companies, nonprofit organizations as well as leading experts in personal development, medicine, sports, and fitness. Tara is also a skilled comedic performer, speaker and storyteller who has appeared at top comedy and improv venues including The Comedy Store, The Improv, and Upright Citizens Brigade. She loves shares her expertise, personal stories and insights to help herself and others.
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@aayush_karna 3 жыл бұрын

You, Yes You, Hard times is temporary and will go, talk to people, all you need is time.

@charleshurstreinvention3959 Жыл бұрын

It can be a gift or a curse based on your perception. As I told my own subscribers. The hard times can make you stronger but only if you allow yourself to absorb the lessons learned and the tenacity it took to get through them. Because if you don't, tough times can bury you as well. If you give up with every road block then it will become the pattern for your life. If you develop a fighting mentality however, no matter what, then not only will the tough times be less in duration but when the times aren't hard you will advance even more so. The problem is we live in a generation of coddle now. We are telling them tough times should fall on society to get you through. And that will set someone up for an unfulfilled life. But if you keep your sword razor sharp, you will find that you will be prepared to use it quickly and won't even have to draw it nearly as much. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles

@alessia5144 3 жыл бұрын

Such an inspiring speech , she's been super clear and told what most of us needed to hear from someone going through hard times. I'm currently facing one of the lowest points in my life (so far, I'm only 21 but I can only discuss my experience) and her words "transition means trasformation" really hit me up. I'm looking forward to meeting the upcoming version of myself, I really can't wait to find the key and open this cage which got way too heavy. Thank you for the powerful words!

@tarajoan8315 3 жыл бұрын

Alessia - I am so glad to know my words helped you. I have found that having a good toolkit is super important - good diet, yoga for me helps so much And being in nature, therapy when needed, learning how to really feel my feelings and lean into them - not be afraid of them - they are energy that wants to be expressed - I switch things up to stay balance - having fun and laughing helps so much so I put comedy’s on, things like that. There are so many tools out there and it takes time to move through these moments. I hope this helps. Also, there is a breathing visualizational meditation called Tonglen you might like - basically you think about everyone else who is feeling the pain you are feeling and then you send out to them the feeling you want for yourself and them as a way of healing. Depending on what I am going through in life, I adapt my toolkit to meet my needs - Throughout COVID, I have been doing yoga with my teacher and a group of women five times a week, we meet weekly in a women’s circle - this has helped so much. Another thing to mention is looking at what you eating and drinking - caffeine and high sugar does a number on mood and anxiety (fear), I notice it immediately. I hope this helps you - you take good care of yourself - you are not alone and you will move through this moment - it is a moment, it just feels like FOREVER when you are going through it - let it sit alongside you and ask it what it wants to teach you. Xoxo

@gogicoachtaylor 2 жыл бұрын

So proud to call Tara my friend.......

@tarajoan8315 2 жыл бұрын

Aweeeeee, Coach

@hanaharis6161 3 жыл бұрын

My cage wasn’t physically but my mind 💯

@mangoyacho 4 жыл бұрын

Tara I came late to the party. I have only just seen your most inspiring TEDxTALK. Thank you for sharing your story. Bravo! Lots of love from South Africa!

@tarajoan8315 4 жыл бұрын

Love to you, too, Sue xoxoxoxo

@amyrap8293 3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful. Just Beautiful. “That’s what it is to be a human being to feel and express fully. Feelings are our guide posts they plug us into the Universe” Wow. some wisdom right there!!

@patrickgallagherbluesguita8712 2 жыл бұрын

Thank You Tara. I Love it. "Transition equals Transformation." And "Feel my feelings in order to get the gift." :) I definitely have experienced both of these in my life. :) It's so nice to receive affirmation of being on the right path. ;) Much Peace, Love, and Equanimity to All. :)

@thx4848 3 жыл бұрын

This is the best TEDTalk.

@arlinegeorge6967 3 жыл бұрын

Beautiful amazing soul . Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

@curtisalvis1871 3 жыл бұрын

Transition = Transformation 🙏✨🤍

@sallylands5298 6 жыл бұрын

A very brave lady to open her heart and emotions to the world. A really inspiring talk. Thank you for sharing, you made a lot of sense in your honesty.

@tarajoan8315 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much - I really appreciate it :)

@radiantmandi86 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you! I've taken what you said to heart. I can completely relate to moving away from all that you know and coming into a dry place. Thank you again.

@tarajoan8315 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you - I am so glad to know it helped you in some way. My dream was as I was in that dark night(s) of the soul, to give out whatever I learned to help others - so your comment makes me happy. :)

@alexj4725 3 жыл бұрын

This talk deserves more views

@tarajoan8315 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Alex!

@lynnerusso7601 10 жыл бұрын

So beautiful, bravo!!!

@schoolstraining4636 10 жыл бұрын

I cried. :')

@cinziacarta3888 5 жыл бұрын

She spoken with her heart opened

@tarajoan8315 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, Cinzia - Sending you best of wishes - Tara :)

@andrewcruz3837 3 жыл бұрын

True. Whats your Instagram

@CourgarAdventurePE 6 жыл бұрын

Tara I truly enjoyed your TED talk and I completely resonated with your message. I wrote a blog about a month ago called "The fences of the mind," while driving through Texas. Looking forward to following your journey too! What a blessing to have met you in Venice at Mystic Journey Yoga Studio.

@tarajoan8315 4 жыл бұрын

I loved meeting you too - I remember! Blessings to you, :)

@kundanchhabra 7 жыл бұрын

Very beautiful and insightful!

@fluffynamedkimba 5 жыл бұрын

Very brave speech, thank you, excellent.

@tarajoan8315 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much, Rachel - your dog is ADORABLE :)

@deloresjonestv972 3 жыл бұрын

POWERFUL!! I get it!! Congratulations 👏👏

@NovaNebula21 7 жыл бұрын

Soooo goood!!!!!!

@way.truth.life. 4 жыл бұрын

I like the thought behind this talk. Would appreciate some practical examples of implementing these abstract concepts.

@tarajoan8315 4 жыл бұрын

I'm happy to help you with more specifics - I understand and always want more detail myself - feel free to write questions here and I will respond w detail you need. Best of wishes, Tara

@dinomahn3256 6 жыл бұрын

Im 10 and ive been through alot my dad cheats on my mom we left my hometown gets a crappy house eat tofu everyday mom gets a little crazy and have a new boyfriend his job is uber but the income is not enough he spends money on cigarettes and all the chores from dishes to bringing water galons is done by either me my sister or my mom i found out my sister isnt a virgin and my mom is spending money on everything never got a call from my crazy dad and i dunno how i can stay tough through this but my tip is saying to yourself "YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS WALLY (cover up name) YOU CAN!!"

@radiantmandi86 6 жыл бұрын

Stay strong

@Jess-yq6bx 6 жыл бұрын

Dannyfanboi 147 Prayers for you😘😘😘

@larasmith2931 4 жыл бұрын

🦋thats rough, but you are stronger. God will not give you more then you can handle. So remember that you can rise above it

@gstudios36 7 жыл бұрын

excellent

@janehall8613 7 жыл бұрын

anybody else bothered by that 'a' falling down in the beginning?

@tarajoan8315 5 жыл бұрын

I wish I had noticed I would have totally used it in my speech :)

@preciseelf 4 жыл бұрын

Yes I see

@JustMe-ob3nw 2 жыл бұрын

Right?😂

@zensvlognotapro 4 жыл бұрын

expressiveness

@donschlegel1972 9 жыл бұрын

Love you

@mdsoyel 6 жыл бұрын

Educational

@tarajoan8315 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@CGOD6 6 жыл бұрын

A fellow new Englander nice!!!

@tarajoan8315 5 жыл бұрын

:) thank you!!

@thedrinkinggamemaker9749 3 жыл бұрын

It's in hard times that the strong rise up

@weewee33wee44 10 жыл бұрын

You broke my heart :)

@joanie68 10 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry. :( Hope that you got something from it. :)

@chachiebarrera2262 6 жыл бұрын

Awesome!!

@thetankie6335 10 жыл бұрын

Nice^-^

@drbonesshow1 Жыл бұрын

When times are tough find a girl who will “stiffen your resolve.”

@mariag.8953 6 жыл бұрын

Did Cowboy ever get set free

@5ingink 4 жыл бұрын

0:11 a

@kalashpatil1427 3 жыл бұрын

How many going through bad times at teenage.

@starboy3802 7 жыл бұрын

Why you didn't set that bird, Cowboy free from the cage? I was hoping you'd do that :/

@varunjobanputra4851 5 жыл бұрын

His wings were clipped.

@alisonm8319 5 жыл бұрын

my dad passed away from colon cancer too ):

@tarajoan8315 5 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry - sending blessings your way, Ali. xo :)

@trufghdsyjvgfdd5281 3 жыл бұрын

bonjour

@uw3477 4 жыл бұрын

엄

@uw3477 4 жыл бұрын

준

@uw3477 4 жыл бұрын

식

@kiranm6749 6 жыл бұрын

We r only 20 who feel I don't know why I don't understand what is she telling...

@chasedbyvvolves9256 4 жыл бұрын

that's one wasted vowel

@kiranm6749 6 жыл бұрын

I came back to say that she sound like she has byhearted the speech. Her jokes are not that funny.. And something is missing yes she is not able to connect to the listeners of I can take it any more I need to run