The graph that changed my life: STOP chasing ‘better’ and START getting REAL

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This video might be the most important thing we can talk about. We're talking about your dark side. Now, I don't mean dark as in evil-we're not talking about blood rituals hooded in a forest where we're chanting. I mean the dark side that we all have within us. It's the reason you self-sabotage your goals, it's the reason you push good people away in relationships, and it's the reason that's holding you back from making the amount of money you want. The good news is that once you know this chart that we're talking about in this video, change can happen really fast for you.
We're keeping it really simple and real, so without further ado, I'll explain this chart. We'll apply it to you in several areas such as money, relationships, happiness, and then I'll give you the solution of how to fix this. I do want to give credit to Sam Ovens, where I picked up this chart from for the first time, and it changed my life. Here we have a basic oscillation chart, and you'll notice right here there's negative 1, 2, and 3, and then there's positive 1, 2, and 3. This represents your life, gaining +3, minus +3, gaining +2, minus +2, +1, minus one. Well, what does that net out to? It nets out to zero, as if you didn't have any of the positives because they're wiped out by some of the negatives. This is the cycle that controls your life, and this part right here is what is known as your dark side, or you can use the word your shadow side-the parts of you that are holding you back or self-sabotaging. And until you recognize this cycle, it's going to run your life.
To kick this off, when I was 25, I was struggling financially, and it wasn't that I didn't work. I was working three jobs in college at once. I'd been working unofficially since I was 12 and got caught shoplifting Red Bulls wearing eyeliner and a My Chemical Romance shirt-thought I was really punk rock, story for another time. Parents like, "We're not paying for this, dude." I had to get a job and work as a golf caddy, carrying rich people's clubs and watching them throw fits when they missed the ball and break a club-it was real-life Happy Gilmore. "Son of a b, why didn't you just go home? Are you too good for your home?" So, I added up all the jobs because I was like, "Dude, I've been working since I was 12 years old, how do I have not a single dollar to show for this?" And I realized this lesson: I would make money, and then bills would come up, and then I would make some money, and I would spend it. I would make some money and find a way to spend it, and that netted out to $0. And that pattern
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@clarkkegley Ай бұрын

You guys diggin the chart vids? Having a ton of fun making them for you. Got FOUR more already scheduled for you. Monday mornings at 7:15AM! Here's our new one... We're talking about your dark side. It's the reason you self-sabotage your goals, it's the reason you push good people away in relationships, and it's the reason that's holding you back from making the amount of money you want. Get the 11 questions to change your life now (free gift for youtube subs): www.clarkkegley.com/free-questions

@AylaNovaNidra Ай бұрын

Love the wholistic approach; seeing the wholeness between the highs and lows. Thank you for this amazing video @clarkkegley

@skyethewylder Ай бұрын

This is the first time I have ever watched you, and I love the flow of it, and the chart is great. I watched it twice. Sent it to my friend who is a therapist, she will love it, and going to have my husband watch it with me. We have come a long way with meditation, and I have been working through self awareness but this visual is super helpful reference for me to recenter through out the day when needed.

@darioscomicschule1111 Ай бұрын

The Dark Side about not Making Timestamps! 00:00 Intro 01:00 Dark Side 03:00 Not making Timestamps, pushing Viewers away and not making that Money 07:00 Solution - Making Timestamps

@SyNcLife 25 күн бұрын

great explanation, thank you!!

@whatcouldgowrong7914 Ай бұрын

I describe personal growth as trying to fill a bucket with holes in it, you just want more water to keep it full, rather than closing the holes...

@kalleskit Ай бұрын

I realized something around the time you released this video. All we really need for this world to prosper is to get real. Really, really real. We need to learn how to relax, all of us. How to be sincere instead of serious.

@matthawk04 Ай бұрын

Absolutely nailed it with removing things from your life. Once I started to simplify every area of my life, life got a whole lot more simple. We're brainwashed into more, more, more. Trust me, it's all about less, less, less.😉

@chrisschwab7696 Ай бұрын

Law of attraction works when you do the work, and face your shadow and clear those blocks. You can't just skip that step and manifest anything, it's called preparing your vessel. All these things coincide with each other.

@sirguy6678 Ай бұрын

Wait..we’re NOT talking about blood rituals? I’m out.

@missblisspresents Ай бұрын

This 👏🏻

@DianasReviews Ай бұрын

Yes however you can get in the trap of always needing to “clear” blocks or limitations. Lately I’ve focused on one thing … BEING. Because a lifetime of doing and clearing still left me miserable 😖 so now I AM. And it’s brought me peace 🕊️

@OneOfAMineRocks Ай бұрын

Many Blessings To Everyone, Rockweilers Rock! My DARK Side had to learn to sit in the back seat, 471 Days O Sobriety fer this Irish man!❤

@456456459 Ай бұрын

Well done! Quit last year myself. It's still a struggle but getting better. Especially when I saw the reasons why I drank.

@mygreatescape Ай бұрын

I have always felt like I'm a potato in a chip factory that fell off the belt into the gears and I'm just stuck tumbling around while I watch all the other potatoes on the belt moving along in life. I think that is exactly what you drew but as a chart!! Thank you!!!

@sirsmalls4565 Ай бұрын

Love this analogy I can relate

@marni803 Ай бұрын

This was great! I find that when I’m self-sabotaging, if I stop and ask myself WHY am I doing this right now, I am usually able to recognize the trigger and step away from it. Being aware of those triggers takes work but it’s worth it.

@stanguitars Ай бұрын

You were among a few that encouraged me to work on myself and after a year of self-help sometimes i focus too much on the down turns. This video made me see the progress made and acknowledge how my life changed for good over the time. Thanks Clark, your videos are always useful to me!

@vmDigitalLifestylepro Ай бұрын

❤❤❤Love this, as this is where I'm at currently. Just going through the cycles. This came up in my feed this morning as I started my morning pages and writing out my dark sides. Imagine that. Thanks Clarke 🙏

@immanentPassages Ай бұрын

The binge after the workout is "moral liscensing." This chart really brought it home for me. Especially consuming your gains like the ouroborous. Thanks!

@isayawhaat1634 Ай бұрын

one of the most helpful things i noticed is iv been learning and not trying to accomplish something do to learn dont learn to do

@Uncommony Ай бұрын

This chart reminds me that we are like energy up and down. Good days vs bad days. We hope the downs are not that often, hope we stay centered and get to taste the highs. Stay Uncommon!

@carinweldon6907 Ай бұрын

Thank you for this! I'm grateful for your wonderful delivery of such valuable information. I appreciate your mention of being vulnerable and raw. I believe being vulnerable in the way you talk about it is having courage. 😊 Aware and curious are two wonderful solutions!

@_cr8ive_ Ай бұрын

I always call the 2nd type of stuck . . ."The Treadmill Syndrome" . . .exerting a lot of energy, but you're not going anywhere...It just drains the life out of you...

@tiffinysanchez2312 Ай бұрын

🙌 great analogy

@MountainofInspiration Ай бұрын

Identify the patterns so you can make things better. Have the courage to address the elephant in the room and things will become easier. Awesome video.

@JoLloyd-b5e 9 күн бұрын

Loved this! Just discovered you and loving your content! Thank you ❤

@Vanator-qw6xw Ай бұрын

I have had this concept called self destruction and I never understood what to do or where I was going exactly. I also tried to figure it out, but man thank you honestly mate you really cleared all the information for me.

@heatherscalia3921 Ай бұрын

Love the charts! This was really clear and helpful. Thank you so much for sharing this explanantion.

@ramandeeprana9542 Ай бұрын

Thank you Clark I really needed this....🙏❤️

@kristin.adjacent Ай бұрын

This is by far the BEST explanation I've heard about this concept! My cousin and I are constantly discussing shadow work, and she always says "your reality is you, pushed out into the universe," which has always bothered me because it doesn't address those unwanted outcomes, especially after putting in tons of work to produce a different set of outcomes. I guess the little nerd in me just needed a chart. 😂 Thank you!!

@bubusmitatanti6041 Ай бұрын

Ur videos r super amazing and helpful and realistic and easy to understand and apply them in real life.. thankyou

@pantelimon501 Ай бұрын

Thanks a lot for this video, it really helped me understand some important things that I needed

@JadyLady Ай бұрын

Thank you for this!💕

@angierox6964 11 күн бұрын

Excellent! Thank you!

@RocketBeats_ Ай бұрын

Love the energy on this one

@LennefalkStudios Ай бұрын

Definitely applicable to fat loss and getting in shape too, more days of progress than setbacks and minimizing their magnitude 🔥😊

@MinnyMann Ай бұрын

like the charts. great post

@morticiasunshine1402 Ай бұрын

I love you Clark this is soooo good

@m.k.9405 Ай бұрын

I can never stick with a new habit for even a few days. I feel that's why I'm stuck. It's way easier to stop a bad habit than to start a good one.

@krehulka5211 Ай бұрын

We could shake hands on this🤝there most be a way out of it

@m.k.9405 Ай бұрын

@@krehulka5211 right? There must be a way....

@WhatsByondAntarticaGoogleEarth Ай бұрын

Beliefs are a big part of it. When I started Believing I could do things as well as celebrating Tiny accomplishments things changed for me. If you have a Belief that Doesn't Serve You Why Have It? Those words changed my life.

@jennyjenkins877 Ай бұрын

@@m.k.9405 I had a bad habit of being bad at habits until I learned about habit stacking. The main point for me is to build a new habit when I'm already up off my butt to do something else that's pretty routine. The one I'm most proud of is getting the dishes caught up immediately after eating breakfast and then I take a caffeinated beverage break. Try to pair a new habit with one that's already established and follow it with some type of harmless reward.

@Kelly_Ben 27 күн бұрын

Another great video! And with your penchant for black clothes, you should get a black GSD too! 😂

@josefinemilo Ай бұрын

Great video! ❤

@lfernando2412 Ай бұрын

My boy put me on to this when he was explaining trade analysis. Market could be going up or down. Either way u making money

@donbonito4975 Ай бұрын

The simplest explanation that I've ever heard that is related to the dark side.

@jashhingu4356 Ай бұрын

First one to zee Clark's every video ❤❤

@xavimc6 Ай бұрын

MUCHAS GRACIAS CLARK, DESDE ESPAÑA

@ayush-vardhan Ай бұрын

Valuable Video.. But not for everyone.. (I mean, you've to go through some tough times to understand this!) Btw Love your content!

@Uncommony Ай бұрын

Gamifying my life changed my life. Dare to be Exceptional, Dare to be Uncommon!

@DarkDazeX Ай бұрын

My new boss took away all my flexibility and has me on a very strict schedule. I have been trying to think positive with daily affirmations and changing mindset but something he does or if he doesn't share necessary information with me always brings me back down and I keep getting mad/sad. I can't get out of this cycle.

@mikesw3b Ай бұрын

As a dog owner myself, I'm always checking my shoes if I smell something or it feels like a lump on the bottom of my shoe lol.

@JassZen Ай бұрын

What am I going to wear color ??? lol you sound like me. Thank you Clark 🖤🖤🖤

@bamark-cy6lo Ай бұрын

You seem like someone who's genuinely looking for true healing and fulfilment, you're also pretty smart and I appreciate you sharing what worked and what didn't work for you. Apart from all the stigma around religion or beliefs, have you given the Quran a read before? Curious to hear your understanding from it.

@Consumer2 Ай бұрын

i stuck on both sides like first stuck watching a lot of videos but I don't take any action and I also stuck like a snack I will improve and leave after some time.

@therichbuddha3277 Ай бұрын

The Mountain is You by Brianna Wiest is essential reading.

@jensmith8248 Ай бұрын

Idk about 3:24 I feel like that quote should be “it’s about the money you spend,” bc how much you make is important. It is hard survive off of a minimum wage job

@immanuelcalunod8518 Ай бұрын

Truuuuuuue!!

@TheIrishBosnian Ай бұрын

I love a good graph. 😂😂😂

@August_2456 Ай бұрын

Love from India 💕

@mickeylonv7379 Ай бұрын

Clark I've done shadow work for years but I have a question about pineal. Mind if I ask it here?

@Consumer2 Ай бұрын

you talk about the growth chart is not going up and up when you zoom in its have a lot of ups and downs. right I understand that

@willseely4515 Ай бұрын

Aware, curious. Are my thoughts useful, how do they behave. Is this out of my control, what can I do about it. These are identifying the problem, not the solution. Still looking.

@Consumer2 Ай бұрын

Vanisa Lua in here on the clip I know him. i watch a lot of there videos about money and buz

@tkc8810 Ай бұрын

The pyramid of achievement is build, sell invest.

@bowonetpreneur894 Ай бұрын

Does this anything to do with Entropy? Just curious 🤔🤔🤔

@divyv20 Ай бұрын

Hey Clark , very good video . I can do better editing in your videos which can help you to get more engagement in your videos . Pls lmk what do you think ?

@briannapeterson7294 Ай бұрын

Puppy!

@Realthinkerishere Ай бұрын

Sam ovean everywhere damnnn

@beautygabriel6684 Ай бұрын

💕

@shanen457 Ай бұрын

Yeah, I totally understand this pattern, I work and earn money and then when I check my account balance I find that my wife has spent it all! Weird!

@instrumental Ай бұрын

Synchronistic

@Consumer2 Ай бұрын

thsi video is realted to me but hard to understanding

@abdelazizriah3245 Ай бұрын

what is the purpose of saving money if we don't spend it in a good way?

@gemmonkey1992 Ай бұрын

Great question

@EvzenTrdy Ай бұрын

Problem is not spending but identifiing good way and buing sh… you do not need :)

@DaisyAruba Ай бұрын

INVESTING & knowing how to / what to do, bad advice, and it goes on 5 years I learned from it.

@Sara-nk3jc Ай бұрын

❤❤

@Gypsymommarose347 Ай бұрын

Dark side of owning shepherds and wearing black! 😂

@jaimecherie3430 Ай бұрын

Hello ❤

@DaisyAruba Ай бұрын

Ok I think I’m beyond this session I am an advanced learner. I learn from mistakes without guidance I have the ability to take advantage of toxic situations by learning from myself and those around me.

@androane Ай бұрын

I think by now there are at least 100 graphs and chart which changed your life 🤣

@santiagoalfredoquispeelias2996 Ай бұрын

can you say : I'M BATMAN

@santiagoalfredoquispeelias2996 Ай бұрын

funny thing's your name is Clark

@DaisyAruba Ай бұрын

HAPPY GIMORE IS AN iconic movie Ben stiller as the “you’re in my world now granny” in the nursing home is in other movies too it’s legendary comedy.

@bobsmithers Ай бұрын

Just go to the forest and be.

@DaisyAruba Ай бұрын

I worked early too and still have nothing

@rbowdenscipio3408 Ай бұрын

Maybe you spend too much time commenting on YT videos? I think you have six or seven comments on this one video? No brain filter?

@DaisyAruba Ай бұрын

In contrast to your ☀️ sign being the outer appearance your moon 🌙 sign is considered to be your truer self you don’t show the world, mine is Scorpio. Well that’s just one of the most mysterious and dark signs to have there especially with Gemini in my sun ☀️ and mercury and others, it’s like I have two forces opposing against each other and still MORE THAN NORMAL

@SuperNikkipants Ай бұрын

I feel this so much. Cap sun, Scorpio moon, Gemini rising. It feels like I’m constantly battling myself and I really struggle finding the balance between my two sides.

@TheProactivePatients 4 күн бұрын

Dude, you have obviously never owned a St. Bernard, lol

@TheCuratorIsHere Ай бұрын

I’ll teach you something way better than this: Throughout the day, narrate what you do at the 3rd person. You’ll be surprised how much that brings awareness on stupid self sabotaging behaviours and what is behind them. It works because it disengages the ego. Lookup psych term called “fusion” .. you want to go in the opposite direction. Thank me later.

@DaisyAruba Ай бұрын

I’d make them spikes not ovals/phallic shapes