The Heartbreaking Saga of a Hasidic Matchmaker

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11 ай бұрын

Yonasan Schwartz was born in Jerusalem, Israel. After he lost his mother at a very young age, he dealt with abuse and forms of abandonment. He got divorced and remarried, became a sucessful badchin and created the largest jewish toy store called Toys To Discover. He lost 3 of his siblings and he is dedicating his life to help singles find their partners.
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@TzippyTzippy-fx9iq 11 ай бұрын

This episode did to me and my wife away more than what our therapist tried in the last 2 years. After watching the full episode we made our commitment even stronger to be there for each other and most important to be there for our kids. I wish that we can contact him for a personal session.

@BenSkyLakewood 11 ай бұрын

That's nice

@weeklydaily4775 11 ай бұрын

Wow. Thats wonderful

@esthermpungu3963 11 ай бұрын

Wooow, keep to your commitment 💕

@shimonrosenberg1943 11 ай бұрын

I grew up with yonasen schwartz albums. My father passed away when I was 13 years old in 1998. At that time he gave out his gite besirah album and he has a song of a child that sat by his father sick bed and then the father passed away. That song gave me so much chizuk. I was literally crying every time I listened to that song.

@annonimiss6422 10 ай бұрын

Some divorced parents hate their spouses more than they love their children. It's heartbreaking to watch those children lose so much because of one or both of their parents' hatred towards the other.

@judithfleischer1531 11 ай бұрын

What a smart man. I was involved in one shidduch. The mother said no. So, I went directly to the boy and mentioned it to him. When I told him the girl's name he said that it never was mentioned to him and I told him why. I told him that his mother said no. I said it's only one date. If there is no connection then you don't continue. But there is no reason not to go out at least once. They are BH married and have married children.

@Tali5899 11 ай бұрын

What a wonderful start to married life.I hope his mother gets along with his wife and everyone lives happily ever after.

@ralphfenortner3026 11 ай бұрын

What an inspiring interview! So much good advice and direction for a happier life from a man who seems to walk the walk. Thank you so much!

@shimonsurkis9626 11 ай бұрын

Yakov I have been listening to a lot of your podcasts from day 1 and this is the first time I'm commenting on this epic episode. I grew up listening to Yonoson as well as whatch him do so much chesed in the community and I never new his personal life story, this gave me so much more appreciation for this incredible person. May he be blessed with Siyata Dishmaya in all his endeavors.

@ChayaFellerman 11 ай бұрын

So inspirational. Thank you!

@yaffadonath953 11 ай бұрын

I agree with him 100% that it is very painful but true. Sorry for the ones who got offended by it it is hard to hear the truth. I heard him in the Yiddish podcast as well he is a brilliant man who went through a lot in his life, and instead of getting depressed he built upon it. I loved this episode it was definitely EPIC!.

@surimutterperl2525 10 ай бұрын

I’m blown away by this podcast. I would love to speak with Mr Schwartz. This was EPIC

@avideblinger2492 11 ай бұрын

The guy is absolutely brilliant. I can't even count how many times I said to myself that this was worth listening just because of this line. So many great lines and amazing wisdom.

@angusseletto1511 10 ай бұрын

So so many lessons to take away.A Very wise man. Epic show. I hope you read these comments. Im lucky to have found your channel.God Bless You

@wholovesyababy5574 9 ай бұрын

Fabulous interview! Thank you!

@merrynhopkins1162 11 ай бұрын

Fantastic interview Thank you

@yitzchokroth6168 11 ай бұрын

Amazing powerful episode !! Keep it up!!

@tuvylemberg 11 ай бұрын

Incredible interview

@user-hl2ov8nd9n 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!!! So insightful ❤

@Brenda-is9mo 11 ай бұрын

Epic! I appreciate you enlightening us on this subject.

@d.l7457 11 ай бұрын

This is one of the most inspiring episodes to date. (No pun intended;) Wow I am blown away by his Sumchas Hachaim. Will have to listen to it again BE"H.

@jlabmaster1722 11 ай бұрын

Great video thank you so much

@aaronminz8829 11 ай бұрын

Epic Thank you I love Yonesen, my old neighbor and a friend.

@josephklein8692 11 ай бұрын

Yonason Schwartz is EPIC!!! we can learn from him that whatever a person is going through they can go on in life and leave it to hashem to run the world...I totally agree with yonason... Thanks so much for this episode.

@ramban1 11 ай бұрын

Epic. Another really great episode.

@Hadas705 11 ай бұрын

תודה על השיתוף, סיפור ממש עצוב. יישר כח

@TheGoverdi 10 ай бұрын

EPIC! Though this is a word used way too often to describe events that may merit lesser descriptions, this podcast is truly EPIC! AND TRULY INSPIRING!

@MsMuradova 11 ай бұрын

Amazing as always!!

@FrankyJew 11 ай бұрын

EPIC! I think the message was a little bugled because of the language barrier. However, he is a special yid who means well and he's actually trying to make a difference.

@alsnov19 11 ай бұрын

Gr8 episode thanks for having him on

@sabineelvirejung8121 3 ай бұрын

Epic! Thank you.

@angusseletto1511 10 ай бұрын

Possibly the Kindest way possible of saying "Don't let life's problems determine your future happiness".The Brain has to be Stronger the the Heart to prevail.

@bobgross3183 11 ай бұрын

EPIC guy, EPIC singer, EPIC lyric writer, EPIC interview, EPIC podcast.

@juliebabaev2826 10 ай бұрын

Amazing speaker Very talented,wise and inspiring!!

@relaxingcalmmusic 10 ай бұрын

Incredible and amazing lessons. Well said

@Shanestarr100 11 ай бұрын

Wow! Thank you

@rochelbrown6597 11 ай бұрын

Epic. Definitely epic...so much wisdom...I feel that today's society has been influenced in subtle ways (as well as not so subtle) to focus on 'what's good for me?' When we think like that we are not a vessel for a mutual relationship. Even if one doesn't agree with every word it's worth listening to. I think he's an amazing man B"H. Blessings to him and to everyone to find their true spouse and their true path.

@sr3676 10 ай бұрын

Epic! Very inspiring!

@tottymommy8197 11 ай бұрын

Absolutely amazing...

@bonnieschechner9476 11 ай бұрын

EPIC! A most fascinating man.

@chulenttup1 11 ай бұрын

Amazing and true words

@oraclehaveacookie9737 11 ай бұрын

Nothing surprising that adults abuse kids thinking they wont be called out. It happens everywhere. 😢

@brethenson3 11 ай бұрын

He is a briiliant mind burech hashem thanks for bringing him on . Indeed epic . !

@newsigmundfreud3023 11 ай бұрын

*Parental alienation is an epidemic growing by leaps and bounds and is destroying entire families! Mr. Schwartz should direct his attention to reverse this trend.*

@beans4853 11 ай бұрын

Why? He is doing something positive that he's passionate about, he can't fix every problem that exists. There are many issues that are getting worse and destroying people/families in our community. Why don't you stand up and work to fix this one if it bothers you so much?

@144Donn 11 ай бұрын

A very painful terrible thing which I underwent for 6 years.

@IJK205 11 ай бұрын

Btw, he actually does speak & address this very sad topic. I follow him on certain platforms. Its a known thing, If you follow him closer. God Bless

@SouthAfricanIBTeacher 10 ай бұрын

Wonderful!!!!

@user-ty7mn3ee5l 11 ай бұрын

תודה רבה

@shelleyshub3593 10 ай бұрын

Eye opening. Tragic. But needs to be said and heard. Thanks for highlighting this. #FOLLOWFORLIFE!

@YochyMiller 11 ай бұрын

Brilliant man listen carefully and nothing still is being done about the age gap

@feigyshtein1207 11 ай бұрын

Amazing!!!!!!!!!!

@user-fj6ht3bn1n 11 ай бұрын

Agree 101% with Yonason EPIC!!!

@mottyfrankel3823 11 ай бұрын

EPIC (He had me up on till he said It's OK the lie especially on this topic when the truth is vital)

@annonimiss6422 10 ай бұрын

Wow, really an incredible episode. Edit: Epic! (haha almost forgot that 😂)

@havivahgoldsmith8052 11 ай бұрын

Yona san is right on u have to believe. It cuz I'm a Savta Rabba who knows about love at first sight! Been there done that and it worked for 60+yrs 🎉

@davidlanger5272 11 ай бұрын

Epic and excellent

@eliblum9461 11 ай бұрын

Amazing

@ShuiHaber 11 ай бұрын

the TW was totally unnecessary - his presentation is very good - not harsh at all, more realistic and honest

@AnnDrew-fv1ci 11 ай бұрын

Well said

@ttee6990 11 ай бұрын

Yup, rav a, Miller said rule #1 be realistic in marriage. We’re human, give space for others shenanigans. You have them as well.

@letsgettserious 11 ай бұрын

How does someone get in touch with Reb Yonasan?

@beans4853 11 ай бұрын

The shidduch crisis is a symptom of a much larger issue. We have become the most judgemental community, judging people for silly external things that have no meaning and no basis in Torah. Thats causing families to struggle with getting kids into schools/cheder/yeshivas, kids going OTD, and many more issues were facing. The shidduch crisis is also a product of that. Instead of looking how we can make everything assur, lets focus on the basic halachas like loving your fellow jew instea of being oiver on that in the name of mishigasen

@Tali5899 11 ай бұрын

Hear hear!!! Bravo!!! Judgemental is not the word!!! People need to look in the mirror and See they're not as unique and amazing as they're ego leads them to believe.

@TK-cs8ss 11 ай бұрын

EPIC!!

@artbya613 9 ай бұрын

Epic. Make sure to always remember that Hashem is the One and Only Shadchan!

@miriamkayman1846 11 ай бұрын

He is a great person

@ciuzdamm 7 ай бұрын

Rabbi Yonason Schwartz has the most wonderful voice and music. Shalom over Israel

@user-nc2wh1un8h 11 ай бұрын

wonderful . thanks for this episode. but... perhaps someone can get to the root of the problem. why? why are parents (or whomever ) being so picky? are they overly concerned of what people will think/say? why do they need to impress others? is it a lack of self esteem? or is it something else?

@Tali5899 11 ай бұрын

Ratrace. Keep up with the Jones's. "What will people say". "But we are baalabatishe people". "We are choshuv". .....take your pick!

@annonimiss6422 10 ай бұрын

Towards the end, when Yaakov is saying that some people are not going ahead with a shidduch becasue of their fear of divorce, it sounds like Yaakov is trying to decribe what might be more accurately termed as a fear of commitment.

@kalesdesign 5 ай бұрын

amazing episodes (please continue the hebrew/expression translations throughout whole episode)

@user-pe8zc6ky7p 11 ай бұрын

Epic!

@KhinMarWin-nn6vp 11 ай бұрын

Please, mention the song title by Mr Yonasan Schwartz.... Be Blessed the team....Mr Elli Always watching from Myanmar

@SH-yo6em 10 ай бұрын

I think he said it's menchen

@chanierapoport8628 10 ай бұрын

any way to get in touch with R' Yonasan personally?

@catsun90805 11 ай бұрын

I love mitzvah kinder! So cute !When we shop I always want to order a set for my son. Would you ever make a Sephardi tamani set. ? 😊

@rrm41 11 ай бұрын

He dose kinder velt. Mitzvah kinder is someone else. It's kinda the same. Competition.

@Valdesgreen 3 ай бұрын

Hello, what is mitzvah kinder, kinder velt? Are they toy stores? thanks! I'm a teacher.

@kingsleyunogaozirigbo8901 11 ай бұрын

well spoken my dear Rabbi

@antoniajane5442 11 ай бұрын

Those people that abuse others need to be named and shamed to the police.

@abbyk36 11 ай бұрын

Epic. More chassidish guests please.

@dowhatisright 10 ай бұрын

Please let us know how we can reach Reb. Schwartz about shidduchim. I have several older singles I am trying to help. An interesting interview.

@d.rothenberg8295 11 ай бұрын

Absolutely agree with this fascinating, brilliant, insightful man! He's intuitive to a very positive degree. Which is why his epic success in whatever he chooses to do is not surprising. The ilk of Rabbis Sachs and Wallerstein - and Miller.

@bsimcha690 9 ай бұрын

Is there anyway I can contact R' Yonasan?

@CheskySchwartzProductions 11 ай бұрын

Epic❤

@LL-mj5ij 11 ай бұрын

EPIC 😊

@borsht321 11 ай бұрын

Can you please send me the contact information for Yonasan Schwartz? I would like to contact him in regards to shidduchim.

@arsalanmirza3411 11 ай бұрын

A very sad story indeed.

@TheSureled 11 ай бұрын

how can i contact Yonasan Schwartz

@EliM100 10 ай бұрын

On this person Chazal said, כל מילה בשקל! Every word worth its weight in silver

@janesmith9024 11 ай бұрын

Your religion allows divorce (mine Catholicism does not - I got a very very very rare "annulment"). I don't agree divorce is usually worse. My parents were married until they died - 50 years and they really were not happy together . It was so sad for us to see particularly as teenage children. I was not prepared to put my own children through that so we divorced after 20 years and for us it was the best thing.

@cslurzberg 9 ай бұрын

I wish he was my Shadchan...I worked with people who did not care quite as much... BH I've been married for ten years, but dated for five years and it was terrible...

@lulmul4698 11 ай бұрын

You didn't understand the chasam soifer! He says that to say hatoiv vihameitiv it has to be considered from hashem, yet since there is only one that you want and you want her to say yes FROM HERSELF , therfore hatoiv vihameotiv isn't the blessing As you want her to say yes Not hashem making her say yes And that's in addition that its how you need to see it from a perspective That's what he adds

@danielrosenberg887 11 ай бұрын

Epic🎉

@avkay12 10 ай бұрын

1:28:14 If you think he was harsh you missed the boat and I feel bad for your children.

@rileyfox4001 10 ай бұрын

Positive!

@steveneumann32 11 ай бұрын

Epic

@OsnielRozen 11 ай бұрын

EPICCCCCCC

@courtcounselor 11 ай бұрын

His story is not "tragic"... Quite the contrary.

@irothman9269 10 ай бұрын

80% of shiduchim always happens thru friends and family. That's something that has always been. One day I will also discuss shadchan abuse stories. Yuh yuh

@Ozziemisha745 11 ай бұрын

Needed to be reminded that Hashem runs the world. EPIC interview.

@user-cz1qx1qd4o 9 ай бұрын

My wife zichranah livracha made 3 shiduchim i think. She died 3 mothes ago I need a shuduch

@rileyfox4001 10 ай бұрын

Face facts. Some people just don't want to get married and will shoot down all proposals.

@cslurzberg 9 ай бұрын

Also need more education for Shalom Bayis, pre-marriage.

@micb36 11 ай бұрын

wow wow

@AishesChayil 11 ай бұрын

Granted that Shidduchim may be a crisis, but parental alienation is an epidemic growing by leaps and bounds and is destroying entire families. Mr. Schwartz should direct his attention to reverse this trend

@newsigmundfreud3023 11 ай бұрын

*YES!*

@beans4853 11 ай бұрын

There are sadly many terrible travesties that are becoming widespread in our community. He's focusing to correct one that he's passionate about. He can't fix everything

@IJK205 11 ай бұрын

He Does! people should do just a bit more research before commenting blindly out of emotion.

@user-cz1qx1qd4o 9 ай бұрын

Sometimes a person makes a nader for example he tells an poor person i will give you money and forgets about it and punishment the talmud says that chas vosholim his child dies or his wife HASHEM could sweeten it by making the child instead of that person not married or poor or finicky witch is is like death becouse being poor is like death ect.

@rileyfox4001 10 ай бұрын

In my tekufah I would say to Shadchanim I don't have any list but I would appreciate if the girl did not make me wait and should be ready for the date and I could not get my one important yet small request. You can find your zivug at work!

@zsavetsky 11 ай бұрын

"Obviously I was taken advantage of physically emotionally and sexually etc". Is it obvious that a kid is gonna be abused if there are no parents involved in the ultra frum community, what a shanda!

@myopinions1 11 ай бұрын

Yeah! There aren't any good or organizations that help or protect orphans.

@user-jb8wk5xy2e 11 ай бұрын

There is good and bad everywhere, Focus on the positivity. The real Shanda is being negative.

@tamarfischer283 11 ай бұрын

Anyone else would have blamed his father or grandparents. Just because he said ' obviously' that doesn't mean it is really obvious. There were plenty people left in the world who could and should have protected him

@zsavetsky 11 ай бұрын

@@tamarfischer283 the people who should've protected him were the ones who abused him. His roshei yeshiva and rabbeim!

@ShuiHaber 11 ай бұрын

This was in the 70's. No one spoke about these things then.

@Tali5899 11 ай бұрын

Another thing; its ironic how R'Yonason says he went through a bitter divorce yet cauations others against it.Either he should have taken his own advice or accept its easy to saywith hindsight. Third, does he think maybe his doing gigs every night and gallivanting all over the world on the first few years of marriage may have contributed to its demise? How about a few words to the young about priorities? Kids look up to singers in the Jewish world yet many seem to have serious unresolved issues in their personal lives.