The really tricky part is when your narcissist does all of these things but makes it look like it's YOU that's doing them .. when all you're doing is defending yourself from them.

The narcissist will accuse the victim of doing everything that the narcissist is actually guilty of (lying, cheating, verbal abuse, physical abuse, and threats of all kinds). Thank you Dr. Carter. Through your videos, I have gained a great understanding of what I went through for 32 years, and the reasons behind it all.

If you speak up for yourself, don’t expect a rational reaction or to be listened to, they are never in the wrong

Don't ever try to comfort a narcissist. They don't deserve it and it will only feed their need for a source to abuse.

I pray for everyone going through this that the Lord covers you with protection and blocks all negativity from your lives, I pray for your health and healing and peace of mind. Amen.

They don't want to fix any thing they love the drama they keep you around to have some one to blame

Narcissists are extremely dangerous people, my dad is one, my sister is one and my ex husband is one....I am glad to have survived, I am glad my children survived. Avoid them at all cost.

It took me 24 years to escape my narcissistic marriage. I moved out and moved on three weeks ago. I cannot believe the peace in my life now! I set and reset boundaries without success for at least 15 years. I forgot life could be this peaceful. It feels so good to feel good about myself again!

I was married to a person such as this for 36 years. I finally couldn't take it anymore and divorced. Of course, even though he said he wanted out, he blamed me for the divorce. I came out of it with no self esteem left. It has taken me 5 years to get over it. I've been single for 7 years now and am rediscovering who I am.

A narcissist does not know how to have a deep meaningful conversation.

I have been married to narcissism for 35 years. And it has driven me damn near nuts. I am so grateful to have come acrossed these videos.

Yes I've seen this rage when they get their hand caught in the cookie jar they go ballistic because you're not supposed to see what they're doing

You can’t reason with a narcissist.....

This man was. Sent to me from God. Via KZfaq ☺️

It is absolutely like dealing with an overgrown two year old.I have been married to it for 26 years.It has gotten so bad that when he goes through his cycle of resentment silent treatment anger he responds in a rage and if I don't respond he gets angry and if I do respond he gets angry.He will rage a me for hours until I agree to do exactly what he wants.By the grace of God I was delivered from this insanity three months ago. When I finally set some boundries for myself he decided he didn't want to be married to me anymore.Thank God!!!

Once the narc don't get attention anymore. ,praise, supply,spot light, world comes tumbling down.

Narc's argue to argue. Pay attention, they fail to seek solutions in their disagreements, they argue for the sake of arguing. They want to incite and keep you arguing for as long as possible until they get their satisfaction. Do not engage. Simple as that. What worked for my narc, I'd laugh, call her out for being narcissistic and immature and instantly disengage. This takes their power away. When a narc loses their power, they become a whiny child minded adult. It is pitiful to witness.

I am no expert but I do have a healthcare background and come from a dysfunctional family. My siblings are in their 40s, I in my mid 50s and my elder sibs are in their 60s. I can no longer emotionally afford to be a part of this family system and so I stepped away over a month ago. No contact. It is hard to fathom that I am 750 miles away from them for the past 18 years and still the scapegoat. I no longer owe anyone of them anything.

I was raised by a Narcissistic mother and I know for a fact that you cannot reason with them. They do not care about boundaries and most definitely don't care about what we think in any given subject. You cannot talk with them.

How do we continue to love these individuals after the way they treat us.

My way of dealing with a person who repeatedly tries to break my boundaries, refuses to take personal accountability for their own actions, disparages my reputation for any reason or in any way...with these types I break off all contact with them completely. I do not seek to understand them or give them any type of future consideration. I simply move along. My reason is is because anytime you show a narcissist or a cluster b of any sort that you are sympathetic to them and their feelings they will attempt to exploit it and use it to manipulate you.

The narc needs to blame a passenger in the car for a pothole in the road of life. They are incapable of dealing with life's random bumps; they cannot roll with the unexpected and adjust. Always got to ruin someone's day because they are too immature to deal with the uncontrollable randomness of life.

I adore this guy! He is clear and spot on!!

they may even rush to discard you if they suspect you are about to discard them. They always need to have the upper hand at all costs. They also get injured if you ask for something, like a favour and stick to it...they may even come to a point of resenting you for it. Everything must go according to their plan and only. Only their needs and wishes count.

Your clarity about these types of people is spot on!

I went out on a first date with a man a few weeks ago and we had a great time...until he suggested we drive up to the beach for a walk. It was already dark and I declined, because he was basically still a stranger to me. He got really upset and irritated and we never saw each other again after that day. I thought then his behavior was childish, but now after having listened to this video, I realized I was likely dealing with an injured narcissist. Thank you, Les, for the educational valuable practical insights! Knowledge is power.

I have tried for years to understand my soon-to-be-ex abusive narc husband. Recently my therapist (from the women's shelter) told me something powerful. She said, "You are trying to find a logical explanation as to why he acts the way he does and treated you the way he did. Do not try to understand it...because it cannot be understood!"

When you are in a marital relationship with someone like this , shame is common..degradation also

They are looking for insults. If you respond, the sky is blue, they will twist it to prove how victimized they were.

It’s not wise to show ANY sympathy to a narc...they will use it against you. Change topics or leave to go do something...anything. Make plans to go no contact

I feel his evil energy before I see him. No Contact for 16 month.

You’re responsible for you, I’m responsible for me and that’s going to be the beginning point of how we interact with each other. Powerful!

I am dealing with this right now. I made the "mistake" of commenting on an expensive gift my husband bought himself, and he has spent the last 9 days and counting, torturing me with insults, rage, and rewriting events that happened years ago as punishment for a single comment that he did not like. I am exhausted.

Ohhhhh how this happened to me, I got sucked in. I thought I knew beforehand, but I let my guard down and fell into the pits of hell. He was a tricky son of a gun and before I knew it, I was turning into him and he was just as amused as a kid playing with a ball. Everything was built on triggering me and attacking me with my own weaknesses. And twisting everything back on me, like it was all my fault. Each time I spoke up he claimed I was insulting him🤔Thank God we parted ways. Never again.....

The tricky part is ... is how does one hold a narcissist accountable without doing the very thing that we dislike about the narcissist which is blaming and shaming?

The hardest part when your character is being assassinated is you don’t get to respond with how ridiculous their behavior is in any way or it will be.. “see you are the problem”

I don't believe that you can reason with a narcissist. We really are better off away from these people if possible. Healthy people know there is no excuse for aggressive behavior even if the agressor feels hurt. Being too understanding with this bad behavior puts us at serious risk of abuse. Our compassion can be better placed where it might make a difference elsewhere.

Anyone experienced early morning rages and mood swings picking fights as soon as their 👀 open🤷🏽‍♀️ . U could have went to bed with everything ok and wake up to crazy making

Over two years trying to cope with my roommate, but being stuck here during the pandemic has ramped it all WAY up. Thank you for these videos.

I have discerned that denial is their coping mechanism, in a way, as well as instant flight, until there's nowhere left to run. Just an observation.

Your clear, no nonsense approach is helping me a LOT. Going through a divorce after 31 years. Thank you !

Yeah Narcs snap and bite like there is no tomorrow.

Absolutely all of these behaviors were present for me when I broke up with my ex. Wow. Spot on. Punishment, blame, and shame were so overexaggerated turning into an explosion of rage.

Even in a relationship with a "normal" person, your advice is so helpful, because it is based on calmly and assertively affirming our existence as a valid human being. Thanks again for this new insight !

I thank God! I have left this marriage with the lunatic I have been married to....

I worked with one of these people for several years. I had to remain at this job for several reasons. He loved to talk loud and swagger around if there was an adiuence available. He took to adopting a superior attitude toward me and eventually verbal abuse. The supervisors tolerated him because he was their snitch. Finally I confronted him in the parking lot before work. Just him and me and it was still dark. He squeaked like a mouse and ran upstairs to the owners like the coward I know he is. Life is too good to waste any time with these people. I no longer work there but it didn't take long to find a better job and work mates.

If you’re married to a narcissist long term, it takes years to get your head back together. Know that it’s NOT YOU. Get away from the Narcissist for your own sanity. It is worth it to rid your life of the narcissist. No matter what you do, get away from them!!!!!!!

This video is INCREDIBLY validating. It explains my (soon to be ex) husband’s behavior toward me from the last few years- trying to come to a civil custody agreement has been an absolute nightmare. Pure hell. His retaliation and abuse is INTENSE.

Your videos are spot on and are so educational. They have helped me so much for understanding what I was dealing with so THANK YOU!!!

I picked up on this with the husband of my wife's friend. I won't go into details, but the only reason I accepted his request for help was because my wife is his wife's friend of 30 some odd years. He wants everything to be done exactly his way or hit the road. Sadly I did not catch on as I am probably, well actually am, one of those empath the Dr was talking about in another video. What really frustrates me is I am a trained and practiced Cognitive Psychotherapist and I got "caught". The thought of the old adage 'Dr. heal thyself' keeps going through my mind and building one of those 'butt kicking machines' for myself. This man is 90 yrs old and has had a lot of practice. He has two beauties of sayings, "what have I ever done to you?' and "I'm sick and you don't understand what it is like to be sick, nobody does.' He seems to have forgotten that I arrived almost dead when at the hospital 4 yrs ago as the emergency doctor explained my situation to me and was in the hospital for a week and continuous physiotherapy therapy to date. I went back to my notes from years ago and found the ones I wrote on Narcissism and only found a page. One of my observations of my notes was an entry that stated; "Narcissists are really, really hard to work with. Most likely you will tell them to not bother coming back". Lesson learned. The Bible can be a profound teacher as well: Matt 10:14 'And if anyone will not receive you or listen to your words, shake off the dust from your feet when you leave that house or town.'

Some people are just Rotten-- period. And Rotten doesn't like seeing you with good flourishing things -- Rotten loves to insult- Rotten loves to mock- Rotten loves to lie - Rotten loves to play mind games- Rotten isn't happy unless you are miserable

Your gentle manner in presenting these points is very helpful. Thank you! Also, your accent makes me homesick! So nice to hear!

Totally know. While in the car with 3 little kids, I made a comment about a private number plate and how much that would cost and he screamed' GET A F~~~ING JOB 7 times in my face. Then when we get to our destination he walks way ahead of us (he always does that) but carries on like nothing happened. That was a defining moment and others followed over the weeks ahead. I got legal paper work to make him leave the house and no contact with him. And he hasn't bothered talking to the kids since March because its not on his terms. Thank you.

The man I was with had no soul whatsoever

I injured a narcissist very early in our dating phase. He was really obsessed with getting attention and praise and constantly bragged about all the women that wanted him. After a while, I called him out for using me for attention and then I ended things with him. A few weeks later, I made the mistake of talking to him again thinking that maybe I didn't really give him a chance. He used that "second chance" as an opportunity to constantly attack me. Anytime the relationship felt like it was getting closer, he'd remind me that I left him and then start an argument about it. It was a pointless and endless circle of having a good time together, then him starting an argument about me leaving him. He told me I was unstable and couldn't be trusted. And when I told him I was tired of having the same argument over and over again, he accused me of hating to be held accountable. No matter how much I tried to make him believe that it would be different this time, he'd cut me down and basically tell me that I couldn't change. I eventually just ghosted him and started ignoring him. Such a disappointing experience. I have never in my life dated a man who created drama then pointed the finger back at me. It was such a crazy experience.

I said "you're pathetic" to mine and they demanded an apology! I refused to apologise btw .

The insights you shared about this were so spot on. I learned the hard way that allowing too many free passes for those who press boundaries and snap from their own inner pain, or worse, who demand that others "guess" and pay for their own issues without resolving anything, only led to diminished respect and a no win scenario. If I sense that someone is deeply insecure or that I have to walk on eggshells, its time to quietly bow out and limit or end contact. The irony with this one, is while you are required to tip toe on eggshells, they don't, and are unable to see their double standards. Too often they operate as bullies who run roughshod over your life, emotions, space, and only have empathy for themselves. Its a one way street. Been there, got too many tattered tee shirts. lol. Thanks for your great vids Les.

Mine uses the 'poor me' tactic. Most issues, great or small, that we may have he tries to undermine with 'Oh, it's my fault again'. This distracts from the actual problem that has nothing to do with fault finding but simply stating facts of an event or situation. Since explaining my FEELINGS about something is just not on his agenda he gets angry with ME for having my own feelings...and plays the poor victim. He's so smug about reminding me how sensitive to feelings he is. I recently agreed with him, and clarified it to him. 'Yes, you are sensitive. But only and exclusively to your own feelings. No one else's counts.' He went silent on that one. He can 'fake empathy' (like they all can) when it makes them look good. He used to try to humiliate or embarrass me in public. We had a serious problem over that...until I applied something I once read about on how to live with a narc: 'Just remember, when you put on such a tantrum or poor behaviour, everyone feels sorry for ME (because I am trying to minimize my reaction to him) and YOU look like the monster. Think of your image.' That SO befuddled him...it made him think. Hence, no more childish temper tantrums in public. It worked. A narcs self image is everything. And since they believe they are the center of the universe, they can not stand the idea that someone else has positive attention and they don't.

My ex is a narcissist. I still have to deal with his crap, long distance, because of the needs of our child . . . I'm hoping someday our kid figures out what's going on and wants to dump him completely.

Recently separated from a narcissist. I was always at fault for everything. I had to put up with her anger and rage, but if I was angry I was the bad person. Never any compromise. It was always her way or the highway!!! Amazing information and great video.

Nailed it. Total crazy making. Me and my kids have been in the eye of this storm watching the tornadoes destruction for too many years. He blocks the sun, the peace the joy, the living. It may be hard stepping through it but we have to get out of it and under peaceful skies

Yes, I talked with a friend and I found out my ex was spreading lies about me! I was shocked about the things he was telling them, I can imagine what else he was saying to people to paint me in a bad light.

Thank you it sounds like I did all the right things and just took me longer to get out of the situation because I’m in a wheelchair your videos helping me realize I was not the broken one, just the disabled one. This is helping me get back to my normal

This was so eye opening concerning a relationship I had with a "friend" and I thought I would never find anything to explain it. Most of these videos really explained my narcissistic parent and helped me find closure there, but I was still dealing with hurt because of what happened when I thought I made a long distance friend who had the same circumstances with her parent. After uniting on a health forum and being friends for a couple of months where we talked every day, I once said something that I didn't even know was wrong, and she flipped out and hung up on me, deleted me, blocked me everywhere and I didn't hear from her again until 6 or so months later. When she got back in touch, I accepted her friendship again and I guess we decided to bury the hatchet even though she didn't come back with apologies and I apologized instead, it was sort of an elephant in the room but I wanted the perceived friendship back and it felt all too natural to talk to her, so we continued. We would again talk every day through all our almost identical issues with health and thoughts and I thought things were good, but later on she started sending me packages with gifts almost every chance she got and I started to feel indebted and ... dare I say.. controlled. She always wanted to hear everything I had to say about every gift, and I started to feel like " wow... she REALLY needs validation about the gifts... and herself". Just as things were coming to a head and I mentioned to her I'd rather her not give me so many things because as kind as it was, I felt bad I couldn't reciprocate, and she said that was fine and she'd slow down. One day not long after I tried to tell her I felt like she was doing something unaware and just share my feelings and she shouted at me " HOW DARE YOU ACCUSE ME OF THAT?!" and she hung up on me again. I reached out to her husband telling him I was worried about how things ended and I wanted to know she was ok, and I could tell, in "his" response, that it was actually her. "He" said " instead of apologizing to me, maybe you should apologize to her. She's been nothing but good to you, always trying to buy you gifts to make you happy". Something in my gut told me I'd just dodged ANOTHER narc, possibly worse than my parent, because that relationship was so full of disguises. The next day I was blocked on all accounts again and I've never seen or heard from her since, and I know if I do, I'm not to be fooled again. This is SUCH a long comment and one not many people are likely to read, but this video helped me understand that she was a narc as well.. narc's can come in every shape and size, and they can seem like the most funny, humble, appreciative and unassuming people, but you have to keep your guard up, especially if you've escaped that kind of relationship before. The most common 2 I hear of are people's parents or romantic partners being like this, but I wanted to share this story in case it helped another person avoid a situation like this.

Every so often, I'd make the mistake of bringing up something that my (former) Narc would say, that he "wasn't responsible for" my "happiness"; and yet - he would make *me* entirely "responsible" for *his* "happiness" by doing the things for him that he dictated I should do - errands to be run, clothing to be mended, food to be cooked... Etc! I was basically a "wife without benefits" - except it was more like a "slave"!!! And, he was *stunned* when I confronted him and stepped back, finally realizing what had happened to "me" - that I *wasn't* "me" anymore - I was put in the position of "Mommy" to him!!!

Finally explains why I am being punished, having priveledges withdrawn. But the bar for his injury is set soooo low I am always in trouble.

Thank-you, Dr. Carter, for helping me to understand what i have been dealing with for 42 years. I had to divorce because the abuse became so horrific. Yiur podcasts have been part of my healing journey by educating me. I can't thank yiu enough. Blacksburg, South Carolina.

Wish I had your calmness today, started that way, but didn't end that way. I am done with this narcissist now, and that is freedom. It is just crazy. These are just bad people. There's no excuse for anyone to ever treat others that way.

Thank you for being a safe male talking sense. It helps my neurobiology.

I want to thank you. I will pick up your book soon. Thank you for taking on this problem that has left a great many of us left in the wake of man-made evil. The term evil is because there is no other word that can get at the root of what we are facing. Without religious language we can’t speak with the necessary profundity to get at the problem. In distinguishing tragedy and evil, tragedy is not made by human beings, a hurricane, a tsunami, and earthquake or flood are tragic and not man made. The reason we use evil is because it was not necessary, and nobody should feel so entitled that they are willing to cause harm to another human being because they desire to do so. As human beings we are built to withstand tragedy, we are not built to withstand evil. Your presence matters to so many human beings who are or have suffered the almost unbearable pain that ought not to have happened to us. The purpose of the abuse was to convince my Dad that I was not worthy of holding any place in the future as a beloved daughter. I was discarded and when you are discarded they work to ensure that you remain their discard and that includes being discarded by my own Dad. At 14 I could not figure anything out. I am no longer 14. She did not want me in the life she was building with my Dad and her children. If what they want to have happen, happens, then why would they change their behavior? Have you considered an alternative motive. The “what if” we are attributing that they are “feeling” injured is not a feeling at all. Could it be that there is and absence of “feeling” on their part. What if their injury is a manipulation being used to cause fear and anxiety to those of us who believe them to be decent human beings. This person enjoys seeing you in a fear, pain, and anxiety state. Could it be that the person who feigns feelings of injury to gain something from a person who has genuine and authentic countenance of warmth, love and caring. It would never enter our minds to intentionally hurt another because that would not be pleasing for us. If our pain brings them pleasure, power, control, and satisfaction? This may be helpful. Dr. George Simon on predatory aggression: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/app7hsubvcfGpIE.html George is still hard at educating us. He is still doing a weekly podcast called Character Matters. I try not to let it bother me but using terms and labels when speaking about people who have made destructive decisions without consequence for their actions is making the label the reason for what was not reasonable. How can we look intelligently at the cause of our distress. Standing still when we are distraught and taking the time to look without emotion and drama and put ourselves in a mindset that enables us to identify correctly and accurately the cause our states of distress, dis ease, agitation and confusion. There are three things we cannot change. The past, the truth, and other people. The person who is hurting us ought not to be hurting us, but they are. People can live lives far outside the boundaries and the basic social construct that most of live in. I was not hurt by a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath, a cluster b, reptile, not an it, not a thing, not some condition, it was not a personality disorder, evil, a demon. I was not hurt by any label or category. I was hurt by a specific human being who was comfortable thinking and saying and doing malevolent things. A human being choosing to cause harm under the disguise of banality. I think Arndt got it wrong it is the banality of evil, it is evil cloaked in the banal. It is morally shocking to acknowledge the truth about the ability and capacity of our fellow humans to have a will and desire to crush the souls of the people who love them. Shattered minds and souls lay open and wounded grappling and fighting to get out of a situation that is mind boggling leaving us searching for answers and a way to understand what happened to us. Worrying is an imagined future that we are emotionally reacting to even though we have not yet had that experience. Resentment, or re sentiment is an experience we lived in the past that we are emotionally reacting to in the present. We can work to gain emotional solidity is the ability to not retreat into fear, resentment, or anger but to feel whatever is that we feel from the stimuli of the moment whether it be pain or pleasure. I am not going to be unwilling to show up for even one moment of this wonderful gift of LIFE. I made a video for relational emotional abuse for Mark Smith at Family Tree counseling after hearing his painful story. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/aclog9yjkpqml30.html Thanks again for helping those of us in a very human struggle that do not have a voice. L’Chaim!

AGAIN, so spot on with my boyfriend! I never can do anything right, I try to talk to him about "US" and he says he does not want to talk or tells me to "Stop talking!" Dating him on and off for 15 years, I am trying to get over "it's ALL my fault" and "You caused this". I pray I can pick myself up and move on but it is hard and will take time. He now will not talk to me and we live together! I am going to move as soon as I can save enough money. Spent $5000 to move in with him from another state! The bright light, I am just renting my house so as soon as my tenant can move I am out of here!! Thank you for the very helpful information!

Dr. Carter's work continues to blow my mind. He so accurately captures the behavior of the narc. that one gets the feeling he'd been peeking in the window, watching the narc. in my life & taking notes. I really like the behavior of loving and understanding the narc but not tolerating their efforts to make us responsible for their emotional unwellness. I have many examples of the narc. in my life being uncomfortable with something and therefore throwing a verbal fist to the side of my head. I really identify with the line he uses: "I'm uncomfortable, so you'll pay". It's been 7 months of learning and working on this issue of narcissism and I've learned a tremendous about the narc. in my family, my self, and our larger family. Incredibly eye opening work!

This was so helpful to me. I have had to severely limit the amount of contact I have had with my husband. I feel bad for having to do it, but he will not respect my boundaries and I get blamed for so much for all of his pain.

When God finally woke me up and I left my demonic/ narcissistic ex, he said I will suffer. So glad I’m over feeling bad and trying to help him.

My mother was a narc and controlled our family in every way until, thankfully she died last year. I’m a twin. And her way of bringing us up was divide and conquer. My sister never understood why I moved away when i realised what was happening, and that things would never change. My father still talks to her and even tells her when he planning to redecorate. I just hope he can see through all her lies and create a relationship ship with us in the time he has left.

Thank you Dr. Carter! You described very well my injured narcissist husband. I never could do any good to him. He always is in attack mode. Great clearing video!

Thank you for this! I started having feelings of sadness and missing my soon to be ex husband who has all these traits. I needed to hear this and know that I’m doing the right thing. I also named my dog bullet... you got my attention real quick:)

An injured Narc is extremely dangerous. They have such an fragile ego. An Ex-collegue got my fired through her constant lies about me....just because I did not let her control me. There was nothing I could do about it...that was not fun. Jesus.

I’ve personally learned for myself that a “No thank you” to the narcissist’s never-ending advice (that they think they know best) leads to them either blowing up with rage and cruel words or giving me the cold shoulder. The teacher in me is always dumbfounded because “No thank you” is a phrase students learn since preschooler-it’s sets boundaries and is not meant to harm anyone, so it surprises me when the narcissist becomes “hurt” by such a phrase.

It is a rough road. My husband has cptsd as well as early dementia. I try to remind myself to: "don't poke the bear" and think of him as my patient. That mindset or headspace offers some relief for me. I am so thankful to have "stumbled" across your channel, Dr. Carter.

Excellent analogies. This is a wonderful video that highlights an important aspect of letting go that most videos like this do not cover. You have to allow these narcissistic individuals to go on with their life and make their own choices. You just cannot do anything to prevent their behavior.

All your vid s made me understand the 5 year relationship that got me into mental hospital

Omg! This is a perfect example of the way how a narcissist consider as an insult or you harming them when your intention is try to help them. I love you for the help of your wisdom and enlightenment.

Spot on. My ex husband acted every word you saying. I taped many events, because I felt that if something happen to me, the tape was my safety net. The day he took his ring of his hand and throw it on the floor and said hateful things, that words can't take it back and he wanted divorce, finally would be free and his mother was right, I was a trouble maker. I still love him and always will, because I realized that he is a very broken person from his upbringing with his mother another narcissist. 💔💔💔

I had a friend do this to me about two months ago. I finally realized she’s done this time and time again. I’m finally letting go.

As a child I once dared to ask my mother if she loved me, why did she hurt me in various ways that I enumerated. She didn’t respond but went and complained about me to my father. I never overheard her say anything nice about me to him! She was always persuading him that I was evil, and telling me how evil I was. I think after that incident is when she started even more seriously viciously attacking me every weekend. Of course she made it look as if it were my fault. Now, many years later, after this video especially, I know that those were narcissistic injury attacks.

As always , in order to solve a problem it must be identified in the first place. Doctor Carter does a great job in showing out the narcissists issues .

27 tears of this been divorced for 5 years but he is still living with me and I am blind;handicapped and chronically ill but he still wants me to take care of him...I told him he needs to move out asap...so wish me luck!! there is a housing shortage in Holland but that's no excuse..these videos are helping me sooo much!!

I'm so glad I found your channel, you explain everything so well, thank you

This man knows what he’s talking about!

You just reminded me of the worst dog attack I witnessed. The hurt dog put 40 punctures in the one trying to help it. ...... And that was a perfect example of how my husband treats me. WOW. The Great Awakening! Thank you. Heavenly FATHER please protect the narcissist's victims. PLEASE raise us above the negativity in our world. We are better than dog bites and growling and attacks and unnecessary life of living in the doghouse with a hole in the roof. FATHER PLEASE know my gratitude for your unconditional love and showing me I'm better than this marriage. How do I leave now 😖? 🛐💕🛐💕🛐🙏

This is exactly how a recent narc that I met reacted to me. They perceived a boundary as an injury and gave me the death stare. Then when I saw that and stopped talking with them, they tried several different manipulative tactics on me which obviously I did not tolerate.

I'm just learning about narcissism...for some time I've had in mind to write a book about the emotionally abusive relationship I've lived in and now I'm coming to the full realization that it's all about narcissism. I'm going to write that book!

"I can't handle life like a normal person!" I will now see that as an imaginary shirt my Narcissist is wearing. Kinda makes me chuckle and helps disarm their power. My adult child has learned to hear a "laughtrack" whenever our Narcissist is on one of his rants.

Seriously... why am I just finding these nuggets of gold!! ALL THESE videos you post ate ringing true too a person I interact with often!!! Your work is eye opening to me... you put words to what we have just called ..."you can't make sense of crazy"... this is encouraging and useful information!!! As a child I grew up walking on egg shells.... as an adult it continues.....I appreciate your work!!!

Thank you for EVERYONE of your teaching..it is helping me get free from blame...they sure can cause you mental pain and disrespect...calling you bad names..using profanity..and attacking your self-esteem. Not to mention defaming you to other people and causing you shame. AND THEY ARE NEVER WRONG. SO SAD

Great information! Thank you for being a resource.

It is the Narc who causes all the upset and turmoil 💯

Wow, you are describing me ex-girlfriend. She had me falsely arrested after I decided to take away my financial and emotional support from the relationship.

This guy's videos are great because they not only describe narcissism perfectly, he tells you how to deal with the person if you have to have continued contact with them. That's the advice I've found lacking in most other videos dealing with the subject.