The Life of Death: How a Funeral Director Sends Off a Loved One

The Life of Death: How a Funeral Director Sends Off a Loved One | Hidden Hustles

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Жыл бұрын

What would you say to your loved ones at the end of their lives? “I love you”? “I’ll miss you”?
Not everyone gets a chance to say goodbye, but Jeffrey, a fourth-generation funeral director, helps them to grieve properly. Wendy works with him to understand the ups and downs of funeral planning.
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@OGS.Official Жыл бұрын

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@lawrenceng1743 Жыл бұрын

Thank you OGS. This short video and the last one on being an embalmer really touched me. Thank you for treading on the road less traveled with your stories in humble Singapore. I would love to hear stories of grandparents who had suffered in the past, to give them a voice before they passed on

@OGS.Official Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the kind words! We are glad that these stories that touched our hearts touch yours as well ❤ - Pei Fang, producer

@emoworlds Жыл бұрын

I just lost my mum to cancer a few days ago and we had a Buddhist ritual for her. This video brings some closure to my heart. Thank you OGS for documenting this.

@user-oh6wb5rj2q Жыл бұрын

May she rest in peace. My condolence

@emilylouiseparker9362 Жыл бұрын

so sorry for your loss x

@user-jy2cj9tp5y 2 ай бұрын

I lost my mum four weeks ago due to natural causes which was pleasing as she passed in her sleep and she wants a direct cremation as three of my sisters did nothing for her and if it wasn't for my brother living with her and me going over especially when I took my youngest daughter to see her she'd have no one but ironically she passed on one of my sisters birthday and is being cremated on another one.god bless you mum now you're with dad.😢❤xxx

@dominique-valois Жыл бұрын

I grew with a narcissist mother who was so abusive and neglectful of her children. When my mother died two years ago, I did not give a shit as to what would be done with my mother's body. If it were entirely up to me, I would have just thrown the body into a dumpster. But I had to play it cool, and did what society expected. So most of what I did for the funeral was not for the deceased, but to put on a show for the living.

@OGS.Official Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that. I can't imagine what it must have been like for you growing up in such a stressful environment. While Jeffrey didn't mention it in the video - because he felt that it's not his place to share these personal accounts on behalf of the family members whom he served - he shared with us that different families have different dynamics and as a funeral director, he needs be acutely aware of it and read the room fast, especially in his line of work where emotions are bound to run high. I have to admit, I grew up in an average family where it would be hard for me to relate to your experiences and I do recognise that as a privilege. Filial piety is something that is expected so much from us that it must not have been an easy journey for you through these years. But I hope that at the very least, you will be able to make peace with yourself one day. - Pei Fang, producer

@sarahhajarbalqis Жыл бұрын

@@OGS.Official Pei Fang. This channel passes through my timeline by chance. Truly appreciate the compassion, empathy and non-judgment in your response to a difficult emotion shared by the viewer.

@donnamccann3203 Жыл бұрын

yes I will be exactly like yourself ,, if i have to give a speak I will be saying my grandmother said if I did not have any thing good to say , say nothing at all , walk off

@eileenstehr7680 Жыл бұрын

Mine was a “ Perfectionist Mom”!! Everything had to be So Perfect, cause she was not going to “ make herself look “ bad” to others! I cried a little bit, but after the Cemetery, went back to the church, and, basically, “ forgot” abt the day, and had a total diff feeling, as if no Funeral day! If someone who knows me, and reads this, will be a bit shocked at what I’m writing! My husband said later,” I finally, have my Wife back”!

@lzh4950 Жыл бұрын

Reminds me of when the EU refused the request of N Korea's ambassador to have a minute of silence back in UN's General Assembly back in 2011 when Kim Jong Il passed on

@yurienna Жыл бұрын

My grandmother passed away in her sleep over a month ago, and we held a Taoist funeral for her. She was only 65 and we didn't expect her to leave us so suddenly. For the past 26 years she had been working really hard and making sacrifices to raise my father and his three other siblings, while my grandfather left due to gambling issues. Her last words to me were about congratulating me for being promoted to Sec 4. My family and I were able to give her a proper send-off at Mandai Crematorium. This video has definitely given me a brief insight into the job scopes of a funeral director. Utmost respect to all the funeral directors out there!

@meowsyy Жыл бұрын

Beautifully edited piece and such 'quiet' and emotional storytelling.

@shawnhow4163 Жыл бұрын

Life and death are part and parcel of life, the passage of time, when u grow old, u will look back in your life and everything you have experienced. This is a meaningful video, I have gained insight on this industry and learnt to appreciate and respect their profession.

@12347873 Ай бұрын

Singles don't create life so there is no death & suffering on earth,we originally came from heaven to earth ended in hell if u are non Christian believers.

@808kaneohepride8 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for treating them with respect and not just another customer. I've experienced a funeral home that just treated my loved one as just another customer. I was sooooo hurt but there wasn't anything I could do.

@schildca Ай бұрын

Thank you for treating the dead with respect! My son was not treated well. 💔

@xTighNaBein 16 күн бұрын

my mother was not either.

@heidimarie1198 Жыл бұрын

Just a big thumbs up. I have no words. Apart from respect.

@shensterng Жыл бұрын

So beautiful and meaningful.... thank you for doing this ❤

@abc-pz6xp Жыл бұрын

Kudos to OGS to be able to capture this emotionally-involving job so succinctly. Truly an insightful video! Keep it Up OGS!

@OGS.Official Жыл бұрын

Credit also goes to the profile who is so open to sharing his journey on a less treaded path! - Pei Fang, producer

@LadySymphora Жыл бұрын

This is so touching to see 😢

@itzSoonz Жыл бұрын

nice video! well documented

@mainesobari Жыл бұрын

my grandfather loved coffee his entire life, everytime we go over to pay respect i’ll remember to make coffee and offer it, even though i’m christian i would go and bow in respect and clean everything up after, even bring joss stick

@OGS.Official Жыл бұрын

Actually, Jeffrey did share with us off-camera on how families with different religions might have differing opinions on how to conduct the funeral of their loved ones and sometimes, it's just very hard to reach a consensus. So it's nice to know that you and your family have such an open and tolerating view to hold the funeral to properly send off your grandfather :) - Pei Fang, producer

@rutaiwanwongsirasawad4040 Жыл бұрын

Such a beautiful soul you are.

@filomenafernandes8373 26 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing the good advice and good vibes 💯.Must always treated with good etc.

@KathleenMoore-fr5fm Жыл бұрын

Loved this. We're all people ❤

@fiesta142 Жыл бұрын

i have no family left and have opted for a no frills cremation. Gosh i hope I’m treated with the respect that is shown here even if no one is in attendance i still deserve a respectful exit

@user-mf5ll4kf6p 2 ай бұрын

I'm in the same boat as you and hope that I will also be treated with respect.

@frenatfarms Күн бұрын

Life.. Cherish it

@fireplace92 Жыл бұрын

It's not an easy job. My salute for this young man.

@jejepchannel6590 Жыл бұрын

What a great content ! thank you OGS team, (from Indonesia) ❤️

@OGS.Official Жыл бұрын

Thank you! It's nice to know that there are people supporting us from another part of the world 🥺 - Pei Fang, producer

@kangchanyeol Жыл бұрын

Should have more of such episode like the previous one shown on Channel 5 few years ago

@beverlylumley4150 Жыл бұрын

Beautiful video thank you Canada

@SazaKiba 2 ай бұрын

Thank you.😢

@OGS.Official Жыл бұрын

What is the last thing you wished you could have said to your loved ones?

@drnthe Жыл бұрын

A big hug, no words

@mainesobari Жыл бұрын

i wished i cldve sent my aunt off in her final journey, but i had class… sometimes i wished i went for the final journey and not just go for class, education is important but i love family more

@theunraveler Жыл бұрын

Hail Hydra

@OGS.Official Жыл бұрын

@@mainesobari Condolences to you and your family. I empathised with you on the regret of not being able to send your loved ones away on their last journey as I have been in a similar position. But I'm sure your aunt will understand 🥺 - Pei Fang, producer

@robinzaruraijin Жыл бұрын

My dad, I'm sorry to him

@zahidharrishah Жыл бұрын

just wanna say here..He so dashing 😻

@janicetan4626 2 ай бұрын

"The greatest project we have is life"

@jellybeanwithwings Жыл бұрын

Damn this video got me.

@hunter-kv2zw Жыл бұрын

Director Jeffrey handsome man

@michellecollins-betz736 Жыл бұрын

When we had the funeral for my late nan it was done with so much effort they made the whole day go so well, it's the dignity that the staff showed. At the height of emotions the staff were extremely helpful, kind, they even stayed for a while with us. That was three years ago.

@josephsingapore8742 Жыл бұрын

Good bye my parents..

@piercelang4571 Жыл бұрын

@ 1:8. Dudes like, “yeah fuck we’ll do it for free.” Followed by blank expressionless smile.

@babymonster007 Жыл бұрын

Me thinking and planning to join this kind of jobs too as a freelance But unfortunately in SG doesn't have much girl doing this job actually I also have some friends/colleagues working this job too I actually play a part of funeral job as a chinese traditional peformace which i performance chinese traditional instrument music for them This guys such kind hearted person 🙏🏼i hope i can join his company too can i know his company as at which part of Singapore?

@sar983 2 ай бұрын

❤

@wendyshoowaiching4161 Жыл бұрын

You can't be personally be emotional when you are dealing with dead perfessionally. Less noise is better. Open prayers music. Cause the dead still hears even the body is still. Usually after 3 days, after the cremation, the spirit has gathered and comes out from the body will moves on next journey. Dealing with no no money or budget. To save money, normally keep the body 2 days and 3rd day claim from cold storage hospital cold storage, buy eco cardboard coffin (put body in) and send direct to crematorium to be cremated, Ash in bags and rent a boat to be spread in the sea.

@jessicaregina1956 Жыл бұрын

I say "so long and thanks for all the fish"

@CambodianPeaches Жыл бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

@deadghost1964 Жыл бұрын

Located?

@zaidanaldzakir2008 Жыл бұрын

Aqiss And Family 👼

@angelaangela1509 Жыл бұрын

Viata vine la pachet cu moartea spunea cineva iar cultul mortilor si funeraliile acestora eu cred ca trebuie respectate chiar daca citeodata nu am fost in bune relatii cu cel decedat nu conteaza religia tara sau statutul social exista compasiune si suferinta🙏🙏🙏🙏

@CC-pz4el Жыл бұрын

🙏 🤲

@happylees Жыл бұрын

Honestly, what does 'OGS' stand for?

@sarahthepotato6727 Жыл бұрын

"Our grandfather story" I think

@kimjacobs532 Ай бұрын

OGS hi I just lost my cousin 3 days ago he was 65 years old he had cancer he had 4 kids and I do believe in life after death Both of my parents passed away in 2010 my mum had Stoke age 85 and my dad passed away age 88 of health problems My brother passed away in 1999 age 46 years old I had special bond with him my brother had 2 kids my niece and nephew Are both married have they own kids from KIM Alexandra jacobs Australia Melbourne my brother had cancer ♋️♋️

@sirianndugvudys6850 Жыл бұрын

In China loved ones got sent off by a girl called Hu Tao

@isabellacicchetti6058 Жыл бұрын

It's crazy how Christian religion is only one of many options in this business, in a confusing funerary ritual.

@simplyeason 2 ай бұрын

ngl, jeffery is kinda...

@LuciferMorningstar-ix3lb Жыл бұрын

What if the devil work as funeral director 🤔

@eileenstehr7680 Жыл бұрын

Hopefully, they have Accepted JESUS into their HEARTS!!

@deathofthedammed6571 Жыл бұрын

Let people freely choose

@joelkumar2853 Жыл бұрын

What a numnut

@terencelim9889 Жыл бұрын

Self righteous Christian..zzzz

@joegoldberg8533 Жыл бұрын

@@terencelim9889nothing “self righteous” about accepting Jesus. In fact it is the exact opposite in that we acknowledge we need a perfect savior to atone for our sins. If we thought we “earned” it, that would be self righteous. The fact that someone Hope’s they accepted Christ is a hope that they accepted the gist of salvation. A Christian that is a true Christian that does not speak up would not care about others going to hell. When a Christian speaks up it is out of love for the soul that they want saved. I know we may not agree but please understand that many times this is out of good heart. Not always, but oftentimes.

@terencelim9889 Жыл бұрын

@@joegoldberg8533can't agree with Christians who say that only through their way leads to heaven and the rest will be condemned to hell........that's self righteous belief...