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Thank you from the depths of my soul & from the tips of my toes to the top of my head!!

i understand this completely, i’ve had a similar situation. it was a difficult decision for me to step away, but it was the right choice for me. sending you love, blessings, and strength. 🤍

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I hear you. Pile 3 here too. God bless you. Please DO take care of yourself, you deserve so much better than this. Please don't throw yourself on that fire even if her inner monster wants it. Angel is right, we must walk away from narcissist parents for our own sanity, self-worth, self-care, health, happiness, self-esteem. There's also a forum on Quora for children of narcissistic mothers, you might find some of those posts helpful. I did. People who had loving parents really have no idea, so ignore their judgement. They don't know it's like being caged with a demon day and night. They don't know the autoimmune issues you are more likely to have, the depression, the CPTSD, the relationship and trust problems, the inner turmoil... So as your sister far away, I encourage you to protect yourself, please, and I celebrate the fact that you are choosing to honor your worth anyway. I honor you for your acting on your own behalf. Many narcissists also have a comorbid personality disorder like sadism, enjoying being cruel and making people suffer. But all narcissists seem to have a cruel streak, in my book. It looks pretty deliberate. You shouldn't be subjected to that, ever. And they can have borderline personality disorder; such parents sadly often can't see you as a separate person at all - they can be very codependent and/or even see you as a robotic arm to serve them - they are enraged and confused when you don't behave as such. Narcissistic folks can also have comorbid addictions, adding even more misery and chaos to the household. You deserve a life; and not just that, a happy and peaceful life. Yes, her choices are her choices. Her responsibility. Things I have seen work if repeated firmly and often over a period of years, just to set boundaries... you might consider trying them IF you feel called to. You can repeatedly tell her you don't want her to fall into helpless victim consciousness, because it disempowers her. That's honest and valid. You can also explain what codependency is, and how it isn't healthy for either of you. Maybe give her Melody Beaty's book on it. And tell her you need her to be strong and manage her life, for your sake. Suggest you are worried about her unhappiness; you are, she is very unhappy inwardly. Fixing that, however, is above an untrained person's pay grade - she needs a professional. Emphasize that you want to help but lack the training, so you cannot fill that role. She needs to see a therapist so she can function better, be happier. She won't want to hear it, but it's the sanest suggestion for you both. Healthy adults look out for their own needs. Tell her for her sake and your sake you need her to be a responsible adult who creates a life for herself, even if she's feeling down. You might also suggest (repeatedly, possibly for years, as they seldom listen or remember what is said to them) that she join a hobby club, a bird watchers group, a book club, hiking group, neighborhood cleanup committee, political group, animal rescue organization, bridge team, church, meditation group. Make a list of these and keep reading it into the phone every time she calls to harass you. Repeat it until she is forced to hear you. After decades of pushing you to parent them, sometimes these mothers actually can grow and take responsibility for their lives like other adults do. You might even suggest she find a paid helper if she needs one. But please don't take responsibility for finding her one, make her take responsibility for her life. She won't like anyone you find anyway. And you know you probably must set a deadline for her moving out. Repeat kindly but firmly that you simply can't keep her there. You just can't. With such folks, no reasoning will avail in pushing them out of the nest; you'll need to give her a deadline and stick to it. She may even fake a fall to play helpless, or try to bribe you with a big gift - but you know the drill. Please just ignore her guilt trip manipulation, she's not a helpless old lady; in actuality she's emotionally two years old and trying to avoid adulthood. She's trying to parentify you because (frankly) it takes less effort. Using and abusing you is easier than doing any of the things above. She wants make YOU be her parent (talk about role reversal!). Repeatedly remind her you believe in her and her ability to manage her life, insisting you don't want her to fall into helpless victim consciousness because it disempowers her. That you know she's better than that (at soul level, she is). Perhaps you might even say outright that you need her to be strong and manage her life, that she is responsible for her own happiness. We aren't supposed to find it outside ourselves. That a therapist can help her find happiness over time, but you are exhausted and need her to be the parent (appeal to any caring that might actually be in there). But whether she chooses to hear you or not, out she goes. At least that's my take on it. Got the t-shirt.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. 💚💚💚

@soulier224🤗sending💚 loving hugs

I’m so sorry darling 😢❤ sending lots of love

I know your pain it is so hard😢🙏

I had a similar mom! All the best to you!

@@danadickey4513 To you as well!

Awe. Listening to Angel's readings she is always spot on. I am sorry you had to grow up with a narcissistic mother. You sound like you have done a lot of healing and so has Angel. I am an an adult child of an alcoholic, married/divorced 4 times,; just left my final relationship with a narcissist man. That was 2 weeks ago. I had to leave because I was sinking into darkness. I am a healer who fell in love with a very deceptive narcissist. He was also an alcoholic. His alcoholism literally brought his demons out. I learned the hard way that when it comes to dealing with a narcissistic alcoholic you need to run away and never come back. I have a mission that I need to complete and a lot of it has to do with ancestral karma. I needed to get away. I feel so grateful that you and Angel were able to come out of a narcissist relationship with the understanding that you needed to heal. May you both be blessed with love, compassion, forgiveness and light. I'm turning 65 in August and I'm starting over again! My eyes are looking forward to what years I have left as the stress has taken its toll. 🙏🤗

@lesliewilde5130 Thanks for caring. I've also had about 5 narcissistic relationships, the last one about a year ago. It has taken me that long to finally keep looking for a healing with my mother through a woman partner. (I am a male). All these relationships were necessary so I could once and for all get this poison out of my system. Remember Angel has shown we can choose heaven or hell. Please don't put an age or time limit on your happiness. Pile 3 is loaded with wisdom on the future. I really feel my mother did her job (I believe in soul contracts). And all the woman in my life have helped me evolve into who I am today. Yes, there were "dark nights of the soul". But I needed them.

I’m so sorry to you all for having mothers like you had. It is a testament to your strength and goodwill that you are on this channel. I send you all so much motherly love. As a mother of 3 and a beautiful Labrador, I have plenty more to go around. Virtual hugs and kisses to you all 🩷💚💜❤️🌻🌻🌻🌻

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Yeah this is me too. I just really like feeling seen and heard because it is a lonely journey sometimes. 😊

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Attracting Master; I think of the universe of the divine mother, primordial energy shakti, and consciousness, i.e., Shiva. Wow! Pile 2 resonated so much. Transformation! Time for the butterfly to fly. Peace, prosperity, and light!

@nordiclight just sent over a coffee and cookie as a token of gratitude 🙏

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Hallelujah! Thank you my friend and sibling. I love you. I hope you are well.

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