Yep, true midwest goodbyes start when they first get ready to go, then everyone migrates to the front door where the conversation continues for another 5-30 minutes, then maybe to the front porch for another 5-30 minutes, then they get in their car and you chat in the driveway for another 5-30 minutes, then they drive off and everyone will wave and they might honk the horn as they drive off if they're feeling adventerous. I used to hate the whole ritual as a kid but now as an adult find myself and my friends doing the exact same thing.

As a Southern Mass guy, I don't use the Irish goodbye, just hug the people I was last talking with and the host, then walk past everyone to the door, announce in leaving for some vague excuse like work early or plans with friends, then wave and leave. My mom hates it a little.

@@markschade6951 Yeah, same here. It's tradition and part of our culture.

if my grandma did that to my grandpa he'd just leave her and go home. for context he was a second generaton irish man she was a first generation slovak

This is also a southern thing and we call it a southern goodbye.

100% .. mine are still around and we joke about it but I know that’s what we will miss .. especially the older we get

Sounds atrociously wholesome

Bless you

My family was the same! Most have left us, but I still have so many fond memories. It took about an hour to escape lol. Hugs to you.

I felt that on a spiritual level. Requiescat in pace dear grandmas of the world.

And then to Stockholm syndrome

When you are from another area of the USA and move to the Upper Midwest....well....same thing.

Its not yours anymore. Let it go

There's no going back! A friend of mine called it "an exit strategy" when visiting grandparents. You started trying to leave the minute you get there. Two hours later, maybe you get lucky. And get to leave.

Definitely the worst. Ohioan here, been stuck in the Midwestern Goodbye before, going back is a death penalty because the whole thing starts all over again. Was only planning on staying an hour or two, next thing I knew it was like 8 hours later smdh

what could you have possibly left there that wouldn't be easier and faster to replace off Amazon?

​@@chrissnyder4439 Anything that is essential for securing your escape: keys, plane tickets, phone...

We Southerners have perfected the saying 'Well, let me let you go!" when dealing with phone calls, holidays, or family gatherings! Granted, you're still waiting through half an hour for the goodbyes to finish before you can leave (unless you're really close with the family, then you gotta be one of the last ones to leave so you can talk about private things and other people who left hours ago. . . .) Best part of playing in the neighbourhood with your friends, and having all your parents talking was hearing one of them shout '5 more minutes!'. You knew you had half an hour at most to continue to run around with your friends. At the end of that '5 minutes' you could beg for 'just another 5 more minutes'. Cut to an hour later, and everyone is still trying to leave even though literal bats are flying about, trying to attack the birdy to the batmitten game all y'all are still playing in the dark, even though you can barely see the birdy, except when it's 10cm from your face. I miss those days.

@@TheOReport1994 Wait a sec did you use METRIC???? Yeah Midwest, Northeastern, Southern, or whatever we use imperial here... just using 10CM means AT BEST you're an engineer like me.... If you honestly use metric you're NOT IN ANY WAY Southern at all!!! Way to prove you're wrong instantly! Also I live in New England where our goodbye is "F#@k off!" at best!!!

Watch for deer

First I heard of this Irish goodbye most people in Ireland go through a similar process but I actually do use this idea of just leaving

years ago I learned to just take them and throw away what I don't want without saying anything about that part...

@Katannep. Lol how about an extra can of jellied cranberries, some pickled pigs feet, finger jello blocks, and a heaping cool whip container full of mystery fluff. Thanks for making my day. Happy holidays.

Just say thank you, take it and then throw it away. Yes, it is a waste. But if no one eats it anyway and she gets angry if you decline the food offer then that is a white lie. Or accept her anger if she gets angry over your decline. Which I would find petty of her. It should always be okay to say no. Or take the stuff and give it to someone else who actually wants it.

Mmmmmm, Nutter Butters.......

Yep, I take a dish to a friend-group party? The host sends me home with at least one leftovers serving of _everything_ - tho in my friends' defence, that's bc they all know I'm on struggle street rn & there seems to be this tacit agreement among all my angelic peeps that they're collectively Grandma, now.😂 Seriously, the last big potluck I went to, I struggled to fit everything I came home with into my 'fridge, lol. In my case, tho, I do eat it all, & my heart constantly runs over with gratitude for how blessed I am.

Canada checking in, and almost all the boxes were ticked. I no joke have an aunt that can take 4 hours to say goodbye once she's already got her boots and coat on.

What happens if we need to take a break half way through the goodbye? Do we have to start again?

@@eugenetswong Basically XD

Spot on. Add 8 minutes for each child on top of that. Not that they only take 8 minutes, but a batched out average for total sum. And dontcha forget that beep beep as your then pulling away slowly HA! Cheers!

It's one of my favs, bc I'm from the Midwest, now living east coast, not far from Boston

This was my family leaving my grandmother's house after every visit.

This is also my experience. Lol

@@helsphoenix2623 Only 30 minutes? That’s fast in my family lol. 😂

And tells yer folks I says hi!

Yep same here. Italian family. And as the family got larger, (marriages, children, etc) the goodbyes increased on length. My Italian mother in law died last week, end of that era. But we are starting our own, with our kids who are married and having their own children. Last week one daughter's new boyfriend was inducted into the family goodbye, but he's from a big family himself so he wasn't daunted at all. Having another daughter's boyfriend over for the "Meet the Parents" dinner, in a couple weeks....we'll see if he survives.

It’s the worst!

i have 2 cousins, dont know how they do it, they show up 30 mins late, and they leave b4 pie

Deer! I have tried to get out of a semi-rural gathering by pointing out that I'd like to get going before dark because of the deer -- to no avail.

I get genuine pleasure from sneaking out of events unnoticed. One time my gf and I were at a Halloween party and I snuck out through the front door when no one was looking. Got an hour and a half nap before everyone started calling me wondering where I was. Bliss.

Funny, I'm an introvert but I don't mind the goodbyes, if I know about it ahead of time.

"Ope! Hey, before ya head out, you mind helping me out with something real quick? It'll only be a second."

I'm not an introvert but I prefer short-and-sweet goodbyes as well even though I'm from Minnesota. But I will happily wait around a minute for leftovers.

Skill issue

I must know that word!!!

Yeah, what is it? I've talked with my German friends about this and lived in Germany for about a year, but haven't had this word come up in conversation. I'm genuinely curious. Don't take it as me trying toc all you out or something. Maybe it's a regional thing in Germany.

As a little kid, I dreaded the goodbye s at my Mother's friend's house. I refused to stand by the kitchen door for a half hour. I would sit until my mom actually walked out the door.

Google translate suggests Tor tod, with an umlaut over the o in Tor, take that for what you will!

I am a German and I never heard of such an expression. We have a thing called "langer Abschied" (long saying good-bye) but I never heard that other expression. Might be very, very local. German word would be "Türtod". Door= Tür, death= Tod.

Oh, man. My mom's family always hated us because, every holiday, we'd say goodbye to my dad's family with over an hour to spare. Then we'd say more goodbyes. Then someone'd go fishing. Then we'd get that someone back, but someone else had to pee, and a cousin we hadn't seen in months would drop in to say "hi". Late for dinner. Every year.

@@robertbeisert3315 Ain’t it the truth ? But you wouldn’t change them for the world.

@@randyrhyne1195 amen

Wisconsin is just north Texas, all those states in between are in-laws

All while complaining mosquitoes are eating you alive!

Ope, that's no way to say goodbye, doncha know. You gotta make it count ay.

Don't feel too guilty, you just have a strong survival instinct!

Totally understand.

Shame on you!! (But I’ve tried it too!!)

The hotel wisconsin lmao

only a moment then

@@RobFeldkamp You're not from the Midwest.

Absolutely. This was amazing!

Absolutely! Love to have ya, tell your folks I says hi!

I'd watch the fvck out of that reality show!

The Midwest is like the Australia of America. Come on down mate, we'll throw a brat on the barbee!

Ya, sure, you betcha! Check Galway, there's probably some already there!

Drive safe, watch out for wallaby.

The nice Tupperware. 😄

Lol everyones grandma no matter what coast your on always pulls out lots of cool whip containers 😆

Now if ya go way back, the 70's, the butter containers, which were perfectly bowl shaped became my divorced mom's "kid cereal bowl" set with lids! Don't know which brand of butter thosewere, just remember they entered the house as a bowl of margarine and magically became my sister and I's childhood food bowls! 🤣 And ice cream sundae bowls...Mac and cheese bowls (perfect for that gub'ment cheese and Mac) LOL

Howling because I was born in the midwest, grew up in the south, and STILL save the cool whip containers! And if you leave with leftovers, nobody minds if you don't return the container that way!🤣🤣🤣

And the hideous leftovers. Brings back memories. Everyone wanted my mother's stuff because it was amazing. But one aunt. (God rest her) Obligatory take home food was even worse than the food at the table. Mystery ingredients all wrapped up in gooey sauces. Leaden cakes; one bite was way too much. And you couldn't leave quickly. Had to get stories and tchotchke tours. I loved this video!!

And block out at least 45 minutes minimum for the ritual to be completed. 😂

That's my son and I .He's lives out of state and we don't phone each other real often. But when we do, after a 4 hr conversation we start the "well we better say by and after another hr ... we finally hang up. But I love that ritual. 😊

Or your phone dies while you're talking and you have to decide whether to charge it and call your mom back (she doesn't check her texts) to say you didn't hang up on her and risk talking for too long again (true story).

Every phone call with my Mamaw. At least an hour.

And you've got to take home some hot dish.

Tell her she can't escape it by going North. Canada checking in, and oh lord was this video accurate.

@@Nathan-dt2tu Heading South Either. From Missouri and the Midwest Goodbye is just as long here. Though the "Welp, I S'pose" is replaced with "well, it's getting late/ well, [insert some excuse here]"

I'm from northern il (40 minutes outside of chicago) and this is so true. i even got roped into setting up a baby shower once.

I ended up knowing he would never leave as I wrote the comment half way. That’s how you know I’m from the Midwest. 😂

Enjoying that Hillbilly culture so close to West Virginia? Cleveland born and raised here...

You'll never miss it, you're not able to leave

@@matthewklun2191 its funny cause it's true, already everyone is trying to keep me here and doesn't want me to go back to Australia hahaha

Welcome to Ohio! Cleveland born and raised here. 🙂

Australian and Appalachian is such a funny combo lmao. How, if at all, does that affect your relationship?

You need to come across to Wisconsin, then you can also talk about the Packers too!

As a Floridian, I greatly appreciate you Midwesterners.

@@entercreativename I'll stick to complaining about the lions thanks.

I'm from NH and about to move to Minnesota. These videos are the only thing preparing me for what to expect in the midwest lol

​@@katiekennedy8461 Been in the Twin Cities my whole life and can at least confirm that if you celebrate in the cities the time spent saying goodbye at least won't follow you to the car but once you hit hunting territory... Godspeed lol.

My sister moved from Boston to a suburb of Minneapolis. I got a text from her a month later; she was experiencing major culture shock by how nice everyone was. The Dunkin’ workers were actually happy to be there.

Then just stay. Easy.

Omg 😱 I am a former Mass hole too yikeees

Yep...alot of us have elders that are from the South as well. Those customs came with them.

I.... is that no what we just watched?

that's just a normal midwestern goodbye, though.

I think you meant YOUS GUYS. GEEZ!

Ground Corn Day 🌽🐭

That's pretty much exactly what this video is

Makes sense. Lots of people in the Midwest are descended from Nordic immigrants to America.

More than one thing, to be fair.

Kudos to Milwaukee

Howdy, fellow Milwaukeean! Go Bucks.

He has many videos on You Tube. Check them out. He is hilarious.

Agree. Just have to comment again because this is so, so good. The acting, the script, the timing, the music. Incredible. Even the plopping of the tuna casserole in the good Tupperware. Amazing. You feel the terror, the desperation. He just wants to leave but Charlie is right there, in his face. My only problem with this is it leaves you hoping for more episodes. Did anybody actually get to leave? Did Father Joshua get back to church? Wow!

@@verak66 we need an episode 2.

Yeah but “Irish Exit” implies leaving without telling anyone. Such bliss to just bail

You are terrible friends

They could base it on Invasion of the Body Snatchers. People would find giant zucchinis under their beds that would hatch and release a midwesterner. Then the real terror of church basement pot lucks and lutefisk dinners could begin.

@@greyeaglem Or what if someone there could only leave if a new person (victim?) took their place?

Hi! I am from Ohio and spent some time in Ireland right after high school. The NICEST people I ever met in my life and the most beautiful place as well. It was actually hard to say goodbye.

Father Joshua was stunning.

10 to 15 minutes? God love you.

Uh oh, the guy's obviously lying at 2:16 because even I (a New Jerseyan in California) know you need FOUR people for Euchre!!!

My HS BF's mom and stepdad taught me to play Euchre. The 4 of us would play at the kitchen table on weekend nights. It was a lot of fun. Unfortunately, I haven't played it since and need to re-learn it.

@@jerseydevs2000 I saw there was only 3 people there!!!! But there is a way to play 2 handed euchre!!!! Never seen it with 3….

I moved to the east coast. Haven't played cards in 24 yrs! 😭😭

@@Merica_dadgarage My parents use to play 3 handed. I never learned how they played it that way. I have played 6 handed with the 2 and 3 of spades being the boss cards and then the jacks. It's a bit harder to have a loner in 6 handed. but it's fun. :)

Yeah, no, it's not. We over here across the Cheddar curtain from youz guys, grew up with this. And while I may have grown up within an hour and a half of the border, Charlie here is over on our east coast, so, must be state-wide :).

@@ajb.822 love being a hop skip and a jump away from yall. I can hop the boarder and get some spotted cow and curds so fresh they squeak in your mouth. Still only 20 minutes away from the twin cities so I get the best of both worlds. Best thing is I stopped taking our roads for granted after driving on youralls haha(I’m just kidding, love Wisconsin and her majestic hills.

😂

Voluntold lol I love it

This hit too close to home lol

Oh thank you. I was waiting for one of us. I've been at Weddings where saying goodbye was so frowned upon that the entire bridal party left before anyone dared utter a leave. I boxed up a shelf of the wedding cake to go to a freezer and got offered it! Ah! I was being polite, not hungry!

@@heatherzwicker8031 No worries, we're here. Us Franco-Ontarians are the exact same too :) I feel like this isn't the case in Quebec though