Y'all are missing the point🤦‍♀️this video is not about who's right and who's wrong in this love triangle. Owamie is telling women to wise up when they become wives and not hold on to the advice that's usually given by the old generation of women so they don't end up with egg on their face should the ship sink. This situation is triggering for most people but take the advice

Guyzzzzzzz this is an ENTERTAINMENT Channel. If you don’t like Mihlali being discussed then skip the video. The rest of us WANT TO HEAR ALLLLLLL THE TEA!!!!

When Owamie said "The builder never reaps what they built" I felt it because I am in the exact situation.I don't wish this kind of pain on any woman💔

Loosing a cheat is not a loss. Whether its a male or female.

At this point I feel like when people do such things, it's literally spitting in God's face because the Bible teaches us "Let no man tear apart what God has joined" and "Husbands love your wives". Even if people aren't Christians, the moral concepts of these verses are applicable.

I will never disrespect my wife and marriage like this.

“Men know their worth, we don’t” The amount of pearls of wisdom in this video is unreal! God bless you beauty xx

Owamie is so right on this, she reminded me of that saying, “Be careful who you step on, on your way up, as you’ll meet them on your way down.”

You cannot build your happiness on another person's tears

Owamie thank you for this message. Whether you build a man or dont build a man men will be SELFISH and always put themselves first. Always put yourself first ladies.

At this point Mihlali doesn’t care and she’s doing all this on purpose that’s why I don’t get people who are still blaming her friends when she’s flaunting him like this . I wish them the best of luck 🤞 and for people saying she changed no she’s always been like this y’all just never paid attention .

now im starting to think mihlali is the one that "exposed" the relationship.because if she wanted to keep it private she wouldnt do all this.

Its so true Owamie, the person who is gonna wreck her marriage if she gets married, is the person who is still coming up

And marriage isn’t something we should rush into to be honest

look at the senzo meyiwa situation he was also cheating on his wife. now we in a funk dealing with his mess which could have been avoided had he been a faithful husband

@women who believe the "Be his peace" nonsense: You cannot trust a man who's peace is found in women or people. His peace should come from a healthy relationship with his creator and his knowledge of who he is. Periodt!

Ninja this message is so important and significant. Men are extremely selfish and wives need to look protect themselves

Owami’s marriage really did a number on her, she doesn’t wanna hear a thing about broke man and I’m here for it!😂😂 Not gonna lie, we really lived vicariously through you and I love that you voice out that women should not get stuck in pointless situations, it’s 2022, let’s do better ladies.. be a little selfish, don’t stop your life for a man because he definitely won’t. Play stupid games and you’ll win stupid prices

Leeroy’s wife is gonna win in life , the trash took itself out, she didn’t lose anything. It’s just sad Mihlali as beautiful and successful as she is, decided to be the one taking it out , I want better for her .

Owamie has FINALLY said what all the decent human beings that are left on this earth have been thinking!!!!! This is pure constructive feedback! Syabonga Owamie. Ngoba wow the comments that were encouraging this behavior on Twitter were frightening!!decency still lives….

I left this same comment at the Podcast&Chill: I’ve always said it’s the man’s fault because he made the vows and not the side but an interesting conversation by The Makhs on their KZfaq channel went: “If a person commits a crime and I’m there with that person then I’m an accomplice to that crime and I somehow have some kind of consequence” Got me thinking… They said the man is responsible but both are accountable

This is the conversation I have been waiting to hear from you. MARRIED MEN are more single than the SINGLE MEN 💯 Women need to WISE UP!!!! VUKANI!!!

"The person that might disturb her marriage is the person she is giving advice to now".

I like Mihlali but her Leeroy are both adults and there’s nothing people can do. I’ll never date a married man. I’ve seen the trauma that infidelity did to my mom. She ended up in hospital, crying all the time and the gaslighting. I was 12 and 13 when I witnessed this. I rather just wait for God to give me my own man even if it takes years. As for Leeroys wife I hope she gets a happy ending like Ciara and Cassie. God is not finished with her yet. He will bless her with her own Russell Wilson. One day she will look back and just laugh.

Women Stop building men & build yourselves.

If a man can disrespect a woman for you and you think he won’t do it to you. You reap what you sow , I just really hope she’s prepared for that coz the truth hurts. Just to realize he will do the same thing to her 😩 he’s def not gonna change, a man who can open a door with out closing the previous one and especially because he’s gonna see an opportunity that he is now a divorcée and wants to explore more options without the scrutiny. that man hasn’t healed doe she have any idea how it is to date a person who just got out of something, if it was me tbh I would just keep hiding it coz he’s gonna embarrass her Jehova. If this is a definition of being a high Value woman I’m out I don’t want . Both miss XO and Mihlali are doing great professionally but they’re grown and suppose to know better ,it won’t end well no matter how “NONCHALANT” you claim to be or how things won’t affect you, if he can manipulate his own wife and disrespect her ,who the flying duck do you think you are.

When you said “never build a man”, I started clapping 😂. I always preach against women becoming ‘BOB THE BUILDER’.

Who have ears will hear !!! You are preaching to my soul !

Another issue that I have noticed, is that when celebrities do these kinds of things, people what to defend this kind of behavior by saying that we should just let people be and who are we to judge them. But when ordinary people do these kinds of things, they face harsher backlash from the majority. I have never seen an ordinary person being defended in a cheating scandal but I have seen celebrities being defended. This is what we call hypocrisy, because people want to pick and choose when they want to call a spade, a spade.

Mina I’m just saying imagine if u r married and u r mihlalis friend You should b worried

Jah today's video touched me, facts over facts... This video was needed honestly and i hope the volume is clear and loud to those in the back seat turning a blind eye to reality. Ladies please know your worth and be smart cause these streets are cold. Stay blessed.

Mihlali can have any single man. She’s gorgeous just like Faith Nketsi. And that man has proven to be unfaithful, so he’ll cheat on Mihlali too

You forgot to qoute Noma Gigaba...side chick promoted to wife...the rest is history because the foundations are wrong built on someone else's tears

"men know their worth we don't..." 😭

My words exactly never build a man leave him where you find him let him work for himself and ladies stop paying lobola for yourselves that's why men don't take us serious

Karma always comes back to bite! There’s no way you can hurt your wife, hurt another woman and think that nothing will come of that. They can both enjoy it for now, but it doesn’t seem like it’ll last too long.

18.37 I relate totally Owamie.... I also find myself putting on makeup more then usual after being cheated on 😭 it's an internal struggle shem marriage is no joke and affects you mentally

I was really disappointed at MacG's comments about the Mihlali situation. Its like men are encouraged to act immoral because society has placed a label that "all men cheat." So actually the guy was praised for dating her whereas if it was Mihlali who was married and broke the covenant with her husband she would be called a Jezebel. So his comments were one sided and ridiculous. Also ladies please respect yourselves and never let that "I am beautiful" get into your head to a point where you start becoming arrogant and act immorally. There's always gonna be someone way more beautiful and talented than you. So if your only inroad in getting and keeping a man is your beauty, guess what happens when he finds someone better than you? So as a woman you are way more than a man's prized possession.

".. some of them their mothers were side chicks..." LOL Jehovah! 😂🙈

Lord have Mercy ...waiting to see how this will end.👀

Sis' Owamie, your brains way surpasses your age..Amazing wisdom right there, wish for an eve larger platform where EVERYONE hears !!

Let's leave Mihlali. That gal will get what's coming to her.

Just leave Mihlali.. she thinks what she is doing is some form of a Joke..it is only a matter of time..

Thank you Owamie for finally speaking the truth. As a young lady myself I’m taking all the notes you have shared today for the future and present🙏🏽

This is a lecture. I'm seriously taking notes. Thanks queen Ninja❤️

That point on the girl that's gonna disturb her marriage is the same girl she is influencing right now yoh I felt that, you spoke next level facts.

"when you said the person who is going to disturb her marriage is the young girls she is grooming now" 🤯😥 ladies if we can't respect that each other can we just respect the institution of marriage..💔 my heart goes out for the wife..

Vele we want READY MADE MEN. We not like these Barbra the builder, if you want to build a man go ahead Mara understand that there are women like us who will be waiting for the final product. Soze sidlale ngamadoda thina like how they played our mothers. Moral of the story. NEVER BUILD A MAN, because when he gets the money they'll dump you for someone with higher standards sis

Karma that will visit Mihlali, she won’t believe it 😢. I’m praying for Leeroys wife to find is healing ❤️‍🩹

I just hope this is not the beginning of the end for Mihlali. Some of the worst endings begin like this! She has so much going for her… as for women, we are our own enemies. I’m not even going to say anything about Leeroy, he doesn’t deserve my opinion!!!

Mihlali is very wicked shaaa!!!

"Mihlali is not married she did not approach Leeroy" Ehh she's his accomplice in adultery. She enabled Leeroy to use her disrespect his wife. Leeroy is a trashy man and fortunately he met a low moral girl. She's more famous so she's on the spotlight. Stop defending nonsense.

Such topics are triggers to some of us. My husband walked out of the marriage because he couldn't stay in a Godly covenant . He made a covenant with darkness and he sleeps with younger women to enhance his riches. Not that its not painful to me and children but these young girls bazovuka emaqandeni . Sometimes they think they are hurting the wife kanti for them it's a ticking bomb with the worse of consequences to follow shortly. The soft life comes at a high price. The devil is hovering around looking for souls to devour. Women must wake up 💔😭

Oh wamie i really felt like his message was for me , i feel so empowered.

Their karma will be worse than ekaSthelo. But yeah it hurt me when I heard a foreigner said SA girls are desperate

I agree with Owamie but society really let's men get away with bad behaviour with almost no consequences.Women should be ready to leave men who disrespect them There's no price tag on peace and dignity.

The way ppl under the post were cheering her on saying ‘take what’s yours, I understand him, a man will go for his dream girl’ 💔

I know it won’t change her life but I had to unsubscribe.. I cannot knowingly support a woman who’s participating in destroying another woman’s life like this.. Leeroy and Mihlali deserve all the karma that’s coming for them

I will say this, this can only happen in SA. In Bollywood, Hollywood, Nollywood or UK Mihlali would have received so much backlash and she would be all over the place trying to stop the fires. Leeroy is equally wrong but women must stop entertaining married man, he did put the gun to her head. I will have to admit that Mihlali is one those persons whom I I liked but after this mxm.

Wow no girl in my country would dare to make a youtube video without wearing makeup and fixing their hair. It's not that u can't look pretty without putting on makeup and wearing ur hair, It's just that i'ts different to see someone making a youtube video being just natural. I'm not used to seeing that. You look so pretty btw

The Jojo Tank of truth in this video is on another level. As man, watching Owamie's makes me to learn two or three things. People we must learn to do what is right. Some of people we are dating come from a strong ancestral background and you do them dirty you will see PUDRA....

Thank you for this. Thank you for bringing back sense to us all! What a wake up call.

Start making plans for your life. Total agree with you. I hope you know the positive impact you make in our lives. Thank you so much. May all your dreams come true. And find happiness all the way around your life.

You Are So Blunt & Straight Forward. You Don’t Kiss Ass. You Make Soo Much Sense.

What if the man want isithembu 🤷‍♂️ you will never know bafethu

A beautiful karma is when you leave your cheating husband/boyfriend and go meet a man that will treat you the way you deserve, I love how the wife is handling (I don't know how she handles it in private) the situation in public I hope she moves on gracefully and peacefully. I hope she doesn't get tempted to confront Mihlali overall I wish all the people in this situation well 😶

This is heartbreaking I won’t lie… Breaking a covenant with God is thee worst, may her seed not suffer her consequences.

She really poured her heart out I support what you say sisters much love 😍

Mihlali should learn something from Norma Gigaba. I’m just saying 🤷🏾‍♀️

"men know their worth...we don't" yoh modimo this fact cuts deep

Best advice!! Such loving and real advice, i appreciate you🖤mina ngikuzwile!!

Most women talk about how they love themselves and how confident they are but few women live in power. And that power comes from being selfish and putting yourself first. The truth is ur job, education, looks, etc doesn't define you and it's all typical. The next girl is just as impressive but when you love yourself and put yourself first and also not live for the validation of men you are on top of your game✨✨

"Why do people get married if they are not ready to commit?" 14:22

Preach momma ❤️💜

I believe the foundation (figuratively and literally) determines how the "building/structure" will be or how long it will stand. I don't care who you are, if the start is wrong the ending will never be right!!!!

Wow ninja you killed it 👏I'm crying as you speak thanks queen ninja 🙌

“ Till death do us apart” Death=Mihlali

One thing my mom always says is "God will not an innocent persons tears fall on the ground for nothing". Karma is crazy.

You spoke well Owamie, you are talking from experience, im with you all the time as im a divorce, i always tell women to believe in them and not to rely to any man, God has something better there for us.

A wise person once said God will never send someone's husband to you.

So true and deep.❤

We heard you sis, well said. That's why I always tell my friend that although my husband makes a lot of money I still want to make my own money and she doesn't get it. Independence is very important before we become one we are recognized as individuals and the oneness in marriage has to do with the body and vision.

Owamie Thank you for this mama 🙏🏻

I've heard that in some countries the wife can sue both the mistress & the husband over money that was supposed to go to her household & her children

Thank u Owamie, keep preaching this💕, ua spitting painful truth

I wish young girls can hear and learn from this msg

Some things are spiritual..they don't "just" happen

Let her learn from her decisions babes, one thing about life it will humble you. For now we shall 🍿

The humiliation of being cheated on and stay only for the cheater to do what you should have done- leave!

Owami spoke truth from beginning to end 🙌🏾

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Ninja,Amen to this your analysis.Facts that need to be included at Uni curriculum.

I feel like you talking to me 😭😭😭😭, I'm a housewife with no degree but my husband has two masters, but he always wants me to study but i don't have energy for studies , I'm right now watching KZfaq videos to crochet and start a business, THANK YOU 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Another thing we need to learn from this world is that there's no such a thing as karma. So many men have left their wives and continued with their sides and are still so happy. When a person cheats on you ,the best is just to focus on your healing and move and don't stress or wait for a day for them to break up because sometimes they just become more happier and live their lives while you waiting for so called karma to visit them 😐and karma never arrives.

This is by far my favourite video, I just keep coming back to watch it 🔥

Immoral influence only works on people who don't have good home training. Parents should do their job well so that their children can differentiate between good and bad. How come some of us don't take boMihlali's influence, its because we were raised better

It's not 50/50 responsibility. I would say 80/20 (80 being the man). The reality is that if it wasn't Mihlali, it was going to be someone else. We cannot continue to give men head of the house privilege but not accountability. We don't know what Leroy promised Mihlali or even if he has an open marriage or if he's polyamorous. Regardless, he is the one that humiliated and hurt her by simply making exposing her by making his marriage accessible to anyone but the two of them. This thing of main/side is a term women made up, he's the one who knows what he's saying to these women.

This video was very educational. Amaqhiniso wodwa. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.

“Never build a man” 👌🏽

Dear women, as sisters, don’t ever be the reason another woman goes to bed crying!!!!I don’t care how much money that man makes! It’s not worth the bad luck that comes after it🤞🤞🤞🤞