The Most Painful Mistakes We Made in our 20s
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The Opposite Twins are feeling the pressure! Niki and Gabi open up about the pre-thirties expectations that made them panic.
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•Hosted by Gabi DeMartino and Niki DeMar•
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0:00-1:00 Intro
1:00-2:23 So Close to 30, Flirty, and Thriving
2:24-7:53 The Over 25 Blues
7:54-12:20 Putting the Pressure on 20 Somethings
12:21-16:17 In the Fast Lane of Awareness and Clarity
16:18- 21:25 Why Are You Judging??
21:26-25:45 The Possibility of Losing it All
28:13-30:15 Its Ok to be Selfish
30:16 - 34:43 Respectfully STFU
34:44 - 40:28 Parents! It’s OK to Not Be Like You!
40:29-43:41 “I shouldn’t have committed to a marriage in quarantine.”
43:42-48:30 Gabi’s Elopement Tea
48:31- 50:14 Follow Where Your Heart Feels Drawn to
50:15 - 52:07 Did You Get Engaged for the Glam? Niki asks Gabi to BE HONEST
52:08-55:23 Marry them for the #HASHTAG
55:24 - 57:32 It’s Now or Never
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@marisaadelman7926 Жыл бұрын
This podcast episode has been so relatable! I wish there wasn’t so much pressure to have your life “together” in your 20s
@madisonhiggs Жыл бұрын
I definitely agree
@inner_smile Жыл бұрын
Yeah it's much too early. I've been through that and it backfired. I'm 31 now and try to make up for the time I lost in my 20s when I thought I was too this or too that for some things. Please enjoy your life and live it the way you want without society pressure you
@madisonhiggs Жыл бұрын
@@inner_smile I definitely agree! I’m done impressing my parents with graders in school or my life choices.
@aliciamichelle955 Жыл бұрын
When you did the reality series in 2020, I could tell Niki and Nate weren't on the same page. It's always been clear that Niki didn't want to settle down in 1 place forever. I couldnt believe they were buying a house together. Good on her for being true to herself. It's better to face your inner feelings, than to resent someone for keeping you from doing what you truly want.
@Velleogss Жыл бұрын
Cÿ
@UceeAA Жыл бұрын
So truuueeeeee
@organicallyhannah Жыл бұрын
That
@Katherine_xs 8 ай бұрын
I relate to Niki on that
@juliatinajero_ Жыл бұрын
Gabis mindset and maturity really shows in this podcast
@pania9259 Жыл бұрын
as a 27-year old I really needed this episode
@maar8314 Жыл бұрын
Same same.
@user-7jlrc 4 ай бұрын
bubblesss
@lifewithkennya7838 Жыл бұрын
Wow! When niki said” I wonder what’s it like to be in love but at peace” 😩😩 I felt that
@yahainHotPink Жыл бұрын
It is always better to break an engagement than break a marriage. Any relationship break up is painful but the process is so different. Take care!! 💖
@kelldog734 Жыл бұрын
Agreed 😊
@LovedByYou Жыл бұрын
Niki has to learn to let Gabbi sit in her feelings when she’s talking. She’s too quick to relate everything back to herself.
@jaehyunluvr Жыл бұрын
RIGHTT OMG idt she realises it lmaoo
@kysurff Жыл бұрын
Omg fr best comment I noticed it too
@Hannah-bc2bp Жыл бұрын
Leave these people alone they are adults let them be
@lauraramalho7460 Жыл бұрын
that's her way to relate to it, showing empathy by sharing, it might sound self-absorbed, but it's not what is happening and gabi seems to understand that
@amandagrace7300 Жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly.
@camilaospino4561 10 ай бұрын
gabi is so wise and well spoken how did I just realize this
@Katherine_xs 8 ай бұрын
Bcz she used to never say much in old videos
@lexiediazxo Жыл бұрын
i'd love a video not dragging the boys but just explaining either A) what happened, or B) what yellow flags to look for in a relationship. not things that are in your face awful but signs that should have told you to leave those relationships sooner.
@gizzyq2051 Жыл бұрын
mmm I second this
@charlysushames4213 Жыл бұрын
i would love if you guys did a episode on being cheated on/the breakup with your first long term boyfriend. i could really use the advice ❤
@Amandamarie0701 Жыл бұрын
Gabby has a video on her channel from a few years ago at what happened
@kkaayyllaaf Жыл бұрын
The main reason people think the way they do about your situations is because you made it look a certain way and you have yet to address it in any other way except being vague. People are going to be confused and rightfully so.
@nancyjanette_ Жыл бұрын
THIS
@WeShareTheSameAffliction Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@Jessica-kz5wr Жыл бұрын
100%
@Latoyas_got_your_soul Жыл бұрын
It's her life that she's struggling with not for peoples entertainment
@ndaubeneck Жыл бұрын
AMEN
@katrinarenee8572 Жыл бұрын
I just turned 23 yesterday and i’ve been feeling SOOO lost due to not following a traditional “time line” for my life and this episode made me feel sooo seen and valid! it’s so comforting to know that i’m not alone in these feelings & by reading the comments i can tell it’s universal. i really appreciate you guys for keeping it real and talking about these hard topics 😭🫶🏼
@vicsilva7293 Жыл бұрын
Omg. I love this. I’m 28, nearly 29. The older generation is to blame too. My father expected me to be married, be set in life by 30. The way I see it is 18-28 year olds is the time to learn, experience, make mistakes and grow and figure things out in your own time. There is so much pressure these days to be in a certain place in life
@marijaRosie94 Жыл бұрын
Gabi being the BOSS in this episode, love you both for having such strong souls
@Gulezworld Жыл бұрын
So they confirmed niki and Nate are done? Wow kinda sad ngl but really happy for them to come to that choice they’re very strong
@Sadbabygirl Жыл бұрын
Dude they’ve been done for MONTHS 😐
@Gulezworld Жыл бұрын
@@Sadbabygirl yea I assumed but they never confirmed
@malaikasaboor793 Жыл бұрын
@@Gulezworld at what part she confirmed it pls tell me
@emmabac8007 Жыл бұрын
She commented on a TIKTOK a few weeks ago they broke up
@emmaivala4866 Жыл бұрын
@@malaikasaboor793 literally at the behind girl check 0:26
@IsabelleNeal Жыл бұрын
I’m in a 6 year relationship and we have a house together. I’m really feeling like I’m going on this journey with you guys. You’ve affirmed a lot that I needed to hear. It’s time to choose me.
@Ollie.Bollie Жыл бұрын
Same ❤
@kaytiemyers2698 Жыл бұрын
Married with two kids...it's not as easy to choose myself now.
@kp782 Жыл бұрын
After 5 years it became reslly hard. Than we decided to make our relationship priority and everything worked out
@marufgazi9025 Жыл бұрын
Good luck ♥
@jessicabrewer89 Жыл бұрын
@@kaytiemyers2698 not easy, but worth it if you really want change. I have two children myself and it was 100% the best decision
@jennaseitz Жыл бұрын
“What does it look like to be in love and at peace?” -Niki Bruh, I’m bawling rn
@MabelRD08 Жыл бұрын
I just turned 35 this passed Sunday October 30th and my relatives won't leave me tf alone about getting married and having kids. In hispanic culture/latinos it's like a huge deal and people judge a lot when it comes to relationships and achievements. Thanks for another great and authentic podcast girls. Las amo🇩🇴🌹❤
@Niicoleruizz Жыл бұрын
I feel like you guys are the closest you’ve ever been due to you guys going thru this together, such a healthy bond you two are growing rn
@vilmas441 Жыл бұрын
I guess we’re just gonna glaze over Nikki’s break up lol. Respect that she doesn’t wanna get into it, it’s just funny how she said it so casually
@Mskyeeta98 Жыл бұрын
This lmaooo
@caliegirl931 Жыл бұрын
Girl, what? She literally gave more details than she needed and pretty much explained everything.
@katie18976 Жыл бұрын
She doesn't owe us any explanation. She will talk when she's ready and when she wants to. And if she doesn't want to then she doesn't have to. It's her life.
@Hello.Ashleigh Жыл бұрын
I just turned 31, I’ve been with my partner for 6? Years. We constantly get pressure to get married but we haven’t & we’re just doing us. The advice about “half the people getting married in their 20s will get divorced down the line” I received when I was younger too & it’s so true.
@heatherb3785 Жыл бұрын
As someone who is 27 and getting a divorce after an 8yr relationship and only married for 6 months with my whole life feeling very messy this made me feel so seen Thankyou for making this 🥺💗
@jaykayyy90 Жыл бұрын
The “how to be single” movie describes the whole scenario you’re describing and looking for in a movie. Sooooo good!
@zoe-rq9fd Жыл бұрын
Is the movie good?
@PurpleSpikedPig Жыл бұрын
I recently got married and it was perfect. We were together since highschool and fast forward 10+ years now married! Find someone that truly loves you and that you truly love them 🤍
@camelyayovita6183 Жыл бұрын
the more privacy the more peaceful life✨ -Gabi DeMartino 2022
@aliyah___ Жыл бұрын
I’m so obsessed with these!! I love just getting to hear about real stuff. Please know your stories and perspectives are so appreciated.
@Trina.b00 Жыл бұрын
Yes it drove me into a depression. I'm 33 now and my main goal is health and happiness
@asiaellis2164 Жыл бұрын
So is Gabi really saying that C is not an angel?
@missrachelroth Жыл бұрын
I've been loving this podcast, but this episode in particular I was like yes, yes! YES! I can definitely relate to the points made about parents, my parents constantly invite both me and my brother's significant others to events, and I 100% think it's just to keep us in their reach. It's exhausting because I love my parents but I do feel the need to put some distance there. I'm also someone who doesn't want kids, and every time it's brought up, I do feel like my parents and others will always tell me I will change my mind... because it makes them unsure in THEIR decision to have kids. Ugh I can go on but I loved this episode, thank you for being so open
@kennedymorrison1856 Жыл бұрын
i’m about to turn 23 and already feel like i need to have everything figured out and it’s so stressful to me lol
@asiaellis2164 Жыл бұрын
Same I’m 22 and I already have a baby and engaged. So yeah
@lauren4933 Жыл бұрын
Omg same
@rachaelroman3931 Жыл бұрын
Same! 23 in December
@brisie_gisie Жыл бұрын
I just turned 23 and I feel like I’m not where I should be 😕 but then I look at someone my age and think how young they are and how they can reshape their life if they wanted to bc they’re young, and idk but it makes me feel better 😌
@girlycollector7155 Жыл бұрын
Same
@kristiechambers917 Жыл бұрын
I'm 35 and this episode is relatable as hell figure this out now while you're still young before you're stuck in a situation that you regret
@choiavenue Жыл бұрын
THIS IS VERY HEALING AND MUCH NEEDED. BCUZ PEOPLE ALWAYS TELL ME IM GETTING OLD BUT I FEEL LIKE MY LIFE JUST STARTED AND HEARING EVERYTHING U GUYS SAID MAKES ME FEEL A LOT BETTER
@lilslife138 Жыл бұрын
Been watching y’all for years and just seeing yalls faces brings a smile to my face ❤❤
@SammMarie Жыл бұрын
As someone who is approaching 25 this December I really needed this episode
@missrachelroth Жыл бұрын
I am also turning 25 this December! And saaammmeee
@peaches1005 Жыл бұрын
Omg me tooo Sagittarius babies 🤍✨
@eastergee4920 Жыл бұрын
@@peaches1005 me three!!
@Collegestudent23 Жыл бұрын
I’m turning 25 this December too
@MelanieDear Жыл бұрын
Me too! 12/6
@feliciatallon9771 Жыл бұрын
I LOVE the part where they talk about bringing up a young persons personal life, I dread calling my family because it’s the same conversation every-time and I’m looked down on because my life isn’t going how it “should be” atm. Thank you Niki and Gabi😩
@reddrenched6074 Жыл бұрын
This is definitely my favorite episode so far. Everything you guys said was so relatable and makes me understand things more! And you ABSOLUTELY deserve all the choices you’ve made and I’m happy you’re happy.
@stephanieanderson5819 Жыл бұрын
As a 27 year old myself I needed this video thank you for opening up about what your guys experience, thank you for giving advice on everything
@girrrllllll Жыл бұрын
I’m so glad you posted! I checked yesterday and today being like “when is the next ep?” Love it! 💕
@twolala1 Жыл бұрын
I’m loving this podcast content! I relate to the holiday interrogation. It makes me not even wanna go home for the holidays cuz I feel like I’m not where I’m at in life
@semaa002 Жыл бұрын
35:00 I love how niki is speaking about the parents relationship that was really helpful and relatable as I’m going thru it
@paigeywaigey678 Жыл бұрын
I genuinely love this podcast, you two really are an inspiration. I very much admire the transparency and your minds! seriously I feel like I'm listening to a convo me and my besties have every time we sit down with each other. so damn good!
@sarahb7933 Жыл бұрын
Seriously the best thing to ever happen lol. I truly hope they'll continue this podcast for a long while (as long as they enjoy it)!
@vndoll7755 Жыл бұрын
Been rewatching these podcasts bc I literally feel like I grew up with you guys thank you for being so open in this chapter on here 🤧
@madelinemicallef836 Жыл бұрын
I really needed to hear this. This podcast episode is an eye opener for those who feel pressured that they need to have their lives settled before 30s. Enjoy life everything will fall into place by time.
@losingground1430 Жыл бұрын
Loved Gabi's ending statement about leading life...really needed that as I am trying to do that as a college student. Best episode so far.
@navkaurx Жыл бұрын
I love listening to these podcasts at my commute after work…
@RestlessChildcz Жыл бұрын
Loved this episode! ❤ you guys are just so amazing when you’re actually open about things.
@etherealjg Жыл бұрын
podcasts really show so much about a person and who they really are and let me tell you i'm even more obsessed with yous i love how you guys are so open and genuine you both add so much value to the podcast and give such good advice it's like your an older sister giving advice i love yous
@ellebassa9288 Жыл бұрын
This is such a great podcast. As a girl in her 20's whose single ,working and graduated college this speaks to me so much. Especially seeing everyone from hs married having kids ,buying a house. Sometimes it feels like everyone else hit the fast-forward button on adulthood. But I've made peace with where I am now.
@ChelseaLuna Жыл бұрын
I needed this 🙌 Thank youuuuuu for always being an open book!❤
@leviticuspittman2936 Жыл бұрын
I feel like they are saying once things got real it really hit them they weren’t ready to commit
@KirraKitten Жыл бұрын
You girls have grown SO much in the many years i’ve been a subscriber and I am so proud and inspired 🥹
@_dianis2 Жыл бұрын
This podcast episode had such an important message. Thank you Niki and Gabi❤️
@kyleeallen9745 Жыл бұрын
Y’all are thriving I love you guys been here since day one 💗💗
@Missmagazinebura Жыл бұрын
In careers but love is another story
@dejashumar Жыл бұрын
This episode was absolutely amazing. thank you guys SO MUCH for sharing
@taylornpickle Жыл бұрын
loving these episodes opening up.
@asianxxrejectx6870 Жыл бұрын
I really love these podcast you reallu see the growth you both have made over the past few years. I can relate to how you feel, i like how honest you both are, tbis does feel like a podcast feels like im listening in on a deep private conversation. Please keep doing these together if possible. Best content ive seen from you guys !!!
@semaa002 Жыл бұрын
This is my first time watching your podcast and I’m already loving it
@valentinavang6366 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so open and inspirational ❤ I needed this.
@brikry1299 Жыл бұрын
I Have been watching your videos for like a decade! I Just recently discovered your podcasts though, and im so glad I did!! love how real you guys are and how much you embrace being yourselves!! love it❤
@me6796 Жыл бұрын
Your podcast is so addicting, sending love to you both, everything will work out!! Your great girls
@jenyahjin675 Жыл бұрын
I swear this podcast episode is truly empowering!! 🙌🏻 thank you so much 🤍
@LiliZK Жыл бұрын
The bond that you two have with each other is beautiful.
@dolphinmatcha7719 Жыл бұрын
this is what i needed to hear today. thank you so much 🤎🤎
@jessicavill Жыл бұрын
The way I needed this episode !!
@Noahjaide Жыл бұрын
I like this because it feels like the most genuine and real they have been in a bit. I’ve watched them since the beginning so to see this change makes me happy
@hannahkleindl Жыл бұрын
So thankful to be growing with you guys
@annaokolot8860 Жыл бұрын
This is amazing, please bring more open conversations like this. This was beautiful, thank you ❤
@tanealr Жыл бұрын
This podcast made me feel so good! Being in my mid 20s I feel like I’m questioning everything because I’m not going at the same pace as others like kids, marriage, career, house, etc. We are going at our own pace for our peace.
@kaylamckinley2334 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely have been LOVING these podcasts. I’m looking forward to my Tuesdays drive home from work ❤
@catherinew7065 Жыл бұрын
This episode brought me so much comfort and calm ❤ i look sooo forward to this podcast every single week
@xodanielle314 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this 💖 I'm so glad you guys are doing this now!!!
@Grace-hv2gw Жыл бұрын
anyone else think niki always brings the convo back to herself? without acknowledging gabi’s point
@tashaneuhaus Жыл бұрын
Every single time
@jodalinasparty9718 Жыл бұрын
Let's not do this- they're clearly happy with how it is going otherwise they would edit or change it in some way
@gabyzbs6480 Жыл бұрын
This episode is SOOOOOO important!! Thanks so much ❤❤
@Qtmars666 Жыл бұрын
Loved this episodee!!♡ yall are doing amazing!!
@amirahmoore1993 Жыл бұрын
Love this episode so much because it was very relatable. And even gave good advice on how we as humans can be more understanding and not put the spot light on those know and love. Whether it’s family members or friends ❤
@nittoburn4 Жыл бұрын
I just turned 20 in september, and this whole episode is just making me emotional. Ive been going through it mentally for several reasons for the past year (much more anxiety and ocd probs and other things) but the fact that I havent had growth like yall yet (being in 20s ), Idk if it makes sense but this makes me feel comforted or just see that things can take years before theres light at the tunneland thats okay.
@carolinarose5245 Жыл бұрын
Best podcast ever! I’m enjoying every episode so far but this is but far my favourite and relatable ❤ I really needed this. Thank you so much girls!!! Keep on killing it 👏🏽
@samanthakattine1504 Жыл бұрын
Love doesn’t always equal peace. It’s something you have to actively work for every day.
@dzenitapuric1871 Жыл бұрын
The podcast idea was your best move ever. This is so fucking good. I loooooove it. Never expected I would.
@michelamaenza6216 Жыл бұрын
Gabi, I rarely say something about your or Niki’s presence BUT you are glowing in this one! Gosh
@thatdaisygirl2938 Жыл бұрын
GOD. This episode made me feel okey, not living like everyone around me wants me to live. I feel understood. Thank you Niki and Gabi ♥
@jasminebishop2810 Жыл бұрын
This genuinely made me feel better. Thank you.
@KyrieNichelle Жыл бұрын
Ahhh, love you guys so much. I just turned 30 and I'm working on a video about what it feels like, all those societal expectations, and setting intentions for the new decade. I loved hearing your perspectives on the topic.
@elizabethglenn695 Жыл бұрын
As someone who is 35, and with the same person ive been since 22…. And i am not happy. I wish when we broke up when i was 28 i wish we had stayed broken up. (I was happiest as an adult during that time. It took a while i was sad but i was my happiest!). Listen to your gut. Its so much harder to leave the older u get. We now have a son together who is such a beautiful blessing, but it gets harder to leave
@LaRochePosay04 Жыл бұрын
break up with him !
@Callmekass Жыл бұрын
Same same!! Except ive been in it since i was 18 now 36 ...I have never Related more to a post
@vianey5963 Жыл бұрын
never too late girl
@MabelRD08 Жыл бұрын
If you're not happy staying together just cause there's a kid/child in the middle you might reconsider. To each their own though.
@elizabethglenn695 Жыл бұрын
@@MabelRD08 very true. Except thats actually not the reason. But i understand why u would assume that.
@thenightqueendom Жыл бұрын
i love this podcast so much this format is the best
@amberwhite6519 Жыл бұрын
Love their podcast sm by listening to em problem solving each other🙂💯 💫
@taliw7736 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 💕 so many points and vulnerable stories. Thanks for sharing this and advice for people like me nearly in my 20's
@pootskavinsky Жыл бұрын
The way niki kept saying “moving to a penthouse at 19” HAHAHAH just say ur throwing Mai Pham under the bussss;(
@LaRochePosay04 Жыл бұрын
I peeped that !
@cristianamezcua3323 Жыл бұрын
This is so so real I wanna cry like yes! I am so here for this lowkey epiphany moment do what makes y’all happy please!!!
@labyrinthlany Жыл бұрын
this is my new favorite podcast! i love you both so much, i look up to u as older sisters and it feels so safe and cozy and fun❤
@MulattoArchive Жыл бұрын
This was a great episode!! Very important 💛💛
@Al666. Жыл бұрын
Ooh my gosh. I love the topics you girls talked about. They're so on point. Thank you so much!!
@nelliee4267 Жыл бұрын
Gabis so comforting the way she comforts Niki 💙💙💙 and Niki is very good at giving advice 💜💜💜
@amandagrace7300 Жыл бұрын
Omg Niki let Gabi talk! Any time she says something Niki has to jump in with her personal stories and issues and not let Gabi just say what she needs
@ashleymacnear6549 Жыл бұрын
I really needed this. Thank you.❤️
@mckenzielee4276 Жыл бұрын
The way I look forward to this every Tuesday
@katelynbolen7991 Жыл бұрын
I LOVED this podcast! So relateable.
@theesilio7984 Жыл бұрын
The parents needing validation thru their kids making the same choices as they did...I'm shook 😳 wow. Good episode. 👍
@Silviamont Жыл бұрын
Thank you the college talk is so so so draining especially because it’s so confusing
@deannadougherty7615 Жыл бұрын
I just turned 25 and I can relate so much to this!!! It’s so strange I feel like everything is falling apart for me. Sometimes I feel like all I want to do is scream!! Thank you guys for sharing!! ❤😊 love listening to you guys!!
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