Well... I think that's the big plot twist on this. Because acting/pretending/imagining is the thing a brain cannot see different from reality. I think it is very inspiring that a clinically diagnosed psychopath, who doesn't know, and doesn't show signs of it because of conditioning due to a religious upbringing, is like: I don't want to be a psychopath... So i will act like i care to maybe change my brain... But for all we know he's killing people now 😂

To me that's the most generous thing a person like him can do: He's incapable of feeling empathy, yet he's able to put up with it and act like it superficially because it makes the people around him feel comfortable. It shows a special quality to this person, and even if it might be self-serving in certain ways, it's ultimately a selfless act

@@YehudiNimol He said that his relatives think he's not a good person to be around, they don't get emotional contact with him. Those with whom he's in contact on a superficial [great guy at a party] or non-social [work and education] level are comfortable with him because they're not trying to make emotional contact with him. This is what I understood him to say.

It's better than nothing.

@@updownstate Which is why he also said he's willing to change it. Hear what he says at the end of the video

I have observed psycopathy in surgeon's as well. They have the advantage of not being squeamish while working on people the type of detachment they have is unparalleled. They seem to be well disciplined as well which obviously helps surgeons.

@@redbear4027 The overwhelming majority of surgeons are not psychopaths Sir. They are desensitized.

@@PROTAGONIST_48 that's good to know but I do hope that they are OK, do they train to become desensitised or is it a skill set?

@@PROTAGONIST_48 Healthcare is pay to play. I have a friend that teaches at a medical school from what I understand less people are going into Healthcare because they care about people and more people are going it into it because their parents force them and because they want to make money that seems Psychopathic to me. I have no desire to argue with you I understand that the percentage of psychopaths is low. But it is very naive to think that there are no Psychopaths. So basically I agree with you have a great day. What do you call it when you try to talk to an oncologist but they tell you you have to come in for an appointment? That's what happened to me and oncologist was so high and mighty they wouldn't talk to me for 5 minutes to assuage some of my concerns so I cured my own cancer. I guess I'm desensitized to the belief that they are gods...😚

@@PROTAGONIST_48 Also I wonder who is doing all these transgender surgeries because it is my assertion that they are Psychopaths.

This makes simple sense but not the only factors involved. Traumatic experiences can set the trigger off. Bad parenting is just one way of setting that trigger off. Head injuries, bad relationships, being bullied and many other experiences are equally as important. It's all to do with brain trauma I believe. Physical or mental. I feel, though have never been tested. That I am a full blown psychopath. But a loving upbringing has help shelter me from my true self. But I am definately not connected. But I do my best to meet people in the middle so to speak.

I am no psychologist, but I’ve always been very interested in certain aspects of brain science and psychology. I trained as a research technologist in the Biological Sciences and then when my twins were born, I worked part time with a Positive Parenting Program, as a child care worker and then as a parent facilitator. I’ve worked closely with hundreds of young children, in the newborn to six year old age group, which featured lots of unstructured play time, song, rhyme, art and simple food preparation time, and I have also raised my own twin sons ( with bountiful help from my husband), so I have a little experience with early childhood behaviour. I have always had a firm but fair style of dealing with people including children, and I found that I was very good at helping people and children learn how to act or play fairly and respectfully with one another, but sometimes, with some children, it was real work! I can’t think of too many times ( only one example really) where an oppositional, defiant, young child didn’t come around to consistently trying the tactics that I would model for them and use it successfully. It was generally extremely rewarding work but at times it required real patience and the belief that my system would eventually work, which it usually did, at least in our program setting. The parents were also taught these skills and practices. I have often wondered, as a side thought, if this kind of early, positive type of intervention, in a potential young sociopath or psychopath could possibly have turned them around enough and helped shape them into being more successful and productive people in life and in society, like what has appeared to have happened with Dr. Fallon, due to the excellent parenting that he seems to have received. It makes sense that it could very well do that or at least help to a significant degree, especially if their first teachers ( their parents or main caregiver) were able to bond with them and teach them these valuable, cooperative, social skills.

Yeah, I think that’s been well known considering there are estimated to be numerous people with anti-social disorders in high levels of large corporations and government, presidents even.

It definitely depends on partly nurture, because obviously what you're teaching the clinical psychopath is to boil everything down to "winning" and having power and control over others so they don't hurt you when they have power and control over you. I mean there are actually really malignant psychopaths that do come from pretty normal or privileged backgrounds too, it's just the really violent ones do tend coming from backgrounds of violence and/or substance abuse and poverty. Which, to be fair, is the mix that generally creates much more angry violent people in general that are prone to finding difficulty with being happy, normal, friendly, cheerful people in adulthood regardless if they want to anyway even if they have normal brain structures. So it becomes about force multipliers and self awareness. Also you will notice key word "self awareness." People with a general poverty of accurate self-appraisal aren't good at a number of things in life. Scientists by basic definition are trending toward hyper awareness and cold, calm, reflective analysis and curiosity so they probably would tend to be among the absolute best at keeping themselves from being destructive and understanding themselves and their own motivations and therefore crimping any of the worst tendencies.

Explains Donald J Trump PERFECTLY!

it's essential to a surgeon to develop some "skills" of psychopaths, such as lack of empathy (while working). There's a real interesting buch about that The Wisdom os Psychopaths by Kevin Dutton.

@@alexanderdecarvalho3731 yes. They may even develop Alexithymia. They have to go on to the next person and pretend like that 2 year old didn't just die in the back.

@@AmbivalentAlexthymic You're both right, it's being able to "Turn it on and off" when needed. You want them to be warm and jovial and joking with you when you're resting in your room watching TV and they come by to see how you're doing and let you know how your blood work looked, and then want them focused with ice water in their veins and being in the clutch when they're holding the scalpel.

@@edwardmason741 That is not psychopath. They have it permanently "off".

@@user255 I know, but he meant how that trait is good in various circumstances/professions.

There are more psychopaths out there then generally believed, you probly know one or two. That guy who's totally oblivious to your reactions to something or your opinion in general without even being conscious of it for instance

I just try to _appreciate_ the fact that if Dr. Fallon didn't rip my head off it's because he wouldn't regard it as a particularly interesting endeavor.

maybe there's something there with that natural attraction towards religion as well

I saw a video where people who knew him called him out on stage for some of his “fun” stories and told the truth behind what happened. They also reminded him of other dangerous and thoughtless things he did with, say, his kids. He had trouble seeing what the problem was. He’s not a good guy. Don’t believe psychopaths’ self-assessments. That’s basic. We all know it, but when we’re faced with a cuddly TED talk, too many people decide to forget.

​@@mrjones2721 You're right, but I wouldn't agree with calling him a bad person. It depends on your definition of bad, of course. If the argument is about semantics without explanation it's pointless, so I'll give my definition. To me, a bad person is someone who commits cruel acts with full knowledge and apprehension of the pain they inflict. However, the concept of good and bad is a human social construct. Nature, nurture and genetics aren't "good or bad" they just "are". They are neutral agents. The brains of psychopaths, such as dr. Fallon's are lacking in the parts that give humans understanding and grasp of the pain they might inflict on others. Fallon doesn't understand other people's feelings because he's not capable of it. As such, he hasn't got a clue of the pain he inflicts, nor does he have personal experience of any pain of that nature. Aside from reading a literal definition of the words, psychopaths are unable to understand cruelty or empathy, and are therefore capable of committing cruel acts without any qualms, such as the cave example. Why wouldn't they? They aren't hindered by empathy, so it's only logical for them to want to maximize their own pleasure. It's certainly not pleasant for neurotypicals to experience, and I'm not saying actions such as Fallon's are morally justified, but in my view it doesn't make him a bad person, it's just how his brain works.

well you gotta love them psychopaths

I mean, it don't mean they hurt folks or even want to. They just mentally don't have the hang ups we do, if that's wut you'd like to call it

Because it's incredibly hard for non sociopaths to relate to what goes on in a sociopaths brain, it's so hard to comprehend.

I thought it was a standup comedy show

You're laughing. He's telling you he's a psychopath and you're laughing.

A really good one.

@@friskeysunset …😆

He could run for a seat in the Democrat Party.

Or dead in a gutter by the time he's 21

@@emjaydark2811 Now? The mob is very right-wing, they’d be pro-Republican.

It’s not courage, he literally “doesn’t care”.

As he interviewed his inner circle and realised people already kind of knew, he realised he had nothing to lose if he, say, wrote a book and that book sold really well. Which is what happened. Also, he's clearly had a great upbringing that made him prosocial so he didn't do anything bad and doesn't care about attracting undue attention.

read the book

courageous is such a dumb word to use for a psychopath, they just don't work like that.

I haven’t read the book, but I can imagine that this may have been one case where being hyper focused on religion as a child, delays any really obvious negative psychotic acts… sounds Ike he eventually grew into understanding sin differently. 😂😇

lmao

I’ve known some like that, they act so sweet and kind and then they can show zero remorse at the drop of a hat.

@@starrynight2218 That's me. I open doors for people, help elderly when I see them needing it, I let people borrow money if I know they're good for it, I do all kinds of things out of common courtesy and often go above and beyond to help someone out in need. But like Louis c.k. says in one of his standups, "Do you know how common murder would be if it wasnt illegal?" The only thing keeping many of us caged is the fact there are consequences. Our very modern morals are based on a thin sheet of ice that is the last 1000 or so years of slowly brainwashing civilization to a *lawfully* bound moral compass. Beyond that, we're just animals. Lions and gazelles.

@Contra Band I disagree.. I don't think everyone would start killing each other if murder was not illegal. Also, I don't think you are a psychopath based on what you are saying. You seem to have quite a bit of empathy. Also, empathy doesn't automatically mean sympathy, but a lot of people seem to think it does.

@@jimmorrison9287 I also can't tell you how many times a day I have have to remind myself "this is modern society, with laws, chill out, you cant do that"

Brave? Bro hes a psychopath, he doesnt care or feel anything. He actually benefitted from admiting hes a psychopath.

@@jadecleveland865 yeah, aside from that he admitted it and is taking steps. So he does care.

He doesn't care, so that makes it easy.

@@PunkerVogt Nope he doesn't. No disrespect to him but that's the whole point about psychopathy in medical terms. He chose to be a good person because it serves him well. He chose to admit it because it serves him well. Most of the decisions we make are influenced by society or people around us. He is simply incapable of comprehending what we feel.

I remember some time after the 2008 housing bubble burst and the resulting Great Recession I watched a documentary called, "I Am Fishhead" narrated by Peter Coyote. The gist of the documentary is that it was discovered that many of the CEOs who ran these companies that went belly up by being overly adventurous with their company's investment risk factors were found to be psychopaths. And I believe half way through it James came onto the screen and told this story, and at the time he attributed his 'normal' business life to being reared by great parents.

This is the kind of stuff that I think of often. Do I care, or do I HAVE to care about other people? etc. Sometimes I don't know myself.

Do you happen to know what interview that was?

@friskeysunset I'd be fascinated to listen. Do you have more information, such that allows for a productive search for this interview? Thanks in advance.

@@Skelterbane69 An excellent guide is simply the awareness that in many ways others are very much like yourself: Averse to pain, interested in pleasure, seeking constructive family relationships, and more completely seeking friendship, love, meaningful work.... The Golden Rule oversimplifies matters but 'treating others as you would like to be treated' has its root in acknowledging how alike humans are, and that we are kin to each other not just genetically but emotionally and morally.

Are you speaking of Charles Manson?

He was brought up well and happy. There was a documentary made about this man and others - very interesting.

After reading this comment i think you are complete confused about the reactions of stimuli tht psychopaths experience and the empathy they attach to others.

@@akumaquik Like he said, he don't have emotional empathy, but cognitive empathy. What i said was what i learned. But of course, i would like ro read your thoughts as i'm not a specialist of course.

@@annastinehammersdottir1290 Hi, what's the name of that documentary?

I don't think it is self awareness. He is a scientist, discovered something interesting about himself, didn't feel anything, developed a theory, shared it to promote study, enjoys acknowledgement. ....locked himself in job because he is a zombie with no emotion, good for a person who has a career to stay in their wheelhouse....

He doesn't "care". It is strictly an academic exercise to see if it optimizes his relations with people so he can more easily manipulate them as he sees fit. This is the entire basis of psychopathy - there is zero connection inter-personally.

Could be aspergers/autism my guy :)

That sounds more akin to a sociopath. Are you a bot? A plant? Maybe bamboo?

Alot of psychos react that way, they see emotions as ppl trying to manipulate them, because they don't grasp what they actually are.

yea, like "they are clapping,, how surprising, low IQ simpletons ".

Patrick C., I had to watch it again to see what you were talking about. You're totally right! The quick little raise of the eyebrows with the closed-lip grin, and then leaving the stage before the applause even ended its crescendo. He seriously had NO NEED to bask in any of the approbation. But the FIRST time I watched, I was pretty sure he was getting choked up at the end. Like he KNEW the gravity of what he was saying. Even though I fully agree with your assessment, I also think he DOES care deeply about something important, even if it's not words of approval from another human.

He's like, "I played those suckers good."

@@CrabbyOof course he cares deeply about sone things .. I honestly think Fallon is full Of shit about 25% of the time.

@@CrabbyO Sociopaths are self-centered. I feel bad for anyone like that because they can't feel empathy naturally. It's a mental disease, sometimes coming from brain-damage even.

He says himself that every person that knew him, that he asked, said that he wasn’t NORMAL. Holding down a research job and doing TED talks is not a sign of normality, nor does it mean that he hasn’t hurt people. I have narcissistic parents (that’s way lower on the scale than James Fallon) and they are hurtful every time they open their mouths, because every communication is self-centred. This guy has a wife, children, grandchildren and yet he enjoys getting audience laughs out of how selfish he has been. God only knows what he is like as a boss if he has no empathy - I can just hear him saying to his secretary “no you can’t go early because your husband has been in a car crash and is on life support, because how does that help me make my research deadline?” Falling short in interpersonal relationships, as you like to put it, isn’t a mild problem. It is THE problem of human existence, and the one that will probably kill us as a species because we can’t live within nature whilst most countries are ruled by these human mimickers called Psychopaths who might as well be aliens.

U simply have no idea what a psychopath is

@@andrewhaywood3853 I think it’s fair to say that you’re exceedingly attuned to cluster B behavior regarding your personal experience. But projecting your personal experience on to every psychopath is way too reactionary. I never said the guy is easy to live with. I said psychopaths can, and often do integrate relatively normally into society, despite their affliction. I also have a very good friend, and former brother in law who has NPD. His is the vulnerable type, but it took a toll on my sister and their two sons. Which is why he’s my former brother in law, but still my friend. He’s learned. He’s not “cured” of it, but he’s adopted a very different approach to his life. One which would’ve saved his marriage had he adopted it 20 years ago.

@@orphanrafferty1955 I have no idea what a psychopath is? Don’t make silly statements you can’t back up. You have no idea what I know. You simply assume every psychopath is evil incarnate because of your personal experience. Perhaps all psychopaths should be burned at the stake since they’re so clearly irredeemable in your eyes.

@Madolite Lol. “tactically unwise action…” Exactly! Classical conditioning! Learning behavior is mostly conditioning anyway. A psychopath is slower on the uptake learning proper social conduct because they’re neurologically retarded in that area of comprehension, but they can learn to mimic, and with our increasing understanding of neural plasticity, perhaps can even learn to have feelings more like neurotypical people.

No big surprise heritage and upbriging. The Ratio differs as well.

Sam Vaknin readily says that ASPD is a physically difference in the brain and think that it should be removed from the cluster B section because of that stark difference

Lol. You need to go out more.

lol Sam Vaknin isn't renowned, he's an uber cringe old guy trying to seek fame for being weird, just like this guy James Fallon

@@powdergate I'll take your nonexistent credentials to heart 👍

So true. Labels are not helpful.

@@paulduffy4585actually they’re helpful in some ways. For example, I couldn’t begin getting my life back until I could label what I wanted to understand and overcome.

@@Rino37 fr, even know it exists in a book (DSM IV I'm looking at you!) and it happens to more people its kinda conforting.

@@canobenitez Let me rephrase, definitive statements are usually not helpful. Whereas labels can be helpful at times, even though they run the risk of oversimplifying matters.

I would argue society does need a certain class of people capable of violence.

I wonder what my PET scan would show. Except for one cool person and one I’m not fully convinced of, everyone else I’ve had a relationship with has been somewhere along the line of psychopathy and/or sociopathy. I wonder what it says about me. Or, is it that there are way more of ‘them’ out there than we know? 🤔

@@NeoStoicism Why?

Without having people capable of violence you won't have anyone to protect you from dangerous threats. It's that simple, we need soldiers, cops, game wardens to be able to be violent to stop invading armies, criminals, wild animals from hurting our society.

@@NeoStoicism I agree, some people today seem to think life was always as it is today. In reality our concept of "normality" is just a footnote in the long, long history of our species. It took all kinds to get us where we are and there's no reason to believe that that doesn't apply to the future as well. What worries me is this thirst for "normalization". We must all be the same...

You don't necessarily need to _feel_ (emotional) empathy to not want others to suffer.

They can get depressed and he only scored 20 out of 40 on the test since falls under boarder line psychopath

+Baba Booey he most likely does.

he knows it

MammalsShmammals I loved his self deprecating humourous take on his psychopathy. Takes courage to admit this kind of stuff.

+MammalsShmammals Agreed!-- What a Lovely Guy!.. What a Great Psychopath..🙄🤔

Yes, that's exactly how characteristics like narcissism work, EVERYONE is narcissistic and supposedly men are moreso on average than women, but only people who REALLY have it bad get called "malignant narcissists"

Without a doubt! It's their super power.

@@ettvanligtkonto No shade, just pointing out some are more adept at the dramatic art of b.s.

What was the difference?

@@TalynStormcrow There was no difference, handcrafted is sus af. It's psychopaths all the way down

@@unutilisateur4729 sus af?? what are you saying? ENGLISH!

elaborate?

Proves he's at least narccisitic

LK P 100% correct.

Yeah.. he's a psychopath lol

I am listening to the audiobook and wish James voiced it himself, the voice actor was too fast and robotic

Exactly. Speaking someone who strongly suspects that she is a psychopath, I wouldn’t trust Fallon’s words when he says the world needs psychopaths. Trying to convince others why they need us is a timeless sociopathic/psychopathic move. It’s self preservation.

Infact, there's not a single field of work or place in this society where these devils are needed. You don't need to be a vicious pos to perform surgery or to have responsibility. I bet those who say psychopaths are beneficial in any way at all are narcissistic, selfish assholes themselves looking for a way to justify their shitty behaviour. It is also a choice. NPD's and ASPD's knows what they're doing and they do the things they do because they love it.

Yes “profit over everything” is the cancer that is metastasizing through the world leaving misery and destruction in its wake. One can have a very valid suspicion that successful psychopaths helped created the conditions for this mentality.

It doesn't take empathy to know what is right and wrong. Psychopaths have less of an ego or a need to sooth with outside things like power. They get bored mostly.

@brownincel6018 it's not really. Plenty of people are without even knowing it. I mean if you dont feel guilt why should that stop you from doing the right thing ? If all that stops people from doing the wrong thing is because it makes them feel bad I'd question that persons inner compass

True

True

It goes a long way but it doesn’t complete the connection - which is where the important stuff happens.

Exactly, as Paul says. It goes a long way in many casual relationships and fun nights out, traveling etc. But those deep connections miss something, when empathy is not there. It is good to aknowledge how important it is, to both understand the psychopath (what he is missing out on, and how a relationship can be good for him), and in this case his family, who need to understand their dad and what they can get and not get (empathy, interest, humor) from being together with him

And actually, instead of 'missing out on' something, I like to see it as; that we all contribute with something, we all bring something to the world. Instead of comparing each other, we could just say that this man brings humor, joy, casual lifestyle, science ect. - His wife probably brings empathy, and they have found a way to live together, even though he might not understand that empathy on an emotional level. Sorry it got a little long

HAHAHAHAAA! (Really thinks about what you just said) ... Wait a minute ... Should I really be laughing?

Welcome to the comment section where this dumbass makes completely satire comments to gain small hits of dopamine over an extended peroid of time because they themselves feel empty and without depth on the inside

@@wholesomekeanureeves9466 That's some pretty high-level self-awareness you're showing there

@@Tyrosine0910 i thought so

literally lmaooo

Nice fat joke

lol you trollin bro?

lol u didn't get it.

Thank you!!! I was looking for a comment like this. Alarm bells ringing hard

Yeah wtf these ppl in the comments are stupid

yeah dud i dont understand why people are saying this guy is a hero or that he is brave in any way, he said it himself he doesnt feel empathy and he pretends to feel that so he can co exist here, he doesnt pretend to feel empathy cuz he likes the people around him but because if he doesnt pretend to feel those emotions it would be his downfall

Emotions exist to stabilize into Empathy. A psychopath will not stabilize into empathy, their emotions will be shallow compared with others, being sociable with a stranger is like escape artistry its shallow , it avoids the real depth of emotions/empathy. To answer your curiosity the psychopath would mirror things but in a way that is shallow and comes across as fake. Animals have just as much empathy as humans, to think that they dont is merely a self admission of lacking it, I used to know someone who believed that cats and dogs dont have feelings they turned out to be a psychopath, being around them dumbs down the whole day because you never get to develop empathy and good things, being around that person also is seriously detrimental socially as they will constantly try to control every situation with a bad method. Animals often show far more empathy and intelligence than humans because the misinformation through language and social conditioning isnt applicable. Just to give you a bit extra "do you do good to get good in return" The good itself is reality, what is real is health, if you interpret reality correctly it is health, if you interpret health correctly it is reality. Everything is memory, everything necessarily has depth to at least 4 dimensions. Any theory that imposes something lesser to be true is a paradox. Theory is the only paradox that ever existed. Everything else is real. Its the counter punch to the naivety that thinks that psychopaths are intelligent, they absolutely are not. Their life is theory imposed onto the real world, the paradox it creates includes damage to what they cannot see. If it wasnt theory there would be no damage, there are many businesses in the world that are intelligent. There are many more that are controlled by psychopaths that constantly damage the world because there is no real intelligence behind it, its all selfish. The counter to selfishness is that it is itself a product of an egotism, egotism only exists to stabilize into a superego, it is a paradox until it becomes a superego. Psychopaths cannot realize the superego, if one does they would break the mental block that defines them as one. The self exists as one, just like a bit of tomato in a soup , the soup is not defined by the piece of tomato, the soup never exists without it being part of an atmosphere, the planet, the universe etc. The greatest way for someone to treat the self is by being selfless because the rest of the world is ALWAYS a part of the self. Selfish behaviour is part of growing up, it should never remain. The realization of the self being part of everything is the opposite process of focus, focus being the knife of thought that cuts thinking into the smallest sharpest pieces, its all worthless unless its put back together, its all theory until its back to reality. Have a good day.

@@cattycats4 Very interesting response to see simultaneously a functional, Freudian id/ego/superego view of emotions and psychopathy at the same time as the enlightened view that we are all one tomato soup so doing good for others is a correct view of 'reality' because helping others is helping one's self. I don't share your world view - I guess I'm not as enlightened - but the id/ego/superego methodology is a clever tool for examining normal and aberant behavior through different lenses.

A result, unfortunately, of the populace bring 'dumbed down' by the media, government, etc.. they've been doing that since the beginning days of television.. 🤔

I've noticed that too. He was pretending to be fun and the audience swallow it. Psychopaths are charismatic. Fun to be around - has this guy said: when they are strangers. Ted Bundy got notorious for it.

😂😂😂😂

He proved his point that he’s great with strangers

Yeah, I found the laughter weird.

@@adge4579 Seek out hobbies, social ones. Tennis, paddel, take a course in uni, join a dance club, etc. It'll rewire your brain. You're not literally empty, you've just deprived yourself of positive feelings. Do regular sports and regular walks, etc

@@adge4579 Seek out professional help. I'm a retired RN, I worked in psychiatry for some times. Your issues seem substantial, I may be wrong but I think that you need to speak to a professional. Good luck to you.

@@adge4579 you have to re-think your relationship with him and possibly need to develop a different type of relationship that will bring basic respect to you & him. From your years of living with him you have been conditioned to believe certain things and to react to things he does or says a certain way. You may need to learn to not react the way he has caused you to react in the past. In order to do this you have to watch out for "tactics" such as re-framing the conversation, arguing hypotheticals, changing the subject of or to hypotheticals, baiting you for a reaction, and "the dog whistle" which is saying something in front of others that sounds normal to those who are unaware of the personality disorder but can trigger you, making you look like the bad one. There's also the givens: deflection, gaslighting, blameshifting, playing the hero (for praise by you or others such as friends, family, neighbors), or the victim, and having a sense of entitlement believing that he should have been chosen for something by someone else that he shouldn't have. Once you can identify these behaviors you can then respond/react accordingly. The main thing you have to do is not give the reaction they are hoping for which is going to take you some time to learn to master, as well as putting space or limited contact in between you and him so you don't have to deal with the abuse or toxicity, all the while being loving, respectful, and available for your father. It takes time to develop the repositioning of yourself in the relationship but once you find the sweet spot you will be better off.

@@adge4579 Watch the videos by Dr. Les Carter, he has many of them on this subject and they’re excellent. Also can direct you to therapy.

@@adge4579 Join the subreddit CPTSD 🇺🇸

Good point. On a tangent, the way I heard it was, "When someone tells you who they are, take it wisely. When someone shows you who they are, believe them."

My housemate is such a person, and uses his act of "narcissistic-sociopathic-self absorbed" self-awareness to take people unawares, when it really comes down to it. Laughing and smiling with you, he will admit to being this way, and you may be inclined to believe (most are) that since he is just stating it so freely and openly, that he's understanding himself and taking measures to counter-balance these traits. But when you have been hurt by him, it is just "Well, I told you so...", and a smug grin.

@@WinkLinkletter why do you still live with him?

Freak!

@@shitmandood You know it, sweetheart

Do you think in God

@@Grazzmazzium Do you think in English?

What was the incident??

occult abuse initiates mostly suffer from schizophrenia, it's an esoteric science they keep secret for the sake of trafficking humans.

What’s your mental illness?

Everything is "brave" now. He's so "woke" too.

you don't know

It's a matter of defining bravery but I have to agree. My fondness for Aristotle and my assumption that he isn't afraid to share his story led me to the same conclusion as you.

No one is being brave anywhere. The word has lost all fucking meaning.

@Brown Incel huh...?

@@justanothermortal1373 Just ignore the word salad.

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I wouldn't count on them for environment references though.

Think about the same person but without a good moral upbringing and a strong scientific interest to keep him busy. If he was abused when young he could have turned out way different.

@@patrickhenry4675 yup, and this is why social care matters so much 👍

lol

You’ve got to consider the attention factor. It’s actually very not possible that his initial core incentive on going public was anything sincere; but rather based off the attention, popularity, & exposure he’d receive. Either way you’re right about him being revolutionary in ‘doing for humanity.’

@Music & Whistle msk I believe you.

@@MichaelHarrisIreland So strong! So couragous!

His friends call him a sociopath...and he admits that he is NOT a psychopath, as his score on the PCL-R isn't high enough to qualify him for the diagnosis. These are spectrum disorders, so he's likely more of a narcissistic sociopath who happens to be non-violent, and incapable of caring for anyone close to him. He's more interested in NEW people he can charm and entertain, which is why he was voted Class Clown in high school. He calls himself the life of the party...he's performing for people...like a narcissist, and pathologically self-absorbed with his own party-lifestyle that he doesn't go to the wedding and funerals, because it's all about him being the life of the party. He's more narcissistic than psychopathic.

I agree. The perceived super material growth has become trite and proven not as fruitful to anyone other than the psychopaths leading the campaign as we estimated it would be. This was inevitable. The next step for growth and expansion of human kind’s success is clearly a deeper and more communal one, which psychopaths are demonstrably incapable of delivering. You’re right, we let them have the wheel because it seemed beneficial, but in reality they just took the opportunity to gorge themselves, what else would a psychopath do? The whole “but I’m a good, beneficial psychopath!” thing has long worn it’s welcome. It’s time to start growing and evolving towards the true human experience for the collective consciousness.

Sounds like wishful thinking. 1 and 100 ppl are walking this earth. Thats a catastrophic amount of cancer

It's just another brain structure variant. I think it's wrong to call it "damaged" or "missing parts." All of living creatures are just evolved and evolving variants. What is successful, survives. What survives, reproduces and allows further evolution. There is so much variation in non-psychopath brains that to lump them together and call them "normal" is also a mistake.

@@stapes7344 Yup. 80Million of them is nothing to really just ignore willynilly hahah

​@@ajasen When you put your life savings into a fund of stocks, your expectations are those of a narrowly selfish and foolishly entitled gambler. The social harm caused by unchecked amorality in the private sector far outpaces the (net) financial benefit conferred upon beneficiaries. As a world ecology, that sort of greed is a _tragedy of the commons,_ and thus, perhaps ironically here, I have no sympathy for such defectors who are willing to try to squeeze out more than they could ever rightfully earn. Go see if you can "make" your own money. Some of us actually think that dolphins have some value. Perhaps that's beyond your conceptual capacity though, if you're governed only by a desire to own more useless stuff.

Stay away from guys like that one. They will destroy you and your menthal health.

I understand. I realized several years ago that I don’t feel the depth of emotions that some people have.

I don't think you can activate areas of the brain that are inactive due to genetic traits by mimicking the kind of behavior you'd exhibit if those areas has normal levels of activity.

It seems you don't understand what is wrong with psychopaths. They are emotionally cold, but that's not the worst part of them. They take greater risks, because negative/averse outcomes (e.g getting their finger cut) don't scare them. THUS, they will also put YOUR life in danger, and not care. And so if you die, they'll feel a slight loss, but after some months they'll find someone else.

nono, its not his way to say he cares about you... he doesnt care, he cannot do it for that reason, if you think that, you dont get narcisissts

@@paulh2981 Well, there is some truth in the value of psychopaths and sociopaths learning how to _emulate_ the emotions of the neuro-typical population -- for functionality's sake. Even better, if they can receive good therapy and learn the _personal benefits_ of fitting into society -- things running more smoothly for themselves and for society at large. They can also learn their differences, and why they behave the way they do. There are some high-functioning neuro-divergents out there.

@@alessiosandro123 I get narcissists just fine. Lord knows I've had enough of them in my life. A psychopathic narcissist like the speaker CAN care. It's just on an intellectual level instead of an emotional one. You sound like YOU don't get them, preferring demonization over understanding. Which is understandable. I'm downright allergic to people with NPD myself. They suck.

Search for the Hare Psychopathy Checklist. If memory serves, it's a 22-item survey which scores you out of 40. Anything above 30 is a sign of psychopathy, apparently. In its self-test guise, it should be used only as a guide though, of course. The test can be found on several websites, including psychology-tools.

Costly affair i imagine... I'd like to get tested, too

Yes he did❣️

too bad he is full of shit

@KahlosHack nooo, crap is crap, wake up Trump lover.

Get a DNA test. They’re cheap and they tell you if you have some of the “telltale” alleles for all sorts of fun mental disorders. Just accept the fact that your genetic information is now corporate IP

holy shit... the bullet grazed you glad u are alive

Really, I found it a tad frustrating at times. Like listening to someone stutter. I do like his comedic misdirection. Caught me off guard even tho I knew it was coming.

@@TomAHawk-lb8wk get up there and share something then sideline critic lol.

@@nathanbellamy3308 That's a false equivalent. Just because someone critiques doesn't make them a professional. Since when are we not allowed to critique???? Oh wait.

@@TomAHawk-lb8wk we could go round and round with your argument. I.e why can't I critique your critique etc ad nauseum. But at the end of the day your a modern day hater and troll under the guise of a genuine critique Get up there and show them how it's done pal.

@@TomAHawk-lb8wk It reminds me of Louis CK, superficially. Where Louis' delivery feels very rough, off-the-cuff, and "my world is crumbling", yet it's all choreographed.

We don't know her personality, or this man personally & we don't know the dynamics of their relationship. It's as likely as anything else that her parents were very old qhen they died of alzheimers so she pragmatically made a decision she'd probably die of something else first. Or perhaps she had an illness. Perhaps the family deals with grief by shutting it down or with dark humour. There an incredible amount of presumption in these comments.

Advantage to society or the self?

@@daryl9905 Definitely to the self but I could imagine if too many empathetic people were driven out of key jobs, those jobs may suffer and possibly the society as a result. I'd have no idea on the numbers but it'd be interesting to read a study on psychopaths in potentially trauma-inducing careers like paramedics or soldiers etc.

Empathy on it's own doesn't make money. CEO's can be empathetic, but only if it generates money, and i don't see problem in that, since economy is not a zero sum game. CEO's becoming rich doesn't make poor people more poor.

@@gava6636 It has in recent years though, with progressively more jobs becoming automated and the wealth divide growing wider as many of those jobs are no longer available and the majority of the money saved goes to the rich and not into the communities.

@@gava6636 CEOs without empathy = a lot of people being oppressed, taken advantage of, etc. It does create a wealth gap.

No idea whether or not there's any validity to what you're saying, but I like the way you think. Somebody should do a study.

I know this is a really old post, but I agree. I also wonder what would happen if a psychopath who was open to intense somatic therapeutic experience utilized this tool to internally place attention to the areas of the brain that are under active, with the intent to cultivate activation. I wonder if that would work. Body energy work has changed so much for me, healed me of organic inherited physiological ailments and trauma. And it didn’t take very long, maybe 2-3 years of brief daily practice. I don’t believe for one second in the imitations of genetic predisposition.

@@Misssixty510 I can already tell you neither as sociopath or psychopath would probably do any of that or feel they would benefit at all from pseudoscience.

Pretty sure that would just embolden the warrior gene since you're giving them something to fight for.

@@Misssixty510 Hi!! I realize your question is 9 months old but if you are still looking for an answer: Yes! In my personal experience somatic and vasovagal exercises helped calm down my episodes ALOT. Before that, I did yoga for 6 years and being in tune with my body was the best thing that ever happened to my brain! Highly recommend Befriending Your Nervous System by Deborah Dana LCSW. As a caveat: I hate violence as a premise and am not generally prone to violence. I have pretty intense PTSD that bleeds over into factor 2 psychopathy, so I end up with social functioning deficits and impulsive violence when thrratened as opposed to calculated violence a la factor 1 or genetic psychopathy. Overall though, between the yoga & other body based therapies along with empathy training my connection with others has gone from 0 as a child to being told regularly that I am a great friend. The other day my son who also has slight psychopathy leanings told me I was a great mom (made me cry lol). Recovery is possible. Someone just has to care about us enough to make it happen.

it's what superficial people fall for I would say

Howso?

then again, when you meet one, you know directly. Higher percentage of them are in succesful positions.

Than.

*a lot more than

Read "The Sociopath Next Door" and way back when it was published I seem to recall a number like as many as 1 in 25. But admittedly, I am still a bit confused between sociopath and psychopath. Also wondering if these terms have had their definitions altered/updated over the years.

@@marymadelynevangelista9799 sociopath = pathology of social behaviour: basically, other people will notice something is wrong about their behaviour (narcissist, OCD, ...) Psychopath: their mind is sick, but they have control...they lack 'normal' emotions: LOW EQ. However, they observe their social circle and LEARN how to behave...not because they naturally want to, but because they had to learn that's what 'normal people' do. Like a lion with its tamer...it can behave, but it has no problem snapping.

There are some sociopaths who choose not to be abusive. It's possible he's one.

Might be true for the "controls", e.g. neurotypical people. But psychopaths deserve love, too. I mean, if they respect you at least a bit. I know what you are going to tell me, that psychopathy and respect do not work together, but it´s really all about the willingness of the given psychopath to loosen up a bit in his schemes - for you. You - as their partner - have to set boundaries and be firm about it. Tell them and show them you are not going to put up with their shit. I went through this, and I have to tell you, while the romance (if I can call it "romance" because it was so weirdly unemotional) did not last, I learned that not all psychopaths are the same. Some are better than others. He treated me right, he respected me because I understood and accepted him, and he was good to me but terrible to other people. The relationship ultimatelly sank like Titanic, though, as he was emotionally cold and could not connect with anybody. Interestingly, he opened me up after my previous partner who was "normal" but a completely hateful, hurtful person (he hated gays, lesbians, kids, animals, women, people of color... I could go on and on). Funnily enough, I expected the psychopath to be this hateful, not the neurotypical guy. The neurotypical guy nearly did me in.

Their nature is not to be hateful or evil, what they do is wear a mask appropriate for whoever they talk to so they can seem like great people and get what they want (whatever it is). So yes, you could say a psychopath could treat you better than a "normal" person, but as you already experienced, they only keep tricking you into feeling they are ok people until they find a new target. Do they deserve love? I think so, but love them in a non-romantic way, just know that they will absolutely destroy you and have no remorse whatsoever if you fall into their game (which is almost impossible to escape if you haven't already been with one).

Chris Martell thank you for lending us your expert opinion.

Robin Mario I am not an expert, but 5 years of being with a psychopath and experiencing their traits and schemes, plus about three years of constant reading and research I think makes me a trustworthy resource since in the majority of cases they behave the exact same way regardless of race, gender and/or age.

Which would be a main trait of ASPD (narcissism) aka loving the attention. So long as he gains attention in a positive way, and not shooting up a school I'm cool.

@@DaymonBurnside Neither of you are correct. A NARCISSIST as in Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a pathological condition characterized by attention seeking and grandiose displays... only as a mask to hide insecurities. Psychopaths and ASPDs usually have a degree of narcissism, but it is not the main character trait at all. They don't need attention at all. They are just supremely confident, without any underlying insecurities whatsoever, and they just come across as narcissistic.

Peter Bruns that’s not true. Almost all top psychologists say that every psychopath is a narcissist, but not every narcissist is a psychopath.

@@Noles4life77 Hi Clayton. I think that most psychologists/psychiatrists with expertise in personality disorders would say every psychopath does have narcissistic CHARACTER TRAITS. But that doesn't mean their narcissism qualifies as a disorder, such as someone with NPD. I think that's where people get confused. To be diagnosed as NPD, you have to meet at least 5 out of 9 character traits, and NPDs narcissism stems from very low self esteem and feelings of shame and guilt. The narcissism in NPDs is a cover therefore for their poor upbringing and abuse, and their main motivation is to be the center of attention. Psychopaths however cannot be NPD, because their inability to feel remorse, empathy, fear, and guilt prevents them from ever getting NPD. Their brains are wired differently. Psychopaths are narcissistic in the sense that their main motivation is to serve themselves and not others, and because they are genuinely confident and take control of social situations. But they can care less whether or not they are the center of attention. If you insult or ignore a psychopath, they will laugh and walk away, or maybe insult you worse, but they really don't care. An NPD however goes crazy and will throw tantrums and devalue other people... that's why NPD is a disorder in itself.

@@peterbruns6124 while you're correct that aspd dont care for attention, nor do they care about anything narracistic traits are so overwhelming and often covert in high functioning aspd that they could easily fit the criteria of NPD if they were not overly malignant in nature. Remember the covert narracistic sociopath that shoots up a school and tell me again, how he doesn't crave attention... You're trying too hard to be right.. and you're sticking far to hard to the DSM, which his the problem with the mental health system in general... Everyone is on a scale.... If you're aware of the covert element to high functioning aspd you'd understand why it's foolish to assume that aspd don't have npd on some scale... also ASPD like psychopaths can feel emotion. That's becoming the consensus. So behaviours like devaluation and splitting can happen to people who are very close with the PWASPD.. So if you can understand this, you can understand how complex cases can have cormorbid aspd and npd Because you can't tell the difference on paper.. you need to get to know the individual.

What do you mean by love?

Im autistic & the pandemic was a great relief for me. Unburdened me from all the crushing obligation of seeing friends & family. Best time of my life.

@@aussiejubes believe me, psychopaths are nothing like autistic people. Although they do impersonate well autism.

@Ronnie Sal I would never have said they're the same. If anything I've found that taking a select few leaves from the book of sociopathy protects autistics from a lot of the using & abusing we accidentally line ourselves for.

@@aussiejubes I agree with you in that. Perhaps, sadly we all need to learn something from psychopaths. Since they are the only people who do not suffer their illness but actually make others suffer. I don't mean qe should make others suffer, but also we should not suffer for what we are, while others get away with it!