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My Grandfather told me..."when a man sees you doing too much he'll sit down and do nothing"... I didn't listen so now I've had to hire an attorney to get my do- nothing ex out of my house...please learn the lesson ladies!!!

You can’t turn a dusty into a husband.

"Men don't think like women and we don't want them to." Damn. That sat me down.

Men who you have to argue with in public are not men that you must associate with.

Stop cursing and being loud in public!

Men truly don’t know what to do when you walk away and respond to them with silence. Hit him right in the ego

My great aunt used to always say, "Never buy a man a pair of shoes, because he will use those same shoes to walk off & leave you." She was huge in teaching all of the girls in our family hypergamy. She was old school, so she would just refer to it as being "ladylike." I appreciate all she taught us.

Stop asking men to hang out/on dates. Let them ask you. Dont tell them your whole life story and schedule. Let them ask. Keep your mystery sexy.

Yes, if he talk badly about the ex. Run 🏃‍♀️

Ladies stop buying love 🤞🏽 Any man who expects to be taken care of like a woman in a relationship is acting like the prize.

Half of the time you are jealous of a whole facade of another woman

This video is pure gold. Tip #9: Stop judging yourself for what you didn't know. That tip hit harder than a dusty finding out his pick me left him because she's been watching Chloe's channel! Ladies, say it with me "I didn't know! It's going to be ok because I know now!" Let's teach our younger women, please!

It's true! I'm too easily duped by a man's compliments! I was ignored as a child so any kind of attention feels like real love. But I refuse to get played anymore!!

Stop trying to rescue everyone. Yes to that. Stop rescuing family members too!

BW plz worry about self 2020 and beyond. It's OK to be selfish. Travel,find fun hobbies, get fit and explore other cultures. Live your life. You only have one.

Don't let the term 'wife material' keep you in pickme hell and have you lowering your standards to below the earth crust ladies. Cheers to FEMININE 2020 ladies!🍹

She's right, men aren't as appreciative as we think they should be when we "provide"

“Stop expecting your friends to be happy for your glow up” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Walking away is the art I just mastered. He 'loved me' but didn't have anything for me. ✌🏽🤯😤

In 2020, we letting non-beneficial friendships expire in PEACE. Unfollow your “friend” who you’ve known since highshool sis, y’all don’t talk anyway. Stop letting people who don’t care for you have access to you. In 2020, I’m choosing ME and everything that SERVES me. Nothing else.

"Stop bragging about your accomplishments!" This is 100% right on! A good healthy masculine man is not impressed by your degrees, your house, your car, etc. That stuff is for YOU! And that is fine. Just don't lead with it expecting it to somehow "impress" a man. Men are to impress US, not the other way around! The skill of walking away AND the skill of being PATIENT for the man you want, period! No more fixing and repairing broken men.

I wish every woman on this channel a healthy and hypergamous Happy New Year! 💃🏽

Another tip in my experience- men see how great you are or will be, and use reverse psychology by telling you "you are not good enough.... You ain't shit... You're not even that pretty..." To break you down to get a way in because they would never stand a chance other wise. So they bring you down to their level. This is not a man!!!!

I'm still trying to figure out who is giving men money? Especially when bills and children are expensive af....if you're asking me for money there is a problem. You don't respect me or my child...those are my sentiments.

The chasing men part is something a lot of women in my generation(I’m 20) need to know. It works against us always. Even if you do get the man after chasing him he’s always gonna see you a certain way. Never do anything that’s gonna stroke a man’s ego in a way that makes you look like a fan or a groupie. Men rarely appreciate compliments and attention, it’s all thirst in their eyes

Ohh yes baby, me and my bestie are in heels and dresses dining in Central London already 💅

Cutting other people off. Use your ears and listen. Listen to learn not always respond. Listening will help show you how to handle people who are not worthy of your energy.

Don't even think about proposing..you've gone too far.

Cursing/Using Profanity, Raising my voice, and arguing are things I'm trying to stop doing altogether. The guys that are around me always say they like girls with a "lil ratchet in them". The kind that have attitude and will curse them out. And I genuinely don't think I have it in me. Oh well 😂

we going ✈️ full on feminine in 2020! thanks chloe!

Ladies, the money they “save” on you is money they are willing to spend on someone else when they are exploring their options while keeping you in the wings.

This video was so perfect! I think black women need to STOP acting a fool on social media. We do not need to address everyone that comes for us, because at this point it seems as though a lot of these sicko are triggering us on purpose to get our attention.

#4 & #1 is soooo important!!!! Love & hip hop is an extremely toxic show. If you continue watching that you put it into your subconscious! Learn to love yourself! I'm starting to peep how my female friends throw shade at me or try to talk about me around other men. I just laugh it off. It's just their insecurities projecting out 😌💅🏾

"Master the Art of Walking Away" Thats A gift/blessing every woman should have.♥️

The best way to successfully build a new habit is to set small and achievable goals in the beginning. For ex. If you want to start a workout regimen in 2020, schedule a day & time to workout when you have consistently been free. It's the small goals that helps you achieve BIG goals! 🥂✨

Stop the masculine madness ladies of trying to be a man's "homie". It doesn't look good at all.😟

#9 Is speaking to me. I didn’t have anyone to teach me how to deal with men and how to properly choose a mate. I’ve made mistakes that I do regret. I’m learning not to be so hard on myself. I’m accepting my mistakes as learning experiences instead of faults. I have the knowledge and I will do better. I’m leaving the past in the past, looking towards a better future in 2020 and beyond.

Guilty of beating up myself about not knowing what I know now. But better now than never.

Chloe I’ve been telling Men “I don’t touch Doors or Money” ha when I say since I’m in this mindset I’ve been going on the best dates and getting expensive gifts it’s so true! Ladies we determine our worth! #2020Vision

Stop being a doormat to a man that doesn't want a committed relationship with you but wants to hang out with you. Still don't understand this one! Chloe, maybe you can clear this one up for me! I love your videos!

Don’t argue with men in public OR social media...also, Don’t fight someone else’s battle

I am a young man watching this, and i must say chloe i am impressed. Continue to educate our sisters on the power of their Feminity and what it means to truly be a woman of value.

Long ago, when we were kids, my boyfriend was broke and asked me to borrow $5. I got angry and pissed off instantly and told him no. I just had the instinct that this isn't right.

Thank you for touching on women focusing too much on other women and being competitive. What's for you is for YOU!

Another one I heard is never give a man unsolicited advice

Oh Chloe, you are the hero we needed. I've said this before, but your advice is not just for single women. Even after women are married, maybe even more so, we need to hear advice like this. Society is always trying to turn us more masculine and we need these reminders. And now there is so much focus on gender neutrality and abandoning the idea of man/woman roles. This advice is needed for women in every stage of life. After all, it's not just about finding a good man but keeping your relationship alive. Thank you!

Stop trying to tell a man what he needs to do. So many times we meet dusties and we waste a lot of time directing him in how to be successful in his family life and the work force.

Absolutely Chloe! ✅ Learn to invest in your looks, hopes and dreams, instead of bitterness and resentment, which leads to a dead end. Stop thinking men and women think alike because we are wired completely different. 🙌🏽

I definitely beat myself up about my mistakes with my first bf, a dusty. I gave him everything and it was such a waste. I felt worthless. Ladies, don't think that a bad relationship defines you, you mean much more than that.

I repeat STOP GIVING MEN MONEY!!!!

Ladies, don't be hard on yourself. Learn from it and use it. Don't feel bad. We are learning and doing. And don't be fair be kind to yourself. Others are not fair to life and others they think deserve ill-treatment.

“Self elevation is triggering for those are fearful of being left behind”. ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️ I KID YOU NOT; I am moving from Ohio to Georgia in March so that I can continue my level up journey in peace. I’m becoming a realtor so that it will force me to become even more feminine and social (I’m shy, so I need to courage to meet more people). It was really eye opening to see how many people were afraid of being left behind. And honestly the ones who are afraid of being left behind are the ones who know that I will permanently be unavailable to a mule or work horse for. Since finding this channel and Chrissie’s channel, I’ve been setting boundaries and I no longer stretch myself thin for anyone, including family members. I’ve also learned to move in silence because there are so many people that want to sabotage me so that I don’t move!!!!! But listen, come all hell and high water, I AM MOVING AWAY!!!!!

If a dude argues with just start crying, pull out ur camera and say u feel unsafe and go to the nearest male and ask for help. Give em the white girl treatment

Don't cook or clean for men.

Can’t lie, Chloe came and saved a good part of 2019🙏🏽

I’ve learned that a lot of things are a skillset. Communication, confidence, attractiveness, letting go, happiness are all skills. You can’t just be it. Just like trying paint or play piano you have to practice. Baby steps are still steps and the consistency matters more than anything.

The year 2020 is time for my ultimate feminine GLOW UP!

Going into 2020 with a mindset of gold. Ladies!! Let's get it together

Another thing I see a lot in women is getting too drunk. Getting hammered and acting stupid and hooking up is masculine in my opinion and totally unbecoming as a feminine woman.

My vision board will consist of these 12 rules

This is the best advice I’ve gotten in my LIFE and I’m 46!!!! You are God sent and I thank God for you being a powerful vessel to help women like myself who truly didn’t know the very core of our divine worth ❤️🔥🔥🔥

yes agreed stop making "your dusty a king!!" yes I lost A lot. I had to learn this lesson the hard way. I felt like I was raising a boy into man. so stressful.

Femininity all 2020. 2019 I for sure learned some lessons.

May all of you ladies find an amazing man this coming year! May he make you genuinely happy , may you have excitement, butterflies, and most importantly security! You all deserve it and don’t settle for anything or any dusty ! YOU ARE THE PRIZE 💁🏾‍♀️💎

Learning to forgive myself for what I didn't know, for everything I never learned growing up, and for making so so many mistakes in my life. Thank you for the advice Chloe. Many of us don't have the mother, auntie, big sis, and/or grandma and etc, to teach us how to be feminine women.

Chloe you are a Godsend sis 😘 Wishing you and all of the beautiful ladies on here a year of Abundance 🎉

I would say leave the overly used proclamation of "being an independent woman" to rest. Fact of the matter is, even IF a woman is or becomes independent, there is no need to flex...keep and use the independent spirit for your own self progression, not to prove a point to him. Just give and show the feminine expectations and mannerisms towards him.

Please listen to Chloe. I still listen to her even though I got married in October. I must say again best channel on KZfaq.

Thank you so much Chloe. Since i found your channel this year, I am taking steps to becoming more feminine and high value woman. It is so rewarding to lean back and enjoy the attention of the opposite sex. Wishing you a blessed 2020. God bless you.

first time hearing this in 2023 it is STILL VERY POWERFUL. MY HEART IS BEATING AND MY BODY IS SHAKING. a deep processing.

I’m 19 & my boyfriend is 20 , he is everything I could ever ask for , he wants to provide for me, is loyal, and he makes me his priority No man is perfect but he’s a trying man.. On Christmas he just proposed to me, we’re not rushing to the alter but he just wanted to make that step in our relationship. I know we’re young but I know I’m not making a mistake & I couldn’t be happier.

Stop saying yes to sex when you know in your heart you do not want to do it. Stop being a people pleaser. In the end you will just feel used. It is not a good feeling. Don’t do that to yourself.

“Don’t invest in your own demise.” I like that 👍🏻😍

Preach Ms. Chloe!!! I love your energy and your wisdom. I'm 51 and I'm pretty sure you are youger than, me but I'm very open minded and know for a fact that you can learn from anybody. Keep doing what you are doing!!!! #2020vision

Thanks for this chloe. Im very guilty of trying to rescue dysfunctional family members and friends and i've finally started to put myself first. Happy new year and thanks for all you are doing

Happy New Year ladies 🥂💫 cheers to clear vision in 2020!

I've learned so much and still evolving towards being an all around feminine woman.

2019 will forever be remembered as the year I discovered hypergamy. I feel big changes in 2020 because I’m making moves to make it happen. Thank you Chloe. 😊

Thank you Chloe! I really needed to hear "stop expecting your friends to be happy for your glow up." I've been on a glow up journey for the past few years (major weight loss, career level up, and most recently femininity). Upon reflection, I'm realizing I've been learning this lesson the hard way. I used to always be the sad fat friend who thought she was ugly and I was ALWAYS available to carry the emotional burdens of others and over the last 3 years I've really set some boundaries with my friends as I've transformed, and although they've been "supportive" I've never really just felt like they were behind me 100%. I recently told some close friends about wanting to be more feminine and they scoffed at me and told me I was feminine enough, the same way when I told them years ago that I wanted to lose weight they would tell me I was beautiful just the way I was (I was almost 300 pounds and dealing with weight related health issues at the time), and then they would invite me to eat terrible or order in pizza. Throughout, my weight loss they have ALWAYS been the ones encouraging me to treat myself with food and telling me "one meal won't hurt." I've lost a great deal, but I have had set backs and oftentimes they were part of me making a decision to eat poorly. I don't think they were maliciously sabotaging me, but I do think subconsciously they were, mostly because they didn't want things to change. They have admitted it's been hard for them to watch my body and my mind change and i'm really not angry with them, because honestly they're not terrible people. They're just human and I changed the structure of our relationship when I decided to change. Plus, this entire experience has really taught me the power of "No" and for that I'm grateful, but I can see now that my next level up can happen quicker if I just cut out all of the noise and draw some more boundaries with my friends! Mind your full business in 2020 ladies!

Great video. Another thing to leave behind is anyone that you have to chase to convince of your worth, that goes for friends, family and love interest. Also, get off social media with your plans and learn to just shut up. Lets also abandon negative self talk/talk in general and self-limiting beliefs. Happy 2020 ladies, I see a great upcoming year full of positive change and opportunities for black women.

Please know that there is a difference between a man who does not actively look for a woman's accomplishments ( like women do to men) and those who are turned off or scared by them. There is a difference, and knowing that will save you a world of hurt. Never diminish your shine. Anyone asking you to do so does not love nor respect you. Men who are looking for women to be less or have less than them will actively ask you what you do, how many degrees you have, your salary, and other indicators of such success. A man that really doesn't care won't ask. If and when it comes up eventually he will be proud of you for your accomplishments and logistically understand that you probably have positive qualities that led to such success like intelligence, discipline, and discretion ( all positive healthy traits that everyone should have). A true protector and provider does not see competition in everything, only dusties. Your ability to be wealthy has nothing to do with his ability to be wealthy, he will provide for you regardless because that is what a provider does.

2019 has been a year of self discovery and self awareness for me and this channel has helped in elevating myself to the next level 😊 I cannot wait for 2020 and all that it has to offer 😁 All the way from South Africa I say thank you for the wisdom Chloe and keep up the good work ❤️

I have to learn how to say NO. I also have to find forgiveness in my heart for myself. I DIDN'T KNOW, no one taught me.

OMG! Where have you been all my life? I am 52 and I KNOW I am a high value female. But I haven't been vetting men correctly. Especially after the baggage of having my husband leave me for another woman 10 years ago. I am watching all your videos and learning a lot. I KNOW my Mr. Right is out there. Your videos are inspirational and motivating. Thank you!

Thank you so much for this platform. Educating women and deprogramming the negative mind sets.

Love this and I also think for those who are heavy into spirituality, Keep GOD first and seek HIM daily!

If you decide to ever get back with an ex, make sure his life is in order and he proves the change with evidence. You don't have to go back to an ex because the pickings are slim. Waiting is so hard, but being with a broke dusty from the past is even worst. Thank you for your channel. It helps me to know I've grown so much. Make the change from being stupid to understanding your worth is amazing. It's lonely to start. But I rather be lonely sometimes than to be broken and lonely with someone. So womanly is me!!!

Yasssss CHOLE 2020 time to level up loose this weight n get ourselves together looking feminine n feeling feminine . I love ❤️ this channel wish I had this when I was younger

I totally agree with everything you’ve have said. Also ladies in 2020 please for the love of Christ please stop using the cell phone on speaker to have full-blown conversation in public, it’s rude and low class😡😡

Also please STOP calling traditional feminine women who actually want husbands and NOT baby daddies “pick mes.” Y’all got the ish twisted. Y’all are so used to being pick-mes for simps, betas, & dusties, that when a woman talks about doing wife things for a husband, it confuses you. Just stop it.

I just come back here every NYE to remind myself of what not to do. Thanks Chloe, Happy New Year to you.

I am grateful for you, you made my 2019. At least 2 of these could be used to describe but there aren’t no going back. Cheers to 2020

I'm so happy i found this channel. It has helped me recognize my worth and myself. Thank you so much chole! 🙏🏾💙

It’s really sad how our mothers and grandmothers were programmed my mother just said to my little daughter as a joke to hurry up, grow up and work and I said get a man a man is a provider who should give you things don’t put that on my daughter, and she got so upset it triggered something in her she even threatened me to never say it again! Like black woman have been thru it and it saddens me and I’m just thankful for this community is here for us to discuss this very real issue! If it wasn’t for this channel I wouldn’t be aware of this and would have went along with the same program! But with these videos relationships have made more sense and become easier!

Never knew how closely my friends were watching me until their attitudes changed when I dropped weight and started dressing unto the male gaze. Don't shrink yourself when others refuse to clap for you.... clap for ya own damn self

Chloe I absolutely love your channel a lot of women need to hear this!!! It’s just disgraceful to see how woman can slide in and out men DMs and even approach them in public. I thank God I never had that thirsty spirit on me.

Thank you Chloe for a wonderful hypergamous advisory year! I'm am ready for what you will bring for 2020. You are the best!

Lord if I could like this video a thousand times I would.. The one thing I do is beat myself up over things I wish I knew in the past that I know now.. Definitely need to work on that one.. But everything else I been started working on.. 2020 is about me, financially and spiritually.. Happy New year ladies, may it bring you all the love and success your hearts can hold!!

Another great video!!!! I’m guilty of harsh self criticism’!!! I needed this!!