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I started menopause at 53 and did it without any supplements. I fasted often. I was also very aware not to fan myself when having hot flashes - especially in the corporate environment where I worked (also with family) because of the stigma. I was told at 56 that I am getting too old to be promoted. Started my own companies at 59😊 healthy and energetic at 61 and going strong.

My wife is 49 and perimenopausal but doing all the right things to deal with it, exercise, diet, sleep, hormones. We talk about it a lot and even discussed this podcast while soaking in the tub together this evening. It is hard to know if you are doing everything you can but we talk and I do my best to support her. Guys need to step up and be more supportive and understanding. Thanks for discussing this topic.

Pretty freakin cool that a young man is doing a deep dive on an issue that touches the life of every woman in her 40's & 50's.

Had I not found these videos I would be convinced that I was dying. Heart palpitations, migraines, itchy skin, insomnia, pure rage, crying spells, the list goes on and on! I’m 43 and I literally do not recognize myself. Thank God for KZfaq… because the 800.00 a month that I pay for health insurance is absolutely USELESS! My husband needs to watch this with me. I think he thinks I’m crazy 😌

When I was going through menopause, my husband told me to "fix it" and to "stop making excuses" , that "other women" didn't experience the same things that I was experiencing. There was no compassion or empathy no matter how much I tried to explain what was happening inside of me. We are no longer married. Maybe if I told him it was the equivalent of his testicles shrinking to nothing, he would have been more receptive.

My spouse and I are separating after 25 years of marriage and 28 years together. Why? I boil it down to menopause. I helped him through a decade of Lyme Disease issues; I was his "patient advocate" to the point that doctors and I emailed each other to help with his care, from fitness, diet, and naturopath to specialists. I'm a year into menopause, and I'm "too much." It breaks my heart.

Sweating I can deal with, hot flashes I can deal with. What I can’t deal with is the paralyzing fear, anxiety, depression, and fatigue.

My wife asked me to listen to this podcast. I am glad I did. I will do what I can to be more supportive of her but I hope the medical industry does the same.

I started perimenopause at 37, then like a text book countdown I started dropping one menstrual cycle a year for ten years. 47 was apparently "early" to be fully in menopause and my doc recommended a bone scan as it could increase my risk of osteoporosis. Interestingly, my bones were strong and perfectly fine and the lady who did the scan told me she sees this in many overweight women like me, and its one of the very few advantages to being heavier. Basically, we are constantly weight lifting due to the excess body mass we carry, so our bones are stronger. Im carrying an excess of around 30lbs. Im now 52, and have suffered what I would call challenging, but not crippling symptoms. I have never felt the need to take HRT as I didnt ever feel that debilitated by menopause. I had almost every "symptom" but luckily to a lesser degree than some ladies who I know struggle terribly. I feel absolutely fabulous at 52, most symptoms have now left and Im loving this new phase. I have made a few lifestyle and nutritional changes that Im happy to share if it helps others..... Vit D daily - 4000iu Marine collagen suppliment in my morning coffee - this has had a very beneficial impact of the aches and pains for sure. Stopped using so many chemicals on my body, quit dying my hair and went silver and started making my own organic soaps as a hobby. I use the 16.8 fasting routine which has helped my gut massively. Daily serving of blueberries and apple with a good prebiotic natural yoghurt. Eat good quality meats and make a lot of bone broth and collegen based soups from organic animal joints. Grow my own veg - (I dont have a huge space but I try my best) Walk at least 30 mins a day, mostly more than that with my dog. Limit alcohol for special occasions, also watch caffine intake. Drink enough water (this makes such a difference to my mental clarity) Get a good night's sleep, have a good sleep routine (I dont have a TV in my bedroom) Dont watch the news - its always bad and depressing. Practice gratitude, count your blessings in life. Get out with friends, laugh, and certainly NEVER say "Im getting old" Most of all ladies, keep a positive mindset as much as you can, we can often talk ourselves into feeling low by our attitudes to what we are facing. Im here as proof that there is a fabulous life after menopause, its not a "decline" , its a freedom!!

When I first hit menopause, I actually gained 18 lbs and couldn't lose it for the longest time. Tried pills, vitamins, and just made things worse. Now, I'm using the Aspect Health sensor, watching my diet, keeping tabs on my hormones, and even doing a bit of exercise, even though I'm already 53 yo

My 92 year old nanny mae took HRT until she was 71 and says this is way she is still thriving and out walking every day and has all her mental faculties ✨

I am one suffering in silence. Divorced and scared to start a relationship with a great man because I'm afraid of all my menopause baggage. Thinning hair, hot flash, low libido, night sweats, brain fog etc etc etc. It is truly depressing. Great interview. Thanks for helping share the light on this.

I had only one symptom of menopause and that is my periods simply stopped. My doctor did blood tests and asked me if I wanted hormones. I said, "No". I was around 51years old. To this day, I have never had a hot flash or any other problems. I just turned 80 years old.

Who knew that the only thing worse than having a period is NOT having a period? Thank you for the interesting podcast.

As I listen to this podcast I am infuriated. For 12 years I have suffered a litany of symptoms that doctors claimed were in my head. I have been told nothing is wrong with me, that I eat too much, that I don’t exercise enough, that I had bipolar disorder. I have been dismissed by over 50 doctors. And all along I have been suffering with perimenopause. My marriage has suffered and my quality of life has been sub par. I sit here and think that if one of these doctors listened to me I could have gotten HRT and my life would be oh so different. I’m with Dr. Mary Claire Haver with this needs to change. I’m on board with this movement!

I’ve been a nurse for 12 years and she’s right…most providers are clueless on this topic, which is why I’m here listening with all of you. God bless this woman and God bless my husband for putting up with my MAN-O-pause (zero desire).

“Are we not as important as we were when we were fertile? Do our lives not matter?” THANK YOU for asking these questions! ❤

I'm a 47 year old woman and I've never cried so hard watching a podcast. All of the unnecessary confusion, pain, isolation, cruelty, it's criminal. Thank you, both of you, for raising the bar. ❤

I am not sure when my menopause started, but I think it was around the age of 44, or 45. I am now 49; I have been on HRT on and off for almost 2 years. Some of the symptoms eased, like my endless night sweats and hot flushes, but I have a plethora of other ones: aches and pains, terrible brain fog, gastrointestinal issues, bladder issues, and tiredness because I can't sleep properly. But above all, I am constantly irritable. Anything and everyone annoys me. I turned into a different person, one that I don't recognise and don't like. I feel like my old self has gone and someone else has taken over my body and my soul. I hate every single minute of menopause.

Peri menopause, menopause, and post menopause practically ruined my life

My mum started acting like a bear with a sore head and was in her late 40s at the time. My dad and i took it for as long as we could, thinking it might just be SAD (it was during the winter months) but eventually it was clear something was seriously wrong and we had to stage a kind of 'intervention' and make her go to the doctors. I'm sure she was peri-menopausal too but this was her thyroid and she was VERY deficient. There are so many things that can hit you at this time of life, like a brick. Be nice to middle aged ladies. They are probably hanging on by a thread for one reason or another.

It’s refreshing to see a show hosted by a man in his youth with this as the focal topic. I salute you.

This woman needs a humanitarian award. This information is so eye opening!

Thank you so much! My sister has been suffering for years. There is a disconnect in women's health, it doesn't feel like a priority. Let's change this. 💚🌼✌

I came here because I turned 58 yesterday. I am at the height of my misery with menopause. But instead of the symptoms diminishing, they continue to get worse. This started already 14 years ago with missed periods. Now I can’t sleep for more than three hours at a time because of the Inferno that breaks out inside when I try. I sweat so hard some nights. I change pajamas three times. Even my socks and my pillow are soaked. I have always been denied estrogenbecause I have a heart condition. But now I’m demanding it. I’m going to die from the sleep loss if something else doesn’t get me first. Please pray for me I can’t stop crying.

I gained 30 pounds, night sweats, depression, anxiety, hair loss, lack of motivation, lack of energy. nightmare scenario. doctors gave me anti depressants, and anti anxiety meds. never helped me with hormones. it ruined my life. family thought I was crazy. this should not have to happen in the 21st century.

This stuff is life-changing. I asked for help and guidance. I felt so lost and out of control. Thank you for your help. I have been a bedside nurse for 20 years. I have spent my life helping care for people yet when I needed help, no one was there for me. I cried out for help. Your videos landed on my laptop.

Im a 58 year old woman went through menopause at 54. Had no supplements for support, experienced all the symptoms including hot flushes. Had a fan at work and talked about it weather ppl wanted to hear it or not. I needed to validate myself..that im not going crazy...just doing menopause. Sooo yes...talk about it. People do support each other. Thank you both 🙏

I'm 60 and have been on HRT for 15 years. I will NEVER voluntarily go off it. I also strength train and eat a clean, high-protein diet. But without the hrt it wouldn't make much difference. Without it, I suffered every symptom on the list, on a scale of 11 out of 10. I educated myself when I was going through this and I have advocated for myself with a long line of (sometimes really ignorant) doctors. I live in fear that I will be unable to keep finding doctors willing to prescribe, or that the hormones will no longer be available- because the pharma companies by and large have stopped making them. They want us to be on a whole list of meds for each separate symptom, rather t han just one or two that ABSOLUTELY FIXED EVERYTHING. Women- and everyone who loves a woman going through this- need to kick up a fuss about this and not take no for an answer. It's life or death. Literally. Without my hrt I would have no interest in living. Go back to that hell? Never. Society DOES not value post-fertile women, so we HAVE to value ourselves.

I was offered no relief. I was made to be afraid of hormones. My own mother suffered through it and didn't take any hormones so I too thought that was best. When I told my FEMALE doctors that I was having mood swings and hot flashes they offered me psych drugs, I thankfully refused. It is disgusting how we are treated by the medical profession and by female doctors as well. Shameful

I’m married to a gynecologist and I had do advocate for myself both to him and my endocrinologist. I found myself apologizing for my moods when I could physiologically not control how my body was reacting to my environment. Finally went to a woman clinic and HRT is awesome

Reading the comments of women whose husbands aren't supporting them is heartbreaking. I'm im the THICK of perimenopause and I am blessed that by me explaining to my husband what's happening he has been extremely supportive.

I’m so thankful for this video. I turned 45 this year and peri-menopause hit me like a brick. Starting in January was my first menstrual cycle change after being like clockwork my whole life. Starting the end of February I started to bleed - then I kept bleeding. I gained like 40lbs, can’t sleep, digestion was crap, felt like crap, and quite honestly felt more mentally out of sorts. In total this year I’ve spent 9 months with no break of menstruation. By April I went in to my OB for my Pap smear with the thought they were going to check my hormones at the visit as I specifically noted on the appointment of my never ending period. During that visit they weren’t even going to do it!! I’m like, are you kidding? This is not normal and something is wrong. I forced them begrudgingly to order the labs, while being brushed off to be told “well your heading in to menopause and this is just what happens”. Such horse shit that I have to advocate for myself to get care. Wouldn’t you know it, I have extremely high estrogen (which, I know is opposite of menopause) but maybe someone else has gone through what I’m still going through. Basically to sum up my entire year: I’ve had multiple biopsies and ultrasounds, I have/had polyps in my endometrial lining of my uterus, I’ve had one procedure to have it all cleaned out, they put me on 10mg of progesterone, and all of that didn’t do crap. I’ve been in at least 5 times this year and every time they say my only option is bloody birth control or having a hysterectomy. I tried to ask them about some sort of hormone therapy or if they even checked to see if my testosterone is out of whack with the rest. I’m changing my provider in the new year since Kaiser has epically let me down. The audacity of any doctor telling me that my condition is just something I’ll have to deal with until I hit actual menopause? Bleeding every fucking day for like the next 5-10 years? Or having my uterus removed? Are you fucking kidding me? The medical profession is beyond letting us down, demand for your self ladies, don’t let them sell you on that “well it’s just apart of you getting older” b.s.

Summary: HRT, vitamin d, fasting (16:8), fibre, protein, creatine, strength training. What a great Dr and Stephen thank you for such an informative chat

I just want to cry at how badly the medical industry has failed me.😢

I’m listening to this a second time. It’s jam packed with such great information. I am 52, menopausal & so frustrated with my PCP. I have changed my diet (Mediterranean) & starting to feel better. Smoothies & healthy fats, whole grains, fresh veg & fresh fruit. And nuts! I am walking & geting fresh air & sunshine daily. Taking my vitamin D supplement. I feel like this podcast may have extended lifespan. It certainly is going to make my remaining years more fulfilling.

Just amazing that a man on a leading podcast is talking about this I absolutely love Stephen for this because I'm sure a lot of his core audience aren't very interested in this topic so it was very brave of him. As a 48 year old woman this was truly a fantastic episode for me ❤❤❤❤

The whole "Whining Woman" thing really struck a chord with me. As I hit the menopause I also started to suffer with the symptoms of a Phaeochromocytoma (an adrenal tumour) so my body no longer felt like my own. My GP definitely labelled me as a whiner, I had to have my heart almost stop from the effects of Beta blockers before anyone took me seriously. Doctors need to learn that most women know their own bodies better than them!

I'm from Germany and I found out for myself, that I've been in Perimenopause since I was 35 years old. Now I'll be 41 and have been pregnant and became a mom with 37. Had to find it all out by myself via internet. No support. Nothing. Also in Germany there is no knowledge coming from gynecologists, or whatsoever since they themselves don't study it and our health-insurances can't bill that kind of information from them. So you as a woman have to do the work. Since three years now, it finally becomes a topic. Thank you!

Women have not been a priority in this man, male world system. I have been suffering in silence for so many years. Menopause is a beast. Women need special medical health for Menopause. Mood & persnality change, Bipolar, skin itching issues, sleep, urinary issues, hot flashes, etc. The list goes on, and on. I started early 40's. Thank you for this video. I hope this conversation continues! Women matter!! ❤

After simply watching the opening moments - I want to scream thank you! Do you have any idea what it means to an aging female to see a young man such as yourself give this topic the attention it deserves? Especially after watching the women I've loved throughout my lifetime struggle without understanding or adequate support. Women have been dying (literally) waiting for this level of acknowledgement, attention, understanding and support.

It's about time this conversation was had. Women do suffer in silence. This issue is more taboo than being Republican, gay, and into S&M. So tired of women being shamed for being women. So tired of women being shamed for ageing. To the interviewer: thank you so much for being bold and brave, diving into this thought provoking topic, and asking poignant questions. To the doctor: you are a heroine ❤️.

I'm 56 and been in full menopause going on 6 years. When I was 46 I began to get round and thick. I started a structured weight lifting program and started adjusting my diet. Now I'm lean and muscular, and I'm not on any hormone therapy. I have been taking an over the counter supplement for women for over 10 years. It has reduced by hot flashes significantly. My skin is firm, no acne or blotches. Even my gynecologist is amazed I have no issues

I’ve started noticing all of these symptoms, I’m 43. This is hugely eye opening. The staying afloat theory is massive 😮

Dr. Haver: For the last couple of years, I’ve been telling my male doctors that if their testicles just dried up over night, they would also feel very ill physically & emotionally. Meno is precisely that. I’m glad you put that out there on this interview because it is 100% true!

Peri menopause was hell on earth for me. Insomnia, chronic fatigue, extreme brain fog, body aches and pains, inability to regulate my mood, anxiety attacks, suicidal thoughts to name a few. I was utterly terrified as I had no idea what was going on. It was a psychologist who said to me you are at the severe end of peri menopause. Get on HRT now. HRT has been a total game changer. I only wish I had gone on it when my symptoms started at around 46. It wasn’t until I could barely function and was ready to end it all that I went on HRT at 49. And then I felt so ignorant about not knowing what was going on in my body. Thank you so much for speaking out on this issue. One thing find quite upsetting is that it’s not just men who don’t understand or support. Some of the harshest judgement and dismissal has come from women who had an easier journey through peri menopause / menopause. Not everyone has the same experience.

I was shocked by the brutality of it ! I'm someone who usually sucks it up and says nothing, but it's the worst I've ever felt in my life. Next week, I'm asking my doctor to put me back on HRT even though I'm through it bc I never got my energy back and am experiencing a heart issue again that disappeared when I started HRT. I have also heard that women on HRT should stay on it for the rest of their lives. There is too much focus on breast cancer risk as opposed to the many positive benefits of it ! Not only does it protect your heart but it strengthens your bones. My skin was better after than it was before too. I couldn't have gotten through it without HRT. I felt so bad that the fear of breast cancer went right out the window. Everything this woman says resonates with me. I thought I had an incurable disease & that I was going insane from that burden. I had a total hysterectomy at 41, was told to take estrogen for two years and that I didn't need to worry about menopause ! Had I not watched a show on the subject I may still not know ! God bless you for sharing all you know. My daughters roll their eyes when I mention it, but I know they will still be caught off-guard by the severity of it. HRT saved my life.

I had to fight for HRT - Finally demanding a Male doctor and got the HRT that I needed. I see so many friends who think HRT is bad and they are given antidepressants - they sleep but have no energy and have weight gain. I don't know why we can't get doctors to prescribe HRT, WTF??? I have been on them for 10 years and feel great. No depression, brain fog, weight gain, or hot flashes. Plus I sleep great every night! If your doctors make you feel like HRT is bad - try another one. Women OBGYN's why aren't you helping menopausal women?????

I started at 40, but I "manned" through it with no help. At 47, I am finally out of the bad parts, but I have aged so much. I never knew menopause sucked the energy out of you. No one talks about it. I feel kinda robbed at a young age. I felt like my body started dying around me.

DYING...That's literally what I was mentally preparing myself for. Every single symptom mentioned, I have it... Back and forth to the er with dizziness, palpitations and fatigue that just appeared!!! And no one to explain why/what it's from! Every test.... Negative. From echocardiograms to brain scans!!! Negative. Never even heard of brain fog...Everyday bodyaches with very little relief from OTC's. I've been in the medical field for 30 years and over half was in an OBGYN office, yet the only thing you hear when the word menopause is mentioned is hot flashes, absolutely nothing else!!! Until this video, I felt I was losing my mind. I can't even watch it in its entirety because I get overwhelmed that there is an answer, and I keep choking up! I hope it's not to late for me as its been 2 years of misery!! Thank you for this from the bottom of my ❤️

This is one of the most amazing interviews that I have had the privilege to watch. Thank you so very much for bringing the topic of menopause to light. I am 62 and was very unfortunate to have been married for 37 years to a man that was completely insensitive to any and all health issues that I experienced. Perimenopause and menopause for me were not only a physical nightmare, but an emotional one as well. I tended to keep to myself anything that I was experiencing, as even the Doctors often labeled most issues as “unexplained” or “in your head”. I suffered decades with severe and often debilitating endometriosis until I was finally diagnosed through a laparoscopy in my 40’s, even then, my treatment options were slim and my ex-husband could have cared less as he blamed anything that I was experiencing as me either having cramps or a hot flash. I pray the generations of young women going forward are treated with more dignity and better understanding and treatment than I was.

It infuriates me that an entire generation of women weren't allowed to even consider HRT due to flawed research. When I started it a few years after menopause, multiple people told me that I needed to stop it, because it would give me cancer. So much misinformation out there, it's so sad. My GP (male, 60s) told me I should think twice because it would cause me to gain weight - no thought to me feeling insane, my depression and anxiety going through the roof, painful sex, brain fog and hot flashes, not being able to sleep and irrational rage. Thank goodness my GYN was so strong and gave me so much great information. I am so thankful to her.

I started menopause at 45. I have been fit and in good shape and health all of my life before menopause. Life has been a downhill battle since menopause, I have had every symptom that was mentioned in this program so far. I literally thought I was going crazy and everyone else thought I was making it up. Thanks for shining some light on the elephant in the room.

As a poor, low income, working class woman I have been let down by the medical community multiple times throughout my life. I’ve been uninsured the majority of my life due to lack of money. I’ve been forced to take my medical care into my own hands. I’ve been forced to educate myself and go the natural route. Low cost and free medical care doesn’t work, access to it is difficult when you don’t have a living wage income. You become invisible as a woman as you age in this nation and disregarded medically too. I’m surviving and not because I’ve gotten any tangible help. The information is out there to help with many issues but you have to want to find it and learn on your own. I have a regimen now that I’ve figured out for myself. WOMEN BECOME INVISIBLE AS THEY AGE in this nation. This is for everything! YOU must take things into your own hands. As a lower income woman, you matter even less in this society. Especially if you have no family, few friends, and a threadbare support system.

My hot flashes were so frequent and intense, I could no longer safely drive, but still my OBGYN told me “welcome” to your new life. I found another doctor fast! I am too active for patches, which fell off and have only had success with pills. I was intrigued by the mentioning of pellet implants and am calling my dr tomorrow to see if this is a safer option, thank you! So tired of being treated like the punch line of a joke.

As I was watching this, and reading the comments. I thought to myself, why hasnt anyone tried eating less? Finally, she started talking about fasting. I knew she would was say fasting. Fasting is tremendously helpful. It has helped me tremendously. Ive noticed that the less i eat and what i eat cuts down on symptoms. I've also become more gut conscious and I'm eating fermented foods/ more meat.

I am now 57. I haven’t felt the same since I went through the menopause. The hot flashes were uncomfortable but bearable…but I suffered from 2 to 3 years of terrible insomnia…crippling anxiety attacks that would happen just as I was falling asleep…a black hole of loneliness, no joy in life, brain fog….and I was teaching and felt like I was too busy to look after myself. I didn’t talk to my husband about the depression and loneliness because I didn’t want to worry him…and I knew it was because of hormone changes and would pass…if I could ride it out. My sympathies with anyone struggling with peri menopause/menopause.

I’m 54 and just about one year ago I looked for a new obgyn because the one I had before didn’t listen and didn’t help with all my struggles with menopause. My new doctor prescribed me HRT and my life has changed dramatically for the better. It’s absolutely frustrating the amount of doctors who know nothing about menopause and who gaslight women about it’s symptoms. Enough is enough. Amazing interview, thanks!!

I've dealt with depression for over 30 years. My depression got worse a few years ago (I'm 49). When I talked to my gyno about menopause she said that they don't even test hormones anymore. I asked what they do and she said we do nothing. Now im experiencing other troubling issues like brain fog, fatigue, weakness, exercise intolerance, etc. I'm so glad to not feel like I'm crazy. My doctor said she thinks o need to go to a neurologist. It would be hilarious, and horrible, if it's all just menopause. My partner is very supportive, thankfully.

She had me crying twice. My heart hurts for every single woman that has reached that part of her life, especially my mom. My mother has told me multiple times she just wants to die, and after watching this, I am sickened by what I said in response to her. After watching this, I feel like my moms body has been falling apart. She was tall, skinny, perfect skin. She would turn heads. And she is still that beautiful only her confidence has taken a hit because of the brain fog and she can never get comfortable or sleep bc of hot flashes. Plus her fucking husband makes her feel ashamed about her weight even though she is the same size as when he met her a decade ago. And now that the time has come and her eggs are spent, instead of celebrating how much of an important goddess she is, she feels like she doesn't matter at all. It's like we go from fertile and worthy to infertile and worthless. And to know that every single female born on this earth will one day wake up to such a fucked up realisation with no real forewarning. Menopause is something we all pretend to sympathise with and never know the truth until half of us hit it. I do really hope this life is just a simulation because what the actual fuck

Menopause was DEVASTATING for me. You’re SO right - NO ONE talks about it!

As a 34 year old woman going through peri-menopause (brought on early due to chemotherapy 10 years ago) I appreciate this so much. This year has been the hardest of my life and every day is a fight against my own mind to just stay alive. Thank you for seeing the importance of this EXTREMELY necessary conversation. It literally saves lives to talk about it

I started perimenopause @ 36 4 months after I stopped breastfeeding my 22mth old. I literally thought I was going crazy!! So glad that the medical community is realizing it's more than just hot flashes. This conversation is needed along with research and hopefully real solutions.

All the younger women I have talked to, do not understand menopause. They think its just about your periods ending and hot sweats and then that's it! Scary how little we know about our own health! I didn't know either until I started going through it and did some research and watching this doctor

Yeah, I personally felt like used up, damaged goods after menopause. I felt like I had lost what made me a woman and, like I was no longer valued in our society. I became invisible. The worst part was that no one ever prepared me about the emotional impact of menopause. No one from my generation had any idea what to expect.

So pleased people are speaking out about menopause, I literally thought I was losing my mind.

Finally i feel like someone cares. I am 39 years old and i did have a thick full head of hair 2 years ago and it is half gone! Cognitive problems, very nauseous befor period and very painful ovaries and many more symptoms. If this helps someone because any doctor said that you're too young, no you're not.

Wow. I'm 56 and officially post, but I'm experiencing so many of these issues. I had no clue frozen shoulder was related. That was the most painful 18 months of my life. Now, the UTI peeing all the time, hot flashes, vertigo, anxiety, weight gain, etc. Not once has my GYN offered any testing.

I "muscled" through 2 yrs of symptoms before deciding to ask for HRT. 7 months after started and about 60-70% of my symptoms gone, I switched insurance companies. Saw a female doctor who said "I don't practice medicine like that" when I told her I still wanted medicine regardless of the "risks" she was so concerned about. It was insane to hear. Her comments made me feel like I was asking for euthanasia and her "beliefs" were to save me by lengthening my life. I told her I choose quality over quantity. Anyway, I ended up getting a second opinion and will continue my HRT treatment. Doctors are NOT listening to patients. Advocating for ourselves is an uphill battle. Thanks so much for this video!❤

At 51 I literally thought I was going insane----couldn't sleep. Hot flashes woke me up constantly, anxiety, strange sensations in my body, and I was exhausted so I couldn't exercise. My mental health began to deteriorate. Could barely hold down my job working in healthcare....it was all so insidious and weird. I felt so scared that it would be the rest of my life. After about a year of suffering, my gyno finally convinced me to go on HRT. It has been miraculous!! It infuriates me that there are so many jokes in our culture about women going through this time in life---particularly about hot flashes. It is such a disturbing feeling and not funny at all.

“Strength over skinny.” I needed that. Thank you! ♥️

I'm Canadian, in Canada, and this issue needs to be front and center. Politicians and reporters talk about our aging population... Maybe we women would be willing participants in many more workplaces for many more years if our health got addressed properly. If men personally experienced women's issues themselves it would be an entirely different planet.... May the settler's colonial patriarchy be schooled by you...

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🥹 Every word of what she said is true. It’s a disgrace how the medical community has let down women. Our men are leaving us because of these issues. We are suffering in silence. Mental, physically . 🙏🏾

A huge THANK YOU to this young man for not shying away from this conversation! Thank you for discussing this topic! You really have no idea how much this means to your female viewers!

Just heard you for the first time time on the Mel Robbins pod and I’m so grateful to have found you and this episode on menopause. Thank you so much for doing a show about this. ❤

The instant stabbing pains, shoulder neck, teeth clenching tension, and crawling itchy skin is debilitating 😢😢

We are being lied to about everything. Everyone has their own opinions on certain things. Best way to navigate life is to be aware of everything and to use your own discernment. Different strokes for different folks.

I'm in tears. My mother died of breast cancer and I have been terrified of HRT for this reason. My meno smptoms are all over the place. Still have not passed the one year no period mark. I've blamed myself for my weight gain, depression, mood swings since the pandemic. My first call after the holidays will be to find a provider who specializes in menopause.

Menopause has really challenged my life. My partner refused to understand...I was told it's all in my head and I need to have my head sorted, even though I asked him to educate himself. I had to go onto anti depressive, anxiety meds, sleeping tablets etc. To add to that I had 2 years of hell with a frozen shoulder resulting in an operation. I had all the other symptoms i.e. memory loss... which is probably the worst and most frustrating. I have been on HRTs and I am so much better and will not stop until I'm over this shit. The sad thing in South Africa I have a comprehensive Medical aid which is very costly....HOWEVER my HRTs are not covered by my medical aid, as it is not recognised as a medical condition. So sad. I wish I had heard this discussion 5 years ago. Great Discussion.... Thank you.

I underwent a hysterectomy and oophorectomy at age 23 --- in retrospect, entirely unnecessary. No words can describe how it changed my life or how hard I’ve had to work to remain healthy. Years later, I’m a retired RN, an avid cyclist, and to all observers a very fit woman, but behind all that, I continue to live with the fallout from lifetime with no testosterone or progesterone and very little estrogen. I’m grateful that for women younger than me, while still inadequate, education and health care have vastly improved.

Suzanne Somers did more for women's health, than the entire establishment . God bless her soul.

I really liked when she said "it maybe contributing to increase of divorce rate but in a good way". My thought exactly! I thank the universe for having these 5 years of menopause symptoms that no doctor associated with menopause (still mad at the doctors). I was able to confirm that I was living with a very bad partner who did not care for me at all. Just separated 4 months ago and now taking care of my menaupose.

Oh my gosh I think I shook my head 10,000 times during this video. I am sharing this with every friend and family member that I know!

This is a great interview. I’m 44 I am going through perimenopause. Just shared this video with all my gfs. I have frozen shoulder, experienced utis only in my 40s but not in 20s out of the blue, dryness and omg constant fatigue. Taking some supplements that increase estrogen which has immensely helped and I’ve been sharing that as well. I’m thankful for social media with information that has helped me so much. Drs only treat the symptoms but not what causes it, not enough drs aware of what happens to women’s bodies during perimenopause so they just can’t help. So true about the WW - people just boil it down to us whining … but honestly my body is breaking down and knowing there’s all these symptoms is good to know.

I go diagnosed as perimenopausal at the age of 36. Here are my symptoms (which might be helpful for some) erratic periods (start early, start late, skipped). Anxiety, heart palpitations, mood swings (one day feeling really low, another day feeling fine, quick to snap, irritable), hot flashes, cold flashes, night sweats, waking up randomly at 3am, itchy skin - including in the ear canals, weight gain around the stomach area, hand tingling, joints and muscle aches, low sex drive, hair growth around chin, neck and upper lip, white noise/ringing in ears, dry or watery eyes, fatigue, insomnia, headaches, migraines, brain fog, forgetfulness, constipation and diarrhea. HRT is optional - but you should take it if your symptoms are debilitating or you’re self destructive.

I hit post-menopause at age 39- Im 41 now. I missed my pre menopause stage as far as knowing that’s what was happening to me because no doctors would check my hormones - they refused to believe it was hormone related at my age. I was told my brain fog and feeling hot (like I was going to pass out) was just me having anxiety. Thanks to them I almost lost all bone density in my left leg and I got lost trying to find my way home one day. Oh and one summer I felt like I was having a stroke episode which prompted me to finally demand testing. I suffered for four years before I was able to get someone to listen to me. I would write. A book if I told you the thing va my body went through. It was pure misery- I told my doctor that I didn’t want to live anymore because I had no quality fo life. I was mocked by nurses and doctors when I would describe my symptoms. It was horrible. Four years of misery that I can’t get back. I could have just been on the estrogen and progesterone and be doing fine. I feel great now with it. If I miss a day or two I will feel it almost instantly. The medication literally keeps my body in line. People need to stop diagnosing females as mentally unstable every time we have a concern.

❤First of all, Thank you for hosting an episode just like this. Just so happens today, I am home with a second cycle in less than 20 days. I have been online all day trying to find any answers. Thank you so so much!

Thank you for sharing. I have saved this podcast and have shared it with others too, especially my husband as we're both clueless and I'm perimenopausal at 56! I'm sorry for your loss Dr Haver. Thank you for serving women everywhere! 😍

As a man who knows a lot about hormones. this is GOLD. everyone, and I mean EVERYONE over the age of 30 should listen to this doctor and watch it a few times.

I'm 63 and i've been doing intermittent fasting, 18-6- 4 days/week. Lowered carbs, quit sugar and up protein and fiber and good fats changed everything. No brain fog, more energy, many inflammatory issues gone, and lost 40 pounds. It was too late for me to take HRT (60 yo when I inquired), I knew nutrition and supplementation would help. Thank you for caring for the "forgotten" no more fertile women!

Shared this with so many friends. She explains it so well. Thanks for focusing on this issue that affects so many of us

So glad that someone is talking about these issues! This is a great service to us all.

I’m almost 41 and feel totally different to how I did 2 years ago. I don’t recognise myself, wake up early hours, skin changes, joint bursitis after intense exercise, sore feet, fatigue, lack of desire to do anything, heavier/weight gain, irritability, paranoia, anxiety all of which worsen in the days leading to a period. I don’t feel youthful like I did, I don’t have the same energy and light that I did. It’s hard and it’s emotional.

I went into menopause at 44, I'm 61 now. Went to my doc, they did a test, I was told I'm in menopause & that was it. No info, counselling, discussion about the effects, nada. Didn't even discuss HRT, which I didn't even know was a thing until years later. I've suffered mental health problems my entire life & I can say that menopause does make it worse, at times. It's like a freaking rollercoaster!

Best show yet. I had a hysterectomy at 18 and it really messed up my life in literally every area. So when I hear anything about menopause, I pay attention. But this? I now have information I’d never heard before. This one’s a keeper! Thanks again.

What I don't understand is why people say refer to your 'doctor' when it come to nutrition when that's not there expertise???.......they leave out nutrition on purpose because nutrition compete with some drugs.

00:00 🌡 85% of women experience menopausal symptoms, but only 10.5% receive treatment. 01:12 💪 Strength training can help counteract muscle mass loss during menopause. 08:24 🔄 Perimenopause can start 7-10 years before menopause, affecting women in their 30s. 21:49 💔 Menopause can increase the risk of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and various health issues. 22:28 💪 Frozen shoulder is common during menopause and may take about 2 years of therapy to improve due to estrogen level drops. 24:05 🌼 Starting hormone replacement therapy (HRT) during perimenopause or within 10 years of menopause reduces diabetes, cardiovascular disease, and dementia risks. 30:07 💔 Menopause research is underfunded, leaving 1.2 billion women with inadequate support. 36:22 🥦 A diet rich in fiber, vitamin D, and magnesium can reduce inflammation during menopause; fasting may benefit inflammation and neuroinflammation. 45:10 💔 Hip fractures during menopause can lead to severe consequences, but preventive measures can help. 46:05 🩺 The Women's Health Initiative study initially suggested hormone replacement therapy might increase breast cancer risk, but it's been reevaluated. 50:54 💊 Hormone replacement therapy can include various forms like gels, creams, patches, and pills, with different considerations for each. 01:05:16 🩺 Menopausal women are often prescribed antidepressants over hormone therapy due to medical training and unfounded fears. 01:05:59 🧘 Meditation apps can help alleviate mental side effects of menopause. 01:07:21 😴 Sleep disruption is significant during perimenopause and menopause, affecting overall health.

Im a 58 year old woman, Ive been post menopausal for over 10 years. I went in to full blown menopause just before my daughter turned 3 years old. We had no problem conceiving…it was pretty shocking. I was on hormone replacement therapy for many years…no regrets! I have some good news…my libido has literally never been higher and Ive Always been a very sexual person! Just wanted to share.

Talking about it alone is comforting. It’s so different for everybody so being compassionate is helpful.