The No Contact Trap | She Wants You to Reach Out First or She's Stubborn

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The No Contact Trap | She Wants You to Reach Out First or She's Stubborn

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In this video I discuss The No Contact Trap, where a girl says she wants you to reach out first and be more loving and attentive. This will cause a lot of men to break no contact and submit to a woman. You should never do this.
A lot of people say that women are also being taught no contact as well. This doesn't work the same way. Women are unable to go no contact for when their emotions are activated and they start to feel anxiety. A woman can only go no contact when she doesn't care about a man, in which case it's not no contact it's simply moving on.
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@infinteuniverse Жыл бұрын

Golden rules: be slightly less available than what she wants; let her do most of the contacting after the initial dating phase, mirror her effort, try to remain centered, be willing to walk away. That's all you really need to know.

@yxng_metro Жыл бұрын

Hello, I know this is random but I'm having a bit of trouble. I was planning to return the dog to her house. I've already talked about it on her parents. I was planning to give the dog 2 weeks from now because I've just started no contact on her or just let her come to me. But the problem is on the second choice. She doesn't want the dog either. Tips?

@justinc2625 9 ай бұрын

All good words, Executing this plan is rather hard with a woman you really like. with the ones you don't like much it's easy

@clevergamer6704 Ай бұрын

there are no rules in dating....

@KoKoNAAT 2 жыл бұрын

The Life of a man is hard.

@aymenbouzayen6223 2 жыл бұрын

You only make it hard by taking them seriously... take it easy and their lives will be hard...

@Hamzak786 2 жыл бұрын

Very hard at times tbh..

@Matlockization 2 жыл бұрын

You don't have to take things so seriously.

@airlebron7467 2 жыл бұрын

If you take everything seriously then ya. Easier said then done. I slip sometimes and get too serious .

@fx4147 Жыл бұрын

Hard life makes us strong

@JamesGreenier 2 жыл бұрын

My favorite word… “No.”

@GordonPavilion 2 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@Jay_88_ 2 жыл бұрын

Simple and profound

@thedetective9522 2 жыл бұрын

Is 'No' your favorite word ?

@JamesGreenier 2 жыл бұрын

@@thedetective9522 In situations that do not benefit me.

@blair5475 Жыл бұрын

@VNB Slash wow

@timmbue9783 2 жыл бұрын

Brother, No matter how lost and confused I feel, no one can ever deny that Watching and listening to you, makes one feel so good and in control again...This man should be protected!!!! bless you bro... Your fan from Cameroon 🇨🇲 Africa*

@njikings4690 2 жыл бұрын

I feel you bro...camer bro here 🇨🇲

@lopezotoole631 2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

@timmbue9783 2 жыл бұрын

@@njikings4690 🤝

@maxtechmax Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯💯

@jeezuschrist3303 Жыл бұрын

I thought i was the only one who felt relief..

@Oxfordstudios Жыл бұрын

Honestly if you’re here watching this, it’s time to leave that woman alone for good. No one should treat anyone like this.

@maxtechmax Жыл бұрын

You're right...

@Intension123 2 жыл бұрын

Ain't nobody got time for that shit. If she pulls away, just move on.

@beetleything1864 2 жыл бұрын

She’s not the only ship on the ocean. 👍🏻

@joshwilliams6517 2 жыл бұрын

She pulled back I thought. She had Covid tho lol

@Matlockization 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I have to agree, but its not a bad idea to learn the parameters of women, that way you can recognise these red flags.

@CliniK-DS 2 жыл бұрын

Pursue with style and "dont give a fuck" attitude. Don't quit so early bro

@MJR1117 2 жыл бұрын

@@joshwilliams6517 something to remember when she gets Monkeypox

@MrHDProd 2 жыл бұрын

9 things to quit for all Strong Men: 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not experimenting different ideas / solutions for problems (life&business) 4. Not prioritizing your health 5. Wasting your precious time 6. Wanting something (instead write a plan and work towards it) 7. Chasing meaningless relationships 8. Wasting time by scrolling social media 9. Quitting addictions for good (if you have any - consider stopping it as it makes you mentally weak + affects your confidence and all other areas of your life!) 🚀 Take it easy and I hope you found one thing helpful in this list 💯☝️

@AnCapDog144 2 жыл бұрын

Small suggestion. Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want

@arlieg1934 2 жыл бұрын

Chris mentions give them what they need. What do they need??

@JamesGreenier 2 жыл бұрын

Social Media Is A Time Suck!

@michaelj3385 2 жыл бұрын

The moment she starts pulling that s**t, it's time to move on. If she asks why you haven't called or texted, you can say that you're seeing other people, and watch how jealous she gets. Stay focused on your grind, and not chasing women.

@davidpersson250 2 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha good advice

@cipryan96 2 жыл бұрын

Also,. never take her back, she leftover material now.

@aeolismons4236 2 жыл бұрын

@@cipryan96 not a material tho c'mon

@JamesGreenier 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, that’s why I always keep my options open.

@psalms1163 Жыл бұрын

The more stubborn a person is thinks about you more because they are in torment resisting you every day, every hour, every second . That's takes intense efforts.

@jadenaugustin8063 2 жыл бұрын

Always do the opposite this man is 1000% right. Telling a woman NO is one of the best things you can do everything is test dont be fooled by women an thier crazy emotions stay stoic an grounded

@rotimigracious3987 2 жыл бұрын

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@fj4731 Жыл бұрын

Hi Jaden I need advice if can help me out I had tried for two months to give her the best time and spend alot on good dinner by the beach and good lunch by the river but she is unappreciative and I told her why cant she treat me better...she said she dont know what to do to please me...I just told her Do what I want ...she felt she already give me sex and meet me is enough.. and she even said since we already together for so long why should I need her to proof her love for me...i told her because of the two breakup she has to proof it How can I lead her ? on this Topic of the Two Breakup, I have to forgive and be kind and Loving? She actually blame on the breakup and feel no remorse that make me upset she continue to feel those $ and time I spend trying to rekindle is nothing and doesn't make her happy...though she keep saying I was the one unhappy

@loscriticssupreme931 2 жыл бұрын

I've learned through trial and error that this is the best way to treat women. Both in dating and social relationships. Not being a sloth and not doing anything but getting things done in the best way you see fit.

@shardulrastogi4369 2 жыл бұрын

You should move on, No contact is not a guarantee. If that happens, it's good, if not, you are already on your better journey.

@sohaibrahman6240 2 жыл бұрын

I follow your channel and through this channel I learnt a lot of relationship advices. I exactly follow the rules you have mentioned through this channel. This taught me to change my behaviour towards women by being non reactive and stop being needy. Due to this new behavior I found my dream wife. Thanks to you Chris. You changed my life.

@mihai0377 2 жыл бұрын

Watch AMS Alpha Male Strategies

@Giovanni-01 2 жыл бұрын

I had to walk away from my ex, she attempted to string me along. I told her respectful that we shouldn't e talking if you have a new bf essentially. Wished her well, and havnt spoken to her since. It's been just over a year. Honestly, I'd prefer if a girl didn't feel comfortable enough to where she feels she can reach out whenever because she knows you'll take her back. I think it's better she is unsure

@likenomansour 2 жыл бұрын

Pleasing girls is a slippery road to your diminish Beware of the SIREN inside each woman

@aiswaryasukumar9532 3 күн бұрын

Good thought process . No one should change their originality in the name of love.its like dominating nature if the girl does me being a woman made me to think and process my thoughts towards my behavior. Thank you for making me watch this . Really I want to change my behavior

@Benjamin_Base23 2 жыл бұрын

Hello my friends, Hoping that everyone is doing great 😊🙏

@igorshravljevic7784 2 жыл бұрын

He is 100% correct. I want to know why are they this way? What's the history and DNA behind it?

@AS-nj2hc 2 жыл бұрын

Look for Alexander grace videos, he explains these masculine-feminine dynamics in great detail n depth. Moreover, he elaborates how evolutionary psychology of males and females play out and make people behave how they behave. A gem of a channel to challenge your own thinking and explore the reality.

@barneyrubble8839 Жыл бұрын

would be nice if these relationship coaches could start giving advice for long tern relationships like living together and being married, you can't keep walking away and go no contact in these situations for 90 days, it's not possible 🤷‍♂️

@1000hourshower 2 жыл бұрын

"facetime her and work it out like adults" lol

@cipryan96 2 жыл бұрын

🤡🤡🤡🤡

@NeoZeta 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I laughed at that, too. He assumes too much if he thinks he can treat any woman as an adult.

@bluebiclighter4463 2 жыл бұрын

@@NeoZeta lol rs 😂

@alemb2582 2 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha

@jamilewho 2 жыл бұрын

I had the same situation with a girl and it never worked out I was constantly chasing n she was running n act like I was a weirdo honestly bro coming from the same situation just move on she never goin to contact u unless she want something no contact only works for females tbh

@marcusduck 2 жыл бұрын

ever tried... open and honest communication?

@XoXo475 2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely IMPOSSIBLE with my woman. She gets angry immediately, so it’s not even worth the effort .

@aaronjones5972 Жыл бұрын

Open and honest communication….Righttttttt. Have you ever delt with a woman before? 😂 Become ‘emotional’ - watch her get dry real quick.

@caff8602 2 жыл бұрын

My ex and I broke up 8 month's ago. Initially I tried for to get back together but she was cold and distant. We have kids so we stayed in contact. A few months ago she told me she was seeing a guy. I pulled back and last week after an argument told her I didn't want any contact and that my life is mine and she is out now. Yesterday I got an emotional and lengthy l text message saying she is sad and depressed at how things turned out, she said she isn't happy and is struggling. And she regrets how things turned out What is this, bad day with her new man, manipulation, I am so confused.

@VISIONAHEADGLOBAL 2 жыл бұрын

give her chance

@magicj599 2 жыл бұрын

@@VISIONAHEADGLOBAL she has another dude. Screw that. Move on

@OGTrollTroll8 Жыл бұрын

I hope you didn't take her back

@caitlinvenespanol305 2 жыл бұрын

Bastante interesante e informativo!! Siempre te podrás dar cuenta tomando sus acciónales y no solamente lo que dice. Creo que es por eso que ser un “macho alfa” no pasa de moda. Gracias por el video!! Excelente información

@alvmusic4402 2 жыл бұрын

yep, exactly what I did wrong in this last relationship. "you never text me first", straight into texting her every day. "you leave me on read", right into always replying right away.

@XoXo475 2 жыл бұрын

I get left on read ALL the frickin time and it drives me crazy . She’d be pissed off if I did it to her , but like an idiot I’m too responsive and always too fast to reply .

@sentongoashraf5539 Жыл бұрын

@@XoXo475 she can only get pissed but not disappointed.

@sparc3491 2 жыл бұрын

waiting for the new book tomorrow coach !

@danialmr5960 2 жыл бұрын

Great video as always

@RB-sc3uk 2 жыл бұрын

A great tip here! You best pay attention to this.

@supratimsarkar3111 2 жыл бұрын

Needed this

@umakantabehera6267 2 жыл бұрын

Doing opposite from last 2 years

@whowantstoknow2 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Boss 🙌🏾

@DoNotAlterDNA 2 жыл бұрын

Doing no fap and semen retention helps a lot as well and gives you power energy confidence etc.

@joshwilliams6517 2 жыл бұрын

And hitting the gym and sleeping 8 hrs consistently

@XoXo475 2 жыл бұрын

No fap does the opposite to me.

@disorder_go 2 жыл бұрын

It really isn’t worth it, is it!?

@geoffcooper617 2 жыл бұрын

Nice to see some new videos great stuff 👍

@genesims767 Жыл бұрын

Great advice!

@adityathite3974 2 жыл бұрын

This is gr8 u hv to maintain that uncertainty to her .

@darwinLee81283 10 ай бұрын

Rule #1 never remember a phone number Rule #2 when going no Contact Erase her number.😉

@jossell911 Жыл бұрын

Great vid💯

@engpaademla6177 2 жыл бұрын

Leave that woman alone...dont waste your time..

@thesiouxside1467 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Chris!

@rgue5509 2 жыл бұрын

??? so you can never do what a girl asks or treat them right???

@Doggepe 2 жыл бұрын

If YOU want to, not because SHE wants to

@DarinDmarkovic1 24 күн бұрын

Some of her wants are needs. Just gotta know

@Zeosth 2 жыл бұрын

This is what i was wondering for.. some girls wont reeach out first .. they are just wont do it

@ic5994 2 жыл бұрын

Some girls wont reach out first YOU! They act like this only because they are not attracted to you. Easy! So avoid them, block them, ghost them immediately.

@Hamzak786 2 жыл бұрын

In that case then you know that she really isn't into you. It's better to have a high interest women into you than low interest women..

@Zeosth 2 жыл бұрын

@@Hamzak786 i mean belive it or not there are some girls who want to keep their pride by not reaching out to man first ..

@ic5994 2 жыл бұрын

@@Zeosth Yes. And these girls must be avoided. Find a girl who like you more than her inflated ego.

@mohammedeid7033 2 жыл бұрын

@@Zeosth No no dude it'a a miss conception, if she really is into you she WILL put you before her ego and pride trust me, if she doesn't contact you more often you know what to do, walk away this may either attract her to you so she will come back or its just this is it for you and time to find more and better options and I'm sure you'll find such.

@melawieeinapfel8594 4 ай бұрын

???? I am soo confused , I watched too many of those love and relationship coaches that I feel totally paralyzed. I am the type of woman who can clearly communicate what I need (a hug or a talk, or some other form of help) and I only ask for it when it is almost too late and I ask in in a baby-voice to make fun of myself being needy. I will keep on doing that. Ok, not that confused at all, haha.

@davidallahgod3217 2 жыл бұрын

Christopher (GENIUS) Canwell!

@YudiAd-me2pz 15 күн бұрын

I think he will knock out only round 1,the way he moves is easy

@presto5006 Жыл бұрын

Fukc!! She asked me to do something and I didn't even think twice, I just said yes. I had a strange feeling about it too.

@amitgondekar595 2 жыл бұрын

You are the greatest expert on Human behaviour ( ♂️ ♀️) I ever met.. I respect you sir very much... You saved me on many occasions.. corrected my course of action...

@pappymcallister2492 2 жыл бұрын

Will this advice work for a girl I liked that pulled away and who leaves in another state?

@aldogg1987 Жыл бұрын

She just wanted to speak for the sake of speaking, the question was for me smh

@slepk7898 2 жыл бұрын

Hey Chris, I found your channel like a month ago and I really like your advices glad you're still active I need an advice for a girl that's is stubborn and doesn't respect what I don't like in her behavior sometimes and when I tell her she gets annoyed and hangs up, keep in mind she is young 20 to be exact and it's her first serious relationship so it's very hard can you give me some advice, Thank you

@MrKyleb21 2 жыл бұрын

My advice… talk in person, the phone is for setting dates. Serious talk in person.

@cipryan96 2 жыл бұрын

Also, in the future tell them before getting in a relationship, if she disrespects you she gone. The one you have now it's beyond repair, dump her.

@keketsomolaoa8287 2 жыл бұрын

I'm 47. I got a baby mama just like the girl friend u have. Iv been seeing her 8yrs. She can get so unnecessary with her stubbornness. She's rude & has made it a point to not be submissive to me. So it's yr choice brother to stay or go. These are the type of women who have annoying masculine energy. Don't try to change her. Go for your peace of mind or stay just to get the pussy. But don't put her on the pedestal. She doesn't deserve it. I know her kind. Just date other girls brother but keep her on the side

@taijuddinmiah9433 2 жыл бұрын

Man of culture

@nirajpawar1145 2 жыл бұрын

Make some more videos

@sameermalik5322 2 жыл бұрын

Always get the info value in millions.

@younesbkh6470 2 жыл бұрын

Chris .. plz tell us about the situation when u take numbers from girls and can't meet them and see them too much for work and other reasons... What to do?

@AchieverSoulVirals 2 жыл бұрын

Too many relationship advicers free in this comment section ☕

@canaldodead4141 2 жыл бұрын

Eden Redd

@khurshidjr2039 2 жыл бұрын

You are my motivation when I hit rock hard bottom

@green_wraith5764 2 жыл бұрын

Hey chris so i have followed your channel for a long time im talking to this girl and she is very sweet but when do i need to pull away how should i groom the relationship

@cap5762 2 жыл бұрын

is returning my ex's stuff breaking no contact

@Scottstation222 Ай бұрын

Yes

@jonahlevi3178 2 жыл бұрын

Smash and ghost

@vrushankkamble7862 Жыл бұрын

Take care of your life sir ❤️

@DevelopAttraction Жыл бұрын

You too!

@sparc3491 2 жыл бұрын

what about new book coach??

@adrenalinjunkiejunkie2573 2 жыл бұрын

Pls make a vid on how to never give her power again.. Cause i maintained frame, then she made me soft again.

@mohammadomar5749 2 жыл бұрын

I block her from every where does it count?

@sj3969 Жыл бұрын

I think this depends on the kind of woman you date. Maybe the dumb/overly emotional/manipulative ones are like this. But, I told a guy I would like see/speak to him more and he agreed saying he should do more but never did. To me inaction means he doesn’t like you that much. Actions not words so I left.

@GordonPavilion 2 жыл бұрын

So, DO what they DON’T want you to do, and DON’T do what they what they DO want you to do. Got it! 😉

@ishaanagarwal2220 2 жыл бұрын

Not that exactly, Couples do things for each other.But maintain your masculine Frame don't get used

@GordonPavilion 2 жыл бұрын

@@ishaanagarwal2220 I was taking the piss.

@alexmr1030 Жыл бұрын

Just dump her. Listen to what you said! Makes no sense. Leave. She’s NOT into you. This should have lasted 30 seconds. Then change your approach because the fact that she’s doing that means you’re doing something that is causing it…. Also, if this is just a girl you’re dating. Number 1: she’s not your girlfriend. Leave. Number 2: you’re desperate and probably not dating anyone else. If you were, you wouldn’t give 2 craps about this girl!

@AmazingNature365 2 жыл бұрын

U the best

@Abdul-Y Жыл бұрын

Introducing polygamy will make them behave

@iamgoddessoflove 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes we need a break in our relationships and it's not because we want to be with someone else, but maybe due to needing that personal time for ourselves. There's many reasons! Making assumptions about your partner wanting to only take a break to be with someone else, will probably keep them away permanently! 💙KZfaqr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

@cipryan96 2 жыл бұрын

Nah, 99% of the time it's another guy. Don't fool yourself. :)

@njikings4690 2 жыл бұрын

That's what women think, but it's not the truth. I have come to realize even women don't know they do they things we complain about. They have a good will but their nature always prevail.

@NeoZeta 2 жыл бұрын

There is no break in a relationship. That's code for "exploring" out there. Any woman that attempts to hint any suggestion of a "break", I give her a permanent one.

@yank4621 2 жыл бұрын

You're a woman. You don't know what you truly want.. were not here to learn about what you think or want but what YOU NEED.

@mrantone916 Жыл бұрын

I gave her the space she got engaged 8 months later never reached out and blamed me for not reaching out? Wtheck? She’s 34 he’s 23.

@praneethdeenanath9674 2 жыл бұрын

Will this work on my wife? Been married 2 years ,anyway long story short I fucked it up by accusing her and being needy,acted desperate etc,so she blocked me on all forms of social media,will no contact work I mean I don't really have a choice or is the marriage actually done (ps we was separated 2 months before)

@mrantone916 Жыл бұрын

My ex got engaged 8 months after no contact she never reached out , then she blamed me for not texting her back she’s 34 he’s 23 in the navy. 😵‍💫

@DG-zx9zs 2 жыл бұрын

FACTS

@ayalav02 Жыл бұрын

Weve dated for 5 dates but I believe an emotional connection didn’t form yet because I held back and she sensed it. I invited her to meetup (6th date) and she replied a day later on other subjects ignoring my invite. I replied politely nothing more. And since then made no contact (now over a week). Giving the assumption no emotional connection was formed, is walking away effective here? I want to reach out to her just for that reason ( but afraid it will backfire) What do you think?

@misha791 Жыл бұрын

Do not reach out - just walk away! If a woman likes you, she will move mountains for you and baked some cake or bring food for you. Put more value on yourself! And be busy.

@hamchenchume8332 2 жыл бұрын

Does no contact work on long term relationship n long distance breakup?

@mm-zn5hh Жыл бұрын

No offence,but is your hand really that big??

@DevelopAttraction Жыл бұрын

It’s even bigger in real life

@TheKing-rj6zt Жыл бұрын

It’s called camera angle

@thomasvandenbelt4097 2 жыл бұрын

I have them same shirt lol

@Hama-vw2jn 2 жыл бұрын

So should I view her story a pov acting like I’m cool with the break up or ignore the story’s all the together and show that you’re mad?

@blair5475 Жыл бұрын

Ignore her stories

@Nakedwittypod 9 ай бұрын

Ignore

@TruthRedacted 2 жыл бұрын

🎯

@o0oStillWeRiseo0o 2 жыл бұрын

🔥

@theqnotion 2 жыл бұрын

Thumbnail girl has such an exquisite skull

@carlosdixan112 2 жыл бұрын

What does a women offers?

@ronaldchannel 2 жыл бұрын

A chaotic living situation.

@airlebron7467 2 жыл бұрын

Headache.

@fernendo4 2 жыл бұрын

She is using you bro.

@wayneshawlinski4898 2 жыл бұрын

She’s out, walk away and never look back

@jncyj 2 жыл бұрын

I walked up to this girl at the starbucks I said hi, you're cute for a brunette. She says can i help you i said no, i just wanted to say hi. I smiled at her she smiled back I said Do you have blondie brownies, she shook her head said ya, let me check. I think i thew her off her work mind. What do you think? Spark her interest?