The Power of Compliments | The Science of Love

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10 жыл бұрын

A lot of us have trouble accepting compliments. We're worried that it will make us seem self-absorbed, or we just don't believe that what the person is saying is true. But studies show that accepting compliments doesn't just help you, it also helps your relationship - so we brought in real couples to prove it.
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Created by: Mike Bernstein and Matt Pittman
Directed by: Mike Bernstein
Producer: Matt Pittman
Hosted by: Julian Huguet
Cinematographer: Yuki Noguchi
Production Designer: Flower Cole
1st AD: Basel Owies
Editor: David Sommer
Production Manager: William Cubbon
Production Coordinator: Rebecca Ma
Production Support: Nate Vaughn, Anthony Deangelo, Joseph Waggoner
B Cam Op: Jon-Michael Mooney
1st AC | DIT: Loie Russell-Templeton
Key Grip/Cam Op: Drew Moe
Gaffer/Cam Op: Greg Cotten
Art Director: Tricia Robertson
Set Decorator: Marcy Silver
Makeup: Taylor Tompkins
On Set Sound Mixer: Ben Adams
VFX & Title Sequence: Cameron Clark
Post Sound Designer & Mixer: Matt Schwartz
Colorist: Trevor Durtschi
Featured Participants: Jeannie Diamondz, Hank Dutton, Caroline Gayle, Donnie Loa, Oscar Castro, Karina Aviles, Tabatha Beustring, Steven Le, Catherine Lydon, Peter Chandos
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@drunkenrampage1588 8 жыл бұрын

You're looking good through your computer screen today.

@Miafjdd 8 жыл бұрын

Haha awww that's cute :)

@addiej5497 7 жыл бұрын

DrunkenRampage My eyebrows have strays I have leftover eyeliner and bags under my eyes. I accept your compliment :)

@shoog_al1100 7 жыл бұрын

DrunkenRampage really cute

@shivangisharma9459 7 жыл бұрын

thank you :)

@MarieAmeliaFreyaAster 5 жыл бұрын

I'm blushing

@kathygraceDemetillo 10 жыл бұрын

I am in tears and I realized how lucky I am that my husband is not ashamed of showering me with compliments. I will learn how to accept it with open heart =) thank you soul pancake.

@wolfiexz 8 жыл бұрын

I always feel like I'm being a creepy weirdo by giving compliments, like I'm wasting people's times but I've realized that that's not the case most of the time.. I've been told I've made people's day's with a simple compliment and I think that's the greatest feeling! It's always good to take the risk because someone could really need it.

@yarnpower 6 жыл бұрын

Fluffy Jimin I feel the same way but I compliment strangers occasionally anyway, especially if they look a bit down. Recently I read how elderly people are virtually invisible in public, how it makes them feel isolated, so I try to be aware of them and give them a compliment when warranted, and always a smile if I can catch their eye. I frequently get a return smile, some so lively it makes me immediately picture how jaunty they were in their youth.

@ashactingup3330 10 жыл бұрын

Every time I see one of these it leaves me feeling warm and fuzzy. We should all try to tell our loved ones the things we appreciate about them more often!

@stealthghostbr1801 6 жыл бұрын

Ash Acting Up I feel like you have a good heart and is a good person!

@Justanobodybro Жыл бұрын

not too often tho

@thekimward 9 жыл бұрын

My girls are 12 and 7 years old. I teach them to only say thank you when someone compliments them. I love to give compliments to complete strangers. I decided years ago, that if see someone and a compliment comes to mind (like, She has a beautiful smile.) I must tell them. You never know... they might NEED to hear it! Plus it makes me feel good... as if i'm giving a little happiness.

@JuliaSudusky 10 жыл бұрын

Awwww man this is great, this is really freaking great

@Participant 10 жыл бұрын

owlcraze99 We think you're pretty great too. Thanks for watching!

@COOLOD1 8 жыл бұрын

You're crying too right? :(

@stealthghostbr1801 6 жыл бұрын

I think you have a very good taste and nice way of writing

@carrieljp 10 жыл бұрын

Freaking spot on, as always! I can affirm that accepting compliments boosts self esteem. About two years ago I stopped qualifying compliments and said simply, "Thank you," just liked described here. It's AMAZING how much of a difference it's made. When I don't tell myself that I don't deserve the compliment through qualifying it, my subconscious actually has started to believe it. I'm totally doing this with my man and hashtagging!!

@FG9578 7 жыл бұрын

I just got her reaction. She said she got extremely happy with my attitude and that I'm so precious and more, that I mean a lot to her. Those words made me so happy. I can cry.

@kaitlinramspeck2306 7 жыл бұрын

I am definitely a person who has a really hard tell accepting compliments... this makes me feel like I just have to accept them and also believe in them

7 жыл бұрын

Oh, really? But, you're actually very beautiful! I mean it, you're a gorgeous girl :)

@veronicamakhoali614 8 жыл бұрын

I ALWAYS CRY!!!! ALWAYS!!!!

@shivangikansal8025 7 жыл бұрын

Awww this is beautiful. My boyfriend showers me with lots of compliments each day, and I always deflect him. Though I feel so special and unique everytime, I thought it would be arrogant on my part to unambiguously accept them. Thanks to this video for making me realise the power of accepting compliments.

@scriblemaker 10 жыл бұрын

I think it's really interesting seeing how different people reacted to this excessive and what it revealed about their personalities and relationships. Beautiful

@laurynolesinski9674 9 жыл бұрын

I don't like it when people brush off a complement... I like being genuine when people complement me. i love complements! they make my day!

@rafi973 9 жыл бұрын

Well, I do think you are beautiful! Hope I made your day... (;

@laurynolesinski9674 9 жыл бұрын

thank you! that did make it! 💖

@ifeelawfulfalafel7915 9 жыл бұрын

Aw your awesome!

@ifeelawfulfalafel7915 9 жыл бұрын

***** I was trying to word this in a way others would understand I think you did it best. :) It's true when someone doesn't respond to said complaint it's most likely they don't feel that way. So think of yourself as that part of them that is telling them that. They are beautiful or nice or kind and your there just reminding them of that. :) They'll thank you in some way.

@annekuan5945 9 жыл бұрын

Blushed when Julian complimented the viewers as "classy audience"! >

@chuchotersaule 10 жыл бұрын

This was great! Now I want to say thank you so much to the entire team of Soul Pancake and especially these series, they are by far my favourite!! Thank you Julian for hosting, you never fail to make me grin at my computer screen like an idiot and thank you to the writers who put so much effort and dedication to their work! And to everyone else who makes this all manageable, I've come to appreciate so much more in life because of you guys!

@FantashticIdeas 10 жыл бұрын

I will definitely make a video response to this video. Even though I'm not in a relationship nor have ever been in one, I find the series so valuable especially for my relationships with friends. I always doubt myself and have low self-esteem so I will try to accept more compliments when they come my way instead of dismissing them. Thank you Julian and Science of Love team! :D

@kathrineee12 10 жыл бұрын

Don't mind me, just sitting in a puddle of my tears.

@monkeyme1995 10 жыл бұрын

I love the Science of Love videos so much. I like how it takes basic parts of human relationships that are so obvious, they're taken for granted, and puts them into a perspective that is so simple and clear to understand. It really makes stop and think about your relationships with people.

@HaloBalla 10 жыл бұрын

I really like this psychological science, if I was born with any self confidence it has dissolved over the years of my life. This brings me great hope in myself, to accept the positive things around me and try to not pry it away as if I do not meet up with the kind words or deserve them.

@christianamericandominican2470 10 жыл бұрын

I do this with my students on a weekly basis. I call it "Acknoledgment day". When given a choice of a reward, they would rather do this than free time, treats or a movie. There have been many hugs and tears of joy in my classroom because of this. I had a troubled student go from all "F"s to All "B's" and "A's". When the principal asked him why he decided to make the change he said, "I didn't know people liked me until the day it was my turn to be acknowledged."

@chloe9314 8 жыл бұрын

Wow this video has made me cry! Touching to see genuine compliments being payed to loved ones to show them how much we appreciate them

@GNParty 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you for always making encouraging videos. It's refreshing to see this on KZfaq every once in a while. :)

@ultimaokami 10 жыл бұрын

I am not sure why it made me cry. This is beautiful

@laosmouse215 10 жыл бұрын

Not as beautiful as you ;)

@AussieHavanna 10 жыл бұрын

Thank you SoulPancake Team for making this video, it is so important that we learn to accept compliments and try to see the truth in them. I feel like so many younger people are told "You're selfish, you're too self centered," ect. As an example I've even had someone say to me that "you have too much self confidence." Comments like these can get you down and make it difficult to accept positive feedback from others because most people don't want to be seen as conceited. Ya'll are doing an absolutely wonderful job with this series, keep up the good work!

@t8ls 10 жыл бұрын

Thank you for showing me that i'm doing it right by doing so. Watching this video increased my self esteem. I definetly thank you for putting that much affort into those things. I appreciate youre work very much. I learned to open my heart for the world again last autumn and i think that i was able to enstrenghten all of my valuable friendships after that. Accepting compliments is a hard step for a lot of people. I feel a new security and i feel more valueable than ever before in my life, and i am what i feel now. Thank you again - you helped me a little bit to improve myself and some people around me.

@alexistyme 10 жыл бұрын

I cry every time I watch The Science of Love because it warms my heart seeing so much positivity from everyone. That and I'm just overly emotional lol.

@moeketsanesefako1574 10 жыл бұрын

I really enjoy watching the science of love. It reminds me to appreciate all the people in my life, and the reason I say "hi" to random people I pass on the street

@mariah_7654 6 жыл бұрын

This inspires me to compliment my friends more. Not fluffy and fake to be nice, but real true honest complement about what I see in them and how they help me.

@MrBully83 10 жыл бұрын

I love all of these 'science of' videos... I'm an ESL teacher in Korea, and often use these videos with my adult classes. They always garner really fantastic discussions and responses among my students. Thank you SP, you rock

@FrumpybutSuperSmart 10 жыл бұрын

I will always share the Science of Love and Science of Happiness videos as much as I can because they are phenomenal and I think they can help everyone with their relationships of all types, self awareness, and joy. Please continue to make these as long as there are things to improve on internally and interpersonally. These always make my day and I believe that they can really help people.

@jocelynjimenez6703 10 жыл бұрын

I think I am falling more and more in love with Julian (the host) he presents himself with so much confidence with every single word he says! He makes me feel like a smarty pants after each episode of The Science of Love :) I also want to compliment the team production, you are all amazing people. You are teaching knowledge and that in really powerfull!! I absolutely love Soulpancake!!! #thescienceoflove is my favorite videos!! Thank you guys!!

@DrBeefmaster 10 жыл бұрын

Noooo, it doesn't have to be limited to people you know! One of my favorite things to do is to compliment random people. It's so much fun seeing how surprised people are and to watch an involuntary smile creep across their faces! And the best part is, 99 out of 100 times they'll completely accept it with a simple "Thank you" and you never have to worry about them giving those excuses that invalidate the compliment. And it just makes people happier!! So go give strangers compliments people! It'll make someones day, I promise :)

@witchplease9695 9 жыл бұрын

I hate compliments. I suffer from social anxiety and BDD so they always seem like sick jokes.

@nesirsitsir 8 жыл бұрын

+Des Then you should watch the video and see how accepting compliments will help your social anxiety and BDD

@witchplease9695 8 жыл бұрын

***** I always say thank you to be polite obviously, but that doesnt mean I like them. I rather not get compliments on my appearance. Compliments on my achievements are fine though.

@mahnoortruffles6046 7 жыл бұрын

tigerlily same 😂

@noversibirsk 7 жыл бұрын

I hate compliments too, although i do not suffer from social anxiety, i thought i was the only person who hated compliments, it is reassuring to know that I am not the only one.

@ia4773 5 жыл бұрын

noversibirsk why don’t y’all like complement

@whereverigothereiam3078 6 жыл бұрын

Nothing more soul filling then a GENUINE, spontaneous and accepted compliment. One of the greatest exchanges two people can share.

@earlobe0410 6 жыл бұрын

This is one of my absolute favorite videos, it’s changed how I accept compliments. I’ve shared this with so many people!

@linney4you 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you Soul Pancake! I'm so grateful for a world full of love!

@lynmagarao1005 8 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making videos/ social experiments like this!!! Inspirational. *new fave youtube channel found*

@Participant 8 жыл бұрын

+Len Magarao You're welcome! We love getting such positive and inspiring feedback! If you loved this, check out The Science of Happiness: bit.ly/1hdH9XP

@genevievenolan3377 9 жыл бұрын

Soulpancake always turns my sad tears into happy tears

@crazysteveofficial 10 жыл бұрын

I love this so much. I feel like giving random people in the hallway I don't know, compliments and see what they say

@lovemecom3832 7 жыл бұрын

This is the main reason why we feel confident to ourselves because of those people who loves us and reminds us on how capable we are of doing things.

@ThatGirlSaadiyaTV 10 жыл бұрын

Honestly, you guys make the best content. This was so beautiful to watch!

@Participant 10 жыл бұрын

+ThatGirlSaadiyaTV Thank you for watching our videos. We appreciate your support!

@bootsfarrow 10 жыл бұрын

The videos SoulPancake posts are amazing. I try to share with all my friends. To bring their inner self out to themselves. Love to see them grow inside. I'd love to know more about all the studies. Plus tests, I want to do mayn't of these in my town

@rafaelcf1037 9 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Julian and everybody in the show... You guys make a beutiful work! thanks you!

@frankiesca 9 жыл бұрын

This made me cry. I love you Soulpancake.

@renznetwork 9 жыл бұрын

SoulPancake you're are one of my favorite KZfaq channel, your channel always brings positivity and a smile to my face.

@kristig13 10 жыл бұрын

I love love love these videos! You guys at SoulPancake never fail to make me smile!

@skullshapedbox 9 жыл бұрын

I just love this series! I forget sometimes to really accept what my partner says about me, because its sometimes hard to believe it. He truly is a dream come true.

@NinjaTurtles1100 10 жыл бұрын

I love this series. So glad you guys made it!

@SilviaYiyi 9 жыл бұрын

This is something I'm really dealing right now...why is it so hard to accept compliments from someone that loves you...validating and respecting his thoughts...I never thought it that way...so THANK YOU :) you let me thinking.

@3Milkshake 10 жыл бұрын

Thank you SoulPancake for this amazing video. It really brings me tears of happiness.

@Bababenny1 10 жыл бұрын

Once again I'm moved by your videos. I truly apply much of what I see and learn in your videos with my wife, my children and my life in general. Great messaging and it never fails to put a smile on my face and even an occasional tear in my eye. Keep 'em coming.

@candycesellars 10 жыл бұрын

Julian. I don't know you. But your videos being me joy. You seem like a truly beautiful person both inside and out. Thank you to you and your whole team

@FatBellyChemist1234 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for explaining this to me, I now feel I can freely accept and embrace compliments without much of a stress. Oh I am doing this with my boyfriend everyday, and I think I am allowing him to be happier.

@TheVibeOnline 10 жыл бұрын

I love The Science of Love videos, keep them coming! You guys are great!

@venusliketheplanet Жыл бұрын

it’s 2022 and i’m watching this video 8 years after it released and i think people should still practice this exercise not just in romantic relationships but with platonic and their family members as well. with social media arising more people have a difficulty with their self esteem and comparing themselves, their lives, and also relationships.

@nnjthewho 10 жыл бұрын

Awesome video and great series! I've been following from day one and every time it is amazing and inspiring. Keep them coming, Thank you!

@tillwinterisgone 10 жыл бұрын

This video really has helped me out because I do feel uncomfortable accepting compliments a lot of the time. I really appreciate this video. :)

@bravegirldana 10 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing these videos :)

@pushupman8269 10 жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed this... makes me feel better about the compliments I periodically recieve. Great video!

@lindaframpton2193 10 жыл бұрын

Great concept and we don't get or do enough of this... a wonderful way to change a negative world or mind set.

@Virenneality 8 жыл бұрын

Beautiful video. Love the scientific back up! This definitely needs to be spread around more! Great work :) Brought a huge smile on my face when I saw how these people took the compliments and explained how it made them feel. Love the honesty and the rawness of the emotions.

@zolahope6210 7 жыл бұрын

That was the most beautiful thing I saw in a very long time. Thank you

@rabergeron28 10 жыл бұрын

I loooove this series! Please keep on with all the amazing work!! I'm always left with a heart full of gratitude and a smile. Lovely way to end the night :)

@irisemmyreadings 9 жыл бұрын

This is the best youtube channel I have come across with ever. Thank you for the positive and helpful video's!

@mohammadsharif9192 10 жыл бұрын

Soul Pancake just keep getting better and better

@Amazinglifetogether 10 жыл бұрын

So so so good! Thanks for this!

@crinagrey 10 жыл бұрын

I loved this! Thank you!

@MadhuMakkhi9 10 жыл бұрын

Wonderful to see POSITIVITY PASSED ON!!! NICE WORK SoulPancake!!!

@Draconis8888 10 жыл бұрын

Thank you for another great video on love!

@christinec3086 10 жыл бұрын

This is so beautiful! I love it!

@navidahmadi4 4 жыл бұрын

hey guy, that was literally sensational. I needed it. I appreciate that.

@RBabiw 10 жыл бұрын

Wow this was really beautiful. Im actually crying. Thank you !!!

@camitowanda9216 10 жыл бұрын

i love what you people do! It's so interesting and beautiful! thank you

@emk3234 10 жыл бұрын

This makes me feel really good about me and my boyfriends relationship. We give each other at least 5 compliments a day and we ALWAYS accept them even if we ourselves don't. I do find it hard to accept compliments (especially on my art work) but I always make sure I accept them

@photopro459 10 жыл бұрын

This is my favorite series! I can't wait to try this!

@mercedesring5656 9 жыл бұрын

im genuinely crying right now this was amazing

@takepartlive 10 жыл бұрын

The Science of Love series is one of our favorites! Love this video.

@laosmouse215 10 жыл бұрын

I wish some randon person would give me a compliment about myself, it would probably make my day

@dumbledoratheexplora1140 10 жыл бұрын

You're beautiful \(^o^)/

@laosmouse215 10 жыл бұрын

DumbleDora TheExplora thanks

@laosmouse215 10 жыл бұрын

chris ce Im a guy ....lol

@uznnal 10 жыл бұрын

You will still totally rock, in bed with chris ce

@Mattprole 10 жыл бұрын

That's a very fun thought - I will try to do that to people I meet. Thank you for inspiring me to do that! You seem like a cool person!

@cdp1253 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you soulpancake for another wonderful, thought-provoking video

@danielarodriguez5373 10 жыл бұрын

This made my day. Thank you for this!

@Kalhan90 10 жыл бұрын

Guys, your videos are really awesome. Please put out more !!! Faster !!!! Can't wait to see more.....

@jovitawade8877 10 жыл бұрын

I love this! Thank you!

@Breeoxd 10 жыл бұрын

just lovely. So onspiring, warms the heart

@alabmirasol 10 жыл бұрын

This is really great. Wonderful.

@-gohu- 10 жыл бұрын

i'm joining the "i think i have a crush on julian" club. and i absolutely adore every single "the science of love" video. thank you, guys

@sprousespouse 10 жыл бұрын

I'm obsessed with this series. And Julian 😍

@sulmonjaraz4564 10 жыл бұрын

Speaks volume! Thank you :)

@chethanks5538 10 жыл бұрын

i only dabble in watching these videos but this one really hit me. amazing stuff.

@kuragehime602 10 жыл бұрын

This is gorgeous omg I love this so much, like, we are not as bad as we might think we are

@thaislinhares5591 10 жыл бұрын

That videos are so nice. They always make me cry fulled with good emotions.

@joannarottenbury3461 10 жыл бұрын

I love you and your videos, they make me so cheery and positive :) Thank you for that.

@justhangingaroundhere7367 5 жыл бұрын

This comes to mind while watching this video.... I was at a restaurant and went to the restroom and honestly by that age I was my self esteem was so low. (Still kinda is but eh) and so I washed my hands but when I turn around I am met with this older lady in a wheel chair. And she just gives me the biggest smile ana says, "You're such a beautiful young lady." and it caught me so off guard tbh. I felt a huge smile on my face while I stuttered out a thank you. Needless to say, I was so happy for the rest of the day. Just by that one compliment. I'm honestly grateful to that elderly lady for it. Idk it made my day.

@BeverlySesink 3 жыл бұрын

So wish they would make more of these great videos! It is such an encouragement to me and many others who I share the videos with.

@JameyLeanneCooper 3 жыл бұрын

I don’t like compliments they embarrass me

@anniemae343 9 жыл бұрын

I wish you guys made more of the science of love and happiness. I love love love these videos!

@MissMSL91 10 жыл бұрын

yeah I'm not gonna lie, this totally made me a bit tearful! What a lovely video with an important message :) I think we should all give and accept more compliments, it would make the world a happier place!