The REAL Reason You Can't Stop Impulse Buying (& How To Fix It!)

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10 ай бұрын

In this video, I will reveal the real reason why I stopped impulse buying forever. Plus, I'll also share the exact steps I took, so you can stop impulse shopping too! And I'm very excited because I believe this video can truly change your life and your shopping habits ❤️ As for the video that will help you declutter your closet and analyse your style at the same time, you can watch it here: • The BEST Way To Declut... 🥰
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@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

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@melligolightly 10 ай бұрын

Your channel is so underrated. You give such valuable advice. For me, it was also very important to declutter ruthlessly and actually wear my favourite clothes. Now I often feel I have enough and don't want to buy something. My standards are very high now.

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Aw, thank you ❤️ And such a good point to wear our favourite clothes, that really raises our standards 😉🥰

@wb-lr9ig 10 ай бұрын

Agree with you on the selling items aspect. I realized when selling , no matter what, used clothes are almost worthless, even the expensive stuff.

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Yes, so true! 😅

@shellbell8062 10 ай бұрын

For me a GIANT wakeup call was tracking my money. I have my own business and like a classic creative person, I wasn't really keeping track of how much I earned. Then one day I sat down and really looked at my figures over the last year and I hadn't realised just how much I earn; and I barely have anything to show for it. I felt sick to my stomach as I couldn't account for thousands and thousands that went on clothing. Plus I work at home and really don't have the need for that much clothing at all. I was buying for my fantasy self. I also put a lot of it on Ebay and felt the pain of earning back about a third of what I spent - many items still had the tags on them. Yes that pain was necessary and after MANY attempts of stopping impulsive shopping, that was what turned it around for me. I also started focussing a lot on more creative hobbies so that I wasn't watching influencers on KZfaq who would be tempting me. Now that I have decluttered I look at what's left with such a sense of satisfaction; as I kept the very best and absolutely love everything that I have - and I'm WEARING it rather than chasing after some new thing.

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Oh yeah, this is such a great point too, definitely can help others as well, thanks for sharing! ❤️

@ingvildcostello6889 10 ай бұрын

Kim, this is a really great video and I think you are spot on when you say that feeling a little bit of pain and shame for money wasted is healthy. I have experienced this myself. When I started seeing that it can be really challenging (AND time consuming ) to resell the items I brought into my closet without consideration, it really made me evaluate the item more carefully BEFORE I brought it home. Now it has to be a 10 😊🤩 your content is awesome, keep up the good work 💪🏻

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Yesss, it's surprisingly hard to sell things sometimes, hehe, but at least we can learn from it (only 10s!) 😉 And it makes me supper happy you're enjoying the content, thanks for sharing your experience 🥰❤️

@adelinespeaksup 9 ай бұрын

I love the tip of writing the date on the beauty product of when you start using it, thank you!🙏 💄

@bernadettehawes 9 ай бұрын

I already do this with makeup. It helped me to realise that buying things on offer isn’t always the bargain you think it is. Some items deteriorate after a time, even if unopened. Deodorant or lipstick can lose its pleasant scent and smell of a chemical even if the consistency is still usable. Hand cream can become more watery (ok, I forgot I had it - another reason to not have more than one spare). I realised how many spares I was stashing. Now I’m using it up.

@imagease 5 ай бұрын

"I only want a wardrobe filled with 10's." Yes!

@agelessglamournotyourmamas688 9 ай бұрын

This was helpful and lovely. I needed this conversation as a shopaholic. 😊

@KimBedene 9 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it! 😊

@janicerice8810 10 ай бұрын

❤love this video! Spot on and so helpful. I am an impulse shopper and real key for me is not to go shopping at all because if I go shopping, I buy! Shopping became a part of my entertainment! I started following decluttering and minimalist videos and that has helped me lose the desire to shop. Your videos have helped me immensely. I am gonna put this one on repeat because some lessons need to be reinforced many times before the habit can be changed.

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Aw, that is so nice to hear, thanks for sharing! 🥰❤️

@alamedadanceparty 9 ай бұрын

Totally agree. Listening to these videos multiple times really helps a lot!!

@gergana_nikolova 10 ай бұрын

🤍 very interesting video. You are talking a lot about stuff I haven't heard for shopping and decluttering ❤️ Thank you!

@Ellie-es4ms 10 ай бұрын

I smiled through your video, I have kids, so I don’t have that much time on my hand to be thinking of my clothes, just every season I think about getting rid of old stuff and I do t shop much anymore or at all. I used to impulse shop a lot but now working from home changed everything. Good job putting all those points together specially for shopping addicts people 😊❤

@mansoor3159 10 ай бұрын

Very Very intresting and helpful video Kim and I wish you have a best best weekend💫💖😁

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Thank you 😊❤️

@bronwynquinn4477 6 ай бұрын

❤ fabulous!

@leastidyworld4365 10 ай бұрын

This is the type of video that I need (from more youtubers).

@saramalhi5509 10 ай бұрын

Kim I always look forward to your videos. You’re my favourite YT and I love your sense of style. Your videos and advice is so helpful as I’m an impulsive buyer. Thank you. Look forward to many more ❤

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, this means a lot! 🥰❤️

@yaninavanwonterghem8586 10 ай бұрын

Great advises! Very useful and they are working! 👍

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Glad you think so! 🥰

@sonyasigal894 10 ай бұрын

As always.....your videos are soooo inspiring. This will help soo many people! Thank you!

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Aw, I'm so glad you think so! ❤️

@Rubyzip 10 ай бұрын

Your videos are the most helpful decluttering and organizing videos that I have seen, by far. Your focus on trying to get to the underlying issues as to WHY we accumulate and keep buying is spot on and so helpful…I really love your mind-set strategies! Our clothing styles couldn’t be more different, but that does not matter, I really appreciate your content, thank you 💕

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Aw, this means so much to hear, thank you!! ❤️

@sandramaki7819 10 ай бұрын

🤍loved this video so much! well done. This is exactly what I need to do to reduce my wardrobe!, a million thanks ❤❤❤❤

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Yay, you can do it! ❤️

@ChanelleAnim 5 ай бұрын

Omg this is amazing!!!!!!

@KimBedene 5 ай бұрын

Yay!! 🥰

@ts.bat-erdene2895 8 ай бұрын

Watched two times. Keep going! Thank you for great ideas 😊

@KimBedene 8 ай бұрын

Yay, thanks for watching! 😊

@christinekellyrose9435 10 ай бұрын

Thoughtful video 🤍

@debrastewart6714 10 ай бұрын

Hello Kim, Great advice on buying clothing,yes shop alone maybe a very good option . We do know what suits us ,and what style we love. Lovely video,takecare ❤️💞🐕🐾

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you enjoyed it! 🥰❤️

@maureenmurphy392 10 ай бұрын

💕💕thank you!!! You have helped me so m7ch!

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Yay, I'm happy to help! 🥰❤️

@rialunacelada6891 8 ай бұрын

Hi Kim. I just came across your channel and I thought you are genius. ❤️

@KimBedene 8 ай бұрын

Oh thank you! 🥰

@bernadettehawes 9 ай бұрын

Thank you Kim. You’re so young to have acquired so much wisdom and be able to put it in a neat info package that really makes sense. Even something beautiful and quality can become useless to you if you have five of them and use two on a regular basis. I love your idea of only spending mindfully on things you know you need and ensuring they are a 10, that you will want to pull out and use.

@KimBedene 9 ай бұрын

Awww, thank you 🥰❤️ And absolutely, if we have too many things, even if they're gorgeous, we're just not going to use them all 😊

@Whirlyma 10 ай бұрын

Great video and spotted on Kim ! I am a new subscriber (a Hongkonger) live in UK ❤😍

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Thank you, and welcome! 😍❤️

@lightdancervaughn1447 9 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video, your suggestions are very helpful. I started with my color pallet, body type, Kibbe, etc. you name it. I'm looking forward to watching your de clutter video next. 💚(I don't have a white heart emoji)

@KimBedene 9 ай бұрын

Wonderful, glad you enjoyed it! 🤍

@lose999 10 ай бұрын

Thanks.

@danipeg4638 10 ай бұрын

I was very much shopping too and than started selling items - I can underwrite this advice from you - you expect never that you get so less money from your stuff but this is really mind changing 👍 for me I am not more shopping addicted and buy only stuff which is really important, necessary or good for combination 👍 great video 🙏 thank you very much for sharing 💖

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

So true, thanks for sharing! 😘

@annagavrenkova6524 10 ай бұрын

Great advice agree 100%

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

I'm glad you liked it 🥰

@gemmabarker3482 9 ай бұрын

Thanks for another great video full of helpful advice, Kim! I’m not a big shopper, and do the targeted strike shopping you suggest, but my source of frustration atm is not being able to find the things I want (in my size/budget/sustainability preference). Trends seem to dictate soooo much of what’s available these days. Please can you share what you do in this situation?

@KimBedene 9 ай бұрын

Thank you! 🥰 I can soooo relate to this, I have the same problem, and to be honest, when we're really picky that's what happens unfortunately 🙈 But how I approach this is like this: 1.) If the item is not creating a gap in my closet, then I keep looking for the perfect 10, as long as it takes me and as frustrating as it is. 2.) If the item on my wishlist is really important and is creating a huge gap in my wardrobe, I am willing to make a slight compromise and I buy something that I would still like to wear, but maybe the quality or every details is not 100%, and that buys me time so I can search in peace. Usually for me that means buying something a little bit cheaper and lower quality, so I don't spend too much money on it. Also, what I just recently did is I went through my wardrobe and did some alterations, so maybe option 3.) can be to alter your own clothes, or buy something second hand and then alter it to fill the gap in your closet, so you can search in peace. I know it's not ideal, but I hope it still helps 😉❤️

@gemmabarker3482 9 ай бұрын

It does - thank you!@@KimBedene

@NatalyaZolotaryova 10 ай бұрын

It's really comfortable to track wardrobe in aclosed app

@kimvilleneuve2543 10 ай бұрын

I love your videos. I have a shopping addiction. I think it’s getting better but sometimes I don’t think it’s getting better. I shop and then I feel guilty and return most of it. Not sure if it’s buying things or just shopping is something I really enjoy. ☹️

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

I know it can be difficult, but just keep going and you'll get there sooner or later 😊 Whenever I can't seem to change something in my life, I keep experimenting and searching for new perspectives until I have that mental shift, and then I know I am forever changed. For my shopping habits, it wasn't just one thing, I needed to do all five that I mentioned in this video before I had the shift, so hopefully it helps you too ❤️

@alamedadanceparty 9 ай бұрын

I’m sure you can get past your addiction as you become more self aware. It’s difficult, but you can get there! In addition to what Kim suggested, it could also be helpful to consider your triggers. Just start writing down what emotions you are feeling before you want to shop. What is happening? What are you feeling? Spend 3 minutes and write it down. You might start to see a pattern. For me, when I feel overwhelmed, I want to escape and then I tend to do any number of my “zone out” activities - shopping, procrastinating, scrolling online, smoking 🌿, eating sweets, etc. If you see a pattern in your emotional triggers you can start to replace healthy coping mechanisms- going for a walk, calling a friend, turning the phone off, dancing, etc. - whatever works for you. This is a very powerful cognitive behaviour approach that can work wonders. I hope you find positive ways forward in your attempt to limit unhealthy habits. 🙏

@kimvilleneuve2543 9 ай бұрын

@@alamedadanceparty thanks for the information. I also think I have a fear of missing out on a great pair of shoes or the perfect pair of jeans. I shop at winners a lot. So I like to go almost everyday.

@alamedadanceparty 9 ай бұрын

@@kimvilleneuve2543 In that case maybe the mindset of being grateful for what you have will make you not crave what you don't have. It's always easier said than done! Over time you can get to where you want to be, I'm sure!🙂

@kimvilleneuve2543 9 ай бұрын

@@alamedadanceparty Thank you. 😊

@stephanieadditon7054 10 ай бұрын

Selling the clothes changes the GAME. It sucks how much you get for the items.

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Yup, it really does, hehe 😅

@doragleichgewichtjetzt375 10 ай бұрын

There are Apps for tracking at no cost. No need for time consuming 2010 excel sheets. I miss a bit of contemporary elements, the wardrobes look so much full of logo and synthetic

@nicolefco9698 10 ай бұрын

Great video. New subscriber here ❤

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Yay, I'm happy to have you here! ❤️

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@aleksandraljubovic2641 10 ай бұрын

💖 I don't have the white one 😉

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Hehe, it still counts 😘❤️

@christellebezuidenhout4440 10 ай бұрын

Love your channel 🤍

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Aw, thank you! 🤍

@Stefanie272 10 ай бұрын

Very helpful thank you 🤍🤍

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Yay, I'm glad it's helpful 🤍❤️

@antisocial_woman 9 ай бұрын

You are so beautiful and so similar looking like my mother.❤

@KimBedene 9 ай бұрын

Thank you! ❤️

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@angorachic 10 ай бұрын

🤍 First video of yours I have ever seen. Great video! Just liked and subscribed.

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Aw, I'm glad you enjoyed it and I'm happy to have you here! 🤍

@juliehanson1175 10 ай бұрын

🤍Lots of food for thought here. I also think you differentiated between being the person you want to be vs. your fantasy life. The former is better than the latter.

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Thank you 🥰 I agree, fantasy is not really helpful, and it can sometimes even worsen our progress vs. who we want to become can be really powerful and motivating 😉

@tarski7420 10 ай бұрын

Thank you! 🤍

@rozanar12 10 ай бұрын

Yey, I like it

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Yay, I'm so glad! ❤️

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@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

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@catherinelightsey5797 10 ай бұрын

🤍 Brilliant tips! Thank you!

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful! 🤍

@julielanderjensen480 10 ай бұрын

🤍 Lovely and helpful video as always ❤

@KimBedene 10 ай бұрын

Aw, thank you Julie! 🥰❤️

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Thank you for the tips ~ 🤍

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Love your videos and the way you think and analise and organise your life and closet, kitchen stc. 🤍🤍🤍

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Glad you like them! 🩷

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