The Rebellion is Here - We Created It, We Can Solve It | Katherine Winter-Sellery

The Rebellion is Here - We Created It, We Can Solve It | Katherine Winter-Sellery | TEDxCWRU

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Katherine Winter-Sellery discusses some of the secrets behind effective parenting through inspiring personal and worldly stories from the past. Katherine Winter-Sellery, wife, mother, international coach, philanthropist, global citizen, founder of the Conscious Parenting Revolution, passionate advocate for mental health and reform. Sellery has been coaching parents, children and executives on conscious communication for over 16 years, is a trained mediator and breathing meditation teacher for the Art of Living Foundation. Sellery’s work and theory of change, is focused on healing transgenerational dysfunction, due to personal experiences from childhood to motherhood. Sellery served on several notable boards which includes Chairwoman, the Girl Scouts of America, Chair for the Cub Scouts of America, BOD / Executive Committee of the American Club in HK, currently serves as Chairwoman, Founder of the Mental Health and Mental Fitness Summit, with the primary mission to change the landscape, dialogue and policies around mental health. Her personal goal is to provide solutions, tools and preventative non-violent transformations to enforce safety in our communities.” This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@sergeypestovskiy 2 жыл бұрын

I wish there was a way for every teacher to see this! Some of the smartest people I grew up with were labelled as 'bad' kids because the adults in their life couldn't interact with them on a level that was actually engaging.

@judeblyth3606 2 жыл бұрын

I was given that label...

@garydusing3123 2 жыл бұрын

Yes it's about time we started treating children with the same dignity and respect that we demand of them!

@elaineward1925 2 жыл бұрын

22 years ago I had a Music teacher who taught us a song "Kids are people too". She unleashed something in me when I understood that. I was the child who would ask her teacher why her tone was so angry sounding, or why we had to comply with something when we didn't want to do it. Many times my desk was pulled to the hall, or to the front of the classroom, facing the chalkboard with my back to the teacher and class. I am still considered defiant. Hearing Katherine and hearing about her kids, I know in my heart more of us are becoming like this and it will become the norm. You are brilliant Katherine, thank you.

@aliayvance 2 жыл бұрын

Oh wow.... I really hope my little one never has to deal with this.

@williammathews1648 2 жыл бұрын

That judge is an inspiration. This is giving the necessary support a person needs to repair and mend from their indiscretions. This is what the legal system should be.

@_mama_tea_6590 2 жыл бұрын

A rare person in the judicial system for sure

@taylorpjansen 2 жыл бұрын

We are all so aware of many of these concepts, but punishment is ingrained in our society and how we were raised. Challenging this is truly the revolution we need.

@cattunes 2 жыл бұрын

This is such an interesting story and creates a really lovely perspective. It's true that you feel differently towards yourself and the world when you feel loved and important, and if you can practice compassion for people who don't feel this way it's a great way of carrying that forward.

@theauthenticchilleddog 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, thanks for emailing me this!

@nataschaweiss 2 жыл бұрын

Every parent to be should see this!

@phillipnorris3rd 2 жыл бұрын

I agree

@dextersalinas 2 жыл бұрын

We are recovering from generations of compliance to an unknown power and as kids are given space to stretch these boundaries, us adults who have been conditioned are confronted by these kids living the truth they longed for.

@_mama_tea_6590 2 жыл бұрын

This is why we need a rebellion!

@eddieakpabio 2 жыл бұрын

There is a message here that needs to spread into all education systems let alone our social understanding.

@kaymitchell4935 2 жыл бұрын

Finally someone is talking about this! So often you'll see children treated in a way that's 'acceptable' when it's clearly gaslighting, and no one notices or says anything!

@sarahyjames 2 жыл бұрын

So true, it's really heartbreaking.

@brandawoodword 2 жыл бұрын

100% agree Kay!

@barbfilbert 2 жыл бұрын

She is sooo gooooood!

@sarahyjames 2 жыл бұрын

@@barbfilbert agreed.

@kaymitchell4935 2 жыл бұрын

@@barbfilbert true - she is!

@charlotte-may9193 2 жыл бұрын

Thinking external discipline will teach internal self-control is the norm, and because of this people do not feel they are doing well unless they are externally validates or keep going until they are told no. Katherine’s thinking is the revolution! Wow!

@josuelepiere 2 жыл бұрын

14:00- this needs to be heard and spread wide. This issue isn’t the moment when tragedies happen, the issue is the thoughts and underlying causes that lead to the moment of the tragedy.

@magnuskarlsonn 2 жыл бұрын

I remember visiting friends houses when I was a child and being so shocked by the pressure their parents put on them. One time, a friends mother had bought us both ice-cream (we would have been 6ish) and their mother looked at them and started cleaning the mess around their face saying ‘why are you so messy, look at your friend (me), look how tidy he is when he eats ice-cream, why can’t you be more like that’. Even at that age, that made me so uncomfortable to be used as a comparison for someone to be punished. This has stuck with me and I always let kids be messy and have fun because of that.

@johnathanbrayton 2 жыл бұрын

This woman has so much amazing knowledge and honestly is just a breath of fresh air in regards to her views on parenting.

@destiny-cole 2 жыл бұрын

This talk is an eye opener when it comes to dealing with kids, this is a must watch.

@thebusker1609 2 жыл бұрын

You beat me to this one, I like it...

@channelcannes 2 жыл бұрын

This isn't what I expected when I saw this posted and read the title, it's actually much more important than I thought it would be.

@dpesca 2 жыл бұрын

Children are so much more susceptible to those non-verbal cues than we give them credit for!

@florenciaconde3817 2 жыл бұрын

Love this message of supporting people to find that internal locust of causality. Great message.

@sashapetrovic1678 2 жыл бұрын

So much happens unconsciously and we project that on children. We need to do better for the future

@snakejohnson2740 2 жыл бұрын

The title is so right, we have become so used to the norm that we believe the norm must be right, and then right there we stop a discussion about what might be better.

@katyabradova 2 жыл бұрын

I think a lot of unnecessary trauma is created through parents or other adults just not understanding, messing it up and doing zero to fix it. This talk gives me a little hope around that changing.

@CarolineSouthwellDotCom 2 жыл бұрын

OMG, I love this SOOOOO much. Thank you so much, Katherine and TEDxCWRU.

@evanmosk 2 жыл бұрын

Perhaps we ensure that our kids are being adequately educated and they have a support network - things that have been lacking for a long long time.

@suebakernottly 2 жыл бұрын

I agree!

@nanburkhardt 2 жыл бұрын

Oh this is so real for me. I can still remember being a child and having people just railroad or completely ignore me and it was infuriating.

@geraldemery1417 2 жыл бұрын

I believe children have so much to say about things we adults are unconsciously conditioned to not say and there is great value in that. Though children are still learning and growing and coming into themselves. I feel that providing boundaries where they can speak these truths is vital, and it is also vital that we as adults can identify when they need to move into bigger containers, even if that contain is bigger than the one we ourselves are residing in. There is a lot of self awareness needed to ensure the future is better for all.

@_mama_tea_6590 2 жыл бұрын

This is why talks like this are so vital

@rubylcharlotte 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks Katherine, a talk and advice that is so needed right now.

@raphae-landres 2 жыл бұрын

Love this, good ted to send me!

@bradcouper 2 жыл бұрын

Looking at my nephews, we sure do.

@nothx3299 2 жыл бұрын

Katherine is a genius. I can't believe how she is able to articulate so many of these things, brilliant!

@hortonm554 2 жыл бұрын

Great talk, Katherine, as always!

@leotencall 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, I'm so into the knowledge and awareness that's being shared here.

@kaspergardon 2 жыл бұрын

I think we have forgotten what it was like as a child, full of wonderment and hope and promise. And now we are scared and we teach our children to be the same.

@jackrichards9402 2 жыл бұрын

Projection. It's a thing.

@agcocoa 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, so true

@mariaciacci 2 жыл бұрын

We are definitely in a collective time of facing the things that have hindered our healing and development. Katherine, EPIC work you are doing.

@lanceabbott1994 2 жыл бұрын

Came for the rebellion, stayed for the message. Thank you

@nohadiesl 2 жыл бұрын

How lucky her kids are to have her as their mom! They are they next generation and this gives me hope.

@stewynotthedog 2 жыл бұрын

Kids just know, but they don’t have the tools to be able to communicate what they are observing and feeling effectively. Instead, they act out and fight back. Communication comes in many forms, we just have to find the core of what they are trying to express

@noahjerted 2 жыл бұрын

Such and engaging talk. Fantastic message...

@ImSushmitha 2 жыл бұрын

Great talk, so important.... thank you!

@agnespuentes 2 жыл бұрын

I adore her!

@kaiaomanaia 2 жыл бұрын

She is absolutely right, children are dismissed so often when a lot of the time their insight and perception is better than most adults!

@I-Am-june-day 2 жыл бұрын

Too often. Their ideas, their perspectives are so important.

@iamlaylathomas 2 жыл бұрын

Can we solve the rebellion? We can't even talk these days with out battles!

@happyamandaryan 2 жыл бұрын

Compassion. It is power.

@wadecampster 2 жыл бұрын

This talk is simply amazing, there is so much great quality information he here for not only parents, but also individuals.

@ianrendle 2 жыл бұрын

I can't think of any time in my life where the reward and punishment system worked towards cultivating an actual safe place, or even any real respect.

@bazzadexter 2 жыл бұрын

Katherine, I've seen a couple of your talks recently and I must say, the mission you are pushing is very much needed and I salute you and all your hard work!

@themarybasse 2 жыл бұрын

Here from her surviving one and my goodness she is a genius

@nelwashington 2 жыл бұрын

this was refreshing af to hear.

@gizmeaux 2 жыл бұрын

what's "af" mean or is that a typo?

@ihavebigpaws 2 жыл бұрын

Katherine has some really cool approaches to interacting with kids, she has a few other talks and all of them are really interesting.

@majorburns4550 2 жыл бұрын

What she says about children who question the people 'in charge' of them being labelled as 'bad kids' is so true, and kinda heartbreaking.

@whatmotivatesyou6449 2 жыл бұрын

agreed!

@chloesanduski 2 жыл бұрын

We can solve it, but we need to work as one, not all these opposing parts!

@RenitaWellmanPhD Жыл бұрын

Brilliant!!!!

@thomas-meyer 2 жыл бұрын

Gosh she would be the BEST Mom...😌😌😌

@carlyberstani 2 жыл бұрын

She certainly is, paving the way for future generations too

@Iamcarlosdanger 2 жыл бұрын

Education secretary I say, you have my vote Katherine!

@suebakernottly 2 жыл бұрын

haha, dont think she would want that!

@raewyngrezi7517 2 жыл бұрын

Carlos you are goofy!

@Iamcarlosdanger 2 жыл бұрын

@@raewyngrezi7517 😜 🤪

@milesprimrose5990 2 жыл бұрын

Good talk!

@nolanrylee3993 2 жыл бұрын

I hope we can solve it, these days I am not sure about anything.

@haleeisener 2 жыл бұрын

Malala is such a great example of a young person using all she has for good.

@IAmScoobeyDamIt 2 жыл бұрын

beat me here, saw this link too, she is awesome.

@henryhunterthenobleone 2 жыл бұрын

She's also a great example of what we should be trying to avoid in society so that other young people don't have to go through what she did

@fahrithegreat 2 жыл бұрын

Kids are very intune. As you age it all becomes filtered.

@shveitta 4 жыл бұрын

Loved it .. 🙏🙏

@lesliecrossI 2 жыл бұрын

She's incredible!

@cyruslandon 2 жыл бұрын

So much about traditional parenting is just wrong... We are adults for so much longer than we're children. This rebellion is definitely needed!

@investmentguru1394 2 жыл бұрын

Is there an environment for truth. Oh yes.

@anton1949 2 жыл бұрын

"Little pitchers have big ears" - John Prine

@billconconi 2 жыл бұрын

Thats cool..

@fenglov9111 2 жыл бұрын

Maybe if children were actually encouraged to speak up when they know they're being lied to, it would create a generation of adults who aren't constantly bullshitting each other!

@ayaanthetruth 2 жыл бұрын

I believe she's talking about conditioning for accepted behaviour.

@myadanco 2 жыл бұрын

We can't handle the truth.

@bryceaustinshields 2 жыл бұрын

What a reality check.. Phoaw.

@simonoshlor 2 жыл бұрын

Truly. I am amazed.

@theclassicraphaelsanchez 2 жыл бұрын

A few common phrases - behaviour is a symptom - if you don't go within you go without. Listening to my inner voice is a bit like,..and who the heck is talking now.

@magnusseverson 2 жыл бұрын

Sharing with friends who want kids...

@Velereonics 2 жыл бұрын

In summary: "Parenting hard let's just let kids figure it out" Kids aren't given the same respect as adults because they don't have the awareness and self control to know and choose good and/or productive actions. And no, one person's children do not defeat that stance.

@tibogoth 2 жыл бұрын

We learn from our mistakes, children must be given the freedom (within reason) to have autonomy, when they realise and learn the consequences of bad decisions and the like, wiring is formed in their brain to help them move forward. Otherwise we create scared, anxious and struggling beings.

@dr.timwalls 2 жыл бұрын

I'm genuinely shocked by some of the stuff I see parents do to their kids, especially in public. Like spare a thought for how that impacts them, please!!

@cowboycodyvance 2 жыл бұрын

I see so many new parents raising free range kids, who are just out of control. You can't be near them as they will do anything to anybody without regret or consequences.

@cool-cat-guy 2 жыл бұрын

Greta is the smartest person in the world!

@eleanorrigbywhatdoesitmean 2 жыл бұрын

She's a lot more than just smarts.

@clairbradshaw1351 2 жыл бұрын

i'm rich i was only joking

@clairbradshaw1351 2 жыл бұрын

cash me outside how about dat?

@fantastic.shoppingaddict 2 жыл бұрын

The way we treat children is so unfair - it's no wonder so many grow into antagonistic teenagers.

@robertskolimowski7049 2 жыл бұрын

All good and important, for sure, still, the daughter shouldn't have hit the other kid and her mum should've made that clear to her, thus with all the other wise words the woman said there that daughter story really lessened her credibility for me.

@morefunallthetime 2 жыл бұрын

I think you missed the point of why.

@robertskolimowski7049 2 жыл бұрын

@@morefunallthetime Oh, care to enlighten me then, please? Plus, whatever it is that I missed it's still appalling that she failed to see how blind and unhealthily biased she was in her daughter story, hitting is hitting and ought to be called out.

@morefunallthetime 2 жыл бұрын

@@robertskolimowski7049 only a man would answer like you have, care to mansplain more?

@robertahvieira 2 жыл бұрын

@@robertskolimowski7049 She did get called out, by the teacher and her mother - but she also let her daughter express her feelings as to what lead to that behaviour.

@robertskolimowski7049 2 жыл бұрын

@@robertahvieira Nope, by her mother she did not, the mother seemed more concerned about defending her daughter's 'good name', nothing wrong ofc with that and with trying to investigate what led to the incident, but, again, should've still made that clear to her daughter that hitting someone is never right.