Plus he clearly likes to cut his own hair.

Having a child in your life means you have to do adjustments. Her having botox on the other hand doesn't affect him at all 😒😒

Tbh I don't think it's unreasonable to not want someone getting botox to potentially wind up as a mother figure in your child's life. Like maybe that not what he was thinking, but that's where my mind went

@@amentrison2794 can I ask why that would be an issue?

@@zay_novada so, I want to be clear that I'm not saying people who get botox shouldn't be mother's or anything like that, but fundamentally that comes from the idea of not liking how you look so getting procedures to physically alter your body. And I understand not wanting that to be a trait of the person your young daughter may end up looking up to and potentially end up wanting to copy.

Oh I didnt even look at it like that. Youre right, I wouldve been so discouraged and just wanting to go home and cry if that were me

I hope she realised that at least the “you don’t work out enough” seemed to genuinely come from their differing lifestyles, not her looks. It sounds worse than her saying he works out too much, but I think both of them just genuinely meant their lifestyles aren’t compatible. I hope instead of feeling bad about herself she realised these other people are pretty weird and she probably won’t like any of them.

@@JasminMiettunen i think thats probably what he meant but good god does it come off terribly

@@JasminMiettunenthe difference is he didn’t say “for me” or “in my opinion” he just said “you don’t work out enough” period

That's 100% the vibe I got too. Unsurprising that this show about forcing people together and pressing for insensitivity is starting to show cracks like this

I see that but it also seems like fitness nuts can be like that in dating situations. People who go to the gym constantly on dating apps always seem to want someone who is as hooked on it as them. If you went everyday you'd definitely have a favorite exercise

Exactly 😭 In case anyone doesn't know, quizzing people you just met is such a huge turn off. "Oh you like video games? Who was the creator of Mario and what was his blood type??" It's like they want you to prove something to them when they don't even know if you're interested so why do you have to prove anything to this random guy? I've definitely called people out for doing this to me 🙃

Oh is that an acdc shirt? Name three albums then?

@@techne360 thats true, but he didnt seem to be quizzing her knowledge but wanted to know what did she like

oh you listen to dainty gonzalez? name 3 songs

Fr bruh and they messed him up with that urinal thing

@@hablex1211 lol that's not that bad. My coworkers are mean in a friendly way..if I were a guy I could totally see my male coworkers tapping/pushing me at the urinal (or at least acting like they were gonna do so 😅

@@curryascocarrasco4829ok but his fear is irrational, so it’s bad for him.

it’s an all expenses paid date(i think), why would he choose that idk

@@honeynutsocki think the game chooses a first date for them iirc. I believe the $1 margaritas was a reference to the fact they they’re both teachers and make very little money

THIS.

Idk to me it felt like the shows roundabout way of getting more content. The way he was super chill and then pushed the button on her out of spite just didn't seem to match. It's like they were gonna date but they told her to hit it to extend the vid, which is also why he got brought back (which I've never seen happen as well). He was chill about her hitting it and cut her off cus she didn't actually wanna, and then him being brought back and hitting it was just so they could get a couple more people. Granted I also wouldn't blame him for hitting the button but I also don't think she's in the wrong for wanting to be careful cus with one date you don't really know who that person is. Maybe I'm just thinking too much into it tho.

@PrincessOfHell See, I would understand this perspective more if she willingly just went home without getting a second date with anyone. True, it's possible to feel unsure after one convo, but to bring him back because you weren't feeling the others under the same one convo circumstances also seems disingenuous. I too, could be overthinking it, but from my perspective she should have left Xavier alone after she rejected him 🤷🏿‍♀️

I agree. And then she said she wanted to talk to him more after she rejected him. He asked you to get margaritas and that would have been in private. Why not take that chance?

Yeah It didnt set well for me that she was essentially saying people are just options to her like on a catalogue and she can go back and choose whoever she wants, I had a guy do tht to me once and it does not feel great lel

Yeah I think the only reason she didn’t accept that guy was because she wanted to be on the show more

I feel like they set him up by making the topic about urinals lol. If they had just talked about cosplay or something they might have hit it off better

I kind of feel like they would make really good friends. I don't see them being romantically involved though.

It's also possible that the show itself discouraged a win because it was too early in the video and they needed it to be a certain length. Who knows.

The guy was also just really nice. Didn’t let the game pull it’s typical bullshit on her, which I’d appreciate in that situation lol. Encouraging her and saying it’s okay to reject him also feels like a breath of fresh air

I'd wanna get out of there too like she did. Not fun if you're getting shit on for little things

So you can say people work out too much and obviously judge if they have a child but when you don’t like Botox your somehow the bad guy. Y’all need to get better self esteem clearly if you get Botox not for migraines you are lacking it.

@@Kyal- you shouldn't be shaming people either way. Work out or not. Botox or not. She didn't shame the guy for having a kid, in fact she thought about it and said it wasn't a deal-breaker. But those men were very quick to judge her. She only threw it back at the guy for working out too much, because he was judging her for not working out enough and it was all he was talking about. Don't make working out your personality it gets old. Her Botox when it has been noticeable if she didn't say anything

@@sydneyice he literally didn’t say anything bad about her working out he was just asking questions until she judged his lifestyle, and she spitefully said she would get more Botox. You guys clearly look for any reason to excuse the females behavior. She clicked the button twice and then left. She LITERALLY judged both of them before the judged her. What if he wants someone he can go to the gym with? Because you don’t work out you think he is judging? That’s peak low self esteem and self importance. You all are biased as hell.

i think he meant it as you dont go to the gym enough as in she didnt know any like "gym FACTsssssss" like those super gym ppl who know all about workouts and protein shakes lol... i dont think he meant it based off her appearance. botox guy suckedddddddddddd

Also “can’t take a joke” to me sounds like code for “I make racist and sexist comments and people get upset with me for some reason.” Like I guess he defined it as joking insults but I would’ve gone straight to assuming he was into offensive “humor”

Yeah when he said that it was definitely a red flag to me that he makes offensive jokes, tons of guys at my high school used the “you just can’t take a joke!” defense

Just got out of a relationship with a guy who said similar things to “can’t take a joke.” I tried to have thick skin but he made jokes about my height, teeth, told me my smile was creepy, etc., and it got to the point where he told me more degrading jokes than compliments and it became hurtful, even if that was his way of joking. He justified it by saying that if I made similar jokes about him, he wouldn’t be offended but I am not in the practice of veiling insults as “jokes” so I barely ever dished it back and when I did put an edge on a joke he’d be like “woah what was that for” since I usually only did it when annoyed. Huge red flag. Poking fun at people is ok from time to time but if you have to issue a disclaimer in advance and make justifications along the way then it’s likely you’re making excuses for yourself to be plain rude. At least that’s what I’ve observed

@@insipidwallflower565 glad you got out of that relationship. You were legit being verbally abused

It shows they have no respect for boundaries, they possess zero social awareness, or lack any sense of tact or good taste. Often it's some combination of these three things. Yes, you can say what you want. No, nobody is obliged to simply put up with it if they don't like what you're saying.

That same phrase makes me anxious too, but that's because I've had toxic partners who would use my sensitivity against me and say hurtful things, and then say "you can't take a joke I guess" when I said it hurt me. But I can absolutely understand why this would make you tense too, because you would feel self conscious about not always picking up on tone or context in a situation. BUT also, it may not be you that's the issue here. Just putting that out there. Lol

Nah people use it as a cop out when they get called out for saying fucked up shit

@@rahwat3489 agreed 100%

@@rahwat3489 exactly! as soon as he said that i was like “what does he mean by that..” bc everytime i’ve been around someone who says something like that, its because they say dumb shit. like those “dark humor” people who make jokes about shit they haven’t been through.

and there's a second button that also talks and won't stop asking uncomfortable questions

@@myguitarwantstokillyourmama and then they make a show where both contestants are buttons and there is a third button making it akward

@@Sir-Taco and instead of wearing Native deodorant they do nothing because they're all buttons

@@myguitarwantstokillyourmama and all the viewers are buttons, you are a button, you are a button , you are a button , you are a button , you are a button , you are a button , you are a button , you are a button , you are a button , you are a button , you are a button , you are a button

@@Sir-Taco i want my mommy, but alas, she is a button.

Also a black woman and it’s cool when people self check themselves and stop and question “am I falling for the aggressive black woman stereotype?” “Would I react the same way if she were white, or a man?”. I’m glad we know misogynoir exists but when accuse others of being racist or excuse bad behavior bc of someone’s identity we aren’t being treated equally and that also sucks.

also a black woman but i have nothing new to add i just wanted to put another comment on this thread so maybe jarvis will see it cuz both of you are completely right

@@svnnci :)

@@hhh1234h he said the things he did ab her cuz she was actually being obnoxious and rude, he didn’t say it cuz she was a black woman so that doesn’t apply in this situation. But yeah I get it :)

I was REALLY confused when he said he was accused of being racist. Like???? We're talking about JARVIS yall!

I just thought about that and I would not be able to find that sexy at all 😂

🤣🤣🤣

LMFAO

i SPIT oh my god lmfaooo

I was gonna suggest a nickname but I could only think of Bon-Bon which I think is somehow words...

omg that literally sounds traumatizing

*it’s not irrational if you have a reason for it*

Dude this would be horrifying. Going to the bathroom is a very vulnerable position. Middle school boys are ruthless.

Ngl middle/high school boys ard just so weird. That's an odd stage in life for men.

No cus the dude did have logic... Jarvis literally said that. Xavier spent like a whole minute explaining why he is scared of them??

@@princessofhell4639 I mean you can be afraid of spiders because of very standard reasons, but its a phobia if it impacts your life. Like say if seeing a spider makes you panic even on tv. Or if you fear the dark (a natural human instinct cus we can't see to know whats there) if you scream and panic if the light goes out or closing the bathroom door for a sec before you hit the light then thats an irrational level even if its based on logic. like fear of heights... logical you can die. But if you get on a ladder and your head swims and you sweat then its an "irrational fear" or phobia. Its more about how much it affects you. If you use a urinal and constantly watch over your shoulder and get genuine panic then that is an "irrational" level of fear.

I do agree it gets so stressful

ughhhhh I’ve drowned like 3667 times because of that already

you know men's bathrooms, famous for their strong winds. like a hurricane in there.

Them air hand dryers are too powerful!

I am a deer and with my tiny hooves it is very hard to stay standing in a urinal I sympathize.

yeah that confused me too,, people have done that lots of times in the past so why not this time ?? but ig they might have cut out more of the conversation than we can tell

I especially don't get it when they're in the middle of asking or explaining something, like, this isn't a race to see who can press it first??

@@marnenotmarnie259 if I'm not mistaken it was the last button b4 they would've "won" which is why they were discussing what they'd do for a date and stuff like that and why she said she'd wanna talk more but still hit it. It was either hit it or win.

I think she meant as a friend, not as a partner

PLSSSSS i nearly choked shkdsjsfk 😭😭

I, a trans guy, also have a fear of urinals. I think it’s like a universal trans experience XD

As an enby, I will never understand why someone decided communal pissing would be good and everyone was just cool with it? Toilets are in there too, why tf would you need a urinal? You know what, because of that confusion - I am also scared of them. WHY DO YOU EXIST 😂

@@sourgreendolly7685 My guess has always been it's faster and easier to keep clean but someone also decided men don't deserve urinals in an enclosure with the toilets which is just mean and seems counter productive. I've seen some in Europe and the Middle East that aren't open tho so not everyone is barbaric lol.

I saw a place on a road trip where each stall is like a very tiny separate bathroom. The womens ones had a toilet and a sink (and the walls and doors went all the way to the floor unlike the insecure, holey monstrosities you usually see here in the US) and my husband said the mens had a sink, toilet, and a urinal. The common part of the restroom where there’s usually all the sinks had a couple sinks, paper towels, a baby changing table, and a few full length mirrors. I don’t know why all restrooms can’t be like that. It was amazing. Only way it could have been better is to just maybe remove the ‘men’ and ‘women’ distinctions and just have a bank of stalls like that and a unisex common area.

@@thedestroyasystem I, as a fellow trans guy, also have a fear of urinals, and yeah, it probably is theyre just like. bro why are you letting middle schoolers do that you know theyre gonna get bullied

Agreed, or give them out at the end and get a few people to say good things about the scents. But the contrivance is obvious to the contestants too so it hurts the actual chemistry of the show, it’s a weird choice. Not one of the “oh it’s Native” inserts has created a good human exchange.

Xavier is a king! He's polite, he can take rejection, and he doesn't let people use him.

Keep watching Mr Nice Guy

That first girl was actually done kinda dirty lol, they gave her two really awful guys back to back. At least they were nice and let her leave

@@JupiHornet1 1st girl, for sure - other than gum smack guy (who may have just honestly forgot to take the gum out), I think the rest of the guys were just fine and all got rejected until the tall guy who looks like a young OBJ

I don’t see anything wrong with the simple statement that Bonko made. It is the same thing she said, but flipped. If I work out too much for you and I get the vibe you don’t like to work out, and it’s an important thing to me, I would say that you don’t work out enough for me. A dude like him wants someone that’s equally as enthusiastic about going to the gym as him. It has nothing to do with calling her out of shape or fat or anything imo. He’s expressing the same thing she did from the other side

@@kendra4932 that's not what he did though.

Oddly specific but true

Not a lot of people commenting on this but yeah I don't really feel happy for her getting a second date with the last guy. Speaking as a woman, it really saddens me watching these kinds of videos when women are so superficial about height. It's not only really mean to the short guy but also kind of proves incels right? Like I'm sure the woman would think it was unacceptable/sexist for a guy to immediately ask "what's your bra size? hmm, under DD cup? sorry, not gonna work." But for whatever reason we as a society find it totally okay for women to be like "don't talk to me if you're under 6ft." Personally I find short kings pretty cute since it's an unusual quality that makes them special, and I have a lot of respect for them confidently going about their life despite being constantly ridiculed about their height. Surely we should all want to have a conversation with someone and care about their personality instead of instantly rejecting them because they don't have XYZ physical traits?

@@-Araina- Because boob and height is totally different. If you watched this video, the men are just as superficial as the women and no one says something about it. Also you act like short men are getting discriminated on the daily basis.

This usually comes from seeing women in a weird light, you should remind yourself women are just humans like men are, all of them are different, and most of them are just regular people. If you can talk to guys, you can talk to girls. You should try to socialise with girls without trying to get a date, try to find female friends, maybe at school or a hobby, where you have things in common and can talk about those things.

Treat everyone the same no matter their gender, that might help you become the same person to everyone, yaknow?

@@EmmaJohnsonShenanigans to clarify I was exaggerating when it comes to myself, I don’t actually have that problem. But it is true of a lot of guys that the only place they’re able to feel good about themselves is the gym so in order to feel okay more often they let it take over their lives

i feel like not being 100% sure you wanna go on a date after one conversation is a little different from not being committed in a long term relationship… maybe that's just me though

@Marné not Marnie She's not that special but she was hoping to find a f 6ft3 millionaire with abs... He was a backup safe choice to her. I wouldn't accept being a backup either

@@marnenotmarnie259 its a speed date though to choose someone you are okay with a second date for. She immediately said she would like to meet/talk more. As in a second date! She could have won the show. It was a strange choice, especially with her behavior toward the other guys and bringing him back!? Odd behavior

Idk I’ve never been on a dating show before so I was under the impression that’s what you’re supposed to do? It seems like in most dating shows, it is.

I mean my girl went on one date with him it's not shocking that she's be careful cus who knows how he is irl. Yk there's been serial killers on dating shows b4 (obvs not saying he is one just that we don't really know him and neither does she). So imo it makes sense she'd wanna see if she vibed with others. Also I have a theory that they mightve only hit the button cus the producers told them too so they can extend the episode (like she seemed to like him so it didn't really make sense she'd hit it and then it'd explain why he was so nice afterwards and didn't let her explain why cus the producers told him too to make it not look sus, then he comes back which I've personally never seen b4 then hits the button for revenge which seems totally out of character compared to the nice guy we saw b4, it's all just sus).

that was her most toxic moment-

@@mochihamster2794 the shit thing wasn't rejecting him! it was to expect him to go on a date with her after she made it clear she was just settling-

He has gentleman vibes

yes!! I noticed! They did the Short King dirty 😢

His personality made him attractive to me

Who

@@princessofhell4639 blond girl who told the guy he was working out too much

@@princessofhell4639 please repent Jesus loves you times almost up my friend.

No I think its weird that they had the same job and same hobby not that a teacher was a cosplayer it's just weird they both had it. Especially since cosplaying isn't the most common thing in the world.

he wasn’t criticizing he just wants someone who appreciates themselves and is natural. Everyone’s allowed preferences

that's exactly why he asked if it was a dealbreaker. many people don't want to date someone with children and he's just getting it out of the way early on to avoid having to deal with someone who doesn't want that kind of situation. it's perfectly reasonable to bring it up sooner rather than later.

Free space could be either "argues about who hit the button" or "hits button too early". Could also have a space for button says something sexual, gives an unfair first prompt and then someone gets defensive after being buttoned.

@@princessofhell4639 lmfaoo yeah

No you can tell with the tone/delivery and laugh afterwards it was an insult