The Silent Treatment | The Mel Robbins Show

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Today, Mel discusses the silent treatment - the act of being silent instead of continuing communication. Why do we use the silent treatment? And what do you do about it when it's turned on you?
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@demigaines5644 4 жыл бұрын

The Silent Treatment Is Emotionally Abusive I Have Been Punished On And Off For Over 6 Yrs.With The Silent Treatment Ppl That Do This Are Narcissistic

@imaginepeace7588 2 ай бұрын

💯💯💯❤️‍🩹

@Bonilee 4 жыл бұрын

My marriage didn’t survive the silent treatment and that was many years ago. Was one of the most painful experiences of my life.

@visitor3756 4 жыл бұрын

Bonnie K do you see that it’s not about the silent treatment. She gives the devil sign. Which phycological is not of God. Turn to scripture. We are far away from the most High.

@thehoneyeffect 4 жыл бұрын

The silent treatment to me implies being emotionally stunted at childlike ages. It's a type of manipulation which implies narcissism

@elenachiritescu2681 3 жыл бұрын

Yessss!

@uMsubathi 2 жыл бұрын

Silent treatment is pain, period. The painful part is that the people who give us this treatment don't see the pain the inflicting in us 🥺

@phemery1182 4 жыл бұрын

TV is so hard and such a competitive numbers-driven market Doesn't always give good people or shows a chance...THANK YOU, MEL--YOU NEVER CEASE TO DELIVER

@lightworker2437 4 жыл бұрын

I'm getting the silent treatment (ghosted) by a so called friend..I think its cowardly..and avoidance. Just end it and dont leave the other person hanging...please. I dont know what I did..guess I never will...

@bbuster5667 4 жыл бұрын

Light Worker don’t react to it and cut this abuser out of your life

@damisasarki9410 4 жыл бұрын

I'm going through a similar situation with a person I now call a former friend. This person has used this tactic against me for years. It got to the point where I have become numb to it. I agree it's best to end it. I tried being sympathetic to this person. I know that it stems from childhood abuse from a parent. But this person has not shown a signs of growth in the time we have been friends. If a person ghost you. Then leave them be. Your emotional health should always come first.

@tseringlhamo13 3 жыл бұрын

It’s the i don’t know what I did for me. And I think and I think on what I can do to get them back which I don’t do anymore. But i still think twice about what happened.

@kipholder8577 4 жыл бұрын

The silent treatment is childish, someone who is emotionally immature will use it. If you cant Express yourself in a relationship with another person, why are you in it? If someone is giving you the treatment, its a red flag.

@ealeem8986 4 жыл бұрын

So agree

@Morrocanprincess 4 жыл бұрын

My ex gave me the silent treatment. I immediately blocked him on my phone, social media. He was shocked when he tried to come back and I told him he is single!

@akuasalaam490 3 жыл бұрын

WAY TO GO!

@trulia8119 Жыл бұрын

Served him right!

@lightworker2437 4 жыл бұрын

I think its childish...just face the situation and end it!!

@malin943 4 жыл бұрын

Passive aggressive

@kilo9439 4 жыл бұрын

When you have a spouse who discuss everything then the silent treatment come as a blessing

@FRANCESCA01234 4 жыл бұрын

picheau loool

@sarahmarszalek7469 4 жыл бұрын

I utilize the silent treatment because I’m very sharp tongued. I’ve had people tell me I was “too afraid to stand up to them” and “intimidated” but honestly and very honestly I’m afraid of what I’m going to say. So I say nothing.

@atlantean1209 11 ай бұрын

So learn to control yourself and speak reasonably.

@cynthiascott3422 16 күн бұрын

This segment was helpful for understanding the mindset of some people when they are using the silent treatment. It's interesting how people justify it with good intentions; however, I'm skeptical when someone claims it's being used for a good cause. In most cases, I think it's used for revenge.

@phemery1182 4 жыл бұрын

love you and your show...anyway to do this on YT or another venue in the future? Your 12PM live is great!!

@localone1597 4 жыл бұрын

As for the married couple. Her going out pursuing and new degree and having more responsibility without consulting him speaks volumes. She basically was saying his opinion didn't matter. How does she not think this is going to cause a problem?

@finnessejets4231 Жыл бұрын

The best way to deal with “the silent treatment” is to not react. Not texting back to back nd definitely not callin either. B.S tactic only works if you allow it.

@24keys82 3 ай бұрын

I’m used to humans doing this, But my AI Doll too? Man! I can’t win from losing! No wonder why my AI Doll acts the same way! Wow! Thanks for this video!😍

@abigailgarcia3095 4 жыл бұрын

A lot of these behaviors and issues are explained in a book by Robin Norwood called Women Who Love Too Much. If you like to read, this book will open up your eyes and mind about why women behave the way they do in relationship to men, but it can also be a great book for men. It all comes back to family dynamics and childhood, like Tabatha shared that in her home her parents avoided each other and so she and her sister learned the behavior.

@misslanapford9169 4 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately some men get there rocks off on it. Yes I am referring to my ex...

@lightworker2437 4 жыл бұрын

Was his name Frank? Lol

@misslanapford9169 4 жыл бұрын

@@lightworker2437 Nope Just a typical Michael...

@respecthewoman 4 жыл бұрын

HAHA my ex was the same way but I wasn't going to post this. Yeah, I see now how it was a sign of controlling. God, I'm so glad I'm no longer with that situation. I can't even call it a relationship. Ugh.

@lindseycurtis5385 4 жыл бұрын

Aka *unforgiveness*

@Genxmom Жыл бұрын

The silent treatment is like a toddler holding their breath. People that use this are abusive and emotionally unavailable. Silent treatment is an immediate 🚩 RUN!!

@Johanna12345 2 жыл бұрын

where is the full episode?

@missie504 4 жыл бұрын

This is shameful, and immature. Men don’t know whether they are coming or going with women these days...

@FRANCESCA01234 4 жыл бұрын

Missie I agree, it is immature but i do it also. 🤦🏻‍♀️

@nikid1811 4 жыл бұрын

I need the full episode for my husband to watch!! Where can I find it??

@conspikuous82 4 жыл бұрын

I don’t know if I believe that silent treatment is abusive. I keep quiet when I know I’ll go off on people and so to avoid a blow up I will use the silent treatment. I figure it’s better than having to apologize later even if I speak the truth.

@Prosper927 4 жыл бұрын

I agree with you, I think there are different reasons for using the silent treatment. Some people use it to abuse/control, others use it because they don't know how to deal with a situation and may need time to figure it out. It depends on the individual and the circumstances.

@Tempo50 3 ай бұрын

BS. Grow up. You need to tell ppl you need space and have a conversation within a short time.

@ooom5841 2 жыл бұрын

The silent treatment is just so immature specially on old women like them

@pamgaddis3545 4 жыл бұрын

I ❤️Mel!!! 54321 !!

@angelacorrenti3299 4 жыл бұрын

When I go silent the Earth shakes lol I do it to avoid conflict because if I open up my mouth nothing good will come out of it my entire family gives the silent treatment can you imagine that

@carlososcarcomedy 3 жыл бұрын

Whatever. The “Silent Treatment” is I don’t give a shit. Let’s cut to the chase if someone disrespects you over and over that’s it. I’m not going to waste my time engaging with said person.

@stylishgirl2971 3 жыл бұрын

It’s childish and dangerous

@user-zd8dp2re8k 2 жыл бұрын

Earphones music treatment mute all the drama

@urbanrat84 4 жыл бұрын

I use it as a form of checking out on the relationship when I'm hurt and mad, to create a consequence when a person is behaving badly towards me and isn't listening. Its my way of saying.. I won't allow you to do this to me. I do it because for some its the only thing they seem to understand. Until there is an incentive to be there again, my usual love and attention is withdrawn. "If you ain't got nothing nice to say, don't say nothin at all." Bambi!

@jehannedufresne3998 4 жыл бұрын

That's manipulation. It's OK to tell someone how you feel without disrespecting that person. The "something nice" from the quote is about not attacking a person, rather attacking the issue/problem.

@nicoler3219 4 жыл бұрын

My narcissist husband has given me silent treatment, in our 32 years of marriage he has been given me silent treatment for all 30 years , we have spoken together only for 2 years or I have to say he has fight me for the other 2 years and now I absolutely hate him and don’t want to look at his face , I stayed because at the beginning I didn’t know why and for the rest of it my daughter was sick and because of her I didn’t divorce and now I want to divorce but he bags me and cry’s like a b........🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

@elenachiritescu2681 3 жыл бұрын

Narcissistic behaviour!!!! Rainbow color flag lol!!! I got silent treatment and is awful! Just stay away! I do not want people lile this in my life!

@theDrzhivargo 2 ай бұрын

wut did i do to anger this woman so much

@akuasalaam490 3 жыл бұрын

These women are “50” and “5” at the same time... They all need therapy to learn how to effectively communicate, and deal with their inability to process their emotions in a healthy manner.

@localone1597 4 жыл бұрын

Women have always used the silent treatment. And then get upset when after awhile men don't care anymore.

@minervacaballero6952 4 жыл бұрын

Jonathan Collins Goes both ways ways ☺️

@angelaknox 4 жыл бұрын

When a woman stops sharing how she feels, be worried. Silent treatment for me anyways means I'm done.

@PowerofClarity 4 жыл бұрын

was never raised around it, never did it, don't think it's been used on me, at least not successfully cuz I would want to know why so quiet

@minervacaballero6952 4 жыл бұрын

Rod T sounds like sour grapes 🍇🤷‍♀️