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The simple art of social attraction in 7 minutes.
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@shortestcomment6445 3 ай бұрын
3. Make others crave you. Make people talk about themselves, using the ping pong method: answer with personal experience, them ask a question 2. Don't take things too seriously; smile; don't speak too fast and quietly 1. Talk to 1 new person per day; practise small talk. Visualize the person you're gonna approach as a old friend, to make your brain identify them as someone you already know
@theresponsibleuser90 2 ай бұрын
Thanks
@FlashDazz 3 ай бұрын
I spoke fastly because of speaking with a speed of thought. now I fixed this problem by holding thoughts and taking small gaps.
@KALOS_STHENOS0 Ай бұрын
so what do you like to do?
@vijaykumarreddyt3287 Ай бұрын
One way that works for me is i speak to people as if I already know them , it works most of the times Or just observe how kids becomes friends, we can learn from them
@ClaireLoprensa 3 ай бұрын
Problem with making others talk about themselves is that when they don't have the ability to ask questions back, the relationship would be one-sided; They don't know anything about you, which in turn makes you apathetic to them too.
@smhgrowth 2 ай бұрын
Yeah small talk can be weird sometimes but damn if u can get good at it
@thedailyrepost8337 Ай бұрын
@@smhgrowthyour reply did not address the issue this commenter was talking about.
@mylifeproject2406 Ай бұрын
I completely get you! It’s actually quite easy for someone to talk about themselves, especially if it’s sth to do with what they love personally. However, they kept rambling on and on and never ask you questions back or ‘how about you?’ So you start to feel like this person isn’t worth to be friends that much with, unless you see their genuine and pure hearts outweigh that then by all means go for it. So yeah, recently I’ve been trying to inject myself into these long rambles by halting and giving them my side to remind them that this is a conversation, not a lecture hall. It’s quite hard for me since I don’t want to talk about myself unless I see the other person genuine curiosity and interest to actually want to get to know me.
@kesuix1559 3 ай бұрын
You truly saved my life. I had crippling social anxiety. It got so bad to the point that I was so terrified and anxious when talking to even friends I talk to regularly that it physically hurt me. It felt like a bench was sitting on my heart and pulling me down to the floor (literally I can’t explain how of a terrible thing it was). And after seeing your video I slowly gained my social skills and confidence back I truly want to thank you
@smhgrowth 3 ай бұрын
I’m glad it helped G💪 Give yourself the credit too for the taking the action
@priyanshukhantwal6417 3 ай бұрын
its so relieving how suddenly you are changed.. i mean a complete personality change in a couple of hours.. I thought fighting phobias took minths years.. yet I'm very glad for you🌬️🍃
@KALOS_STHENOS0 Ай бұрын
how did you got rid of it ?
@donaldzuramp4404 3 ай бұрын
I like how you gave specific conversation examples unlike others that just say be confident and practice talking but doesn’t bother to give a context
@zura1. Ай бұрын
Zura
@EcomCarl 3 ай бұрын
Great outline for enhancing social attractiveness! Emphasizing the balance of listening and sharing in conversations can truly transform interpersonal interactions and build lasting connections. 😊
@rifarira9160 Ай бұрын
2:19 i'm in college and i can relate to this. i've done this so much it's become a red flag that say this convo most like aint goin no where. Interestingly, the most success i have is when i start to ramble about my self. Girls find it cute somehow...
@sophiaisabelle01 2 ай бұрын
We appreciate how well you've articulated your insights. Keep doing your best.
@tuomas_knives 3 ай бұрын
I can't watch this because the ghibli pics make me emotional and I can't concentrate on the video 😢 They're extremely important to me and make me feel something special nothing else does can so that's why
@smhgrowth 3 ай бұрын
Nostaligaaa maybe
@tuomas_knives 3 ай бұрын
@@smhgrowthit's nostalgia mainly. Seeing laputa as a really young kid made me fall in love with ghiblis instantly. All miyazaki's movies share a similar energy, which makes me feel miserable and incredibly sad. I don't know why. Maybe it's just my way of feeling when I watch something so beautiful. But it's really rare with any other art or movies.
@AR-jn6re 3 ай бұрын
i love all self imptovement content man (especially if it has anime).. just keep grinding and making vidios bro.. you are 1 in 700 trillion... i am also comenting for the youtube algorithm so that more people can see this!!
@smhgrowth 3 ай бұрын
Thank you man haha
@mandocomics 3 ай бұрын
I love your video style, man. This is exactly what I was looking for.
@noriibori Ай бұрын
The thing is one tiktok everybody wants you to speak fast but in reality speaking slow and with pause is much more suiting
@acinemalens 3 ай бұрын
As a man with social anxiety, this video looks like a helpful guide to overcome. Might not be an easy task to accomplish, but I’ll try my best to. Once again thank you so much for your advice~
@Fadesenju 3 ай бұрын
give this man a nobel prize
@smhgrowth 3 ай бұрын
🤚My pleasure
@Katrina-hl7js 24 күн бұрын
Thank you ❤
@joonie645 3 ай бұрын
So i had this very important exam due to which i isolated myself from everybody, i would just leave home to go to the library and i only spoke to the metro lady to get my ticket lol The exam got over 10 days ago and i thought i wont be in the miserable state any longer but turns out only the studying stopped, i still feel the same, miserable. i had so many plans after it got over but i have 0 interest in doing any of the things that made me happy. Just the thought that i will be doing those things made me so happy now when i have the time to do so i dont feel like doing any of that. Ive been at home mostly, i met a few friends but once im back home i feel like shit and super unproductive, im so used to studying and studyingg and studyingg, i feel like i have no joy in doing anything anymore and i think i need people to hangout with, cause that is the only time i feel good and like myself but the people i planned to spend time with, my friends are so used to me not being in their life, theyre busy with their gf/bf, they dont check up on me, and i was fine with being alone but its been like 6 months to this extreme isolation so i think it has started affecting me even more now. i just have a month to do everything i want, after which i will have to get back to studying and i really don't want to be this way for a month :( Ive been looking for events and workshops so i can get out of my house and socialize but i couldn't find any. i hate being at home everyday and just letting timepass :( i dont understand where to go, even if i wanted to leave the house i used to go to cafes alone to study, but it feels like i have no purpose now, and i dont feel like going to a cafe or doing anything alone :( im so confused, lost and lonely :(((
@Random-sz4xc 3 ай бұрын
You got this, you are not lonely in this problem
@joonie645 3 ай бұрын
@@Random-sz4xc that's sweet of you ❤️ thank youu
@Entrejai 3 ай бұрын
Just go to the gym
@joonie645 2 ай бұрын
@@JonathanDilson-gj2ld 🥺🥺 Thank you for commenting here I've been trying to talk to people randomly when I go out alone but I don't make a close friend as in somebody who I can talk to everyday I don't know if I should contact my friends again Cause they've left me on delivered or on seen for weeks And even after making plans to hangout they see my texts after a day saying they were busy and don't try to make plans by themselves I joined a football class and I made a new friend and after weeks of knowing him I took his contact today So I guess I have a new friend who I'll be seeing 3 times a week Makes me feel less lonely But I'm still lonely lol But I'm learning to be happy being with myself I took myself to the mall and I go shopping by myself too If I stay home I feel depressed Thank you for the suggestion!! I'll watch it tonight!! Thank you Jonathan :)
@joonie645 2 ай бұрын
@@JonathanDilson-gj2ld 🥺🥺 Thank you so much for commenting here I don't know if I should contact my friends again They've left me on seen or delivered for weeks and I asked them to hangout twice or thrice They saw my messages after a day and said that they were busy And never asked to make a new plan again Literally everyone has been that way I'm not mad or anything I get that they no longer feel my absence and must really be busy But I don't want to keep waiting for the same people so I decided to make new friends If they contact me I'm here to respond But If they don't then I'm going to let them go for the time being I joined a football class and after weeks of knowing a guy I got his contact today He made me feel less lonely for sure cause I got to talk to someone irl lol But ya didn't complete dissolve the fact that I was lonely But I'm trying to adjust and learn to live this way I know my life is not going to be this way and I will have friends again But if this is the time to go this phase then I'll go through it But I won't stop trying to meet new people and make new friends But even if I'm alone I'll be okay :) Btw which taxi driver? The Korean one or the English one? :) Thanks for the recommendation I'll watch it tonight!! Thank you Jonathan :)
@emperorliz 28 күн бұрын
Love this video
@FLM_OFF 2 күн бұрын
Great vid and facts I need do the ping pong method.
@2hameless 2 ай бұрын
I think the most important step is being funny. Just make jokes and lightly tease people. I also think there’s a line however, with people being obnoxious and annoying.
@therestlessanxiouschild 3 ай бұрын
I like that you're using Ghibli pictures ^^
@smhgrowth 3 ай бұрын
Nostalgiaaa
@havefuntazarasu5367 27 күн бұрын
1:30 make ppl talk about themselves 2:50 how to use their responses
@dxrksidius1637 3 ай бұрын
Great Video, I will actually apply this.
@smhgrowth 3 ай бұрын
We’ll keep u accountable
@abrahammorales3266 2 ай бұрын
This video is amazing!
@Unresolvedissues101 Ай бұрын
I just have a naturally quiet voice, its almost physically impossible to raise my voice.
@yourstruly.lovexox 3 ай бұрын
2:05 😭😭i choked
@smhgrowth 3 ай бұрын
😂 yo u alr?
@StyleofKings 2 ай бұрын
awsome content!
@shubhambalmiki1746 Ай бұрын
Me watching this video just to see if this video follows what I do 😂
@smhgrowth Ай бұрын
W
@sabeehkhan8638 Ай бұрын
I have quite an analytical and logical mind so whenever I'm in a conversation, I naturally give direct responses that the other person expects, how can I add more humour/wit ?
@smhgrowth Ай бұрын
I think you’ll prolly wanna elaborate more on your answers more then, like talk more so you give them something they can reply with. Watch the social confidence video I think I walked through that there
@papoy1962 28 күн бұрын
why is my guy sound like hes tired af
@smhgrowth 28 күн бұрын
💀 i was held hostage
@barry3834 Ай бұрын
just mimic serial killers like ted bundy
@ashishpatel9275 Ай бұрын
I study lawhh, Yeahhh
@axolotal7001 3 ай бұрын
Where do you get these anime compilations from?
@smhgrowth 2 ай бұрын
Tenor / giphy
@OleksandrSe 3 ай бұрын
What's the anime?)
@meekz4123 2 ай бұрын
🎉
@alvarforsberg5177 3 ай бұрын
should i still follow all these steps if im in school, (small one),?
@smhgrowth 3 ай бұрын
Yep
@nightshadow6523 3 ай бұрын
🎉1 liker ❤ your videos help bro.
@datbishded435 2 ай бұрын
I do not understand
@CalixGaming777 3 ай бұрын
watch 1.25x
@smhgrowth 3 ай бұрын
Was the pacing that slow hm🤔
@aclevercookie 2 ай бұрын
@@smhgrowthyeahh i watched at 1.5
@viktoriab4293 Ай бұрын
2x here
@havefuntazarasu5367 27 күн бұрын
@@smhgrowth annoyingly yes, it is ok when you speak like this to your gf in the bed, but to me it sounds cringe and wasting time
@markdelano8434 Ай бұрын
Doing the opposite so I can be alone
@Sorrus-B4lyfe Ай бұрын
= Be a anime guy. Every where you go is an attractive single woman looking for the main character to show up…
@jejehdh 3 ай бұрын
bonus tip to be good at talking to people: stop watching anime 💀
@harivanshchaudhary452 3 ай бұрын
😂😂👍👍
@khaledsanny4817 Ай бұрын
Imbec*le ... it has nothing to do with that
@lacunafantasy755 Ай бұрын
Are you insecure?
@harivanshchaudhary452 Ай бұрын
@@lacunafantasy755 how?
@TobiABC 24 күн бұрын
Best looking anime hater
@Derpysquidyboss 2 ай бұрын
E
@gluteusmaximus5094 3 ай бұрын
just so you know, i will watch the video but there are 13 seconds too much. i won't pay for that, sorry. ok bye now.
@interestingcomments5903 3 ай бұрын
OCD ?
@gluteusmaximus5094 3 ай бұрын
@@interestingcomments5903 c3po?
@o.k.a.r.i.n Ай бұрын
Shut up toby
@smhgrowth Ай бұрын
Who’s that
@nsp74 2 ай бұрын
your cursing made me stop watching your video instantly
@Faith_saves7 2 ай бұрын
Jesus Christ loves you all unconditionally and is the only true way to heaven. We cannot go to heaven by ourselves but by the sacrifice of Jesus and our faith in Him ❤ Life will be hard but God is the only true peace
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