What was one of your takeaways from this talk?

"Your pain probably is not your fault. But your healing is your responsibility." Dang... that hit me

• 5:00 living consciously • 6:20 self-acceptance • 8:12 taking full resposibilities for our lives • 10:06 self-assertiveness • 12:11 living a life with intention and purpose • 14:40 living with integrity

At 71, it's only the last few years that I have really gotten into what is real in this life and what makes me tick. I only started to seriously look at my life with the goal of change after my special needs daughter passed 3 years ago. I have had a lot of time since then and I have used it to clear fog that I have lived in for so long. This video is a major help. I've only seen a couple of your videos but subscribed right away. Thank you for helping to make things clear and providing some much needed information..

*Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself*

I'm so glad I happened upon you! I just turned 55 and I'm on a quest to finally improve my life. It really does start from within. I think I'm finally starting to believe that I AM ENOUGH. Thank you Julia.

Understanding that self-esteem is closely tied to one's thought patterns has motivated me to adopt a more positive outlook. Redirecting negative thoughts has been a transformative experience in my self-esteem journey.

My lack of assertiveness has caused my more pain than anything.

I've learned that when you speak up and assert yourself, people respect you much more. It rarely ever backfires. I cannot control how other people think or judge me.

Anxiety is like a Boogey Man. It comes to creep, haunt, and take the happiness, confidence, and life out of you.

The self-acceptance part spoke to me. There are so many people I've encountered in my lifetime that have told me in some form or another that I wasn't good enough for them. This goes back to my childhood. My self esteem has been under attack on and off since before I was old enough to know how to spell it. There's always someone out there willing to mercilessly go after it. They say everybody plays the fool. In my experience, many don't mind playing the part of the bully.

It's scary that I feel most of your videos speak to me directly. Dealing with insecurity most of my life.

“I am who I am right now” I love this part. Thank you!

✨One of the most important topics of all. Not feeling like we are enough is at the root of so many painful issues in our lives. Building self-esteem is critical to helping us truly understand we are worthy, good, exceptional .....we are always MORE than enough, even when we don’t feel that it is the case. Thank you for this. Sending light and love to this amazing community! ♥️

Biggest key for me to increase self esteem is to try to eliminate procrastination. If you succeed in doing a task (however small) successfully instead of sitting on your arse, it's amazing how this increases self esteem.

Speaking up is what I will work on & squashing the perfection in an imperfectly perfect world.

"You can't have a relationship with someone you can't trust" Well that hit home! I am working on a plan to deal with many things including my self esteem, so I am so glad I found this video which makes perfect sense and is very helpful. Thanks so much!

When you spoke to the "perfectionist brain" you were speaking to me. I needed to hear this. Thank you!

As someone who is nearing the end of my therapy sessions (after years of weekly meetings) these videos make me feel more confident about living life on my own. I'm a huge advocate for therapy, but it's kind of scary to think about the "what now" feeling after going for so long and then suddenly just, not. These short "check-in" sort of videos let me know that I can survive and more importantly thrive with my life because theres so much great information in every vid I've watched so far! I appreciate this channel a lot!

I love the B&W format. Mind altering concepts for success! Thanks Julia for sharing. You are awesome!

You come across as authentic, smart, caring and kind. You're adding so much to this world. You have helped me to better understand myself. Thank you Julia.

When you called out the perfectionists at the end of the video, I almost felt like you were calling me out personally because that was exactly what I was thinking 😂❤️

Hi Julia! I've been following the past few months and would just like to extend words of appreciation for your insights. It's been a struggle for me the past year trying to evolve and expand my mind, to opening up about my insecurities and feeling stronger about my sense of self, but your videos have helped a lot. They really have. Even when I'm slapped in the face with painful realisations I have come back for more. Thank you so much x

Thank you for your videos, Julia. As a fellow licensed therapist, I trust your content and share your videos with the folks I'm working with. Your healing is widespread! Namaste.

I’ve been working on my self-esteem for a while and still falter on certain days, this is a video I needed! I always love hearing your insight, one of my favorite channels hands down 🤍

I am only halfway through this video, but thank you so so so much for posting this. I've been in therapy for almost ten years, yet no one has brought up these things to me, despite everyone, both therapists and other people I've met during these years, commenting on my low self worth and self esteem. Thinking of these things and actively working on them feels like it might genuinely help!

You may not have control over your circumstances but you have control over your choices. 1. Living consciously 2. Self acceptance 3. Taking full responsibility for our lives 4. Self assertiveness 5. Living a life with intention and purpose, deciding what that is 6. Living with integrity

I rewatched this video immediately after watching it the whole way through. This is amazing stuff, thank you!! I’m going to check out your other videos now 💜

I haven't really figured out my purpose in life, but i roughly have pointed out two things : achieving my carreer goals and growing on that professional path and in general, living a life helpful to others, where i can help someone heal or just make them not feel alone through their struggles, whoever that person is, whatever relationship i have with them. These two keep me motivated to study more and also to grow and become better as a person, regardless of my academic success. What I need to work on, out of these six things, is the 2nd one, self acceptance and knowing even if i don't have my dream job yet, I am still worthy and I am still good enough, cause as you said, as a child i was told i need to be smart and successful, to be worth anything at all. Thank you for this invaluable content so much.

Excellent! I really needed this right now. You are such a beautiful person inside and out, Ms. Kristina. Thank you.

I've always been a perfectionist, but I'm learning to overcome this mindset and simply take action. Thank you so much for sharing this video - it's been incredibly helpful!

Your videos always seem to come up at the right time for me. Either you post one as I need it or your older one is suggested at just the right time. Tha k you so much for your content. You put forth valuable information.

Wow! Great advice! Thank you sooooooo much for your help!!! 💛💫✨ You are a bright light!!! 🙏💛

I love this. I think it is important to be gentle during this re-integration of self esteem for me. It can be triggering to discover your conditioning can be undone by you when people you were told loved you were being abusive. I love taking back my power and undoing their reign.

My self esteem has been so low for so long now that it almost feels like it’s just who I am. It’s like a rain cloud that follows me everywhere. This gave me a sense of hope and made me realise it doesn’t have to be my normal. Thanks for the inspiration,

Like you are super amazing. I went through a depression last year and I need to tune up every so often. This is what I needed today.

Thank you! I keep hearing this and hadn't until about three years ago. Appreciate your videos. It is all finally sinking in and becoming understandable.

Living integrity I hold on very dearly... thank you Julia!

Wow. I am glad that I clicked on your channel. I have struggled with self esteem for ever! Thank you. I plan to listen to more of your videos.

I needed some of these reminders today. thank you Julia.

Hi I’m so glad I found you. I was in a dark space in life. You’ve helped me work on myself. I so needed that ASAP.

I love your videos so much. I recently got out of a 7 year relationship, but ive been in different types of relationships since i was 14. I promised myself i would be completely single and figure myself out for the next few years.

Your videos are so very helpful. Love the way you keep it real. I am working on all of these. Baby steps...just don't give up.

Thank you Julia fr that powerful video. I hv to trust myself and take responsibility for myself is the message I get. I hv really learned a lot frm yr videos and learned we hv to respect ourselves first in order to speak up and just be ourselves. God bless you and family always.

This might sound weird and bad (and I still kinda think so unless you have some of the specific traits) but, I used to hate myself so god dang much to the point I just feel like I reject everything that is "me" I hate how I look, I hate how I act, I hate how I think, I hate how I feel, I hate just entirely everything about "me" To the point that I don't want to be "me" and tried to change, in anyway possible good or bad I didn't know at that time - but I am lucky that I have surrounding people that has "good will" towards me, which is why I was able to change in the good way Also I am lucky that I have the trait of copying other people's good traits (because I do not have the creativity of making or creating something of my own) - when I see someone does something or thinks something and make them good/better/more successful/achieved something I just try to do what they do It take years my friend, at least 4-5 years for me doing this everyday to the day I am proud of myself today Still, I still got alot of things to work on and some topic/issues And always love your vids Julia :) , many of your vids from two years ago helped me alot with improving myself and my mindset.......after a vid I just immediately subscribe to your channel and always have really great insights and reminders. And as always, thank you!!

I love the living with integrity toward your own values and self-promises, part!

I'm able, through this breakdown, to examine my own self esteem finally! I'm not young, started out with wobbly self esteem and it seems I've been gaining my sea legs throughout life....there's my analogy. What an important effort to make! It may come courtesy of many prolonged efforts at different times in life and due to different people in our lives too. Thank you for giving words to a mostly life effort.

Thank you Kristina this Is not my first time here, you're my favorite Emotional and mental wellness counsellor, I love you you're inspiring. Keep the energy keep the vibe keep the good work ♥️💯🌹

So glad I came across your channel. I've been struggling for years and really finding it hard to beleive good can happen to me and pusb everything away because I beleive itll hurt me and I destroy everything.

Saw this video yesterday, i thought i'll get around to watching it at some point, it's shown up like as a reminder today, as i'm listening to the video, being only 3 odd minutes into watching it, I'm like, Ok i'm really needing this, thank you Julia ♥

I will work on trusting myself. No more promises to myself & not keeping it.

Keeping promises I make to myself and others. Very helpful. Thank you for all you do for me.

Thank you Julia, your videos have so connected with me.

Hi Julia so glad to be here! I'm super excited about your channel. I hope to participate and share my own journey as much as possible.

For me, as a man with an ASD, when I was younger (20s - 40s) I went to therapy and found it a colossal waste of time. I recognize that I have had LSE for a lifetime and that I was gaslit into believing that everything was my fault. I remember telling therapists that I simply wanted my life to work and being told to be content in all things, think more of others than yourself. Throughout life, i learned and believed that I did not matter. I am strong on self-efficacy and very weak on self-respect. I never believed that I deserved good things in life and from my Christian experiences, I only learned to devalue myself. I learn from your videos and only wish I had someone of your caliber 30+ years ago when I was more motivated, enthusiastic and hopeful I could change for the better. In all my therapy, I NEVER learned that I mattered and NEVER created a strategic plan for personal improvement. I was diagnosed with an ASD when I was 60 and sadly, at 68, I no longer have the self-respect that Branden wrote about so eloquently. I function well enough to get through my days, but I have given up on thriving. Full of anger over so much of the ineffective therapy I got and the life teachings of conformity that eliminated my youthful hopes, dreams and abilities.

Thank you 💯. I have been so busy trying to make everyone around me happy,but I have been so misalbe.

Thank you so much, Julia. This video is the tough love I needed.

Been listening for a week or so. Love your positive messages

Love these videos. Always feel empowered after watching!

I love what you are doing.

Great video. I'm a recovering perfectionist & a HSP. Self assertiveness is my focus from this list. I'm considering your "speak and feel heard" course. This middle part of this video was me all over. Lol thanks for sharing your professional experience, helps a lot ✌🏻

Thanks! I have been around people who try to bring me down plan my downfall or set me up and they themselves make bad choices. I never knew how to handle it. The only thing that worked for me was alone time to build myself back up. I have few I trust. And love my privacy and self. I can't wait for a healthy relationship i have been alone 12 years I am ready after doing my part. My purpose is being simple and helping people love themselves and keeping envious men and women who think they are perfect and blame everyone else away!!

Thank you for this - very encouraging.

Great job Julia....You are the very best in your field.......

Amazing video!!!! Thank you so much!!!! It was what i needed to hear!!!❤

As a child I struggled a lot. Because of it, I was to gain most of these self esteem qualities. The only one I am missing is that not be able to speak up. I am on an anti anxiety medication, which helps to become calm and to speak mind with out fear. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us with no fee. You are very kind and generous 🙂

You totally speak to me. I'm thrilled to have found your videos! I've sent a notice to all my girlfriends to watch you. I'm always looking for ways to grow and learn to be the best version of myself! Thank you!!!

You are amazing! Thank you so much, for taking the time to make these videos.

A beautiful, passionate, wonderful person. Thank you.

I'm so glad to have come across your page while I seek Therapy. I just want to be better. Thank you!

Think I'm starting to learn I have choices and that has changed my outlook on my life, I now want to change my career and I am not as afraid to go for it. Thank you

"your purpose has changed" BLEW MY FRICKING MIND. I thought it was only people with BPD or aspects of it wherein this occurred. I have never heard a therapist say it So maybe I'm not so abnormal. Once i had kids, my whole changed and so did my priorities. Now that they are all older and more independent, i am struggling to find "that one thing". this really spoke to me about external pressure, perfectionism, changing purpose and being okay with that. "what lights me up"? I dont know right now. im gonna accept it. for the moment.

So awesome contents! very solid and very juicy and on point. Thank you Ms. Julia Kristina 💖 Takeaways - you are not your thoughts!

Thank you for your honesty about self-esteem

Awesome! Thanks with heaps of respect

My purpose is to be The Family Team Coach - I am conquering my self-worth as I’ve noticed I subconsciously self-sabotage and this video has been Fantastic! - Thank-you! X👌🏽😃🌟💖X

Great video; can tell how much you care about this topic. For me I still struggle with telling others what I think, I censor my thoughts too much so as to avoid trouble.

Thank You 🙏 so much for your awesome work, Julia!! You are my most favorite UTUBE 👩‍🏫 educator. I always feel uplifted and inspired during and afterwards attending to your videos.😃

Its all good what you are teaching. They give me a intentional motive. Also your massages send me to the word of God ware i mix what you say and i get balance. Thanks i really enjoy your messages and really like the parts i can tie scriptures to. Then my confidence grows.

I say to have a great self-esteem you have to believe that you're great, you're wonderful, and everyone likes you.

hi.! introducing myself here. spent many times into self-help and philosophical materials. recently, im mainly into what Alain De Botton have to say. i love your topics and speeches and have been hearing you for days. my main problem nowadays is with my mom and my home environment. so im interested to improve in that area. work didn't go as smoothly as i thought. and im currently working as a contractor cleaner and staying in it (after reading Grid and So good they can't ignore you) [also, with the knowledge from Alain De Botton]. my own time (after work) is not that productive. i spend most time watching videos and playing games. so that's not so good, i guess. thanks for your vids :D!

thank you for this, i really taking notes and put things into practise

Thanks for another great video.

First time watching this! Really enjoyed and thank you so much

Thank You For Sharing ❤️

Superb ! Loved listening 💖🌸

I really needed to hear all of this... Thanks for making this video...

Much love! Keep up the good work!

My biggest breakthrough recently was to accept my body 100%. I used to feel bad about me gaining weight and felt ugly. Then I saw a girl in my class is overweight but she looks healthy and confident. I don't think she is ugly at all. Then I thought to myself maybe others also don't think I'm ugly. More importantly, if I don't think she's ugly being overweight why would I think I'm ugly because I'm overweight. From the moment, I let go the body shame and get more overweight😂. Now I'm trying to loose weight because I want to be healthy and feel energetic, not because I want to be beautiful. I am beautiful already.

Awesome video,thanks. So helpful.

Hi. Thank you for offering help regarding building self-esteem.

Loved "...it's an inside job." Fabulous.

I like all teachings. I am practicing everyday!! TY.

Thank you so much! I love your channel and wisdom!

This video is really amazing!

Thank you. Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself! Great.

This video was really helpful!!!

You are "Da Bomb", Mrs. Kristina, as usual your advice is inspirational.👍

WOW, YOU ARE SO GOOD AT WHAT YOU DO.😊 THANK YOU SO MUCH.💖

You are awesome!!