Every time....🤦🏻‍♀️

Me to

Adnan Rifai nice.

Because u don't care about them dumb ass

A7med PTS lol stop it

Girl...i did start to cry when i found out i had adhd! I'm right there with you! I'm glad you found this resonates with you...and shows you are not alone. makes my heart smile.

I finally feel heard. I thought I was a loser

@@estherpelele9956 me too...

People have rolled their eyes when I mention I might have this, but to me, its like a huge revelation, like suddenly we have solid undeniable proof of aliens or discovered a huge step forward in science, but the folks around me don’t seem at all amazed or interested at this big answer to why my life has been so difficult.

Reading books in school was the WORST for me. I would „read“ a chapter but once I was done I had no idea what I just read. It always frustrated me so much. Now I finally understand where it had been coming from…

i can relate to this on another level i had to take a special class for reading and spelling because of it i havent been diagnosed yet but i might since i relate to nearly every symptom alot

I usually reread a paragraph multiple times. Notes in class help me be present, but I don’t read my notes. 😅

with reading books, I try to focus more by reading it out loud, and then i focus too much on saying it and I have no idea what I just spoke out loud...

I have my MA in American Literature. I can barely read anymore, and had trouble reading during school.

I remember struggling to choose a major when in college... I ended up never finishing! I wish i could go back pick one, and stick with it. But it is what it is. One day I'd like to finish... But everything you said rings so true, and I'm sure many people with ADHD can relate.

Wow!!! This is me too!

🙈 Yes over here too

yo this is me rn bruh D;

im over here doing the gen z finger point to all the symptoms i cant...

skipole52 of course?! I'm always lost in Lala land...thats a good movie sidenote.😂

Hahaha no joke... Perfect analogy... My mind is like a universe of ideas.. I get lost easily.

I will just stand in my living room, paused, with my head racing like a horse.

i agree, it’s like there’s so many thoughts in my head that i’m trying to put away which i’m using all my energy for which causes me to seem lazy or apathetic. like no i’m just tired

I’ve found a way to combat it by using energy drinks in moderation one 500ml can of Monster Energy Zero Ultra with No Sugar, Guarana and Taurine it lasts 6 to 8 hours without the side effects of ADHD medication

Antonia Cerise haha wow. I’ve totally been there! Thank god for easy rewind buttons!

Yesss

Same. Gosh i have embarassing moments with people where you cant rewind and listen to what they say 😅

Haha, yes I got distracted reading comments, wandering or not paying attention at all.

I get distracted easily as well, but I was able to pay attention to the entire video. ADHD doesn't mean you can't hyperfocus on things that interest you. I used to think that bc there were times I got good grades or did excellent work projects, that it meant I couldn't possibly have ADHD. But bc I have comorbidity of anxiety or panic that are strong enough to motivate me to take action, then I can and do complete tasks. The difference between me and a non-ADHD person is that it takes pressure, fear of disappointing external relationships, and lots of willpower to push through it. I can do what others do, but my life is set on Hard Mode, so it takes alot of effort to fight my procrastination, perfection paralysis, indecisiveness, fickleness/apathy, chronic fatigue, depression, fear of success, fear of failure, etc. My life has been wasted more on daydreaming than conscious presence, and my lack of motivation is stymied by the fact that I change my mind so much about what I want to do. I switch goals too fast to even start them. It's stressful and debilitating. I feel like I'm 15 years behind my peers, who happen to be a generation that is 12 years behind previous generations as it is. So I feel completely overwhelmed by how stagnant my life has been. I can't seem to get myself out of this fear-stricken stupor. Luckily, I can absorb information when I force myself to concentrate, but I can't seem to apply what I learn. I'm frazzled, disorganized, easily detached from reality, but I also have extreme anxiety and will panic when things go missing or fall out of place. I have had to buy backup glasses that I rotate when I lose one, bluetooth trackers on my electronics, and a huge box of hair accessories bc having ADHD means you live with a black hole that is designed to hide everything, never to be seen again! You just figure out how to cope with the constant flightyness & fogginess of your mind. I can't be bothered to clean my house or shower, though it's not bc I forget, but rather bc of my comorbidity with depression & fatigue. So needless to say, it helps to figure out that I'm not completely hopeless. I just need treatment, which makes me cry bc I really, really need relief.

I’m 53 and have dealt with these symptoms all my life but just now realizing this is what I have. I know it’s never too late for help but wish I would known sooner so I could have gotten the help I needed. Great to hear you’re helping others.😊

How can u use it ?

How did you learn how to accomplish big things in spite of it? How did you get over it? I've about given up on those pipe dreams. I mean you got the mother of all degrees plus the precursors. How?!?!

Hi Frank, are you willing to elaborate a little on how you use ADHD to your advantage? Do you believe success in life can be achieved if un-medicated? Thankyou and hope to hear a little more of your experience :)

Rebecca Cowart I’m so happy for you! I remember thinking I was dumb...but simultaneously knowing I was smart and something just wasn’t adding up...that was in highschool. I didn’t get my diagnosis till my early 30s. I’m glad your getting yours as early as you are!

Rebecca Cowart was the way I can do it for trytytttrpe

Rebecca Cowart ii

what treatment did you get?

@@spiwetshuma1265 stimulant therapy when I went to get diagnosed I was diagnosed with add and borderline personality disorder and stimulant therapy has changed my life I take 30mg of vyvanse every day

literally me lol

real

babysuho 25 haha this. Thank you for sharing.

Shelby Schedler oh wow! I’m so glad I’ve helped in anyway! I so relate to you too! Duh haha. But seriously...finding people who get me and “get it”... You explain it well...the overwhelm of what to focus on can be a lot.

Haha this is great. The difference is focus. I'm sure you care about the world..but what you care about changes on a daily basis. At least for me it does. I want to help out in every way...then it's too much and I lose interest...🤪

elb I get really irritated at bad explainers. I know it’s not always me. Like...it can’t be!! I also get irritated when people are passive aggressive or rude/mean when I don’t “get it.” I still remember 4th grade and struggling to remember long division. Everyone was getting it except me… Then we had a substitute teacher who explained it for the class again and praise God he did...because his explanation was so easy!!!! Like...why didn’t my teacher say that in the first place!!! Long division was forever easy for me since that one substitute teacher! So sometimes it’s not always us. Sometimes people just don’t know how to explain, teach, or give instructions. That “stress of the manager”...I felt that 😳😳😳

Ask them to write it down verbal instructions are useless we forget them

@@ArdelleVision still can’t do long division I’m 40 now

@@Dancestar1981 problem is many people are terrible at writing and avoid it all cost

I take biology and we have to do practicals like experiments and I’m always stressing out cos I can never deal with the instructions 😂 one time I just stood there for half a lesson looking lost cos I was so overwhelmed

Shrav P noice....🤪

Sarah Mcnutt I follow a lot of people with ADHD on different social media platforms...and some of them are organized especially if they’re “hyper-focused” on being organized… It doesn’t necessarily count you out as having ADHD,… I go in phases and would consider myself somewhat disorganized for sure. On the other hand...I do relate with you that I am very observant of other people and friends have noticed this about me. I know what you mean that you don’t know what to say, but from your description of yourself “everything is a struggle in my mind, I feel constantly at war with myself “… That reminds me totally of me... I would do more research on ADHD (particularly inattentive type) and see if it resonates in your heart and then go from there to seek getting a diagnosis. I choose to not get prescribe medication… But if you did it could really help with that inner battle and life struggle… I always equate it to walking upstairs with a ball and chain around my ankle. I try to keep things light and fun! Thanks for the love!

Sarah m m I’m the same way!!! I’m very detailed and I organize things but I have horrible follow through and I feel so paralyzed. I feel like something isn’t clicking in my mind the way it does for other people and idk how to deal with it.

Abraham Shell haha. I do the same thing...

Same lol

Linda Chatrin Petersen yes! Internal rage over small things.

Yes!

2:51

3:16 All of the fucking time

Haha omg I love that you relate!!!!

Ask Me yup. So freaking true!

Yes exactly

Can it adhd cause depression. By having inappropriate thoughts 24/7

Did you ever get any medical help? I'm just curious and hope things are getting better. I lost a great job too for being tardy . Always ran 10-15 minutes late 😢

Samuel xD Townson I feel you on the anger of not being pointed in the right direction. My path was similar in that regard but I don't think anyone around me even considered I had add until my sister pointed it out when I was 32! So..with that said...try to find the silver lining that you know at all. I've had comments from people In their 60s who just found out!!!! I have days where I feel like a lost cause...but try to realize it's just that one day...and better days come...and crappy days will follow that. Look into this further and if it resonates you may have some form of adhd!

Hey I just wanna say I'm 47 and only finding out about myself as IADHD. So... you're still young. Focus on the now and live well.

Same here. I have realised how important sleep is to me to be at least to some degree functional. I'm low-key struggling to keep up with my piers/colleagues on a daily basis.

Ever since quarantine started I've been acting weird. Sometimes when I would talk to people I would pause because my mind went somewhere else, or when I would tell myself not to get distracted, it would always happen. I would get so angry about this. I've told people about these things. I've told my social worker that I can't listen correctly because of the thoughts that were invading my head time to time and she said just clear those thoughts...I tried but it never worked. Its made my school life really hard...If anyone goes through the comment section please offer ANY advice. P.S. I agree with the work/school life

m3lina I feel you there...🤦🏻‍♀️😭😂😂😂😂

Pregnancy and Postpartum TV thank you so much! Taxes suck haha

Is there a way to delegate most of the tasks your not good with? For example house chores hire a cleaner

Don Mcmath OoOo yes. I’ve been guilty of that too...I need to stay focused while driving!

Does listening to music help you or does that distract you from driving too

@@Dancestar1981 yes music is very helpful i think

Cyra DelaRiviere it’s never too late. But I understand the anger of it could have been sooner. I had to Mourn the loss of the years I wasted. But eventually accept. And move on...empowered by what i know now! This is hard...having a late diagnosis! And especially blaming yourself for the “bad” parts of your personality!!!! When a lot of it you didn’t know about!!!!! I understand the anger...but I believe you have just been found! You are no longer lost in the dark to ADHd! At least that’s my thoughts for you friend.🥰 when I found adhd I cried and cried and binge watched anything I could. And read all I could. I felt understood by anyone who has adhd! I finally felt...not alone! 😝😝😝

I have now been officially diagnosed as ADHD. I have been prescribed low dose Adderall to start. And my doctor and I are working on a full treatment/therapy plan. Does anyone know if hypnotherapy is helpful?

I’m 53 and just realizing this myself. I figured I had some type of ADHD but never got diagnosed and just like a true procrastinator, put off getting the help I needed.

Same here. I was homeschooled my entire life though so nobody noticed. I know I went to preschool as a kid and my teacher recommended counseling because I was struggling, but my parents declined so I have gone my entire life thinking that I was dumb.

@@agees924 Awww... that is so tough!!! It is sad when a neurodivergency ends up making you feel dumb!! Quite opposite really. People have hypothesized that those of us WITH a neurodivergency were probably the ones most highly regarded in tribes, etc. The reason why is we are almost on high alert, our hearing is a bit stronger.. so we would have been ones taking care of safety concerns or hunting, etc as we have the correct heightened senses!! Know that you are beautiful and loved!!! And you are CERTAINLY not dumb!!!

shanelle powell thanks for sharing! I’m so glad it was helpful! I knew I had it the moment I read the symptoms...like yup...this is me.

i relate way to much to this i might get tested as well

If that is what you’re good at and it is sustainable and something you like doing, I think that’s a good thing. I hear you on the comment from your friend..but they aren’t living your life. Your identity isn’t your career. I’ve struggled with being embarrassed of “what I do” for a living…but only I pay my bills. And what I got to do to make that happen…better be something I don’t fully hate. I’ve tried it all. But honestly…high end serving at a restaurant has always been my thing…same as you for cleaning. Maybe you can focus on making that part of your life more successful! Instead of judging it, lean in!

I was recently diagnosed and I’m 54 years old. I’ve always suspected but it has gotten significantly worse in the last couple of years. I suspected menopause played a role so to read your post was amazing for me. I can definitely relate to your experiences. I’ve had 4 jobs in less than 2 years. Life has always been complicated for me but present tense is almost impossible.

@@BarleyMonster I'm sorry to hear this. I was diagnosed with ADHD but I can't be medicated with the traditional stimulants because I have high blood pressure. I do have some good news for you. HRT helped me tremendously. I found a gynecologist that specializes in menopausal women and now I put on a patch twice a week and take a pill at bedtime. It's made a huge difference. And don't be put off by the folks who say HRT is dangerous. It's no more dangerous than the birth control pill (and few women refuse the pill due to risk, right?). People fearmongering on HRT are either ignorant of the current scientific research or misogynists. I've recovered a lot but I still have a ways to go. My doctors keep adjusting my meds in different ways hoping to find the sweet spot that gets me back to the "generally overwhelmed but still functional" way I used to be. The next thing I intend to try is a little testosterone. Women actually have more testosterone than estrogen, but no one knows that. It can really help clear the brain, or so I've read. Keeping my fingers crossed. I hope this little bit of info helps you. Like I said in my post--knowing makes all the difference because I can stop hating on myself and accept that I have a developmental disorder that is limiting me. It's not my fault. I'll always strive to do better but I don't have to beat myself up.

@@jenthulhu I really appreciate your response. I’ll definitely research HRT and possible speak to my doctor about it. At least we know we’re not alone in that there are others who feel and struggle just like we do. You’re right, knowing does make a difference. 🤍

Thank you so much for this! I want to bring awareness to things that people are to shy or uneducated to talk about. So many people don't know they might have Adhd or some other issue going on which creates self judgement. I myself never even considered that I had this. I was so wrong in how it can manifest.

Groove Is Now that's my goal! I love compliments like this!!!!

Kisha Wynter thank you so freaking much! Compliments like this keep me going!

I literally cried hahaha i finally made a little sense to myself. which helped a lot with self love

Write Your Acceptance thank you so much!

Oh wow. I've been there.... Literally cried when I had the ah ha moment that I have this. Even before a diagnosis. I just knew. It made so much so clear.

@@ArdelleVision i feel you

ArdelleVision that’s how I felt when diagnosed with ocd at age 19 years ago before diagnosed I had always wondered if I had the disorder but because of stigmas and stereotypes as a small kid I never really knew what it meant

lovell wow. I noticed it the older I got too...but never got diagnosed till my 30s...

Same i was living with my mom really young and rememner being told I have adhd. I moved in with my dad when i was about 8 or 9 and he didnt see it as a big deal so i grew to not see to as a big deal and kinda forgot about it. Now 25, went down an adhd youtube hole and immediately asked my psychiatrisy for an evaluation. It has been a part of every aspect of my life in ways i never even imagined in the hugest ways. As i get older and have more responsibilities daily life and trying to figure out a career has become immensely difficult. Finally starting real treatment and counseling for it is seriously such a game changer

BWoodPhotography thanks so much for this comment! Bringing understanding is all I hope to do!

Galleon 77 Australia?!!? I've officially made it! 🤪🤪thanks for reaching out!

So glad you got something out of this video. And I really hope you get your diagnosed soon! 😌

Wow, so relatable! ESP the no real Personality part. How are you doing these days?

Glad it helps💜

@@ArdelleVision 🧡

Common Sense Mamita yes! You're welcome! 🤪

😊glad it helped! 🥰

Andre Shelby ah thanks!

The Yoga Home with Aly Paws thank you so much! Just now seeing this.🤗

Noname glad you’re on a path in the right direction for your adhd!!! And thank you for your kind words.

oh wow! welcome visionary!!! What an amazing comment that just lifted my spirits for the day! When I found out i had inattentive adhd my reaction was very similar. It explains me so perfectly...and I for sure cried. It is such an answer to find this out...I didn't even need the diagnosis to believe it had this. I knew just new it was me.

Thanks so much for your comment!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗keeps me motivated to continue to share my journey!

TheVaultdweller ramble and stumble over words...yup...this is me.

Stop.

Trudy Marshall I'm so glad I was able to shed some light on your friends inner worlds! 🌎🤪

Marion Ivers next level?! Wow! I'll take it!

kazmarski5 this right here makes this channel so worth it for me.🙃thanks for sharing this.

Hardeep Singh oh wow that’s very interesting and insightful! Thank you for sharing this with me. I’m seriously curious about this and want to look into it. Someone recently keeps commenting that ADHD is not real… Which I understand the sentiment or I’m open to challenge and differing opinions ...is ADHD just a catchall for the symptoms that a lot of us experience especially inattentive type… Because it is so different than hyperactive. Regardless it is an issue of the brain, and I have this...who cares if the name. This is why I’ve been looking into so much brain health recently. I will definitely be looking into sluggish cognitive tempo!

@@eyedovoices agreed. I don't like getting made fun of by people i don't know well.

Hardeep Singh Hardeep what medication are you taking? I came across this video because I suspect I have adhd and I pretty much nailed on all of ardells symptoms 🙁

ArdelleVision are you taking any medications for your adhd?

Can definetly relate with inattentive symptoms and anxiety. Thoughts of not being good enough literally consume my brain

I noticed your post is three years ago, I hope you found the help you need. Never give up on a diagnosis, it helps tremendously to know what your dealing with. Attitude videos are very helpful as well. ❤

Jennys Journeys haha thanks so much!

Thank you for this comment!!🤪

BE FABULOUS WITH ME_IRENE thanks! I hope to spread the knowledge I learn! Glad you gleaned something from this video!