The Three Symptoms of Grief
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Discussing grief can be difficult, especially if we are still mourning the death of a loved one. A common question we ask is, “What is my life going to be like now?” In this week’s episode, counselor Margaret McGahon discusses the three symptoms of grief - physical, psychological, and spiritual. “It’s important to connect the symptoms to the grief experience,” says McGahon. “We must honor this process and see it as part of the human experience.” She offers consolation and reminds us that the symptoms of grief are very common. She also offers ways to manage our grief and cope well.
You can view any or all of the counselors McGahon and Kathryn Clarke videos in our video counseling library to enjoy more of their insights. Today’s episode is the first in Season 3 of our popular video counseling series.
@AgingwithDignity 3 ай бұрын
Our deepest condolences to so many in the comments who have experienced profound loss. Many folks have expressed ongoing suffering from grief and asked questions on what can be done to manage it - below are three other videos by Ms. McGahon that may be helpful resources. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gLp3nKuezKzQoIE.html&t kzfaq.info/get/bejne/mquCZbN_xq2zmnk.html&t kzfaq.info/get/bejne/l9V-gaR0qqzVlnU.html&t These are no substitute for individualized counseling or medical assistance, and KZfaq has many other great resources. We hope these are just that - helpful resources for those struggling with grief.
@tonyrobinson362 9 ай бұрын
Lost my dear wife 6 weeks ago after knowing her for 53 years I'm in a right dark place cannot even breath at times, I do wish I could turn the clock back I love her so much.❤
@smarterthanawaffle 8 ай бұрын
how are you doing now Tony?
@pjones7012 8 ай бұрын
i lost me wife of 51 years. i did not know this level of sadness existed.
@barron4755 7 ай бұрын
Lost my Wife 4 Years ago. The Pain is often indescribeable. We are so caught up in Grief, that I sometimes tend to forget how many Men are going through the same thing as me. 😢😢
@stephaniewood1547 7 ай бұрын
So sorry for your loss. 😢
@sheilafletcher3083 6 ай бұрын
My mother died. 11 years ago today. Ends by dog. Just died. 3 weeks ago. I am sad lonely. Depressed. And don't know what to do.
@kushkingla7385 8 ай бұрын
When I am gone, release me - let me go I have so many things to see and do. You must not tie yourself to me with tears. Be happy that we had so many years. I gave you love, you can only guess, how much you gave me in happiness. I thank you for the love each have shown, but now it is time I travelled alone. So grieve awhile for me if you must, then let your grief be comforted by trust. It is only for a while that we must part so bless those memories within your heart. I will not be far away, for life goes on. So if you need me, call and I will come, I will be near and if you listen with your heart, you will hear all of my love around you, soft and clear. Then when you must come this way alone, I will greet you with a smile and “welcome home”
@stephanie67348 7 ай бұрын
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@madala9324 6 ай бұрын
@@stephanie67348. ❤️
@litafrench7413 10 ай бұрын
I lost my son, my heart has been ripped out, I'm 72 and I see no relief for the rest of my life, I have no desire to go anywhere or see anyone!
@angelahosein2482 10 ай бұрын
😢I also loose my son. It really not easy thing. I also felt this ripping part of me, yes we are really torn apart.😂. But God. Hold an know our future.
@rajangp2001 10 ай бұрын
Peace be with you.. Divine works for the better.. Your son continues to live... Divinity promotes us upwards. Divinity has already put your son in the safest place. He continues to live
@J2LO 10 ай бұрын
Lost my dad 61😢 😭 feel the same
@BarbaraHolroyd-tw1xc 9 ай бұрын
Go minutes to minutes ,that’s all you can do, and you will do it ,let your body do what it wants, it knows what it needs, I lost my son also ,aged 35
@mariefricchione437 9 ай бұрын
I pray for you all. May Our Lady comfort you all to the best of your abilities. Love to you all🙏
@fleaman7665 7 ай бұрын
I lost my wife of 44 years suddenly. I just feel numb, I do not know what I am going to do with my life.
@bbygrlpt2 3 ай бұрын
I just lost my grandma and feel so much guilt for not bein by her side bc I live in another country just to think I wont hear her voice again is so painful I cant sleep I cry all the time 😔
@AgingwithDignity 3 ай бұрын
We are sorry for your loss.
@overarainbowov7520 Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much for recording this.
@neiberviva8363 8 ай бұрын
I lost my mother couple of weeeks ago and I cannot control the sadness and thoughts!
@user-yr5tm3bt2o 3 ай бұрын
Sorry for your loss I am 12 weeks in heartbroken 💔 xx
@neiberviva8363 3 ай бұрын
@@user-yr5tm3bt2o It is very very difficult, sending you positive vibes!
@deonhauth4877 2 ай бұрын
I've been grieving for 11 years.. I'm 72 and have lost hope for any real happiness ever again.. nothing to look forward to. Just way too many losses, 2 of the losses were suicides.. just waiting for this life to finally be done with.
@claudiamanta1943 6 ай бұрын
There’s only that much one can take.
@TrayDyer38 8 ай бұрын
I had complicated grief disorder for almost 3 years after my dad died suddenly moments after I had just been over at is house. I lost my head. I have no friends anymore. I treated everyone like crap and said horrible things to so many people. I literally have no friends anymore.
@joyslove3858 8 ай бұрын
I understand that. I withdrew into an even deeper cave after my mother's death 2 years ago. I'm trying to ease out of it. Your true friends will forgive you.
@Job.Well.Done_01 7 ай бұрын
I’m sorry. You’ve got a friend here with me. Reach out anytime.
@horizonxx_1 7 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear of your loss. I think losing friends when you experience grief is all too common.
@angelacramer9273 6 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry for your pain. I understand. Hugs to you. F*** right.
@gillianlee6229 9 ай бұрын
Lost my husband suddenly four weeks ago. He was 62 1/2 years old. We had so many plans and had both just retired early. I have experienced and am still experiencing shock, sleeplessness, loss of appetite, etc. Don’t know how to go on without him. We were so close. I plan to reach out for help.
@christinelucchese6323 9 ай бұрын
I'm going thru the same thing there's nothing here for me I have his service dog I live fir her I miss himm so m6ch
@anthonyburke5656 9 ай бұрын
My sincere condolences, I wish I could say something to help. I think perhaps helping someone else may help you.
@christinelucchese6323 7 ай бұрын
I know I've been going thru the same si ce nov22
@anthonyburke5656 7 ай бұрын
@@christinelucchese6323 my condolences, I’ve just got off the phone with my oldest friend, he was sitting with his wife who is in her final days. I can say it gets better over time, but sometimes a trigger will throw you into a paroxysm of grief. Remember the good, if you have to remember the bad, that’s the cost. Grow, live, thrive.
@mariefricchione437 5 ай бұрын
Therapy is vital.
@carmesebranch725 9 ай бұрын
Damnit got all of these symptoms...but I will not run to substances
@maureenandcolinisles47 Ай бұрын
Thank you Ms McGahon for this excellent analysis of what really happens to person presented with a serious loss. Many of us had no idea what was to come before the loss occured. Your video is a great help in taking the mystery out of this terrible process of grief.
@AgingwithDignity Ай бұрын
So glad you found it useful.
@leonalii1533 8 ай бұрын
This was a very comprehensive summary of the ways in which grief can manifest itself, thank you. I feel a bit reluctant to use the word symptom though since for me that word is so strongly associated with illness and grief is a natural process we undergo after a loss as you point out. I would prefer using sign/manifestation etc. Only my personal opinion.
@sarahreid9206 Жыл бұрын
I miss my gran a lot and I feel distant from ever one
@anthonyburke5656 9 ай бұрын
Sarah, only people in our position know what it’s like. I’ve been trying to figure it out, so far, I just keep coming across things he liked, things he said, things he wanted to do. I remember his flaws and faults, I never took him to task on them, waiting for the maturity and right time to come, it never did. Is there some within your purview who needs help? If so, help them, think of it as being for him.
@horizonxx_1 7 ай бұрын
Everything she is talking about it exacerbated when there is depression and anxiety present prior to loss. I loss my Mother who I was extremely close to and within a year lost my sibling to suicide. In my experience the grief is harder to process and becomes debilitating.
@jn3098 3 ай бұрын
U hav talk about all the symptoms I hav.
@underthetornado 6 ай бұрын
Ever since I had to watch my mom die of frontal lobe dementia 8 years ago it still feels like last week. I've been on a downhill spiral. Im still living ina travel trailer bhind her house. Stepdad is a cold unloving stepdad😢 I'm quite sure hes a functioning autistic man. Hecan only discuss weather.nothing deep or loving. My mom never realized how different he was for over 50 years of their marriage. He remarried within a year and stepmom hates me. I am declining physically and mentally😢 i need assisted living now. I have no idea how to get help. Im just gonna end up in hospital begging for help. Ive reached bottom! Everyones been so cold to me and I was cut out of everything my mom wanted me to have. But I'm so depressed I can't pull out of this. Im really bummed out.🙏💔
@user-yr5tm3bt2o 3 ай бұрын
Yes this is me xx
@anthonyburke5656 9 ай бұрын
After I lost my son, I had to give up having the occasional drink, I am scared I would turn into a maudlin drunk.
@L35423 8 ай бұрын
How long do these symptoms go on and still considered normal?
@AgingwithDignity 3 ай бұрын
It is difficult to put a time horizon on these symptoms - it can take a long time to process, and it varies from person to person. I would talk to your doctor if you are worried about the duration of symptoms you're experiencing.
@robertvalincius6228 5 ай бұрын
My wife dead after 22 years she was everything to me its been 5 weeks im dead inside!!!!!!
@alices.1824 3 ай бұрын
I lost my husband in January and my emotions are all over the place. I avoid places that remind me of my husband. I can’t go in the backyard for more than a minute or two. We used to spend quite a bit outside and he would water the plants. My life has drastically changed and I am trying to accept the loss and emptiness I feel.
@AgingwithDignity 3 ай бұрын
So sorry for your loss - may he rest in peace.
@AliceTolson 7 ай бұрын
Lost just about all members of my family.since I was younger..got a divorce after 20 yrs to childhood sweetheart..25 yrs ago..lost a career of 20 yrs .4 yrs ago..due to back injuries..problems..suffered with anxiety/depressiion..my adult life..lost my oldest child of 3 kids to suicide 32 months ago..my depression and anxiety worsened.
@user-nn1wx4sc4x 8 ай бұрын
My life is a constant torture since the death of my Husband Robert on 07 September 2022. He had a integrity that very few have. I would make the choice to marry him every time. ❤️ To all who are grieving and other sufferings. i look forward to the return of Yeshua HaMashiach_Jesus Christ, when death shall be no more.
@Becca0082 4 ай бұрын
Amein sister. I lost my husband as well. We were newlyweds. You truly become one right away. It hurts so bad. Yah bless you for sharing. Integrity.... that's the word for my hubby as well. So rare.
@delboyoelmundo4718 7 ай бұрын
Pretty rubbish actually the loved ones are out of here leaving us to carry on pick up the pieces and get thru it
@the1972bulldog 5 ай бұрын
I thought there was 6 Stages of Grief
@AgingwithDignity 5 ай бұрын
Maggie is describing here the three types of grief symptoms - physical, psychological, and spiritual. The stages of grief are a slightly different subject. Hope this helps!
@the1972bulldog 5 ай бұрын
@@AgingwithDignity yeah it does. Thank you for explaining.🙏🏻💙✌️
@carmesebranch725 9 ай бұрын
I'm tired and foggy all the time. Lethargic, heavy achy, sleep is affected...lowered immunity...just caught a cold...headaches appetite changes...lost friend mom dad brother2023...in 5 months ruminating, lost track of time. Guilt blame damn dead on it. I have all of these symptoms
@leonalii1533 8 ай бұрын
So sorry for your losses, one is enough, hope you can get through, step by step, one little moment a time❤️
@stephaniewood1547 7 ай бұрын
I am so so sorry! Grief like this sucks terribly! I lost 3 friends, an Aunt, and my mom in a year and a half within the last 2 years. That sucked!! I still have a hard time. How are holding up?!