In Samos, the island where I was born, we say that "in order for a child to grow up properly, needs the participation of the whole village".

At last heard someone try and understand the human side of the situation Wish there are more people like this

The sad thing is most people in this world are dysfunctional look at how we treat animals, totally lacking in compassion!

Thanks 🙏 If there is one man destroying the monarchy it is Piers Morgan. .... unbelievable how hatful he is and arrogant

Thank you for bringing a voice of compassion to the topic. If the whole debacle around Harry & Meghan has revealed anything, it's how much our society lacks understanding, empathy and compassion.

Thank you! ‘A gale of venom.’ Is absolutely right. It should be considered the fingerprint of the UK.

How refreshing to hear a public voice grounded in true compassion.

This Is the first channel & man that talks Real Truth! Unless you have lost your mom young then you'll Never Know what he went through!!❤

I love that you mention the gingers, because my mom, my sister and my younger brother are all gingers and deeply sensitive and they do have to do extra measures to manage their pain while at the same time they manage their pain very well. I am a ginger adjunct, and I am profoundly sensitive myself. People always tell me how nice I am and it surprises me because I think I’m just me and I’m not doing anything special.

From reading some comments, it just shows how much we as a society are traumatized and don’t even realize it . We are unable to have compassion for other people and yet we make our own mistakes . to be human is to grow and be better tomorrow than today and hold space for others as they try to heal

We all have trama, but not all of us have media and photographers following us around ,invading every area of our lives.

If Gabor Maté would find himself, he would show us his most beautiful smile and make everyone smile!

At last a positive conversation about Harry. Most of my friends talk about him with venom but I do my best to stand his corner just as these two very reputable men have.

People want “The Prince” to play the part. When he doesn’t…they turf him.

Harry had no compassion for his own dying grandparents nor for the aged Thomas Markle.And qhe wants to teach the world.

This is what I see in Harry. A human being. I love that. 👑♥I also miss Princess Dianna who was a Humanitarian. That, they have in common. Reflected in his demeanor. I would love to meet him.

My mother’s à Brit & was brought up to be cold & dismissive of any type of family abuse or trauma. I can relate to Harry. Look what speaking up did to his sense of belonging to his messed up family of origin. My speaking up has gotten me the same result - pushed out into the cold.

I can understand the trauma of his mother's death but he also had a lot of money and support. I lost my mother at 13 saw her screaming with a tumour, my father had mh and could not cope. We had little money. I was told just get on with life and I had to. If you have to get on or sink you get on. He should now move on not just wine about everything in life.

William went through losing his mother too and knowing he was one day to be king, was not allowed to be himself. He had/has to carry that burden. Prince Harry was more allowed to be himself than William. The Royal family are dysfunctional but so is most families. Harry is a man now not a 12 year old boy.

We heard that interview so differently. I understood that Dr Mate is not a psychiatrist. It was truly sad.

All human beings are cable of making mistakes, no one is perfect.🤔

How much our children need a hug. Depriving them of this brings several consequences. Both in the case of Harry, William and their father Charles, living in the Royal Family, which has been dysfunctional, is why Harry and his wife decide to distance themselves from the toxic family and have a more normal life for their children. Excellent opportunity to have a quieter life.

From a family that abused and betrayed who I Am I have stood up to mine and told the world also. No more pretending. I admire and Trust what Harry needs; shame to those who criticize and I only see they want to bury the lies and trauma they never acknowledged in their own family’s. Where ever you are Harry, I understand and I will always care🪷

I'm grateful to you, Gabor and Rangan, for bringing this compassionate voice to the Harry 'situation'. I feel very sad about the family breakdown and hope that the brothers can one day see beyond their current differences, but it is difficult to see how that can happen when media (social and otherwise) persist in adding fuel to the flames of discord. All families have problems, but few are under so much external pressure. I wish Harry and Meghan, William and Kate, Charles and Camilla the best. I honestly believe that they are all caring people who genuinely want the best for each other, but they are stuck. More voices like yours are needed to take a more objective and genuinely concerned stance. I am sick of the vitriol.

Thank you so much for shining a light on the toxicity of our attitudes towards mental health and the way the media can fuel societies judgemental attitudes to it. As a retired mental health worker my career took me from the "mad or bad" views of institutional psychiatry to community psychiatry and counselling to the more enlightened theories of psychodynamic psychotherapy. Your wonderfully compassionate take on this topic has not only affirmed many of my own thoughts and beliefs my own intergenerational family traumas have contaminated my own parenting practice but also has given validity to many of my own arguments against the distorted social media reports about Prince Harry and the Royal family. Thank you for shining light into this dark place.

Prince Harry is the real victim of all these circumstances, he deserves respect from the public....and the media !!

We’re so lucky to have Dr. Mate. Thank you for your love and compassion 🙏💜

The media has been too mean and wick to Harry and Magan. I pray this should stop. They left the Royal family because the media would not back off Megan. She also had issues with mental health.

Resonated very well! Much thanks for bringing it up.

People need to see the human being that dealt trauma that is still affecting him now, people seem to think just because he was born in a royal family, he should not feel the effects of that trauma.

Everyone in life has issues. The point of the British Royal Family is to give their people strength. To “never complain, and never explain”. To “keep calm and carry on” As Harry did not live up to this mantra, as his brother has, and certainly as the Queen has, he doesn’t belong in the royal family.

I really admire Harry for speaking publicly about his trauma. I think he is a true renegade, a truth teller and an inspiration. It takes a lot of courage to do that and I sense that he genuinely wants to help people by sharing his story. He's definitely helped me. I was silent about my trauma for way too long. When high profile speak out about what they have been through they inspire others to do the same and help us know that we are not the only one. I really admire famous people who use their fame to help others. I recommend the series he did with Oprah called The Me You Can't See for anyone who hasn't seen it. I felt really validated when I watched it. Whatever traumatic experiences you have had to endure in your life, you are not alone, there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and you deserve to be heard, seen and supported❤

Ty ty ty I appreciate this truth this is very sad I applaud his courage ❤️😌🫂

I got vilified when I didn't want to brush things under the carpet and decided to confront the pink elephant in the room. I understand Harry. I didn't want to live like a robot and be inauthentic to myself. Now Harry has a family, children he loves unconditionally, a loving wife, and mother in law that's providing love like a mother.

I noticed that Rangan mentioned “friction” in his family. He did not go into detail because he is mature and has wisdom. They worked it out as a family and are closer now. Once betrayal and mistrust takes place within a family, it is often never recovered.

A lot of people have trauma but it’s how we deal with it that matters. We can either learn from it and become stronger or we can forever play the victim… Edit: I respect that people have differing opinions, but if you disagree then you can choose to scroll on and comment elsewhere. I don’t think it’s necessary to get personal. After all, you don’t know me or my background. Just to clarify my original comment… I don’t talk about myself often, but I’m about the same age as Harry and I suffer from PTSD from my childhood (both my parents are narcs, histrionic too). My trauma was the result of events like the suicide of my biological father and constant physical and psychological abuse until I left home at the age of 18, so it’s safe to say that I understand triggers, trauma and the fight or flight response. I’ve been in and out of different therapies over the course of my life and I’ve also seen how my siblings live with their own trauma and the different paths we’ve all taken. So my comment was based on my personal experiences, it’s also my opinion, so as I said earlier, you can choose just to scroll on without responding.

Harry had every right to leave the Royal Family and become financially independent. I admired him for that. But then they did the Oprah interview and made their issues with his family public. Very cruel and deceitful thing to do to his family.

I totally agree you can see the trauma when he is around the press or his family in england.i wish him a happy loving life for him and his family in america. A really strong person fighting for his future

I lost my mom also at a young age. But my grandmother and Aunt pulled me through with love. Sometimes it was difficult but most of the time I made my life with the help of god. The death date I’m. Very sad but my life my family help me and I know I will see her again. I wonder if Harry knows Jesus as his Savior the comforter. He is not comforted nor has he had a loving life. I’m sorry for him.

This is such a useful, insightful and compassionate interview. Thank you. I’m appalled by intensity of the bullying and taunting flowing so forcefully towards Harry. I can’t understand the level of hatred. So sad. So unforgiving.

He is not disliked for talking about mental health. That is a total dishonest spin.

What a breathe of freshair. The people here in UK seem so cold. Treat the royals like their property. Harry had guts to break away. Thank you. I always felt this about Harry. I feel for William.

I feel he is deeply spiritual and seeking with fervor to know the meaning of life. ♥️🌹

I don’t follow stories about Harry, but I do read and listen to Gabor Mate. I can certainly relate to the difficulties that a family member can experience when they stop participating in the dysfunction. It is very difficult to remain connected to people who are stuck in denial and refuse to recognise the ‘love’ they are offering is actually very damaging. If you care for a person, you make an effort to understand them. When you understand that your treatment of them is harmful, you make a commitment to change. When you prioritise your love for a person, it is easy to change. But when you have other, higher priorities, you will sacrifice the person who is highlighting the problem. You will sacrifice them and you will claim that they are the problem. Harry is a scapegoat. The scapegoat is not the problem. The problem is the problem.

"A multitude may be needed to perpetuate a great falsehood, but only one is required to unveil its truth" P. Regini in speaking of Mr Alejandro Betts Goss. THANK YOU Mr Gabor Maté and Dr Rangan Chatterjee for helping to dispel the bullying brutally unjust treatment of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle perpetuated by certain media sectors of of the UK, US and Australia.

A public therapy session? How does that work for one who's traumatized because of a lack of privacy?

Really appreciate this support for Harry. Reading Spare made me really understand him and his struggles, and it is horrible that society is going after him and his wife in this way. I hope this vitriol will pass.

Whether or not publicising his pain is helping Harry heal is something that only time will tell. The one thing we can say about members of the Royal Family - with all its quirks - is that they have lived very long lives, and generally over a period of time found themselves. If stress and lack of love kills, it is certainly not killing any of them. It is to be seen whether Harry achieves the same outcome or he crashes and burns. My life experience tells me that trying to resolve trauma in public only exacerbates it and turns it into entertainment. Whether Dr Mate helped Harry or turned him into a spectacle is something that we will only know in 10 years time.

I always thought a psychiatrist has to keep his patient's data secret. I certainly wouldn't continue with a psychiatrist spilling my problems all over the media.

It is vital to be nonjudgmental when talking about another’s life and behavior.

He is still a well loved figure in the world . watching from South America . I can’t understand the vitriol and hatred against him . Thank you for this episode.

From the time Harry was born I watched him grow and the trauma he went through. I read the Spare and I love this riveting book. Everyone must read this book. Royal family is very disappointing and dysfunctional. He is a hero in this lifetime. Thanks for this podcast. Dr. Gabor Mate you said it all as is. Dr. Gabor I witnessed everything. Dr. Gabor Mate I know your podcast will reach far and wide and people be better listening to your lesson. Dr. Chatterjee of all the people on earth the royals are the most dysfunctional race. They have no soul.

Harry, we have your back and always will. Do what you do, and do so confidently. You have earned our respect 🙏

Sad really he’s just trying to be himself but even his brother doesn’t underdtand him even his father too, Harry is Harry no matter what no filters he says what on his mind but the haters and newscaster is unbelievable, bless you and be brave God is watching you!

Thank you bringing a voice for Prince Harry.

I look forward to Harry moving on from his ":hurt people hurt others" phase. I would love for him to have a redemption arc.

Thank You ! this is the truth as I see it also

I am so sorry for Harry !! Really he is only human and stand alone !! Wishing he could come and live here in Namibia !! He will be happy here and will found love and peace of mind !!!

That book was ghostwritten, so I have no idea why Mate continues to diagnose the ghostwriter through his words. I thought 'diagnosing' anyone through a fictionalized narrative was a no no.

Thank you for standing up for him💜

So sad to hear people sending Dr Gabor venomous messages just because he has a Compassionate heart! So shocking!😮

What a washout given by a burnout therapist. Oy Gevalt.

There are many people who has gone through life's difficulties & trauma but Harry is extra ordinary that becomes destructive not only to himself but destroying & hurting his other members of his own family.

I can’t imagine what it must’ve been like to grow up in an institution like the RF. I would say a rarefied environment like that lacked expressions of love and warmth. The focus is more on public duty and service. If the RF and the people around them identified with their roles very seriously, it would be a very surreal experience to deal with so much formality, protocol, masks and personas. I’d say “gilded cage” is apt. But also utterly surreal like puppets in a theatre On top of that the relationship with the public is disturbing from my point of view, where they are treated as Icons- venerated and separate to, but also a sense of ownership by, the general public. People projecting their own selves, ideals, devotion and love or hate on to them all the time. I’m saying it’s disturbing to be having that kind of experience and relationship with the world I’m obviously speaking from my perspective as an outsider. Imagine being born into that, it’s all normalised. But you’d know something wasn’t right, something is missing. How can any of us judge Harry really, we have no idea. It was/is a different reality he was born into A lot of anger and venom is directed at him for speaking out against his family. I haven’t followed this much or read his book…but I’ve read a fair few comments here and elsewhere about Harry hurting his “loving family”. This is quite complex as there seems to be a lot of projection and idealisation going because they are the/ “our” ROYAL family. “How dare he!?” Not saying they weren’t loving in the best way they could, you could actually say that about every family. But of course they nonetheless can cause a huge amount of damage and pass on generational trauma. I understand I’m going to be lacking nuance about the queen saying they can’t be half in/ half out. However that is also a common pattern in dysfunctional families. You will be scapegoated and cut off if you don’t tow the family line. If Harry’s behaviour is a little worrying at times as I’ve heard people say, I wouldn’t be surprised. I’d say he’s having a colossal culture shock having so much freedom, and adjusting to “normal” life as a civilian. He’s also had a monumental loss with being effectively cut off from his family and the RF institution. He could be having an identity crisis, as anyone would who has gone though so much change. Especially difficult in a public facing role where there is so much judgment directed at him. I’d say give him some time and he’ll find himself. He’ll gather up his true inner strength and power, beyond anything he had when in the RF. I believe he’s got a VERY big role, yet to be played out. He is an instigator of change. And that is always going to be messy, chaotic and met with resistance, especially so when going against the force of the monarchy. But I do believe ultimately change is inevitable, and also needed. And Harry is still playing a big part in the monarchy, whether he is recognised as a member of it or not. He is really spotlighting the monarchy for our attention. Whether the monarchy will ultimately survive is the question, but it will definitely need to evolve and adapt.

Harry is a cycle breaker. Respect.

People love to beat the person that doesn't want to follow a given protocol. But we need to have compassion for others that are suffering.

Thank You so much Dr Rangan for this interview. Dr Gabor Mate' is one of the most advanced humans on the planet . His compassion perception and understanding is so uplifting and helps me to hold onto Hope . I so agree with his perspective on Harry and am grateful to be able to listen to this conversation. Blessings to You both and of course to Harry 🙏💗🌸

A question I ask adults as well as teenagers is if you could describe in 4 words what it was like growing up as a child in your environment with your caregivers/parents what words would you use to describe your experience? Very eye opening the words that come up. Part of my long drawn out healing (continued) process in understanding my own life with what the environment looked like for me growing up with my parents was not a very loving environment as a child. The world will ask you to ‘be strong’ and after years or carrying on In strength, weakness must take place and tied strings must be cut in the process. I realized the triggers in my life that were repeatedly perpetuating the inflammation taking shape in my body that would become chronic. I eventually became sick and realize that if I don’t continue to remove distractions that effect me negatively out of my life in order to preserve myself for as long as my energy and time left on earth will permit me, my life expectancy will shorten further for the heartache I’ve endured in suffering for in the deck of cards I was dealt. As humans, let us not walk around earth in auto-pilot mode. What we see in others is what we see in our self. Reflections. That is if you consider yourself to be human. Any kind will do.

Just because someone is rich doesn’t make them less human than the rest of us. They have the same emotional struggles. It doesn’t magically disappear just because they have money. Harry doesn’t think himself more important.

That wife of his made this conversation polarised. She is a narcissist hell bent on destroying eveyrhing on her path.

I am so furtune to listen to Gabor Maté on humanity, on childhood, on mental health...and here on Harry and how people's expectations are. To me, it's astonishing how grown-ups depende on glamour and power of king's, queen's, and princesses to represent theire own dignity and country, and point finger with disgust when theire soapbubble collapses. It seems like a hole country is collapsing when a royal member goes his own way. Strange, strange.

Great content. I feel sorry for Prince Harry. Hope he is strong enough to keep going. He had no need to go to his dads coronation. But walked into the event with all eyes on him like a boxer going into the ring. He is a cery brave and strong human being

Thats all fine, and understandable. There was no need to make such a scandal and drama about it. If you want to live a happier, emotionally gratifying life, just do it quietly, without making such a fuss...if you allow the whole world to pry into your private, most intimate life, then they will destroy you. People love to gossip and pick on the odd one out, like in a chicken coop.

I feel so bad for Harry and the hate being spewed at him!

Was nt there some relations of the Royal Family that were locked away in an Ayslum ? Can anyone shed any light on this please

I was also raised without physical touch. I don’t feel deprived at all. But I married a man who was extremely absent in the physical touch and words of affirmation areas. That I did resent. I put as much physical touch into my children until they didn’t want it. I have one child who didn’t want to be hugged and today she doesn’t like physical touch even when her husband puts his arm around her. I think some people just don’t need it as much or even like it. I am not one to hug much except my grandchildren. I love them up to bits but they never liked it much either. It’s so dependent on your personal love language and need.

It seems like "Harry" is more important than the rest of us peasants who grew up more emotionally deprived and with hardships much greater than "Prince Harry". Harry has the economic means to have many material posessions and and pay for all the mental health an medical care he will ever need. He's in a position to meet all kinds of people, make friends. and earn millions. I'm a person whose mother abandoned me and my sister as a child, been widowed and divorced and live in low income housing and can't afford the medical and things I need and no one is asking if they can help me so Harry has so many advantages than the majority of us peasants. Harry's not the the only child who lost a parent to violence and didn't receive the emotional support he/she needed. My god there are thousands upon thousands around the world suffering much greater than Harry.

This sad drama we look at it from a another country as whole British nation having a blind eye on emotional mental health issues and childhood trauma. There's no compassion or empathy from Royal family members, public or media to Harry and his family. Harry is a good example of person who went through childhood truma and still suffering mental health issues but try to empower others by his book and interview but it failed. When it comes to Crown no compassion for weak emotions and feelings. You need to be tough and brave. The duty to country come first. They forget Royal family humans with feelings. They need to have strict Occupational Health & Safety policies for Royal family on mental health issues as Public Servants. They are working royals should allowed to have stress leave. May be they have already.

I've never seen a person monetize their trauma as much as Henry.

We have no idea how gifted we are to be ordinary. May Harry find his extraordinary humanity in being ordinary.

Thank you for showing compassion to Harry and daring to discuss the terrible ostracizing of his deep wounds at the hands of the Royal Family from the British tabloids and now right wing media outlets in America. This public narrative about Harry's story was desperately needed to counterattack those vicious hounds who supposedly are providing a journalist's viewpoint. God help us all!!!

I have all the compassion for Prince Harry. He has a broken heart since childhood and still he wanted to find love, family. I may not agree with some things but I am not in his shoes, and I thank I am lucky to have anonimity.

Someone said once it may of been gabor, that regardless of circumstances, wealth etc is irrelevant as your trauma is your trauma.

Any person that leaves a toxic family dynamic and can talk about it, is a hero in my book. It amazes me how hateful people have been towards him. People comment that he is a "Prince" and really has nothing to complain about! He's a human being, just like the rest of us and HIS pain is played out in the media.

What great sadness to hear about this generational deprivation within Harry’s Royal family. What Great Joy to know that Harry is trying to ensure his children do not suffer deprivation like he did. Harry has the perfect mate in Meghan to ensure their children are cuddled and loved to break that multi-generational deprivation.

I wonder how our ancestors lived through unimaginable conditions 100 to 300 yrs ago! People who have lived through Childhood trauma will benefit from therapy but they also need some gratitude to the great aspects of their lives! 1st world problems!

Thank you Dr Gabor thank you gentlemen. Your views are very welcome. ❤

Thank you for talking about Prince Harry's issues. I feel so sad, he and his little family persistently facing negative comments from Media

5:40 true. The view is complicated further by the continuous hate, deeply vicious hatred, projected at Meghan. In fact he is is continuous fight or flight and impossible for him to heal as long as he is the target of tabloïd and troll venom. Wish him strength and love and peace.

The is best interview I have heard thus far. This information really resonance with me 😢 down in my soul.

What a relief to hear some kindness, empathy and common sense as opposed to the rabid attacks normally levelled at Harry.

We had Harry Potter and this one is Harry Pothead !

The negative comments/diatribes in the video are quite revealing. Harry is just as human as the rest of us. Thank you Dr Chatterjee for interviewing Dr Mate. 👍

I guess when all the haters come out, it just proves he is on the right path 💗 stay safe and loved Prince Harry!

OMG! Shakes her 5 year old's hand as a welcome back greeting...... lord God Almighty... that just stunned me... (oOo)

Just because the Royal Family don't hug in public, does not mean they don't hug at home. What insanity is this to judge a family by their tabloid articles and lack of Instagram "perfection".

Thank you so much for this beautiful video. 🇭🇷

The voice of reason 😌 looking forward to reading harry's book on my summer vacation. I got the exact same impressions of him, and i understand his choices. I think it all seems quite obvious when you know a little bit about his past. I wish him and his little family all the best as i do everyone here ❤

Look if he want to cure himself ? Learn how to forgive ,forget and be happy. Don’t write a book bc this will bring tears and sadness and hurt people, yourself , and those around you . Like he resurrected his mother soul and his experience during his childhood. Find something that makes you feel better.

Hi from Guyana so true of Prince Harry Story .