the ups & downs of a 7 year relationship

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the ups & downs of a 7 year relationship

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soju with sarah

Күн бұрын

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@sojuwithsarah Ай бұрын

welcome back to another episode! & thank you everyone for continuing to engage and support the podcast 🥹 I haven't gotten a chance to reply to every comment yet since everything's been so hectic but we're getting the hang of things! today we have our first guest with us, James (also known as Jung to some), to have an open conversation about relationships, love & the origin story of sarah + james! ❤ find him here! instagram.com/jung.garments

@xoxnataiie 19 күн бұрын

it makes me feel better knowing that not every anxious/avoidant attachment pairing ends in breakup.

@cooltrucly Ай бұрын

i kid you not, this video came at the right time. you describing your young relationship, in particular the codependency and maintaining individuality bit… it feels like you’re describing my own relationship. my boyfriend and i are both 23 and have been living together for almost a year now. it became so easy to default to doing EVERYTHING with my boyfriend, to the point where it became the expectation. as a result i became distanced from my friends and almost socially anxious outside of my bf. i didn’t realize i was smothering my bf, and i interpreted him not wanting to do EVERYTHING with me all of the time as him not liking me as much. clearly a lot of this was rooted in insecurity. ironically i was a hyper-independent woman before i met him, and now here i was, depending on him for everything emotionally, physically, socially. i practically forgot how to be alone and maintain my inner world. i felt like i had to share everything. it was such a negative cycle i was stuck in but i’m glad to have emerged from it now.

@brielleblythe7504 23 күн бұрын

HI !! i kid you not i'm in the same eXACT to the teaaaaaaaa situtation. may i ask how you got out of that negative cycle?

@cooltrucly 23 күн бұрын

@@brielleblythe7504 most helpful thing was carving out time for my own hobbies and my own friends, separate from my boyfriend. next was having a conversation about it to enforce some boundaries for how much of our time should be dedicated to quality time together vs simply being in the same room together doing our own things. i had an important mindset shift of prioritizing my own individual life, so that when my boyfriend and i come together as individuals, we can form a stronger whole. :)

@loveforeva12 22 күн бұрын

Did you break up or figured out a resolution? I’m also 23, feel like I give into him wanting to hang out all the time because like you, he interprets it as me not liking him as much or me to willing to put in the work. I need time by myself! Lol

@kinsale186 22 күн бұрын

@@loveforeva12just tell them exactly that, you might find yourself saying it multiple times because it’s something they will need to internalize

@loveforeva12 22 күн бұрын

@@kinsale186 you’re right… I have said it a couple times but it’s good to reinforce boundaries

@momoadazai939 Ай бұрын

Honestly, this is one of the most heartwarming and down-to-earth honest podcast session I ever saw.

@spicyhotpot_ Ай бұрын

omg first off, i love the set up. the warm ambient lighting with the beautiful decor around is so nice to look at! i am new to your channel but the lighting caught my eye. shows so much personality with just that. second, you have sucha soothing voice! i loved listening to this while i crochet. and wow james speaks so differently than the boys i know irl... its like he actually has a fully formed brain. enjoyed this podcast!

@saathviktummala9892 Ай бұрын

I agree with James, a lot of guys cop-out talking to their girls and think they know what to do, but i think its also because we think we are the problem or that we have to solve whatever is wrong in the relationship by ourselves and that often means just breaking up which is really sad

@jocemotley Ай бұрын

20 seconds in the video, 8 months in my relationship I literally want to marry him but we are 19/20 and in college so there is some time until then. Things have been almost all smooth but we are just learning the ends and out of each other right now. I know it’s gonna be a journey and I love seeing other couples that got together around the same time talk about navigating young adulthood and the experience of becoming oneself while also in a relationship

@ophieho Ай бұрын

I have been LOVING the pod Sarah!! I know how time consuming adding this to your repertoire of commitements has been, so I think I can speak for the majority of your audience who love and appreciate you for pumping out these comfy episodes alongside your other creative commitments (in the least parasocial way possible, thank you so much and I love you) 🩷 Really enjoyed this episode particularly, it's REALLY hard to talk so openly about your relationship with your partner especially in the context of it being shared publicly online. Y'all have a great dynamic and have grown so much together, it well and truly shows when you reflect on your past and the challenges you've each faced. I have a question - how is James so eloquent with his words? Does he read a lot? Or does he consume less brain rot media or something? I feel like I read a lot and thought I had a decent vocabulary but the way he uses these big words in his sentences so casually just goes to show that he's in a whole different league LOL like I might try and use a big word because I saw it in the context of something, then someone asks me "what does that mean?" and then I'm like "i dunno it just sounded cool" HAHAHHA PS - team sarah, always (sorry james)

@musicmoviestrailers1 Ай бұрын

Love this! Transparency about your ups and downs and making it to a solid healthy place is so important wish there was more content like this!

@yorkinkhidirov1999 Ай бұрын

team Sames (sarah + james)! You guys are so down to earth, calm collected. You are giving me a hope on having a long lasting healthy relationship. Glad to be a part of your journey...

@aprylchiem Ай бұрын

I really liked listening to you guys talk about your relationship and being really open and vulnerable. It's nice seeing both of you together in the vlogs and in these podcasts.

@edgykatrina Ай бұрын

I have been loving this pod!!!! also James is such an emotionally intelligent self aware king...

@nakamiyonemura2001 Ай бұрын

All my faves in here NOWAY

@kaitlynchua8788 26 күн бұрын

This video literally sums up my current situation so I can't thank you enough for sharing your experience esp the LDR component because I just graduated from uni and also going through long distance and had troubles at the 2 year mark too! Absolutely love the video! Keep up the good work!

@Yooue Ай бұрын

I love how down to earth, chill, and mature you guys are! I’m so happy you decided to do podcasts bc you’ve accomplished so much which inspires me to do so as well. Thank you so much for sharing your stories!

@whachuupto Ай бұрын

Timing couldn't be more perfect for this episode to come out. You guys have been the soundtrack to my hours of packing myself out of my Vancouver apartment. I think I would have lost my mind if I didn't have your dulcet voices keeping me company

@loup5533 20 күн бұрын

Haha I'm doing the same but packing in ! Taking upstairs all these boxes and wondering what I'm going to keep when moving in with a roomate who already lives in the appart is easier listening to them calmy go back on the history of their relationship !

@itssharonma Ай бұрын

not me tearing up watching this; this is so cute 🥹

@LovelyBeauty21 Ай бұрын

I love this episode so much and the mature insight you both have reflecting on your relationships. I usually don’t like podcasts but I’ve been really enjoying this one and the topics have been so great and relatable so far ☺️

@sublimebutterfly55 13 күн бұрын

I love how you guys slowly get closer and closer throughout the conversation lol

@bitterang4661 Ай бұрын

james is so messy for that ending haha #teamsames i love how you guys articulated your emotions so well... i hope i'm this emotionally mature + secure when im 27

@erinrobles5704 23 күн бұрын

so lovely!! this is my new comfort podcast🥹🥹

@shevanisegivans8773 Ай бұрын

I’m so thankful for this podcast ❤ This episode made my day.

@avrikion Ай бұрын

Ya'll are so genuinely cute together!

@dominique5802 Ай бұрын

I watched an episode of yours about aging and there’s some so healing about watching these 💗 thank you for making these. just subscribed :)

@ellemccray6171 Ай бұрын

Newest fav pod in my weekly rotation!

@nguy3namy Ай бұрын

team sarah, but still love u king

@fireystella Ай бұрын

your talks are very insightful~~ thank you for sharing! i feel like your pod makes me think :p

@laurendelgado3249 Ай бұрын

Team James 🤭 HEHE, nah jkjk. Thank you guys for making this video! As someone in a 4 year LDR who's about to move in with their partner, this was really important for me to watch. It definitely gave me some ideas for conversations we should have. I wish you guys so much love and happiness with your next milestones! 💘💖💝

@loup5533 20 күн бұрын

Yeees completely ! Sometimes I feel like I should not be watching other people talk about their relationship on youtube because it would be like "spoiling" me of what may happen in my relationship and maybe make me too cerebral or less genuine you know ? But it's so reassuring to listen to them talk about what they struggled and they still went through it. We know very well how to deal with conflict with my girlfriend and the fact we have great communication makes me very sure of us lasting and wanting to last but I know that going through adulthood, finding new jobs, purposes, wondering where to live will be a lot ! Their video really helps anticipating these talks we'll need to have !

@happymallows7232 Ай бұрын

can i just say moose is sooo cute and it's so nice of u to just let him roam around freely

@steven-cs8rr Ай бұрын

Team Sarah all the way haha Loved the podcast!

@hchung155 Ай бұрын

Love your podcast so far! Thank you as well for having it available on apple podcast :-) I like to listen on the go!

@ItsStyleTheory 27 күн бұрын

Aww I loved this ☺️ and both of your voices are so calming!

@happymallows7232 Ай бұрын

i loveee this episode. but i think it would be extra nice if you would put a subtitle/caption in your podcast :)

@lily_007 Ай бұрын

Great episode!

@TheTk85 Ай бұрын

TEAM SARAH!!

@dinannananna Ай бұрын

Team Moose obviously.

@jekinha112530 Ай бұрын

This was so wholesome

@jxxxvii Ай бұрын

Yayyy thanks for getting halohalo from ur Filipino viewer

@ac6852 Ай бұрын

love you guys so much

@happymallows7232 Ай бұрын

special request to make bloopers section a portion for moose coz he's soooo cutee

@geralddd.g Ай бұрын

😂W bloopers

@Angela-vu7vo Күн бұрын

you should have manifestelle on your podcast

@cathlapugot Ай бұрын

Love halo-halo!!!

@_mishal.a 27 күн бұрын

team james.

@frogiwthoutahat Ай бұрын

I am not going to tell you what to do. but you need to give this guy an ultimatum. Because if he's not overjoyed to marry you at any time, you could easily find someone in new york who would. and I'm not even talking about appearance wise, but just there's so many other fish in the sea. I'm sure there's a lot of love there and all, but you deserve someone who will give you the marriage and kids on a decent timeline and not feel scared about that idea. there are so many good guys looking for that. I'm dating as a woman who doesn't really want kids and trust me every single guy wants kids

@lucyl4603 26 күн бұрын

If you need to give someone an ultimatum, the marriage is doooooomed. Just find someone who matches your needs / pace

@idab6864 21 күн бұрын

Anytime I see someone wait 7+ years to get married it's hard not to view it as a "shut up" ring

@marcelal.8688 3 күн бұрын

I don't agree on the ultimatum, but I really see what you mean. She does deserve better and I'm almost 100% sure she would find a better match for herself, a person that would just click almost instantly, and build a strong and sure relationship from there. I'm kind of sad after hearing this story, and I'm a person who is with her first partner still, after 12 years.