I would love to see Shalabh’s mother in one of the podcasts. 😂 Shalabh if you’re reading this, please bring her on at least once.

Brij really has a knack for putting across really valid points backed by solid evidence 👏

I am a maths teacher from USA at an international school in Tokyo. Your family talks have helped me so much as a teacher on cultural values as I have a lot of Indian students at the school. You have to come to Tokyo as there are a lot of Indians here. The Japanese government as made a deal with India to bring in more professionals as their population is declining. Thank you for all you do. I have introduced you to my Indian moms here. They can relate especially being between to cultures. I have actually received Indian food from a mom today. So good. Please come to Tokyo.

Brij I feel your pain! I am the middle child here and I experienced 100% the same situation as you. I think zarna has experienced so many hardships since an early age such as losing her mother and family support, money issues and giving up her career opportunities that she now tries to control every variable so that you guys don't run into the same problems or make the same mistakes. As an immigrant she understands that there is very little room for error and only so many opportunities available hence which is why she is so hard on you guys. Although she does seem extremely overbearing, please do give your mother some grace as her actions are motivated with good intentions.

Zoya brought tears to me with her words about her mom. love this podcast! It's the only one I listen to. I wish it was on more often. ❤

What a wonderful episode. The irony about hearing the kids complain about mom is that it just makes your family seem even more real and wholesome to be willing to talk about the hard stuff mixed in with the good stuff. Thank you.

This family ... ❤ Love all 5 personalities. I am a middle child (4 kids). Now 66 years old. I learned from the older 2 what not to do. The youngest one was care free. Kevin Leman wrote a book on The Birth Order ... excellent! A+ to Zarna ... for her honesty & vulnerability.

Omg, loving the podcast!! I’m a newly minted immigrant parent raising my 1.5 year old son in Jersey City (not NYC, but close enough!) and I’m absolutely loving the conversations here, makes me think about the things I want to do or not do as my little one grows up!! Aunty Zarna - loved your comment about how Zoya is your pride, Brij your weakness and Veer your joy. So my A grade goes to you. I do want to point out that I thought the A grade has to be about something that’s said on the show, but these days the kids especially are giving the A grade based on something totally outside of the show - like mom has so much energy to yell even after doing everything she does- but hello that’s not something that was said in the podcast!! Have to admit the podcast is my favorite thing to listen to on my drive to work and always puts a smile on my face ! Absolutely love the family dynamics! I have so much more to say, will save it for another day! P.S. - hope you caught on the fact that I have a SON, did well didn’t I ? haha JK we totally wanted a girl 😅

I just enjoy listening to Brijj!!! He is the best, I would love to have someone like him coach young kids. Straight shooter without sarcasm or other hurtful words! That's clean ❤️

I loved listening to this episode! I only recently realized that I could watch on KZfaq vs just listening to a podcast. It’s so wonderful to watch everyone’s facial expressions!! I’m so encouraged by each episode because of the authenticity of each person! Zarna, I give you the A because as a Mom, I know how it feels to receive feedback from my kids. I want honest feedback, and sometimes that hurts deeply. You ended up receiving all of this and still posted the episode!! The wonderful part of all of this is that while your children are so honest, they also love you dearly!! They understand that parents are people and are not perfect! What an awesome understanding at such a young age!! Great episode!!

I have to give my A+ to Zarna bc she was willing to admit the guilt that she has with raising Brij and I think that was very noble of her to admit that as well as when she said Zoya was her pride, Brij is her weakness, and Veer is her joy. I think so much shame has been thrown at Zarna for different reasons some I will admit to agreeing with, but I also can’t help but think why all her kids are great people and that obviously had to be bc of her and the internet doesn’t see everything. So great job Mrs. Zarna and I love watching your podcasts!🥰

Excellent work of piece I am middle child and it’s true that the focus is not on middle children but thankfully as it gives us opportunities to be more independent and emotionally mature. Hey guys, MOM is the gift of God who takes care of us with all her abilities & limitations.

Zoya is Zarna's "mini me"😂😂 checking up on if Veer's doing his homework😂😂

I totally love this episode!!! I’m crying from laughter and deep emotions I can’t explain. Stay strong!! I am also the firstborn child of a Chinese immigrant family, and my mother’s voice rings in my head. I am 48 and have 4 children 22,19,17,15. And I tell them that my goal is for them to have my voice in their heads forever. My eyes will be watching them no matter where they go. That’s just the way it’s gotta be. Hahahahaha

Absolutely loved the podcast! It's 12 midnight here and just finished watching. Yea also, A grade to Brij for walking that tight rope so successfully as Zarna mentioned😊

Ahhh Zarna, don't show the individual screens..show the entire screen so that we can see the responses of others while someone is speaking. That's the entire fun part of the video to see expressions of each other. Please don't do this editing and go back to the older way of showing the whole screen.

God bless this family... They're all adorable. Being a mother I completely understand where Zarna is coming from and I empathize with her the most.

This was suchaaa a great comic refreshment with sprinkle of reality check. Both of my parents are youngest of their siblings and that theory is spot on accurate. They are too headstrong, control freak and dont want to compromise to the point that they are actually divorced now. I'm being raised by my dad, anf it has not been easy on me at all since i'm actually only child. But I also know living with my mom wouldn’t have been too different cause she is like him too, a headstrong, tough lady.But life has been so challenging overall. I'm the age of Zoya, so i really think, a great family could have been a great help for me to shine more in life.

Another great episode!…very interesting!…I definitely am giving my A grade to Brij!..he brought so much to the table today!..this family needs its own TV show!..much love and appreciation for you all!💜

What an exceptionally ‘open’ family. The mere fact that the siblings can 😮express their honest feelings--is admirable. TY oh have a great family. Do t do anything different

I always love these kids. So smart snd articulate. I can never choose who to give the A+

Please do a sleepover episode. That struggle in the south Asian household is SO REAL!!! 😂

Hi, love your family ❤ I’m a 40 something woman who is an only child. There was no parties, sleepovers, camps or after school activities for me. I had to sit with the adults which made me grow up faster. The cotton wool was so tight I had to move out at 17 for my own mental health. Now, in today’s world I have 2 teenagers (girls 🤦🏻‍♀️) who fight all the time & it makes me so sad to see it. But my husband is exactly like yours 😂 & my mum is exactly like you. I get multiple texts a day & I get a 2-3 hour phone call a day. Although the phone calls are mainly so long because she’s fighting with my dad over who lost the credit card & I’m supposed to help them find it over the phone. But I take all of this in because one day they won’t be texting or calling me anymore 😢. Much love from Australia 🇦🇺

The banter is entertaining, but also enlightning. Transparency "exposes" which is risky, but so refreshing. All that aside, Shalabh, sporting "Roots" makes my Canadian heart glad. And Zarna, there's no need to feel rebuffed as there's no denying that you are the "fashion forward" member of the family, no matter what you MIL (or anyone) may say. Best wishes to each of you.

After listening to this podcast, I realised how much our parents' upbringing has to do with our upbringing. In my case, I'm the only one 😂. But in mom's case, she was the second child and the eldest daughter. Her parents gave her freedom to choose what she wanted to do. And that was because she was responsible enough to understand the outcome of her decisions. Whereas my father was the youngest among his siblings. He was very much protected and guided by his elder siblings. He tried to do the same with me but my mom convinced my dad that I can do whatever I want because they can intervene when there's a trouble.

Enjoyed this family chat. Could relate to a lot of it coming from a 3 sibling family myself. The kids are very articulate. For me, being the youngest and the only son, I definitely remember being pampered by everyone, feeling protected and also at times that my opinions didn’t matter until I reached by late 20s.

I am the middle child and definitely feel your pain Brij. I am 60 years old and my mom still triggers me. I was always the quiet one who caused the leased amount of trouble. I definitely did feel like I was not as important. I think felt the “screaming” the most deeply because I did not push back. My brother and sister argued much more often with my parents. I think the result of this is that I screemed at my kids very often. Only when I went to therapy and got medication was I able to no longer need to take my repressed stress out on the kids. I think it is ok to make your own mistakes to learn by.

Definitely, another wonderful discussion and interaction in a quasi-dysfunctional family (aren’t all families?). Truly, there is no “need” for a session with a family therapist. This podcast is a therapy session in and of itself. 😊❤️😊

Zoya is mostly always correct ✅ Also, why is the parents always trying hard to demean Zoya in all the things she does.. Somehow I feel Zoya could be better off alone without her parents making her feel wrong about every possible thing.. She deserves better. 🥺

These podcasts are my happy place online!

Absolutely love all your podcasts! These conversations are really great and I never miss an episode. Kudos to you and your wonderful family 🧡

Loved the discussion and as an Indian Mom my heart goes out for Zarna..loved how Brij articulated middle child syndrome. Would love to hear you guys out on sleepovers 😊

Fantastic podcast!! The youngest definitely gets away with more! Brig is so articulate

Great discussion and children are very articulate. I think my children have the same opinion as your children Zarna. Both my boys are grown up and left home for work interstate. When they came back home together, I was the topic -about their younger days for their fun discussion. Like you I don’t know where I get the energy to scream when something not going to go the way I planned. Your husband is typical good guy at home for the kids. I am the oldest in my family. Had the most amazing attention.

It’s a really good thing to have parents who enforce discipline THAT is LOVE I grew up very American I had a lot of freedom to think for myself & give my own disciplines Because my parents were busy, working to help financially provide Good Work Garg Family especially to Zarna for shaping your family into Successful individuals & keeping the family TOGETHER ❤

Zarna, you are awesome and all your kids derive so much from you that they may not even know of and will understand quite late in life. Mom and daughter relationships are often volcanic and that's okay. I love how you are unapologetically you. I wish we could meet and i could give you a tight bear hug!

Reminds me of my dear family! Amazing episode as always!

Zarna , you have wonderful children and I am sure you are a very hands on mommy who puts her kids needs, her family needs ahead of her own needs. I feel like you are constantly trying to prove that you are good mom because you may be invalidated. Being a mom is a thankless job. I feel you and hear you. I’m a mom myself to a daughter in college. I can see you are constantly trying to protect them and be there for them at every step of their way. More love to you mama. From one mom to another and to your sweet children. Wish them best.

I agree with Zarna …u always care for ur children. A grade for Zarna and Zoya.. 💕 sleep over was allowed for my daughter when I meet the family and I know which friends.

This is by far my absolutely favorite episode. I could totally copy paste characters from my life and family into this exact conversation 😅😂😂😂

I am the middle child (women) but can relate to Brij… I am in late 40’s but still can relate to middle child struggles of this generation….another great episode from Gargs family awesome 👏 I 💯 agree with What Zarna said A++ to Brij , also to Zarna A++ for raising such wonderful children

Love that you guys shared this and I really enjoyed reading the Birth Order book by Dr. Kevin Leman and I highly recommend that everyone read it! ❤😄

Reminded very much of my family

I would move in with this family if I could...what a delightful, rich and hilarious conversation. I am half Desi, the eldest so very very relatable. A +++++ to mom. ❤

I’m Latina and can totally relate to Zarna. As for the comments criticizing Zarna being stern till this day and on this video…are you forgetting that she’s a comedian, that part of it is for laughs. In viewing this video and her children, I will give kudos to her because all three are great kids.

What an amazing episode! Keep em coming ❤

I absolutely love your family, really. I enjoy listening to the topic you are discussing. Your kids are amazing and sooooooooo smart

A+ to Brij. Birth order does matter for sure. I am the younger sibling, but I think it depends on how they are based on how many siblings are there and how the family dynamics are too. I have one older sibling. I definitely have the advantage of walking the path that my sibling has. I never ventured into a territory of what I do not know. I am the protected one. I feel for the older sibling that it is tough for them. These episodes are thought provoking.

Veer - u should really be sooo grateful that ur sis and bro r soooo involved in ur life and look out for u. Many in the world wud die for that privilege! ❤️👏👏

I enjoyed this one the most so far. Seemed that everyone was more self-confident when they spoke so didn't have the sense of tightness when they spoke, particularly with regard to Zoya. Very honest and not in a caricaturist manner. Lively and all Gargs had their say, even Veer and Shalab. But, as a once hands-on mom, I totally relate to Zarna's style of caring for the kids. Not and easy job and the responsibilities for keeping everyone safe and healthy and the million other things that matter in bringing up kids, can be all-consuming. For sure, there are different styles of mothering, but I relate mostly to Zarna's because I think all others are "hoping" that things work out ok as opposed to doing everything humanely possible to ensure that they will work out ok. Just increasing the odds of that, in any case. Thanks for the podcast. It was entertaining in a meaningful way.

Awww my Brij !! I love how you express yourself! Zoya is ❤! Veer is a good listener !! ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

Zarna and Shalabh, you guys have raised your kids so well! Such amazing kids! Smart, well spoken and articulate with such clear thinking! My A goes to Brij as well on this one! Also- I bet Shalabh is enjoying a box of popcorn under his desk for the most part of this show😅

Spot on..not only abt Zarna but many moms... a part of her disciplining leading to screaming comes from her stress. But isnt that understandable? Its hard enuff to discipline onself but then to literally drive the younget person to take charge is daunting

Quick question to Brij. Why are you so cute? 🥰

I totally agree with no sleepovers - u don’t know the family of your friends

Beautiful children!! Listen to them mom, they are much wiser than we realize! Listen to this pod several times without an audience!

haha..this podcast cracked me up the most! because of how zoya is figuring things out along the way into the conversation and now I see how differently I see/treat/attend my two kids and I am confused wherher I should drop the attention bomb on to the second one..because she is literally doing what she wants to and the older one is all worroed about asking permission to even decide on what clothes to wear..damn..U made me realize something that is so hard to change ..and all these days I blamed on their personalities..when it just the “birth order”..and me being the third child..I always had all the freedom in the world..😊

Love this FamBam!!!

Being a mom is such a thankless job. But I bet neither Zarna nor I will ever regret being one. Like my mom always said, you’ll know when you become a Mom. And now I do….love my Mom! Hope you all do as well!

I have so much respect and love for this mom ! Kids never understand and know the amount of contemplation that goes in before any decision is taken. It’s for their good! They will get this one day when they r mothers and fathers😂

This has got to be one of the funniest podcasts ever

This is a really interesting topic that delves deeper than just birth order in an average household. There's a lot mentioned here by the kids (Zoya particularly) that I think specifically relates to the Indian immigrant experience and parenting first-generation Indian-American children. For context, I'm the eldest child of Indian parents who immigrated to the US 30+ years ago and pushed all us kids into medicine. Most parents don't know what they're doing when they have their first kid. Everything needs to be perfect and every situation is approached with caution. This is why the first kid gets so much attention. By the last kid, the parents know exactly what works and things are pretty much on auto-pilot. So by default, the pressure on the eldest child is highest. The pressure for perfection, to succeed, to take care of everyone else, etc. But the pressure put on the eldest child of Indian immigrants is on another level. Zoya, you're not alone in feeling this. Indian immigrant parents are not your average Joe Schmoe parents - specifically the immigrants that came over willingly for opportunities between 20-60 years ago. They were self-driven and highly motivated to find success after leaving home and country, and they now expect to see this drive in their children. It's why most first-gen Indian-American kids have been pushed (willingly or not) into medicine and engineering. However (and I'm witnessing this already), I don't think we'll see this push continue into the next generation (second-gen Indian Americans). A side note: Something I learned recently is that in Indian matchmaking, birth order is frequently considered for partner compatibility. An oldest is most compatible with a youngest. 2 oldest will butt heads and fight. 2 youngest will be chaotic. It's an interesting rabbit hole.

Nice podcast, I like all the kids, in the way they express themselves

You are all so loveable and enjoyable to listen to! Thank you for all you do!

😂 you guys are the best podcast I have come across!

A+ for Veer, for being like Switzerland :)) neutral and peaceful :))

Omg hilarious 😂 I can relate as an Indian woman who comes from a family of 4!

I can completely relate Zarna even though I have a single child. This good cop and bad cop runs in all family and many a time as Mom we will be the Bad Cop. But on the other hand we also have to evolve in the dynamics of parenting in the Era of Gen Z's !!! Many a places I was seeing myself in You Zarna!! But you did a great Job with your family that's clearly visible. Veer is definitely a Man of Wisdom!!

Shalab ,you are putting words on children minds n you are enjoying every bit of it.😅😅😅😅 Love all five of you. Stay blessed, safe, healthy and happy together. 💯👌👏👍☝🤞😍😍😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🤎💝💝🤎🤎fm- England 🇬🇧 U.K.

haha love this. It would be great to see everyone's expressions when someone is talking.

I have three kids, Boy, girl, boy. My raising of them is very similar to yours, Zarna. My first got the most attention at home, school and extracurriculars. My youngest got the least. My daughter is in the middle but she took on the second mom role much like Zoya. Each of my children were treated differently but as I’ve told them since they were very little, “I will treat you fairly but not equally.”

Absolutely loved and thoroughly enjoyed, happy for Zoya on way to be more independent decision making for herself.

Here for zoya❤❤❤ how can you be so humble n ur perspective is gold ❤

Zoya, please thank your parents for not allowing you to go on sleepovers.

As the youngest child in my family, I give an A + to Veer. #letveerspeak

A+ for Zoya. I agree with most of the comments that Zoya is always right . I feel like she gave A to mom because she somehow feel she owes it to her because of some kind of fear or backlash later .

What a lovely family. So real. I love it

What a podcast! ❤

that's how Indian Mothers are. Kids should understand that it is for their own good. But they all are very good kids ❤. They are very intelligent too. Loved the whole conversation.

I am just like zoya, i am the elsest and im a girl as well. Need to be the type a always. I get scolded the most. My mom is always on my collar. She doesn't forgive me easily and anytime i slip, my past sins are paraded. But yeah my mom does love me the most and expects the most of me. So im actually on cross roads of the benefits of being the oldest

Loved the episode, as always One question being an immigrant parent myself. Was Zoya the first US citizen in your family? Not trying to poke my nose into personal family matters but I strongly see that angle being a significant angle

Zarna I love you! You remind me of my mom and my dad is just the same-- being in the back picture and getting all kids sympathy 😜😜😜

Fantastic episode 👏👏👏

I loved the smile zoya hid by the end when brij tried to eat something on camera smartly and zoya noticed and thought okay mom didnt notice , otherwise zarna would school him like she did with shalabh in one of the previous episodes.

We are three siblings and we are grown ups. But what the kids are saying is so relatable 😊

Such beautiful children, two with greenish eyes. I wonder if they will all go into comedy.

Your children are adorable,frank & fearless . . Shalabh is a great listener.

Omg Veer made me laugh when he said to Zoya this gotta stop.. that kid is super brilliant

It wud be interesting to see what these kids are going to do when they hv children of their own…. The episode is roasting Zarna for every act of omission or commision of hers…😮 I m totally with Zarna… Wats wrong with your mom watching over you? Such a thankless thankless job!!!😮 Zarna shd hv one episode where she has her say regarding her family..😅 **I am happy to be of service 😢**

With the oldest child, parents are learning to be parents. With the second child the attention may be less, but the parents know what they are doing!

Love this family.

This was an excellent episode. Zarna is basically a helicopter mom. Poor Zoya. So scared of doing anything that her mother may not approve. Even at 21 years old. Zarna’s own complexes and insecurities have affected Zoya in an unhealthy manner whilst Brij and Veer, being given at least some modicum of freedom have a much healthier outlook of life. Glad Zoya is now away from the 24/7/365 degree of control and is taking time to figure out who she is and what she wants out of life. What most children do in their teenage years, Zoya is doing at 21 years of age. Love these 3 children. So intelligent, articulate and able to put forth their points without being disrespectful.

Hahaha..zarna ..1st few minutes .looks like its us and our parents even though me and zarna shud be the same age..looks like we parents from the subcontinent are all the same..my kids are not allowed to go to sleepovers....😂😂..will listen to the whole poscast

I guess not a single one but as a whole the episode deserves a A grade because the topic was very not very intense and debates were superficial it calmed my mind actually #therapy_podcast

You all form a most beautiful family❤

The youngest is always the favorite… I should know…

Omgosh this is funnier than your standup Zarna Garg 😅 And also shows the influence of excellent parenting and family love.

LOLOL 😂😅😂 " I'm not sure what you do Shalabh " lololol

My A grade to Zoya! I can totally relate to her!Me being the eldest child and me being a mom raising a daughter as the eldest child!

Parenting doesnt come with a guidebook....parents make mistakes as kids do...this isnt personal...we all are learning as we grow as families...thanks for posting..