The quote "secure people seek emotional support; not validation" hit hard. What a nugget of wisdom.

Can we just say that sometimes toxic relationships bring out the anxious attachment in that person, and that's just a symptom of a toxic relationship.

“You running after people makes them run” that was so freaking powerful

Probably one of the best videos on Anxious Attachment I've ever seen

Fear of abandonment is so strong in many people

"You need that fix more than you need a good relationship." THAT PART.

This made my stomach turn. I literally feel sick because I resonate with it so hard. I’m am an anxious attachment and I cannot bare the feeling that comes over me. It’s so true!

This is the accountability women need to seek instead of throwing “Narcissism” around. Thank you. I was born secure, raised secure. When my mother left our household I battled within myself with secure attachment and anxious attachment. I knew what I was doing was incorrect but I couldn’t say no. I feared rejection. I was so lost.

I definitely know I have pushed good people away by having anxious attachment. As I have been healing it, I sometimes cringe at my past behavior but I tell myself that I didn’t know any better at the time and I’m learning. When you heal your anxious attachment, you also heal your relationship with yourself and how you speak to yourself. You will begin to realize how kind and more patient you are with YOU. It’s a journey guys. Be gentle with yourself.

1) Self soothe 2) trust 3)seek emotional support 4) clear communication 5) not defensive take w grain of salt 6) compromise n set boundaries and respect people’s boundaries 7)free of baggage from past relationships

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

I just broke things off with the dismissive avoidant and I woke up this morning a little bit sad. But I was instantly able to take care of myself better, and not being with this person who deprives me of emotional connection. Not being with this person who triggers my ptsd. I was able to make myself a healthy breakfast and I am excited about the goals I have in my life, primarily school. I'm also going to make getting closer to God a priority as I know that God is my strength and my source of all things good

I am a psychologist and a psychotherapist, and I honestly tell you : you are a natural!!! Well done !!!

It’s crazy that after watching this, I’ve realized my bf has been trying to tell me this whole time to stop. To stop asking all these questions to feel secure , to stop doubting him and assuming he will do something wrong. I always thought he just doesn’t want to tell me because he doesn’t feel that or because he will break my trust , but honestly it seems like that is the definition of anxious attachment. I will take back my dignity and be the strong confident woman that I am. Thank you so much for this.

Male 6'2" 245 lb former Top Secret Cleared and Intelligence Officer, and after decades of trying to find out what is wrong with me and this 20 minutes is the most accurate description of me I have ever heard. I have tears in my eyes. Thank you Margarita.

As an anxiously attached man, in a beautiful loving relationship, it's pushing my partner away and I'm trying really hard to fight the dragon, I'm learning about how my secure version looks in my head, and I'd like to thank you for the moment in this video that makes the point of fearing the consequences of living in the hurt of constant anxiety of being hurt, instead of stepping into a secure role and enjoying the moment and giving full trust until being hurt...I snapped completely and let down a deep cry, thank you for your perspective, I'll be back to watching this video.

Every teenage girl should hear this message. Golden advice.

It’s so nice to finally figure out what is wrong with me so I can tackle this problem. It feels good to not feel alone

Whenever I start feeling the anxiety and feelings of abandonment I come back to this video, I've watched it so many times and every time it calms me down. Thank YOU!

This hit me so hard. We are our own pillar and we have to be our own pillar. I am anxiously attached and I will overcome this. Thank you from the bottom of my heart

"people are born as they are but people make themselves into who they wanna be" this hit me!

"..it becomes a cloud over the person you truly are" - this is the perfect description how I feel in my relationships. It's like being in prison. Imprisoned by myself.

I am a guy, and this hits very hard. Some of these behaviors and thoughts can be exaggerated more or less to me specifically, but it's definitely me. I miss the ability to create a video response to a video because I would have definitely done it with this. You're very insightful, and you sound like you would make an excellent therapist or sociologist. Thank you.

She lost me at TikTok… But I kept going and really appreciate the message that she's sending. Definitely worth re-watching. Thank you so much

As a man with an anxious attachment, I’m sitting here in my office like “yoooo she’s on point” 😂

"you need to learn what secure attachment is and act as if you are". Holy crap. And overnight i went from fearing I will be abandonned, to .. not at all. This one struck so hard true. I do understand i still need to perform so much work, but just this bit of information kindof pivoted me enough in the right direction that it made me feel so much better. This video has helped me more than the countless hours of discussions with my friends. ❤

I'm more secure than anxious but I can see where I need to strengthen my boundaries. Thankfully, I'm not anxious enough to stay in something toxic and a few dates right after a first date, my date tried to tell me that "he cared about me" 😂 and I told him how manipulative and inappropriate he was. Doing good and getting stronger every day 😊

being anxious /avoidant, you will sabotage everything that is good with relationships, and only attract nonesense into your life, the nonesense that you demanded through your actions.

12:54 Regulate your emotions (without the person to validate you) 13:16 Not ask people how they feel in order to make you feel better about your self, until it becomes a practice to your self 13:33 Secure people trust others (You need to deploy a element of trust) 25:06 Secure people have effectively communication skills They say what they desire and what they. want, as opposed to searching for outs of people and searching for inadequacies *Example instead of*: "Why you don't call me last night?" "I Love it when you call me, I love it if you call me tomorrow."* [Say what you want instead of, what the person didn't do. You need to communicate clearly with your words and needs, as opposed to play games.] 15:47 Secure people need emotional support, instead of validation *Example*: ▪︎"I am feeling tired today, I'd really want to spend time with you." ▪︎"I really need your help on this issue." [They watch what is happening and let's say after two months he doesn't call you. And say: " You know I love when you call me, it makes me feel happy. When you don't, it's makes me feel sad."] 16:14 Secure people are comfortable being alone [ You need to be on this Journey with yourself. You need to have a little stoicism.] 16:51 Secure people are not defensive [They take things with a pinch a salt. They know that not anybody can really see into you. Nobody really knows you. Everybody sees you with a perception of themselves plastered on it.] 17:07 How to stop being defensive? (the right mindset - Not defensive but empathy) [People don't talk about you, they are talking about a microscosm of what they saw and put it together in their head, from their life experiences and were over the web of what they believe is a reality. That isn't me, that is the perceptionthey have for me.] 17:30 Secure people show empathy were it is needed [They're there for other people, not because I gives them something back. They don't expect anything back.] 17:42 Secure people know when to compromise and when to say no [They know we're their limits are.] *Example*: Bf/Gf: "Can you wah the dished please?" ▪︎Anxious attached person: "Yes, yes" (even if they're tired -> Just to be liked) □Then resentment will build up and then they'll have a fight with her partner□ ▪︎Securely Attached person: "I'm sorry I'm tired today, I can't do it. But I love you I will try tomorrow" [They know their capabilities. They learn to know themselves. They're straightforward. They say what they feel and mean what they say. They respect other people boundaries ] 19:01 Secure people are free of old baggage Study Secure Attachment style: ‐ Attached - Getting the Love you Want - How to be an adult in relationships

Everyone should watch this... this is free therapy. Thank you so much.

I cried… thank you for understanding and being able to articulate to individuals like myself. Wonderful feeling knowing your on the right path through self-awareness.

This is an exact point by point explanation of how I am. Needing constant validation, clingy, terrified of abandonment, literally everything.

Anxious attachers often will attract avoidant partners because the reason most people have an anxious attachment is that one of their primary caregivers was an avoidant attacher. However, people with anxious attachment styles (depending on the level of anxiety) can often create a great partnership with a secure attachment person, who will by their steadiness and patience allow the anxious attacher to relax and become more secure themselves.

This brought me to tears, I don’t know what to do, I feel helpless I just want to be content with being alone.

“You have decided somewhere in your early life that the only reason people want to be around you is because you’re comfortable to be with.” That really hit me. Everything else in this video as well but this one especially. Everything you said is blowing my mind. I knew I wasn’t mentally right in a lot of aspects, but I didn’t realize there was a term out there that explains my behaviors and thought processes EXACTLY as they are. Thank you for making this video. I’m now subscribed and heading to your TikTok now to follow. ❤

When the student is ready, the master appears. Thank you for your light Margarita. I'm ready to dive deep into secure attachment and make it my reality❤

A funny thing: you’d still lose people if you’re secure. Your needs don’t automatically change and people wouldn’t like it or be triggered by your communication. Knowing yourself & growing is a treasure, however, life gets rid of people for you the more you come into yourself.

Literally cried while watching this. I dealt with separation anxiety as a child because my mother was a drug addict and now I’m 20 and dealing with anxious attachment in my relationship. Ive been trying so hard to change it but it’s so hard. I’m not giving up.

My partner literally just told me in this moment he just needs me to be secure or space! This was a huge shift and I realized I don’t need to do this back and forth insecurities and I can be a secure partner in this relationship and phone call right now. 💜😅 downloading those books now. Thanks

I’m a 22 year old male trying to figure myself out for my girlfriend who is amazing and everything I could ever ask for. I have put too much strain on this relationship over the past year we’ve been dating but already know that I want to go the distance with this woman. I don’t have the “feminine energy” as you put it xD but I truly do appreciate this video and the straight forward way of talking. I’m tired of dancing around this subject let’s be the best version of ourselves that we can be. Thank you for this video.

Can I just say: this comment sections brings me so much hope. Resources, learning, self-awareness, empathy. Every one of you are breaking the patterns and if we choose to be parents, we will be able to give what we weren’t given. And I just love the idea that future generations, slowly but surely, will have less trauma to work through, less re-patterning, through more secure love.

This is one of the best if not the BEST video i’ve ever seen on Anxious attachment style. Simple, straight to the point and taken from a mouth of someone who have been through it all and came to the other side with the best advice. You gave me hope. Thank you so much!🙏🏻

Wow! I have never heard anyone break me down like you do in these videos...not even therapists do this. I prayed for God to direct me to the people online who can help me heal this part of my life. I am at that stage where I've had enough of myself and had enough of slowly killing myself with this. Thank you so much. I will be purchasing the books.

Damn she is straight up spitting facts 😅 I am seeking validation from someone I don’t even want or know! I’m going to have to watch this about 7 more times.

This video is a major reality check. It made me so damn angry with myself, because it is so true. I am going to listen to it again and again until I start listening to it with self-compassion and understanding. And then I'm gonna work on it in a healthy way.

I feel like I’m dying alive with this anxious attachment… now that you mention it I can understand why I’m struggling with this… I was the most happy little girl with my two parents but at the age of 16-17 my life changed when I started having problems with my parents for them being over protective and I wanted to do what I wanted, nothing bad but for example being with a man that they wasn’t agree… I left my country at the age of 21 years old and now I’m 31 years old… last time I saw my family was 10 years ago… I’m in so much pain struggling with a difficult relationship and my anxiety is killing me, I don’t know what to do….

I really hope you see this but man… these are all the things my boyfriend has been telling me for a year since we got together and it took for us to almost break up and call it quits for me to actually put effort into looking into what he has been telling me for months now… everything you explained, and I mean every single point you stated that is exactly how I feel in relationships all the time. Just watching some of your videos has changed my outlook on myself and how I view myself and myself forth. It’s like a new level awareness. Thank you so much. I feel like you really are helping so many people.

as a dude struggling with anxious attachment, it has pushed every relationship away in a self fulfilling prophecy. but now i’m ready to change for the better! wishing you all the best !

You speak about this really brilliantly. I’ve been on the same journey, going from anxious to secure over the past 6-7 years. Choosing to heal this is a game changer. For anyone reading this - I promise, you can heal this & feel soooo much better. Wishing everyone the best. Thank you 🙏🏻

I was so tired of watching self-help videos like this ,_, most of them made me feel like there’s really something wrong with me and it’s all my fault that I’m in this mess. I’m so happy I tried one more time and listened carefully to everything you say. You’re on point about everything. It almost felt like you were reading my palm 🤭. I know I have this unhealthy attachment style that I got from childhood, and it was never my intention fo be toxic to everyone I love. It’s hard hearing all this in such a straightforward manner because it’s the truth. No one’s responsible for our emotions but ourselves. I have more to say, but I’m just gonna bid my greatest gratitude and best wishes to you. Thank you so much from the bottom of my exhausted heart 💕

I felt as if you were talking directly to me. This video made me cry. I've always wondered why I have the reactions that I do, but to know that I can change it through hard work gives me hope. Thank you.

I just discovered what Anxious Attachment was this morning and have self diagnosed myself. Now I can't stop looking at videos on the topic. It all makes so much more sense now. I have always just thought that I "loved hard" and that it was always too much for others. I've been crying off and on all morning now that I realize and have a better understanding of how I have behaved in relationships.

As an anxious attacher in the process of healing, I've realized the that the key to changing your attachment style to secure is truly loving yourself and believing in yourself. When you have that confidence and commitment to making yourself happy you will not have those automatic anxious thoughts, you will not seek out validation because you can give it to yourself.

I love your energy. My grandparents were Eastern European and I never got ti meet them due to ww2, I feel like I need your energy in my life. Thank you for being you my friend.

When I first came across this video, I felt as though I saw these traits in myself but only from a distance. I have to say, over time I’ve grown more aware in my own relationship and each time I come back to watch this video it reveals to me simultaneously how much work I HAVE done and how much work I haven’t done. It always gives me very mixed emotions yet I keep coming back to watch it because she’s completely right - every bad thing about my relationship has been due to my own anxiety. It feels like you have two personalities at times, and you watch over and over again as your emotional and irrational self attempts to sabotage your relationship in order to get rid of that horrible feeling of discomfort. It can feel like reality, but it isn’t. And once you KNOW for sure that it’s not a reality, discernment becomes a lot easier. There’s loads more to say about all of it but this is a great summary. Thank you so much for this video! It really inspires me to keep doing better.

This video has literally flipped a switch in my brain. I feel so much more informed and aware of why some of my relationships are the way they are.

Regulate your emotions without revalidation You need to deploy the element of trust Communicate clearly give people a chance Comfortable being alone (no attachment anxiety) Not defensive Show empathy when it’s needed not expecting anything back Know your capabilities Respect other people’s boundaries Free of old baggage Be in the moment Read the following books ATTACHED GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT HOW TO BE AN ADULT IN RELATIONSHIPS

I cant tell you enough how much i can relate to your each words. You are absolutely right! Living in/having anxious attachment style is a curse.i have it... And i really badly wanna change it!

This is beautiful. Seriously so well said. I am going to listen to this every single morning unit I can confidently say I’m better. It’s so hard but I know I can do it. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

This is incredible I feel so naked after this but also like I need to replay this daily until I get it right. I'm on KZfaq daily for years and this is hands down the most important video that I've ever seen. Thank you for this.

As a male, I can honestly say I'm indeed an anxious attachment. I always thought I was confident, but dating people ended up brining the bad qualities in me and I end up coming across as needy. Grateful for this video and insight and this helps lots.

As a psychology student it’s really difficult to know exactly what you’re going through but not knowing what to do about it. Thank you so much

Been in therapy almost a year, and been in therapy once before to get out of a toxic relationship, so most of these things I have heard before. But I had to stop the video at some point cause I was about to cry. Father that has never been 100% in my life, lots of bullying and rejection growing up and I turned out into a depressed, anxious person, who’s not able to get vulnerable with other but also feels completely alone. Letting go of the disappointments is not easy

I felt this entire message to my core. I’ve been so stressed, overwhelmed, feeling alone because “I have no friends or loved one” but I’ve never been able to sustain relationships because in my heart I believe people are going to leave me or hurt me. It’s an awful mindset to be in & I desperately need/want to be secure in myself and love myself. I’m trying to learn how, so I can be a better me & example to my daughter

Who's watching this in 2024? 🙋‍♀

12/27/2023 I realized I am an anxious attached kind of person. I’m a good person but today today I realized I am anxiously attached. What an amazing way to start my year. I get to work on who I am. Thank you for sharing this information

Wow, your "real talk" approach to anxious attachment really resonated with me!! While listening to this, I was able to step outside of the victim mindset that an anxiously attached person has and step into deeper reasons to feel/act secure. Thank you!

I believe I went from secure to anxious from being in a 15 year long abusive marriage. I still retain most elements of secure (respect boundaries, I don’t over text or call, strong sense of self and confidence, can be alone) but I have discovered that when in a relationship, the more my feelings grow the more anxious I get. It is actually nice to identify what is going on so I can work on it instead of focus on those uncomfortable feelings.

You’ve been waking me up to who I’ve been. I’m ready to grow up now and be there for my inner child

You hit me so hard!! Sufferring from anxious attachement that pushes away a good person. I really want to be more aware of this attachment style that is causing trouble in my relationship

as a man with an anxious attachment style I have to say thank you. I only wish I had found this video sooner. The way you speak so frankly about how these behaviors destroy relationships, from a perspective of experience, is extremely effective (painfully so). It's like looking into a mirror and not liking what you see but realizing you can change what you see there. this video is going to be a great starting point in making a change in my life. thank you

As I got off the phone with my boyfriend questioning him where he had been , feeling extremely anxious , your video popped up right in front of my KZfaq page . I had to watch this , you liltery describing me to the core . Every single personas you are laying is about me . I appreciate the universe and you have brought my issue to the surface so I can be aware and keep on pushing on my healing journey . It is not easy , but I know I’ll make it through . And I will give myself the validation , selflove , care that I , myself , my body , my soul deserve . Thank you again . God bless you .

I’m a year late but this is tremendously helpful. I didn’t know what I was feeling and why I was this way, but I’m now on a journey to heal and become secure

You just made a 48 year old man cry, almost every single word you spoke of is descriptive of me. I have pushed every single person in my life away,including family, no longer have a single friend, if my phone rings which it rarely does it’s because somebody needs something of me, and the resentment and total inability to trust anyone including myself. I have always vocally expressed that there were no rules in my world and that I’ll do whatever I want whenever I want and answer to nobody,I still do live this way to this very minute but i cant be vocal to people who are long gone now,my fear of not being liked and accepted has made me have behavioural habits thats have in turned them away,"what i feared most" life is fucked sometimes. The pain and fear and resentment that i have inside me is overwhelming, ive twice unsuccessfully tried to take my own life to escape the mental menace that occupies my brain cavity. I will get to that point many more times to come so eventually ill get it right and be at peace with myself Regards Nobody !!

I just wanted to tell you that your video was the epiphany i needed. I cant tell you enough how much i thank you. Ive watched gazillions of attachment videos abt my attachment style. My recently broken up avoidant ex and i are no longer together. I let him go after 10 months of painful communication, anger, argument, back n forth etc. i realized that he is perhaps not the one for me, but i also realized that i am done being anxiously attached , and im not just saying this. Im done. Im ready to do the work. Im ready to be in my truest version of my feminine. When im not anxious, i have strength, my friends come to me for advice, i calm people down. But i cant apply this to myself. Like you, i also did Keto for two straight years, having lost 75 pounds. I felt freer, more beautiful, stronger. I also attracted more people to myself seeing i could lose the weight and feel healthier. I stopped doing Keto but have stuck to doing OMAD. Im eating carbs again, but never gain now. I wesr real skinny jeans now and look and feel fabulous. I will be subscribing, following your journey. Binge watched your content now. Please continue the very empowering talks and videos. I clicked on your video with tear stained eyes. My eyes are completely dry, and i have literally stood up and risen from my chair quite literally. You dont know how your one video has helped someone truly in need. That was me. That was today. Thank you.

We need to get stuff like this teached in school.. so we doesn't hurt each other and leave so much scars.. For now I am anxious attached.. but I hope this will change 😄

I guess that it's important to mention that you can heal while in a relationship, so some of these behaviors can show up, and a loving person will help you and have patience, not push you away so easily. Everyone have your wounds, triggers and stuff, and in a relatioship it can show up, sometimes even you do not see it coming. To heal, you need to feel safe, so choose someone who will bring this safe space, not someone who will leave in the first obstacle or flaw.

How I wish this information had been presented to me about 15-20 years ago. You explain it perfectly. I can't wait to receive my copy of The New Rules!!

My ex was an anxious attachment I still love her but she just DROWNED me in her attachment and felt so suffocated. I made a promise to love her no matter what but she ended up being so insecure and jealous that eventually she just wanted to end things as hard as it was for her but jesus christ.....I really don't understand anxious attachments. Hopefully she finds healing but I need to focus on myself now. Because, it's my life now.

I'm currently going through a breakup where the relationship itself was healthy and happy, but as soon as he blind-sided me with how he truly feels it sent me spiraling back to the anxious person I was in all of my unhealthy relationships before him. It's been a month and a half and I'm still spiraling and reeling. This video could not have come at a better time for me. Thank you.

This video BROKE me and humbled me so much.

This was truly awakening and helpful. This has been me it’s like you’re talking as if it’s me and my past. I’m so happy to have found this on here. Thank you so much for doing this video. I’m going to work on myself realising I’ve been pushing my relationship with my bf away by being so anxious. 🙏🏼❤️🧿 looking forward to more videos from you like this. It really takes someone experiencing it and explaining it in their own way to really understand it for us watching and those we know who may be this attachment style ❤😢

I am blown away by this video , I am anxious attached and this makes me want to change. I used to think being a bleeding heart was kindness and love, now I see it as an empty manipulative way of life that pushes people away and takes any chance of real connection away. I want to thank you for this video.

I definitely lost my best relationship over both my anxious attachment style and my partners fearful avoidant style. It was a terrible combo. But part of me hopes if we both work on ourselves we might cross paths again one day. I love your video!

I needed this kick in the ass so bad! Thank you, keep telling the truth without sugar coating

This video is dead on. I use to be anxious-preoccupied attached. The way I fixed it was to practice talking to all kinds of random people and I'd see if I could make them smile. I soon learned that I should joyfully give without any expectation of receiving anything in return! And then that led me to respect peoples boundaries because I stopped being afraid of abandonment or rejection. I stopped feeling I had to force what I wanted on to people. And I got really comfortable being alone. Now, my default mode is to "fun" and "easy to get along with". Which means I get tons of positive attention for free. Affirmation and validation just falls onto my lap randomly all the time, and I feel like I don't even need it. Turns out I was worthy this whole time, I just needed to prove to myself that I was. :)

Yup, that's why the relationship broke, and honestly I confronted her about her lack of trust with me and I was Fucking fed up because it was just a constant reoccurance where there was a moment of trust to be had and she pulled away and decided NOT to trust and ON TOP of that looking at the "negatives" in me like really? It was fucking horrible. Being in that relationship sucked but I still Love her and want her to be so fucking happy. I just want her to be the happiest girl alive. I want nothing but happiness for her I want her to be so happy that she wakes up smiling every day with Love in her heart....I truly truly Love this women....

I watch this video like 3 times a day now and it’s helped as I start my journey to becoming secure

I'm a grown ass man but I was balling listening to the description of this Attatchment style and how it pushes others away. I'm at the start of a potentially amazing relationship and I see all the things I'm doing that could drive her away, and I'm so effing done. Thank you for this video, you may have saved my life.

Beautiful video: powerful, vulnerable and providing tools on how to snap out of this. Be blessed girl!

As a licensed therapist who specializes in attachment therapy, I must say that you did a fantastic job explaining the anxious attachment style and I love your examples to overcome. Very practical. I will be sharing this with my clients. It helps sometimes when clients hear from people who have overcome. Blessings!

I would say do your best to heal your anxious attachment and also realize that it is so important to find a good match. The right man will not mind you being anxious and seeking validation SOMETIMES. Learn to spot avoidance red flags and untrustworthiness in potential partners early on. If I had seen and recognized the red flags early on (first date he was LATE!) I would have spared myself much heartache. However I do not regret the relationship as it taught me so much.

Wow. I have no words. You just referenced my entire life. Thank God for letting me know that I have the power from within to change myself.

Another anxiously attached man here. My 9 year old marriage has just ended not long ago and I only came to learn that I'm anxiously attached towards the end of the marriage. During most of the marriage it wasn't an issue and actually it wasn't the core reason why the marriage ended, but right now when I try my first steps at dating, I definitely feel the same old anxiety hitting me. After few weeks of texting and only one date with a girl I anxiously wait her to call or text me and creating scenarios of how the whole thing will fail... It's just crazy that eventually all those things in life will come back haunting you until you don't fix them. But it's never too late. Thank you for the video.

This video hits me. I’ve been struggling anxious attachment for many months now. I have to really work on myself because my bf is trying his best to make our relationship work. I have been self-sabotaging. I thought I was alone feeling this way. But it’s good to understand my own emotions and hear advice on how to overcome it. I love this video ❤

wow you’re spot on. I’m working on myself and will be more secure. I wasn’t always so anxious and I’m tired of living like this. I’ve been fighting to stop falling back into anxiety

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Everything you described as someone with anxious attachment is everything I do/say/feel. I don’t know how I got here but I need out.. I’m hurting myself over and over

I love this video. I have been working for a year in my anxious attachment. And I find that I can't make this shift bymyself. EMDR has been a great tool, awareness, and a lot of work. I am Still anxious. But I truly believe that once I get to be secure.. my life is going to be better.

Hey there 🥰! So im not sure if youre ever going to read this comment but here it goes anyway : My name's Anna and im a 26 yearsold woman living in Valencia , Spain . I have had this anxious attachment style due to my anxiety disorder for years now and the way you described all of the scenarios and symptoms is literally me in all aspects when it comes to my failed past romantic relationships . I just want to say thank you , Thank you for making this video and also at the same time making people like me feel like we are not alone and feel like there is a solution to it . Hope you have a beautiful day! 🥰😊 .