A good squirt from the water bottle is a great “stare down” interrupter as well!! 🔫😂

@@roseolson4262 I suppose. I find noise to be a more effective disruptive tool instead of adding something physical to the tension and energy. And the last thing I need to is punish the aggressor and have him take it out on the other cats. Producing a startling sounds keeps me in control of the situation. 😊

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@@roseolson4262 Jackson wouldn't approve of that lol

@@heckyesitsjess84 …..I could care less what Jackson approves of, it works for my kitties. All I have to do is pick it up, and shake it….BOOM, it works!!! 😂😂

So sorry to hear about your loss. 😢😢

That happened with one of my dogs a few years ago. It's tough. I hope you're taking good care of yourself.

OMG 😩 I literally have the same problem I feel so bad for my timid cat because he loves his cat dad (who’s attacking him) n jus wants to be his friend n jus loves to play but my Cat tht be attacking its like he has some type of anger for the timid cat but for no reason I show both of them equal love and play time but sometimes I have to lock up the angry cat in the cat because he be stalking my timid cat down and I can’t watch them all day so it’s ALOT n I’m not giving none of my cats away, I have 2 girls and 2 boys and he only act like tht with his Son, he licks his daughter n don’t mess with his sister but if he does she snaps at him lol so he knows not to mess with her I yell w. The stern voice as well but most the times I’m late to the attack and I jus hear my timid cat scream and come running to see fur flying and my aggressive cat running off he knws he’s doing something bad too cus every time I come to check he meows, runs off and hides the attacks use to be not as much but it’s worst basically every day he’s hunting and attacking him and idk what to do it’s stressful for me but more for my timid cat I just want them to get along 💙

Mine too.. I’m doing my best to keep things positive and disengage them at the earliest possible. Keep hoping! One day they will coexist peacefully. You are both doing a great job!

Years ago, I heard some blood-curtling squeals coming through the window, and when I opened the blinds, my cat was sitting calmly on the window sill, waiting to be let in, while two males were in the midst of a very loud, angry staredown, which had taken on a life of its own. To stop them from killing each other, I dumped a big pitcher of water on them and watched them scurry in opposite directions. I like to think I saved their owners some sizable vet bills and that maybe, having found a common enemy in me, they eventually learned to get along.

Another thing that might help is intimacy film on your window (or the lower part of it) that blurs the sight. I found this helped a lot with my cat who was turning crazy every morning around 4-5 am, which turned out to be due to a new cat in the neighbourhood passing by every morning on the fire escape stairs right in front of it. Turns out if she can't make eye contact with the cat or read its body language clearly, she stays calm and doesn't scream.

I have a small hobby cattery and outside my house there is also a window cat who antagonises my cats.

Cat trees , spot for them to get a way . We say be nice and play with them to get the sleepy it helps. Cat treat balls, palzzer games

@@goodcookandherguineapigand5122agreed, especially because sure some cats like height

That extra work was worth it I am sure, and I am sorry for your loss💔

Mine is a stern “DON’T”…..and if that doesn’t work…….the spray bottle comes out!!!

Mine being deaf 🧏🏻‍♂️ he couldn’t give a good DAMN!

@@roseolson4262 NEVER 👎🏻 a spray bottle similar to you having a water hose used on you. Just how long are they going to view you as the water boarder?

@@danielkoher1944 …….only a few squirts, and you never have to spray them again…..just pick up the spray bottle and shake it…….quit being dramatic!!! 😂😂😂

How big was it?

@@foxyfables_bookish 5 x 8 I wasn't hefting a huge slab of glass around. Just big enough so I could say, "Look at yourself, Burnie. This is a kitten!"

I have the same issue! I've been living with my parents and their cat will not be civil with mine. We've have them separated for about 2 yrs now.

2 years for me too, have to keep the cats on separate floors of the house so the small one doesn't have a stressful life 😔

That's why I'm worried about brining more cats into the house, even though I really want to!

@@saradavies5809 I feel u

@@saradavies5809 If you decide to try adding another cat to your household, please make sure that before you do it that you have watched or re-watched Jackson’s videos on how to properly introduce cats to each other!!

In the meantime you can try using positive associations! I use treats and playtime, along with compliments and attention, between both cats to get them to associate something positive with the other one. Sometimes your cats won't become bffsies 4 eva, but peaceful co-existence is good.

Trim the claws carefully once in a while. House catification (see Jackson's videos) and play time with you every single day.

I think it’s all about the introduction between the two. My cat is social because she grew up with her sister and still have sleepovers with her sister. I think Jackson has given tips on Cat from Hell.

@@gigisgucci you also need to keep the relationship going. If they are bored they will sometimes play too hard and annoy reach other and it can develop into fights. They can also get irritated if they get very hungry.

My tip is don't have a singlet and let it fester if you are ever going to want multiples. Two is a good place to start, 2 kittens from the same litter is the best good choice. A cat that has been an only cat for years will often want to be an only cat forever. That, and gradualism. Don't push your luck. Picture a cat's comfort zone like a bubble. Treat it how you would treat a bubble. Slowly. Carefully. Nudge it. Carefully.

I'm so sorry!! I hope you're doing well and I'm looking forward to seeing this too. I try to remember to throw toys and distract them 🤣 Human nature doesn't go to that first 🙄 Love it and best wishes ❤️🫂

Ours started fighting out of the blue a few months ago. We had 2 intact females with a neutered male living together. So we got both girls fixed and it's better but not corrected. It's 1 of the girls who is overly sensitive. She's wearing a collar with the same stuff as the Feliway products on it. Which also helps but still not solved. We added another litter box too. Still not fixed completely.

@@joyful_tanya same here at our house. 2 spayed sisters and a neutered Male. The one female and male hate each other. She is very sensitive and the smallest thing that scared her made them fight. They are living in separate areas of the house and even if they still see each other it’s hissing and growling. Very stressful. The diffusers and collars help a little but its not a solution

I wonder if there is something new or different in the household? Sometimes that shakes everyone up and causes issues. Or it could even be something outside affecting them. I hope you are ok and are able to restore harmony.

@@shroomyk Everything has been the same. Nothing new in the house. No changes. They are both fixed. The 2 feral girls in the back haven't changed to trigger and they been around a year with no issues with my inside cats seeing them. He just keeps goes after her specifically. My arm is doing much better. No infection spreading. I didn't need antibiotic IV drip. No fevers or anything. Just literally healing now.

How many kitty do you have at home?

Use a laser pointer - really you just have to sit and wherever you point the laser the cats will go. My son was using the laser at times to get the cats to shut his door when he was in bed and didn't want to get up. Question: Are your cats fixed? If they aren't then problems definitely will arise. Years ago I got two male kittens. My cousin who was a vet asked if they had been neutered yet, they were six months at the time. He said if I wait any longer they'd kill each other. Scent is also very important and should remain consistent. I don't know what you were doing with pheromones, but as an example, my youngest cat is a long-haired tabby and he had a matted belly so he needed to go to the groomer. They shaved his belly and gave him an anti-bacterial bath. When he came home, the other cats didn't recognize him due to his smell. It took three days until he wasn't growled at, hissed at, or spit at. Sure wished the groomer had mentioned this before the bath. So, lacking the energy for physical play, get a laser! Peace.

That must be really hard in an apartment. I think Jackson Galaxy mentioned in the live pre-video chat the utility of having multiple vertical-level spaces for cats. His books talk about that. I don't have a lot of money so my approach has been to try to create spaces for them so there are places for each cat to sit in a different window. There are places to sleep at floor level, and at couch or windowsill height, and on top of a tall bureau - cat beds all over the place, with plenty of options. I have bookcases and storage cabinets next to each other so my cats can jump from one to another. I've been watching Jackson's videos for a while and feel like he's such a great resource. Lately I'm thinking more about separating my cats for meals, so they are not in each other's line of sight when they're eating. It's fascinating watching how they play if they're both chasing a laser pointer at the same time. They take turns chasing the light, each in her own territory. One cat chases in the hallway and kitchen, but when I bring the light into the living room, the first cat stops at the threshold and the other cat takes up the chase in the living room, on and off the furniture. Then they will both chase up and down the stairs. It's interesting to watch because they always do it exactly the same way. They seem to have agreed upon the rules. I think they are far more complex animals than usually given credit for. I'm fortunate enough to have more than one room in my home, and I've noticed over time one cat tends to sleep in the iiving room while the other tends to prefer to sleep upstairs. One sleeps low and the other sleeps high. They take turns at two of three windows, but one cat consistently uses a window the other cat rarely, if ever, uses. So it does seem the key is to have multiple separate spaces at different levels where they can sleep, eat, look out the window, play, and use the litter box. Hope this helps! Sounds like you've got your hands full!

​@@saradavies5809 Great advice, Sara!

@@saradavies5809 thanks for suggestions. I have thought about a laser but not sure if it wd help. My older male is so domineering when I try to play with a toy attached to a long rod by a string the male played while the female watched longing to play but afraid to try bc she knew the male wd just pounce on her and take the toy away. After a few tries she gave up and just watched him play. I have thought because when they were litter mates he was. always with the mama cat and she was the runt and sickly when born. All the other three kittens took her food away if she started to eat from a bowl (I put out one for each). She started to wait for then to finish then she wd eat from the leftovers. She started to come to me and let me pet her after I put out the food. Eventually I fixed her a bowl and gave it to her inside. She gradually felt safe enough to come in and stay. Not long after that the male got sick with the virus that causes matting of the eyes. So i felt sorry for him and when he wanted to come in I let him. I have regretted that decision many times. But it’s too late now. After the 2nd litter was born my daughter got the local shelter to TNR. The moma cat and 3 of the kittens were trapped. My 2 included. The neighbor’s cat is neutered. That leaves the last one. He needs to go but I’m not sure if I can get him in the carrier and how do you keep one npo after midnight when there are 4 inside? I set out the carrier with door tied open & cozy blanket- and the female took it over! I want to get a cat tree but need a very big and sturdy one. I can’t anchor it to the wall. I’m not sure if I can afford it and the neuter and all the food. I really should get two-one for each window upstairs. The last arrival is a cave dweller and a big trouble maker. Having high places for the others wd be ideal.

Your littermates don’t get along?

I’m really impressed with your comment,if you don’t mind friendship please were are you from?

(If the boys are unneutered, that's good thing to start with to lower their aggression especially If this is regular thing. Doing it to both at the same time can help them recover in peace, but also isolating them while drugs are coming off is good. Weird chemical smell can provoke the other one and being still drugged up can leave them especially vurnable to eye scratches.) My two cat sisters used to be even more at odds. Things that seemed to help were: 1.) Have feeding alarm, they'll be a bit calmer when there is clear sign at right times each day. 2.) Feed the cats somewhat according to the hierarchy (place the boss cats food bowl down first). This is so much easier with just two off course, but there might be good practical tips somewhere. 3.) Provide more enrichment. I'm very much guilty of letting my girls becoming pent up balls of energy which can translate into anxiety and fighting. When trying to get back into it, using food toys (things that cats have to swat at to get kibble, throwing dry food etc. Throwing some kibble/refilling toy is good after feeding activity. You can fill up multiple toys and then toss some too maybe. Just gotta take care with their weight, and give them a bit less food during feeding to not give them so much surplus snack calories. If you have catio/separate cat friendly space you can try play with different cats when isolating the rest. Prioritizing trouble makers shouldn't leave others completely without playtime. Cat nip can help cats rustiness to playing and let more timid ones lose some steam. 4.) Give them more vertical/high spaces. Having more options for real estate makes stand offs less likely. If there is nice high shelve that you can only access through the scratchpole, it can lead to confrontantions. Try to add more connections so they wont block path from each other as much. 5.) More cat litter boxes and consider switching to wooden pebbles. Not having their smells compete against other cats as much can ease territorial vibes and is nicer for them. I gotta get box that helps to get rid off piss saw dust quicker, but otherwise I really like my current set up.

Sorry for the wall of text. My two furballs can sleep close together again, which used to be almost unimaginable. Still not besties, but maybe we're getting there slowly.

@@lulul0l039 Man thanks for these tips! Also quick update: Thankfully, my cats are all getting better in terms of their relationships! We had to unfortunately relocate our cat to our aunts house(shes also a cat lover and she loves our Butter sm) but other than that everythings doing great. They are still some minor moments where my cats would start getting scared of each other. But we followed other Jacksons videos about site swappings and routine to get them in control. Coffee and Latte are now good bros again and there have been less and less staredowns in the house. Im still trying to fix their relationship till they can see or even snuggle each other by grooming them and getting their smells from each other(Idk if this is the best method so tell me what u think).

@@lulul0l039 Also another question about feeding cats: How much and how often should I feed my cat in a daily basis? Ive just watched The Food,The Bad and The Ugly and Ive realised Ive made a mistake. Now dont you worry we do give our cats wet food before, its just that we are not sure if we are giving them wet food as often as we should. Once my Mushi had kidney stones and I could not tell if it was because of the wet food or dry food. Im pretty sure its the dry food now, but Im still worry too much wet food would still have the same effect if Im not careful. Also just to let you know: My feeding routine is one wet food meal everyday, and we also mix it with rice to kinda balance it out. Is this actually a good or a bad move to feed them this way? And how should I improve it? Also what do you do to keep your cats in check when you have to go far and visit a family for a few days or sumtin? My family likes travelling so whenever I come back home I immediately try to get their routine back into shape lmao

@@lulul0l039 Im sorry if Im asking a lot and bothering you a lot, but I really appreciated help as I really wanna give my cats a loving life for them because Ive been doing them dirty ignorantly and I feel so guilty.

Omg I'm experiencing a similar issue. I have 3 siblings, 4 cats total. They all accept that I give special attention to my senior cat and treat him like a king, but if I give anyone else more attention than the other, there's a problem. DO NOT redirect with a treat! You will just be rewarding bad behavior. It's like positive reinforcement to continue bullying the other cat because every time they bully the other cat, they get a treat. Redirect their attention with a toy instead.

- so you know the problem - stop singing…

I sing you are my sunshine to one if my cats her name is sunshine. Each of them have their own song i sing to them . There are 17 here

@@tammyszu3570 thank you for that insight about the treat. I didn't even think of that, you're so correct. I don't want him thinking it's okay to bully Samson. Toys it is instead.

@@nettejones8276 i usually try calling the perpetrator in my usual tone to bring their attention to ne and not the other cat if that doesnt work i shake a water bottle to deter them or i jump in the middle between them and that redirects them every time. I have issues between my two elderly gentlemen fang and Batman aged 13 and 15 respectively. Fang is always the instigator. Batman entered our lives 3 years ago when his mom passed away and she had no family. My aunt was her hospice nurse and the only thing she wanted was to know her cat would be okay. So my aunt called me i met Batman and his mom she asked me to take him and passed away the next morning. Fang has never been happy about his arrival. I out up a screen door to keep them separate but someone figured out how to open it and thats how the last fight happened where both them and myself was injured because i did what i always do i put myself between them. I do not recommend anyone else do that i do it because im crazy lol even my vet says so because bites and scratches hisses and growls directed at me do not phase me im much more concerned about their injuries than my own

What are these calming treats? I would love to try for one of my cats!

@@rickillalandra6302 they're called Vetriscience Pro Line Composure Pro. I'd talk to your vet about giving them to your cats. I did see in my research some pets had allergic reactions to them.

@@amymandeville8342 Thank you. My vet recently prescribed a calming powder which is sprinkled on food. It is Purina ProPlan Veterinary Supplements Calming Care and comes in 1 gram sachets. We have been using it for just under 1 month; it takes 6 weeks to make a difference (I've not noticed any improvement yet). I will ask my vet about the Vetriscience Pro Line Composure Pro.

@@rickillalandra6302 I'd never heard of the powder. I hope you have better luck with the treats. I was amazed at what a difference there was in such little time.

Really? Cause we are a latino household and based on the way we speak their name in Spanish (tone) they completely get it to cut it out 😂 we have full conversations with them in Spanish and I swear they understand when they are being scolded!

I have a similar situation! There’s never snarling or hissing or injury, just chasing and it lasts like one second. We can’t figure out if it’s something we need to stop or not.

@@LimegreenSnowstorm Yeah, same here. We‘re going nuts over the question whether it‘s playing or fighting… 😩

I’m really impressed with your comment,if you don’t mind friendship please were are you from?

Same here....omg That's weird 😕

What i want to know is, who just stands there and passively records the mayhem?!?

I’m really impressed with your comment,if you don’t mind friendship please were are you from?

I’m really impressed with your comment,if you don’t mind friendship please were are you from?

I think there was an episode of My Cat From Hell with a blind cat where Jackson recommended putting a bell collar on the other cats so the blind cats will know where they are and won't be startled. Maybe you can try that?

@@spectralumbra1568 That's a great idea! I have 6 myself, and we're really lucky: they all seem to coexist without any problems. I mean, once in a while there's a swat or a hiss, but by & large it's harmonious. I do love the idea of bell collars for the seeing cats!

@@spectralumbra1568 My fear with that is all their toys have bells. So bells = play. They don't have issues running into each other, it is when the blind ones go to play with a seeing one that things can get into a bloody fight. My blind boys are just trying to play but they just whack out at the seeing cat. They just don't know if they are gonna hit in a way that will upset the other cat. Again it is like my seeing cats just don't understand that the blind ones are blind.

Can you put them in separate rooms at night?

@@jennie9 older kitty sleeps work owner, yes, but can get out. We are working on finding a solution or getting them to accept each other

I'd be curious to hear if Jackson had any suggestions about this. Have you tried giving her something snuggly that has your scent on it, like a sweater? Maybe then you could close the door without freaking her out, because she'd be reassured by your scent - ?

@@saradavies5809 she honestly prefers my presence over anything else. When i'm out on trips, she stays in my room. Even when i'm in the bathroom, which has a door connected to my room, if i'm sick, or taking a while, she starts clawing the door. Even when she is in my room. I think she's scared of losing me like she lost my father.

Agree 100% Cat fight noises freak mine out too. He was asleep, and he jumped up startled, ears flat, and ran to the window to check outside. It took a minute to reassure him.

I’m really impressed with your comment,if you don’t mind friendship please were are you from?

Me too.

That has worked for me in the past, but doesn't necessarily always work. I learned with my recent Siamese rescue. Have her on meds, Feliway diffuser, separate room. She attacks my other pets. It's awful. 😞 I love her but can't rehome bc of the biting.

@@BrittMFH Jackson has a lot of tips on his channel, and there’s a lot of info on reintroducing tense cats on the clips from My Cat From Hell that Animal Planet has on KZfaq. Keep researching. I’m sure your Siamese will be able to leave your room without being a danger to the other cats eventually. Obviously the problem can’t just be fixed with medication. You’ll have to reintroduce the cats properly, since it wasn’t done right before.

I’m really impressed with your comment,if you don’t mind friendship please were are you from?