The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex): Tracey Cox

The No.1 Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex): Tracey Cox | E247

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In this new episode Steven sits down with the British sex and relationship expert, Tracey Cox.
Topics:
0:00 Intro
03:04 Who are you?
04:39 Why do people have sexless relationships?
08:31 Do we have to stay in shape for our partners?
13:10 How do we talk about sex?
21:08 What do I do if my partner does’t want to try new things?
22:38 What do we do in sexless relationships?
34:09 Is porn damaging?
41:44 AI sex robots
45:55 Can we turn the sex recession around?
49:01 How to boost body self-esteem
01:02:27 Are sexless relationships unhappy?
01:08:16 The most common question you get asked
01:10:42 What makes the most compatible couples?
01:11:30 Sex drives between the sexes
01:12:39 How bad are kids for our sex lives?
01:16:05 Men and women labido
01:22:12 What’s the problem with the modern dating world?
01:31:20 What is sex?
01:34:33 The last guest’s question
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@TheDiaryOfACEO Жыл бұрын

Highly educational episode this week & I think you'll really enjoy this one! If you do enjoy this episode please do us a favour and hit the subscribe button, it truly helps us out a lot and helps us continue to bring you these types of conversations... appreciate you all 🙏🏽

@Prompten Жыл бұрын

I cant wait to transcribe your book, i love the conversations. Mabey you can rewrite it so that your book cannot be manipulated by A.I. I feel like i gain a lifetime of experience every episode already, and i would love to help make your book A.I. proof.

@maxfoley1825 Жыл бұрын

45:32 is a scene from Demolition Man. Wesley Snipes plays in it.

@annegallienvoices Жыл бұрын

Merci Steven for all you do. It would be great to hear you with Esther Perel, another grand therapist. Love

@Mannymakesvibes Жыл бұрын

Steven, would love you to cover or focus on the notion of ethical non monogamy or poly from people who are within that dating style

@cristalallen8826 Жыл бұрын

Loved this podcast! She’s spot on! I want my husband to listen 😅

@lovelynoname5195 7 ай бұрын

i love that she's comfortable saying "i really don't know the solution" instead of saying nonsense like most people do on the internet

@mettejensen8653 2 ай бұрын

it is in BIG CONTRAST to the headline trying to make people watch this video

@KarlFYo 9 ай бұрын

Steven is the ebodiment of "asking for a friend"

@Mirroredsmoke 7 ай бұрын

Lmao so true

@cookiemonstaaa1426 4 ай бұрын

😂😂

@lessons60s 3 ай бұрын

my friend sometimes say, who is my friend answer that was himself.

@ginginr333 Ай бұрын

😂

@ajosemontenegro Ай бұрын

Lol

@AnnaPoli800 8 ай бұрын

“Love is kind but is not blind”❤ loved this woman!

@dana102083 7 ай бұрын

She just said it while I read your message😊 HAH!

@sky.the.infinite 7 ай бұрын

@@dana102083Love that!

@lollekompolle 4 ай бұрын

Exactly! And finally someone says it and it's wonderful that it comes out of a woman's mouth as well. Because, y'know people like to think only men are superficial but we all are. If I expect my partner to be faithful I better damn well make sure they are satisfied. And part of that is keeping myself as attractive as I can be. That's not an option, it's an obligation.

@grantburris 3 ай бұрын

I remember exactly when she said that and I agree completely.

@Nope-gw7kc 2 ай бұрын

So when people age just give up and leave them because they aren't attractive? Ok

@alphabeta8403 7 ай бұрын

3:30 Sex educator 12:00 Women get bored easily 27:00 Warming up 29:00 50 shades of gray 32:00 Habit 39:30 Sex recession 49:00 Feeling desired; confidence 53:00 Initiating 1:03:00 Compatibility 1:09:00 Atrophy 1:12:00 Single women, married men 1:16:00 Libido 1:18:00 Use it or lose it 1:32:00 What is sex? 1:34:30 Legacy

@cindylederle6076 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this !!!!!!

@yauho29 7 ай бұрын

👏

@SoySolanoStudios 6 ай бұрын

Pin 📌 this comment

@TheWealthyKing 6 ай бұрын

Thank you

@dianathomas1025 Ай бұрын

How sad. Sex should be fun. I believe it’s because partners aren’t pleasing their partners. Period. They are not communicating. 20+ years & we are still like teenagers. Empty nesting has been so much fun!! And it’s fabulous! We have all the time in the world for each other. Why not make it fun. ♥️♥️

@jambeekay Жыл бұрын

this is easily the most powerful episode of any podcast I have listened to as a 43 year old man who has been married for 20 years.... life changing! Thank you so much.

@jamesg1769 Жыл бұрын

Did you finally find the clit?

@1975normal 11 ай бұрын

Yes- show this to every engaged couple or married couple. This would probably save many relationships from separation 🤷🏻‍♂️

@denistaylor1782 11 ай бұрын

What have you taken from this and what will you implement

@mikechannel5026 10 ай бұрын

why?

@RPGyourLIFE 6 ай бұрын

Weak af dawg. Grow a pair

@Jax1317 11 ай бұрын

Anybody else realize how incredibly he crushed her doubts in under a minute at the very end? Yea his ability to articulate helped but it was a wonderful example of how simple random kindness and appreciation can completely shift a feeling. Spread kindness not hate. Even a sincere thank you with eye contact at a grocery store can change someone’s entire day or week.

@YNYNYNYNYNYN 10 ай бұрын

At what point?

@kayzzzjayyy 7 ай бұрын

He complimented her in every way possible. Her work ethic, personality and attire! He's very good at what he does

@saulocerqueiradealmeida9700 6 ай бұрын

or life...

@rickhaines927 6 ай бұрын

And make sure that they know that you are looking them in the eyes and not unwanted attention to their body parts. Be genuine.

@Werksonek 6 ай бұрын

It was actually touching for me.

@hmh3808 6 ай бұрын

We had far better sex 10 yrs. Into marriage than we did in the beginning and there was NO way in hell I would’ve thought that could be topped at the time! It was great when we were college age but the love was so much deeper at the end of our 20s, and our married sex life sounded SO much better than our what our single friends were having… yes, there is a lull with children and careers, etc. but connection is what keeps you on the same page and it does not need to die and get stale the longer you are together.! We may not be the norm but it’s certainly possible if u are into ea. other and devoted to keeping it that way.

@HarmonicWave 3 ай бұрын

Same here at 12+ years. I've heard people say that it gets better as you get older but perhaps that the frequency decreases, but apart from a few rough time periods with health issues it's no less frequent than the first year. If we go a week without it for whatever reason we both feel deprived.

@tialorabelin6993 6 ай бұрын

Found this podcast a few months ago and haven"t been able to stop listening sense. As a woman, I am constantly learning from the male vulnerability expressed in this podcast. Thanks for all of it!

@leandrawilliams8447 Жыл бұрын

I have to say that I absolutely ADORE both this show and Steven. This is one of the few podcasts where I don’t even have to know about the topic because it’s guaranteed to be an incredible conversation with thoughtful and thought-provoking questions and answers. It’s such a treat to watch/listen. 🙏🏾

@roseschulze1647 8 ай бұрын

True!! His guests are excellent. And as a host, he actually lets them talk without constantly interrupting them -- and then asks thoughtful questions. So refreshing!

@gregorypusz2739 7 ай бұрын

I agree 100 percent and I would love to have sex with the female therapist on the show

@BeansBrown22 7 ай бұрын

Agreed. 💯%

@runelennhammer4823 4 ай бұрын

😊

@Jamie-wh3kd Жыл бұрын

i just got ridiculously happy finding out that the girl you talked about in other podcasts is the one you're now back together with. i'm so happy for you guys, you worked together to overcome something huge together. great job!

@lindamacgregor8039 Жыл бұрын

That's the ticket ...don't give up too easily. As Tracey said, with communication, everything is possible!

@lifeshort Жыл бұрын

What's the story to this? Sounds great..

@Teragram68 Жыл бұрын

It is nice when people self reflect, learn and work things out together, I’m sure it makes people grow stronger together in many ways. ♥️

@melowndes 11 ай бұрын

Me too! Great to hear this Steven. 😊

@zubayerislam1255 9 ай бұрын

You the Americans are wildly sexy

@jenwu636 5 ай бұрын

I am just happy how all these episodes are so long and allow lots good and deep discussions!

@rickhaines927 7 ай бұрын

I think that taking the time to fully know and understand each other's emotional components does go a long way to connecting with someone who is sexually compatible with you.

@bpassion4fashion581 11 ай бұрын

Feeling safe in the relationship ( being seen, heard and listened to) is the key to the doors of my kingdom. My brain is my biggest organ. Stimulate that first by communicating , and doing all the things a person that cares about another would do OUTSIDE of the bedroom.

@ellie698 11 ай бұрын

Exactly this Agree 100%

@zen_mindset1 7 ай бұрын

That only works

@Al-GhaithPharmacy 7 ай бұрын

@@zen_mindset1why 😅??

@user-xn8lp5eo3e 6 ай бұрын

All true besides the brain being the biggest organ , the biggest organ of the body is the skin 😂

@tldw8354 6 ай бұрын

@@user-xn8lp5eo3e this seems to be very important to you. only.

@zoobee Жыл бұрын

I think expectations of what sex should be are influenced by notions we get from porn, from media, and from all sorts of hype we see in life about what sex is. the most fulfilling sex I ever had was when I got with someone who was quite shy about sex, like I have always been, and we explored gently, without pressure, and lots of laughter and fun at our own failings and inhibitions too. Sex is more than just penetration and gymnastic stamina.

@uchechi_anyanele Жыл бұрын

Beware of scammers in the comments using DOAC name and picture to pose as Steven Bartlett. Steven will never DM you or ask you to DM/contact him privately. DOAC channel has a verification checkmark to distinguish it from imposters'.

@colingibson8930 Жыл бұрын

Absolutely. I think the sexual relationship you describe is one not really identified in this discussion. I think it is actually possible for two people to come together with a certain degree of innocence and build a genuine romantic and monogamous connection which retains it's bit of magic over the years. I think in our fast-paced, cynical world we have forgotten that this used to be possible for some.

@mareksumguy1887 Жыл бұрын

Porn is a disaster. It’s not good for anyone. It’s poison. It’s garbage.

@Nah-ah Жыл бұрын

As an ex gymnast, I laughed at this! 😂

@mareksumguy1887 Жыл бұрын

@@Nah-ah laughed at what?… and why?

@marar814 3 ай бұрын

Really love how real she is. Throughout and in her answer to the final question too. so relatable.

@rebeccagriffiths7348 10 күн бұрын

That was a truly outstanding interview on both sides. Informative, open, balanced, and not a trace of "it's all about me" on either side. Amazing. Thank you.

@apprenticekaoenview2388 Жыл бұрын

I just recently started listening to this channel its become one of my favorites. I personally LOVE how honest and vulnerable the host is with all his guests. I learn alot from how humble he is.

@Caaine Жыл бұрын

Yeah but when is he gonna come out?

@beedebawng2556 Жыл бұрын

@Steve Marriott 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@csharpe5787 Жыл бұрын

@@Caaine So you have to be gay to have a brain, I don't think so.

@EnGammalAmazon 10 ай бұрын

@@Caaine Why would you even care? You may want to check yourself out first.

@Caaine 10 ай бұрын

@@EnGammalAmazon Just a joke, man 👍

@thayu2821 10 ай бұрын

Really great chat. I went off sex with my partner after infidelity. Am almost 40 and want my sex life back. This convo has helped me realise that I will be going to therapy as I have unconsciously completely closed off that part of my life due to fear. I wish people understood how damaging infidelity is to the other person. If you want to go have sex elsewhere let the other person know and they can decide to stay or leave. Be brave and have that convo. Great chat.

@dairyman7983 10 ай бұрын

Ester Perel

@nicolemurphy2629 9 ай бұрын

Everything is comparative

@CherryLipgloss1000 9 ай бұрын

So sorry that happened to you! I hope you’re having mind blowing sex now & feel fulfilled in every aspect of your life. You certainly deserve it.

@trudymade8008 8 ай бұрын

Amen!

@Kaybye555 8 ай бұрын

For me it was porn addiction. I wish it was a topic more often discussed

@danielirvine7468 6 ай бұрын

I have a lot of respect for you Stephen taking on this topic This was great I hope a lot of eyes and ears get to see hear this .

@Bootnerd3 5 ай бұрын

Oh my my I just started putting all kinds of words together sentences, not even knowing what to explain what I was going through and saying and you wow are saying things that I needed help with for my wife and our sex life and everything else with my wife. I didn’t know what to type in. I didn’t even know about this podcast. I am just totally totally blown away and astonished that I never heard of you and I am so glad so glad you were on you are an angel miss Tracy. Just wow my Lord you hit me through my hole soul my being I love you thank you thank you bless you.

@sherwinmascall1449 Жыл бұрын

This should be air on national TV everywhere world wide .So much education that is really lacking in our world society. Well done Steven

@tldw8354 6 ай бұрын

the problem with this is, that they would offer him so much money, that they would like to decide what topic aires and what not. Currently he is kinda free and independant. but i get what you say.. would be nice to spread wisdom better instead of shitty shows on broadcast

@gaboquintana3628 11 ай бұрын

For years I have regretted getting divorced, I thought "I should've put in so much more effort to keep the relationship". But after listening to this conversation I realized I did the right thing, it was a lost cause already. Thank you.

@user-of3qu5um9p 6 ай бұрын

It took me a month to finally get through this long interview. Qued it up numerous times, listen for some time then had to pause. I find her fascinating and at the same time troubling with some of her commentary. The one thing I'll give her for sure is her emphasizes on communication. Good for her. Steven was a complete gentleman and professional. Well done Steven. I'd love to sit across from her and discuss a few topics. This is coming from a 60 year old, father of two wonderful daughters and happily married for 27 years, been together for 30.

@HarmonicWave 3 ай бұрын

Same. I've only been married for 12 years and we don't have any children, but either we're an unusual married couple or she doesn't really know what she's talking about at parts. Our sex life has never gone downhill over time, actually better with experience. It's not perfect, but it didn't fade away or disappear. And her thoughts on monogamy/marriage were rather alarming as well, like if you're not getting enough just find someone else? Have multiple partners when you're young? Oh dear.

@lizzybeary 2 ай бұрын

@@HarmonicWave It's not prescriptive. Take what you want, leave what you dont. Also, she's not the only sex educator with something to say. Your anecdotes will not always reflect research and a lot of research is extrapolated.

@Redflowers9 2 ай бұрын

One person wants to have sex outside and the other doesn't, compromise out the window lol

@timbaker9660 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for having this episode on to be able to watch. This was very informative. I will have to look for her books.

@Jasewoz Жыл бұрын

I stayed right to the end, hanging on every word, frantically typing 4 pages of notes and stayed up till 420am! Rivetting stuff. Vital tips and advice in there. I'm 52, married, 2 kids, not having as much sex nor as much variety of sex as I'd prefer. I now have a number of ways to deal with it and try to improve the relationship for both of us. THANK YOU BOTH SO MUCH!!

@RichardRatner.1972 Жыл бұрын

I'm in the same boat mate @ 51. All the best to you. Kindest regards, Richard U.K

@brennanleyen Жыл бұрын

What a good husband you are. You’re also quite good looking… so if that doesn’t work, you’ll have no trouble getting help in that department 😋

@Sisterlisk Жыл бұрын

Good man

@dake6844 11 ай бұрын

9 days passed, how is it going man? any results?

@Hellydragon 11 ай бұрын

You can do it!!! 🎉

@peachpeach4191 Жыл бұрын

The compliment you gave Tracey at the end of this was so sweet and endearing and her response was lovely. A great and important conversation to be had, thank you ❤

@crystaldaiva1689 10 ай бұрын

We all need little TLC, no matter how confident we seem to be 🫶

@mementomori5374 9 ай бұрын

Who cares😂

@barbarascolaro2013 7 ай бұрын

She was fabulous, captivating, interesting and had a wonderful delivery! Loved the ep ❤

@ReklisMindset 7 ай бұрын

Such an excellent interview! I absolutely love this channel and have recommended it to anybody I know that likes to learn and expand their mind.

@raalaa121 Жыл бұрын

Eat healthier, excercise, keep good hygiene and you will both want to go at it like bunnies all the time. The problem is we become unhealthy, lethargic and miserable when we forget the basics.

@tirhas5555 Жыл бұрын

To be honest agree with you 💯 because our. I agree with gjis conversation partially but our life style is the one killing the desire. Especially alcohol is the killer .

@Brwnbunn Жыл бұрын

All of that! But inside is the most important. People are just walking around emotionally damaged and doing nothing to work it out. All of that dis function comes right out in the bedroom and the avoidance of it.

@Brwnbunn Жыл бұрын

@@tirhas5555 Right! Alcohol and all that other mess out there. These men who wonder why they don’t wanna have sex and they are on a ton of opiates. Yeah. And you can’t poop on those either. I will never understand why people continue to be shocked by this. 🤦🏽‍♀️

@solfh Жыл бұрын

Not really.. some people are all that but worry about sht in their mind so can’t enjoy it

@Teenywing Жыл бұрын

Gross. If my man were to say something like “go at it like bunnies” to me we’d be over.

@griselda425 7 ай бұрын

Tracey, I couldn’t stop watching this video. If you watch it, be proud of yourself. You kept it interesting every minute of it… it really was remarkable.

@andriesmaritz2055 6 ай бұрын

Thanks Tracey, you are doing a great job by helping people the way you do. BIG HUG.

@cryco472 Жыл бұрын

I don’t know why this channel doesn’t have millions of views on each video. It delivers nuggets of gold consistently. I know it’ll get there though! Love you guys, and thank you for what you do!! ❤

@Teenywing Жыл бұрын

My parents talked rather graphically about sex when I was far too young and far too much. They did it for attention because back then (in the early 80’s) it was not normal. It disgusted me so much, it was often in highly inappropriate situations and I know my friends parents were put off by them. It has affected me all my life in big ways.

@katherinechase3674 11 ай бұрын

@@Teenywing I wonder if you could reprogram yourself? Using creative visualization, ritual, and contemplation, has helped me when I feel I need healing. Also, if it is safe, talking about this trauma to them may help you release the situation. Lastly, the 60's and 70's were a very different decade than the 80's, wildly so. That may have influenced them, not a excuse, but those times probably effected their views.

@douglasmaclean5836 11 ай бұрын

you know, there has been much said & accusations of twitter recommendations etc... but nothing about youTube... & ive alwasy found the same thing. Bangger youTube vids on incredible contrarian revelations, i've posted the link to it all over, & yet, not a single view count changes ... lol. Yup.We'll have to wait until youTube's recommendation algorithm gets published some day ... in the mean time... Psychologist & primatologist Kim Wallen, showed that in his Rhesus monkey compounds the female monkeys run the show wrt every aspect of life, Generals in War, head of politics, initiate ALL Sex, abandon children to chase after the object of their desire .. basically raw. The Male monkeys tend to live to the side of family life & are swapped out after 3 yrs because the female monkeys r too bored to have sex w them... sound familiar? [see Daniel Bergner's 2013 TedX talk/Book "What do women really want" where he writes about 8 yrs worth of interviews w female & male researchers & scientist on the topic of female desire.

@angela.gilmartin Жыл бұрын

I think this was an interesting and necessary open conversation about sex which was fully inclusive especially around age. These myths and programming that we are a certain age and we can't enjoy intimacy. I think over the years Tracey has taken so much flak for being openly conversational about sex but I really appreciate her directness and openness. Everything she shared is relational to anyone at any age and stage of life. Thank you Steven for always being open to listening especially for us girls it's really lovely to hear openly compassionate men share their story and to help young people navigate the journey too.

@flymachine 6 ай бұрын

My favourite episode of hundreds it seems, and thats really saying a lot! Tracey is indeed captivating, even scintillating

@QuestionAllby 7 ай бұрын

Amazing woman. My favorite chapter of this podcast. Many of her statements resonate in me. Thanks a lot to Steven for this conversation. Greetings from Minsk. ❤

@marialarino8875 10 ай бұрын

Even being a clinical psychologist, I learned so much from Tracey and also from Steven's thoughtful questions...excellent program!

@STREETFIGHTERRYU88 Жыл бұрын

You always have the most diverse and interesting guests!

@Prompten Жыл бұрын

Yes, awesome guests. I've soaked up all the convos.

@tsampson6660 Жыл бұрын

A guest cannot be diverse. A group of guests can be diverse.

@STREETFIGHTERRYU88 Жыл бұрын

@@tsampson6660 For those who can’t read I did use guestS as in plural. Thanks grammar police for the unnecessary harassment.

@tsampson6660 Жыл бұрын

@@STREETFIGHTERRYU88 *unnecessary Don't try to act smart my friend, it doesn't appear to suit you. Congratulations on knowing what the letter 'S' is, it's really a solid foundation for you to excel at this type of thing one day. Replace 'most diverse' with any other adjective and you will - unless you are as dumb as you seem - see that it refers to all guests. You, and probably most of those who liked your post, get aroused as soon as they hear the word diversity. Look at you, highlighting differences between people all in the name of inclusivity... And anyway, what is so good *necessarily* about a diverse group? Or do you just mean he has guests with different opinions. Because I suspect you are obsessed about gender, race and religion, and expect that you are from the US. One of those rally attending megaphone wielding cringeworthy sheep.

@tsampson6660 Жыл бұрын

Really dude your comment echoes millions of little teenage girls and blue haired mentally ill young men. You would probably describe YOURSELF as a diverse person wouldn't you? Hilarious. You don't understand language. You should just get a job at the circus jumping from massive heights while people clap.

@korinlanier6802 3 ай бұрын

This was the best video I’ve seen in a very long time! What a great talking session. Like, wow! Thank you both for this message ❤️

@evanbriody9998 Ай бұрын

Amazing episode! Your channel has truly become the positive reinforcement & perspective I realize i may have been lacking in recent years. Another great guest and a perfect conversation on possibly one of the most important subjects in life.....just WOW. You both absolutely nailed this! Much respect & Thank you for your work!

@maddiebarba6743 11 ай бұрын

I haven't written a comment on KZfaq for years as I'm not a big social media user but I just felt an overwhelming need to do so on this occasion - this was the best episode, I have ever watched by far! Interesting, powerful, no BS. Thank you Tracey and Steven.

@wearelikethetreesofcherryb2960 Жыл бұрын

To be honest listening to this conversation made me uncomfortable and it made me face the uncomfortable truths about my sex life so Thankyou Steven and the Team❤

@sylvia470 Жыл бұрын

J. Peterson would say if it made you uncomfortable, it means there's a dragon for you to slay in this matter in order to develop/improve.

@wearelikethetreesofcherryb2960 Жыл бұрын

@@sylvia470 agreed there is a lot of work to be done on my part👍

@SparkyX3X Жыл бұрын

Facing your discomfort is the most important thing for physical and mental growth. Way to go!

@wearelikethetreesofcherryb2960 Жыл бұрын

@@SparkyX3X absolutely

@tomwaschesczio5710 Жыл бұрын

Same here. I'm on my way to slay the dragon. @sylvia470

@Bootnerd3 5 ай бұрын

Ok and how haven’t I heard of you sooner I listen to podcast every day all day because I’m an equipment operator and have been for years. Wow it’s crazy. I ran into both of you today. Thank you for your work your time and your passion about peoples well-being, and the human raise you’re so conscious of everything you bless you, sir I believe he has and is continuing to I hope and I know that things are going where the expectation and I’m sure they have but I’m sure you know there’s more coming for how great of work

@didemkilinc 7 ай бұрын

This is an eye opening and life changing conversation. I can’t thank you enough for this. Thank you both! My life will not be the same after watching this.

@melowndes 11 ай бұрын

So great to hear sensible conversations about sex. I have struggled with sex yet seeing/listening to this conversation, I realise what I have struggled with is the gap between my own expectations of myself (based on movies, books etc) and reality. Sex is bigged up by our society and I made the mistake of believing this, wanting myself to consistently perform/experience this, and falling short, rather than throwing all this out the window and looking after myself and believing in and being grateful for my own experience. The post menopausal info was helpful too.Thank you so much.

@irinaiv6259 10 ай бұрын

“Love is kind, but it’s not blind” - absolutely genius!

@pimcornelder4694 Ай бұрын

He took the whole “just asking for a friend” to a whole different level.

@AnavonRebeur 27 күн бұрын

Repeated levwl 😂

@livdon4197 4 ай бұрын

I think long term relationships struggle with loss of sex due to boredom or just loss of spark. People are afraid to talk about it but I can't believe how common it is. But the video fell from heaven right when I needed it

@patriciabeltran432 Жыл бұрын

This is probably my 3rd time listening to the diary of a CEO and I gotta say this one has been my favorite episode overall. That woman read my mind and answered most of my questions that I’ve have struggled with all my life ! Great episode 🙌🏽

@booboox 9 ай бұрын

Same for me. Lot of questions and I finally got answers. I'm impressed.

@constructenglish1 Жыл бұрын

Great episode. Steven, you should also have Ester Perel as a guest. She also talks about otherness and other subjects, She is so articulate and can sum up things in a nutshell! Best expert on relationships I have come across

@sunsetwavey Жыл бұрын

Esther Perel is amazing, good suggestion

@asimonna1 Жыл бұрын

Yes indeed!

@livelaughlove4635 Жыл бұрын

Love her! She’s great!

@dk1828 Жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly!!! 🤞🏼

@jounerie_ Жыл бұрын

another great guest to have would be Shan Boodram

@richardramfire3971 6 ай бұрын

Excellent guest. This interview completely resonates with me and my situation

@anjellalo972 Ай бұрын

Brush your teeth, walk an hour or more every day, have your own interesting life, not available all the time, be open, keep very clean, dress nice, smell nice, skin care, hair care, be open to talk deeply in conversation, say your likes and have honestly, compliment them, reciprocate affection, eat healthy, no substances unless occasional, share all your feelings, respect yourself, respect others, respect your boundaries.

@bellaclyde 23 күн бұрын

👆👌

@lydiad9036 Жыл бұрын

This, for me, was the best interview on DOAC. All Tracey’s years of study and wisdom shared in what felt like a masterclass with practical tips. What a wonderful job you both have done🦋

@notalktoni4096 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for having this guest on your show. It has helped me understand so much about my marriage and relationships.

@mohmmedrashad6836 3 ай бұрын

very useful podcast steven you are great, at the end of the conversation your have complimented her to make her feel confident internally 👏👏

@emavita1396 Жыл бұрын

Since I've found this channel I don't enjoy listening to my other podcasts that just chit-chat. This is so much better and fulfilling, it is constructed and follows a conversation that makes sense. I'm so glad your channel found me.

@CookieFridays Жыл бұрын

Honestly I’ve been holding off watching videos/talks about sex because my experiences make me feel quite inadequate because men expect me/us to be stimulated by things that don’t stimulate me, like fingers and intercourse don’t do it for me, but this interview has actually made me feel much more normal because she’s stated around 80% of women are in the same boat as me, at least in some aspects. It’s been very helpful and hopeful.

@IB4UUB4ME 11 ай бұрын

To me it’s about paying attention to the small details, when we were first married she couldn’t have an orgasm but over the years as I’m paying attention to small details she got up to 2 orgasms in one session, so I was proud about that lol. Can’t help it but I am pleaser! 🥸😎🤓

@SuperColdLemonade 11 ай бұрын

yes and it's a known fact for centuries =) so no worries needed, like with a lot of things we just are unaware of because noone told us or we did not investigate ...

@Turnpost2552 11 ай бұрын

So what does stimulate?? Get at the core of the problem?

@dxfifa 8 ай бұрын

What an idiotic comment, communication is your issue, not what men think.

@sciencewizard8805 8 ай бұрын

Awesome. It can be awkward/vulnerable to talk about what you want/need, or don't want with sex. Good luck

@DanielleSkylark 7 ай бұрын

Loved that video, it was really helpful the whole thing, this video is going to motivate me to help me in my marriage which means everything to me. I’ll just say that. Loved her tips so much and loved the part at the end where you complimented her in that way about the TED talk part. Love it.

@sthephanieguerrero 2 ай бұрын

Loved this one! Steven, I've seen like 5 of your interviews in the last 2 weeks, I have loved them all, I will continue listening to you and your amazing guests!

@yakkidiyak Жыл бұрын

Great interview. Love your vulnerability & courage to open up about your relationship, Steven. And the way you ended the interview on high note of your guest is very professional and sincere. Just lovely.

@lindamacgregor8039 Жыл бұрын

Great program! Relationships go through many phases and being resilient enough to hang in there through the tough times can lead to great fulfillment in the end. My marriage of 53+ years has not been without strife. Tracey's comment that it all comes down to childhood issues is so very true. Others have said that we choose our mates to help us work through those early programs. I'm grateful that we've stuck it out and at this point are literally basking in the 'fruits of our labours'. We also still make each other laugh and find stimulation in discussing a wide range of topics. This intellectual stimulation may be more important, in our case, than the physical; however, when I hear the stats surrounding sexless relationships, I shake my head in confusion ...it just never occurred to me that this was happening. I suppose we take our own situation to be the 'norm' and again, we've been very lucky. Thank you for searching out this wonderfully witty and informative 'sexpert'!

@JK-vf2hp 6 ай бұрын

Great video! Thanks for the upload. I especially enjoyed the spontaneous desire vs responsive desire section - very eye-opening.

@sarahjanewarren3500 5 ай бұрын

Ive already subscribed but this is an episode that would make me want to. Absolutely brilliant, thank you 😊

@riyuphoenix4533 Жыл бұрын

What an amazing women, she seriously is so on point. It's a shame people's lack of awareness is leading to so many unessary break up of long term relationships.

@pechoja Жыл бұрын

Could not get past when married my ex wanted sex when I was asleep, and I was embarrased and confused that I was not aware what was happening. It is likely he was giving me drugs. That was the turning point. No sex with that monster, since if I stirred when not asleep he stopped. ( Besides getting an STD.) That topic was not covered, in the inappropirate tx of a partner is not tolerable. I do not believe I was being prudish. It was rape to me.

@user-bh8ms8tr8w Жыл бұрын

Dude really?

@csharpe5787 Жыл бұрын

@@user-bh8ms8tr8w what.

@gshrdy5415 Жыл бұрын

@@user-bh8ms8tr8w , Its true, lack of awareness can damage many things.

@fredneedle123 Жыл бұрын

I agree with all the compliments Steven gave Tracey at the end of this film. What a great gal. I especially like her response. Even given all the things she writes and speaks about, Steven still managed to make her blush proving to me that she really is a lovely person. xx

@briennemerritt3851 7 ай бұрын

This was great! I agree with everything she says and it makes me feel completely vindicated that all the things I've been doing are actually valid...sometimes you lose confidence in your own intuition but having multiple partners does help you see what works...thank you!!

@empoweredbeyondbeliefs 8 ай бұрын

I love it when someone is so knowledgeable on their topic and open about speaking about it. Brilliant, thank you!

@ivanmarden7179 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for this openness and frank discussion about this subject. Tracey has been so helpful and supportive in giving insight into all aspects of relationships and sexual behavior

@k.suhareva.k 11 ай бұрын

I've re-watched it 3 times🙏🙏🙏Thank you so much for introducing this incredible guest to us - Tracy Cox, I will very much look forward to read all of her books now. This was a very insightful podcast🤲

@milliekozary5667 6 ай бұрын

Wonderfull podcast Thankyou Steve for inviting such a interesting and interesting lady on your show. Learned so much! Regards from Australia 🇦🇺

@agustinagranero4061 6 ай бұрын

I love her , so inteligente ,honest and kind , thank you Tracy not just for sharing your knowledge that really helps us ,also for sharing your feelings about yourself which makes you even more wonderful and helpful in all sense , Thank you …and for you CEO keep on going Master thanks

@MerKaBanation Жыл бұрын

Adding this to 'my favourite episode's' list! I always look forward to every episode. Such an important conversation.

@mariaalekseeva478 5 ай бұрын

Love Tracey for speaking the truth about parenting, sex frequency etc.

@ager1968 4 ай бұрын

Captivating is the right word for Tracy - i really took this episode in .. Thanks

@ivelinamladenova7066 10 ай бұрын

I can relate to a lot of what she said. And I feel so much better for knowing I am not weird about my feelings (sexual and romantic). Thank you for the great podcast!

@Frictionfriction 10 ай бұрын

Tracey! Thank you so much for these insane insights that you have provided the listeners with. My new goal in life is to read all your 17 books❤ You're so eloquent and humble, I hope when you relisten to this podcast you realise how magnificent and inspirational you are to young women like me, not just in terms of career but also how you carry yourself. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable here. I am only 20, but I will carry this knowledge about sex and life with me for decades to come. Steven, you did a fantastic job handling this sensitive topic so well and you were so respectful. Love how there is no awkwardness in discussing delicate subjects and it's strictly to increase awareness through facts, opinions and experiences and fulfill a mission. Much love and respect for both of you. (P.s. Tracey, your shirt is kinda based off the colour palette of an avocado 🥑)

@johnpalmer330 7 ай бұрын

I’m in the longest relationship I’ve ever been in (6 years) and the intimacy is only like twice a year now for the last two years. I’m 33 years old with a high sex drive. It used to be that we were intimate every night for the first couple years. Any time I bring it up, it makes the relationship worse and causes more tension, causing a longer “dry spell”, and I have to admit that lately my thoughts wander to other women even though I’ve always considered myself a committed partner and trustworthy. It feels shameful to want someone other than my partner. I want a marriage with someone who compliments my needs the same way I compliment theirs. Sometimes, in this circumstance, I feel uncertain if marriage even makes sense for me, my wants, and needs. This video was very informative and helpful.

@gabbysingh624 7 ай бұрын

You need to go to couples therapy. If she refuses walk away. You will find someone new.

@DaDa-xi9tk 7 ай бұрын

In my experience when a woman stops having sex with you as often as you describe it is because the man behaved in ways that made her lose respect and desire, disappointed her in the day to day life.

@craighart8423 7 ай бұрын

You gotta make something happen. Counseling should definitely be an option. I’ve been in a relationship like that and it probably won’t last no matter how much you want it to if she’s unwilling to communicate, compromise and overcome that obstacle. You’ll just end up a very bitter person.

@sunshinervtravlers57 7 ай бұрын

So True, I've been married 42 years, got married when we were 18 an 19 we love each other very much. But wife has lost all desires to have sex, an it's been about 15 years now, we do it maybe 1 time a year, I've bought tried everything nothing works , she went to a Doctor an got Hrc replacement pills, but the chance of cancer scared me so after only a week I told her to stop taking them. So I've heard of these things called, HRT pellets they put into the woman but can't find a doctor that does it, an wonder if the side affects are the same as the pills. Heard the pellets tak like 3 to 4 weeks to work, but then she's into and having the desires to have sex again. Would really like to get some advice.

@searching_soul398 3 ай бұрын

This is very normal. First: most men did nothing wrong. Is just the way women are. Women get in love for whom they are impressed by and then of course that awesomeness dissipates with time. Accept it or move on. Moving on is the correct option btw. For most men: It will happen sooner than latter and it will not be in their terms. This should be clearer from the start but there's no education for men. Only "women studies". Stay strong.

@milenaatanackovic8939 6 ай бұрын

This has been a huge eyeopener. It has answered so many questions. And the statistics, now I don't feel like an isolated case anymore I see there are many more just like me, struggling. I will give this vid to my partner too, I want him to see this. I think we will be able to better understand each others needs, which are clearly different it seems. To communicate about sex with my partner I find really difficult, I am not that opened about it and I don't know what to say, it's just difficult and awkward for me. After listening to this podcast and having all this data and new knowledge I might even know what to discuss. Thank you for this, I am speechless of what I have learned in just one vid.

@sharonearly8103 Жыл бұрын

I am 73 years old and was married for 48 years but now widowed for 5 years. I enjoyed your program today. You are an interesting and intelligent interviewer.

@borislibaque1558 Жыл бұрын

I feel like this was the best episode you've ever done. Captivating guest, important topic. So many of your episodes are incredible but when I think about how many people are going to leave this one with something real and practical, I think this it puts them above them all. Thank you for bringing us this experience.

@DrExpertPhd 7 ай бұрын

This woman is speaking nothing but facts. She is very real with it. Love this discussion.

@Domenik101 2 ай бұрын

Fantastic. I learned a lot and felt reassured about the areas which I already know. Thankyou well worth the watch.

@jeanshelbybooks4154 Жыл бұрын

This is so validating. For decades I have felt alone and different when it comes to this topic. Thank you!

@horsesarebetterthanpeople Жыл бұрын

Wow this was fascinating 😮 My favourite episode yet. This lady is so interesting, engaging and relatable. She’s so good at explaining and breaking down what she’s discussing. Plus I think I’m now armed with some important information for a next relationship.

@helenhelen5131 6 ай бұрын

Thank You SO MUCH for all the superb information you have provided for us all …. Its invaluable 🤩🤩🤩

@kahrawahler8229 7 ай бұрын

Fantastic talk. I only wish it could have been longer so she could have discussed diet with regards to ED. ED is usually an early sign of atherosclerosis, which is a narrowing of the arteries due to plaque buildup (it isn’t that older men start having mental problems). Consider talking to a nutritionist if you have trouble with ED. People can often change their diet and get off all medications related to chronic lifestyle diseases. Whether you eat meat or not, consider eating a diet that is high in a wide variety of whole plant foods-whole intact grains (quinoa, millet, oats, teff), legumes (beans, lentils, chickpeas), vegetables (especially leafy greens and cruciferous veggies), fruits (berries are best), nuts, seeds-and mushrooms, and keep saturated fat, added sugar, and salt low. Vegan men (including those who eat soy) have lower PSA numbers, less ED, and the same testosterone levels as men who eat meat, so do not think you need to eat more steak to be more manly!

@lisamariemalle Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this. As a woman I learned so much about my own problems in just one hour. Thank you i think this can help a lot of woman and men 😊

@olivesdream Жыл бұрын

Congratulations on the completion of your book ! Listening to the show now 👍

@medusa_007 7 ай бұрын

Love Tracey to the point and honest.

@TheCsakis 6 ай бұрын

Please keep doing long videos like this. Amazing stuff, thank you

@breannaseal2758 11 ай бұрын

I listen to a lot of educational KZfaq videos while working. This channel, that I recently started listening to, has been such a great experience for me. This will probably be one of my favorite the more I watch. Thank you for creating these! Btw, she was a wonderful person to listen to and learn from.

@paulomoteso Жыл бұрын

Wow this was captivating from start to finish. A life changing conversation. Thank you Steven and team!

@lm4936 Ай бұрын

Wow! Thank you for this, Steven, she was fantastic! Tracey Cox is one of the best sex and relationship experts I've heard in a long time. I wasn't familiar with her before this episode (perhaps because I live in Canada) but she tells it like it is and I'll definitely check out her books.

@ebonyrock5270 Ай бұрын

❤ Wow ❤ She was truly wonderful & she glowed so much at the end when Stephen complimented her. Bless his heart, he is the loveliest & everything she said was so accurate. Thank you 🌟

@elegantlady8312 Жыл бұрын

This was so helpful! She is fantastic and I enjoyed the vulnerability from Steve sharing a personal experience. Thanks to his partner too for approving that he could share that part with us 😊

@leadacruz 11 ай бұрын

My favourite episode so far! Thank you for helping us with this amazing topic. I will definitely be listening to this episode again and taking notes!!!

@FireflyOnTheMoon 6 ай бұрын

Amazing advice and insight from Tracey. Many thanks.

@mccalldj666 6 ай бұрын

This was very informative. First time ever listening . Just came upon you.

@juliagetty-gordon2500 10 ай бұрын

This was so enlightening and so much of what she said resonated as the truth for me, even tho much of it possibly shakes the "norms" of what we are ( by parents, education , society) taught to believe . Thank you for breaking down that construct and showing (particularly for women) that what we need can look quite different and that its ok to articulate that and have a voice. You are an inspiration to us all.!