You forgot that most people are fat, why settle down with a fat partner long term. Rent, don't Buy. Just my opinion.

​@OVYEDDeno❤

If women are so concerned with a partners socio-economic status then why do we have so many single mothers having babies with unsuccessful men. For many women money is never a factor in casual sexual encounters, it is all about physical attractiveness.

20 to 24 Years Old Annual salary for men: $40,092 Annual salary for women: $36,712 Percent women make less than men: 8.43% 25 to 34 Years Old Annual salary for men: $56,732 Annual salary for women: $49,660 Percent women make less than men: 12.47 SOMEONE IS LYING TO YOU!!!

Hyperglycemia? Don't you mean Hypergamy. What a bunch of nonsense. Thank you for your convoluted opinion. We need more feminist propaganda. It has as much veracity as rightwing pseudo-sciences like Evolutionary Psychology. Do you charge by the hour? @yogaofhealth1800

That's how it is. Every man experiences this. Even the waitress at restaurants trying to flirt with you.

It’s because they see you (or just a guy in a relationship) as have been screened by another woman as ‘good for a relationship’. It’s like how you need work experience to get work, a paradoxical logical framework.

Happened to me but in middle school and college lol

I guarantee it’s not that you were in a relationship per day but how you’re acting. Guys who are getting constant sex or attention from women are more relax. But ironically there is something as being too relax and smooth. There’s a balance

@@annnddyI would agree. Because that’s how u initially got the first girl. My basketball coach would say shoot the ball like u made it. Walk and talk like u have an abundance of options and u will.

Women are the "selecting sex" thats a biological fact. But as soon as 80% of women try to select only 20% of men, then the top guys are able to choose. Women are also much more likely to choose a spoken man than a single guy. So women create a polygamous society. They hate it themself, but they are unable to think rational. How should we, as men solve this, by telling them "oh, you are fine, you are right" ??! By the way, a degree deos not necessary mean that you are smart. The really important, heavy, dangerous and dirty work (except rising kids) is still disproportionately done by man...by the men who women don't respect. Thats the ugly truth.

For a lot of ordinary, decent men, there’s actually very little choice and for a small minority of top guys, a huge amount. For most women, the choice is also rather narrow, as they target those top 10% of men.

men does not have that amount of options

@@stonemarten1400 women have way more options than the average man. Look up the studies that show how many likes the average woman gets on sites like bumble and tinder etc. versus the average man.

pretty much it's as simple as that

I think #1 problem is people like to blame others for their own problems. In your case it's social media. In others it's men or women. In third case, it's police, people at work, parents, other life limitations... guys, on video posts like this, never say the reason I can't find a girlfriend is because I don't understand women or I am awkward or whatever. It's always someone else's fault.

100% agree. I deleted FB Instagram and Tinder and my life improved dramatically

@@Sabadiver Same here, I gave up social media a few years ago for Lent and within a week my life and my mental clarity was infinitely better. Never went back. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

One of the best decisions you could ever make!

Females will always want to shows other females that she is better than the others. "My bag is more expensive than yours". That's the problem

Then ignore those same women. Go for the ones who have put in as much hard work as you have because they will most likely understand and appreciate your journey.

Find a simple girl. Keep it a secret how successful you are. If you want to marry her write up a good prenup and give her a lawyer to look at it with. Presto.

Now that women want (your money and lifestyle) you, go after the younger women. That's the best revenge. 😆

Oh snaps, you’ll find the one your looking for😊

​@@Luna-luna909This. Exactly

I would argue that your ability to choose wisely and cut people out the moment you realise they are no good for you is a better skill to have. You don't have to deal with negativity at all then.

It's interesting some men said in KZfaq videos that on the internet is a lot of negativity about genders, yet in real life, he used to meet a lot of nice men and nice women, their girlfriends who don't even use Instagram. This means the internet distorts reality because people who use social media less are much happier in real life and have healthy relationships. Professor Sam Vaknin said in a video of the social dilemma of 2018, that Facebook doesn't want men to fall in love with their wives because it is the greatest threat to Facebook advertisements. They want men´s eyeballs looking at Facebook advertisements. He says falling in love and intimacy is the ultimate addiction, which means it reduces the need for other addictions such as Facebook. He says You are either on Facebook, or you have an intimate relationship. Maybe start listening less podcasts, and do your own research in real life. because as you use the internet less your happiness level increases, your focus increases, and your mindset changes. When your mindset changes nd you practice empathy and gratitude, you attract the person who also has the same values. But of course even the best youtubers may change their opinion. Having open mind mena sthta you dont have the same opinion every day. But listen mostly the podcasts about other hobbies suchs as sports, music science etc.

​@VantaDark I cut them all. Nobody is good enough... What does it say about myself ?

nobody is inherently a good person, the concept of good and bad is an ilusion. and theres saying, never burn all your bridges XD so dont follow this guys advice. be critical and have a critieria for you believe is someone taking the piss then confront them, and if they dont have any sign of acknowledgement of what they have done. basicaly not accountability. then you walk away. you be able to have fiends that arent cabron copies of yourself. thats veryu quick way to get into an echo chamber. which will ruin your life over a long period of time @@VantaDark

You don't 'deal' with a toxic woman, you stay away from her in the first place.

Agreed.

Yes, pick yourselves up by your boot straps. That will fix a broken community.

I have said it, they have said it too, and I will say it again. Marry someone based on "set principals and values", this sounds like homework and boring factor but it guarantees much better chance of life long and successful partnership. I The worst way to get married is when you marry based on extreme infatuation (ignoring all other factors), after having great sex for couple of weeks, you seems to have great connection with this new person (thinking that alone will suffice) etc. . You should be we to talk about, childern, finance, religious beliefs and all boring stuff before hand because marriage is boring and will get boring. You take care of this then you will have successful partnership in marriage.

Excellent advice. When times get rough you can draw upon the same background.@@letsthinkbriefly3761

You guys should be like this centuries ago, but hey better late than never now most things have gone to $h*t!!

This is the most awakened comment I’ve read this far. Thank you. From the woman’s vantage point, I can agree entirely with this assessment. When a woman makes her spirituality more important than landing a man, she has truly transformed into one deserving of love from the right man.

Hi! I read your first post and then read the second. Your first post really made an impression on me. You sound like an INFJ, which is one of the Meyer's Briggs 16 personalities. Then I read the second and knew instantly it was written by you. So I looked back, and sure enough, it was you! I am an INFJ, too. I think you should look for an introvert, HSP, and an empath. You definitely sound really thoughtful and emotionally bright, along with being intelligent!! Just continue on, and you will be fine. 🌺🙏✌️🇺🇸❤️🌎🙏✌️🇮🇱🥰

I’m in the same boat but I’m a woman.

Let women chase the men then maybe they will appreciate one who agrees to get into a relationship with them.

Can't imagine that life for myself without being intimate (in & out of bed) with a woman tbh..

lol women.

They’re in denial.

It's called a "cope"

Why are they harassing women so much?

It's interesting some men said in KZfaq videos that on the internet is a lot of negativity about genders, yet in real life, he used to meet a lot of nice men and nice women, their girlfriends who don't even use Instagram. This means the internet distorts reality because people who use social media less are much happier in real life and have healthy relationships. Professor Sam Vaknin said in a video of the social dilemma of 2018, that Facebook doesn't want men to fall in love with their wives because it is the greatest threat to Facebook advertisements. They want men´s eyeballs looking at Facebook advertisements. He says falling in love and intimacy is the ultimate addiction, which means it reduces the need for other addictions such as Facebook. He says You are either on Facebook, or you have an intimate relationship. Maybe start listening less podcasts, and do your own research in real life. because as you use the internet less your happiness level increases, your focus increases, and your mindset changes. When your mindset changes nd you practice empathy and gratitude, you attract the person who also has the same values. But of course even the best youtubers may change their opinion. Having open mind mena sthta you dont have the same opinion every day. But listen mostly the podcasts about other hobbies suchs as sports, music science etc.

Quietly dead on. This is it.

I am selfish. I see no value in sacrificing my life, finances or time.

This is true. Problem is so many women sacrifice their marriages itself over nothing. Which in turn makes men not want to get married to protect themselves.

that's too fleetingly general a point to be even called an 'analysis'. of cause you may hold to it and continue looking onto the irrepairable desaster, baffled.

I think many women feel they are sick of sacrificing. Their time, their health, their pride and their bodies. Just sick of it. Studies show they are happier, healthier and richer when they opt out of marriage and kids.

I had my first kiss at 40 and married another girl at 41

True

It’s feminism and the unrealistic expectation’s that have been taught and perpetuated by the mainstream and frankly I’d say it’s to do with the sale of antidepressants, you might want to consider which single demographic is highly dependent on them. I’ve lived in numerous cultures and found outside of countries where feminism hasn’t been installed, family values and the traditional family are prioritized. Feminism tells women you’re being treated unfairly and ignores the trials and tribulations that men undergo in a relationship, it’s a selfless act given by both partners for the good of your children. Such a simple concept which is scoffed at in the west and feminism

It’s not feminism it’s pay parity. If we have a modern society and both parents work it is the pay that is the problem. Esp in a patriarchal system of which has been twisted to favour men.

@@suzemurray1257 a patriarchal society? In what way? I’m also assuming you don’t actually believe that women are paid less for the same work, do you? To believe in such a thing would be to have no education in basic economics, to lack any complete ability to be impartial, to be stuck in an echo chamber and to be void of logic. Women live longer, men are descriminated against by law, women are favored in high skilled jobs and in many industries because of their gender. Women get all the scholarships in education, dominate education at 60%, earn more up to the age of 30, society makes living life on easy mode for women in western society. The fact that men on the whole earn more is because they deserve it, despite the odds. Men work more hours, more dangerous jobs and are 6/7 work centric compared to women who prefer work/life balance at 1/7.

@@whokilledjr3719 men work more hours because the majority of career men have a wife. If I am void of logic then You are void of the nuances within a societal structure and the abuses of the economic systems that prevail. After all, these systems have developed purely for economic gain and less for the welfare of our children. Hence the inordinate amount of narcissistic young adults we have today.

Exactly! Very well said!

Are you talking about one specific woman? People get rejected time to time. Not everyone will be interested in you and that's OK.

Women get rejected too. Its not only you buddy😂

​@@natalia_00123 right?! We all want someone that we cant have but c mon, he s bitter lol😂

The problem is that a woman interested in money wont care for you if you became ill. She will leave you abandoned to your fate. The same if you get fired or have an accident

Yep. Same for women

Same for women at the same socioeconomic position. Sometimes we focus too much in the gender but maybe its more of an economic and age issue?

That's exactly the same for women too, with the added risk of being killed or raped by your new boyfriend. I'm glad I'm now passed the age of being able to have children, so not put under continued pressure to date. It's a better choice to be single.

I think man really marry for love while women really marry for security.

​@DeborahAberdeenUK Women kill and rape, too. All you're doing is exactly what they discussed in the video, making it a dumb competition. In fact, if you want to go down that route, men are more at risk of harm and threat in general. If all you want is to be perceived as the biggest victim, we'll good luck finding an actual man in an actual relationship involving actual love, because what you displayed is what is wrong with society.

she got outplayed by a trust fund guy?

How long did the trust fund guy stay with her? And did she come crawling back to you, with her tail between her legs?

Good relationships take effort. It's easier for people to get online and find a new one today.

My thoughts!

Grass is greener where you water it.

@@mbg9650 the grass is greenest near the sewage treatment plant

@@winterwulf1995 maybe we should stop pretending...

Beautifully stated!

Agree!

🎯 Most of them don't even have a relationship with themselves. No reflection skills whatsoever

​@@pawwelmussial2916dating apps culture doesn't help. It encourages transactional esque interactions.

@@pawwelmussial2916 Men learn from women. Every asshole, every player. No man teaches another man to be bad to women. Women teach men that being good, being in love, caring isnt wanted or rewarded. Being hot and fun will ALWAYS be preferred. Women dont want to build a relationship and life with a man. She wants a man who has it all so she can live off of it and have fun. Or chase status herself and then just pick men to have fun with. Women dont want to depend on a partner. Just expect and demand of him. When he has nothing more she leaves for someone who has. A Womans life isnt about earning and growing. Its about consuming and reacting. She simply chooses. A Life of being entertained. Like that of a child or a dog/mammal. She doesnt need to think, Just feel and enjoy. Even when dating she sits back and demands men to entertain her at his expense. Women literal have no accountability and the freedom to spend all your money and just leave. Love, romance. Men love idealistic. Or maybe those ideals are tricks came up to push men to provide attention to the parasite called a woman. You can virtue signal all you want. But when the reality is observed. Women with all their equality, slogans and virtue signaling haven't made an attempt in keeping society functioning. Men are still the slaves while women freely use and abuse the system that keeps them alive. And women dont care. Men are waking up to that fact.

Why is everyone saying "people" instead if women theae days. Its weird

The biggest problem in today's dating market is porn has fried men's brains to the point they have less discipline than a toddler which is very unattractive. Vast majority of guys out there cannot talk to an attractive woman for 15 mins without treating her like a sex toy even in work settings yet they wonder why self respecting women are rejecting them. They're so consumed by their sex addiction that women MUST stay away from them or risk being a single mum

@@keiranmorrisartcuz he is a fking simp

​@@keiranmorrisartBecause when it's men misbehaving, it's men misbehaving. When it's women misbehaving, you have to frame it as "people in general" or they will dismiss you as mysoginist.

Watch out. You're going to piss off the lefties. @@DeKnight95

100% agree. This really resonated with me. As a woman, I am in lots of women-only spaces where they actively verbalise I Don’t GAF. And I just think that is so anti feminine 🤷🏼‍♀️

You're right. We're taught to give up.

I feel like we’ve learned to protect ourselves, put up these walls and when things don’t work out, we can just say we’ll we didn’t care anyway, on to the next! But in reality, it hurt and you get even more scared of the next potential partner and the pain it might come with, it’s a vicious cycle.

and people like this shit. so who should take the blame?

I don't care.

Very true. Women need to calm down and stop living in a fantasy. Marrying for money or status is the quickest route to a miserable life for both men and women. Most men will not admit how turbulent and miserable promiscuity, going for extremely attractive plastic women and multiple partners make their life because men like to think about positive results even when doing things that are detrimental. Just like most women won’t admit how lonely and miserable constantly dating for money, looking down on perfectly good men that will make great partners or chasing after the so called high value men makes them. You are already making money, I’ll never understand why you cannot respect and give yourself to a man that doesn’t earn as much if you two are supposed to be partners.

@@Anigeriantakewithdeothe reason why it doesn't work is because typically men want to be the leaders in the household. Also, families break up when women are miserable. They become miserable when they have to split bills and also take on most of domestic labor. On another note, men like it when women admire them. When a woman makes more it is hard for her to do that, but easy for the barista to do. Then he cheats. This is what is happening.

Money has become more important now. I met a girl and I feel anxious about ability to provide given she doesn't earn much

Couldn't agree more!!

Bus stop wow haha

In 11 minutes you're not going to cover even half the reasons. We're missing the decrease in religion, decrease in communal/social support systems for young families, increases in weekly hours worked for a full time job or multiple jobs...

@@stevecooper7883 decrease in religion is a good thing....No one should be lied to....we were not created by any god....We got here via evolution....& there is no heaven or hell....Churches only want your money, & your kids for sex....grow up & wake up..!!!

​@@stevecooper7883Decrease in religion is a good thing. Deluded fools who base their every decision on the feelings of fictional psychopaths have been a millstone around humanities neck for far, far too long

That’s generally also what I’d thinks I’d pair in your first point also with entitlement. And I’d apply it to both sexes from what I’ve seen. Speaking as a straight guy, that is, I’ve come across a lot of guys who have no prospects but thinks their being put down because of Sofia Vargera’s of the world are not sexually interested in them. At the same time a lot of young women have wildly out of sorts expectations on their ‘mr right’. One way or another, come what may, reality will bite back, and it’ll uncaringly bite back hard. I’m 37, happily married to a foreign woman, I’m older of the millennial pack, and I seriously wonder how things will look in the next 20 years.

RPMT, you're so right. I would confirm women should definitely NOT lower their standards. Even if that means you need to train your patience. I did it several times (they had lower value than me, narcs and abusive or just not a good match) and it was terrible, painful and a complete waste of time in the end. It goes nowhere. As Matthew Hussey was saying, you'll meet your Mr Right much faster if you don't lose any time on all the Wrong ones. Time is not coming back. Ladies, be wise!

No women shouldn’t lower their standards. The more that experience the post wall world the funnier it gets. Enjoy that invisibility that the average male experiences his entire life

I'm not sure why women want a guy with more status. What could be more attractive than a man who genuinely cares? I realize there must be some attraction, but someone who is willing to go the distance should be so much more attractive than a guy who just sleeps with every woman who is willing. When dating the man I married, I remember how he made me feel when he would always walk me to my car and he would ask me to call when I got home. He would call me in the mornings and tell me he hoped I would have a good day. He has flaws, but I have them as well. Welcome to the human race.

@@reginasemenenko148 you got yourself a good one. Nobody said high value means filthy rich and a cheater. That's where the confusion is.

Thats nice to believe but thats not the world we live in today. We have to live in reality and the reality is that good marriages seem like winning the lottery: some people win, the majority just lose whatever they spent.

🎯

Feel like I’m in this boat. Would like for it to be different and I haven’t closed myself off, but my expectations for it to actually happen are quite low.

I'm 53 and I pretty much agree. After all the lying, cheating, rejection, games, and general weirdness (even with the women in my generation), there comes a point where you just have to drop out of the game, if only to preserve your mental health. I'm not bitter or angry. Just realistic (and maybe a bit sad, if I'm being honest).

Things like this makes me want to 🔥 western society. And I'm not even westerner. Ffs youtube keep shadowbanning me lmao.

​@@fwa8590 It's not only West, it's everywhere where the Internet has reached.

Even though he mentioned the black pill instead of the red one

Thank you. Doomer have us believe no good women exist. But they do. I hope I will be worthy enough for one to accept me

You lucked out. All the best to you.

There are also people that win the lottery out there. Would you suggest playing the lotto as a reasonable choice for making a living?

Not arguing isn't a sign of a strong relationship. It's a sign that one gives in more than oftened. When partners can Argue and argue well. That is a sign of strength.

So why arnt you married.. I’m curious to know

There is a quote that if you start practicing meditation, metacognition, and physical exercise it helps you to release stress, for example, Qi-Gong helps muscle release and mental health, mental blockages etc. Or you may practice breathing techniques. If you will practice empathy, love, and gratitude more than 50 percent or more than 70 percent of the day, you will start noticing changes in your life, in health, relationships, jobs, hobbies,etc Because your body will feel cleaner and energized as all the negative thoughts and also the toxins will be released out of your body thanks to Qi-Gong or another type of exercises, laso regeneration of your body will be much faster because it creates better circulation of the blood that transports nutrients, and it increases the circulation of other body fluids. It prevents overtinking, and insomnia, improves immunity etc. You will feel more at ease and you will feel your muscles and organs better. You will breathe better. People will notice your good energy. Also, you may practice Static Qi-gong which has all these effects on the body and muscles. The one exercise is called Qi. You may exercise it 5 minutes, because its not easy to maintain the balance. Gym exercise creates pressure in muscles but This Qi static exercise creates a "muscle release". It improves your body posture. You will better feel the pelvis whether it's in a good position etc. As it strengthens your body balance and it also improves your mental balance. The energy is flowing from your head to your feet, your feet are rooting into the ground and under the feet. then as the energy goes to the ground it goes back up to your body, which improves the circulation of the body fluids. You may laos research a Medical Qi-Gong. Doctors who do accupressure use it too. Or you may do other exercises such as Thai-chi etc, but the thing is you should practice self-love, which improves the energy of your mind and body and practice empathy and gratitude, or some meditation because mediation is releasing negative emotions or false beliefs about your self-worth and it affects your career, relationships etc.

It can't be fixed. Not ethically anyway. Whatever. We'll prolly be long dead by the time things get really bad.

The fact that noone has spoken of an actionable solution yet is because they might be too extreme to express. Like a war, or insane inflation and destruction of wealth, basically reminding people that its better to stick together and that ultimately its not your corporate job of writing Excel sheets that matter. I dont think there is any other way around, you cant magically make women care more or lower their standards or drop back

They never did get to the solutions though. Maybe I missed it.

You can't. It'd be better if they just stopped talking about it.

Similar story myself. Being CNBC is not easy but better than being in an abusive relationship. Glad you are treating yourself with respect, you deserve that.

Thats a heartbreaking story. Feminism really screwed everyone up.

Hey , i still believe you can have a happy ending don't give up

​@@jonnjones8263Why are you blaming feminism for this lady's problems? She was uneducated and looking for a man in her 20s. Isn't that what you all want? Smh

Find your happiness and peace in JESUS, he loves you unconditionally.

spot on

Maybe thats what humanity has always been? That "Deeper" history you read about is fake. Thats the issue. When you think you are smarter and deeper you cut yourself off from what it means to be human and enjoy the simple things. Look at LOTR. The shire people were stupid, but they lived life. The rest of the world was distracted by their ideals. Even Bilbo and frodo were affected by it. So much they couldnt live in the shire anymore around normal humans. Mindless consumption is the same no matter the medium. Classical or modern. A Tower is a tower no matter where it is placed.

Wow, powerful words. There is a ring of truth, in a certain perspective. I think to some extent this is not a modern problem however we like to superimpose our perspective on biological reality. But the truth I believe is that most people simply live boring shallow lives and you seem to have a deep inner world. Rare as it might be, perhaps there is another who does as well....good luck.

I hear ya, I write books and nobody I know reads anymore

yeah no communication no more it's sad

Same here man, algorithms and womens views suck sadly.

@@gallopinggoose7997 damn I feel for you

Try reverse psychology. Everything about you, do the opposite. It works on a superficial level because, let's face it. A lot of 304s are superficial. Suppose you're after deep love. I wouldn't recommend it-a bit of fun. Sure, go ahead.

Also upgrade your style, appearance, and mindset and take quality photos. There are vids on which pictures you should upload. Works every fkn time.

Exactly. Instead of picking their favourite guy in their town they’re being seen by men all over the world. When you couple this with the fact that most women confuse their sexual options as potential mate partners it’s no wonder we’re in this terrible situation.

Same is true for men. They had a small pool of women. Not they all just want looks and hot girls. And only fans and online porn- that is an even bigger problem.

​@@PRHVideoFilenot really, Polling data from dating apps show that average men find average women as attractive but the reverse is not true. Women only found the top 10 to 20 % of men as attractive.

@@trshashank4 Really? I'll have to look up the data on that. From what my female friends say, they feel like it is opposite. I do know a ton of women who have been rejected for online porn and only fans though. It is a bad problem for some men.

@@PRHVideoFileIt's even worse on dating apps such as Tinder etc, for example, where women only swipe right on ~5% of men while men swipe right closer to the ~50% mark. Agree on the problem with porn however. But that is a result of the immorality and degeneracy feminism and Marxism has pushed hard for, for decades ever since the fertility control inventions (contraceptions and abortion which is rooted in eugenics) which sparked the sexual revolution which was advocated for by early feminists such as Simone de Beauvoir, the post modern Marxists such as Michel Foucault etc. It's the same ideology which drives the alphabet dogma today as well as the feminist one. If I'm to be fair to women regarding critique when it comes to men, it would be fair to say that they haven't really been taking on their responsibility and duties as men but at the same time if they had they would have been deemed patriarchal and toxic by our modern women and the culture the progressives, social democrats are advocating for and enforcing. There's no fixing this problem, it will persist and haunt not only us but our children and grand children as well and most likely several generations onwards after them. We, our children, grand children will witness a dramatic population collapse. We'll be lucky if there are more than a billion people left on the planet in 100 years. I doubt there will even be half of that. The collectivists won, they will achieve their goals they have worked so hard towards. The lucky few who will be left will in all likelihood have to endure collectivist tyranny that will make the Soviet Union and the Third Reich appear like saints in comparison. I feel sorry for my son that I brought in to this world and what he will have to endure in his life but I've grown apathetic to everyone else and society. I only care about my son now, nothing else. It is what it is.

Agreed

Maybe because that paradigm of a reductionist binary system is overly simplistic to the point of dysfunction

@@michaelbloomer451 Oh, well done. Extra points for your vocabulary test.

All he does is describe the problem, then say "we absolutely can't do anything to change what has caused this problem"

what’s your solution? eliminate women’s rights, so incels can get f-ed? touch grass and get a job.

basicly nobody wants to work to build up a relationship. This is not how it works. Relationships dont just grow on trees.

There's literally no reason for a good-looking woman (as the rest are completely invisible to men, no matter how hard some might try to deny it) to be in a 50/50 relationship. Economical reasons are pretty much the only actual important reasons.

I feel like this is the 1 of the few mature well thought out responses on here

I’ve thought about this for a while

That is well observed, we're still great apes and our brain is getting way too much stimulations. I'm a young millenial/old gen z and most of my friends can't just lie or sit and do nothing, they're addicted to brain stimulations.

Given how sheeple most people are, do they really deserve more?

You make up the majority of men today

@@Jewel_Screaming_Chango8387 I’m not a man..

@@danieharkleroad your experience still stands with what I said for majority of heterosexual men in this era in the west, I pray for them

Homosexual men are doing just fine!

You're too weak. You don't have what it takes. You've given up even before you began to fight. No true warrior. What kind of defeatist attitude.

Don’t come here with your mature and adult viewpoints. You’ll upset the other commenters! ;)

@@rosebud040686 ha ha! Thanks for the compliment :)

this! I had an abusive childhood and would rather not out my love through horrible rollercoasters,I want to be much better so I can be good for a man. Other than that,I hold very traditional balues and I love to cook and bake,and believe in pleasing a man after a long day at work

You can get married, have kids, and be a happy person without spending time in therapy "doing the work." Most of humanity throughout most of history has done just that. Part of the problem with relationships today is that people place *too much* emphasis on this kind of therapeutic outlook; marriages are happier and calmer when we focus on day-to-day problems rather than trying to work through our childhood trauma or some such thing.

@@davidfranklin5434 sure but most of human history didn’t have parents who spearheaded the sexual revolution

You’re so blessed, thanks for sharing 🎉

I get tired reading this.

Consider yourself lucky to even give birth at 40. You're in the minority.

Just say youre high maintenance, no need to write a novel

@@nathanjames6454 she got herself a partner, unlike u u incel.

What’s loneliness. I think having no harmony with family and friends is way more lonely than not having a SO in our lives.

Word, and it’s rarely ever talked about.

I don’t blame homicidal maniacs, I’m surprised there aren’t more.

You are raising a good point and it’s a shame that some men are experiencing this….but Is this really because of women as the main reason? As most men don’t open up and express their emotions. Most men don’t allow themselves to be vulnerable and do not have healthy friends who they can literally cry on, men always have to be men and act tough and strong and that isn’t healthy. It’s a conditioning that goes beyond mens interaction with women. Women cry with other women, open up, cuddle each other, have slumber parties, process emotions when they go through a breakup. Isn’t it time that there’s a conversion on men finally starting to let go of always having to be so strong or resort to sleeping around to find some form of fulfilment. Something has to change! Men need to start deeper conversions on some of what I’ve shared above.

@@queenchiomaofficialI appreciate the heart behind what you’re trying to say, but only part of what you describe is socialisation. The majority is due to the fact that men ARE different to women and asking men to be more like women to be healthy is a contributing factor to why people aren’t connecting I believe.

They only say that because they are "seasoned". Find a woman who isn't "seasoned".

@t.8936 Easier said than done especially when you're in your late 20s 🤧

​@@youngpacman1222women have been conditioned to think that men also want a seasoned woman. The movies and magazines have been telling women this for YEARS. We are the stupid ones for listening. When are people gonna wake up and see thag the information we are fed is destroying us? Break the mould.

No, on the contrary, cultivating and growing your hopes despite life suffering and death inevitability is the only path to freedom.

Freedom is about detaching everything that it chains you, that includes people, beliefs, reasons, & objects and continuing living. You can't be truly free because you will always attach with something. Always. But I won't say hope is lost, it's just a perspective that it will change eventually, if you change or let it go some of the points mentioned, and that's what being free is so wonderful.

Feminism.

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You'd find a women intimidating if she does all of this.

Fortunately men fall in love with who they fall in love with. No dating up hypergamy B/S. You're not in that 30's, single, lonely group of women are you :( @@enlightenlife2840

Do you want a family unit that includes a wife in the future ? If not sure, what would motivate you to have one ?

I'm in the same boat as him and I don't want kids in the future​@@sunflowerpower642

@@sunflowerpower642he’s probably in the upper percentile of men whom Women pay attention to. In terms of looks I have no issues with women either. If you’re in the upper percentile because of female empowerment and access to technology, the access to women is almost bottomless. He holds the cards at this point and if he chooses to give up dating for a family he can. Asking him what would stop him from enjoying his life at this point would probably have to be quite special. There’s really little reason for an accomplished, attractive man to get married because what does he get out of it? It only helps the woman who have a higher chance of divorce. Marriage isn’t sacred for women.

You don't search for a relationship, is this including dating or not

Agreed. What he omits to say is that women have raised their standards and don’t tolerate nonsense and disrespect.

@@acs2735 what made me chuckle is how he immediately went to protect the modern woman from the very thing that has caused the issue in the first place lol. You cannot make this rubbish up

I agree with this wholeheartedly! The well-being of children is never discussed when these conversations come up, but children are impacted tremendously by the poor partnering of their parents. There are tons of people who probably should have never married and definitely should not be parents. If children are safer and have healthier parents as a result of the phenomenon discussed here, then in a generation or two, this problem will no longer be an issue.

​@@acs2735 good. We cant be abused anymore!

​@@James_36 "modern women" aka no one wants me 😂

I agree. So owning an Aston Martin is your life purpose? Lol

An Aston Martin is a piece of metal that will rust. A family is the conitnuation of billions of years of evolution and will further your genetic line into the human future.

@@quillo2747 Who dafuk cares about a genetic line? It's the dumbest narc sh*t on earth.

​@quillo2747 an Aston Martin won't abandon you and your children when she gets "bored".

​@@quillo2747future? The future seems bleak id rather not bring children into such an environment and if my bloodline dies so be it

Well said

Well, that’s because America has been capitalistic since its founding, and this is a new problem. They don’t have anything to do with one another.

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@@cynicist8114 No. Actually it has been a problem since the beginning and slowly progressed to the point of where we are now. America has always been a capitalist system with the facade of democracy to keep people from rising up. Now I believe it is time for people to rise up because the problems have become insurmountable. Capitalism and democracy are diametrically opposed to each other. Government can no longer keep the veil of lies over the people.

Capitalism is stripped of stuff like faith and community. I think these were a sort of counter balance.

Good for you. I'd be curious if you look at other women that are 5'1 and see they're also dating less educated men below 5'10. That happens, but seems to certainly be a rarity

That's a big one. When you went out, I'll bet you were socializing with the people around. Today, out in public, most people can be found gazing down at their phone, interacting with someone who isn't there.

@@ff23321 exactly. There was no internet, so we had to go where the people were. It works, people.

Did you forget young people were locked inside for 2 years to protect the elderly?

@@mikehimes7944 Are you saying that young people lost their social skills during the pandemic?

I agree but it isn't that simple. Attention spans are shorter & women have too many options. Men risk adverse & realizing the juice isn't worth the squeeze (devorce laws)

Wtf does you making 100k have to do with anything? Again, another piece of evidence showing how clueless women are WE DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR MONEY!!

Sad but true! I'm still trying to recover from my own childhood.

Thank you for the comment man.@@markflierl1624

Sure that describes most white and black American women, but Asian and Latina women for the most part arent nearly as crazy. Im a white guy and I very rarely ever even try to talk to a white or black woman, they just dont live in reality.

Yup

Your inability to negotiate peace and happiness with any potential partner is a clear indication of your own character weakness.

That's because there is no solution, we're all fucked!

The truth is working environment is not made for women. Meaning that although women are achieving more on a professional level, she has need that are not met. A woman has to choose between family or work, we ask them to balance both and still look young and beautiful, something that men are not asked to. The world is shaped around men, women just happen to fight for a place in it. It should also be shaped around them. My two cents.

​@@4651adriCorrect, because there is a natural order to things, men work and gather resources, women take care of the children and maintain the home. If there is a natural order to things, you generally shouldn't change it. Women had a place in the world, just as men did. Both genders have a nasty habit of trying to fix shit that isn't broken, and generally when you do, it doesn't go the way you think it will!

Thank you for this comments 🙏 its great coming from a man. Being financially secured is a womans safety. Men need to understand that supporting you're wifes career and trying to make marriage fun is the only way.

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Those are mutually exclusive choices. To be successful, you can’t be sweet. To be loving and supportive, you can’t be beautiful. To be bright, you can’t be down to earth

​@@Googleistheantichristthe only statement that is accurate is the first one. To be successful in a career you have to be the opposite of sweet. I experienced this as a working woman, and my husband also as a man with employees. He could not be "nice". You have to be a hard ass to get anywhere in life financially. Foe men this isn't a bad quality but a woman who is successful in her career is cut throat. I assure you. Unless she is maybe selling some items at home like cakes or homemade items.

Not hard to imagine when you are a man. It is the norm for the average dude out there.

Same but with my girlfriend. Our relationship was completely organic. Started off as friends, then best friends, then why not try for more? We’ve been together now for 1.5 years and going good

Girl..... same omg. Stuff like this makes me sick and I constantly thank my stars

In my case a wife but I feel the same way. We met out our old workplace. Now we have kids and she's wonderful. We work at life together, and having a partner in life, as you go through high's and low's, is a wonderful thing. Western culture does at times feel like it's on a suicidal course. Women are being told they don't need men and there is zero encouragement towards motherhood any more. Men get almost no positive encouragement, and often appear to fill their time with porn and videogames, now being told that they should "go their own way" due to the asymmetries they perceive in marital law (which maybe very well be correct, but only further divides the sexes). A culture where men and women are so detached and confused simply has no future. I hope we can course correct, as being a husband and father is easily the most meaningful roles I've had in my life.

@@cendrizzi- There’s also the factor that 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Thus creating trauma for children and making it harder for them to get into relationships in the future. My parents have been married for over 50 years, but almost all their friends in the same age group have been divorced at least one time. Both of my older brothers married wives whose parents were divorced. They don’t value family the way my siblings? and I do. It’s sad really.

"I may be alone, but I never feel lonely"....That's the key.

In other words, unhealthy men are undatable. Duh, women want the top guys,. Men who die before puberty are all in the ,'never married: category so of course the AVERAGE married man would live longer. Math, understand it or don't use statistics.

This isn't true for women, check the research

Math, again math. Please for the love of God try to understand the math before using a statistic. . .

If paid parental leave was available would this change your mind about not seeing ambitionless men as prospective partners?

Good job, this is fine and you will find the right guy. As long as your not dismissing guys based on income and education, if he is loyal, works and isn't totally terrible with money, it should work out. The problem is that a lot of women are still applying gender norms to men as having to be the provider, when most men are being out earned by women.

One of the few comments I read that actually made sense. I'm tired of men thinking building a family doesn't require solid foundations.

​@@treacherousjslither6920who even wants an ambitionless somebody

So true. It’s not about the money, it’s about the work ethic. My friend married someone who was unemployed at the time but he was working so hard to find work (and he did). I feel for a lot of men nowadays though. There seems to be a lot of them who have given up.

This is so true!

People were busy in year 1745. VERY busy working all hours of the day farming just to get enough to eat. Having someone you see for only a few hours in the evening is actually good, because if you spend all day and night together you go crazy under each others feet.

​@@3m4il Back then you had the dictates of the Church, Society and Parents to marry. But not now.

Yep agree. We are all rats on a wheel now trying to save own ass

@@3m4il ummm, that has nothing to do with what he's saying, because you're talking about feeling purpose and working, he's talking about excessive working hours coming in the way of dating. in those times so many women were deemed witches just for applying basic intellect because they went against the church, so no, flirting wasn't really a thing even then. the church itself would condemn women for it lol

The west man. The westerner culture has spread its not just Americans consuming American content.

@RagingDamage. People in many countries especially the UK find American culture ubiquitous, some feel its invasive. That's just the way it is.