yeah, honestly, this reminded me of deep conversations you have with a friend where you feel like you could keep talking forever

She also went on Red Table Talk

Absolutely love drew 🎉 Thanks Jennette for taking the time to talk

Oh absolutely! I think it’s because they both experienced very similar trauma that it feels more like they’re guiding each other through it rather than talking at one another

Absolutely 💯♥️

Yeah, I just paused on that part...

Your truth can be different than mine just like memories. ❤️🥰💕

💯

Powerful.

I felt that in my very soul. ❤️‍🔥

Is that woman crazy? She let two adult children see each other nude what the hell man.

Exactly. If you read it and you understand how she was treated by her mom, you’re probably upset when you read it because she is so kind and patient with her mom when her mom doesn’t set serve it -from an unbiased perspective. But not always (the “waking up” as you say or just the fact that jennette already knew the truth when she was writing) and that’s what makes it so real.

And that's idolize in its biggest, boldest possible meaning. Quite literally to the point of if the idol is not appeased there will be consequences for the mortals. The disgusting number of times she had to give up herself in the face of crocodile tears and phony heartbreak was insane. There was a lot of talk of the title but if it went one more line it could easily have been "because now I can live"

And so relatable. We all idolize our parents. Especially if you have a narcissistic parent who exploits that aspect.

She most definitely had every right to throw her wayyy under the bus whether society accepted it or not

I hear you. I believe you. So relatable!

@Philip Garcia personality: the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual's distinctive character

@Philip Garcia you do realize she was forced into the entertainment industry when she was a literal baby and her mother used her for money and fame. She ended up in a mental institution by the age of 13 strung out on alcohol and drugs because she was partying so hard in Hollywood. You obviously don’t know what she’s suffered at the hands of her neglectful parents:

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This was all scripted.

It's so soothing to see her in this light after watching Sam's character! Growing up with Sam was fun but growing into Jeanette is so healing ❤

@@jonellechristopher3209 I don’t know why but this reminded me of how Sams character always had a hard relationship with her mom. I wonder if Jeanette ever felt like represented by that aspect of Sam?

@@strawberrycherrybaby Unfortunately the opposite; Dan Scheneider (the creator of the show and a Nick exec who likely abused Jennette, though she's never directly given his name) would write in things that the actors were insecure about or having a difficult time with. For instance, he also made Jennette eat a ton of food on camera, even though she was very clearly dealing with an eating disorder

lookup Jay Pop- Love Is Murder 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

She really is!

This was the most perfect interview for Drew as well, no-one understands like she can. DEFINITELY the best interview on the book I've seen ❣️❣️

she's truly had an incredible arc. It must be wild to be her.

Agreed

WOW she's sooo brave & smart . She's Awesome .

AMEN. She has been through it all. Relatable is an understatement. Minus the fame lol!

That is it 😂💯

Agreed....her mother was terrible. Obama mother was unstable

This would be brilliant ❤

the perfect title

I am sure she is thinking about it

They’re just talking about life it’s not really a therapy session

@@Haileyrodriguez288 it's therapeutic

I was legit saddened when it ended i wish this was a series!

It's also not your standard press interview going on here between these two. Could be considered A form of therapy 😊

Me too - I have tears!

wow wow wow... didn't hear that part and it just hit me... growing up in my situation I longed for my mother's love... it was even worst that she was a single parent and I didn't know my dad so I longed for love... now being married I love hard.. smh makes total sense now.. Ekk

Same, I have this same feeling with my mother. She grew up in the 70's in an immigrant household where daughters weren't appreciated and was disowned at 22 when she married my father. I feel that people can choose how to approach their trauma. They can either turn out to be a narcissist who continues their cycle of abuse on others, or they can become an empath who breaks the cycle and radiates love to others. My mother hid her trauma from us and created a loving home for us and for that I am forever grateful. (sorry for the long reply)

That’s nice to hear! Although my dads the opposite lol

Same with my father! My grandfather had passed when I was young, and he speaks respectfully of him, however doesn't hold back that his childhood relationship with him was very cold and they didn't really have much of one until he was grown. However, my dad is the most loving man I have met. He had always been so gentle to me as a child and I was surprised to learn how he had grown up being treated by his dad. Though I do have to say that he has said that my grandmother had enough love to give for the both of them. ❤️ Hugs to everyone impacted by a strained relationship with a caregiver, it's a real tough one.

I can say the same about my father. He said growing up that his parents never told him that they loved him. The first time he heard it was when he was 38 years old. Because of this, he never misses a chance to tell us how much he loves us and what he wouldn't do for us.

I agree 💯

I agree. The only way to overcome the stigma of abuse and mental illness is to talk about it.

Same

Feel it in my bones

Same here :(

Yessss!

It's so so true

Yes! When Jeanette said she probably doesn't want to have kids, the way Drew said "Gee, I wonder why?" 😆 She was so empathetic, genuine, and understanding. Then Drew said how healthy Jeanette is and how if she ever did choose to become a mother that she'd be a great one. (That's probably a thought that Jeanette hasn't dared to really entertain.) Drew didn't pressure Jeanette to have kids, she just gave her a boost of confidence that she'd be great at it. And she shared her own struggles and her own growth without being holier-than-thou in any way. It was such a supportive exchange. 🥰

Repent to Jesus Christ “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” ‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭4‬:‭10‬ ‭NIV‬‬ T

for drew to ask advice from jeanette, her junior, is so beautiful to see. drew being so vulnerable enough to ask for advice yet still empowering jeanette. they’re both such strong people 🥲❤️

I love her. She could have become this hard, bitter person after everything she has been through but she's like the literal human version of a sunflower

She is a truly healthy person. She really knows that she can learn from others, and that's never denigrating to oneself, it's actually the opposite.

Britney too

​@@weirdloverwilde I wish she did interviews 😅

Drew and Brooke had a heart to heart

This is SO necessary

I instantly agreed as well as I’ve always felt the same way. Maybe doesn’t apply to all but, most. All the love they didn’t receive, they give and then some!

@@barbievillalobos2075 absolutely! 🤍😊

This is me with my Dad. For LOOONG time. Now I'm like he's the ass. Not me.

@@KoriEmerson same with my mom

@@KoriEmerson same here girly. your not alone

Right there with you..I froze. Epiphany.

Me too. It's really hard when your parent is loved by outside people so much and keeps up appearances so well that no one would have an inkling of the trauma you have to deal with behind closed doors.

My thoughts as well

Privacy is okay too

Beautifully said! She has had a tougher road than most and it’s been clear for a while she was not treated well as a child by her mother (& potentially others). Whether she goes public with the information or she confronts the person(people) personally in her life that abused her, it is absolutely her choice and will remain to be seen.

She would be a wonderful mommy!!!

@@Ellietalk81 drew barrymore wrote a memoir too you know

I’m an 80’s baby and I’ve been in love with Drew Barrymore ever since I saw the movie Fire Starter . And that admiration has only grown as we’ve literally grown up simultaneously. Her physical beauty, her realness and authenticity, her humor and almost angelic aura is unmatched in the industry. I still love Drew B. She’s something special!

I can totally relate to your comment. Sometimes I've had a really difficult problem differentiating the two emotions.

I feel a very real sense of this on most of my adult life and quite a bit of it as I've grown up. The worst part is not being able to differentiate between the sense of those that you know do not deserve your time and how to establish the foundation to build your own self-worth back up. Most people that I've spoken with that have been contributors or just didn't view my life from the same lens, will tell me that I only read the situation to place myself as the victim. My biggest issue is not being able to read social scenarios well. I don't think that should place a child under scrutiny, especially when I'd get upset with myself whenever I didn't understand.

Hi

Same

I would highly recommend reading Brene Brown's books or listening to her TED talks. She has done in-depth shame research, and her material is very HEALING! Focus on one thing today: make things about actions rather than internalizing the actions into an adjective for yourself. That's a big one for people who struggle with the weight of shame. I encourage you to see things in the future as an action...This is a simple example, but a good place to start is by thinking: I did ___badly...... FOCUS on that instead of saying *I* am bad (or whatever adjective that is tearing yourself down), because this incubates shame. I hope I could help a little bit and that I was able to help in some way. I hope you feel a little bit better each day going forward. 💞

Start working on yourself now. I've been in therapy for the past 9 years to work on my trauma and to process everything that happened my whole childhood/teenagehood. I have a beautiful three year old little boy, and still have moments when I get triggered from my past. Sometimes he's the one that's triggering me and therapy gave me to coping skills and self awareness to recognize that and realize as well as the strength to walk away.

I never wanted to have kids for the same reason! I now have a almost two year old, and she has been the best catalyst to my healing. And she already has such a different childhood than me!

Definitely one of several reasons I've never wanted children. I believe if you continue to do the work and you know what triggers you or issues you face, you can definitely become the person you want to be.

@@DarkLady0801 sorry i read this comment and could relate so much. I have a 4 year old and find myself getting triggered too. I hope I find the skills to cope too.

I didn’t like that part personally. I had people say this too me when I said I did not want children. It’s covertly trying to sell someone on the idea.

I was just thinking this! her show has been so uplifting and natural. she is so genuine with all of her guests unlike other hosts

yes ❤️❤️❤️

So true ❤

Absolutely. Her journey has made her into a pretty sweet, open, and genuine human being.

I've been a fan of hers for sooo long and part of my love of her is because of her compassion and her giant beautiful heart. She's an iconic woman for so many reasons but she's the one major celebrity that I feel like I could get ice cream with and it would be comfortable not intimidating because of who she is.

Watch her interview with Trevor Noah. Whether you're a fan or not, the interview is brilliant.

Dud berrymore has been acting for like 4 decades. Was this really your first experiemce with her?

@@aroccoification 😂

@@aroccoification Aside from seeing her in movies, yes.

@@fozziebean what's your favorite drew-vie?

That's what I'm talking about, drew is a national treasure

So… just like everyone else, then? Lol.

@@christinatuttle8442 no not even close lol

Very true

That’s exactly it! I could never phrase the vibes she gives me. She gives “cool, worldly aunt giving you life advice” until all of a sudden she makes a certain gesture of facial expression and she looks like she’s 6 years old in ET again.

As a Childfree man, I couldn’t have said it better myself.

i also never understood the hostility. like you want someone who DOESNT want kids to have kids? do you not see how badly that’ll end for everyone involved ?

She under stood when John Cena shared his reason to.

@@El1society kinda like making ppl go thru with pregnancies that they don't want, how do ppl think that's gonna end up for them? 😟

@@jesusmysaviourable1 what was his reason?

I’ve always said mother because a mom gives you love and cares about you, a mother just gives birth to you :)

❤❤❤

❤️❤️

​@@xragdoll5662Agreed.

Sending love & strength your way

❤❤❤

Right?! It’s taken me 46 years of life to understand that deeply. I don’t have it in me to play pretend about anything with one more person anymore. I don’t care who it is.

I will forever remember this statement

This really hit hard, I had a very difficult relationship with my mom, the mother daughter love seemed very one sided mostly my side it seemed. She never hit me but the constant emotional abuse was just so heartbreaking, I didn't know what I did to deserve her treating me like she did. 😔

I really appreciated the very raw dialogue and genuine questions and answers - so healing.

Yes! This was riveting to me. When Drew said something to the effect of wanting a relationship with your mother that not even society says you should have but that NATURE tells you should have blew my mind. I have always longed for that kind of relationship with my mother and a therapist said to me a few years ago that I need to start accepting that that relationship may never happen. These women having this particular conversation moved me today. Wow.

I feel you all. When Drew said she felt the need to protect her mother it struck me cause I think a lot of people continue to make excuses for their mother’s poor behavior when they don’t deserve that protection. For so long everyone thought my mom and I had a close and happy relationship even tho she was abusive on many levels. I never spoke about it until I got to my 20s and it was so freeing to do so. I have accepted that I will never have a positive relationship with my mom, and I no longer allow her to destroy my life just because I feel like I owe her for giving birth to me. Self-mothering and building strong bonds with other women in my life has helped to fill that void. It’s a journey, and i’m sending a big warm hug to anyone who needs it 💞

My grandmother physically and verbally abused me that I almost killed her when I was older. But thankfully I'm free being independent and trying to build a relationship with my estranged mom(her daughter) who she verbally abused

They're speaking to my soul.

Couldn’t agree more

I know this feeling!

I had to pause the video multiple times because it hit so hard!

I'm glad you exposed the abuser. Hoping your life is enriched

I'm shocked, I've never seen any of her show before this. She handles this difficult conversation with elegance and grace. I hope she does more of these hard hitting interviews. She is so open, raw and humble. When she jumped up to hug her it shows that she cares more about the person than getting the juicy details. I was moved to tears by this conversation and I'm sure I'm not the only one. Good job Drew and thanks to Jennette for being so open and shading her story!

Yes

Cause she did it. She broke through and Drew recognizes. Miracle Drew is healthy and thriving being troubled kid actor with us but she can take it next level now. Exceptional!

@@imrebeccap egg xurde

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Same ❤️

Facts

Me too! But, though I struggled with the relationship with my mom, I too thought that she would never change. She recognized her own behavior as toxic, and that it stemmed from her own childhood abuse, would admit her own faults, and actively sought therapy for her issues, and tried like hell to work on herself. Even though she did back-slide several times, and many times she didn't know if she could change, have a different mindset and truly be the kind of person, she's always wanted to be. She started her journey of healing in her late 20's, when she was able to understand that she had trauma from the abuse she suffered in her childhood and was also physically abusing her own children, because she wasn't shown another way of disciplining. But she knew deep down that, hitting her children with a belt every time we misbehaved, was absolutely WRONG! It's taken years and years to unpack all that baggage! She's 64 now, has 4 adult children, 9 grandchildren, 2 cats, 2 dogs, and a husband who loves her in every way possible! She's finally able to know, understand and love the amazing person SHE truly IS! Yes, she's been damaged. Yes, she's messed up a lot, made wrong choices, but that's NOT who she is, but what she'd done. It took her a long time to come to know, understand and love the person she is. and she's still working on herself every single day..... I'm so proud of her! She not only saved her own life, but all of ours too! I have no idea how our family's lives would be right now, had she never taken those first few steps towards unlocking her potential.... I'm just so grateful she did!

Omg this!!!! My dad always says "your mother will never change so you have to." I always thought that was unfair

I tried to set boundaries with my mom and she ignored them. So now we don’t have a relationship. My mental health is more important.

I'm sorry you had to go through that. You gotta heal in case you want to make it safe and positive for you and your kids.

If there's one breath left in you, there's time. You can heal and know love.

I’m 55 and only now am I processing some of the things that shaped me from childhood. I’m going to have to live with myself for the duration, so I might as well keep “doing the work.” I’m not broken, but I am in great disrepair.

Broken things can be rebuilt, look for the hands that help hold you up, find someone who knows how to rebuild people, get away from people that tear you down. One small act at a time can make a difference when you don't have the energy to move at all. I hope the best for you and if you can't believe in your own strength maybe the belief of a stranger will help. Gentle hugs

Jesús es el camino !

Thank you! So glad you liked the interview!

Yntyyt y 😮

It's called acting.

I appreciate the way Drew is so warm and real in conversations. It makes people she speaks with so much more comfortable and not judged in their truth.

Instant Star was so good 🙌🏼

SAME 😢

Amount of what??

I mean to those of us who have experience that kind of things do try to make it something to laugh at, because it's so absurd that kids have to live like that.

Who's her guest? I didn't know her at all! 😊

@@Analysis_Paralysis She was on a nickeloden show called ICarly, also a show with Ariana Grande, Kat & Sam.

@@MoreKrisOver Thx!

@@MoreKrisOver Sam & Cat

she could have asked literally anyone or her own therapist no need to ask net, I felt bad. She has done so much to overcome people pleasing and drew seems very serious and pushing like she's an adult and she is way older than her. I felt net being tensed and worried

I agree ... I love seeing her here feeling and longing for that you got me feeling. Like she found someone that finally gets her. Many will say I know or I'm so sorry but do they really understand you and how you feel ... no one will unless they have been in a similar situation. I felt the same here like wow I totally can relate.. many in these situations feel alone, abandon, and judged.

Thank you ❤

🙂

💔💔

Seeing the light go on in her own eyes-the recognition that "Yeah-what my mom did wasn't ok. I defended her because she's my parent-but what I was defending wasn't her. It's what I wished she could be." When my abusive parent died, I felt sadness, sure. But I also felt just unmeasurable grief and disappointment at losing the chance that things could have been better. She could have been better-could have healed and found recovery. But she never did. To quote Bojack Horseman: My mother is dead. And everything is worse now.

That's an amazing idea. I'd totally listen!

Jennette actually has a podcast called empty inside where she has several interviews like this. Highly reccomend

What a great idea!

100% agree!!!❤

@@Snowflake28936AJ I used to listen and I can't find it anymore! Do you know where I can find it again?

Wow- I’d never heard that quote before- it’s so powerful!

Carrie honestly would have been amazing to have as part of this convo. I miss her a lot

I told my therapist once, “If I don’t make jokes, I’ll cry.” It’s ok to cry too but sometimes you’re tired of crying and just want to see the humour in it.

The funny thing is I think young people who went through trauma had a strange connection to her character Sam. I remember thinking she was such an off character but having an affinity for her

Repent to Jesus Christ “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” ‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭4‬:‭10‬ ‭NIV‬‬ J

@@repentandbelieveinJesusChrist3 gross. Go oppress people elsewhere

@@SD-ci6kz Sam cracked me up tho

This was what made it interesting listening to her book ( I listen to it on my walks) that she really understands grammar very well which is something I'm not good at in anyway.

And when they do they just wanna squeeze more sadistic enjoyment from the deep pain they cause. I'm very sorry your mother is abusive and limitlessly cruel. You deserve unconditional love, respect and safety. I hope you're surrounded by kind people and pets. That you have access to the therapy that suits you better. And that your mum and her flying monkeys can't reach you.

Hugs I know that feeling...

I totally know this feeling

i hated my mother for so many years for her cruelty and recklessness. then i learned, that hate only destroy me. lost contact years ago. i don't know why, this year i wrote her a card for her birthday. she moves to another city (her birthplace). we used to spend time together before she left. i have tought about her life , and a lot of it hurts me. also for my mother. but i also understood a lot. now everything ist okay between us, but the sadness remains. i didn't want to get a degree until she died (81 years old). my teenage daughter also understood a lot better. for her i broke the circle of generations frommother to daughter hardness. i love her to much to do this to her.

I’m personally going through this process with my mom currently. It’s taken going through family therapy for it to become clear. It took my dad suddenly dying but thank god my brother is great. I feel bad that others have gone or also going through there own version of this conversation and experiences.

Same. You’re not alone

So true I feel you. My mom was narcissistic never cared about my life and always felt like a shadow in her life.. it's hard.but it gets better. Prayer

I don't see my self as unworthy

@@Happiness1876 happy for u, bliss.

Agreed, we need to bring this to light. It's not something that should stay hidden.

It's a great book, well-written and totally worth it.

Bless you 🤍

Great book, painfully so.

Same 😢

Have you seen the one she did with Trevor Noah? That one was really good too

My queen

Qveen !!! shoulda figured you’d be apart of this convo

I feel as if there was editing out some of the conversation. I wish I could see the unedited conversation.

@@sam5900 I miss him. He has the best conversations too

me too.. I like this is what Gods set you up for feeling... powerful. Destiny

That is pathetic. No one's purpose is to reproduce.

So incredible

Yes I’m a new mom and that part I was like just like ahh it was just sweet. She’s so absolutely sure about it. I feel the same but sometimes I doubt other people will get it

@@MamaGator They don't get it but we do. I'm glad the cycle was broken with you and your kids. God bless.

I don’t think Britney is ready for this type of interview, she’s too chaotic

Britney needs Iyanla tbh, even deeper healing.

I think britney wouldnbe too much for drew to handle

Absolutely!!! Definitely loved the Anna Faris and Trevor Noah interviews as well. You can tell she enjoys those as well.

Add Whitney Cummings interview to this list too!

Her interview with Chelsea Fagan @the financial diet was phenomenal if you haven't watched it!

Watch her interview with Trevor Noah

Like Jenette said, it's different when you can sense someone inviting your humanity to the table. This wasn't the type of interviewer just looking for a scoop, going through the motions and/or following a trend. It also helps that Drew produces her own show so she is free to structure and execute her interviews the way she wants without the pressure of a higher up (other than the network) to perform and deliver a certain way.

Drew is the best choice of person to be interviewed. She went through it. I think Britney should be interviewed by her as well.

I've adored Drew Barrymore since I was a kid. Shes the first white lady I knew was cool outside of my godmother

I disagree. People will still talk ill about you if you give them what they need instead of what they want

@@greyLeicester well exactly. They'll talk ill about you either way, so may as well speak the truth as soon as you can. You own it

@@greyLeicester this isn’t a disagreement. I think you missed the point

Your comment JUST made me realize how much my mom always talked about loyalty to her.

I haven’t told anyone my mother is a narc since I figured it out about 7 years ago. She has successfully triangulated my siblings and I. My husband is only now realizing she has serious personality issues but he’s not into psychology like that.

@@A__Mina I'm glad you have someone else who will believe you. Often the worst part isn't the abuse itself but the fact they charm so many people and a lot of them won't or can't see the truth or believe you.

YES YES YES

@@A__Mina my late mom did that. My relationship with my sibs is permanently damaged. We’re all estranged, esp after her death in 2019.

Yup that’s why relationships end all the time in Hollywood.

Yes...😭

literally!!? OMG! Like me too!

I love their conversation

4:48 relatability makes it for easy ..conversations

Watch Trevor Noah interview that’s good too

@@seiakoshaw5926 I agree. His interview with her was so good!

*Jennette not Jeanette.

Drew is obviously doing it for her show! The girl sitting in front of her is saying all these things about what she went through and Drew is jumping on the wagon and saying me too just because she has a show and she wants ratings. Never believe Hollywood, there is always secondary gain in everything they do or say.

@@JL-uo1di Drew did have a rough childhood. You must not know about her early life. She was in night clubs as a young child and was a drug addict by 12. She emancipated at 14, so that can't speak to a great home life.

Get a life and stop worrying about celebritys

@@mrme3719 *celebrities

@@JL-uo1di lol do you even know who drew is?? the woman that was partying at age 9?? she is not making this up at all

Yeah, it's not just fathers.

4:00

Shame is very complicated. Shame can be the first emotion that LEADS to guilt, and guilt can lead to corrective behavior and learning lessons like Jeanette said whereas shame never evolves to any positive changes and just leads to self spiral. But as long as you can recognize the shame that leads into something good versus the shame that leads to something bad then you’re good. it’s kinda like well you can be ASHAMED of your behavior or actions, which is also guilt. But if you feel SHAMEFUL because of other peoples behavior towards you then that’s bad because you can’t control other peoples actions and that’s what will cause you to spiral.

I grew up so much with shame being raised in a cult. Let me just say people use shame to try to CONTROL you. Every living being deserves to be free. You deserve to be free. ❤

You’re gonna make me cry.

This is so sweet ❤️

It was an amazing thing for me to hear too. ❤ I feel you on anxiety and shame. And yes I cried during this interview and it’s not even half over for me yet! 😢❤

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